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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hey everyone, it's
Heather Sayers-Layman and I've
got a bit of a different episodetoday.
No fancy intro, no fancy outro,no professional editing, so
bear with me if it doesn't soundgreat.
I just wanted to pop on and saythat I'm taking a break from
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the podcast.
I have so much going on andlisten to this.
I decided to take my own advice.
I know, I know, I know, but Ihave been struggling with time
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and struggling with motivations,struggling with content.
We are in the midst of moving.
So we are moving from Phoenixto Southern California and our
house has been on the market forfour days maybe and if you have
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ever put a house on the market,you know all of the work that
goes into that, which meansgetting rid of a lot of my stuff
.
Apparently, I had way too muchstuff, which is also why I'm
covered in plants here in myoffice, because I had to bring
so many plants from home intothe office.
Apparently, too many plants,they don't show well.
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So anyway, so we have that movegoing on.
We're not exactly sure wherewe're landing.
We have a very good idea ofwhere we would like to land, but
a lot depends on what happenswith our house.
So that has been a whole thingand I'm actually going to take a
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break from self-employment andget a job, which I'm pretty
excited about.
I have had jobs, but reallysince 2000,.
I have only worked for, I guess, four years for somebody else.
I'm tired, I'm tired y'all, andI am looking forward to doing a
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job where I can just do a job.
That's one piece ofself-employment.
That's such a challenge becauseyou do everything.
When I had a gym it's not thatI just have to write workouts I
had to hire people and do all ofthe financials, create the
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marketing plan, the salesstrategy, do the TV appearances
and make sure my clients werereally happy and they were
signing up again.
It was so much work.
And also, if the toiletoverflows, that's my job as well
.
So the same with Overcoming you.
I have great people that I workwith, including Laura, who has
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been on the show before, andcreating the courses, fun
Marketing, selling, doing all ofthe IT and marketing and
selling has just been so muchmore of my job recently.
And I don't mind marketing, Idon't mind selling, I don't mind
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creating content, I don't minddoing customer support, I mind
doing them all at once, all ofthe time.
So I have been looking atdifferent positions and I'm
pretty excited about some of theoptions that I'm looking at.
Perhaps, after my break, I cancome back and tell you what I'm
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actually doing and what I amreally hoping by taking this
break and being able to focus onmoving and also finishing up
projects.
We're working on a new sleepcourse, so Laura has been
manning the helm with that, sowe'll have a new four-week sleep
course, which I'm very excitedabout as somebody who has
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struggled with sleep, puttingtogether all of these resources
for people to help with theirsleep, because, oh my gosh,
don't we all feel awful when weare not well rested.
So we've got that going on.
But the podcast is reallyinteresting because it's just
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kind of like coming on andtalking and talking about stuff.
Deanna is the lovely podcasteditor that edits everything and
chippy, chops things down andprobably makes me sound better
than I actually do in real life.
One thing that comes along witha podcast is social media, and
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if you have heard me talk aboutit, you know I left Facebook in
2017, never missed it, not aonce, and just did Instagram
kind of my family, really,vacation with friends, dumb
things, my pets, my plants oryou know something really
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interesting.
Like me, repotting a plant,like that is kind of the limit
of what I want to do with socialmedia.
But when you have a podcast,you have to promote it somehow.
And this combination of theelection and obviously like some
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of this is my ownresponsibility because, you know
, you see blips and clips andthings that I'm just like I
don't want to see any of this.
This is stressing me out.
So being able to step back fromsocial media is going to be
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really nice.
And again, like this is one ofthose things where I talk about,
you know, taking my own advice,when we are overloaded, what
can we offload?
When something is stressing usout, in what way can we not
encounter that on a regularbasis?
So pretty rudimentary things,but sometimes it takes a minute,
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especially for those of us whodo work in the world where they
support other people to makechanges, to make my own changes.
So here I am working thosepieces out about and I was even
thinking about it this morningtoo accounts that I like, but it
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just I can feel the uh when Isee posts because in different
reasons, it just stresses me outand I don't.
So those are kind of like thebig things.
