June 6, 2024 • 17 mins
- Ever wondered how maintaining a positive attitude can shape your daily life and relationships? Join us on this engaging episode of the Big Dog Podcast as my son Logan and I share personal stories and valuable insights on self-reliance, confidence, and handling life's challenges. From Logan's exciting developments in photography to our recent upgrade to a new podcast recording platform, we catch up on some significant events and reflect on the importance of self-awareness and growth. Plus, hear all about my expanding tattoo collection and the surprising return of Logan's sister, Jenna.
In this episode, we delve into how our attitudes influence our experiences and the power of focusing on current progress. We'll explore the concept of viewing setbacks as opportunities for growth and the critical role of self-talk and supportive social circles. By sharing candid personal struggles and triumphs, we highlight the importance of controlling our responses to external factors and appreciating the present moment. Whether you're facing external negativity or striving for personal improvement, our conversation offers practical advice and encouragement to help you navigate life's ups and downs with resilience and a positive mindset. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to inspire and motivate!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Because the loudest voice you hear and I've said
this on the show before theloudest voice you hear is your
own voice.
And when the world is shittingon you and your friends are
shitting on you and yourfamily's shitting on you and
everybody's coming at you, theonly person to keep you up out
of the bullshit is you.
You, what's up?
(00:35):
Everybody?
Welcome back to the big dogpodcast.
I'm josh wilson.
I'm in here with my main dude,logan, my son.
What's up, son?
What up?
Miss?
You haven't seen you in a bityeah, like a week.
I think I know, and then it'sgonna be another week, it'll be
two weeks you get back monday ormonday afternoon.
Cool, I'll be back.
So how's?
(00:56):
How do I sound?
Do I sound all right?
Yeah, we got our new makeshiftstudio set up and trying to make
sure everything sounds okay forthe people.
Yeah, good, all right.
What have you been up to since?
Sure, everything sounds okayfor the people?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Yeah, good, all right .
What have you been up to since?
I've been gone Practicing thepictures and just trying to get
better or learn more of theRiverside stuff, so the podcast
can look a little better QualityNice.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Nice, everybody.
We are using a new format forcapturing, particularly our
remote podcasts, where eitherour guests aren't in studio or
if I'm traveling, and we weren'thappy with the quality of how
things were coming through thelast couple months, and so we've
changed vendors that we'reusing and really excited about
this new product and opportunityand how it's going to present
(01:38):
to you, and so we're excited tosee how it goes.
So hopefully you're noticingsome changes, guys, as you're
watching the show.
If you're listening, you won'treally notice much of a
difference at all, but if you'rea fan of watching or you follow
us on social media, hopefullyyou'll be seeing changes and
those changes you believe are abig improvement.
I know that I'm hoping to see abig improvement.
(01:58):
So nice.
So working on photography,meeting up with the teams,
figuring out Riverside that'spretty cool, learning a lot of
new stuff Yep, nice.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I like your shirt.
Thanks Me too.
This guy, when I walked intoday, asked if I was a Longhorn
fan.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Nah, son, we're a Team JW fan.
Got that done while I'm outhere.
Yeah, it looks sick.
It's pretty good.
I'll tell you.
The inside of the arm, littlespicy, yeah, it seems like a
more sensitive area.
Getting some work done backhere today, nice, so excited
about it.
I don't want to say I'maddicted, but I would say in 45
(02:32):
years I had zero tattoos andsince january I have two, three,
four, five.
This will be the sixth oneafter today and it's not like
yeah, you know, one a month.
They're averaging a little like1.2 a month.
And the thing that's funny islet's talk to somebody like oh,
(02:53):
I've got like 15 tattoos andthey started showing them to me
and they're all like these ittybitty, like little things, right
?
I don't know how many tattoosdoes that count as right?
Like Is each one of those dotsa tattoo?
Is each one of those letters atattoo?
What I don't know.
I like it, though I get lots ofcompliments on it.
So what else has been going on?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Not much.
Jenna got home today or lastnight.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Oh boy, yeah, she scared Mom this morning.
Mom had just let the dogs infrom feeding them and was giving
them water and like 30 secondslater the garage door opened and
it was jenna.
Scared the crap out of her, butshe was going to work out at
the gym.
So it's good stuff.
