Turning 40 and Googling 'why is my boyfriend so mean to me’

What happens when a Google search changes the course of your life? Sabrina Victoria shares how she broke free from a controlling, abusive relationship and rebuilt her life from scratch. From secret bank accounts and late-night hustle to the moment she realized she had a choice, Sabrina’s story is raw, powerful, and full of lessons about resilience and self-discovery. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a situation that seemed impossible to escape, this conversation will show you that there’s always a way forward, and that your voice and your power are waiting to be reclaimed.

Guest Bio 

Sabrina Victoria is a seasoned entrepreneur and TEDx speaker with a background in door-to-door sales. She brings over two decades of experience of building and co-building multiple 6 and 7-figure businesses to Her Nation Global, a dynamic media platform showcasing women business owners through podcasts, virtual magazine features, and empowering events. Her charismatic leadership style centers on community building, education, and strategic networking as the core of success for women in business.

Turning 40 and Googling 'why is my boyfriend so mean to me’

Sabrina Victoria’s story is one of grit, resilience, and rebirth. Raised as a Jehovah’s Witness, she was disfellowshipped at just 20 years old after becoming a single mom. What followed was a tumble into isolation, addiction, and eventually an abusive relationship that nearly consumed her. But Sabrina’s midlife transformation began with one late-night Google search that opened her eyes, gave her a new language for what she was experiencing, and set her on a path to reclaim her life, her freedom, and ultimately, her voice. Today, she runs a community to empower women and she’s living proof that even in your darkest moment, hope and healing are possible.

Highlights in this episode:

• How Sabrina’s strict religious upbringing shaped her early years—and left her vulnerable when she was cast out
• The turning point when she chose sobriety and has stayed sober for the next 20 years
• The insidious ways financial, emotional, and psychological abuse can strip away autonomy
• The breakdown moment that led to the Google search that saved her life
• The secret businesses, hidden bank account, and quiet determination that became her ticket to freedom
• The role of personal development voices like Lisa Nichols, Tony Robbins, and Les Brown in keeping her motivated
• How Sabrina has navigated relationships in her 30s and 40s and found balance between masculine drive and feminine energy
• The liberating realization that she had a choice—and how that awareness changed everything

Sabrina’s journey from being silenced and controlled to finding her voice is inspiring. Her story reminds us that midlife transitions often come with both hardship and profound opportunity. She illustrates how resilience, resourcefulness, and a refusal to give up “until” can transform even the most difficult circumstances into a life filled with freedom, balance, and authenticity.

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