January 21, 2025 • 23 mins
In this episode of The Bold and Brilliant Podcast, Tracie talks with Gina Coviello about how a great life starts with Self-Love.
From overcoming deep emotional pain to discovering the power of self-love, Coach Gina’s journey exemplifies resilience and transformation. As a self-love coach, speaker, blogger, and aspiring author, she passionately shares the life-changing impact of self-love as the key to true healing and fulfillment. With heartfelt wisdom and experience, Gina inspires others to embrace self-love and live their most empowered, extraordinary lives.
Episode Summary: In this empowering episode of the Bold and Brilliant Podcast, host Tracie Root is joined by Gina Coviello, a self-love coach and advocate for embracing personal transformation. Gina shares her inspiring journey of overcoming emotional pain, discovering self-love, and finding her voice after years of fear and self-doubt. Through her heartfelt story, she highlights the importance of self-awareness, daily practices of self-love, and the courage it takes to challenge deeply rooted fears.
Tune in to hear Gina’s bold decision that transformed her life and led her to pursue her passion for helping others live authentically and vibrationally aligned lives.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Gina’s personal journey to self-love and overcoming emotional pain.
- The distinction between self-care and self-love—and why both matter.
- Tools and practices for cultivating self-awareness and showing up for yourself.
- How self-love influences your energy, relationships, and professional success.
- Gina’s bold decision to step into public speaking and how it reshaped her life.
Actionable Tips from Gina:
- Start with Awareness: Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and body signals. Self-love begins with understanding yourself on a deeper level.
- Challenge Your Fears: Take one step at a time to face your fears, whether it’s speaking up, setting boundaries, or expressing your truth.
- Commit to Consistency: Self-love is a lifelong practice. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you build this habit.
- Embrace Joy: Pursue activities that bring you happiness, from hobbies to meaningful connections, and prioritize them in your life.
Memorable Quote:
“Self-love is how you show up for yourself every day. It’s about being there for yourself as you would for someone you love.” – Gina Coviello
Bold Moment of the Episode:
Gina shares her transformative experience of volunteering to speak publicly for the first time at a Polka Dot Powerhouse meeting. It was a pivotal step in confronting her fear of rejection and finding the courage to express her authentic voice.
Connect with Gina Coviello:
- in The Gather Community: https://www.thegather.community/GinaCoviello
- Website: www.coachginacoviello.com
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Tracie (00:02):
Are you ready to take bold action and live a life of
brilliance?
Welcome to the bold andbrilliant podcast where women
leaders share inspiring storiesabout the daring decisions that
shape their businesses, theirlives, and their careers.
Today, I'm with the fabulousGina Coviello.
Gina is a self love coach whodelivers a powerful message
(00:27):
about the importance of selflove.
As we talk, you'll hear Ginashare one bold decision that
created her path her resilience,risk taking, and transformation
will inspire, encourage, andsupport your personal and
professional growth andfulfillment.
Welcome Gina to the Bold andBrilliant podcast.
Thank you.
(00:47):
Super excited to be here,Tracie.
Yay.
Thank you.
I'm so glad you're here.
Gina, you and I have had achance to be connected for quite
some time.
You're a Polka Dot, which I amas well.
You're a creator in my GatherCommunity.
We've had some time to get toknow each other, but for the
listeners who haven't, Had achance to experience your
loveliness.
(01:07):
Tell everyone a little bit aboutyourself and how you got to
become a self love coach.
Gina (01:14):
Thank you, Tracie.
I'm going to give you the briefversion.
So I grew up with a lot ofemotional abuse and was led to
believe there was somethingseriously wrong with me.
I just was not acceptable as ahuman being.
And I grew up making some, notthe greatest relationship
choices.
I chose people who were not goodto me.
But because I didn't feel goodabout myself.
(01:36):
I chose people who didn't feelgood about themselves either.
And of course, I didn'tunderstand this at the time, but
a couple of years ago I hit rockbottom.
So I was 54 at the time.
I'm 57 now.
I hit rock bottom and that's ahorrible place to be in.
When I got there, for a hotminute, I wanted to take myself
(01:57):
out.
It got that uncomfortable, thatunbearable.
But there is this part of methat thank goodness for it.
It always shows up in my darkestmoments and says, we're not
going there, not today.
It was during COVID and I reallydid isolate myself.
I walked away from my owninterior design business.
(02:18):
I let go of almost everyrelationship in my life and I
isolated myself, but I startedlistening to me.
I didn't know that was selflove, but that's, what it turned
out to be.
Two years later, I found myselfbecoming a coach and public
speaking, which changed my life.
It came out of me.
(02:39):
Hitting my darkest moment inlife.
And finding out that self loveis the greatest secret on the
planet nobody teaches you how tolove yourself.
I really want to share thisbecause it has impacted my life
so much that I want people toknow you can absolutely have the
life of your dreams.
We're all walking around with,Feelings of emptiness or
(03:02):
inadequacy, and it's all startswith you internally.
And self love is the answer tofind your way out of all that
stuff.
So that's what I'm doing.
