April 9, 2025 • 20 mins
When everything feels overwhelming—from global conflicts to personal struggles—how do we find clarity and peace? This raw mental check-in episode explores the powerful intersection between worldwide chaos and individual challenges that many of us are silently navigating.
Sharing my personal journey toward an 8.5/10 mental state, I reveal how removing social media apps from my phone transformed my ability to think clearly, connect meaningfully, and rediscover creative focus. This simple change created space for genuine growth during a time when global events and personal milestones collided in overwhelming ways.
The discipline of maintaining digital boundaries has rippled through every aspect of my life, from relationships to productivity. Instead of hoping things will improve—whether it's fertility challenges, family disagreements, or career uncertainty—I've learned to accept reality while taking concrete action on what I can control. The first step toward change is awareness; the second is acceptance.
For anyone feeling pulled in multiple directions or struggling to find mental clarity amid constant information, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on putting yourself first without guilt. Because true self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary for showing up fully in our increasingly complex world. Subscribe, share your own mental health journey, and let's continue this important conversation together.
Opening quote: Nathaniel Branden
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Speaker 1 (00:21):
Thank you, ladies and gentlemen, and anyone else who
(00:43):
is here.
You are listening to the Blackman Talking Emotions podcast.
My name is Don Lamour and I amgoing to be the only person on
this episode.
We're doing a mental check-inthis week and I hope you enjoy.
The first step towards changeis awareness.
(01:25):
The second step is acceptance.
All right, folks.
Uh, thank you so much forlistening to this week of the
pod and I hope y'all beenenjoying this season so far.
I feel like it's been really,really dope to talk to all these
people and have all of theseincredible conversations about
life and other things we'regoing through, how we're working
on ourselves and what we arefeeling.
Through this incredibly crazytime in history.
(01:46):
I feel like things went bonkersand then, of course, I've hit
some huge milestones in my lifethat I never thought I would hit
, and it's been very challengingto take on the stress of living
throughout all of this chaos,the stress of living throughout
(02:07):
all of this chaos but then alsohaving my own problems and
struggles in my own personallife.
So if anybody is hearing thisand feels like it's overwhelming
what's going on, it is not justyou.
All of us are going through alot right now and it's been
nonstop, and I feel like it'salmost crazy to say but like we
lived through a lot right nowand it's been non-stop and it I
feel like it's almost crazy tosay, but like we lived through a
(02:28):
pandemic, and I still feel likenow is a little more stressful
than it was then, when everyonethought they were going to die
from something that we didn'teven understand.
Now it's like we're watchingthings that we clearly
understand happen around us.
We understand that twoillogical people arguing isn't
going to completely correctsomething, but if they're both
(02:50):
illogical, if they both havegoals that are outstandingly
different than the other,there's not really going to be
much compromise, and we'reseeing that with china and
taiwan about the pop off.
We have the stuff that's goingon in Israel, that one side
feels so strongly about one wayand the other is opposite, and
(03:13):
it's just chaos.
Russia.
Same things going on.
There's same things happen herein America.
There are two arguments.
One feels very wrong, onedoesn't feel completely made up,
but also doesn't feel like theyare not at least on the better
side of history.
And with both of those twoarguments and the crazy energy
(03:39):
towards them, no one's actuallyhaving any answers for solutions
.
Everyone's really just kind ofspitballing ideas and telling us
one's it's better than anyother.
What are we gonna fix?
Honestly, how are we gonnaimprove as a species if the
(04:00):
morals of everyone is socompletely opposite?
It's just a really difficulttime.
But, with that being said, thestuff that we're going through.
Personally just to use me,instead of trying to throw this
on everyone I feel like I'mabout to turn 36 this year and
I'm seeing a lot of people gothrough a lot of similar
(04:22):
obstacles.
You know, we've been trying tohave kids and it's been
difficult and that's somethingI'm seeing is more common
everywhere.
People are starting to reallyspeak out about it more and it's
encouraging and helpful and Iappreciate the good words people
have given me throughout thisentire process.
