April 13, 2024 • 42 mins
Prepare to be inspired and empowered as we unveil five transformative statements that have the power to reshape your life in profound ways. In this episode, we explore the profound impact of simple yet powerful affirmations that can shift your mindset, unlock your potential, and propel you towards your goals.
From fostering self-belief to cultivating resilience, "5 Statements That Will Change Your Life Today" offers a roadmap for personal growth and fulfillment. Tune in as we delve into the wisdom behind these life-altering declarations and discover how they can revolutionize your perspective and outlook on life.
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Hello, hello, hello. Thank you for joining the podcast Behavioral Blueprint. My name
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is Solana and we are going to get straight into it. This podcast name for today and the
title is really going to go over the five statements that you are needing to keep for
self navigation for yourself. I personally really deeply resonate with that right now.
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I've been through a whole form of different journeys in the past two weeks that have kind
of steered me off of my self navigation route and off of my self navigation journey. I did
a whole bunch of things and constructed this list and all of these five different quotes
that you will see me and hear me use that honestly changed how I look at others and
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also how I look at self preservation for myself. So the first is going to be the cutoff season.
The cutoff season is requiring you to shed layers, peoples, habits, even relationships
with yourself and others and going into detail would mean of course removing said people
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and removing said behaviors and actions that further prohibit you from any type of growth
that you know is hindering you from being a better person. Recalling the past and not
being able to repeat the past has to be a habit that needs to be permanent for yourself.
You have to understand that creating a form that isn't self inflicting behavior, a form
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of love that isn't self inflicting behavior is a form of consideration of yourself. When
you go into any type of room and you are letting people push you past and not respect who you
are instead stepping on your grounds, you aren't considering yourself or being able
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to consider yourself if you let other people diminish who you are and let them diminish
who you are. I know I'm a person that has let my niceness always be taken for granted
because people are greedy. People can take from nice people solely because they feel
like they want to. Not saying that everybody is like that, but there are people that will
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continue to take from you and feel no remorse or shame because they simply are takers as
people. They never were givers the way that I am personally a giver or any of my people
that I care about or know are givers. I also do want to go into not repeating those said
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relationships and recalling the past meaning that you have to really go into understanding
that the things that you do as said behavior, something happens to you and you go into a
circle or a form of behavior that isn't making you better and it's a limited belief. You
have to check that before life will be handed to you and show you that you need to deal
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with that said thing that you are steering away from. Heavy on the not repeating because
the more that you repeat these behaviors, the more that it does become who you are and
then you are left there at 60 years old questioning why you had to feel this way and you have
to go this way and you wonder where your life is going to be. Now for me, I am a very dramatic
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person. It doesn't have to be 50, it doesn't have to be 24, it doesn't have to be 16, 19,
it doesn't have to be any of these ages but it will be a moment where you feel like you
are out of control when you question why you are repeating these toxic behaviors. These
things can come from you or they can come from your past, they can come from your blood
line and you could be the breaker. That's how you have to figure out your self identity
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and you can't let these people again shedding layers that remind you who your past version
was continue to let you step into your past behaviors into the new version that you are
becoming. Creating replacements that pour into your cup and create nourishment and hydration
for yourself will be of course the best thing that you can do when it comes down to cutting
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things off. That means that you can re-nourish the thing that you took off or that you made
basically a remove from. People will create forms of healing, people will create forms
of self affirmation, people will create forms of meditation, people will create forms of
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self love like I said but how can these things, ooh, how can these things create permanence?
That's my question to you and then also of course the question to the podcast. These
things can create permanence if you know that you simply, people will say align, I will
say that for now but you know that it can come as easy to you as it's breathing. People
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will state that these things are hobbies or things that you connect with and that you
like and those can be those said things but they have to be incorporated positively and
not unhealthily because of the fact that if you abuse that said thing that is nourishing
you it will create a negative form of you depending on that thing. Meaning that if you
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abuse the said thing that is helping you become a better person and removing yourself from
the people or the behaviors or the beliefs by the way then where are we going because
we're actually going backwards baby like you're not creating progress if you're still using
the same past habits that further hinder you from progression of change. And last but not
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least not always romanticizing the loneliness. I am a person myself that loves to, how do
I word this? I love to be by myself and that one comes from of course trauma but then that
too also comes from me feeling like I don't have to observe or look at other people's
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energy and feel like I have to fake who I am you know and that is a trauma response and
that is something that I'm working on but I also have to see that being by myself isn't
always productive to the dreams that I want to take. I'm known and born to be a collaborator
I love being an artist I love creating things I love being myself and I also love being
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with people as well I'm honestly a people person so when I create spaces of loneliness
and when I create spaces of making things dry for myself making the story will dry making
the places dry it doesn't help because then I get stuck into the cycle of doom scrolling
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and bed rotting and not becoming the best version and missing out on these set opportunities
that could change my life. Now I am going from point A to point Z when I go to that
when I say change my life but I do want to make it clear that each time that you aren't
able to choose yourself it is making a routine that it should be expected of you every time
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you go into a moment of needing to self isolate or needing to be in a space of needing to
be alone you use it as a response when in reality you can't use that always as a response
when you need to reach out to people so you can feel less alone. I have people that I
reach out to that simply do care about me but I would rather reach out to them knowing
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that they can be a safe space for me and that's another thing if you feel like you cannot
go out to people you need to change the people that you are in the room with you need to
change the people that you even speak to and say that you respect. If you don't have one
person in your life that you can sit here and quote and say that they are your safe
space you really need to look into what is going on in your environment and it's okay
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to admit that because every person is able to change from those environments but if it's
not again progressing who you are why are you still there? So the next chapter is going
to be self consideration is your super power. You are a person of energy you are a person
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that can harness and take and give and transmute and become so many different things of energy.
I am a person that believes in that so I am affirming that to you and letting you know
that you are in control of your reality. So the first thing I do want to go over is considering
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and including what and who you are independently that goes into not romanticizing the loneliness
from the last chapter because when you create and you know who you are independently you
know that you can go into spaces where you can reach out to other people like I was saying
as your safe spaces but then you also know yourself enough to know that people cannot
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shift you people cannot put you in a place and put you in a box because they said so.