I am trying to just help liftpeople up because I really do
think self- love is pretty muchthe answer to everything on the
planet.
Tracie (03:19):
What I love about the focus on self love is that it
really means it's universal andit's individual.
It means something very specificto each person who is figuring
out how to love themselves more.
Yes.
Because our own experiences areall unique that, the things that
(03:40):
you went through are not thethings that I went through yet
the tools.
and practices about lovingyourself every day, are aligned.
So tell us a little bit aboutthe tools and things that you
bring to your clients.
to help them recognize areasthat they need to love
(04:01):
themselves more in.
Gina (04:04):
The biggest tool is simply self- awareness.
Just being aware of the thought,what are you saying to yourself?
How can you
Tracie (04:14):
help someone be more aware?
Gina (04:16):
This is where I can only point the way, but each person
has To make the effort to payattention and it's not easy if
you're not used to doing it.
It is not easy.
And it is a kind of thing where,perfection is not required,
right?
Every day, you get a little bitbetter at it, right?
And self love takes time.
(04:37):
This is not something you canachieve in a month or two.
It is a lifelong, right?
And we want immediategratification today, we want
instant results,
Tracie (04:46):
right?
Gina (04:47):
Self love is not going to give you instant results.
And it does take a lot ofeffort.
People don't even want to allowthemselves the time to, pursue a
hobby.
Or to exercise or to go out tolunch with your girlfriends or
whatever.
Cause sometimes we feel guiltyas we are making time for me.
(05:08):
So it is a, it is, it takes timeto just pay attention to what
you're doing saying and evenfeeling.
As you and I were just talking afew minutes ago, I just came
back from Yosemite for a coupleof days on the way home, I'm
driving by myself and I noticedthere was this ache in my chest.
Not my physical heart, but myheart chakra.
Tracie (05:31):
Yeah.
Gina (05:31):
And I was like, Oh, this is not the first time I'm
noticing this.
And so I'm like, Oh, I just leftthis place that grounding and
exquisite for me to be in thespace of Yosemite national park.
And I'm heading home and I'mrealizing, okay, my body's
telling me something.
But it's up to me to payattention and figure out what it
(05:53):
means, but it takes a lot ofpractice, but that awareness is
the absolute most important.
And I think that's a reallyimportant part of self love is
what am I thinking, what am Ifeeling, what are the words
coming out of my mouth, what amI feeling in my body, because
your body gives you sensationslike that heart chakra ache, I'm
(06:14):
not sure what my body wastelling me now I have to pay
attention more to that and seewhat that's about for me,
Tracie (06:18):
yeah, I love that.
And that was perfect because mynext question that had come to
my mind.
Yeah.
Why you were talking about goingout with girlfriends or whatever
was tell us the difference inyour work.
Between self love and self care.
Gina (06:34):
So self care can be a specific act like going to the
spa taking time for yourself,right?
Self love, because I thinkthere's a big misconception
about what self love is, right?
It isn't, self love isn't goingto the spa.
That can be a self loving thingto do.
Self love is how you show up foryourself.
(06:57):
All day, every day, right?
Just like you would show up foryour child or your loved one.
If they're having a tough time,you're going to be emotionally
supportive to them.
You're going to help them figureout a solution.
You're going to just be therefor them.
We are not very good at doingthat for ourselves.
And that is what self love isshowing up all day, every day.
(07:21):
Knowing that you are worthy ofthe time to make yourself happy
and that it's okay to makeyourself happy.
You can be greedy and selfish,or you can be in this healthy,
balanced place.
Making time for you is notgreedy and selfish unless you're
overdoing it.
Self love is showing up foryourself in every area of life.
(07:46):
Self care is a specific.
Taking that bubble bath orsitting in your chair and
reading your book for an hour,those kinds of things.
Tracie (07:54):
Yeah, I love that.
And, I think that as we thinkabout the things that we do for
self care, I think about thethings that I do that are not
only physically supportive, butalso mentally supportive,
emotionally supportive, thethings that are, feeding my
dreams, like my business thatit's the ax versus the feeling.
(08:18):
And I love your story about thatheart chakra ache, because it
seems like that's a really good.
Example of that noticing issomething that we don't often,
that's that's, I think we're achannel, like we know when we're
tired or in need of a manicureor whatever self care thing we
need, or even time withgirlfriends.
(08:39):
But.
What are we actually feeling andhow is that showing up in our
body in our dreams and in thedifferent things that manifest
in our state of being.
As opposed to the things thatwe're doing.
I love that.
Gina (08:53):
had so much emotional pain in my childhood and for most of
my life that I was numb to it.
And now when I feel emotionalpain I'm like, Oh yeah, because
I don't have that much anymore,which is great for me.
But when I do I'm like, Oh yeah.
I forgot what that feels like,that sinking feeling in your
stomach or someone asks you aquestion and you feel yourself
(09:18):
tighten up or close down, right?
That is your body telling you, Idon't like this.
something is wrong.
We don't always listen to that,but those are very important
physical sensations, superimportant messages.
Your body's trying to tell youhelp.