It's hard to go throughsomething like that but then
also have family issues,disagreements, philosophy, ind.
(04:49):
You can to improve yoursituation so that in the future
everything kind of works out,because if you're in a good
(05:14):
headspace, you're able to shinethat headspace and that energy
onto others.
And so I'm reading a lot.
So I've been reading a lot,I've been working through a lot
of my issues, doing therapy andtruly trying to approach this as
open and honest and ultimatelythe goal is to make sure I'm OK
(05:43):
and I'm putting me first so thatthe things in my life can be
better.
And so I'm still on thatjourney.
There's some things that arestill frustrating and hard for
me and I don't really see someof the things changing.
That's okay, it's life.
We can't really hope foranything to be different.
We just got to try to make itbetter and that's been the
(06:06):
philosophy I've kind of clung to.
Thank you to Mark Manson'sEverything is Fucked book.
I really enjoyed reading thatand it really touched on hope
and our understanding of hopeand what we need to do.
And, like I said, we need towork on ourselves.
(06:27):
We need to make sure we're inthe right headspace.
We need to make sure that ifsomeone we care about in our
life is hurting, we doeverything we can to try to help
them.
(06:47):
My check-in this month is, Imust say, like a 8.5.
I am really happy with Life ingeneral.
I feel like the networking I'vebeen doing for these past
couple of years here in Atlantais starting to really show
(07:08):
promise.
People are starting to committo me a little bit more, take me
a little more seriously, andthat's just all you can ask for
as someone who's looking to havea career in something that
feels almost impossible.
You know music and performanceand hosting.
I do it every week.
(07:28):
I'm constantly working on mycraft and the wins in this type
of a career are, you know, thoserandom calls you get after
sending someone an email eightmonths ago.
They finally message you backsaying oh, I've been crazy, I'm
sorry, but I like your music,let's work together.
It's like that's kind of thepayoff that you have.
(07:49):
You don't really get a nine tofive kind of satisfaction from
this, because that's not whatthis is.
So it's really encouragingseeing the things change and my
perspective change around all ofthis.
A lot of things that I held onto really aren't affecting me
(08:11):
like they used to anymore.
I held on to a lot of feelingswhen it came to how people
perceived me, how people talkedto me, how people treated me,
how people interact with me onsocial media or in person, or
you know through how many textmessages I get on my phone or
(08:33):
anything it could be.
I could date this back to howmany Valentines I would get on
Valentine's Day.
I just I just felt like Ineeded all of that energy.
But I started something newrecently where I took all of my
social media off of my phone andoff my tablet.
(08:53):
So the only time I could checkit is on my desktop, like I used
to when I was in high schooland Facebook first started,
where I could get to it, but Icouldn't get to it every where I
was.
So if I'm on the road in StPetersburg, florida, like I was
last weekend, I can't check ituntil I get back home and I
(09:14):
might have a little bit morenotifications.
But I start to see exactly whatI'm looking for from life when
I don't have something pullingme away from life.
I took games off my phone.
I really have attacked the worldthat isn't in real life.
(09:39):
You know the outside world, theInternet.
I don't feel like it's affectedme positively in my life in a
while.
I'm not going to say it neverdid, because of course, I was
able to connect with people.
I'm still able to connect withpeople that are thousands of
miles away and people who livein different countries, and
(10:02):
people listen to this podcast.
They're literally all over theworld, which is really exciting,
and that's because of theInternet.
I will never say it didn't doanything good for me, but when
it comes to my mental headspace,I was a theater major.
One of the big things aboutbeing a theater major is
memorization.
You have to memorize music.
(10:22):
You have to memorize monologues.
You have to be able to toreally focus on that craft and
build.
And the older I get, the betterthe technology.
Now you can have a music standwith an iPad on the stage, so
you might you might memorize allthe lyrics, or you might, you
(10:43):
might just know what it soundslike and read it while you're on
stage, but pretend like you'renot reading it, like you can do
that now, and that takes awayfrom the preparation.
