September 30, 2024 • 52 mins
What does it take to navigate life’s toughest challenges with grace and resilience? Join us as the vibrant Dylan Wade unveils her incredible journey, moving from a bustling childhood between California and Michigan to becoming a pillar of strength for her family in a small town. As the only girl among her siblings, Dylan’s unique experiences in wrestling, dancing, and gymnastics shaped her indomitable spirit. Her story is a testament to the influence of a supportive family and a small-town upbringing in cultivating resilience and a zest for life.
Discover what drove Dylan to triumph over adversity, including her battle with breast cancer while 13 weeks pregnant. At just 31, Dylan faced a daunting series of surgeries and chemotherapy, all while ensuring the safety of her unborn daughter. With unwavering determination and the support of her cherished Aunt Amy, she emerged stronger, embodying the qualities of loyalty, trustworthiness, honesty, kindness, and compassion. Dylan’s narrative is an inspiring beacon for anyone facing their own trials, highlighting the importance of perseverance and the power of a supportive community.
In an engaging and heartfelt conversation, Dylan reveals the keys to self-advocacy, confidence, and intentional living. She reflects on her achievements, the significance of trusting oneself, and the necessity of cherishing family moments. From her professional growth at CG Financial to her dedication as a wife and mother, Dylan’s story underscores the profound impact of hope and positivity. Tune in to hear her insights and be inspired to live your life by design, showing love and respect to yourself and others.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to the Bamboo Lab Podcast with your
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Speaker 2 (00:43):
Welcome everyone to this week's episode of the
Bamboo Lab Podcast.
As always, I'm your host, brianBosley, and today we are on
episode 131.
We are subscribed.
We have, I think, subscribersand listeners in 78 countries
and 2,229 cities, I believe, asof this morning.
So I want to thank each andevery one of you Bamboo Pack
members out there for listening,subscribing and for sharing it.
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So, before we start, I'm goingto ask all of you to please
smash that like button, pleaserate and review us and please
share this episode with at leastthree people, because, with the
guest I have on today, I have afeeling she is going to connect
so well with so many of youmembers out there.
I have Dylan Wade on today andI got a chance to meet Dylan, oh
(01:27):
my goodness, roughly fourmonths ago and I have the
privilege of talking with her ona consistent basis and hearing
her story and listening to herwisdom and her life experience
and just this amazing energy shebrings to all of us here on
this earth that I said, hey, Ineed to get you on, and she
right away said, of course, Iwould be honored.
So, ladies and gentlemen, let'sall welcome Dylan Wade to the
(01:51):
Bamboo Lab podcast.
Welcome, my friend.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Hi Ryan, Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Oh, it's a pleasure, you know that.
Well, let's just get, let'sjump into it.
Dylan, Now I've gotten to knowyou very well since roughly the
beginning of late June, earlyJuly of this year.
But can you please share withthe Bamboo Pack members out
there a little bit aboutyourself, maybe your childhood,
your family, who or what mayhave inspired you?
Whatever you want to share,yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I am married to my best friend.
My husband is my ride or die,uh.
I'm a mother of five beautifulchildren, um, but I'm also a
bonus mom to our two oldest.
So we have four girls and oneboy.
Uh, poor kid is outnumbered, um, but yeah, so the oldest is 13.
(02:47):
We've got almost aneight-year-old next month, a
five-year-old and afour-year-old.
They are Irish twins, so thatwas an interesting experience.
And then we also have ourlittle miracle baby, who will be
11 months here in the next fewdays.
(03:08):
I grew up with three brothers.
I was the only girl, um, but Ialso had.
My mom was the oldest of seven.
So my aunts and uncles werelike brothers and sisters to me
as well.
So I had an uncle who was, he's, four months older than me, who
was very much a brother, and Igrew up.
(03:32):
I kind of bounced around alittle bit, if I'm being honest.
So I was born in California,then we moved back to Michigan
and we kind of settled in whereour grandparents lived in
Fowlerville, and then my mombranched off and built her house
.
Then we moved to the Durandarea and that's where I went
until I was a sophomore in highschool, and then I moved back to
(03:55):
California and went to schoolout there for a little bit,
where I ultimately ended up backin Michigan and I graduated
from Stock, uh, stackbridge.
So if you don't know whereStackbridge is, it's a very,
very small town Southeast ofLansing, um, but I love that
(04:15):
small town, hometown, feel, youknow, um, and that's like what
I've, my husband and I, havebeen trying to get with with our
kiddos.
So we're now in the Mason areaand we love it here, um, but
yeah, so growing growing up likethere was a lot of moving, as
(04:36):
you can tell, um, but you know,growing up with, you know, being
the only girl was challengingat times, as you can imagine.
You know, sports wise we were,we were always into sports.
We were always, you know,running, running around.
We were in a small town, again,you know, growing up, so,
(04:58):
riding bikes, you know I wasalways trying to do what my
brothers did.
I was always trying to do whatmy brothers did.
I was always trying to like fitin at one.
At one point I actually was, um, I asked my mom to join the
wrestling like wrestling leaguebecause my brothers were were
wrestling and they would want tocome home and like show me
their moves right, and I'm likethis is just ridiculous sign.
(05:21):
Sign me up, mom.
Like I'm going to show them,you know.
So.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Did you ever do wrestling?
Did she do that?
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yeah, I actually wrestled for four years.
What?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Not in high school or anything.
Not in high school.
I was a little, I was a littletight, so but yeah, yep, I
absolutely did, but I alsodanced.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
And I Yep, I absolutely did.
But I also danced and I didgymnastics.
So you know I had a very widevariety of things under my belt.
I had to keep up with thoseboys.
You know I've been so surprisedof these last 130 episodes, or
131 now how many people on thisshow have been from small towns?
I bet it's 80% or 85%.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
I love the small town feel.
I just feel like everybody.
I just love that.
I know I can go to the store.
It's like tenfold right, so Ican go to the store like this.
It's like tenfold Right, so Igo to the store and see people
that I know.
Sometimes I want that,sometimes I don't, so it's
interesting.
(06:34):
But I do like to have that kindof close knit community factor,
especially with my kids.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
So I had a very successful lady on here a few
months ago and she grew up witha and she graduated with a class
of I think it was seven oreight people.
A graduating class.
That's the smallest I've had.
I mean, I had 75 in my home inmy class, which was a small town
of 3,000 people, but seven oreight in your graduate, I mean
that's pretty small.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Yeah, that's very small.
I think mine was 142.
Okay, so you know.
But yeah, had I graduated fromyou know, if I stayed in
California, then you know thatwould have.
I think our class was like athousand or something like that,
so it was a class.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
B school in Michigan.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
That's a big school.
That's class B, that's hugeyeah.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yeah, I think that's what it was.
I could be wrong, but I thinkthat's the number I remember.
So wrestling, gymnastics, dance, and that's pretty Renaissance
activity.
What, or who, inspired yougrowing up?
I mean, you've become a prettystrong woman.
I mean, we've done some of theassessments on you, as you know,
(07:49):
and you've come across with thepeople around you have some
very strong positive opinions onyou.
One of them is you're dead atyour determination and your
strength.
What do you think inspired youto be this person?
Speaker 3 (08:03):
What inspired me, I think, was probably the
circumstances that I grew up in.
Um, you know, I didn't know mydad.
Uh, I didn't meet my dad untilI was 23, and that was in 2013.
And then he, he passed twoyears later, um, from multiple
myeloma.
So, um, you know, I think thatwas kind of a factor, you know,
(08:26):
like I didn't have a fatherfigure.
So, um, I just kind of like,and I was also my mom worked, so
I was also kind of like themother figure to my brothers and
, in a way, um, you know, cause,when she was gone, you know
they, they still to this day,come, come to me with whatever,
(08:49):
you know, like I'm like thego-to you know person.
But, um, what inspired me to beyou know where I am today, I
think is just like the drive toalways want to, you know, be in
a better position and do betterin life.
And, you know, be in a betterposition and do better in life
(09:10):
and, um, make sure that I exposemyself to as many opportunities
and experiences that I can.
Um, and you know, my aunt is abig part of that also.
Um, like I said, my mom's theoldest of seven and, uh, my aunt
and actually I have, you know,a few aunts, but this aunt in
particular.
Her name is Amy.
She has always been there.
(09:31):
She is the person that you know.
She's like a sister.
I can always.
She's the person that if I'mgoing through something or I
need to make a big decision oryou know any of those like
pivotal things, that's theperson I call because I know
she's going to give it to mestraight and she's always been
(09:54):
there.
She's been an inspiration to me, just her drive and ambition,
her independence andselflessness.
And her independence andselflessness.
She's been the constant personin my life that's continued to
show up for me and she does forme still and, you know, for my
(10:16):
kids, and that is something thatI hope I am to somebody else.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
And her name is Amy.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Her name is Amy.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Aunt Amy, this one goes out to you, man, Kudos, to
you, because what you said abouther drive or something, that
determination, I want to pointout.
So we did some assessments afew weeks ago.
Everyone and I had severalpeople I know, dylan being one
of them, to reach out to peoplethey know and trust to ask them
what each person thinks.
(10:44):
In this case, dylan's top threequalities are outstanding
qualities and we get all theseassessments back and then we put
them in this little program andthen it points out what, of all
these responses we got, whatare the top three of all of them
?
And Dylan's were number one,resilience and perseverance.
Number two, loyalty,trustworthiness and honesty.
(11:06):
And number three, kindness andcompassion, which, when I look
at leadership and people whoinfluence people or, you know,
who have a strong ability toimpact and influence other
people in the world in apositive way, those are the
three qualities I always lookfor in leadership and in leaders
, and so that was one of thereasons why I wanted to bring
Dylan on here today, and itsounds like Aunt Amy had a lot
(11:26):
to do with that.
So, kudos, that's great, thankyou, you know, I know you've.
What do you think in the last,let's say 12 months.
You can pick your timeframe ayear, six months, whatever it
might be.