Growing up for me a lot of people put me in a box and put me in a space because I did
not know myself and I wanted to rely on others simply because I felt like it was more comfortable
to give myself to others than for me to be myself. That also comes from people taking
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from me and when people take energy from me I used to think that that was okay. I used
to think that people taking things from me without my consent was okay and of course
I realized that now I realized that when I really like look within myself and when I
do self-work but I also go into understanding that when I go into seeing what I am that
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means I have to go into the mirror I have to do exercises. Who am I? What do I like?
What's my dream car? Where is my favorite library? It's not about who's my favorite person?
What's my favorite color? Because those are of course basic identity things that you can
go into but if it's that deep then you go that deep. But for me I did not know that
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I wanted to have my dream car until three to four weeks ago. The reason why was simply
because of the fact that I was prioritizing relationships, I was prioritizing what other
people wanted for a job and what they told me I should do as a job. I was prioritizing
what my parents thought and let me tell you that is one of the most normal ways of toxicity
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and staying in the same place. What your parents believe and then they create an action of
making you believe it because you are in their vicinity. The cententee. So sorry. Yeah. People
no I'm so sorry let me rephrase. Parents will project their beliefs onto you because
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they thought that they had the right to control you because they birthed you. They made the
decision to sleep with each other and hump and moan and groan and ejaculate and do that
whole little thing because they simply decided to regardless if it was selfish or not. Sorry
about that y'all. I had to look into what I was doing but I was really going on a tangent
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about how how selfish parents can really be when it comes down to making decisions for
who you are when you are able or stable enough to know who you are yet because they haven't
given you the chance to be. If you're going through this I am so sorry I am here for you
and I feel for you and you are going to get past this. You are a person of your own mind.
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You have your own soul. You have your own feelings. You have your own thoughts and you are a
better person than you think you are because of where you are now especially if you're
in the space of realization. You will be a different person a year from now. You will
be a different person tomorrow but I respect you for dealing with what you're dealing with
and you will be in a different space soon. I also do want to go into making it clear
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that committing and knowing and educating yourself with you meaning knowing who you are again
and knowing what you have to deal with and what is in your environment. The better you
can identify what is around you and how you are and how you respond to it the better you
can shift everything in your life but you do have to create permanence with the said change
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if you know you have to be a different person. If that means that you have to break up with
that boy girl they them that means that you have to simply remove yourself. If you do not know
who you are and you are in a relationship I have bad news for you. I have terrible news for you
actually but also of course there are exceptions people don't know who they are but they're in
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relationships and they can grow and get to know themselves in those relationships so I'm not
speaking for all but I do also know that educating yourself with knowing the details of who you are
and it's not also about like the surface level like I was saying my favorite car it's also
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about how you behave when you're angry how do you behave when you are in a moment of
lossness and you don't know what to do how do you help yourself when you're grieving
how do you help yourself when you fall back on the wagon how do you help yourself when you have
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to go into doing something that you did not expect to do educating yourself of course through those
unspoken experiences that other people have put you through or that you put yourself through but
you also do have to know that sometimes these things are self-inflicted sometimes you have to
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know like you have to see that what you are doing is also causing an effect on your life
because as much as you can decide to put blame on somebody else you have as much blame to put on
yourself as well it is equally yoked because the decisions that you make are also going to
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not only affect others but affect your future being kinder to yourself is my third segment
that I have for this chapter because I don't think people really take into understanding how much
being kinder to yourself creates better respect for yourself I was cooking earlier today and I
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spilled a little bit of sweet tea when I was making my plate I was like darn I wasn't reactive the way
that I was honestly raised growing up where if I did something dropped something made a noise
breathed or even cooked I was being questioned and it created a space for me where I did not want to
leave aka the loneliness and the hyper independence and also those things that made me feel shame
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I didn't want to leave my room because every time I leave my room I'm being asked questions
I'm being ridiculed so when I spilled that tea earlier today I was like darn and I moved the
I moved the cup and I moved the plate and I picked it up as a normal with a normal napkin
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and I went on with my day and I eat my food and it was really good um using that as an example
because I used to be literally ridiculed as as a form of being questioned um I was truly truly
truly shamed for doing anything and it caused me to have a response to close up and I wasn't kind
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to myself I if I made a mistake I had a whole mindset of my brain thinking of the worst because
of those said things that were instilled into me growing up and identifying that had me understanding
why I had to do those things and my responses like I was saying into educating yourself on how you
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respond to things if you know that you respond negatively why do you think that is where do
you think that comes from because it's not always from you you keep and you take other people's
things because you simply trust it enough to say that it should be a part of your life think about
that you take other people's energy and you take other people's opinions and you take other people's
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minds or mindsets because you trust that it can take upon your life and if you respect that opinion
enough and you don't even think that it's negative or positive because you solely think because of
the respect that you have to respect it and you have to take it in oh baby and again yes these
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things are um sometimes even subconscious so you don't even know if they're negative or positive
but at the end of the day you do have to understand that your actions take place for the
betterment of yourself so if they are choices that you know that are automatic but you never see
the consequences until after you have to question that and you have to see that it's not going to
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be the thing that is going to further let you be a person of growth it's not going to let you be
the thing that lets you be that dream person now it's not always overnight but things do take
discipline and discernment and understanding chapter three do it on my own season baby yes this is
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so good this is my favorite one of the whole episode so my first thing that I have is creating
actions behind the dream version of who you are was I not just talking about how these negative
attachments of behavior that you most likely have taken from other people cannot be a permanent
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thing in your life because it's not making you better so that means that on the other hand you
create the new life with these said habits with the actions of who you are to create the dream
self all of these things are just words when I come down to saying dream self by the way because
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dream self is just future you it's the same or the better version of who you are that is telling you
hey I can make this anything that I have in my mind I can actually become it it is something
that is in my mind I can write it down on a piece of paper I can pray over it I can do whatever
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but deep down the only thing that can manifest what you are doing let me rephrase not the only
thing because of course law of attraction but one of the most representative ways that can
make you see that you are becoming the person that you want to be is action mind you creating action
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will see and show effect if you are doing positive action for the betterment of yourself
meaning that the dream self is doing this said thing because once those two things begin to merge
and you see the fruits of your labor begin to pay off you'll understand that creating discernment
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and creating discipline is truly love for yourself and consideration for yourself this is also a
question to you that I will answer and of course anybody can answer put your answers in the chat
for me so I can see what you think but what is something that you can harness by yourself that
you use others for now this can be energy this can be physical and this can also be emotional
