Forgiveness after betrayal can feel impossible. In our last episode, we explored three kinds of forgiveness that don’t work — premature, fake, and bartered. They may look like progress, but they keep couples stuck.
In this episode of The Affair Recovery Room, Tim Tedder turns to the two forms of forgiveness that actually bring healing: Decisional Forgiveness and Full Forgiveness. Decisional Forgiveness is the choice to release revenge, even if the feelings of anger remain. Full Forgiveness goes further, bringing emotional release and restoring connection when genuine remorse and change have been shown.
Tim unpacks why forgiveness matters in affair recovery, the heavy costs of refusing to forgive, and the unique benefits of each type of forgiveness. He clarifies common confusions (forgiveness isn’t condoning, excusing, or even the same as trust), and he shares practical guidance for both betrayed partners and offenders. From letting go of weapons to offering genuine apologies, this episode is filled with insights, stories, and encouragement to help you move toward freedom.
If forgiveness has ever felt like a burden, a cliché, or a word you don’t know what to do with, this conversation will help you see it in a new light — not as weakness, but as one of the most powerful steps toward healing.
LINKS and EXTRAS
Episode Webpage: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/022
Course: Pain Mending for Injured Partners
Course: Pain Mending for Involved Partners
Recommended Book: Forgive for Good
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