You excited.
Yeah, y'all made it first yeardown.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's pretty dope, you look thrilled.
Yeah, she's doing summer school.
Uh, thomas nelson, I believe.
Nice, all right boy, you lookso stressed out.
Nope, good, you just checking.
Yeah, she's doing summer schoolat Thomas.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Nelson, I believe Nice, all right Boy, you look so
stressed out.
Nope, good you.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Just checking all the buttons I got to look down here
, but the camera's up here, soI'm like looking down the whole
time.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
You're working All right.
Well, let me jump in and talk alittle bit.
Guys, I want to talk today andthis is something I struggle
with.
I think I'm getting better withit, but I struggle with it, and
I think everybody does fromtime to time.
But our attitudes are so, soimportant and our attitudes play
so much into how not just howour days go, but how our
(04:18):
relationships go, how our livesgo.
My son would tell you.
Anybody who knows me would tellyou.
I'm not known for always havingthe best attitude.
I can be very aggressive, I canbe short-tempered.
I look angry 99% of the time,even though I'm really not angry
most of the time.
Right, logan, I'm not genuinelyan angry person, I just have.
(04:42):
They call it resting bitch face, rbf, which I think is super
rude to women, because I'veprobably got the worst case of
RBF, like they call it, ras, rafresting asshole faces.
I guess if you're a dude, Idon't know.
Either way, it's not nice, butI got it and I could be having
the best day in the world.
I'm sitting there like thisyou're so stressed
(05:08):
people like dude, what's wrong?
Like nothing.
I just want a million dollars.
You know, that's just how Ilook and and it is what it is.
I'm always thinking aboutsomething and focused on
something.
And you know, the thing is,while I don't I'm not known for
always being bubbly and happy.
That's interesting.
I wonder if it's going to be.
And, guys, this is the firsttime using this software, so I'm
(05:31):
just going to talk through itas we're doing it.
I keep it real on here, soit'll be interesting to see
Logan, if the blur it just didis actually on the final.
That was weird.
I don't know what that wasabout.
Yeah, so anyway, we're going tofind out.
(05:52):
So anyway, you know, while Ilook frustrated or angry or
pissed, like, genuinely I am ahappy person, I am not a
peaceful person Like I'm.
I don't know.
And what I mean by not being apeaceful person is it is rare
that I feel at peace.
You know, it's one day I hopeto.
I hope to create an environmentand a life where I feel peace.
When I'm with my wife, I feelpeace when I'm with my kids.
Most of the time, particularlyas they're older, I feel a sense
(06:14):
of peace, but it's alwaysmomentary.
As soon as they're away from me, there isn't peace, and I think
that's me.
I don't necessarily think it'senvironmental, I just don't.
I'm not a peaceful person.
There's always something up,always something going on.
Now, not being a peacefulperson doesn't mean I'm a
violent person, doesn't meanlike I'm about chaos.
(06:35):
I just I always feel there'ssomething to be done, there's
something to be improved,there's something that needs to
be worked on, and so rarely do Ifind myself at peace.
While I don't always have thebest attitude or I can appear to
be aggressive, I am always veryconfident, I am always very
optimistic, and what I mean bythat is challenges don't scare
(06:58):
me, challenges don't wreck me.
Challenges do not hold me down.
Challenges do not cause me toquit.
Challenges do not cause me tomake decisions out of fear.
Problems and challenges do notnecessarily make me change my
plans or my vision or my mission.
(07:19):
I see problems and challengesand events that may not be what
I had hoped as opportunities tolearn and to grow and maybe
improve processes that I'mcurrently going through.
Maybe how I envisionedsomething happening isn't
happening exactly how Ienvisioned it, and as
circumstances arise, it's likeoh, it wasn't exactly how I
(07:40):
envisioned it.
A lot of times, people willjust quit and they will stop
working towards that dream,working towards that goal,
working on that relationship,because it's not going exactly
how they had hoped or envisionedit would go, whereas me I'm
just like, okay, address theproblem, figure it out.
How do we continue to moveforward towards that, whatever?
And man, every day I feel likeI'm talking to people that just
(08:03):
generally have a shit attitudeand they're going through stuff
and it's tough, and I understandgoing through things.
I go through shit all the time.
Everybody does.