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what certain attributes of other people makes you think that you can't be the said thing because
that other person has it right and not even knowing that you can literally
withstain it yourself and have it of your own I have this a podcaster that I really like she's
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amazing her name is Janelle Roberts everybody go look at her podcast her name is yeah Janelle Roberts
but the podcast name is to all the people podcast she's a Dallas girl I love her so much she
I don't want to say she has my quote unquote dream life she has a lot of the things I do like when
it comes down to like future things that I have but I do know that something that she really went
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into when I listened to her podcast earlier today was knowing how to respect the things that don't
need you anymore and that don't have to have you the same way that you need to have it that's just
my takeaway from it but um when I thought about that I was like wow that's so true because we take
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from people or we go into letting people's energy be so important when we don't even realize that we
can harness that energy ourselves and even make it stronger or more amplified we don't look at
how important we are as people because we just don't we just don't see what is so important
to these said things that we love and care about it takes a lot out of me to not know
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but I also want to make it clear that not knowing how to harness your energy is also a form of
curiosity that you can make for yourself I'm going to get back to you on that to see what I did
for the next week's podcast so recognize that and begin to trust and honor yourself
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to rely on self so you have to see yourself as a valuable piece of work and that you are not a
self-improvement project and that you are not only this thing that has to consistently progress
if you are in the moment of knowing that you might have to take a pause and trusting yourself
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and seeing where you are and evaluating all the puzzles of the puzzle piece of who you are
that is most likely what it takes because there is always beauty in the stillness as well we'll
get into that too too because that is also something I don't think people appreciate either
recognizing and also beginning to trust yourself is one of the most important things that I see
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when it comes down to um self-consideration thing that I keep reiterating trust trust trust trust
do you trust yourself do you love yourself and those are not like hearted questions that you can
always answer easily there are days where I do not love myself there are days where I do not
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care about where I'm going because those are just those days and that's also what you do have to
carry too certain days are going to just be the hardest days of your life and certain days are
going to be some of the easiest and most blissful and most euphoric days of your life there is
polarity with that but it doesn't always have to mean that it will create permanence if you trust
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in the fact that tomorrow is going to be a bad day then that to that tomorrow will be a bad day
because you will find things that will make you mad or make you not feel like you are enough
but if you set tomorrow as a positive day and set tomorrow as the best day of your life it will be
the best day of your life because you don't look in that perspective a lot of people look into the
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limited belief because they know it's the most how do I explain this the limited belief is what
they know they know every aspect of the limited belief and none of the unknown belief not even
understanding that the unknown belief takes them to the sad thing that they want to be you have to
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trust yourself enough to know that the unknown belief is going to take you there it doesn't mean
that it has to go straight to the negative because you only see the limited in the limited belief
you see the negative and in the unknown belief you see the unknown so how do you know if it's
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going to be negative in nine times out of ten it's going to be positive because you're removing
yourself from the energy of the limited kind of hate that letting go and becoming indifferent
is the best part of becoming chapter four as you decide the version of who you want to become
what are actions that include you that accept that version of who you are that's a question of
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course so take your time to answer um but what version of you is accepting who you are now
now and loving who you are now is that future version of you doing that is that past version
of you doing that because I can assure you that that past version is thinking that this future
version or I'm sorry the present version doesn't even know now for me when I was 14 because 14
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was a big age for me 13 was a big age for me um I would have loved myself now because I'm able
to speak up about said things that I never thought I could never ever ever ever ever but I also know
that there are not things that I'm proud of that I'm doing today that I know my 24 year old self
would be like okay I'm looking back at that I'm glad I removed that said thing I'm glad I'm not
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friends that person anymore I'm glad I'm not doing that but then also my 24 year old self able to come
and talk to me and be able to hug me and aid me and affirm me and know and let me know that it's
all going to be okay and let my feelings know now that they belong because this is the transitioning
season this is the transitioning process not all of the immediate gratification has to come now
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for you that's another that's another thing that people have to understand we are in a time where
we are seeing people get instant gratification because we are only seeing their wins we are only
seeing people's achievements because those are the highlight reels those are the things that look
pretty those are the things that make people look like they have all the things going together
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when they're only posting two times a month of their wins nothing wrong with their said wins if
they're posting a twice a month but if you're only posting those two things I'm going to think that
that's your whole life if I'm just perceiving you through our mind and that's just a normal assumption
because people will just assume that people's lives are straight because they got the high rise
and they got the hellcat and they got the living in Miami or living in living in Atlanta type of
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vibe and they got everything together because they are said example no hate to these people by the way
because these people are true examples of what can happen but do you think that that is really
realistic especially when people do want to be this odd sort out and they want to stand out and
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create traction for themselves to further show that they are different they want that set attention
because they know how rare they are so when you question yourself and making yourself have to
be compared to them why why do you do that when you know you're not even in the same feet or in
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the same souls as them you don't even know if these people are wanting to be you the whole
entire time that you're wanting to be them you're at a place right now where you're questioning I
wish I'm out of this situation I wish I could be out of this situation I wish I could remove myself
from this situation I wish I wasn't this I wish I wasn't in that not even knowing you got the hard
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of gold you got the soul of integrity you got the mouth of a piece you got the brain that isn't
going to let people walk all over you you have all these special qualities about yourself but
wanted to change and compare yourself to said people that don't even know who they are or want to be
other things because they have reached all the things that they thought they could need
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and neither lost because they don't know where to go putting people on pedestals and creating
separation between you and the said person will not create betterment for yourself it will only
put you in a deeper hole making you think that you're lower than them when in reality you both
are said people you both are actual people and the only difference between you and that other person
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is a lease agreement and a finance car that most likely will get repowed in three months because
they haven't paid for the car note with the BMW I'm just being real these people are doing loopholes
and they're making themselves be seen as better when in reality their heart and their souls are
not into anything that's going to be self-progression of who they are they do not know who they are
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I'm just saying how do you embrace this is the second question how do you embrace the other
version and create boundaries with knowing that that version cannot exist with you anymore that
past version of you that has to react in such a reactive way or that past version of you that isn't
able to process what you are dealing with now can't be with you anymore especially if it's
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hindering you from responding with things that you know can make you a better person if you have a
flight or a flight or fight mode and you don't know how to respond but let's make it clear because
there's a third one if you have a flight freeze is it flight or fight yeah if you have a flight
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freeze or fight response to all of these things because there are of course choices to these
things you have to look at if this thing is making you going to is it going to make you connect to
the thing that's the better version of you that's the future version of you is it going to be the
