September 25, 2024 • 39 mins
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squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (00:00):
Good morning, let's start off our
(00:01):
podcast with a dad joke.
Are you ready?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (00:04):
uh, well, you are a dad, I am ready.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (00:07):
Yeah.
Yeah taco emergency call 9 1 1Is that the best Okay, brother.
(00:27):
Tell me what your plans are.
What do you not wait a minute?
Is there silence?
There's not another voice.
We don't hear
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (00:35):
it is a little silent extra today
because this week Stewart is onvacation.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (00:41):
good for him.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (00:42):
Yeah, well, he, I mean, he deserved
it.
So, I mean, every day I'vewanted to ring his neck while he
is gone.
'cause there's stuff I had to dothat he should have done.
But, you know, Hey,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (00:56):
I'll just sit here and be quiet
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (01:00):
No, no, he, he
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (01:01):
With that
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (01:02):
he tried to get everything done
before he left.
So I've just been, there's justbeen small things and it takes a
village.
We know that.
Well, okay.
So trying to figure out what wewere going to discuss today.
Um, and you know, it's just thetwo of us.
And, um, so I thought, well,it'd be an easier, like
conversation, even though it'swhat we always do anyway.
Um, but I thought, you know, wego, we've worked together for 20
(01:23):
years, which is, Crazy.
Um, and there are a lot ofthings that we know about each
other, but there, I thinkthere's a lot of things that we
don't know about each other.
And then I know definitelypeople who listening at home.
Um, even if they've beencustomers virus for 20 years,
there's a lot of stuff that theydon't know about.
So I thought this would be alittle interesting, like getting
(01:44):
to know you, um, humor fieldsection.
So
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (01:48):
podcast speed dating?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (01:51):
sure.
Listen, you know, neither one ofus have dated in a very long
time.
I can't imagine having to dothat.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (02:00):
This is gonna be our version of
tinder
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (02:04):
Yeah, but if I swipe or, I don't even
know which way you swipe.
I know you swipe.
If I swipe,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (02:08):
don't either.
I
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (02:09):
I'm afraid I'm going to lose you on
the computer screen.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (02:14):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, it is not, not good outthere.
So I've been told.
So,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (02:20):
well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (02:21):
anyway.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (02:21):
I don't even, I don't, oh lord,
Jeremy and I went to dinner theother night, and I won't mention
the restaurant in case thepeople that, um, well I'm gonna
talk about listen to thepodcast.
But it was
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (02:33):
the tens of tens?
Come on,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (02:35):
well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (02:35):
You are fooling yourself.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (02:37):
how many people have stopped you to
tell you they listen to thepodcast, that you have no clue
who they are?
Okay, well, steals.
Well, seven.
She could have been one of theseven.
I don't know.
Um, but we were at dinner and itwas, um, Oh God, maybe I got my
inspiration for this.
Podcast from her because theywere literally sitting at the
(02:57):
table next to us And she waslike getting into her phone and
then asking all these questionsAnd they were like the worst
questions ever and I thoughtlord if this is a first date
Doomed and my husband just keptlooking at him.
It's like if you if you needhelp blink blink twice It was
just it was it was really odd.
(03:18):
Okay Yeah, all right.
So what I I have questions andwe'll both answer them, but I
thought these would be things umYou That would be interesting to
know because I think it tellsyou more about you as a whole
and your life and, and, and Idon't know, interesting stuff.
Okay,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (03:34):
Okay, let's see.
This is your experiment.
So I got to see what you'regoing with.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (03:37):
Well, you know, I'm, I'm winging most
of it, but you know, hey, we're,we're doing our best.
You know, we, my goal was towrite all these questions down
yesterday and then of course,you know, we had our live sale
last night and that takes half aday to get ready for and then
you got to do that at night andthen, you know, they just, you
know, there's not enough time.
Okay.
Um, so the first question is,well, no, it's two thoughts put
(03:59):
into one, I'll listen to the,Julia Louis Dreyfus podcast, I
don't remember what it's called,but it's funny.
Um, and one of the questionsthat she always asks somebody in
her podcast is if there wassomething that you would have
gone back to in your life andsaid, yes.
And basically, like, is it,what's the one thing that you'd
like to go back and change?
Or is there one thing you'd liketo change?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (04:21):
Um, whatever, whatever.
I'd like to have been a schoolteacher.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (04:25):
Would you?
Or you would have?
Oh,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (04:28):
What?
I don't know.
That's the because I didn't doit and I didn't pursue it.
I don't know that answer.
But that was the other thingthat, um, called to my mind.
Heart.
This is what you need to be whenyou grow up.
This is what you need to be whenyou grow up.
And I didn't do it.
Um, So in the heart of who I am,I think I am a teacher.
(04:52):
I just do it in a different way.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (04:53):
Oh, You
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (04:54):
And,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (04:55):
are.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (04:56):
and, Knowing what my clients go
through as a teacher, Teacherwhat I knew my mom went through
as a teacher, and I think that'spart of the reasoning.