No one's alone in that.
No one's isolated.
Like trouble doesn't just focuson one person.
Everybody I know has troubles.
Everybody I know has shit thatthey struggle with.
It's not unique to you.
(08:24):
The world isn't just shittingon you, but, man, it sure is
about your attitude and how yourespond to it and how you deal
with it.
Though, and more people get sohung up on woe is me, or this
and that and the fucking economyand politics and blah, blah,
blah bullshit, rather thanfocusing on what they can
actually control and do.
And they don't credit enough,they do not give enough credit
(08:47):
to what saying shit like thatdoes to their reality.
They're taking shit that arehypotheticals and they're
fucking up their reality becausethey are so focused on negative
bullshit, like everybody who'ssuffering and struggling because
of the economy or because ofthe current political climate or
because you know, you know theythey ate bad chicken because,
(09:10):
like everybody was complainingover whatever thing is happening
to them, that shit is happeningto everybody and you've got
winners and losers all thesethings.
Winners are having to deal witheconomic bullshit also.
Winners and successful peopleare having to deal with the same
political climate as losers.
Stop talking to yourself likeyou're a loser.
(09:30):
Stop convincing yourself thatyou deserve to lose.
We got to stop doing that,because the loudest voice you
hear and I've said this on theshow before the loudest voice
you hear is your own voice.
And when the world is shittingon you and your friends are
shitting on you and yourfamily's shitting on you and
everybody's coming at you, theonly person to keep you up out
(09:52):
of the bullshit is you you.
It's not how other peopleperceive your attitude, it's how
you receive your attitude.
How do you talk to yourself?
What are you filling your mindwith?
And if it's always chaos andalways a struggle and always a
problem, how's that?
How's that Taylor Swift song go, logan, I don't shake it off,
(10:13):
no, but hey, that would be agood one too, though I don't
know.
What's the one that I'm theproblem, it's me?
I don't really listen to that.
It's me.
I'm the problem, it's me.
That's how one of them thingsgoes, something like that it's
more your thing?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
It is.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I got Tay-Tay playing 24-7.
Yeah Well, you know, assholehusband, it's not your cheating
(10:49):
wife, it's not like the personthat you choose to keep going
back to, who is uber negative inyour, in your relationship and
is toxic for you, and you keepgoing back over and over and
over again.
None of these people are theproblem.
You're the problem.
You're the problem.
Your husband of all these yearsis a total asshole and he
(11:10):
speaks to you poorly, mistreatsyou never, honors you, never
loves you, never is caring.
It's just always just being anasshole.
And I'm not saying physically,it's just not a joy to be around
and just sucks, like okay, hesucks, you don't got to be with
(11:32):
him.
You know your wife total painin the ass, no matter what you
do, nothing's right.
Just wearing you out constantly, never supportive of you, never
encouraging what you do,nothing's right, just wearing
you out constantly, neversupportive of you, never
encouraging of you, neverbelieving in you.
Yeah, it's terrible.
I wouldn't want to deal withthat.
My biggest hype man is my wifeand I need that.
I need that support.
I need that encouragement.
I can't be me without it.
(11:54):
I need my kids to acknowledgethat I'm an okay dad every once
in a while.
Right, I tell my things, that Itell myself I am, but every
once in a while, like Logan'sgreat about that.
Logan's always encouraging, youknow, and Kiki she can be, but
Kiki's kind of wired, a littlemore like me, so she's not
always the most encouraging, butwhen she is, it's really,
(12:16):
really great.
But my wife she's so supportiveand she's so encouraging and
she's so motivated and I'm somotivated by her, even if she
didn't say anything.
I'm still motivated by her andby my kids because of the life I
want to provide for them,things I want to be able to do
with them and experience withthem and for them.
That wakes me up every day,motivated to go.
(12:38):
Guess what.
I'm still dealing with the samepolitical bullshit.
I'm still dealing with the sameeconomy.
I'm still dealing with the sameemployee issues.
I'm still dealing with the samedramatic ass people on social
media.
I'm still dealing with all thattoo.
No one's insulated from it.
How do you deal with it?
What are you listening to themost?
Change your group up.
Change the amount of people.
(12:58):
Who's influencing you.