And another thing that I'd sayit's like it's just chock full
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of privilege and doing thingsthat I find enjoyable and joyful
and what would we say Kind oflights me up and when I am
really overloaded, somethingthat I find enjoyable like doing
the podcast, ceases to light meup and it becomes like another
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thing.
And yeah, in a perfect world wewouldn't have to do things that
we find overwhelming, but suchis life.
So I think that, of the piecesthat I have been not listening
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to very well, I hope that thisis an opportunity for you to ask
yourself some questions andlisten to yourself.
Am I doing anything?
Certainly that I'm just doing?
I don't.
It's not a have to, because,again, I was a single parent for
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a long time and then there werea lot of have tos and because
we needed groceries and to paythe electric bill and to buy new
shoes.
So I'm definitely not talkingabout those things that we use
to support ourself in our bothfundamental ways.
But is there anything thatyou're doing that you could just
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drop and be just as happy?
So that can be even somethingthat maybe started off as a
hobby and started off as fun,and then it's just not as happy.
So that can be even somethingthat maybe started off as a
hobby and started off as fun,and then it's just not as fun
anymore.
Is that something that you canstep back from and say to
yourself I'm not like, it's nota face tattoo, I'm not never
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going to do it again, but rightnow just isn't the time for me,
I'm not feeling it, I don'treally want to do it.
Is there something like thatfor you?
And I think, especially withthe holidays right around the
corner, are there some piecesand parts that, if you've got
stress that there are somethings that you can be like not
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right now, and I think not rightnow is a really great way to
think about it as well, because,again, it doesn't have to be.
I'm never doing this Because.
Will I come back to the pod,like?
I sure hope so, and I hope thatI'll have more bandwidth and
have time to think about topicsthat I'm pretty jazzed about or
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people I really want to talk to.
Yeah, so, other than that,there's also the question that
you can ask for yourself Isthere something in social media
that is just not it?
Do I need to trim back my time,cut out some people that I
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follow, and I was talking to mysister recently because she
follows people that are sellinga lot of stuff which I do not
Like.
If you have an MLM like, no,and if you've ever reached out
to me to sell some of your MLMstuff like I don't even know
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your name anymore.
She was talking about like howmuch she didn't like it and I
was like I don't follow anybodylike that because I just don't
want it.
There are other things that Icould trim.
So for you, is there anythingon your social media that you're
just like?
No, because I can think of somethings that I really like and
people I really like.
Because I follow some people whowho are debunkers.
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So they are looking at a lot ofthe nonsense, things that are
not evidence-based, people thatare not qualified to talk about
what they're talking about,people that are just full of it
and trying to make a profit.
In short, and I followdebunking accounts.
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But now I'm finding like Idon't want to see what they're
debunking accounts, but now I'mfinding like I don't want to see
what they're debunking becausesometimes I don't even want to
know.
I feel like I could be a happycontent person without knowing
that these banana things are outthere, because if, when I'm
coaching, somebody is runningacross that and they're
struggling to know, is this real, is this not real, I'll address
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it then.
But there's so many things thatI don't want to see and some of
it is so hateful.
Also, I follow one account thatkind of debunks, a lot of
conspiracy theories, and that'sso much of it that I'm like I
didn't need to know that peoplethink this, that people are out
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here doing that.
I just would rather live in abit of a bubble for right now.
Let's see what was the last partI just talked about.
As you can tell, I made zeronotes for this the social media
piece, not doing some things.
If you're paying attention,you're sitting there like
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Heather.
There's one more thing.
Yeah, of course I can't thinkof it because I'm following my
own advice and this is also mylife now, in the early 50s of
like, what was I talking about?
And it's kind of funny becausemy dad I talked about him a few
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episodes ago because he hascognitive decline and he will
say that exact thing and he'llget so frustrated and I'm like
dad.
I'm literally 24 years youngerthan you, and that is my day is
being like what, what was Italking about?
What was I doing?
So, anyway, as that pertains toself-care offloading some stuff
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and cleaning up what I'm seeingand that also opens the door to
embracing some things that Iwould like to do more of which
is reading, and I've got to maketime for that.