I need attention here, but we'renot always listening to that.
Tracie (09:37):
That's amazing.
And also I think as women,you're right that we have been
ingrained to not notice thingsso that we can keep serving, but
also for those of us who areentrepreneurs, leaders, in
business.
We often are in that highachievement mode that we focus
more on what needs to be doneversus what we personally need
(10:01):
in order to be our best selvesto get those things done.
Yes.
Like crazy catch 22, right?
Gina (10:08):
It is right.
And when you make time to feelfulfilled and feel happy, you
will bring joy and love andcompassion, whatever, positive.
Things into everything else thatyou are doing, including running
a business.
But if you're not happy inside,we bring our emotional pain, we
(10:30):
bring resentment, we bringanger, frustration into what
we're doing, and that impactsYou know, as business women that
impacts our relationship withour clients or colleagues as a
partner, it affects yourrelationship with your partner
or children.
When right when you are happyinside and make time to make you
(10:51):
happy.
You show up very differently inevery other area of your life
and that you impact the otherpeople that you're dealing with
in a very different way.
And there's that ripple effect,how I show up in my relationship
with you Tracie affects you.
And how you show up with, yournext client or a business
(11:13):
associate or your family athome.
There is, absolutely a rippleeffect, you can show up happier.
Everything else in your lifestarts to fall into place into a
healthier way as well.
So it's super impactful in yourentire life.
Tracie (11:26):
I love that.
And absolutely a hundredpercent, I think there's a lot
of people who are very concernedabout how they're showing up.
Am I salesy?
what are they going to think ofme?
they're very nervous and fearfulAnd then of course, that's the
energy they're putting outthere.
it's not anything intentional,but Your ability to attract your
client, your future clients isbased in your ability to put out
(11:48):
the energy that they're lookingfor.
Gina (11:51):
You have to vibrationally match your clients.
Yes.
And that's the law ofattraction, right?
You draw to you, not only whatyou intellectually know, but
what you subconsciously orinternally believe you are
worthy of.
And if you think I'm not goodenough for these clients, then
you're not on that vibrationallevel that will attract those
(12:13):
clients.
Yeah.
Tracie (12:15):
So good.
Okay.
So I want to ask you.
Our big question, which issomething that's going to be
part of every single episode ofthe bold and brilliant podcast.
what is one bold decision thatyou made in the past?
Turned everything in a newdirection that created the path
that you are now walking down orcreated a new path from where
(12:39):
you were.
you already talked about some ofthe changes that you made in
your personal life and thatcreated you becoming a self love
coach.
But I know that there's adifferent one that you actually
want to focus on because it'swhat you're really excited about
right now,
Gina (12:52):
Yes.
And what it ultimately goes tois challenging a fear.
I was afraid to even express myopinion to one person.
I was terrified of expressing myown opinions or ideas because I
grew up feeling like I wasunacceptable.
My words had no value.
Nobody wanted anything to dowith me.
(13:13):
So for me, speaking my truth,whether it was asking a question
in a meeting or expressing myopinion or speaking publicly, I
was terrified of all of that.
I would be afraid to go to asocial event, like a holiday
party with my family.
social interactions meantpotential rejection.
(13:35):
I got to a point in life where Iwas like, you know what?
I'm tired of being afraid allthe time.
I really want to break throughthis.
So I chose to volunteer to speakpublicly at a polka dot meeting.
Wow.
Afterward, I spoke about selflove cause I wanted to speak
about something that meantsomething to me.
(13:57):
And was starting to reallyimpact my life at that point.
Tracie (14:00):
So this is before you started your business,
Gina (14:02):
I was a Cabi stylist at the time and that wasn't my
passion.
That was a stepping stone, but Ididn't know what my next step
was.
So I spoke about self love andgot positive feedback from, the
15 women that heard my talk.
two women said to me, Gina, yourspeech was thought provoking.
for someone afraid to express myopinion.
(14:23):
Hearing that was Earthshattering in a good way, right?
Like in the car, on the wayhome, like the sun is finally
shining on your life.
Yeah.
But also regret that, oh my God,I've been wrong all this time.
Oh no.
so I thought my talk was aplatform for a book that I've
started to write, still editing.
(14:44):
then someone said, Gina, youshould be a life coach.
I was like, yeah, that feelsright.
So I've spent this entirecalendar year trying to build a
coaching business and this issomething I never would have
done if I hadn't chosen to openmy mouth in front of, 20 people.
If you went back to my highschool graduating class and
(15:06):
said, who is likely to be amotivational speaker?
I would have been at the veryend They'd be like Gina, who
that was nowhere in my plan oflife.
And now, I am.
I think that I'm here to inspirepeople all around the world.
So motivational speaker.
That's what my vision for myselfis, but that never would have
(15:26):
come to be.
If I didn't step out I wanted toface and get over this
particular fear of rejection butit has changed my life.
And I'm super happy for theprogress I've had and just
enjoying the ride and startingto get really comfortable with
speaking publicly.
I never dreamed that this iswhat my life would look like.