Dylan has been one of thegreatest learnings you had.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
Um, so I will say, the outstanding qualities, uh,
kind of homework assignment thatyou had given us was, it was
interesting and it was, um, itmade my heart smile right, cause
you don't, you don't get tohave people tell you what these
things are every day.
Um, so to learn that that waswhat people were, um, thinking
(12:08):
of me, was an interestingexperience and it it really made
my heart smile.
Like I said, um, but you know,I I just feel like in the last,
in the last 12 months, I wouldsay that like, I feel like I've
learned that I'm capable ofdoing amazing things, not in a
(12:31):
selfish or conceited way at all,but you know, I've had some
trials that I've, you know, madeit out of, that I've, you know,
made it out of, and I've hadthe opportunity to grow
(12:52):
personally and professionallyand I feel honored, you know, to
be part of the team and at workat CG and, you know, just to
really own my role as a wife anda mother and take that, you
know, to heart every day.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Well, I think you know I want to share.
By the way, you just mentionedCG Financial.
A lot of you out there in theaudience will recognize that
name.
I think we've had five or sixindividuals from the company on
the podcast already, which is anattestment to the company and
the people they bring on and theservice they provide to their
clients.
We're going to bring anotherone on here soon that I have in
(13:29):
my radar, so you probably allrecognize the name of CG
Financial and that is whereDylan is employed right now, so
that's where her career is.
I'm assuming that when I knowyou've talked and we'll get into
this in a minute Dylan is,you've talked about you.
You alluded to the trials you'vegone through and the fact that
you have this, this perseveranceand this, this resilience in
(13:52):
you.
My assumption is your kids areseeing that and I can't think of
a better gift to to whetherit's conscious or subconscious
or subliminal or just throughyour role modeling, a better
gift that you are giving yourchildren than ability to be
resilient and persevere throughtrial and tribulations.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
it's a blessing you know, I I hope so.
That would be.
That would definitely be thegoal.
Um, I I I hope that that iswhat they're seeing, because
it's been an interesting, youknow, year or so around our
(14:31):
house.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Well, I can attest to that.
You know my mother you are justa younger version of my mom in
the way I think you probablyparent and what they're
experiencing.
You know my father died when Iwas four and a half and my mom
left us with five children.
She's only loved three men andshe's buried three men in her
life over the course of her 89years and I've seen her
(14:53):
resilience and her strength andher fortitude and she never
talked about it, it was just.
You saw it.
I got to witness it over theseyears and that just has spread
to her children, to hergrandchildren, now to her
great-grandchildren.
So, trust me, they're pickingup on it, they're soaking it in
and it's going to make them much, much better people, there's no
(15:14):
doubt.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Thank you.
Thank you, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
All right Now to the question of the day and I think
we both know where we're goingwith this, Dylan is what is one
of the most difficult challengesyou've gone through in your
life, and can you talk usthrough that and how you are and
have gone, how you've pulledyourself out?
Speaker 3 (15:52):
So, in May of 2023, I was diagnosed with breast
cancer and I was about 13 weekspregnant.
So, as you can imagine that,you know, shattered, it
shattered me, I didn't know toget that news that, you know, 31
years old at the time, um, youknow, you don't ever think that
you're gonna hear the wordcancer and it, you know, be
(16:14):
related to yourself.
Um, and then to throw in apregnancy, it was just like so
overwhelming and, um, you know,it was, it's, it's been a rough
road, um, there's been lots ofobstacles, um, but you know, I
(16:37):
guess, just to take you back, so, um, I was about 13 weeks
pregnant and then I had to, youknow, undergo surgery at about
16 weeks pregnant and we had tomove fairly quickly because, uh,
my, my cancer was almost 100%hormone fueled, so my pregnancy
(17:02):
was working against me.
Okay, um, which it's a lot tokind of wrap my head around.
I've been talking and sharingmy story more lately and I don't
know that, like, I think I wasjust in survival mode for so
long that I never really had orI guess I didn't realize that I
(17:23):
hadn't, like you know, processedeverything that happened
because everything was happeningso fast, but I, so I had had
surgery and then, like two weekslater, two and a half weeks
after I was diagnosed, and thenafter that, at about 20 weeks
(17:46):
pregnant, I had to undergochemotherapy for 12 weeks and it
was the hardest thing I've everdone.
It was the hardest thing.
I think.
I don't even have words, likeI'm struggling to come up with
them right now, because I'm justlike, wow, am I really talking
(18:07):
about myself right now?
But you know, my daughter sorry, I should have said that I,
ultimately I had a.
I had a little girl which Ithought was fitting, you know,
fighting next to her mom.
I told my oncologist I didn'tthink that if I hadn't been
(18:31):
pregnant, going through this, Ithink that I would have gotten
more sick and more like I just Iwouldn't have.
Like I said, I was in survivalmode.
So I feel like I leaned on myyou know, unborn daughter to get
me through this process,because I knew that I had to do
(18:52):
whatever I needed to to makesure that she was going to be
okay and I needed to make surethat I was going to be here for
my family, my family ultimately,Um, so it's been.
It's been interesting.
Um, she was born.
I think I've had four surgeriesand the last four years, or
(19:20):
sorry, in the last year and, um,I'll have my fifth one next
month, in October.
So, gearing up for that, um,but what got me through was, you
know, I'm going to go back tothat survival mode type
mentality.
Um, I feel like I've alwaysbeen, you know, somewhat of a
(19:42):
head like a fighting spirit, andso, um, I feel like that is
what kind of got me through and,just like I said, my, my family
, and trying is really reallyhard during that time to have a,
a positive outlook and mindset,which is extremely hard going
(20:05):
through something that is astraumatic as a cancer diagnosis.
But somehow, somehow, I'm stillhere to tell the story.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Well, your story, your story, is a story of just
incredible hope, and a story ofhope and dignity and resilience
that we can all relate to, notnecessarily because of a cancer
diagnosis.
But if I talk directly to thebamboo pack right now, I'd like
you to think don't compare yourlife with Dylan's, but put your
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life alongside of Dylan'sjourney.
Pair your life with Dylan's,but put your life alongside of
Dylan's journey and think of themoments that you have gone
through where things you had toput yourself in survival mode.
It could be a health scare, afinancial scare, a marital scare
, it can be anything that reallya career scare, that where you
felt like the world wascollapsing around you and you
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didn't know where to go.
And I want you to think of herlittle unborn daughter who was
still inside of her, and howthat motivated Dylan.
And really that little baby,that little girl, fought
alongside of her mom.
And all of us have something.
It could be a person, it couldbe a memory, it could be a goal,
it can be a dream, it can be aGod, it can be whatever you feel
(21:29):
.
It is Something that will keepus going, that will give us that
extra fight, or as they call itin Finland, sisu, that extra
little push, that one more thingthat you can do to keep
fighting forward.
Every one of us have that, andthe key is to find yours during
those moments of survival, thosemoments of, of, of challenge
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and um, I I've never heard thatbefore that.
That that part of your story,dylan, of that you know, your
little unborn daughter was inthere fighting alongside you.
I think that's just that's.
She is your miracle baby.
There's no doubt that'sincredible, incredible I mean
now can you talk a little bitabout, um, you know, as you're,
(22:10):
as you're going through this,obviously over the past year,
let's call it, you know a year,a year and a few months back,
what?
How did the family react tothis?
How does that?
How, when you're, you have alot, you have an amazing husband
, you've got your beautifulchildren how does that impact
your family?
How did that?
Speaker 3 (22:31):
So this is an interesting question, because so
which was my mother's dad?
And then in March they lost herhusband, so my stepdad, so
(23:04):
another grandfather, and then inJuly my husband lost his
grandmother and then, five dayslater, lost his grandfather and
then five days later, lost hisgrandfather.
So in a five month span, mychildren lost four grandparents
and their mother was goingthrough a cancer diagnosis.
(23:25):
I looked different, I lost myhair, I was growing a human.
So you know, I have this bellynow.
There was so much change and Ithink that was hard for my kids
just them being so little and itbeing so hard for them to
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understand all of this change.
It was like non-stop.
We were, we just kept gettinghit and you know, but some
things that we did were, youknow, we tried to.
We tried to be as open andhonest with them as we could,
but also taking into account howyoung they are.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Right.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
So last year, the, the two little ones, it was
their first year of school, sothen you throw that all in there
.
It was, it was, it was chaos,I'll say that.
But, um, I mean just being ableto, to have that open kind of
forum for them to be mad, beangry, be sad, you know, be
(24:35):
happy too, because we had, wehad a lot of happy moments, um,
and we, you know, we celebratedbirthdays and you know we did
all these things and I, I feellike we put a lot of energy into
the kids because we wanted tokeep things as normal and stable
as we could during this time ofall the changes, like
(24:57):
everything was ever-changing.
So it was hard, it was not easy, and I feel terrible too,
because it's like how do youexplain all of this stuff to
such little minds?
But at the end of the day, whenthey saw, like dad and I, and
(25:18):
like you know, we tried not tolike let it take the focus every
day.
You know, of course, I had likebad days, but we tried to
surround them by family andfriends and you know, like a
positive, happy atmosphere, andyou know when, a positive, happy
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atmosphere, and you know whenwe weren't able to do that, then
that's when, like, family andfriends stepped up and they were
able to help and take the kidsfor the day or the weekend.
And this is where Amy comes inagain.
You know, kind of helps me outand does all the things you know
like, helps me out and and doesall the things you know like um
(25:59):
, so and and and, you know, justtrying to make sure that, like,
they still had an outlet andopportunities to still be a kid
when, when mom and dad had tohave, like their, you know, game
based on, essentially, mom anddad had to have, like their, you
know game based on essentiallyand I think it takes an extra it
(26:25):
takes an incredible amount ofstrength to create calm around
you when there's a storm brewinginside you.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
You know, so often we have storms brewing inside of
us and we just let those stormscome out and create chaos around
us on the outside, and it'sit's.
It takes a special kind ofperson and a special level of
strength to be able to, you know, control the storm that's
brewing inside of us but yetcreate the calm for others
around us.