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thing that will help you make those business decisions will it be the thing that helps you
make the emotional reactions when something happens or when somebody does you a certain way
because if you react immaterally because that 15 16 version of you didn't like the way that
Bradley treated you in high school you're going to ruin business partnerships and I'm speaking
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to the future version of you especially the entrepreneurs especially the people that want
to make their own brand and identity and version of themselves how do you know that that person
and who that person is can't always exist now there are times where that past version does have
to come up and make healthy decisions but is that person even making decisions that are healthy
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that's what you have to recalibrate with yourself are how much are you keeping that is from other
people like I stated before or that is past versions of you that are negatively holding you back
and then I have a quote here um this is one of my favorite quotes right now this person said
do not let the people affirm you I'm sorry do not let people affirm who you are when they do not
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know where you are going and I want you to carry that for a little bit because I my brain exploded
when I heard that because not every person is meant for every season of your life that cutoff
season that I was just bringing up is cutoff season it's the top of the year it's getting real cold
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so you gotta act a little chilly you gotta act alike you the weather because you can't let these
people be your son especially when you're not even taking care of yourself and um committing
and uh concerning and also let's use the last if I'm just getting on top of it considering yourself
if I didn't say that already um you have to create self-respect you have to create separation
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with your past self and with who you are now last but not least this is the last chapter before I go
boredom is solitude boredom is solitude y'all where is your piece located where is your safe space
where can you be these said things that are the future versions of you now that also might have
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to have you create a space and that is a good thing because when you create a space especially
when you know you need to have one you can always resort to that space you can always go to that
space but you also have to know that um you can't abuse that safe space you can't just go to that
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safe space and just treat it as if it's just another thing for you you have to respect that
said space the same way the better version of you would you can't resort back to the said things of
your past because it will make it not the same place that you want to ascend to if that makes
sense especially if this place is a safe space for you that can make you be authentically who you are
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why does this past version of you that's negatively hindering you need to be there there are many
different versions of who you are and you're allowing the thing that is it going to be your future
be a part of the space that is think about that is that respectful is that respectful to who you
are and what you are going to be no now i want you to let go of all these things that are of course
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holding you back and you can go into that safe space and let go of those things but you can't go
into that intentionally thinking that is going to change you if you do these said past behaviors
that aren't better meant for you silence is the answer so silence can be forms of meditation
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silence can be forms of not talking silence can be forms of even going to um spaces of peace
just not talking um for me right now i'm really not wanting to talk to people i always of course
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reach out to my friends but especially when i'm annoyed i rather try to revert my silence i rather
revert to silence because i have to question what's going on inside of me now do not get that twisted
with the self-isolation because the difference between self-isolation is that i am completely
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removing myself and not being available for people when i'm in a moment of silence i choose when i'm
silent i choose when i have to do this i choose when i have to be able to revert myself because i
know that this makes me better because i have to process differently i'm a person that has to process
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and take a couple days because i know that if i simply just respond straight to your face i'm
going to hurt your feelings especially if we're in a moment where we have to go to for tat and i
don't want to do that so i have to revert back to my space and really in going to moments of
realization because my mo my moments of silence create connection and understanding for myself
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and also the whole entire relationship with everything now for you silence can be
different types of form of creating the safe space so you can just use both or the safe space option
or the silent option you are not an ongoing project you are not a self-improvement project you are a
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person and i wanted to use this moment as a moment of closing because of the fact or the last moment
let me rephrase i wanted to use this as the last part of my chapter on chapter five in the last
segment because after everything that i have just said i have given you front to back examples of what
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is seen as a self-improvement project when in reality you are a person listening to me in your
room in your car walking or even doing even moments of cleaning and i hope you're cleaning be clean
but i want to make it clear that you are a person with feelings you are a person that has layers
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like onions like shrek um you are a person with a past you are a person with traumas you are a
person that has these things the future version of you has these things as well but the different
difference between who you are today and who you are tomorrow and who you will be in the future is
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that your future version of you doesn't carry those things as a need or as a moment or as a way of
survival you have to remove yourself from the survival mentality and going into a space where
you are creating with these special things that are of you the traumas of who you are are seeds
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now trauma is a very sensitive subject because different people have different complex traumas
and not everyone can transmute all of these things in one day it takes years it takes decades for
people it takes even bigger than even centuries for people especially societies for people to
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understand where they are especially with trauma with your trauma you are not the trauma you experienced
trauma you are not the identity of your trauma because you experienced it you are not your trauma
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you are a person that has surpassed and survived your trauma you are a survivor
and i want to say that i am so proud of you um
last but not least i do want to say that with everything of what you are
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you have to take it in day by day but you have to make it as honest as possible to yourself
to know where you are and also the things that you have to let go you have to cut things off
you have to consider yourself you have to understand that where you are right now is in the moment of
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permanence you have to do it on your own and you have to let go especially when it makes you a better
person but when you let go you have to know that that silent room and that boredom is going to be
the thing that's going to change you that's going to be the thing that creates new answers for you
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it helps you understand more about yourself excuse me more about yourself because who you are
more about yourself because who you are is the complex person that i was just describing
but that thing makes you special because you are the difference you are the change in your life
and if you know that you are the difference you should respect yourself enough to know that your
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future version of you is using that as a superpower and is using that as the form of love and how they
give love to others and how they become a better person is using those said things that people
usually create shame with as a form of liberation and you are loved so now that you know that you
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are loved you can't look at your life the same anymore especially when your future version of you
is using all the things that you say that you hate about yourself as moments of love to others
i want to thank everybody for listening to my podcast please go follow me on my social medias
it's going to be Solana files everywhere underscore think of me and think of yourself today think of
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your next week and how you're going to be better for yourself think of how you're going to look out
for others but make it clear that you are in your own lane and that people cannot shift you
remind yourself and make it an affirmation to yourself that i cannot be shifted by other
people's actions um but again y'all i love y'all thank you so much for listening to my podcast if
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you are listening please give my podcast a five star rating i love you i love you i love you and
thank you again for joining the behavioral blueprint
Hello, hello, hello. Thank you for joining the podcast Behavioral Blueprint. My name
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is Solana and we are going to get straight into it. This podcast name for today and the
title is really going to go over the five statements that you are needing to keep for
self navigation for yourself. I personally really deeply resonate with that right now.