If you're hanging around with 5,6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 12, 20, 30, 40,
50, 100 terrible shit attitudepeople who are nonstop bitching
and complaining about stuff.
Guess what?
You're going to be the next one.
If you're not already, you'regoing to be the next one.
To the flip of that, though, ifyou associate yourself with
people with great attitudes,people who are focused on
(13:18):
improving themselves, people whoare focused on winning, guess
what you'll become.
The same way, if you're brokeright now and you don't want to
be broke, figure out a way tostop hanging out with broke
people, because if you getaround enough people who aren't
broke, the odds are soon enoughyou won't be broke either.
So don't bitch about beingbroke and all you do is hang out
with people who talk aboutbeing broke.
Stop taking money advice frompeople who are broke.
(13:41):
Stop taking relationship advicefrom people leaving their sixth
marriage.
What are we doing?
You control all this stuff.
You control it, winning orlosing.
People are all dealing with thesame shit Big shit, those big
overarching problems.
Everybody's got the same ones,and then everybody's got their
own individual shit that they'redealing with.
What's your attitude towards it?
(14:02):
How are you responding towardsit?
Because if your attitude sucks,if your attitude's terrible, I
can assure you yourconversations are terrible.
You're out there trying tobuild your business.
My salespeople I'm talking tonow.
You're not selling shit with abad attitude like that.
This is a market that is 100%built on relationship selling,
relationship selling.
They got to feel like they knowyou.
(14:22):
They got to feel like they cantrust you and they need to like
you.
If you got a shit attitude andit's coming out of your
personality, you're not makingno sales.
I tell my sales team all thetime man, whatever's going on in
life, you got to check it atthe door, because if you bring
it in here, you can'tcommunicate effectively with
these prospects.
You're not going to be tuned into hear their needs so that you
can actually offer a genuinesolution to them.
(14:45):
So how are you responding?
How are you dealing with thesethings?
You have to discipline yourselfto separate.
You got to discipline yourselfto build up such a confidence
and a lack of tolerance for theBS that it doesn't even impact
you anymore, because you don'tallow it to have a presence in
your day-to-day life, becauseit's all there.
And today we're either going tohear bullshit or we're going to
(15:05):
hear good things.
Know what happens today.
When I hear bullshit, turningit off, I'm moving on, I'm
scrolling by it, I'm deletingthe email, I'm sending it to
somebody else to deal with,because it's not my bullshit to
deal with Other people's drama,theatrics and bullshit.
It's not yours either.
Stop chasing it online andfollowing it on social media.
Oh my gosh, do you see this?
Oh my gosh, do you see that?
(15:25):
What does it serve?
What does it serve?
Some shit's funny and nowthere's an entertainment value.
I'm okay with that.
But if over 5% of yourconversations are oh, did you
see this?
You hear that?
Did you stop it?
Stop it.
Really, it shouldn't be any ofyour your life about that crap,
but you got to stop because it'snot serving you well?
Is your attitude serving youwell?
(15:46):
Is the energy you put out toothers serving you well?
If all you ever focus on isdoom and gloom, I can promise
you it's not.
Shit's gonna be thereregardless.
Why not tighten up?
Focus on your own stuff.
Why not tighten up a little bitof Tighten up?
Figure out how to improveyourself to where you can get
beyond the bullshit.
There's your title Logan.
Beyond the bullshit BTV.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Like it, well done, put it on a t-shirt.
Put it on a t-shirt.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
So figure that out.
If you're listening to this, Iget it.
Shit happens doesn't mean ithas to be a bad time.
Doesn't mean it has to be a badtime if you're not where you
want to be.
Every once in a while you dogot to look back and see how far
you've come.
Well, I can't get to where Iwant to be because of this.
Okay, how about just take asecond look back to be like damn
, I'm glad I'm not in that spotanymore.
Damn, I'm so much closer towhere I'm trying to get than
where I was one, two, three,four, five years ago.
(16:32):
Look at what we've done.
Look how far we've gotten.
We're getting there.
We're doing the work.
It's not I'll never get where Iwant to be Dumbass.
You don't deserve to be thereyet.
There's work to do.
You deserve to be exactly whereyou are.
It's a product of your efforts,your attitude, your
relationships and your focus andyour discipline.
You're just in the process.
Stop worrying about whereyou're at or where you're not at
(16:53):
.