And it doesn't work 100%, butas much as we can, you know we
(26:50):
can try that and attempt to dothat.
That's a certain level ofdignity, it's a certain level of
compassion, it's a certain,certainly a certain level of
strength that you, I didn't, Ididn't realize about the loss of
four grandparents in in in fivemonths.
I had never heard that before.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Yeah, yeah, it was chapter two your story.
Yeah, 2023 was, uh, yeah, aninteresting chapter, if you will
.
But that's the beauty of it,it's just a chapter, yeah the
book is still being writtenabsolutely, and I'm grateful for
that I know you are wow, thatis I.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I learned a lot more in the last 10 minutes than I
knew over the past four or fivemonths working and talking with
you each week.
I really have.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
I mean well.
Yeah, it's a lot to swallow.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
It is, it is.
I have a whole new level ofrespect for you.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
Oh thank you.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Well, now that we're you know you're still got stuff
you're going through.
You have surgery coming up herenext month, but what would you
say right now for you at this?
Speaker 3 (28:04):
state in your life.
This position is considered awin.
What do you call a victory?
Right now, I would say beingable to share my story.
I was fortunate and luckyenough to have been invited on
the bamboo podcast, um, alongwith a couple other um, uh,
(28:25):
what's the word I'm looking for?
Sorry, kind of not commercials,but kind of uh, yeah, like
opportunities to, yeah, promoteand share my, my story and and
get involved more with thebreast cancer community.
Um and so.
So brain fog is still a thingfrom chemo, so I forget what I'm
(28:48):
saying every once in a while.
I apologize, um, but yeah, Iwould say that's a that's win,
being able to share my story inhopes that I can help somebody
that's you know, either in thisposition or in a similar
position, know somebody that'sgoing through a diagnosis like
(29:09):
this and, you know, give themhope.
Like you said, I feel likethat's like my mission now, like
(29:44):
my purpose.
I feel like is much larger aresource to somebody going
through a similar situation.
That, I think, is the biggestwin that I can think of.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I can't think of a bigger one either, because it
impacts so many people.
And I think what your storygives more than anything, it
gives hope and even if theperson who it might you know
obviously directly somebodywho's been diagnosed with breast
cancer or some other type ofhealth diagnosis, but anybody
who's going through somethingchallenging in their life, that
(30:13):
they think that, oh my gosh, Idon't think I can get through
this, I mean again, parallelyourself next to Dylan and say,
yeah, she has and she is.
I can too, and it can beanything but I, I.
I think your story if I couldput anything out there it is a
story of nothing but pure hopethat you give people like, yeah,
we can survive this stuff.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
Thank you, we can get not only survive, but thrive.
Yes, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
I mean.
Speaker 3 (30:40):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
When I talk to you each week, there's nothing that
comes out of your aura otherthan positivity and great energy
.
It really is, and that'sexactly why your assessment came
back with the three outstandingqualities.
That's really what that means.
You give off this good aura andwe're all better off for it,
and now you're just getting out.
(31:01):
You're spreading your aura ofhope to a lot more people.
And the last, really in thelast two weeks, you've started
to talk.
Yeah, you were a little wewon't talk about.
I won't give any specifics, butDylan has been able to have the
privilege of talking to onemajor org, company that all of
us will know and share her storyon camera, and then to another
(31:23):
more local organization or moreregional operation, but this is
her first time on a podcast, Ibelieve.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Yes, very first time on a podcast.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
For the inaugural.
What an honor.
Yeah, this won't be your lastpodcast.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
It's an honor to me.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
This will not be your last podcast.
I'll guarantee that.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
Oh, I hope not.
I hope that I can continue todo it, but I'm glad that I got
to start here.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, I am too.
It's an honor.
Well, that was just luck of thedraw.
I knew you, so I was the firstone to jump on it.
This is probably my favoritequestion.
I ask our the guest, Dylan, andthat is if, if I were to come
down to your neck of the of thecountry today, or the world, and
I was to bring my time machine,and we and I you and I are
(32:11):
going to jump in it.
You're going to go back to anystate, any point in your life,
maybe when you were 23, when youmet your dad?
Maybe when you're 18, just somepoint earlier in your life, and
you're going to sit down andtalk to the younger version of
yourself and you're going togive yourself words of wisdom,
recipes for success, some lifeadvice.
I'm just going to sit back andobserve.
(32:32):
What would you tell youryounger self?
Speaker 3 (32:34):
sit back and observe.
What would you tell youryounger self?
Oh boy, um, I think I wouldtell little Dylan um that, uh,
you know you've always been yourbiggest advocate and never to
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stop that.
Um, I would also say that youcan do anything and overcome
anything.
Just keep pushing forward.
I know that sounds cliche, butI really mean it and always keep
that hunger, that hunger to domore to do better, to grow, that
(33:16):
hunger to to do more to dobetter to.
You know, grow um and andfollow your gut, for you know
the, the good and the bad, rightUm, trust yourself.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Perfect.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
That's.
That's what I would say.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
Well, I'm going to recap that for the audience,
cause a lot of the audiencemembers are the bamboo Pack
members might be driving,running, hiking on their
treadmill.
Let's recap some incrediblewords of wisdom.
I love that first one.
You've always been your biggestadvocate.
Don't ever stop that.
You know, one of the thingswe've talked about recently I
have with a few of my clients isthe difference between
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confidence and self-esteem.
You know, confidence is whenyou feel you can accomplish
something, but self-esteem iswhen you feel you deserve it,
when you are truly your favorite, your best advocate.
That's one of the greateststrengths a person can have is
to be their own advocate, tosupport themselves, to love
themselves, to believe inthemselves, to have faith in
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themselves.
That's a powerful one.
So that's a great piece ofadvice.
The other one is you know, pushforward, continue to push
forward, keep that hunger forlife and for self-expansion and
growth and development andbetterment of yourself.
Because once we do, once westop trying to expand and push
forward and we lose that hunger,we start to atrophy our bodies,
(34:35):
our minds, that hunger, westart to atrophy Our bodies, our
minds, our spirits.
Everything starts to atrophyand that is no way to live.
And then follow your gut, trustyourself, believe in what you
feel inside.
That because that you know,they say.
Your gut is just another formof your brain.
It's just connected to yourbrain.
So when you feel it, trustyourself.
Great words of wisdom.
(34:56):
All right, what's next for you?
I mean, I know you have yoursurgery coming up.
I know you're really makingsome marks in your professional
life.
Is there anything next that yousee in life that you see coming
up.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
You know, I, obviously, you just, you just
said the obvious right To tryand keep getting healthy, um,
and gearing up for that nextsurgery next month, um, but for
me, I think I want to, I want tocontinue to tell my story, um,
and I want to, you know, seizethese opportunities when they
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present themselves and um, be aresource and be able to help
others.
I think that's like whatultimately makes my soul happy,
um, and if it's sharing thisexperience that I've gone
through, I'm happy to do that.
(35:56):
But, um, you know, aside fromyou know, my health journey, uh,
in a professional aspect, um,I'm extremely grateful for CG,
um, and I, I want to, you know,continue to, you know, expand my
(36:16):
roots there and keep growing inwith the company.
And you know, um, there's a lotof opportunity there and I'm
really excited.
I've never worked for a companywhere I'm actually excited to
go to work, um, so I thinkthat's a testament in itself and
(36:38):
it speaks volumes.
So I think that's a testamentin itself and it speaks volumes.
So, where I'm going?
Speaker 2 (36:51):
next would be, you know, just trying to figure out
what I want to do next in myprofessional career, what I want
to focus on.
Well, I think you know wetalked about the three qualities
you have are so made for theability to influence and lead
other people.
I do think that's a qualitythat would be really good for
you to develop more and more andexpand on those three qualities
more and more and more, andthat also, within those
qualities, gives you the abilityto share your story more.
And I'm going to reach out toanybody out there who would like
(37:13):
to hear more of Dylan's storyor perhaps wants to put them on
a show or interview her.
Reach directly out to me firstand I'll pass anything on to
Dylan and let her dissect whatshe wants to engage at any time.
So if you have any podcast shows, books you're writing, tv shows
you're producing or whatever,reach out to me and I'll pass
anything on to Dylan.
(37:33):
Thanks, brian, you're welcome.
I have a question.
Do you mind if I throw you atrick question or a pop quiz?
Sure.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
Pop quiz.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Okay, all right, do you mind if I throw you a trick
question or a pop quiz, sure,pop quiz.
Okay, all right, this mighttake a minute for you to think
of.
Okay, so if we could eliminateall of your fears that you have
inside, all of your irrationalfears irrational fears for the
next seven days, take away everyirrational fear you have for
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the next seven days, what wouldyou do differently this week?
Speaker 3 (38:08):
Oh, wow, oh, I would not have anxiety and not and not
(38:30):
I say that to say, you know,when something hits you like
this, I don't know that I'llever not keep looking over my
shoulder.
And you know, kind of likealways kind of it's in the back
of your mind that you're goingto have a reoccurrence or
something's not going to workout, or you know, whatever the
case may be, I would eliminatethat and, you know, just focus
(38:52):
on being happy with my familyand creating as many memories as
I can With my family andcreating as many memories as I
can and, you know, taking thosesnapshots in my brain of, like,
(39:13):
all these moments that, like, myhusband is happy and my kids
are happy and we're just livingthis life.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
That is, you know, living life by design, you know
is living life by design,creating the life that we want
without any worry.
Living life by design.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
I love that you might have just given me the title
for today's episode.
Oh, okay.
That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Thank you.
When the podcast is done, itgoes through this editing
process.
It's AI and they always give abunch of suggestions and most of
the time they give you five orsix to choose from.
You don't have to I always Ican bypass them, but usually
they have a one good one inthere, but probably 60% of the
time they have a good one, butusually I have to change it or
create my own.
I think I found mine for today,so I guess if you look I like
(40:03):
that one.
So, but can I ask you a questionwhat does living life by design
mean to you?