Tracie (15:48):
Oh my gosh.
That's so exciting.
I never dreamed that this iswhat my life would look like.
Yeah.
And for those who are listening,I saw Gina do a very short
storytelling speech a couple ofweeks ago.
Gina, I wanted to tell you, theincreased energy and vibrancy
and excitement and passion thatyou had.
(16:09):
Telling that story when I'veheard this story in the past,
How you've developed and grownin the last, say six months in,
in your comfort.
In your ability to really beemotionally present in the story
and show yourself.
Gina (16:29):
Yeah,
Tracie (16:29):
You're really showing yourself and your personality
and your excitement and passionfor sharing the story in the
hopes that it'll transformsomeone else's thoughts and
feelings that day.
you're doing amazing.
And I am so happy for you.
The bold decision to become aspeaker, right?
you almost have to go back towhen you decided to speak at
(16:51):
polka dot in front of.
20 people, 15 people who youalready knew, they weren't
strangers.
But you made a decision tobecome a speaker.
Gina (17:01):
Yeah.
Tracie (17:02):
So that title is not just, you decided to become a
speaker since then.
Gina (17:07):
Yeah.
Tracie (17:08):
And it's a huge, bold decision.
It's very exciting.
Gina (17:12):
I would love to encourage people to challenge their fears,
right?
you never know what your life isgoing to look like when you move
outside your existing comfortzone, I had no idea that being a
motivational speaker might be onthe table for me unless I
stepped out.
So you just don't know what'sout there waiting for you.
(17:33):
The path that is going to beamazing in your life is out
there somewhere.
But you might have to getuncomfortable to find it by
surprise.
Tracie (17:42):
I love that.
speak directly to someone who istrying to get past their fear.
tell them how it feels to be onthe other side of that decision.
How does that make you feel?
Gina (17:58):
It's a mixture because on the one hand, I feel sorry for
my former self.
I felt trapped in my life.
But challenging that fear wasthe best thing I've ever done.
And I think that talk that youheard me give Tracie, I talked
about this phrase the best stuffin life is on the other side of
fear.
(18:19):
I heard this from the actor,Will Smith, and he was talking
about skydiving he was superafraid to go skydiving, but he
did it.
And he said, he felt like he wasflying.
I want people to know that ourfears, it's just a story that we
tell ourselves and that fear,depending on what it is, isn't
(18:39):
truly real, I was afraid that mywords had no value.
Now I'm finding out people areresonating with what I have to
say and it's just me finding myconfidence to say it.
You know that phrase, feel thefear and do it anyway.
It's so true.
It's okay to be afraid.
it's totally normal, If you'restepping outside your comfort
(19:03):
zone.
It is uncomfortable.
That doesn't mean it's a badthing.
And obviously I'm talking aboutthings that are safe and
reasonable to do.
I want to be clear.
I'm not telling anyone to dosomething unsafe.
But your fears are holding youback.
maybe your greatest moment inlife might be on the other side.
(19:24):
of stepping out of your fear.
I totally encourage people tochallenge them and failure is
not actually a bad thing, right?
It's not failure.
It's constructive feedback.
That path maybe wasn't optimalTry it this way.
There's a different way to doit.
it's okay to be afraid.
I was afraid to speak.
(19:45):
I did it and it turned out to bethe best decision of my life.
you just don't know what's outthere waiting for you.
Try it and see you're going tobe okay.
Tracie (19:55):
Yeah.
You were talking about thatquote.
you heard from Will Smith it'sall over the planet.
what if I fall?
Oh, but my darling, what if youfly that made me think of that?
Because you're talking aboutWill Smith in skydiving.
Yeah, there's a poet.
Writer, Erin Hanson, that's off.
That's often attributed to, butreally these all get mixed and
matched in our world becauseeveryone who says them has been
(20:20):
touched by the idea.
So that's why there's so manypeople saying them in different
ways.
Will Smith, Erin Hanson, Oprah,you, me, like it's all of us.
Because when you step out ofyour comfort zone and take a
risk and make some sort of bolddecision whatever is on the
other side is either amiraculous new life.
(20:44):
or it's something to be like,huh that was interesting.
Let's see what happens nextbecause it is the unknown.
And I think that's, ultimately alot of what people are afraid of
the unknown.
They don't know what's going tohappen.
So that's scary and let's not doit versus you don't know what's
going to happen, but what's theworst that could happen.
Let's try it anyway.
Gina (21:05):
at a minimum, you get to learn something about yourself,
right?
whatever you learn might notbenefit you for 10 years.
Who knows?
But it's an opportunity tolearn,
Tracie (21:17):
Deposited in the vessel and we'll hold on to it for when
needed.
Gina (21:22):
you cannot grow if you stay inside your current comfort
zone.
if you want to grow, expand whatyou're doing and try that thing
it might turn out great.
It might not, but that's okaytoo.
Tracie (21:35):
Yeah.
Beautiful.
Love it.
Okay, Gina.
I know that we can find you inthe gather community.
But also where else can Pete,where's the best place for
someone to find you to come toone of your free workshops or
one of your events or hear youspeak.