Be excited about where you areand know it's just another step.
When you look back next yearand you look back two years from
now, you'll be looking back andyou'll see this spot and you're
like that was a time, yeah.
Or two years from now, you'regoing to look back and you're
going to look down and you're inthe same exact spot and that's
a hundred percent up to you.
That's got jack shit to do witheconomy, political climate or
other people.
We control and chooseeverything as far as our
(17:14):
response goes and our efforts.
So focus on yours, startingright now.
Focus on yours.
Appreciate y'all listening.
Hopefully this is a coolexperience on video for the
folks watching and we're goingto catch you next time.
Because the loudest voice you hear and I've said
this on the show before theloudest voice you hear is your
own voice.
And when the world is shittingon you and your friends are
shitting on you and yourfamily's shitting on you and
everybody's coming at you, theonly person to keep you up out
of the bullshit is you.
You, what's up?
(00:35):
Everybody?
Welcome back to the big dogpodcast.
I'm josh wilson.
I'm in here with my main dude,logan, my son.
What's up, son?
What up?
Miss?
You haven't seen you in a bityeah, like a week.
I think I know, and then it'sgonna be another week, it'll be
two weeks you get back monday ormonday afternoon.
Cool, I'll be back.
So how's?
(00:56):
How do I sound?
Do I sound all right?
Yeah, we got our new makeshiftstudio set up and trying to make
sure everything sounds okay forthe people.
Yeah, good, all right.
What have you been up to since?
Sure, everything sounds okayfor the people?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Yeah, good, all right .
What have you been up to since?
I've been gone Practicing thepictures and just trying to get
better or learn more of theRiverside stuff, so the podcast
can look a little better QualityNice.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Nice, everybody.
We are using a new format forcapturing, particularly our
remote podcasts, where eitherour guests aren't in studio or
if I'm traveling, and we weren'thappy with the quality of how
things were coming through thelast couple months, and so we've
changed vendors that we'reusing and really excited about
this new product and opportunityand how it's going to present
(01:38):
to you, and so we're excited tosee how it goes.
So hopefully you're noticingsome changes, guys, as you're
watching the show.
If you're listening, you won'treally notice much of a
difference at all, but if you'rea fan of watching or you follow
us on social media, hopefullyyou'll be seeing changes and
those changes you believe are abig improvement.
I know that I'm hoping to see abig improvement.
(01:58):
So nice.
So working on photography,meeting up with the teams,
figuring out Riverside that'spretty cool, learning a lot of
new stuff Yep, nice.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I like your shirt.
Thanks Me too.
This guy, when I walked intoday, asked if I was a Longhorn
fan.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Nah, son, we're a Team JW fan.
Got that done while I'm outhere.
Yeah, it looks sick.
It's pretty good.
I'll tell you.
The inside of the arm, littlespicy, yeah, it seems like a
more sensitive area.
Getting some work done backhere today, nice, so excited
about it.
I don't want to say I'maddicted, but I would say in 45
(02:32):
years I had zero tattoos andsince january I have two, three,
four, five.
This will be the sixth oneafter today and it's not like
yeah, you know, one a month.
They're averaging a little like1.2 a month.
And the thing that's funny islet's talk to somebody like oh,
(02:53):
I've got like 15 tattoos andthey started showing them to me
and they're all like these ittybitty, like little things, right
?
I don't know how many tattoosdoes that count as right?
Like Is each one of those dotsa tattoo?
Is each one of those letters atattoo?
What I don't know.
I like it, though I get lots ofcompliments on it.
So what else has been going on?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Not much.
Jenna got home today or lastnight.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Oh boy, yeah, she scared Mom this morning.
Mom had just let the dogs infrom feeding them and was giving
them water and like 30 secondslater the garage door opened and
it was jenna.
Scared the crap out of her, butshe was going to work out at
the gym.
So it's good stuff.
You excited.
Yeah, y'all made it first yeardown.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
It's pretty dope, you look thrilled.
Yeah, she's doing summer school.
Uh, thomas nelson, I believe.
Nice, all right boy, you lookso stressed out.
Nope, good, you just checking.
Yeah, she's doing summer schoolat Thomas.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Nelson, I believe Nice, all right Boy, you look so
stressed out.
