The Backup Plan
Thousands of women joke about getting knocked up by their gay best friend when they get fed up with dating. Follow my decision to ACTUALLY do it: learning about the single mother by choice community, failed DIY attempts, to choosing IVF.
Episodes
I’ve finally had an emotional breakdown about my IVF journey. GRATEFUL for the mental health work I’ve done along the way to keep me afloat.
Progesterone in oil shots start soon and I’m hoping that I’m nearing the end of my journey!
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I'm becoming a single mother by choice using a known donor; I'm so stoked to be having a baby with my gay best friend. After a few tries with the turkey baster in 20...
Donald Trump is promising free IVF if he gets elected. As someone who is deep int he middle of an IVF journey myself, I share thoughts and feelings about how I think it'd work (spoiler alert: I don't think it will).
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FACTS AND FIGURES
Progesterone in oil has arrived! I’m prepping for my frozen embryo transfer as a single mom by choice, and the first step is receiving medication.
TOPICS
00:00 Intro
01:30 The DL on Meds
04:13 Unboxing!
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OTHER VIDEOS WORTH CHECKING OUT
Catch Up Video from Last Week: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TRC4G66OfM0
Embryo Reveal ...
Becoming a single mother by choice is difficult! I've been preparing for a baby for two years and making content about the process for a year, so I figured it was worth doing a recap video to catch y'all up on where we've been together.
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I'm becoming a single mother by choice using a known donor; I'm so stoked to be having a baby with my gay best friend. After a few tries with the...
My IVF journey was abruptly halted last month when a breast cancer scare got in the way. In the last part of my cancer scare series (YAY), I share how a surgery consult turned into a lumpectomy in less than 24 hours.
RELATED VIDEOS:
- Breast Cancer Scare, Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DOScCIxkF8
- Breast Cancer Scare, Part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozMicBT8LlM
Sharing my stereotactic breast biopsy in chair experience at Hoag Hospital Newport Beach.
In the middle of IVF treatment, I felt something a little strange in my left breast and decided to get it checked out before my frozen embryo implantation. I’m SO GRATEFUL that my doctor at Kindbody get my set up with the Hoag team so quickly.
Also talking about mental health and maintaining support expectations during a heal...
IVF as a single mom by choice is hard enough, I don't need a cancer scare! Fears of breast cancer are looming as I get a radial scar checked out at Hoag Hospital Newport Beach. Having a mammogram under 40 wasn’t on my bingo card for 2024.
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Hey, I'm Meredith! I'm becoming a single mom by choice using a known donor; I'm so stoked to be having a baby with my gay best friend. After a few tries wit...
IVF success isn’t just getting pregnant - it’s a lot of steps along the way. In her journey to becoming a single mom by choice, Meredith decided to celebrate her embryos after they passed preimplantation genetic screening with an EMBRYO REVEAL PARTY - a modern twist on a traditional gender reveal party.
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I'm becoming a single mother by choice using a known donor; I'm so stoked to be having a bab...
Meredith is sharing news from her fertility doctors at Kindbody this week - her frozen embryo transfer (FET) has been scheduled! She goes over the process, why her and her doctor chose a controlled FET and plans for her BLASTOSHOWER - an embryo sex reveal.
TOPICS COVERED
00:53 Getting the physical PGT-A results and planning the BLASTOSHOWER!
02:23 Scheduling the FET
04:02 Explaining what an FET is
05:09 Cho...
Meredith got her PGT-A test results a week early! Watch as she shares the news with family and friends, talks about next steps, and shares tips for maintaining sanity during the process. Frozen embryo implantation comes next…stay tuned!
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SMBC COMMUNITIES
SMBC Official: https://www.singlemothersbychoice.org
Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/Single...
Meredith has embryo news!! Aside from sharing which zygotes made it to blastocyst status, she's going over best practices for checking in on a friend who is undergoing IVF.
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I'm becoming a single mother by choice using a known donor; I'm so stoked to be having a baby with my gay best friend. After a few tries with the turkey baster in 2023, I turned to IVF in Spring of 2024.
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Meredith came out of her most recent egg retrieval with very different results! What were the differences in treatment? Did she keep calm, cool, and collected this time? Will this be her last retrieval?
STAY TUNED.
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I'm becoming a single mother by choice using a known donor; I'm so stoked to be having a baby with my gay best friend. After a few tries with the turkey baster in 2023, I tu...
Mental health is muy importante, so Meredith is sharing her journey from sad little girl to a healthy medicated lady. In preparation for pregnancy (and because of the influx of hormones in her system thanks to the second round of egg retrieval), she decided to get in touch with a perinatal psychiatrist early. Here's how she found one and how her first appointment went.
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ARTICLES DISCUSSED
The health be...
Meredith discusses the results from the PGT-A tests her embryos underwent, explains what a segmented mosaic embryo means, and discusses next steps in her IVF journey.
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ARTICLES DISCUSSED
What Does It Mean When Your Embryo Is a Mosaic?...
Nana is back in California! They’re discussing Meredith’s Day 5 4BB and Day 7 4BA embryos (better known at Chip & Dale); the nail-biting wait on genetic test results, whether or not to learn the sex, and if so, WHEN?
TOPICS COVERED
- 0:00 - Introduction and Catch Up
- 04:09 - Should I find out the sex of my embryos?
- 16:10 - “The Parents Who Want Daughters and Daughters Only” by Emi Nietfeld
- 22:30 - The Birth of the BLASTOSHOWER
- 23:...
After a week of waiting, Meredith learns how many of her fertilized eggs have become full fledged embryos. She shares how she found out, how she's feeling, and what's up next.
Read the full blog post here - https://backupplanpod.com/34-blastocysts/
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I'm becoming a single mother by choice using a known donor;...
What’s it like to have an egg retrieval for IVF at KindBody? Meredith just had hers and she’s here to share the results - how many eggs were retrieved, how many were mature, and how many were fertilized with her gay best friend’s sperm. WHAT A TIME TO BE ALIVE.
OTHER EPISODES REFERENCED:
- The attempted break-in! - https://backupplanpod.com/21-january-was-wild/
- Meet Krystina - https://backupplanpod.com/9-to-breed-or-not-to-breed-w-k...
When your follicles don't respond to hormones, you pump up the volume and keep injecting. Meredith has to keep up the routine this week in anticipation of the egg retrieval and symptoms have really started kicking in! Belly bruising, foggy brain, and increasing shot pain...oh my.
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Read the full blog post for this episode - https://backu...
We've moved into the injection phase! Meredith is 22 injections in and reporting on all of the wild side effects: vivid dreams, unsupportive family members, and an incredible amount of trash. Truth be told, it's a lot easier than she anticipated and way more enjoyable than the estrogen priming.
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Bare with Meredith this week, she was in a lot of pain when she recorded and edited this episode!
With a full week of estrogen priming under her belt, Meredith talks through the pain she’s experiencing, updates on third party clearance for Kindbody, and refreshes the “What do we call Michael?” situation.
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