It gives you an excuse to say,oh, I don't have enough time,
I'll just put it on the iPad andand that'll be what I do.
You.
You know that's the type ofstuff that we allow now and it's
(11:05):
not.
That is not good.
It is good that we have theseoptions.
It's incredible.
But for me personally, I want toknow that I've done the work
and there are certain thingsthat I felt like after a while I
wasn't truly in control with it.
If I feel like I have to get onDuolingo every day to keep the
(11:28):
streak going.
It stops becoming about melearning Spanish and it comes
more of I need to play this game.
If I take that game away, takethe scrolling online away, I
find myself thinking more.
(11:49):
I find myself wanting moreWorking on simple projects,
emailing people, writing waymore.
Now, just from a simpleadjustment, and I feel like the
(12:10):
idea that I'm more clear andworking on my favorite things in
the world has really enhancedmy relationships around me, that
people around me can see I'mhappier.
They can see that I'm excitedand have a different type of
energy, and it's strictlybecause I eliminated something
that I'm excited and have adifferent type of energy, and
it's strictly because Ieliminated something that I
noticed was doing more harm thangood.
I know that I can't truly getaway from it completely, because
(12:37):
I need it as a marketing tooland I need it to reach people
that I still can't reach.
But even with that, I'm lookingat alternatives.
I'm pushing myself to want tolook for those alternatives
because they're there.
There are other ways tocommunicate and to reach people
(12:57):
and I don't have to go throughthe same process everyone goes
through.
Just because everyone goesthrough it, people always tell
me.
You know people get real big onTikTok.
I don't really do the musicthat is going to do big on
TikTok and if it does,eventually it'll pop off.
But for now that's not what Ido.
An algorithm that I see onTikTok nothing looks like me.
(13:20):
So why would I continue to putmyself in a position where I
feel like I'm attackingsomething and putting all of
this effort into it and pushingmyself into it, but then I have
to adjust to it, I have to putout content that revolves around
it and next thing, you know I'mdoing stuff that has nothing to
(13:41):
do with what I do.
That's happened too many times.
I'm doing stuff that hasnothing to do with what I do.
That's happened too many times.
And now I'm just speakingdirectly to people calling
people, sending people messages,emailing people.
It reminds me of college andit's enlightening.
It's exciting, it's fun to getto communicate properly again
and to not feel like something'sin my pocket that I have to
(14:03):
check every five minutes.
I don't check my phone as muchas I used to.
If I'm on my phone, I'm usuallywriting something, I'm usually
reading something, I'm usuallylistening to something.
I've been working on houseprojects.
I painted the deck.
I've been working on houseprojects.
(14:23):
I painted the deck, I have beendigging holes to try to help
with the erosion on our hillside.
Going into our driveway,there's a bunch of sand and clay
and I just feel like I've foundthe rhythm that fits me best
and it's really exciting.
(14:44):
So when I said 8.5 for thecheck-in, it's mostly because I
am having a really good time.
There are some things I want tofix.
Still, there's some people Iwant to communicate with and I
want to see improve in theirlife too, and that 1.5% is that
there are things that I can'treally control, that I'm hoping
(15:05):
for and I'm trying to remindmyself that I can only hope for
what I know and everything Iknow is happening and that's
encouraging.
It's not something surprising,something that I never expected.
No, some of all of the stuffthat I'm going through, stuff
that I kind of could see, andI'm just going to do what I can
(15:27):
to make it better.
I'm not going to hope it'sgoing to be better because I'll
be sitting here all day hoping Igot to put some movement into
this.
I got to take some risk and bein some uncomfortable moments to
truly work through this, butI'll get there, work through
this, but I will.
I'll get there and I'm surethat whoever's listening to this
(15:51):
.
If you're going through certainthings like this, it's the same
thing you got to look out foryourself.
It's not selfish.
If someone is willing to tellyou that that's selfish.
That's something to look intothem about.