Nope, good you.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Just checking all the buttons I got to look down here
, but the camera's up here, soI'm like looking down the whole
time.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
You're working All right.
Well, let me jump in and talk alittle bit.
Guys, I want to talk today andthis is something I struggle
with.
I think I'm getting better withit, but I struggle with it, and
I think everybody does fromtime to time.
But our attitudes are so, soimportant and our attitudes play
so much into how not just howour days go, but how our
(04:18):
relationships go, how our livesgo.
My son would tell you.
Anybody who knows me would tellyou.
I'm not known for always havingthe best attitude.
I can be very aggressive, I canbe short-tempered.
I look angry 99% of the time,even though I'm really not angry
most of the time.
Right, logan, I'm not genuinelyan angry person, I just have.
(04:42):
They call it resting bitch face, rbf, which I think is super
rude to women, because I'veprobably got the worst case of
RBF, like they call it, ras, rafresting asshole faces.
I guess if you're a dude, Idon't know.
Either way, it's not nice, butI got it and I could be having
the best day in the world.
I'm sitting there like thisyou're so stressed
(05:08):
people like dude, what's wrong?
Like nothing.
I just want a million dollars.
You know, that's just how Ilook and and it is what it is.
I'm always thinking aboutsomething and focused on
something.
And you know, the thing is,while I don't I'm not known for
always being bubbly and happy.
That's interesting.
I wonder if it's going to be.
And, guys, this is the firsttime using this software, so I'm
(05:31):
just going to talk through itas we're doing it.
I keep it real on here, soit'll be interesting to see
Logan, if the blur it just didis actually on the final.
That was weird.
I don't know what that wasabout.
Yeah, so anyway, we're going tofind out.
(05:52):
So anyway, you know, while Ilook frustrated or angry or
pissed, like, genuinely I am ahappy person, I am not a
peaceful person Like I'm.
I don't know.
And what I mean by not being apeaceful person is it is rare
that I feel at peace.
You know, it's one day I hopeto.
I hope to create an environmentand a life where I feel peace.
When I'm with my wife, I feelpeace when I'm with my kids.
Most of the time, particularlyas they're older, I feel a sense
(06:14):
of peace, but it's alwaysmomentary.
As soon as they're away from me, there isn't peace, and I think
that's me.
I don't necessarily think it'senvironmental, I just don't.
I'm not a peaceful person.
There's always something up,always something going on.
Now, not being a peacefulperson doesn't mean I'm a
violent person, doesn't meanlike I'm about chaos.
(06:35):
I just I always feel there'ssomething to be done, there's
something to be improved,there's something that needs to
be worked on, and so rarely do Ifind myself at peace.
While I don't always have thebest attitude or I can appear to
be aggressive, I am always veryconfident, I am always very
optimistic, and what I mean bythat is challenges don't scare
(06:58):
me, challenges don't wreck me.
Challenges do not hold me down.
Challenges do not cause me toquit.
Challenges do not cause me tomake decisions out of fear.
Problems and challenges do notnecessarily make me change my
plans or my vision or my mission.
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I see problems and challengesand events that may not be what
I had hoped as opportunities tolearn and to grow and maybe
improve processes that I'mcurrently going through.
Maybe how I envisionedsomething happening isn't
happening exactly how Ienvisioned it, and as
circumstances arise, it's likeoh, it wasn't exactly how I
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envisioned it.
A lot of times, people willjust quit and they will stop
working towards that dream,working towards that goal,
working on that relationship,because it's not going exactly
how they had hoped or envisionedit would go, whereas me I'm
just like, okay, address theproblem, figure it out.
How do we continue to moveforward towards that, whatever?
And man, every day I feel likeI'm talking to people that just
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generally have a shit attitudeand they're going through stuff
and it's tough, and I understandgoing through things.
I go through shit all the time.
Everybody does.
No one's alone in that.
No one's isolated.
Like trouble doesn't just focuson one person.
Everybody I know has troubles.
Everybody I know has shit thatthey struggle with.
It's not unique to you.
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The world isn't just shittingon you, but, man, it sure is
about your attitude and how yourespond to it and how you deal
with it.
Though, and more people get sohung up on woe is me, or this
and that and the fucking economyand politics and blah, blah,
blah bullshit, rather thanfocusing on what they can
actually control and do.