So I've got to dump some thingsand see if there is anything
else right now that sparks joy.
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Right now, the things that makeme happy have been cleaning
things out of my home.
They're selling them ordonating them and starting to
get packed up, because I amsuper psyched to leave Arizona
only because it's like living onthe sun.
It's so hot, it's so hot, it'sso hot.
And we have gone to Californiafor such a long time because
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it's close, for such a long timebecause it's close and I love
the weather and I just am readyto be at a place where I could
walk my dogs in the summer,because you really can't do that
here.
It's too hot for their littlepaws on the pavement.
So that's kind of it in anutshell.
So when you hear from me again,you'll be like, oh, is she so
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inspired?
Is she so energized?
Is she so curious about hertopic?
We would hope so did.
Um.
Sub stack has become like such agreat way for, again, people to
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communicate and I just it's toomuch.
It is too much and part of itis my fault because I haven't
taken the time to kind of curatemy feed so that it's not
Armageddon.
Armageddon, you know, likehere's the worst of the worst of
the worst, and it's largelylike just super negative.
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Here's what sucks, here's whosucks, here's what's going to
suck.
And again, I could take time totrim that down, because there
are such great writers that Ilike to follow and I just don't
need to be there If there'ssomething that I really want to
read.
I really want to start gettingback to books and an actual
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paper book.
So that's one thing.
I've chosen to unsubscribe to alot of them.
I just unsubscribed from emailsand took the app off my phone,
and I will be taking Instagramoff my phone here shortly as
well.
Thanks for listening, certainlythanks.
It's been a year and a half, Ithink, that I've been doing this
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podcast and it's been quite alearning curve because I didn't
know.
I didn't know it would be somuch work, surprise.
But it has been fun because Ihave gotten to talk to people
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that, honestly, I wouldn't everhave the chance to talk to and
I've learned so much the chanceto talk to and I've learned so
much and I feel really contentin my own personal journey to
well-being.
When I started this podcast, Iwas struggling a lot more
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because I was still kind offresher and eating disorder
recovery more fresh.
Well, I'll just keep sayingfresher.
I was fresher from leavingbehind the clean eating and a
lot of stuff and it was harderand that's kind of the good news
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.
I feel better about where I amin my journey away from that
stuff and just being content.
Eating is so much easier.
I mean, I have traveled a lotrecently and it is no sweat,
yeah, and I couldn't be happier.
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I couldn't be more grateful,because if you've ever been in a
place where you're like anxious, like oh my gosh, there's
nothing to eat, I am, you know,freaking out.
I guess I have to bring my ownstuff, like this whole thing.
I've got to look up therestaurant, I've got to look at
their menu and luckily I don'thave any actual medical
restrictions.
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I used to have a lot of mentalrestrictions, so I am lucky in
that.
But the journey has gotten a loteasier and I do hope you'll go
back and listen to some of theepisodes if you ever missed any
of them or if you're newer tothe podcast to take the time to
listen to a lot of theconversations, because there are
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people who are so dedicated totheir craft and put in the time
to constantly put out contentand my hat is off because that's
hard, it is really hard andthere are people that I have
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really enjoyed their content,that have really put in the work
to make a name for themselves.
So I do hope that you willlisten to them in those episodes
because I think having thosemore positive voices about your
body voices about your body,your body image, weight, health,
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mental health is so important.
I feel like I've been sayinggoodbye, well now for 20 minutes
and just saying like, andthat's it.
Oh, one other thing, but thisis also kind of a day in the
life of my brain, so hopefullyfor yourself, you will continue
to take care of yourself.
Hopefully this gives you alittle food for thought about,
oh you know, what might behelpful for me, and whether it's
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ducking and dodging some thingsjust until the election is over
, if it's ducking and dodgingthings until your next birthday,
or if it's just dumping somethings because they're not
serving you mentally, physically, emotionally, then I
wholeheartedly encourage thatintrospection and action.
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I know it's very challenging,but it's certainly also very
worth it to feel like you aredoing the things to be your best
self for yourself and for yourfamily, friends, community.
So with that I will sign offand hopefully you will hear from
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me shortly.
Take care everybody.