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I've been through a whole form of different journeys in the past two weeks that have kind
of steered me off of my self navigation route and off of my self navigation journey. I did
a whole bunch of things and constructed this list and all of these five different quotes
that you will see me and hear me use that honestly changed how I look at others and
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also how I look at self preservation for myself. So the first is going to be the cutoff season.
The cutoff season is requiring you to shed layers, peoples, habits, even relationships
with yourself and others and going into detail would mean of course removing said people
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and removing said behaviors and actions that further prohibit you from any type of growth
that you know is hindering you from being a better person. Recalling the past and not
being able to repeat the past has to be a habit that needs to be permanent for yourself.
You have to understand that creating a form that isn't self inflicting behavior, a form
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of love that isn't self inflicting behavior is a form of consideration of yourself. When
you go into any type of room and you are letting people push you past and not respect who you
are instead stepping on your grounds, you aren't considering yourself or being able
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to consider yourself if you let other people diminish who you are and let them diminish
who you are. I know I'm a person that has let my niceness always be taken for granted
because people are greedy. People can take from nice people solely because they feel
like they want to. Not saying that everybody is like that, but there are people that will
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continue to take from you and feel no remorse or shame because they simply are takers as
people. They never were givers the way that I am personally a giver or any of my people
that I care about or know are givers. I also do want to go into not repeating those said
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relationships and recalling the past meaning that you have to really go into understanding
that the things that you do as said behavior, something happens to you and you go into a
circle or a form of behavior that isn't making you better and it's a limited belief. You
have to check that before life will be handed to you and show you that you need to deal
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with that said thing that you are steering away from. Heavy on the not repeating because
the more that you repeat these behaviors, the more that it does become who you are and
then you are left there at 60 years old questioning why you had to feel this way and you have
to go this way and you wonder where your life is going to be. Now for me, I am a very dramatic
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person. It doesn't have to be 50, it doesn't have to be 24, it doesn't have to be 16, 19,
it doesn't have to be any of these ages but it will be a moment where you feel like you
are out of control when you question why you are repeating these toxic behaviors. These
things can come from you or they can come from your past, they can come from your blood
line and you could be the breaker. That's how you have to figure out your self identity
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and you can't let these people again shedding layers that remind you who your past version
was continue to let you step into your past behaviors into the new version that you are
becoming. Creating replacements that pour into your cup and create nourishment and hydration
for yourself will be of course the best thing that you can do when it comes down to cutting
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things off. That means that you can re-nourish the thing that you took off or that you made
basically a remove from. People will create forms of healing, people will create forms
of self affirmation, people will create forms of meditation, people will create forms of
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self love like I said but how can these things, ooh, how can these things create permanence?
That's my question to you and then also of course the question to the podcast. These
things can create permanence if you know that you simply, people will say align, I will
say that for now but you know that it can come as easy to you as it's breathing. People
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will state that these things are hobbies or things that you connect with and that you
like and those can be those said things but they have to be incorporated positively and
not unhealthily because of the fact that if you abuse that said thing that is nourishing
you it will create a negative form of you depending on that thing. Meaning that if you
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abuse the said thing that is helping you become a better person and removing yourself from
the people or the behaviors or the beliefs by the way then where are we going because
we're actually going backwards baby like you're not creating progress if you're still using
the same past habits that further hinder you from progression of change. And last but not
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least not always romanticizing the loneliness. I am a person myself that loves to, how do
I word this? I love to be by myself and that one comes from of course trauma but then that
too also comes from me feeling like I don't have to observe or look at other people's
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energy and feel like I have to fake who I am you know and that is a trauma response and
that is something that I'm working on but I also have to see that being by myself isn't
always productive to the dreams that I want to take. I'm known and born to be a collaborator
I love being an artist I love creating things I love being myself and I also love being
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with people as well I'm honestly a people person so when I create spaces of loneliness
and when I create spaces of making things dry for myself making the story will dry making
the places dry it doesn't help because then I get stuck into the cycle of doom scrolling
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and bed rotting and not becoming the best version and missing out on these set opportunities
that could change my life. Now I am going from point A to point Z when I go to that
when I say change my life but I do want to make it clear that each time that you aren't
able to choose yourself it is making a routine that it should be expected of you every time
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you go into a moment of needing to self isolate or needing to be in a space of needing to
be alone you use it as a response when in reality you can't use that always as a response
when you need to reach out to people so you can feel less alone. I have people that I
reach out to that simply do care about me but I would rather reach out to them knowing
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that they can be a safe space for me and that's another thing if you feel like you cannot
go out to people you need to change the people that you are in the room with you need to
change the people that you even speak to and say that you respect. If you don't have one
person in your life that you can sit here and quote and say that they are your safe
space you really need to look into what is going on in your environment and it's okay
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to admit that because every person is able to change from those environments but if it's
not again progressing who you are why are you still there? So the next chapter is going
to be self consideration is your super power. You are a person of energy you are a person
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that can harness and take and give and transmute and become so many different things of energy.
I am a person that believes in that so I am affirming that to you and letting you know
that you are in control of your reality. So the first thing I do want to go over is considering
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and including what and who you are independently that goes into not romanticizing the loneliness
from the last chapter because when you create and you know who you are independently you
know that you can go into spaces where you can reach out to other people like I was saying
as your safe spaces but then you also know yourself enough to know that people cannot
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shift you people cannot put you in a place and put you in a box because they said so.
Growing up for me a lot of people put me in a box and put me in a space because I did
not know myself and I wanted to rely on others simply because I felt like it was more comfortable
to give myself to others than for me to be myself. That also comes from people taking
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from me and when people take energy from me I used to think that that was okay. I used
to think that people taking things from me without my consent was okay and of course
I realized that now I realized that when I really like look within myself and when I
do self-work but I also go into understanding that when I go into seeing what I am that
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means I have to go into the mirror I have to do exercises. Who am I? What do I like?