And they don't credit enough,they do not give enough credit
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to what saying shit like thatdoes to their reality.
They're taking shit that arehypotheticals and they're
fucking up their reality becausethey are so focused on negative
bullshit, like everybody who'ssuffering and struggling because
of the economy or because ofthe current political climate or
because you know, you know theythey ate bad chicken because,
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like everybody was complainingover whatever thing is happening
to them, that shit is happeningto everybody and you've got
winners and losers all thesethings.
Winners are having to deal witheconomic bullshit also.
Winners and successful peopleare having to deal with the same
political climate as losers.
Stop talking to yourself likeyou're a loser.
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Stop convincing yourself thatyou deserve to lose.
We got to stop doing that,because the loudest voice you
hear and I've said this on theshow before the loudest voice
you hear is your own voice.
And when the world is shittingon you and your friends are
shitting on you and yourfamily's shitting on you and
everybody's coming at you, theonly person to keep you up out
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of the bullshit is you you.
It's not how other peopleperceive your attitude, it's how
you receive your attitude.
How do you talk to yourself?
What are you filling your mindwith?
And if it's always chaos andalways a struggle and always a
problem, how's that?
How's that Taylor Swift song go, logan, I don't shake it off,
(10:13):
no, but hey, that would be agood one too, though I don't
know.
What's the one that I'm theproblem, it's me?
I don't really listen to that.
It's me.
I'm the problem, it's me.
That's how one of them thingsgoes, something like that it's
more your thing?
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
It is.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I got Tay-Tay playing 24-7.
Yeah Well, you know, assholehusband, it's not your cheating
(10:49):
wife, it's not like the personthat you choose to keep going
back to, who is uber negative inyour, in your relationship and
is toxic for you, and you keepgoing back over and over and
over again.
None of these people are theproblem.
You're the problem.
You're the problem.
Your husband of all these yearsis a total asshole and he
(11:10):
speaks to you poorly, mistreatsyou never, honors you, never
loves you, never is caring.
It's just always just being anasshole.
And I'm not saying physically,it's just not a joy to be around
and just sucks, like okay, hesucks, you don't got to be with
(11:32):
him.
You know your wife total painin the ass, no matter what you
do, nothing's right.
Just wearing you out constantly, never supportive of you, never
encouraging what you do,nothing's right, just wearing
you out constantly, neversupportive of you, never
encouraging of you, neverbelieving in you.
Yeah, it's terrible.
I wouldn't want to deal withthat.
My biggest hype man is my wifeand I need that.
I need that support.
I need that encouragement.
I can't be me without it.
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I need my kids to acknowledgethat I'm an okay dad every once
in a while.
Right, I tell my things, that Itell myself I am, but every
once in a while, like Logan'sgreat about that.
Logan's always encouraging, youknow, and Kiki she can be, but
Kiki's kind of wired, a littlemore like me, so she's not
always the most encouraging, butwhen she is, it's really,
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really great.
But my wife she's so supportiveand she's so encouraging and
she's so motivated and I'm somotivated by her, even if she
didn't say anything.
I'm still motivated by her andby my kids because of the life I
want to provide for them,things I want to be able to do
with them and experience withthem and for them.
That wakes me up every day,motivated to go.
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Guess what.
I'm still dealing with the samepolitical bullshit.
I'm still dealing with the sameeconomy.
I'm still dealing with the sameemployee issues.
I'm still dealing with the samedramatic ass people on social
media.
I'm still dealing with all thattoo.
No one's insulated from it.
How do you deal with it?
What are you listening to themost?
Change your group up.
Change the amount of people.
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Who's influencing you.
If you're hanging around with 5,6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 12, 20, 30, 40,
50, 100 terrible shit attitudepeople who are nonstop bitching
and complaining about stuff.
Guess what?
You're going to be the next one.
If you're not already, you'regoing to be the next one.
To the flip of that, though, ifyou associate yourself with
people with great attitudes,people who are focused on
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improving themselves, people whoare focused on winning, guess
what you'll become.
The same way, if you're brokeright now and you don't want to
be broke, figure out a way tostop hanging out with broke
people, because if you getaround enough people who aren't
broke, the odds are soon enoughyou won't be broke either.