Speaker 3 (40:10):
So living life by design is, you know, taking all
the things in your life thatkeep you going, the things that
you, that you can focus on, thatbring you happiness and peace
and, um, you know, it might evenbe like, uh, wealth or you know
(40:35):
the things, you know the thingthat just ultimately, like they
make your soul at peace, andputting those into your daily
routine.
And you know you're notstressing, you're not worrying
about the next thing, you're not, you know you don't have angry
(40:59):
thoughts Like you're putting allof that and you're focusing on
the good.
Um, that's to me what livinglife by design is.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
I like that.
So I think it would be good fora lot of people to actually to
articulate what brings theirsoul peace, what brings them
happiness, and what and andcontentment you know what makes
them smile and laugh and writethat down, because I think a lot
of times we chase dreams thatwe and then we step back later
(41:29):
on it could be years later andsay the dream really wasn't what
made my soul happy, the careerchoice or whatever it might be.
It was the moments I spent withmy children or my parents or my
grandchildren or my husband ormy wife or my partner, or with
my best friends, or it was timeI was fly fishing or hiking or
whatever it might be.
Yeah, the journey, yeah, thejourney and putting those things
(41:52):
down now, on today, listingthem down and saying what brings
me the happiness, what bringsmy soul peace, what makes my
heart smile, laugh and say, okay, how can I indoctrinate these
into each day to make sure thatI do not let these things go?
Because, call it what it is,jill and so many, we live in a
society where we wait until wehave time before we do the
(42:13):
things we love.
We're going to do this when weretire One day.
I'll do when I have this.
I'll do when I make enoughmoney, I'll do this.
Speaker 3 (42:24):
And those days never really come.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
You're exactly right.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
You know, I was talking to my mother.
I went to my, I spent four dayswith my mother last week and we
were talking to one of myuncles and I said, you know,
it's interesting, he workedreally hard all of his life and
he raised a family and when heretired he didn't do anything.
He saved a lot of money and hedidn't do anything.
(42:47):
He literally didn't have anyhobbies, he didn't have a lot of
buddies to hang around with andthen he died and I thought
that's the saddest existence Ican imagine, that's the saddest
ending to a life I can possiblyimagine, because we're always
waiting and when we wait so long, pretty soon when we do retire,
(43:09):
our kids are grown, some of ourfriends are moved away, or
they're gone, they've passed on,or it may be too late to pick
up a hobby.
Maybe we can't hike anymore.
Whatever it might be, it'sdoing those things we love with
the people we love right now.
That's what makes the journeyworth living.
It's not going to happensomeday, it's got to happen
right now.
(43:30):
Great advice, I love that.
Live life by design.
Boom, perfect caption.
Well, I have one more finalquestion for you.
It's kind of a net questionthat captures anything I may
have missed, but is there anyquestion, dylan, that I did not
ask, that you wish I would have,or is there any final?
Speaker 3 (43:52):
message you want to leave with the Bamboo Pack
members out there.
Yeah, so I do this thing and Ilearned this from my uncle and
it's where, like you, have likea power word Right.
So ours is relentless.
And when I think about thisword, if I'm going through like
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life changes or, you know, um,just challenges, life challenges
, work challenges, if I'mfeeling down, if I'm feeling
great, um, I think about thisword and I just say I am
relentless, like I like just it,it like heights me up, kind of
(44:38):
Um, it's like this, this trickthat I learned along the way a
few years ago and I've kind ofkept it with me and um, I just
it just reminds me like I'mrelentless, I'm never going to
give up on myself.
I'm, you know, my, I am mynumber one fan.
I can do anything.
Um, and it just like I'mrelentless in the pursuit of
(45:02):
being like the best I can be,and it just like brings me back
to focus right, and so I, I, Iencourage you to find your own
power word and um, you know,hopefully it can, it can have
that same effect on you and kindof just ground you a little bit
in the chaos of life.
But I found that to be aninteresting thing and I just
(45:28):
wanted to share that with youguys.
Speaker 2 (45:29):
Perfect.
I've never heard anybody say itthat way.
A power word, I love that.
Mine is expansion.
Okay, I like that.
I have the word expand in therea lot.
It was just a few months ago.
I'm like, well, that word mustmean something to me, Because
(45:50):
you always think of I use theword success or growth or
betterment.
I'm like those words are socliched.
But what is that word?
To grow, to be successful,whatever that means to each
individual, really means toexpand every day, to expand your
comfort zone.
Yeah, Just to expand.
Expand, I love that.
I never thought of it as apower word, though.
It's kind of like the I'm ready, I'm excited, I'm grateful.
(46:13):
Those are three power words.
Speaker 3 (46:14):
Yes, that's a power statement, I guess.
Absolutely.
Yeah, I love it.
I think like it's like don'tforget about yourself.
You know, right, it's easy toget lost in life and when you're
a spouse and a parent andyou're a career-focused
individual and you know you gotto treat yourself like someone
(46:35):
you're responsible for helpingyou know, someone you're
responsible for, for helping youknow, and when you do that,
then you know you just becomebetter every day.
Speaker 2 (46:48):
Did we did?
Have we talked about the doingthe photo exercise of yourself
when you're a little girl?
Speaker 3 (46:54):
No.
Speaker 2 (46:55):
Oh well, here's an exercise that we would have
gotten to.
You know we talk a lot aboutyou said something really
important there is don't forgetabout yourself.
And I think it's very easy forus to forget about ourselves.
It's because of this low senseof self-worth, the low
self-esteem we struggle with ashuman beings, especially in the
Western culture.
And it's an exercise of takinggoing to the old shoebox,
(47:21):
metaphorically in your closet,and getting a picture of
yourself when you were a littleboy or a little girl, you know
somewhere, maybe between two andten, I don't know and finding a
picture that resonates with you, and then going into a room
with a mirror and saying look atthat picture and assume now
that that child is not you.
It's a completely differentchild, but it's a child you love
(47:43):
unconditionally.
You love this child more thananything in the world, and I
would challenge anybody outthere to look at that picture
and say to that little child youare worthless, you do not
deserve happiness, success, youdo not deserve to chase your
dreams.
You do not deserve to chaseyour dreams, you do not deserve
to reach your full potential.
You won't be able to do itbecause you love that child.
(48:07):
It's not you.
It's just a child you love, butit's a picture of you.
But I'll guarantee many of uscan say that to ourselves.
We subconsciously or consciouslytell ourselves every day that
we're worthless, we're notdeserving of success, we're not
deserving of happiness or agreat life.
Now, sometimes we say thatsubconsciously or we say that
(48:29):
through our actions.
But then we look back andrealize that child, you are that
child.
You are just a few more yearsbehind.
You have just a few yearsbehind you than that child does.
And then now look at that childand ask and say to that child
look at that child, know thatpicture.
And think about how easy itwould be to say you are so
worthy, you are so full of loveand beauty and you are.
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You deserve to have thehappiest, the healthiest, the
most beautiful life possible.
You deserve to chase yourdreams and reach your peak
potential.
It's so easy to to say to thatchild those kinds of things, but
you can't say the negativethings to that child.
It's so hard.
But we say it to ourselves.
And then, when you can do thatto that picture of you, then
connect that picture and saythat picture is just a picture
(49:13):
of me, I just have a few moreyears behind me and then look in
the mirror and say those exactsame things to yourself in the
mirror.
It's so powerful to look atthat little child, that little
version of yourself, and saypowerful things to that little
person, because you know thatperson deserves the best.
But for some reason, when we getolder we fail to connect.
That that little child that welove so much, that is deserving
(49:35):
of so much love, is now the sameperson we are.
We're just more experienced,but we're the same DNA, we have
the same soul, we have the samebrain.
You know, we're just a littlebigger, a little older.
So I think when we can connectwith our I don't like to use the
word inner child I think it'sbeen so cliched and bastardized
over the years but when we canconnect with the fact that that
(49:56):
little picture, that picture ofthat little child, is just you,
and when you can look at thatlittle picture and show
unconditional love to thatlittle child, you are really
showing unconditional love toyourself and you're doing
exactly what you said You're,you're, you know you're, you're,
you're.
You're not putting yourselflast, you're not forgetting
about who you are, and that's areally good exercise to do.
We were, I think next week wewould have talked about that.
(50:16):
So we just got a headstart onnext week's work.
So but that's a good exercisefor anybody to do, and I think I
did a podcast on that a fewcouple of years ago on it.
But but well, any final thingyou want to share.
I mean, you've shared so muchwisdom here and I I I have a
funny feeling we're going to geta lot of emails on this
particular episode because,again, what people are looking
(50:39):
for is the stories of hope.
They want to be able to walkalongside your journey and say,
man, dylan's doing this, she'sconquering this, I'm conquering
what I can conquer, and you'veaccomplished exactly what I was
hoping you would, and a lot more, today, dylan.
So I thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (50:54):
Yes, thank you so much for having me and giving me
a platform to continue to sharemy story.
I am so appreciative and I feelextremely blessed to be here.
Speaker 2 (51:07):
Well, the honor is all mine for sure.
So you were an amazing guest onthe Bamboo Lab podcast.
And there's just.
I'm a little more speechlessthan I normally am at the end of
a show, so this one hit me alittle harder than most, in a
good way.
So you gave me a lot ofgoosebumps.
You even gave me some tearsthat I hid behind my microphone
and my little pop cover that Ihave over a microphone.
(51:28):
So I'm glad we weren't onYouTube today.
I'm glad this was not a video.
Next year we're doing videopodcasts.
So I'm going to have to controlmy emotion a little bit better.
It's easy to hide behind amicrophone, but not a camera.
Yeah, absolutely All right, myfriend.
Thank you so much.
Thank you Bless you and yourfamily and go home tonight and
give your husband and all thosebeautiful children a big hug.
Speaker 3 (51:50):
I will Thank you so much, my pleasure Everyone.
Speaker 2 (51:53):
I want to thank you for tuning in today.
As I said at the beginning,this is going to be an episode
you want to share with at leastthree people, so I'm going to
recommend three people that aregoing through something, have
gone through something or willgo through challenges, which is
everybody you know.
Just share this out there.