Because if you tell your friend, I am doing this for me and
they can't say OK, I respectthat they have a different
(16:15):
motive on their end.
That's not something that youneed to concern yourself with.
The older I get, the more I lookwithin and I'm very honest with
(16:35):
myself.
Now I feel like sometimes Iwould over exaggerate things in
my head and then I would have tocheck myself.
But now that I'm notexaggerating too much, now that
I'm actually looking at thingsrelatively with a straight lens
and seeing what I can do toimprove, it's been.
It's been very delightful thisyear.
(16:57):
Like I've said before on thepod, my theme of the year is
discipline and I feel like I'vestruggled with this for the past
month and a half.
First three months of the firsttwo, two months I was doing
well.
Third month really kind of hitme harder and I'm kind of
clawing my way out of it nowhere in April.
(17:17):
But I see the good thatdiscipline has had on my life.
My planner is full of events andthings that I've scratched out
and people I've reached out toand self-care days and family
and friend days and no plan daysand date night and adulting
(17:43):
days the idea that I am clearlyseeing visions of how I want to
move forward and I'm workingtowards that.
The discipline is there.
Still, I'm losing discipline incertain areas that I'm going to
be able to improve because I'maware that it's a problem.
That's what the quote at thebeginning of the episode said.
First step towards change isawareness.
(18:04):
Second is acceptance and I'maccepting.
A lot of the things that I'vedone have been things that I've
kind of done myself and I wantto change that and I'm gonna
change that.
I'm not gonna hope that itchanged.
So hopefully everybody ishaving a good year, or at least
(18:33):
having a good year, or at leastworking on themselves and trying
to have a good year, and I hopethat, not a hope.
I look forward to continuingthis podcast.
I'm looking forward to greatconversation.
I'm looking forward to greatconversation.
I'm looking forward to moregrowth and my target is to shoot
(18:54):
through all of that expectationin my head that I believe I can
get to.
I believe I can go further thanI imagine and the people
listening to this podcast.
You're part of the reason why Ibelieve that, because you all
have supported me and looked outfor me and listened to me and
enjoyed this and sent mefeedback, and I truly appreciate
(19:15):
every moment someone spendslistening to this podcast and I
appreciate you.
(20:10):
Ciao, thank you.
I want to thank you forlistening to the black man
talking emotions podcast.
Look out for more stuff likethis and I want to thank you
once again.
This has been a really goodtime.
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subscribe to the podcast, sharethe podcast and give us a good
(20:30):
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Thank you, ladies and gentlemen, and anyone else who
(00:43):
is here.
You are listening to the Blackman Talking Emotions podcast.
My name is Don Lamour and I amgoing to be the only person on
this episode.
We're doing a mental check-inthis week and I hope you enjoy.
The first step towards changeis awareness.
(01:25):
The second step is acceptance.
All right, folks.
Uh, thank you so much forlistening to this week of the
pod and I hope y'all beenenjoying this season so far.
I feel like it's been really,really dope to talk to all these
people and have all of theseincredible conversations about
life and other things we'regoing through, how we're working
on ourselves and what we arefeeling.
Through this incredibly crazytime in history.
(01:46):
I feel like things went bonkersand then, of course, I've hit
some huge milestones in my lifethat I never thought I would hit
, and it's been very challengingto take on the stress of living
throughout all of this chaos,the stress of living throughout
(02:07):
all of this chaos but then alsohaving my own problems and
struggles in my own personallife.
So if anybody is hearing thisand feels like it's overwhelming
what's going on, it is not justyou.
All of us are going through alot right now and it's been
nonstop, and I feel like it'salmost crazy to say but like we
lived through a lot right nowand it's been non-stop and it I
feel like it's almost crazy tosay, but like we lived through a
(02:28):
pandemic, and I still feel likenow is a little more stressful
than it was then, when everyonethought they were going to die
from something that we didn'teven understand.
Now it's like we're watchingthings that we clearly
understand happen around us.