Gina (21:50):
The best place is to go to my website.
So that's coach Gina Coveyellow.
com.
I know worries about thespellings, it'll all be
Tracie (21:58):
in the notes,
Gina (21:59):
Yeah, I have a free monthly workshop.
those are posted in there.
And then you can always email memy email is in the website, you
can get ahold of me and find outwhat else I'm doing.
Get on my mailing list and I dopost where I'm speaking and that
sort of thing.
Tracie (22:13):
You have a great newsletter and you're always
workshop speaking all the thingsthat you're doing.
It's really lovely.
So yeah, definitely get on thelist for your newsletter.
Gina (22:23):
to have you join the list.
Tracie (22:24):
thank you again for being here on the podcast.
And to all of you listeners outthere, thank you for listening
to the bold and brilliantpodcast.
I hope our discussion today wasjust what you needed to take
your next bold step forwardtoward your brilliant future.
Cheers.
Thank you for listening to theBold and Brilliant Podcast.
(22:47):
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And I want to invite you tocheck out the show notes, find
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Thanks so much.
Are you ready to take bold action and live a life of
brilliance?
Welcome to the bold andbrilliant podcast where women
leaders share inspiring storiesabout the daring decisions that
shape their businesses, theirlives, and their careers.
Today, I'm with the fabulousGina Coviello.
Gina is a self love coach whodelivers a powerful message
(00:27):
about the importance of selflove.
As we talk, you'll hear Ginashare one bold decision that
created her path her resilience,risk taking, and transformation
will inspire, encourage, andsupport your personal and
professional growth andfulfillment.
Welcome Gina to the Bold andBrilliant podcast.
Thank you.
(00:47):
Super excited to be here,Tracie.
Yay.
Thank you.
I'm so glad you're here.
Gina, you and I have had achance to be connected for quite
some time.
You're a Polka Dot, which I amas well.
You're a creator in my GatherCommunity.
We've had some time to get toknow each other, but for the
listeners who haven't, Had achance to experience your
loveliness.
(01:07):
Tell everyone a little bit aboutyourself and how you got to
become a self love coach.
Gina (01:14):
Thank you, Tracie.
I'm going to give you the briefversion.
So I grew up with a lot ofemotional abuse and was led to
believe there was somethingseriously wrong with me.
I just was not acceptable as ahuman being.
And I grew up making some, notthe greatest relationship
choices.
I chose people who were not goodto me.
But because I didn't feel goodabout myself.
(01:36):
I chose people who didn't feelgood about themselves either.
And of course, I didn'tunderstand this at the time, but
a couple of years ago I hit rockbottom.
So I was 54 at the time.
I'm 57 now.
I hit rock bottom and that's ahorrible place to be in.
When I got there, for a hotminute, I wanted to take myself
(01:57):
out.
It got that uncomfortable, thatunbearable.
But there is this part of methat thank goodness for it.
It always shows up in my darkestmoments and says, we're not
going there, not today.
It was during COVID and I reallydid isolate myself.
I walked away from my owninterior design business.
(02:18):
I let go of almost everyrelationship in my life and I
isolated myself, but I startedlistening to me.
I didn't know that was selflove, but that's, what it turned
out to be.
Two years later, I found myselfbecoming a coach and public
speaking, which changed my life.
It came out of me.
(02:39):
Hitting my darkest moment inlife.
And finding out that self loveis the greatest secret on the
planet nobody teaches you how tolove yourself.
I really want to share thisbecause it has impacted my life
so much that I want people toknow you can absolutely have the
life of your dreams.
We're all walking around with,Feelings of emptiness or
(03:02):
inadequacy, and it's all startswith you internally.
And self love is the answer tofind your way out of all that
stuff.
So that's what I'm doing.
I am trying to just help liftpeople up because I really do
think self- love is pretty muchthe answer to everything on the
planet.
Tracie (03:19):
What I love about the focus on self love is that it
really means it's universal andit's individual.
It means something very specificto each person who is figuring
out how to love themselves more.
Yes.
Because our own experiences areall unique that, the things that
(03:40):
you went through are not thethings that I went through yet
the tools.
and practices about lovingyourself every day, are aligned.
So tell us a little bit aboutthe tools and things that you
bring to your clients.
to help them recognize areasthat they need to love
(04:01):
themselves more in.
Gina (04:04):
The biggest tool is simply self- awareness.
Just being aware of the thought,what are you saying to yourself?
How can you
Tracie (04:14):
help someone be more aware?
Gina (04:16):
This is where I can only point the way, but each person
has To make the effort to payattention and it's not easy if
you're not used to doing it.
It is not easy.
And it is a kind of thing where,perfection is not required,
right?
Every day, you get a little bitbetter at it, right?
And self love takes time.
(04:37):
This is not something you canachieve in a month or two.
It is a lifelong, right?
And we want immediategratification today, we want
instant results,
Tracie (04:46):
right?
Gina (04:47):
Self love is not going to give you instant results.
And it does take a lot ofeffort.