What's my dream car? Where is my favorite library? It's not about who's my favorite person?
What's my favorite color? Because those are of course basic identity things that you can
go into but if it's that deep then you go that deep. But for me I did not know that
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I wanted to have my dream car until three to four weeks ago. The reason why was simply
because of the fact that I was prioritizing relationships, I was prioritizing what other
people wanted for a job and what they told me I should do as a job. I was prioritizing
what my parents thought and let me tell you that is one of the most normal ways of toxicity
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and staying in the same place. What your parents believe and then they create an action of
making you believe it because you are in their vicinity. The cententee. So sorry. Yeah. People
no I'm so sorry let me rephrase. Parents will project their beliefs onto you because
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they thought that they had the right to control you because they birthed you. They made the
decision to sleep with each other and hump and moan and groan and ejaculate and do that
whole little thing because they simply decided to regardless if it was selfish or not. Sorry
about that y'all. I had to look into what I was doing but I was really going on a tangent
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about how how selfish parents can really be when it comes down to making decisions for
who you are when you are able or stable enough to know who you are yet because they haven't
given you the chance to be. If you're going through this I am so sorry I am here for you
and I feel for you and you are going to get past this. You are a person of your own mind.
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You have your own soul. You have your own feelings. You have your own thoughts and you are a
better person than you think you are because of where you are now especially if you're
in the space of realization. You will be a different person a year from now. You will
be a different person tomorrow but I respect you for dealing with what you're dealing with
and you will be in a different space soon. I also do want to go into making it clear
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that committing and knowing and educating yourself with you meaning knowing who you are again
and knowing what you have to deal with and what is in your environment. The better you
can identify what is around you and how you are and how you respond to it the better you
can shift everything in your life but you do have to create permanence with the said change
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if you know you have to be a different person. If that means that you have to break up with
that boy girl they them that means that you have to simply remove yourself. If you do not know
who you are and you are in a relationship I have bad news for you. I have terrible news for you
actually but also of course there are exceptions people don't know who they are but they're in
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relationships and they can grow and get to know themselves in those relationships so I'm not
speaking for all but I do also know that educating yourself with knowing the details of who you are
and it's not also about like the surface level like I was saying my favorite car it's also
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about how you behave when you're angry how do you behave when you are in a moment of
lossness and you don't know what to do how do you help yourself when you're grieving
how do you help yourself when you fall back on the wagon how do you help yourself when you have
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to go into doing something that you did not expect to do educating yourself of course through those
unspoken experiences that other people have put you through or that you put yourself through but
you also do have to know that sometimes these things are self-inflicted sometimes you have to
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know like you have to see that what you are doing is also causing an effect on your life
because as much as you can decide to put blame on somebody else you have as much blame to put on
yourself as well it is equally yoked because the decisions that you make are also going to
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not only affect others but affect your future being kinder to yourself is my third segment
that I have for this chapter because I don't think people really take into understanding how much
being kinder to yourself creates better respect for yourself I was cooking earlier today and I
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spilled a little bit of sweet tea when I was making my plate I was like darn I wasn't reactive the way
that I was honestly raised growing up where if I did something dropped something made a noise
breathed or even cooked I was being questioned and it created a space for me where I did not want to
leave aka the loneliness and the hyper independence and also those things that made me feel shame
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I didn't want to leave my room because every time I leave my room I'm being asked questions
I'm being ridiculed so when I spilled that tea earlier today I was like darn and I moved the
I moved the cup and I moved the plate and I picked it up as a normal with a normal napkin
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and I went on with my day and I eat my food and it was really good um using that as an example
because I used to be literally ridiculed as as a form of being questioned um I was truly truly
truly shamed for doing anything and it caused me to have a response to close up and I wasn't kind
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to myself I if I made a mistake I had a whole mindset of my brain thinking of the worst because
of those said things that were instilled into me growing up and identifying that had me understanding
why I had to do those things and my responses like I was saying into educating yourself on how you
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respond to things if you know that you respond negatively why do you think that is where do
you think that comes from because it's not always from you you keep and you take other people's
things because you simply trust it enough to say that it should be a part of your life think about
that you take other people's energy and you take other people's opinions and you take other people's
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minds or mindsets because you trust that it can take upon your life and if you respect that opinion
enough and you don't even think that it's negative or positive because you solely think because of
the respect that you have to respect it and you have to take it in oh baby and again yes these
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things are um sometimes even subconscious so you don't even know if they're negative or positive
but at the end of the day you do have to understand that your actions take place for the
betterment of yourself so if they are choices that you know that are automatic but you never see
the consequences until after you have to question that and you have to see that it's not going to
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be the thing that is going to further let you be a person of growth it's not going to let you be
the thing that lets you be that dream person now it's not always overnight but things do take
discipline and discernment and understanding chapter three do it on my own season baby yes this is
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so good this is my favorite one of the whole episode so my first thing that I have is creating
actions behind the dream version of who you are was I not just talking about how these negative
attachments of behavior that you most likely have taken from other people cannot be a permanent
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thing in your life because it's not making you better so that means that on the other hand you
create the new life with these said habits with the actions of who you are to create the dream
self all of these things are just words when I come down to saying dream self by the way because
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dream self is just future you it's the same or the better version of who you are that is telling you
hey I can make this anything that I have in my mind I can actually become it it is something
that is in my mind I can write it down on a piece of paper I can pray over it I can do whatever
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but deep down the only thing that can manifest what you are doing let me rephrase not the only
thing because of course law of attraction but one of the most representative ways that can
make you see that you are becoming the person that you want to be is action mind you creating action
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will see and show effect if you are doing positive action for the betterment of yourself
meaning that the dream self is doing this said thing because once those two things begin to merge
and you see the fruits of your labor begin to pay off you'll understand that creating discernment
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and creating discipline is truly love for yourself and consideration for yourself this is also a
question to you that I will answer and of course anybody can answer put your answers in the chat
for me so I can see what you think but what is something that you can harness by yourself that
you use others for now this can be energy this can be physical and this can also be emotional
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what certain attributes of other people makes you think that you can't be the said thing because
that other person has it right and not even knowing that you can literally
withstain it yourself and have it of your own I have this a podcaster that I really like she's
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amazing her name is Janelle Roberts everybody go look at her podcast her name is yeah Janelle Roberts