Let people hear the hope, thecourage, the resilience, the
(52:13):
determination of Dylan and lether spirit just kind of evade
through them and really kind ofinspire them to just keep
pushing forward to design or towhat am I saying?
What's this?
Live life by design.
My favorite quote of the dayI'll see all of you, I think, a
week from today.
I'll talk to all of you.
In the meantime, please get outthere and strive to give and to
(52:35):
be your best.
Please show love and respect toothers.
No-transcript.
Hello and welcome to the Bamboo Lab Podcast with your
host, peak Performance Coach,brian Bosley.
Are you stuck on the hamsterwheel of life, spinning and
spinning but not really movingforward?
Are you ready to jump off andsoar?
Are you finally ready to sculptyour life?
If so, you've landed in theright place.
(00:21):
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you strivers, thrivers andsurvivors out there.
If you'd like to learn moreabout Brian and the Bamboo Lab,
feel free to reach out toexplore your true peak level at
wwwbamboolab3.com.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Welcome everyone to this week's episode of the
Bamboo Lab Podcast.
As always, I'm your host, brianBosley, and today we are on
episode 131.
We are subscribed.
We have, I think, subscribersand listeners in 78 countries
and 2,229 cities, I believe, asof this morning.
So I want to thank each andevery one of you Bamboo Pack
members out there for listening,subscribing and for sharing it.
(01:07):
So, before we start, I'm goingto ask all of you to please
smash that like button, pleaserate and review us and please
share this episode with at leastthree people, because, with the
guest I have on today, I have afeeling she is going to connect
so well with so many of youmembers out there.
I have Dylan Wade on today andI got a chance to meet Dylan, oh
(01:27):
my goodness, roughly fourmonths ago and I have the
privilege of talking with her ona consistent basis and hearing
her story and listening to herwisdom and her life experience
and just this amazing energy shebrings to all of us here on
this earth that I said, hey, Ineed to get you on, and she
right away said, of course, Iwould be honored.
So, ladies and gentlemen, let'sall welcome Dylan Wade to the
(01:51):
Bamboo Lab podcast.
Welcome, my friend.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Hi Ryan, Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Oh, it's a pleasure, you know that.
Well, let's just get, let'sjump into it.
Dylan, Now I've gotten to knowyou very well since roughly the
beginning of late June, earlyJuly of this year.
But can you please share withthe Bamboo Pack members out
there a little bit aboutyourself, maybe your childhood,
your family, who or what mayhave inspired you?
Whatever you want to share,yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I am married to my best friend.
My husband is my ride or die,uh.
I'm a mother of five beautifulchildren, um, but I'm also a
bonus mom to our two oldest.
So we have four girls and oneboy.
Uh, poor kid is outnumbered, um, but yeah, so the oldest is 13.
(02:47):
We've got almost aneight-year-old next month, a
five-year-old and afour-year-old.
They are Irish twins, so thatwas an interesting experience.
And then we also have ourlittle miracle baby, who will be
11 months here in the next fewdays.
(03:08):
I grew up with three brothers.
I was the only girl, um, but Ialso had.
My mom was the oldest of seven.
So my aunts and uncles werelike brothers and sisters to me
as well.
So I had an uncle who was, he's, four months older than me, who
was very much a brother, and Igrew up.
(03:32):
I kind of bounced around alittle bit, if I'm being honest.
So I was born in California,then we moved back to Michigan
and we kind of settled in whereour grandparents lived in
Fowlerville, and then my mombranched off and built her house
.
Then we moved to the Durandarea and that's where I went
until I was a sophomore in highschool, and then I moved back to
(03:55):
California and went to schoolout there for a little bit,
where I ultimately ended up backin Michigan and I graduated
from Stock, uh, stackbridge.
So if you don't know whereStackbridge is, it's a very,
very small town Southeast ofLansing, um, but I love that
(04:15):
small town, hometown, feel, youknow, um, and that's like what
I've, my husband and I, havebeen trying to get with with our
kiddos.
So we're now in the Mason areaand we love it here, um, but
yeah, so growing growing up likethere was a lot of moving, as
(04:36):
you can tell, um, but you know,growing up with, you know, being
the only girl was challengingat times, as you can imagine.
You know, sports wise we were,we were always into sports.
We were always, you know,running, running around.
We were in a small town, again,you know, growing up, so,
(04:58):
riding bikes, you know I wasalways trying to do what my
brothers did.
I was always trying to do whatmy brothers did.
I was always trying to like fitin at one.
At one point I actually was, um, I asked my mom to join the
wrestling like wrestling leaguebecause my brothers were were
wrestling and they would want tocome home and like show me
their moves right, and I'm likethis is just ridiculous sign.
(05:21):
Sign me up, mom.
Like I'm going to show them,you know.
So.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Did you ever do wrestling?
Did she do that?
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yeah, I actually wrestled for four years.
What?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Not in high school or anything.
Not in high school.
I was a little, I was a littletight, so but yeah, yep, I
absolutely did, but I alsodanced.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
And I Yep, I absolutely did.
But I also danced and I didgymnastics.
So you know I had a very widevariety of things under my belt.
I had to keep up with thoseboys.
You know I've been so surprisedof these last 130 episodes, or
131 now how many people on thisshow have been from small towns?
I bet it's 80% or 85%.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
I love the small town feel.
I just feel like everybody.
I just love that.
I know I can go to the store.
It's like tenfold right, so Ican go to the store like this.
It's like tenfold Right, so Igo to the store and see people
that I know.
Sometimes I want that,sometimes I don't, so it's
interesting.
(06:34):
But I do like to have that kindof close knit community factor,
especially with my kids.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
So I had a very successful lady on here a few
months ago and she grew up witha and she graduated with a class
of I think it was seven oreight people.
A graduating class.
That's the smallest I've had.
I mean, I had 75 in my home inmy class, which was a small town
of 3,000 people, but seven oreight in your graduate, I mean
that's pretty small.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Yeah, that's very small.
I think mine was 142.
Okay, so you know.
But yeah, had I graduated fromyou know, if I stayed in
California, then you know thatwould have.
I think our class was like athousand or something like that,
so it was a class.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
B school in Michigan.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
That's a big school.
That's class B, that's hugeyeah.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yeah, I think that's what it was.
I could be wrong, but I thinkthat's the number I remember.
So wrestling, gymnastics, dance, and that's pretty Renaissance
activity.
What, or who, inspired yougrowing up?
I mean, you've become a prettystrong woman.
I mean, we've done some of theassessments on you, as you know,
(07:49):
and you've come across with thepeople around you have some
very strong positive opinions onyou.
One of them is you're dead atyour determination and your
strength.
What do you think inspired youto be this person?
Speaker 3 (08:03):
What inspired me, I think, was probably the
circumstances that I grew up in.
Um, you know, I didn't know mydad.
Uh, I didn't meet my dad untilI was 23, and that was in 2013.
And then he, he passed twoyears later, um, from multiple
myeloma.
So, um, you know, I think thatwas kind of a factor, you know,
(08:26):
like I didn't have a fatherfigure.
So, um, I just kind of like,and I was also my mom worked, so
I was also kind of like themother figure to my brothers and
, in a way, um, you know, cause,when she was gone, you know
they, they still to this day,come, come to me with whatever,
(08:49):
you know, like I'm like thego-to you know person.
But, um, what inspired me to beyou know where I am today, I
think is just like the drive toalways want to, you know, be in
a better position and do betterin life.
And, you know, be in a betterposition and do better in life
(09:10):
and, um, make sure that I exposemyself to as many opportunities
and experiences that I can.
Um, and you know, my aunt is abig part of that also.
Um, like I said, my mom's theoldest of seven and, uh, my aunt
and actually I have, you know,a few aunts, but this aunt in
particular.
Her name is Amy.
She has always been there.
(09:31):
She is the person that you know.
She's like a sister.
I can always.
She's the person that if I'mgoing through something or I
need to make a big decision oryou know any of those like
pivotal things, that's theperson I call because I know
she's going to give it to mestraight and she's always been
(09:54):
there.
She's been an inspiration to me, just her drive and ambition,
her independence andselflessness.
And her independence andselflessness.
She's been the constant personin my life that's continued to
show up for me and she does forme still and, you know, for my
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kids, and that is something thatI hope I am to somebody else.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
And her name is Amy.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Her name is Amy.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Aunt Amy, this one goes out to you, man, Kudos, to
you, because what you said abouther drive or something, that
determination, I want to pointout.
So we did some assessments afew weeks ago.
Everyone and I had severalpeople I know, dylan being one
of them, to reach out to peoplethey know and trust to ask them
what each person thinks.
(10:44):
In this case, dylan's top threequalities are outstanding
qualities and we get all theseassessments back and then we put
them in this little program andthen it points out what, of all
these responses we got, whatare the top three of all of them
?
And Dylan's were number one,resilience and perseverance.
Number two, loyalty,trustworthiness and honesty.
(11:06):
And number three, kindness andcompassion, which, when I look
at leadership and people whoinfluence people or, you know,
who have a strong ability toimpact and influence other
people in the world in apositive way, those are the
three qualities I always lookfor in leadership and in leaders
, and so that was one of thereasons why I wanted to bring
Dylan on here today, and itsounds like Aunt Amy had a lot
(11:26):
to do with that.
So, kudos, that's great, thankyou, you know, I know you've.
What do you think in the last,let's say 12 months.
You can pick your timeframe ayear, six months, whatever it
might be.
Dylan has been one of thegreatest learnings you had.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
Um, so I will say, the outstanding qualities, uh,
kind of homework assignment thatyou had given us was, it was
interesting and it was, um, itmade my heart smile right, cause
you don't, you don't get tohave people tell you what these
things are every day.
Um, so to learn that that waswhat people were, um, thinking
(12:08):
of me, was an interestingexperience and it it really made
my heart smile.