People don't even want to allowthemselves the time to, pursue a
hobby.
Or to exercise or to go out tolunch with your girlfriends or
whatever.
Cause sometimes we feel guiltyas we are making time for me.
(05:08):
So it is a, it is, it takes timeto just pay attention to what
you're doing saying and evenfeeling.
As you and I were just talking afew minutes ago, I just came
back from Yosemite for a coupleof days on the way home, I'm
driving by myself and I noticedthere was this ache in my chest.
Not my physical heart, but myheart chakra.
Tracie (05:31):
Yeah.
Gina (05:31):
And I was like, Oh, this is not the first time I'm
noticing this.
And so I'm like, Oh, I just leftthis place that grounding and
exquisite for me to be in thespace of Yosemite national park.
And I'm heading home and I'mrealizing, okay, my body's
telling me something.
But it's up to me to payattention and figure out what it
(05:53):
means, but it takes a lot ofpractice, but that awareness is
the absolute most important.
And I think that's a reallyimportant part of self love is
what am I thinking, what am Ifeeling, what are the words
coming out of my mouth, what amI feeling in my body, because
your body gives you sensationslike that heart chakra ache, I'm
(06:14):
not sure what my body wastelling me now I have to pay
attention more to that and seewhat that's about for me,
Tracie (06:18):
yeah, I love that.
And that was perfect because mynext question that had come to
my mind.
Yeah.
Why you were talking about goingout with girlfriends or whatever
was tell us the difference inyour work.
Between self love and self care.
Gina (06:34):
So self care can be a specific act like going to the
spa taking time for yourself,right?
Self love, because I thinkthere's a big misconception
about what self love is, right?
It isn't, self love isn't goingto the spa.
That can be a self loving thingto do.
Self love is how you show up foryourself.
(06:57):
All day, every day, right?
Just like you would show up foryour child or your loved one.
If they're having a tough time,you're going to be emotionally
supportive to them.
You're going to help them figureout a solution.
You're going to just be therefor them.
We are not very good at doingthat for ourselves.
And that is what self love isshowing up all day, every day.
(07:21):
Knowing that you are worthy ofthe time to make yourself happy
and that it's okay to makeyourself happy.
You can be greedy and selfish,or you can be in this healthy,
balanced place.
Making time for you is notgreedy and selfish unless you're
overdoing it.
Self love is showing up foryourself in every area of life.
(07:46):
Self care is a specific.
Taking that bubble bath orsitting in your chair and
reading your book for an hour,those kinds of things.
Tracie (07:54):
Yeah, I love that.
And, I think that as we thinkabout the things that we do for
self care, I think about thethings that I do that are not
only physically supportive, butalso mentally supportive,
emotionally supportive, thethings that are, feeding my
dreams, like my business thatit's the ax versus the feeling.
(08:18):
And I love your story about thatheart chakra ache, because it
seems like that's a really good.
Example of that noticing issomething that we don't often,
that's that's, I think we're achannel, like we know when we're
tired or in need of a manicureor whatever self care thing we
need, or even time withgirlfriends.
(08:39):
But.
What are we actually feeling andhow is that showing up in our
body in our dreams and in thedifferent things that manifest
in our state of being.
As opposed to the things thatwe're doing.
I love that.
Gina (08:53):
had so much emotional pain in my childhood and for most of
my life that I was numb to it.
And now when I feel emotionalpain I'm like, Oh yeah, because
I don't have that much anymore,which is great for me.
But when I do I'm like, Oh yeah.
I forgot what that feels like,that sinking feeling in your
stomach or someone asks you aquestion and you feel yourself
(09:18):
tighten up or close down, right?
That is your body telling you, Idon't like this.
something is wrong.
We don't always listen to that,but those are very important
physical sensations, superimportant messages.
Your body's trying to tell youhelp.
I need attention here, but we'renot always listening to that.
Tracie (09:37):
That's amazing.
And also I think as women,you're right that we have been
ingrained to not notice thingsso that we can keep serving, but
also for those of us who areentrepreneurs, leaders, in
business.
We often are in that highachievement mode that we focus
more on what needs to be doneversus what we personally need
(10:01):
in order to be our best selvesto get those things done.
Yes.
Like crazy catch 22, right?
Gina (10:08):
It is right.
And when you make time to feelfulfilled and feel happy, you
will bring joy and love andcompassion, whatever, positive.
Things into everything else thatyou are doing, including running
a business.
But if you're not happy inside,we bring our emotional pain, we
(10:30):
bring resentment, we bringanger, frustration into what
we're doing, and that impactsYou know, as business women that
impacts our relationship withour clients or colleagues as a
partner, it affects yourrelationship with your partner
or children.
When right when you are happyinside and make time to make you
(10:51):
happy.
You show up very differently inevery other area of your life
and that you impact the otherpeople that you're dealing with
in a very different way.
And there's that ripple effect,how I show up in my relationship
with you Tracie affects you.
And how you show up with, yournext client or a business
(11:13):
associate or your family athome.
There is, absolutely a rippleeffect, you can show up happier.