but the podcast name is to all the people podcast she's a Dallas girl I love her so much she
I don't want to say she has my quote unquote dream life she has a lot of the things I do like when
it comes down to like future things that I have but I do know that something that she really went
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into when I listened to her podcast earlier today was knowing how to respect the things that don't
need you anymore and that don't have to have you the same way that you need to have it that's just
my takeaway from it but um when I thought about that I was like wow that's so true because we take
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from people or we go into letting people's energy be so important when we don't even realize that we
can harness that energy ourselves and even make it stronger or more amplified we don't look at
how important we are as people because we just don't we just don't see what is so important
to these said things that we love and care about it takes a lot out of me to not know
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but I also want to make it clear that not knowing how to harness your energy is also a form of
curiosity that you can make for yourself I'm going to get back to you on that to see what I did
for the next week's podcast so recognize that and begin to trust and honor yourself
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to rely on self so you have to see yourself as a valuable piece of work and that you are not a
self-improvement project and that you are not only this thing that has to consistently progress
if you are in the moment of knowing that you might have to take a pause and trusting yourself
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and seeing where you are and evaluating all the puzzles of the puzzle piece of who you are
that is most likely what it takes because there is always beauty in the stillness as well we'll
get into that too too because that is also something I don't think people appreciate either
recognizing and also beginning to trust yourself is one of the most important things that I see
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when it comes down to um self-consideration thing that I keep reiterating trust trust trust trust
do you trust yourself do you love yourself and those are not like hearted questions that you can
always answer easily there are days where I do not love myself there are days where I do not
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care about where I'm going because those are just those days and that's also what you do have to
carry too certain days are going to just be the hardest days of your life and certain days are
going to be some of the easiest and most blissful and most euphoric days of your life there is
polarity with that but it doesn't always have to mean that it will create permanence if you trust
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in the fact that tomorrow is going to be a bad day then that to that tomorrow will be a bad day
because you will find things that will make you mad or make you not feel like you are enough
but if you set tomorrow as a positive day and set tomorrow as the best day of your life it will be
the best day of your life because you don't look in that perspective a lot of people look into the
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limited belief because they know it's the most how do I explain this the limited belief is what
they know they know every aspect of the limited belief and none of the unknown belief not even
understanding that the unknown belief takes them to the sad thing that they want to be you have to
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trust yourself enough to know that the unknown belief is going to take you there it doesn't mean
that it has to go straight to the negative because you only see the limited in the limited belief
you see the negative and in the unknown belief you see the unknown so how do you know if it's
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going to be negative in nine times out of ten it's going to be positive because you're removing
yourself from the energy of the limited kind of hate that letting go and becoming indifferent
is the best part of becoming chapter four as you decide the version of who you want to become
what are actions that include you that accept that version of who you are that's a question of
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course so take your time to answer um but what version of you is accepting who you are now
now and loving who you are now is that future version of you doing that is that past version
of you doing that because I can assure you that that past version is thinking that this future
version or I'm sorry the present version doesn't even know now for me when I was 14 because 14
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was a big age for me 13 was a big age for me um I would have loved myself now because I'm able
to speak up about said things that I never thought I could never ever ever ever ever but I also know
that there are not things that I'm proud of that I'm doing today that I know my 24 year old self
would be like okay I'm looking back at that I'm glad I removed that said thing I'm glad I'm not
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friends that person anymore I'm glad I'm not doing that but then also my 24 year old self able to come
and talk to me and be able to hug me and aid me and affirm me and know and let me know that it's
all going to be okay and let my feelings know now that they belong because this is the transitioning
season this is the transitioning process not all of the immediate gratification has to come now
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for you that's another that's another thing that people have to understand we are in a time where
we are seeing people get instant gratification because we are only seeing their wins we are only
seeing people's achievements because those are the highlight reels those are the things that look
pretty those are the things that make people look like they have all the things going together
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when they're only posting two times a month of their wins nothing wrong with their said wins if
they're posting a twice a month but if you're only posting those two things I'm going to think that
that's your whole life if I'm just perceiving you through our mind and that's just a normal assumption
because people will just assume that people's lives are straight because they got the high rise
and they got the hellcat and they got the living in Miami or living in living in Atlanta type of
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vibe and they got everything together because they are said example no hate to these people by the way
because these people are true examples of what can happen but do you think that that is really
realistic especially when people do want to be this odd sort out and they want to stand out and
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create traction for themselves to further show that they are different they want that set attention
because they know how rare they are so when you question yourself and making yourself have to
be compared to them why why do you do that when you know you're not even in the same feet or in
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the same souls as them you don't even know if these people are wanting to be you the whole
entire time that you're wanting to be them you're at a place right now where you're questioning I
wish I'm out of this situation I wish I could be out of this situation I wish I could remove myself
from this situation I wish I wasn't this I wish I wasn't in that not even knowing you got the hard
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of gold you got the soul of integrity you got the mouth of a piece you got the brain that isn't
going to let people walk all over you you have all these special qualities about yourself but
wanted to change and compare yourself to said people that don't even know who they are or want to be
other things because they have reached all the things that they thought they could need
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and neither lost because they don't know where to go putting people on pedestals and creating
separation between you and the said person will not create betterment for yourself it will only
put you in a deeper hole making you think that you're lower than them when in reality you both
are said people you both are actual people and the only difference between you and that other person
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is a lease agreement and a finance car that most likely will get repowed in three months because
they haven't paid for the car note with the BMW I'm just being real these people are doing loopholes
and they're making themselves be seen as better when in reality their heart and their souls are
not into anything that's going to be self-progression of who they are they do not know who they are
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I'm just saying how do you embrace this is the second question how do you embrace the other
version and create boundaries with knowing that that version cannot exist with you anymore that
past version of you that has to react in such a reactive way or that past version of you that isn't
able to process what you are dealing with now can't be with you anymore especially if it's
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hindering you from responding with things that you know can make you a better person if you have a
flight or a flight or fight mode and you don't know how to respond but let's make it clear because
there's a third one if you have a flight freeze is it flight or fight yeah if you have a flight
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freeze or fight response to all of these things because there are of course choices to these
things you have to look at if this thing is making you going to is it going to make you connect to
the thing that's the better version of you that's the future version of you is it going to be the
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thing that will help you make those business decisions will it be the thing that helps you