Like I said, um, but you know,I I just feel like in the last,
in the last 12 months, I wouldsay that like, I feel like I've
learned that I'm capable ofdoing amazing things, not in a
(12:31):
selfish or conceited way at all,but you know, I've had some
trials that I've, you know, madeit out of, that I've, you know,
made it out of, and I've hadthe opportunity to grow
(12:52):
personally and professionallyand I feel honored, you know, to
be part of the team and at workat CG and, you know, just to
really own my role as a wife anda mother and take that, you
know, to heart every day.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Well, I think you know I want to share.
By the way, you just mentionedCG Financial.
A lot of you out there in theaudience will recognize that
name.
I think we've had five or sixindividuals from the company on
the podcast already, which is anattestment to the company and
the people they bring on and theservice they provide to their
clients.
We're going to bring anotherone on here soon that I have in
(13:29):
my radar, so you probably allrecognize the name of CG
Financial and that is whereDylan is employed right now, so
that's where her career is.
I'm assuming that when I knowyou've talked and we'll get into
this in a minute Dylan is,you've talked about you.
You alluded to the trials you'vegone through and the fact that
you have this, this perseveranceand this, this resilience in
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you.
My assumption is your kids areseeing that and I can't think of
a better gift to to whetherit's conscious or subconscious
or subliminal or just throughyour role modeling, a better
gift that you are giving yourchildren than ability to be
resilient and persevere throughtrial and tribulations.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
it's a blessing you know, I I hope so.
That would be.
That would definitely be thegoal.
Um, I I I hope that that iswhat they're seeing, because
it's been an interesting, youknow, year or so around our
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house.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Well, I can attest to that.
You know my mother you are justa younger version of my mom in
the way I think you probablyparent and what they're
experiencing.
You know my father died when Iwas four and a half and my mom
left us with five children.
She's only loved three men andshe's buried three men in her
life over the course of her 89years and I've seen her
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resilience and her strength andher fortitude and she never
talked about it, it was just.
You saw it.
I got to witness it over theseyears and that just has spread
to her children, to hergrandchildren, now to her
great-grandchildren.
So, trust me, they're pickingup on it, they're soaking it in
and it's going to make them much, much better people, there's no
(15:14):
doubt.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Thank you.
Thank you, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
All right Now to the question of the day and I think
we both know where we're goingwith this, Dylan is what is one
of the most difficult challengesyou've gone through in your
life, and can you talk usthrough that and how you are and
have gone, how you've pulledyourself out?
Speaker 3 (15:52):
So, in May of 2023, I was diagnosed with breast
cancer and I was about 13 weekspregnant.
So, as you can imagine that,you know, shattered, it
shattered me, I didn't know toget that news that, you know, 31
years old at the time, um, youknow, you don't ever think that
you're gonna hear the wordcancer and it, you know, be
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related to yourself.
Um, and then to throw in apregnancy, it was just like so
overwhelming and, um, you know,it was, it's, it's been a rough
road, um, there's been lots ofobstacles, um, but you know, I
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guess, just to take you back, so, um, I was about 13 weeks
pregnant and then I had to, youknow, undergo surgery at about
16 weeks pregnant and we had tomove fairly quickly because, uh,
my, my cancer was almost 100%hormone fueled, so my pregnancy
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was working against me.
Okay, um, which it's a lot tokind of wrap my head around.
I've been talking and sharingmy story more lately and I don't
know that, like, I think I wasjust in survival mode for so
long that I never really had orI guess I didn't realize that I
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hadn't, like you know, processedeverything that happened
because everything was happeningso fast, but I, so I had had
surgery and then, like two weekslater, two and a half weeks
after I was diagnosed, and thenafter that, at about 20 weeks
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pregnant, I had to undergochemotherapy for 12 weeks and it
was the hardest thing I've everdone.
It was the hardest thing.
I think.
I don't even have words, likeI'm struggling to come up with
them right now, because I'm justlike, wow, am I really talking
(18:07):
about myself right now?
But you know, my daughter sorry, I should have said that I,
ultimately I had a.
I had a little girl which Ithought was fitting, you know,
fighting next to her mom.
I told my oncologist I didn'tthink that if I hadn't been
(18:31):
pregnant, going through this, Ithink that I would have gotten
more sick and more like I just Iwouldn't have.
Like I said, I was in survivalmode.
So I feel like I leaned on myyou know, unborn daughter to get
me through this process,because I knew that I had to do
(18:52):
whatever I needed to to makesure that she was going to be
okay and I needed to make surethat I was going to be here for
my family, my family ultimately,Um, so it's been.
It's been interesting.
Um, she was born.
I think I've had four surgeriesand the last four years, or
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sorry, in the last year and, um,I'll have my fifth one next
month, in October.
So, gearing up for that, um,but what got me through was, you
know, I'm going to go back tothat survival mode type
mentality.
Um, I feel like I've alwaysbeen, you know, somewhat of a
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head like a fighting spirit, andso, um, I feel like that is
what kind of got me through and,just like I said, my, my family
, and trying is really reallyhard during that time to have a,
a positive outlook and mindset,which is extremely hard going
(20:05):
through something that is astraumatic as a cancer diagnosis.
But somehow, somehow, I'm stillhere to tell the story.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Well, your story, your story, is a story of just
incredible hope, and a story ofhope and dignity and resilience
that we can all relate to, notnecessarily because of a cancer
diagnosis.
But if I talk directly to thebamboo pack right now, I'd like
you to think don't compare yourlife with Dylan's, but put your
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life alongside of Dylan'sjourney.
Pair your life with Dylan's,but put your life alongside of
Dylan's journey and think of themoments that you have gone
through where things you had toput yourself in survival mode.
It could be a health scare, afinancial scare, a marital scare
, it can be anything that reallya career scare, that where you
felt like the world wascollapsing around you and you
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didn't know where to go.
And I want you to think of herlittle unborn daughter who was
still inside of her, and howthat motivated Dylan.
And really that little baby,that little girl, fought
alongside of her mom.
And all of us have something.
It could be a person, it couldbe a memory, it could be a goal,
it can be a dream, it can be aGod, it can be whatever you feel
(21:29):
.
It is Something that will keepus going, that will give us that
extra fight, or as they call itin Finland, sisu, that extra
little push, that one more thingthat you can do to keep
fighting forward.
Every one of us have that, andthe key is to find yours during
those moments of survival, thosemoments of, of, of challenge
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and um, I I've never heard thatbefore that.
That that part of your story,dylan, of that you know, your
little unborn daughter was inthere fighting alongside you.
I think that's just that's.
She is your miracle baby.
There's no doubt that'sincredible, incredible I mean
now can you talk a little bitabout, um, you know, as you're,
(22:10):
as you're going through this,obviously over the past year,
let's call it, you know a year,a year and a few months back,
what?
How did the family react tothis?
How does that?
How, when you're, you have alot, you have an amazing husband
, you've got your beautifulchildren how does that impact
your family?
How did that?
Speaker 3 (22:31):
So this is an interesting question, because so
which was my mother's dad?
And then in March they lost herhusband, so my stepdad, so
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another grandfather, and then inJuly my husband lost his
grandmother and then, five dayslater, lost his grandfather and
then five days later, lost hisgrandfather.
So in a five month span, mychildren lost four grandparents
and their mother was goingthrough a cancer diagnosis.
(23:25):
I looked different, I lost myhair, I was growing a human.
So you know, I have this bellynow.
There was so much change and Ithink that was hard for my kids
just them being so little and itbeing so hard for them to
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understand all of this change.
It was like non-stop.
We were, we just kept gettinghit and you know, but some
things that we did were, youknow, we tried to.
We tried to be as open andhonest with them as we could,
but also taking into account howyoung they are.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Right.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
So last year, the, the two little ones, it was
their first year of school, sothen you throw that all in there
.
It was, it was, it was chaos,I'll say that.
But, um, I mean just being ableto, to have that open kind of
forum for them to be mad, beangry, be sad, you know, be
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happy too, because we had, wehad a lot of happy moments, um,
and we, you know, we celebratedbirthdays and you know we did
all these things and I, I feellike we put a lot of energy into
the kids because we wanted tokeep things as normal and stable
as we could during this time ofall the changes, like
(24:57):
everything was ever-changing.
So it was hard, it was not easy, and I feel terrible too,
because it's like how do youexplain all of this stuff to
such little minds?
But at the end of the day, whenthey saw, like dad and I, and
(25:18):
like you know, we tried not tolike let it take the focus every
day.
You know, of course, I had likebad days, but we tried to
surround them by family andfriends and you know, like a
positive, happy atmosphere, andyou know when, a positive, happy
(25:39):
atmosphere, and you know whenwe weren't able to do that, then
that's when, like, family andfriends stepped up and they were
able to help and take the kidsfor the day or the weekend.
And this is where Amy comes inagain.
You know, kind of helps me outand does all the things you know
like, helps me out and and doesall the things you know like um
(25:59):
, so and and and, you know, justtrying to make sure that, like,
they still had an outlet andopportunities to still be a kid
when, when mom and dad had tohave, like their, you know, game
based on, essentially, mom anddad had to have, like their, you
know game based on essentiallyand I think it takes an extra it
(26:25):
takes an incredible amount ofstrength to create calm around
you when there's a storm brewinginside you.
Speaker 2 (26:28):
You know, so often we have storms brewing inside of
us and we just let those stormscome out and create chaos around
us on the outside, and it'sit's.
It takes a special kind ofperson and a special level of
strength to be able to, you know, control the storm that's
brewing inside of us but yetcreate the calm for others
around us.
And it doesn't work 100%, butas much as we can, you know we
(26:50):
can try that and attempt to dothat.
That's a certain level ofdignity, it's a certain level of
compassion, it's a certain,certainly a certain level of
strength that you, I didn't, Ididn't realize about the loss of
four grandparents in in in fivemonths.
I had never heard that before.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
Yeah, yeah, it was chapter two your story.
Yeah, 2023 was, uh, yeah, aninteresting chapter, if you will
.
But that's the beauty of it,it's just a chapter, yeah the
book is still being writtenabsolutely, and I'm grateful for
that I know you are wow, thatis I.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I learned a lot more in the last 10 minutes than I
knew over the past four or fivemonths working and talking with
you each week.