We understand that twoillogical people arguing isn't
going to completely correctsomething, but if they're both
(02:50):
illogical, if they both havegoals that are outstandingly
different than the other,there's not really going to be
much compromise, and we'reseeing that with china and
taiwan about the pop off.
We have the stuff that's goingon in Israel, that one side
feels so strongly about one wayand the other is opposite, and
(03:13):
it's just chaos.
Russia.
Same things going on.
There's same things happen herein America.
There are two arguments.
One feels very wrong, onedoesn't feel completely made up,
but also doesn't feel like theyare not at least on the better
side of history.
And with both of those twoarguments and the crazy energy
(03:39):
towards them, no one's actuallyhaving any answers for solutions
.
Everyone's really just kind ofspitballing ideas and telling us
one's it's better than anyother.
What are we gonna fix?
Honestly, how are we gonnaimprove as a species if the
(04:00):
morals of everyone is socompletely opposite?
It's just a really difficulttime.
But, with that being said, thestuff that we're going through.
Personally just to use me,instead of trying to throw this
on everyone I feel like I'mabout to turn 36 this year and
I'm seeing a lot of people gothrough a lot of similar
(04:22):
obstacles.
You know, we've been trying tohave kids and it's been
difficult and that's somethingI'm seeing is more common
everywhere.
People are starting to reallyspeak out about it more and it's
encouraging and helpful and Iappreciate the good words people
have given me throughout thisentire process.
It's hard to go throughsomething like that but then
also have family issues,disagreements, philosophy, ind.
(04:49):
You can to improve yoursituation so that in the future
everything kind of works out,because if you're in a good
(05:14):
headspace, you're able to shinethat headspace and that energy
onto others.
And so I'm reading a lot.
So I've been reading a lot,I've been working through a lot
of my issues, doing therapy andtruly trying to approach this as
open and honest and ultimatelythe goal is to make sure I'm OK
(05:43):
and I'm putting me first so thatthe things in my life can be
better.
And so I'm still on thatjourney.
There's some things that arestill frustrating and hard for
me and I don't really see someof the things changing.
That's okay, it's life.
We can't really hope foranything to be different.
We just got to try to make itbetter and that's been the
(06:06):
philosophy I've kind of clung to.
Thank you to Mark Manson'sEverything is Fucked book.
I really enjoyed reading thatand it really touched on hope
and our understanding of hopeand what we need to do.
And, like I said, we need towork on ourselves.
(06:27):
We need to make sure we're inthe right headspace.
We need to make sure that ifsomeone we care about in our
life is hurting, we doeverything we can to try to help
them.
(06:47):
My check-in this month is, Imust say, like a 8.5.
I am really happy with Life ingeneral.
I feel like the networking I'vebeen doing for these past
couple of years here in Atlantais starting to really show
(07:08):
promise.
People are starting to committo me a little bit more, take me
a little more seriously, andthat's just all you can ask for
as someone who's looking to havea career in something that
feels almost impossible.
You know music and performanceand hosting.
I do it every week.
(07:28):
I'm constantly working on mycraft and the wins in this type
of a career are, you know, thoserandom calls you get after
sending someone an email eightmonths ago.
They finally message you backsaying oh, I've been crazy, I'm
sorry, but I like your music,let's work together.
It's like that's kind of thepayoff that you have.
(07:49):
You don't really get a nine tofive kind of satisfaction from
this, because that's not whatthis is.
So it's really encouragingseeing the things change and my
perspective change around all ofthis.
A lot of things that I held onto really aren't affecting me
(08:11):
like they used to anymore.
I held on to a lot of feelingswhen it came to how people
perceived me, how people talkedto me, how people treated me,
how people interact with me onsocial media or in person, or
you know through how many textmessages I get on my phone or
(08:33):
anything it could be.
I could date this back to howmany Valentines I would get on
Valentine's Day.
I just I just felt like Ineeded all of that energy.
But I started something newrecently where I took all of my
social media off of my phone andoff my tablet.