make the emotional reactions when something happens or when somebody does you a certain way
because if you react immaterally because that 15 16 version of you didn't like the way that
Bradley treated you in high school you're going to ruin business partnerships and I'm speaking
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to the future version of you especially the entrepreneurs especially the people that want
to make their own brand and identity and version of themselves how do you know that that person
and who that person is can't always exist now there are times where that past version does have
to come up and make healthy decisions but is that person even making decisions that are healthy
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that's what you have to recalibrate with yourself are how much are you keeping that is from other
people like I stated before or that is past versions of you that are negatively holding you back
and then I have a quote here um this is one of my favorite quotes right now this person said
do not let the people affirm you I'm sorry do not let people affirm who you are when they do not
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know where you are going and I want you to carry that for a little bit because I my brain exploded
when I heard that because not every person is meant for every season of your life that cutoff
season that I was just bringing up is cutoff season it's the top of the year it's getting real cold
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so you gotta act a little chilly you gotta act alike you the weather because you can't let these
people be your son especially when you're not even taking care of yourself and um committing
and uh concerning and also let's use the last if I'm just getting on top of it considering yourself
if I didn't say that already um you have to create self-respect you have to create separation
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with your past self and with who you are now last but not least this is the last chapter before I go
boredom is solitude boredom is solitude y'all where is your piece located where is your safe space
where can you be these said things that are the future versions of you now that also might have
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to have you create a space and that is a good thing because when you create a space especially
when you know you need to have one you can always resort to that space you can always go to that
space but you also have to know that um you can't abuse that safe space you can't just go to that
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safe space and just treat it as if it's just another thing for you you have to respect that
said space the same way the better version of you would you can't resort back to the said things of
your past because it will make it not the same place that you want to ascend to if that makes
sense especially if this place is a safe space for you that can make you be authentically who you are
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why does this past version of you that's negatively hindering you need to be there there are many
different versions of who you are and you're allowing the thing that is it going to be your future
be a part of the space that is think about that is that respectful is that respectful to who you
are and what you are going to be no now i want you to let go of all these things that are of course
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holding you back and you can go into that safe space and let go of those things but you can't go
into that intentionally thinking that is going to change you if you do these said past behaviors
that aren't better meant for you silence is the answer so silence can be forms of meditation
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silence can be forms of not talking silence can be forms of even going to um spaces of peace
just not talking um for me right now i'm really not wanting to talk to people i always of course
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reach out to my friends but especially when i'm annoyed i rather try to revert my silence i rather
revert to silence because i have to question what's going on inside of me now do not get that twisted
with the self-isolation because the difference between self-isolation is that i am completely
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removing myself and not being available for people when i'm in a moment of silence i choose when i'm
silent i choose when i have to do this i choose when i have to be able to revert myself because i
know that this makes me better because i have to process differently i'm a person that has to process
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and take a couple days because i know that if i simply just respond straight to your face i'm
going to hurt your feelings especially if we're in a moment where we have to go to for tat and i
don't want to do that so i have to revert back to my space and really in going to moments of
realization because my mo my moments of silence create connection and understanding for myself
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and also the whole entire relationship with everything now for you silence can be
different types of form of creating the safe space so you can just use both or the safe space option
or the silent option you are not an ongoing project you are not a self-improvement project you are a
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person and i wanted to use this moment as a moment of closing because of the fact or the last moment
let me rephrase i wanted to use this as the last part of my chapter on chapter five in the last
segment because after everything that i have just said i have given you front to back examples of what
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is seen as a self-improvement project when in reality you are a person listening to me in your
room in your car walking or even doing even moments of cleaning and i hope you're cleaning be clean
but i want to make it clear that you are a person with feelings you are a person that has layers
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like onions like shrek um you are a person with a past you are a person with traumas you are a
person that has these things the future version of you has these things as well but the different
difference between who you are today and who you are tomorrow and who you will be in the future is
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that your future version of you doesn't carry those things as a need or as a moment or as a way of
survival you have to remove yourself from the survival mentality and going into a space where
you are creating with these special things that are of you the traumas of who you are are seeds
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now trauma is a very sensitive subject because different people have different complex traumas
and not everyone can transmute all of these things in one day it takes years it takes decades for
people it takes even bigger than even centuries for people especially societies for people to
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understand where they are especially with trauma with your trauma you are not the trauma you experienced
trauma you are not the identity of your trauma because you experienced it you are not your trauma
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you are a person that has surpassed and survived your trauma you are a survivor
and i want to say that i am so proud of you um
last but not least i do want to say that with everything of what you are
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you have to take it in day by day but you have to make it as honest as possible to yourself
to know where you are and also the things that you have to let go you have to cut things off
you have to consider yourself you have to understand that where you are right now is in the moment of
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permanence you have to do it on your own and you have to let go especially when it makes you a better
person but when you let go you have to know that that silent room and that boredom is going to be
the thing that's going to change you that's going to be the thing that creates new answers for you
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it helps you understand more about yourself excuse me more about yourself because who you are
more about yourself because who you are is the complex person that i was just describing
but that thing makes you special because you are the difference you are the change in your life
and if you know that you are the difference you should respect yourself enough to know that your
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future version of you is using that as a superpower and is using that as the form of love and how they
give love to others and how they become a better person is using those said things that people
usually create shame with as a form of liberation and you are loved so now that you know that you
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are loved you can't look at your life the same anymore especially when your future version of you
is using all the things that you say that you hate about yourself as moments of love to others
i want to thank everybody for listening to my podcast please go follow me on my social medias
it's going to be Solana files everywhere underscore think of me and think of yourself today think of
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your next week and how you're going to be better for yourself think of how you're going to look out
for others but make it clear that you are in your own lane and that people cannot shift you
remind yourself and make it an affirmation to yourself that i cannot be shifted by other
people's actions um but again y'all i love y'all thank you so much for listening to my podcast if
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you are listening please give my podcast a five star rating i love you i love you i love you and
thank you again for joining the behavioral blueprint
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