I really have.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
I mean well.
Yeah, it's a lot to swallow.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
It is, it is.
I have a whole new level ofrespect for you.
Speaker 3 (27:46):
Oh thank you.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Well, now that we're you know you're still got stuff
you're going through.
You have surgery coming up herenext month, but what would you
say right now for you at this?
Speaker 3 (28:04):
state in your life.
This position is considered awin.
What do you call a victory?
Right now, I would say beingable to share my story.
I was fortunate and luckyenough to have been invited on
the bamboo podcast, um, alongwith a couple other um, uh,
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what's the word I'm looking for?
Sorry, kind of not commercials,but kind of uh, yeah, like
opportunities to, yeah, promoteand share my, my story and and
get involved more with thebreast cancer community.
Um and so.
So brain fog is still a thingfrom chemo, so I forget what I'm
(28:48):
saying every once in a while.
I apologize, um, but yeah, Iwould say that's a that's win,
being able to share my story inhopes that I can help somebody
that's you know, either in thisposition or in a similar
position, know somebody that'sgoing through a diagnosis like
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this and, you know, give themhope.
Like you said, I feel likethat's like my mission now, like
(29:44):
my purpose.
I feel like is much larger aresource to somebody going
through a similar situation.
That, I think, is the biggestwin that I can think of.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I can't think of a bigger one either, because it
impacts so many people.
And I think what your storygives more than anything, it
gives hope and even if theperson who it might you know
obviously directly somebodywho's been diagnosed with breast
cancer or some other type ofhealth diagnosis, but anybody
who's going through somethingchallenging in their life, that
(30:13):
they think that, oh my gosh, Idon't think I can get through
this, I mean again, parallelyourself next to Dylan and say,
yeah, she has and she is.
I can too, and it can beanything but I, I.
I think your story if I couldput anything out there it is a
story of nothing but pure hopethat you give people like, yeah,
we can survive this stuff.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
Thank you, we can get not only survive, but thrive.
Yes, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:40):
I mean.
Speaker 3 (30:40):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
When I talk to you each week, there's nothing that
comes out of your aura otherthan positivity and great energy
.
It really is, and that'sexactly why your assessment came
back with the three outstandingqualities.
That's really what that means.
You give off this good aura andwe're all better off for it,
and now you're just getting out.
(31:01):
You're spreading your aura ofhope to a lot more people.
And the last, really in thelast two weeks, you've started
to talk.
Yeah, you were a little wewon't talk about.
I won't give any specifics, butDylan has been able to have the
privilege of talking to onemajor org, company that all of
us will know and share her storyon camera, and then to another
(31:23):
more local organization or moreregional operation, but this is
her first time on a podcast, Ibelieve.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Yes, very first time on a podcast.
Speaker 2 (31:33):
For the inaugural.
What an honor.
Yeah, this won't be your lastpodcast.
Speaker 3 (31:37):
It's an honor to me.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
This will not be your last podcast.
I'll guarantee that.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
Oh, I hope not.
I hope that I can continue todo it, but I'm glad that I got
to start here.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, I am too.
It's an honor.
Well, that was just luck of thedraw.
I knew you, so I was the firstone to jump on it.
This is probably my favoritequestion.
I ask our the guest, Dylan, andthat is if, if I were to come
down to your neck of the of thecountry today, or the world, and
I was to bring my time machine,and we and I you and I are
(32:11):
going to jump in it.
You're going to go back to anystate, any point in your life,
maybe when you were 23, when youmet your dad?
Maybe when you're 18, just somepoint earlier in your life, and
you're going to sit down andtalk to the younger version of
yourself and you're going togive yourself words of wisdom,
recipes for success, some lifeadvice.
I'm just going to sit back andobserve.
(32:32):
What would you tell youryounger self?
Speaker 3 (32:34):
sit back and observe.
What would you tell youryounger self?
Oh boy, um, I think I wouldtell little Dylan um that, uh,
you know you've always been yourbiggest advocate and never to
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stop that.
Um, I would also say that youcan do anything and overcome
anything.
Just keep pushing forward.
I know that sounds cliche, butI really mean it and always keep
that hunger, that hunger to domore to do better, to grow, that
(33:16):
hunger to to do more to dobetter to.
You know, grow um and andfollow your gut, for you know
the, the good and the bad, rightUm, trust yourself.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Perfect.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
That's.
That's what I would say.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
Well, I'm going to recap that for the audience,
cause a lot of the audiencemembers are the bamboo Pack
members might be driving,running, hiking on their
treadmill.
Let's recap some incrediblewords of wisdom.
I love that first one.
You've always been your biggestadvocate.
Don't ever stop that.
You know, one of the thingswe've talked about recently I
have with a few of my clients isthe difference between
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confidence and self-esteem.
You know, confidence is whenyou feel you can accomplish
something, but self-esteem iswhen you feel you deserve it,
when you are truly your favorite, your best advocate.
That's one of the greateststrengths a person can have is
to be their own advocate, tosupport themselves, to love
themselves, to believe inthemselves, to have faith in
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themselves.
That's a powerful one.
So that's a great piece ofadvice.
The other one is you know, pushforward, continue to push
forward, keep that hunger forlife and for self-expansion and
growth and development andbetterment of yourself.
Because once we do, once westop trying to expand and push
forward and we lose that hunger,we start to atrophy our bodies,
(34:35):
our minds, that hunger, westart to atrophy Our bodies, our
minds, our spirits.
Everything starts to atrophyand that is no way to live.
And then follow your gut, trustyourself, believe in what you
feel inside.
That because that you know,they say.
Your gut is just another formof your brain.
It's just connected to yourbrain.
So when you feel it, trustyourself.
Great words of wisdom.
(34:56):
All right, what's next for you?
I mean, I know you have yoursurgery coming up.
I know you're really makingsome marks in your professional
life.
Is there anything next that yousee in life that you see coming
up.
Speaker 3 (35:13):
You know, I, obviously, you just, you just
said the obvious right To tryand keep getting healthy, um,
and gearing up for that nextsurgery next month, um, but for
me, I think I want to, I want tocontinue to tell my story, um,
and I want to, you know, seizethese opportunities when they
(35:36):
present themselves and um, be aresource and be able to help
others.
I think that's like whatultimately makes my soul happy,
um, and if it's sharing thisexperience that I've gone
through, I'm happy to do that.
(35:56):
But, um, you know, aside fromyou know, my health journey, uh,
in a professional aspect, um,I'm extremely grateful for CG,
um, and I, I want to, you know,continue to, you know, expand my
(36:16):
roots there and keep growing inwith the company.
And you know, um, there's a lotof opportunity there and I'm
really excited.
I've never worked for a companywhere I'm actually excited to
go to work, um, so I thinkthat's a testament in itself and
(36:38):
it speaks volumes.
So I think that's a testamentin itself and it speaks volumes.
So, where I'm going?
Speaker 2 (36:51):
next would be, you know, just trying to figure out
what I want to do next in myprofessional career, what I want
to focus on.
Well, I think you know wetalked about the three qualities
you have are so made for theability to influence and lead
other people.
I do think that's a qualitythat would be really good for
you to develop more and more andexpand on those three qualities
more and more and more, andthat also, within those
qualities, gives you the abilityto share your story more.
And I'm going to reach out toanybody out there who would like
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to hear more of Dylan's storyor perhaps wants to put them on
a show or interview her.
Reach directly out to me firstand I'll pass anything on to
Dylan and let her dissect whatshe wants to engage at any time.
So if you have any podcast shows, books you're writing, tv shows
you're producing or whatever,reach out to me and I'll pass
anything on to Dylan.
(37:33):
Thanks, brian, you're welcome.
I have a question.
Do you mind if I throw you atrick question or a pop quiz?
Sure.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
Pop quiz.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
Okay, all right, do you mind if I throw you a trick
question or a pop quiz, sure,pop quiz.
Okay, all right, this mighttake a minute for you to think
of.
Okay, so if we could eliminateall of your fears that you have
inside, all of your irrationalfears irrational fears for the
next seven days, take away everyirrational fear you have for
(38:00):
the next seven days, what wouldyou do differently this week?
Speaker 3 (38:08):
Oh, wow, oh, I would not have anxiety and not and not
(38:30):
I say that to say, you know,when something hits you like
this, I don't know that I'llever not keep looking over my
shoulder.
And you know, kind of likealways kind of it's in the back
of your mind that you're goingto have a reoccurrence or
something's not going to workout, or you know, whatever the
case may be, I would eliminatethat and, you know, just focus
(38:52):
on being happy with my familyand creating as many memories as
I can With my family andcreating as many memories as I
can and, you know, taking thosesnapshots in my brain of, like,
(39:13):
all these moments that, like, myhusband is happy and my kids
are happy and we're just livingthis life.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
That is, you know, living life by design, you know
is living life by design,creating the life that we want
without any worry.
Living life by design.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
I love that you might have just given me the title
for today's episode.
Oh, okay.
That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Thank you.
When the podcast is done, itgoes through this editing
process.
It's AI and they always give abunch of suggestions and most of
the time they give you five orsix to choose from.
You don't have to I always Ican bypass them, but usually
they have a one good one inthere, but probably 60% of the
time they have a good one, butusually I have to change it or
create my own.
I think I found mine for today,so I guess if you look I like
(40:03):
that one.
So, but can I ask you a questionwhat does living life by design
mean to you?
Speaker 3 (40:10):
So living life by design is, you know, taking all
the things in your life thatkeep you going, the things that
you, that you can focus on, thatbring you happiness and peace
and, um, you know, it might evenbe like, uh, wealth or you know
(40:35):
the things, you know the thingthat just ultimately, like they
make your soul at peace, andputting those into your daily
routine.
And you know you're notstressing, you're not worrying
about the next thing, you're not, you know you don't have angry
(40:59):
thoughts Like you're putting allof that and you're focusing on
the good.
Um, that's to me what livinglife by design is.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
I like that.
