Queen, let's talk about the mindfuck breakup that's been keeping you stuck—the one with Mr. "Perfect on Paper" who left your soul starved despite checking every box society told you mattered. You know the type: well-dressed, well-traveled, well-paid, and wildly unavailable emotionally. This episode is your permission slip to finally name what you've been feeling and stop gaslighting yourself into believing something was wrong with you.
It's time to get the closure you didn't get and claim the healing you absolutely deserve. Because when perfection masks a project, high-achieving Black women like you end up performing emotional triage instead of experiencing real partnership—and that ends today.
What You'll Learn
• Discover why your nervous system was screaming "something's off" even when everyone else thought you hit the jackpot.
• Reclaim your reality by learning to identify "high presentation, low intimacy" men who look like prizes but function like emotional projects
• Transform the cognitive dissonance that keeps you ruminating by naming the real problem: you weren't dating a high-value man, you were managing an undercover emotional fixer-upper.
• Shift from self-blame to self-empowerment.
• Notice how societal programming taught you to override your instincts and perform "low maintenance" just to keep the peace.
• Repair what got damaged in the process: your trust in yourself, your joy, your hope, and your ability to love without shrinking.
This isn't just about one relationship—it's about breaking the cycle of self-abandonment that keeps high-achieving Black women trapped in situations that look good on paper but leave us emotionally starved. When you've been conditioned to prove your worthiness of love, your nervous system starts mistaking anxiety for attraction.
Take Action
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