What’s REALLY Haunting Your Marriage?

In this special Halloween-themed episode of The Art of Relationships, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace uncover the “marriage monsters” that quietly creep into relationships when we’re not paying attention. From unspoken expectations and avoidance to contempt and emotional disengagement, these hidden habits can quietly erode intimacy, trust, and connection.

With their signature blend of biblical wisdom, psychological insight, and real-life experience, Chris and Alisa share how to identify these relationship “haunts” and—more importantly—how to fight back with humility, honesty, and grace.

Whether you’re navigating challenges with your spouse, fiancé, or close relationships, this episode offers hope-filled, practical tools to turn your “haunted house” back into a safe haven.

Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAL0NYvpIqI

Key Topics Covered:

• The “Ghost of Unspoken Expectations” — how hidden assumptions breed frustration and resentment.
• The “Skeleton of Avoidance” — why silence and peace-at-any-cost can quietly destroy connection.
• The “Monster of Contempt” — the biggest predictor of divorce and how to replace it with appreciation.
• The “Phantom of Emotional Disengagement” — how busyness and neglect drain intimacy and what to do about it.

Resources Mentioned:

• Repair Checklist (Gottman Institute) — Practical statements to de-escalate conflict and build understanding.
• FamilyLife Weekend to Remember Marriage Getaway – Monterey, CA — Three days of teaching, connection, and renewal for couples.
• The Art (And Science) of Relationships — A 7-lesson online course from the CMR combining Scripture and research-backed insights on communication, conflict, and connection.

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About the Hosts:

Chris Grace, Ph.D., and Alisa Grace are passionate about helping people build and sustain healthy relationships. As leaders of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships, they combine the wisdom of Scripture with scholarly research to offer practical advice and insights. Learn more about their work at cmr.biola.edu.