The Art Of Coaching

When most people think about persuasion, they go straight to education (“if they just understood, they’d agree”), inspiration (“let me tell you an inspiring story”), or force (“do this now”). 

But there’s a big difference between persuasion, influence, power, and warmth — and understanding that difference can change how you get things done. 

This episode, inspired by a fable I read to my son, breaks down why subtlety often beats fo...

These days, it feels like everyone is calling someone a narcissist.

Ex-partner? Narcissist. Difficult boss? Narcissist. Confident stranger on Instagram? Must be a narcissist.

The term has been thrown around so loosely that it’s lost its meaning—and worse, it’s become a lazy way to avoid reflection or real understanding.

In this episode, we cut through the noise and get to the core of what narcissism really is—and what it isn’t.

You...

Have you ever gotten a negative review on something you've made or your business?

Received a one-star rating?

Dared to venture into the comment section—or worse—overheard someone trashing your work?

It’s a law of the universe: haters are inevitable the moment you take a stance, make yourself visible, or grow in ways that challenge others' comfort or self image.

In reality, most hate isn’t really about you. It’s what you represent.

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Wait... when did this become my fault?

Why do I feel like I’m being indicted? 

That’s not at all what I meant when I said that. 

I have no idea how we got to the point where I’m the one feeling guilty.

We’ve all been in this situation before. You thought you were having an honest conversation—but somehow, things flipped. Now it’s uncomfortable.

You must have said something that offended them… right? 

But did you? 

How did what you ...

It can be one of the most frustrating things in the world.

That discontent and confusion about your professional life and where it’s headed.

The feeling that keeps you up at night, scrolling job postings, revisiting all the “what if’s” from your past, and daydreaming about a complete 180 you’ve always thought about, but never acted on.

Staying in this mental space doesn’t just drain your energy, it leaves you lost, confused about y...

Nothing will haunt you like the things you leave unsaid.

It’s a bold statement, and a chilling one—but unfortunately, most of us know exactly how true it is.

You owe it to them and to yourself to speak the truth about what they mean to you. No matter the regrettable things you’ve said or done to each other... the failures, the absences, the apologies never given, or the love you didn’t express—it needs to get out.

We’ve covered a w...

Think about the last time you dealt with someone you were trying really hard to be professional with. Despite multiple miscommunications on their part — and what was clearly laziness, apathy, and them mailing it in — you kept trying to be the adult. You kept overcompensating for their lack of effort. You kept telling yourself, “Hold yourself to a higher standard.”   But it’s still getting you nowhere.   You want to lose it. You wan...

“Is there anything I can do to help?”

It’s interesting and unique how we’ve all been asked this question by a spouse, friend, co-worker, or boss—but it never feels like that question leads to you getting actual help. It often feels like answering that question will cause you even more issues. 

But, people are asking it with good intentions, so how can we actually seize this moment and get some relief from the overload?

We’re always...

This isn’t personal, but it’s been a long time coming.

This episode is aimed directly at the legacy industries of Art of Coaching, Strength and Conditioning, and let’s throw overall fitness in there too. If you work in high performance, physical therapy included, you’re included. 

We know everyone deals with some version of this, but we’re speaking to the world we know best. The message?

Most of you say you want to be the best.

Mos...

Ever feel like you're coaching on repeat? 

You've handed a client every tool they need, yet they keep circling back with the same issue. 

Or maybe you're working with an athlete who hears everything you say, but nothing seems to land. It’s as if they’re outsourcing ownership of the entire process.

It can start to feel like a rehearsed dance. You say your part, they nod along, and both of you move forward on autopilot. But this does...

Coaching youth sports can be one of the most rewarding things you can do, whether you're a parent, a former athlete, or someone who just wants to make a difference. It’s an incredible opportunity to connect with people in a way that can genuinely shape who they become.

Youth sports span the full range—from high-priced, high-stakes travel leagues to your local rec department. From paid coaches with professional experience, to the da...

This episode is for a very specific type of person. 

Those of you who are hard on yourself, and if you're being honest, it's to an unhealthy degree. The perfectionist who struggles to recognize their own accomplishments, who tears themselves apart over minor slip-ups, and maybe even finds it hard to fully celebrate the wins of others. Not because of jealousy, but because the voice in your head has been trained to fixate on what’s m...

Why can't someone else step up and do this?

How come I'm always the one who has to do everything?

What more do I have to do before someone finally takes some initiative?

If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions—or just quietly felt them—you’re not alone. That heavy sense of responsibility, the emotional and cultural weight of having to carry your team day after day, will wear you down. And if you don’t have a plan to offload t...

Everything is okay at work, but… yeah, work is fine—I just don’t know what I’m going to do.

We’ve all felt like that at some point in our careers. Maybe you’re in that place right now. Call it a rut, stagnation, or just a funk. You’re motivated. You’re grateful. But you also want more. More fulfillment, more autonomy, maybe even a title change and a bigger office. You want to feel like your strengths are being seen and put to use. ...

We’ve all felt it. That awkward disconnect when the vibe is off and you're wondering how you ended up across the table from someone who just isn’t where you are. Maybe you’re in different stages of life, chasing different things, or just not clear on what the other actually wants. Whatever the reason, the moment hits: this isn’t it.

It’s not easy to find someone emotionally mature enough to show up. Someone who isn’t hiding behind ...

We’ve all been hit by it.

It seemingly comes out of nowhere—a misunderstanding or argument we never saw coming. One moment you’re having a discussion, the next you're blindsided by resistance, vitriol, or passive-aggressive blowback. Where did it come from? Why did something small suddenly feel so personal?

Here’s the truth: it’s rarely about the thing—it’s about what the thing represents. Control. Trust. Identity. Relevance. Fear....

Why is talking about money so hard? 

An even better question might be: why do so many job postings treat compensation like a state secret—vague, unclear, or completely absent? 

The truth is, people want to know they’ll be respected and valued. If you leave them guessing, they’ll start looking elsewhere.

In Part 1 of this hiring series, we covered how to attract the right candidates. In Part 2, we dug into asking the right questions...

Most interviews miss the mark.

Predictable questions. Rehearsed answers. And when it’s over, you still haven’t figured out who the person really is.

In Part 1 of this series, we covered what matters most when it comes to attracting the right candidates. Today is about what happens next. How do you actually assess whether someone can solve the real problems you are hiring them to tackle or if they’re the right fit?

The truth is, mos...