(08:53):
So the only time I could checkit is on my desktop, like I used
to when I was in high schooland Facebook first started,
where I could get to it, but Icouldn't get to it every where I
was.
So if I'm on the road in StPetersburg, florida, like I was
last weekend, I can't check ituntil I get back home and I
(09:14):
might have a little bit morenotifications.
But I start to see exactly whatI'm looking for from life when
I don't have something pullingme away from life.
I took games off my phone.
I really have attacked the worldthat isn't in real life.
(09:39):
You know the outside world, theInternet.
I don't feel like it's affectedme positively in my life in a
while.
I'm not going to say it neverdid, because of course, I was
able to connect with people.
I'm still able to connect withpeople that are thousands of
miles away and people who livein different countries, and
(10:02):
people listen to this podcast.
They're literally all over theworld, which is really exciting,
and that's because of theInternet.
I will never say it didn't doanything good for me, but when
it comes to my mental headspace,I was a theater major.
One of the big things aboutbeing a theater major is
memorization.
You have to memorize music.
(10:22):
You have to memorize monologues.
You have to be able to toreally focus on that craft and
build.
And the older I get, the betterthe technology.
Now you can have a music standwith an iPad on the stage, so
you might you might memorize allthe lyrics, or you might, you
(10:43):
might just know what it soundslike and read it while you're on
stage, but pretend like you'renot reading it, like you can do
that now, and that takes awayfrom the preparation.
It gives you an excuse to say,oh, I don't have enough time,
I'll just put it on the iPad andand that'll be what I do.
You.
You know that's the type ofstuff that we allow now and it's
(11:05):
not.
That is not good.
It is good that we have theseoptions.
It's incredible.
But for me personally, I want toknow that I've done the work
and there are certain thingsthat I felt like after a while I
wasn't truly in control with it.
If I feel like I have to get onDuolingo every day to keep the
(11:28):
streak going.
It stops becoming about melearning Spanish and it comes
more of I need to play this game.
If I take that game away, takethe scrolling online away, I
find myself thinking more.
(11:49):
I find myself wanting moreWorking on simple projects,
emailing people, writing waymore.
Now, just from a simpleadjustment, and I feel like the
(12:10):
idea that I'm more clear andworking on my favorite things in
the world has really enhancedmy relationships around me, that
people around me can see I'mhappier.
They can see that I'm excitedand have a different type of
energy, and it's strictlybecause I eliminated something
that I'm excited and have adifferent type of energy, and
it's strictly because Ieliminated something that I
noticed was doing more harm thangood.
I know that I can't truly getaway from it completely, because
(12:37):
I need it as a marketing tooland I need it to reach people
that I still can't reach.
But even with that, I'm lookingat alternatives.
I'm pushing myself to want tolook for those alternatives
because they're there.
There are other ways tocommunicate and to reach people
(12:57):
and I don't have to go throughthe same process everyone goes
through.
Just because everyone goesthrough it, people always tell
me.
You know people get real big onTikTok.
I don't really do the musicthat is going to do big on
TikTok and if it does,eventually it'll pop off.
But for now that's not what Ido.
An algorithm that I see onTikTok nothing looks like me.
(13:20):
So why would I continue to putmyself in a position where I
feel like I'm attackingsomething and putting all of
this effort into it and pushingmyself into it, but then I have
to adjust to it, I have to putout content that revolves around
it and next thing, you know I'mdoing stuff that has nothing to
(13:41):
do with what I do.
That's happened too many times.
I'm doing stuff that hasnothing to do with what I do.
That's happened too many times.
And now I'm just speakingdirectly to people calling
people, sending people messages,emailing people.
It reminds me of college andit's enlightening.
It's exciting, it's fun to getto communicate properly again
and to not feel like something'sin my pocket that I have to
(14:03):
check every five minutes.
I don't check my phone as muchas I used to.
If I'm on my phone, I'm usuallywriting something, I'm usually
reading something, I'm usuallylistening to something.