Everything else in your lifestarts to fall into place into a
healthier way as well.
So it's super impactful in yourentire life.
Tracie (11:26):
I love that.
And absolutely a hundredpercent, I think there's a lot
of people who are very concernedabout how they're showing up.
Am I salesy?
what are they going to think ofme?
they're very nervous and fearfulAnd then of course, that's the
energy they're putting outthere.
it's not anything intentional,but Your ability to attract your
client, your future clients isbased in your ability to put out
(11:48):
the energy that they're lookingfor.
Gina (11:51):
You have to vibrationally match your clients.
Yes.
And that's the law ofattraction, right?
You draw to you, not only whatyou intellectually know, but
what you subconsciously orinternally believe you are
worthy of.
And if you think I'm not goodenough for these clients, then
you're not on that vibrationallevel that will attract those
(12:13):
clients.
Yeah.
Tracie (12:15):
So good.
Okay.
So I want to ask you.
Our big question, which issomething that's going to be
part of every single episode ofthe bold and brilliant podcast.
what is one bold decision thatyou made in the past?
Turned everything in a newdirection that created the path
that you are now walking down orcreated a new path from where
(12:39):
you were.
you already talked about some ofthe changes that you made in
your personal life and thatcreated you becoming a self love
coach.
But I know that there's adifferent one that you actually
want to focus on because it'swhat you're really excited about
right now,
Gina (12:52):
Yes.
And what it ultimately goes tois challenging a fear.
I was afraid to even express myopinion to one person.
I was terrified of expressing myown opinions or ideas because I
grew up feeling like I wasunacceptable.
My words had no value.
Nobody wanted anything to dowith me.
(13:13):
So for me, speaking my truth,whether it was asking a question
in a meeting or expressing myopinion or speaking publicly, I
was terrified of all of that.
I would be afraid to go to asocial event, like a holiday
party with my family.
social interactions meantpotential rejection.
(13:35):
I got to a point in life where Iwas like, you know what?
I'm tired of being afraid allthe time.
I really want to break throughthis.
So I chose to volunteer to speakpublicly at a polka dot meeting.
Wow.
Afterward, I spoke about selflove cause I wanted to speak
about something that meantsomething to me.
(13:57):
And was starting to reallyimpact my life at that point.
Tracie (14:00):
So this is before you started your business,
Gina (14:02):
I was a Cabi stylist at the time and that wasn't my
passion.
That was a stepping stone, but Ididn't know what my next step
was.
So I spoke about self love andgot positive feedback from, the
15 women that heard my talk.
two women said to me, Gina, yourspeech was thought provoking.
for someone afraid to express myopinion.
(14:23):
Hearing that was Earthshattering in a good way, right?
Like in the car, on the wayhome, like the sun is finally
shining on your life.
Yeah.
But also regret that, oh my God,I've been wrong all this time.
Oh no.
so I thought my talk was aplatform for a book that I've
started to write, still editing.
(14:44):
then someone said, Gina, youshould be a life coach.
I was like, yeah, that feelsright.
So I've spent this entirecalendar year trying to build a
coaching business and this issomething I never would have
done if I hadn't chosen to openmy mouth in front of, 20 people.
If you went back to my highschool graduating class and
(15:06):
said, who is likely to be amotivational speaker?
I would have been at the veryend They'd be like Gina, who
that was nowhere in my plan oflife.
And now, I am.
I think that I'm here to inspirepeople all around the world.
So motivational speaker.
That's what my vision for myselfis, but that never would have
(15:26):
come to be.
If I didn't step out I wanted toface and get over this
particular fear of rejection butit has changed my life.
And I'm super happy for theprogress I've had and just
enjoying the ride and startingto get really comfortable with
speaking publicly.
I never dreamed that this iswhat my life would look like.
Tracie (15:48):
Oh my gosh.
That's so exciting.
I never dreamed that this iswhat my life would look like.
Yeah.
And for those who are listening,I saw Gina do a very short
storytelling speech a couple ofweeks ago.
Gina, I wanted to tell you, theincreased energy and vibrancy
and excitement and passion thatyou had.
(16:09):
Telling that story when I'veheard this story in the past,
How you've developed and grownin the last, say six months in,
in your comfort.
In your ability to really beemotionally present in the story
and show yourself.
Gina (16:29):
Yeah,
Tracie (16:29):
You're really showing yourself and your personality
and your excitement and passionfor sharing the story in the
hopes that it'll transformsomeone else's thoughts and
feelings that day.
you're doing amazing.
And I am so happy for you.
The bold decision to become aspeaker, right?
you almost have to go back towhen you decided to speak at
(16:51):
polka dot in front of.
20 people, 15 people who youalready knew, they weren't
strangers.
But you made a decision tobecome a speaker.
Gina (17:01):
Yeah.
Tracie (17:02):
So that title is not just, you decided to become a
speaker since then.
Gina (17:07):
Yeah.
Tracie (17:08):
And it's a huge, bold decision.
It's very exciting.