I saw, the challenge of wanting,not to do that, seeing what my
wife goes through as a schoolteacher.
Now, Chloe's new.
She's only a few weeks into it,and she literally, her
principal, her, her team ofteachers and the students of all
(05:20):
wrapped their arms around herand giving her love, right?
Uh, but I see the school systemas a challenge and knowing my
personality and I might'vechanged it and adjusted it.
Um, I probably would've beenfired the first week, but I
doubt it truthfully.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (05:35):
day one.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (05:36):
you know what, I say, you say that
and, um, I could have, Ibelieve, see, here, here's the
problem.
I've only worked for myself forthe very longest of time and
therefore then it changes howyou think and approach and do
because if you don't do it, fixit, say it, then anybody,
(05:57):
they'll run over top of you.
Right.
And, you have to be strong andyou have to trust your instinct
and you have to trust your, gutwhen it comes to business,
really, once it's said and done,you've got to listen to the
voice.
And I think that's true in life,but in particularly on your own
business, you've got to listento your gut.
And if your gut said, eventhough everybody around you is
saying you need to do that, youneed to do this, you need to do
(06:18):
this, you listen, you take itin, but if your gut comes back
and says, no, I got to do this,you just have to go with that.
I don't think that can benecessarily true.
And other jobs that you work forsomebody else, right?
Because you ultimately kind ofgot to do what people tell you
to do.
And that's not, it's a completeopposite for me in business
ownership.
I'd see it completely different.
(06:39):
Now that doesn't mean you don'tdismiss people.
It doesn't mean you hear people.
It doesn't mean you pivot, butultimately you got to listen to
your gut.
Maybe that's true in life.
I don't know, but I feel like,um, I would have listened more
because it would have been a, anecessary aspect of how you work
with people, uh, that you're,you're like, you're rolling your
(07:01):
eyes.
I know you're thinking, he'slike, No! because you're like, I
worked with you and you didn'tlisten to anybody.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (07:06):
Well, no, that was 20 years into you
being an adult.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (07:10):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (07:11):
Well, I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (07:11):
And I had already experienced it
like
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (07:13):
but you know, you'd been adult and
you had, you'd owned your ownbusiness.
You had worked at other places.
Like you said, you had, you madedecisions.
You did your thing.
And by the time I started tomeet you, you, I mean, you were
30.
Well, we won't get into it, butsomewhere in the mid thirties.
And, um, so you've started tofigure out who you were.
Yeah, somewhat you start startedto figure out who you were,
(07:35):
right and wrong and where youstand.
So now I know I get what you'resaying.
Because like, I do think like,if you got if you would have
went in at 2021 into a schooland knowing you and knowing your
heart You would have doneanything possible for the kids,
right?
Like it would have, you wouldhave always been there and built
(07:55):
them up.
And cause you are like theworld's biggest cheerleader and
teacher.
Um, but I mean, our luck, youwould have gotten like some
horrible principal and you'dhave been out the first day, you
know?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (08:10):
Yeah, and it could have been, it could
have been, um, I, I, I see, um,I see our school system, um,
struggling and, uh, you know,it's from an outside, outside
perspective, but also see thosewho are trying to hang on by
their claws to, to change itand, make it better.
And then, you know, I'm not surewhen it's going to air, but
we're just off the cusp of themost recent school shooting.
(08:33):
And, you know, other people arelike, oh, we've got, you know,
uh, we got to change things.
We got to, you know, I want to,I best do not want to hear that.
I want to pray about this.
It's like, I don't want to prayanymore.
I want to do something.
And I really am at a place ofbeing numb about this.
(08:53):
And this is the last, last placeI want to be.
Um, my heart is with my wifewho, Is a math teacher and the
two people that got killed weremath teacher.
So in a middle school, she's amiddle school math teacher and
it makes it even a connectionand my sweet daughter in the
school system.
So I'm in the trenches ofputting the, two things I love
(09:15):
the most in a place that's notsafe.
And, um, we're not listening.
We're not listening.
And so I'm not going intopolitics.
We're not listening.
So long story is, um, you Ourschool system is in trouble, but
there's so many reasons why.
And I'm thankful that I have twopeople that I love the most that
(09:35):
are hanging on and trying tomake a difference.
And they will, they will.
So that's, that's, that's it.
So I wonder, could I have beenthat person?
That, that's, along just, Iwonder if I could have been that
person.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (09:47):
you could have.
Yeah.
You, you, you would have beenthe, you would have been, uh,
Alexander the great.
I think you would have been a,uh, a big, a conqueror.
I do think that, but you'veconquered many other things.
So it's not like you've not,it's not like you've failed a
lot.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (10:08):
uh, also thought this.
I will, Never be the smartestperson in the room, but what I
will be is the one thatsurvives.
