Turning 40 and Finding Purpose in Poetry After Loss

Gabby Gilliam shares her experience of navigating through multiple losses, career transitions, moves, and personal growth from her early 30s to her early 40s. She talks about her late start in becoming a parent, the numerous moves her family made, and the struggles she encountered in finding a job after relocating. Gabby delves into the profound impact of her father's rapid decline and passing, followed by the subsequent losses of other close family members within a short span. Despite these challenges, Gabby finds solace in her writing, support from her sisters, and the drive to show her son resilience. She also discusses the perspective shifts that these experiences brought into her life, emphasizing the importance of focusing on joy over adhering to societal 'shoulds.'

Guest Bio 

Gabby Gilliam is a writer, a teacher, and a mom. She lives in the DC metro area with her husband and son. She is a founding member of the Old Scratch Short Form Collective. Her first chapbook, No Ocean Spit Me Out, was released in June 2024 from Old Scratch Press. Her novella duology, Drumming for the Dead: Trouble in Tomsk and Drumming for the Dead: Chasing a Cure were released from Black Hare Press. Her poetry and fiction has appeared online and in multiple anthologies.

Turning 40 and Finding Purpose in Poetry After Loss

Gabby Gilliam talks about how she navigated a whirlwind of grief, including the loss of her father and several other loved ones in a short time, and rediscovering her identity through writing and teaching. Gabby’s story reminds us of the strength we can find amidst profound challenges. She opens up about her 40s arriving with unexpected hardships but also with clarity and purpose, reshaping how she approaches life, work, and joy.

Episode Highlights:

• Gabby's early 30s were shaped by frequent moves, career shifts, and adjusting to motherhood.
• The profound impact of losing her father and how it marked her 40th birthday.
• Coping with compounded losses in a short time, including family members and close friends.
• Writing as a lifeline: Gabby’s use of poetry and storytelling to process grief and find healing.
• How loss shifted Gabby’s perspective on rules, priorities, and the “shoulds” in life.
• Her commitment to focusing on joy and meaningful experiences over perfection.

In this candid conversation, Gabby reflects on the transformative period of her 30s and early 40s, shaped by loss, creativity, and resilience. Her story is a testament to the power of finding clarity through adversity, redefining personal priorities, and embracing joy amidst life's unpredictability. Gabby's journey is sure to inspire anyone navigating their own transitions and challenges.

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