I've been working on houseprojects.
I painted the deck.
I've been working on houseprojects.
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I painted the deck, I have beendigging holes to try to help
with the erosion on our hillside.
Going into our driveway,there's a bunch of sand and clay
and I just feel like I've foundthe rhythm that fits me best
and it's really exciting.
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So when I said 8.5 for thecheck-in, it's mostly because I
am having a really good time.
There are some things I want tofix.
Still, there's some people Iwant to communicate with and I
want to see improve in theirlife too, and that 1.5% is that
there are things that I can'treally control, that I'm hoping
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for and I'm trying to remindmyself that I can only hope for
what I know and everything Iknow is happening and that's
encouraging.
It's not something surprising,something that I never expected.
No, some of all of the stuffthat I'm going through, stuff
that I kind of could see, andI'm just going to do what I can
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to make it better.
I'm not going to hope it'sgoing to be better because I'll
be sitting here all day hoping Igot to put some movement into
this.
I got to take some risk and bein some uncomfortable moments to
truly work through this, butI'll get there, work through
this, but I will.
I'll get there and I'm surethat whoever's listening to this
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.
If you're going through certainthings like this, it's the same
thing you got to look out foryourself.
It's not selfish.
If someone is willing to tellyou that that's selfish.
That's something to look intothem about.
Because if you tell your friend, I am doing this for me and
they can't say OK, I respectthat they have a different
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motive on their end.
That's not something that youneed to concern yourself with.
The older I get, the more I lookwithin and I'm very honest with
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myself.
Now I feel like sometimes Iwould over exaggerate things in
my head and then I would have tocheck myself.
But now that I'm notexaggerating too much, now that
I'm actually looking at thingsrelatively with a straight lens
and seeing what I can do toimprove, it's been.
It's been very delightful thisyear.
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Like I've said before on thepod, my theme of the year is
discipline and I feel like I'vestruggled with this for the past
month and a half.
First three months of the firsttwo, two months I was doing
well.
Third month really kind of hitme harder and I'm kind of
clawing my way out of it nowhere in April.
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But I see the good thatdiscipline has had on my life.
My planner is full of events andthings that I've scratched out
and people I've reached out toand self-care days and family
and friend days and no plan daysand date night and adulting
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days the idea that I am clearlyseeing visions of how I want to
move forward and I'm workingtowards that.
The discipline is there.
Still, I'm losing discipline incertain areas that I'm going to
be able to improve because I'maware that it's a problem.
That's what the quote at thebeginning of the episode said.
First step towards change isawareness.
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Second is acceptance and I'maccepting.
A lot of the things that I'vedone have been things that I've
kind of done myself and I wantto change that and I'm gonna
change that.
I'm not gonna hope that itchanged.
So hopefully everybody ishaving a good year, or at least
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having a good year, or at leastworking on themselves and trying
to have a good year, and I hopethat, not a hope.
I look forward to continuingthis podcast.
I'm looking forward to greatconversation.
I'm looking forward to greatconversation.
I'm looking forward to moregrowth and my target is to shoot
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through all of that expectationin my head that I believe I can
get to.
I believe I can go further thanI imagine and the people
listening to this podcast.
You're part of the reason why Ibelieve that, because you all
have supported me and looked outfor me and listened to me and
enjoyed this and sent mefeedback, and I truly appreciate
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every moment someone spendslistening to this podcast and I
appreciate you.
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Ciao, thank you.
I want to thank you forlistening to the black man
talking emotions podcast.
Look out for more stuff likethis and I want to thank you
once again.
This has been a really goodtime.
The opening quote credit goesto Nathaniel Brandon and please
subscribe to the podcast, sharethe podcast and give us a good
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rating.
Five stars, please, and thankyou.
You can support the show byclicking the link at the bottom
of the episode description.
Also, tell me your storiesabout these subjects at dom
underscore lamour on instagramor at domlamourcom.
I'm Dom Lamour.
Much love, more Much love.
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