Picture this: You're driving to Cleveland to meet your girlfriend's new foster baby. You walk up the stairs, knock on the door, and when it opens, the two-month-old LEAPS from her arms into yours. That's exactly what happened to Yvan Demosthenes 25 years ago. And it changed everything.
This episode is special for three reasons:
1. It shows how connections happen in unexpected places The introduction that led to this interview? It came from a conversation about napkins between two colleagues. (You'll have to listen to hear the full story, but trust me—it's delightful.)
2. It redefines what family means Yvan and his wife Linda (who he'd known since age 10!) weren't even married when Michael came into their lives. Six years passed before they wed, but the family bond was instant and unbreakable. Today they have three children and a relationship built on choice, not just biology.
3. It offers wisdom we all need As someone serving on 13 nonprofit boards with a Doctorate in Education, Yvan brings incredible perspective to parenting, leadership, and community building.
His advice for prospective adoptive parents? "Allow yourself to be in the moment. Use the enthusiasm to begin and get yourself through the journey."
We also featured something super cool: Lori Bauer joins the conversation to share how she accidentally became the connector who made this episode possible. It's a beautiful reminder that we never know the ripple effects of our relationships. The episode includes a stunning poem about connection that will make you think differently about every person in your life.
As poet Kadambari Madhok writes: "We all are connected, isn't that great? We can hold hands and heal each other in despair and in pain."
Why this matters to YOU: Whether you're adopted, considering adoption, or simply navigating relationships in your life, this conversation offers powerful insights about:
- Recognizing the families we choose
- Showing up consistently through challenges
- Embracing unexpected opportunities
- Building connections that transcend biology
Michael is now 25 with his own girlfriend, navigating young adulthood while his dad watches proudly (and admittedly keeps tabs on where he lives!).
The love, humor, and honesty in Yvan's storytelling will stay with you long after you finish listening.
Guest Links:
https://www.hamiltondemo.com/about
https://eyesopeninternational.org/yvan-demosthenes/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lori-bauer-5905661b/
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