So don't bitch about beingbroke and all you do is hang out
with people who talk aboutbeing broke.
Stop taking money advice frompeople who are broke.
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Stop taking relationship advicefrom people leaving their sixth
marriage.
What are we doing?
You control all this stuff.
You control it, winning orlosing.
People are all dealing with thesame shit Big shit, those big
overarching problems.
Everybody's got the same ones,and then everybody's got their
own individual shit that they'redealing with.
What's your attitude towards it?
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How are you responding towardsit?
Because if your attitude sucks,if your attitude's terrible, I
can assure you yourconversations are terrible.
You're out there trying tobuild your business.
My salespeople I'm talking tonow.
You're not selling shit with abad attitude like that.
This is a market that is 100%built on relationship selling,
relationship selling.
They got to feel like they knowyou.
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They got to feel like they cantrust you and they need to like
you.
If you got a shit attitude andit's coming out of your
personality, you're not makingno sales.
I tell my sales team all thetime man, whatever's going on in
life, you got to check it atthe door, because if you bring
it in here, you can'tcommunicate effectively with
these prospects.
You're not going to be tuned into hear their needs so that you
can actually offer a genuinesolution to them.
(14:45):
So how are you responding?
How are you dealing with thesethings?
You have to discipline yourselfto separate.
You got to discipline yourselfto build up such a confidence
and a lack of tolerance for theBS that it doesn't even impact
you anymore, because you don'tallow it to have a presence in
your day-to-day life, becauseit's all there.
And today we're either going tohear bullshit or we're going to
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hear good things.
Know what happens today.
When I hear bullshit, turningit off, I'm moving on, I'm
scrolling by it, I'm deletingthe email, I'm sending it to
somebody else to deal with,because it's not my bullshit to
deal with Other people's drama,theatrics and bullshit.
It's not yours either.
Stop chasing it online andfollowing it on social media.
Oh my gosh, do you see this?
Oh my gosh, do you see that?
(15:25):
What does it serve?
What does it serve?
Some shit's funny and nowthere's an entertainment value.
I'm okay with that.
But if over 5% of yourconversations are oh, did you
see this?
You hear that?
Did you stop it?
Stop it.
Really, it shouldn't be any ofyour your life about that crap,
but you got to stop because it'snot serving you well?
Is your attitude serving youwell?
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Is the energy you put out toothers serving you well?
If all you ever focus on isdoom and gloom, I can promise
you it's not.
Shit's gonna be thereregardless.
Why not tighten up?
Focus on your own stuff.
Why not tighten up a little bitof Tighten up?
Figure out how to improveyourself to where you can get
beyond the bullshit.
There's your title Logan.
Beyond the bullshit BTV.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Like it, well done, put it on a t-shirt.
Put it on a t-shirt.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
So figure that out.
If you're listening to this, Iget it.
Shit happens doesn't mean ithas to be a bad time.
Doesn't mean it has to be a badtime if you're not where you
want to be.
Every once in a while you dogot to look back and see how far
you've come.
Well, I can't get to where Iwant to be because of this.
Okay, how about just take asecond look back to be like damn
, I'm glad I'm not in that spotanymore.
Damn, I'm so much closer towhere I'm trying to get than
where I was one, two, three,four, five years ago.
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Look at what we've done.
Look how far we've gotten.
We're getting there.
We're doing the work.
It's not I'll never get where Iwant to be Dumbass.
You don't deserve to be thereyet.
There's work to do.
You deserve to be exactly whereyou are.
It's a product of your efforts,your attitude, your
relationships and your focus andyour discipline.
You're just in the process.
Stop worrying about whereyou're at or where you're not at
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.
Be excited about where you areand know it's just another step.
When you look back next yearand you look back two years from
now, you'll be looking back andyou'll see this spot and you're
like that was a time, yeah.
Or two years from now, you'regoing to look back and you're
going to look down and you're inthe same exact spot and that's
a hundred percent up to you.
That's got jack shit to do witheconomy, political climate or
other people.
We control and chooseeverything as far as our
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response goes and our efforts.
So focus on yours, startingright now.
Focus on yours.
Appreciate y'all listening.
Hopefully this is a coolexperience on video for the
folks watching and we're goingto catch you next time.
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