So I think it would be good fora lot of people to actually to
articulate what brings theirsoul peace, what brings them
happiness, and what and andcontentment you know what makes
them smile and laugh and writethat down, because I think a lot
of times we chase dreams thatwe and then we step back later
(41:29):
on it could be years later andsay the dream really wasn't what
made my soul happy, the careerchoice or whatever it might be.
It was the moments I spent withmy children or my parents or my
grandchildren or my husband ormy wife or my partner, or with
my best friends, or it was timeI was fly fishing or hiking or
whatever it might be.
Yeah, the journey, yeah, thejourney and putting those things
(41:52):
down now, on today, listingthem down and saying what brings
me the happiness, what bringsmy soul peace, what makes my
heart smile, laugh and say, okay, how can I indoctrinate these
into each day to make sure thatI do not let these things go?
Because, call it what it is,jill and so many, we live in a
society where we wait until wehave time before we do the
(42:13):
things we love.
We're going to do this when weretire One day.
I'll do when I have this.
I'll do when I make enoughmoney, I'll do this.
Speaker 3 (42:24):
And those days never really come.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 3 (42:26):
You're exactly right.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
You know, I was talking to my mother.
I went to my, I spent four dayswith my mother last week and we
were talking to one of myuncles and I said, you know,
it's interesting, he workedreally hard all of his life and
he raised a family and when heretired he didn't do anything.
He saved a lot of money and hedidn't do anything.
(42:47):
He literally didn't have anyhobbies, he didn't have a lot of
buddies to hang around with andthen he died and I thought
that's the saddest existence Ican imagine, that's the saddest
ending to a life I can possiblyimagine, because we're always
waiting and when we wait so long, pretty soon when we do retire,
(43:09):
our kids are grown, some of ourfriends are moved away, or
they're gone, they've passed on,or it may be too late to pick
up a hobby.
Maybe we can't hike anymore.
Whatever it might be, it'sdoing those things we love with
the people we love right now.
That's what makes the journeyworth living.
It's not going to happensomeday, it's got to happen
right now.
(43:30):
Great advice, I love that.
Live life by design.
Boom, perfect caption.
Well, I have one more finalquestion for you.
It's kind of a net questionthat captures anything I may
have missed, but is there anyquestion, dylan, that I did not
ask, that you wish I would have,or is there any final?
Speaker 3 (43:52):
message you want to leave with the Bamboo Pack
members out there.
Yeah, so I do this thing and Ilearned this from my uncle and
it's where, like you, have likea power word Right.
So ours is relentless.
And when I think about thisword, if I'm going through like
(44:18):
life changes or, you know, um,just challenges, life challenges
, work challenges, if I'mfeeling down, if I'm feeling
great, um, I think about thisword and I just say I am
relentless, like I like just it,it like heights me up, kind of
(44:38):
Um, it's like this, this trickthat I learned along the way a
few years ago and I've kind ofkept it with me and um, I just
it just reminds me like I'mrelentless, I'm never going to
give up on myself.
I'm, you know, my, I am mynumber one fan.
I can do anything.
Um, and it just like I'mrelentless in the pursuit of
(45:02):
being like the best I can be,and it just like brings me back
to focus right, and so I, I, Iencourage you to find your own
power word and um, you know,hopefully it can, it can have
that same effect on you and kindof just ground you a little bit
in the chaos of life.
But I found that to be aninteresting thing and I just
(45:28):
wanted to share that with youguys.
Speaker 2 (45:29):
Perfect.
I've never heard anybody say itthat way.
A power word, I love that.
Mine is expansion.
Okay, I like that.
I have the word expand in therea lot.
It was just a few months ago.
I'm like, well, that word mustmean something to me, Because
(45:50):
you always think of I use theword success or growth or
betterment.
I'm like those words are socliched.
But what is that word?
To grow, to be successful,whatever that means to each
individual, really means toexpand every day, to expand your
comfort zone.
Yeah, Just to expand.
Expand, I love that.
I never thought of it as apower word, though.
It's kind of like the I'm ready, I'm excited, I'm grateful.
(46:13):
Those are three power words.
Speaker 3 (46:14):
Yes, that's a power statement, I guess.
Absolutely.
Yeah, I love it.
I think like it's like don'tforget about yourself.
You know, right, it's easy toget lost in life and when you're
a spouse and a parent andyou're a career-focused
individual and you know you gotto treat yourself like someone
(46:35):
you're responsible for helpingyou know, someone you're
responsible for, for helping youknow, and when you do that,
then you know you just becomebetter every day.
Speaker 2 (46:48):
Did we did?
Have we talked about the doingthe photo exercise of yourself
when you're a little girl?
Speaker 3 (46:54):
No.
Speaker 2 (46:55):
Oh well, here's an exercise that we would have
gotten to.
You know we talk a lot aboutyou said something really
important there is don't forgetabout yourself.
And I think it's very easy forus to forget about ourselves.
It's because of this low senseof self-worth, the low
self-esteem we struggle with ashuman beings, especially in the
Western culture.
And it's an exercise of takinggoing to the old shoebox,
(47:21):
metaphorically in your closet,and getting a picture of
yourself when you were a littleboy or a little girl, you know
somewhere, maybe between two andten, I don't know and finding a
picture that resonates with you, and then going into a room
with a mirror and saying look atthat picture and assume now
that that child is not you.
It's a completely differentchild, but it's a child you love
(47:43):
unconditionally.
You love this child more thananything in the world, and I
would challenge anybody outthere to look at that picture
and say to that little child youare worthless, you do not
deserve happiness, success, youdo not deserve to chase your
dreams.
You do not deserve to chaseyour dreams, you do not deserve
to reach your full potential.
You won't be able to do itbecause you love that child.
(48:07):
It's not you.
It's just a child you love, butit's a picture of you.
But I'll guarantee many of uscan say that to ourselves.
We subconsciously or consciouslytell ourselves every day that
we're worthless, we're notdeserving of success, we're not
deserving of happiness or agreat life.
Now, sometimes we say thatsubconsciously or we say that
(48:29):
through our actions.
But then we look back andrealize that child, you are that
child.
You are just a few more yearsbehind.
You have just a few yearsbehind you than that child does.
And then now look at that childand ask and say to that child
look at that child, know thatpicture.
And think about how easy itwould be to say you are so
worthy, you are so full of loveand beauty and you are.
(48:52):
You deserve to have thehappiest, the healthiest, the
most beautiful life possible.
You deserve to chase yourdreams and reach your peak
potential.
It's so easy to to say to thatchild those kinds of things, but
you can't say the negativethings to that child.
It's so hard.
But we say it to ourselves.
And then, when you can do thatto that picture of you, then
connect that picture and saythat picture is just a picture
(49:13):
of me, I just have a few moreyears behind me and then look in
the mirror and say those exactsame things to yourself in the
mirror.
It's so powerful to look atthat little child, that little
version of yourself, and saypowerful things to that little
person, because you know thatperson deserves the best.
But for some reason, when we getolder we fail to connect.
That that little child that welove so much, that is deserving
(49:35):
of so much love, is now the sameperson we are.
We're just more experienced,but we're the same DNA, we have
the same soul, we have the samebrain.
You know, we're just a littlebigger, a little older.
So I think when we can connectwith our I don't like to use the
word inner child I think it'sbeen so cliched and bastardized
over the years but when we canconnect with the fact that that
(49:56):
little picture, that picture ofthat little child, is just you,
and when you can look at thatlittle picture and show
unconditional love to thatlittle child, you are really
showing unconditional love toyourself and you're doing
exactly what you said You're,you're, you know you're, you're,
you're.
You're not putting yourselflast, you're not forgetting
about who you are, and that's areally good exercise to do.
We were, I think next week wewould have talked about that.
(50:16):
So we just got a headstart onnext week's work.
So but that's a good exercisefor anybody to do, and I think I
did a podcast on that a fewcouple of years ago on it.
But but well, any final thingyou want to share.
I mean, you've shared so muchwisdom here and I I I have a
funny feeling we're going to geta lot of emails on this
particular episode because,again, what people are looking
(50:39):
for is the stories of hope.
They want to be able to walkalongside your journey and say,
man, dylan's doing this, she'sconquering this, I'm conquering
what I can conquer, and you'veaccomplished exactly what I was
hoping you would, and a lot more, today, dylan.
So I thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (50:54):
Yes, thank you so much for having me and giving me
a platform to continue to sharemy story.
I am so appreciative and I feelextremely blessed to be here.
Speaker 2 (51:07):
Well, the honor is all mine for sure.
So you were an amazing guest onthe Bamboo Lab podcast.
And there's just.
I'm a little more speechlessthan I normally am at the end of
a show, so this one hit me alittle harder than most, in a
good way.
So you gave me a lot ofgoosebumps.
You even gave me some tearsthat I hid behind my microphone
and my little pop cover that Ihave over a microphone.
(51:28):
So I'm glad we weren't onYouTube today.
I'm glad this was not a video.
Next year we're doing videopodcasts.
So I'm going to have to controlmy emotion a little bit better.
It's easy to hide behind amicrophone, but not a camera.
Yeah, absolutely All right, myfriend.
Thank you so much.
Thank you Bless you and yourfamily and go home tonight and
give your husband and all thosebeautiful children a big hug.
Speaker 3 (51:50):
I will Thank you so much, my pleasure Everyone.
Speaker 2 (51:53):
I want to thank you for tuning in today.
As I said at the beginning,this is going to be an episode
you want to share with at leastthree people, so I'm going to
recommend three people that aregoing through something, have
gone through something or willgo through challenges, which is
everybody you know.
Just share this out there.
Let people hear the hope, thecourage, the resilience, the
(52:13):
determination of Dylan and lether spirit just kind of evade
through them and really kind ofinspire them to just keep
pushing forward to design or towhat am I saying?
What's this?
Live life by design.
My favorite quote of the dayI'll see all of you, I think, a
week from today.
I'll talk to all of you.
In the meantime, please get outthere and strive to give and to
(52:35):
be your best.
Please show love and respect toothers.
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