Gina (17:12):
I would love to encourage people to challenge their fears,
right?
you never know what your life isgoing to look like when you move
outside your existing comfortzone, I had no idea that being a
motivational speaker might be onthe table for me unless I
stepped out.
So you just don't know what'sout there waiting for you.
(17:33):
The path that is going to beamazing in your life is out
there somewhere.
But you might have to getuncomfortable to find it by
surprise.
Tracie (17:42):
I love that.
speak directly to someone who istrying to get past their fear.
tell them how it feels to be onthe other side of that decision.
How does that make you feel?
Gina (17:58):
It's a mixture because on the one hand, I feel sorry for
my former self.
I felt trapped in my life.
But challenging that fear wasthe best thing I've ever done.
And I think that talk that youheard me give Tracie, I talked
about this phrase the best stuffin life is on the other side of
fear.
(18:19):
I heard this from the actor,Will Smith, and he was talking
about skydiving he was superafraid to go skydiving, but he
did it.
And he said, he felt like he wasflying.
I want people to know that ourfears, it's just a story that we
tell ourselves and that fear,depending on what it is, isn't
(18:39):
truly real, I was afraid that mywords had no value.
Now I'm finding out people areresonating with what I have to
say and it's just me finding myconfidence to say it.
You know that phrase, feel thefear and do it anyway.
It's so true.
It's okay to be afraid.
it's totally normal, If you'restepping outside your comfort
(19:03):
zone.
It is uncomfortable.
That doesn't mean it's a badthing.
And obviously I'm talking aboutthings that are safe and
reasonable to do.
I want to be clear.
I'm not telling anyone to dosomething unsafe.
But your fears are holding youback.
maybe your greatest moment inlife might be on the other side.
(19:24):
of stepping out of your fear.
I totally encourage people tochallenge them and failure is
not actually a bad thing, right?
It's not failure.
It's constructive feedback.
That path maybe wasn't optimalTry it this way.
There's a different way to doit.
it's okay to be afraid.
I was afraid to speak.
(19:45):
I did it and it turned out to bethe best decision of my life.
you just don't know what's outthere waiting for you.
Try it and see you're going tobe okay.
Tracie (19:55):
Yeah.
You were talking about thatquote.
you heard from Will Smith it'sall over the planet.
what if I fall?
Oh, but my darling, what if youfly that made me think of that?
Because you're talking aboutWill Smith in skydiving.
Yeah, there's a poet.
Writer, Erin Hanson, that's off.
That's often attributed to, butreally these all get mixed and
matched in our world becauseeveryone who says them has been
(20:20):
touched by the idea.
So that's why there's so manypeople saying them in different
ways.
Will Smith, Erin Hanson, Oprah,you, me, like it's all of us.
Because when you step out ofyour comfort zone and take a
risk and make some sort of bolddecision whatever is on the
other side is either amiraculous new life.
(20:44):
or it's something to be like,huh that was interesting.
Let's see what happens nextbecause it is the unknown.
And I think that's, ultimately alot of what people are afraid of
the unknown.
They don't know what's going tohappen.
So that's scary and let's not doit versus you don't know what's
going to happen, but what's theworst that could happen.
Let's try it anyway.
Gina (21:05):
at a minimum, you get to learn something about yourself,
right?
whatever you learn might notbenefit you for 10 years.
Who knows?
But it's an opportunity tolearn,
Tracie (21:17):
Deposited in the vessel and we'll hold on to it for when
needed.
Gina (21:22):
you cannot grow if you stay inside your current comfort
zone.
if you want to grow, expand whatyou're doing and try that thing
it might turn out great.
It might not, but that's okaytoo.
Tracie (21:35):
Yeah.
Beautiful.
Love it.
Okay, Gina.
I know that we can find you inthe gather community.
But also where else can Pete,where's the best place for
someone to find you to come toone of your free workshops or
one of your events or hear youspeak.
Gina (21:50):
The best place is to go to my website.
So that's coach Gina Coveyellow.
com.
I know worries about thespellings, it'll all be
Tracie (21:58):
in the notes,
Gina (21:59):
Yeah, I have a free monthly workshop.
those are posted in there.
And then you can always email memy email is in the website, you
can get ahold of me and find outwhat else I'm doing.
Get on my mailing list and I dopost where I'm speaking and that
sort of thing.
Tracie (22:13):
You have a great newsletter and you're always
workshop speaking all the thingsthat you're doing.
It's really lovely.
So yeah, definitely get on thelist for your newsletter.
Gina (22:23):
to have you join the list.
Tracie (22:24):
thank you again for being here on the podcast.
And to all of you listeners outthere, thank you for listening
to the bold and brilliantpodcast.
I hope our discussion today wasjust what you needed to take
your next bold step forwardtoward your brilliant future.
Cheers.
Thank you for listening to theBold and Brilliant Podcast.
(22:47):
I'm your host, Tracie Root.
And I want to invite you tocheck out the show notes, find
out where you can connect withour guests, find out more about
what I and the gather communityhave to offer you, and be sure
to subscribe to this podcast onyour favorite platform.
Thanks so much.
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