And because, like, you give me achallenge and I'll actually, I'm
going to outthink you, outworkyou, and outdo you.
And that's, if you don't havethat drive, then, you know, I
actually, I think you've lookedat me before and you've said to
(10:31):
me, not everybody has the samedrive.
Um, intensity or work driverthat you do.
And I've had to dial it backbecause I can be pretty rough on
people.
And I have, I've kind ofsoftened with that because it
landed on me learning this yearsago, they don't see it and I'm a
seer, right?
You are a seer and,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (10:51):
My husband might disagree with you.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (10:54):
well, you see work.
I can't, I can't commit to whatyou say at home,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (11:00):
It's not what I say.
It's just about cleaning athome.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (11:02):
Well, see, that's different.
I'm talking about, well, it iscleaning here, but you're at
work to give you all the creditwhere you see what needs to be
done for work and you neverstop.
So you're a seer, you're adifferent seer, but you're a
seer and there are a lot of nonseers in the world that needs to
be done.
Right?
And those who see, um, it'stough, right?
(11:26):
Because like, I'm like, how canyou not, I literally have said
this a thousand times, how canyou not see this?
Right?
And it's like, I'm equating itto being cleaning,
straightening, fluffing, fixing,doing, right?
Literally, just seeing the storeneeds to be cleaned.
Now, stop there.
The crew that we have and thepeople there, we've got sears.
(11:48):
And it's been a wonderfulexperience.
I said that, you know, I startedredisplaying something a few
weeks ago, and normally I wouldhave to clean the shelf and do
all this stuff.
I'm not.
Past cleaning the shelf, butthat's not my, needed expertise.
I just need to take the shelfand make it pretty.
Instead of spending 15 minutescleaning it.
Well, the last couple of timesI've been displaying stuff, it
(12:10):
is clean.
And I'm like, Oh Lord, I lovethis.
And I purposely told those who Iknew were going the seers of
that part.
They're seers of differentthings.
And I told those two people, Ithank you because you made my
work and day easier.
So that's also something youneed to see is acknowledge the
good, not the bad.
Always say to people the goodstuff, not the bad stuff.
(12:34):
Fair enough.
Okay.
Anyway, that was 14 minutesalready into this.
One, one question.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (12:39):
Well, you know, um, for me.
I have always tried to, uh,believe whatever decisions I've
made in life were what I wassupposed to be.
And we, I, you know, I'vementioned how, you know, numbers
I see, and then I feel like thatI'm where I'm supposed to be and
those kinds of things.
The only thing that I wish Icould have changed, was, or I
(13:02):
would have said yes to, was Imarched drum corps one year, in
2001 and my feet, I don't, uh,we haven't had any problems
since then.
So, um, you know, whatever, butthe bone structure that I have
in my feet are kind of wonky.
Um, and I was in incrediblepain, um, taking ridiculous
amounts of, whatever painmedicine at the time just to get
(13:26):
through, the season.
And so when I went to the doctorafter that, the foot doctor was
like, Hmm, yeah, you probablyshouldn't do that again.
Um, cause I don't think you'llmake it through another season.
Cause by the end of the season,my feet were so destroyed.
And so I didn't go back with theage out basically the oldest
year you can be 21 before youage out And so I didn't go back
(13:47):
to do it and I were I regretthat because I know it would
have been an incredibleExperience and I would have
loved every minute of it but theopposite side of that is that
was the last Summer vacationthat I was able to take with my
grandparents where we went toFlorida so I was able to be with
them um to Pawpaw's last trip tothe beach that he just, he
(14:11):
loved.
They loved the beach.
it's like there's those kinds ofthings, right?
So it's like, okay, it wasn'tlike I totally missed out, but
that's the one thing.
If I could have changedeverything, I would have, um,
it's not one thing.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (14:23):
You didn't feel like you finished
it,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (14:25):
yeah, I feel like I finished it.
Yeah.
You know, but, you know, I had agreat summer.
I still have incredible friendsthat we marched together and
love them all and learned lotsof things and, all that kind of
stuff.
But that's the one thing I lookback and I'm like, yeah, okay.
You know, I've always tried tobe really cognizant of not
taking anything for granted.
(14:46):
Um, and I won't say that thatwas always at the forefront of
my mind.
Um, it definitely, that switchkind of flipped when my
grandfather became ill, youknow.
back in 2012, 2010.
Um, and so ever since then I'vebeen much more present anytime
(15:07):
that with I've tried not to takeanything for granted.
Um, every hug, every pad, everylove you on the phone, um,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (15:15):
shook you up, didn't it?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (15:16):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And, uh, so I don't, And it maybe because I don't, I don't
know, but I tried to, I just tryto be aware and appreciative of
that moment.
Cause you know, eventually theygoing to be gone.
But like, you know, every time Icall granny, she would, she'd
say, hello.
(15:37):
I'd say, Hey granny.
And she'd say, Hey hun.
And like every time she said,Hey hun, like it was in a tone
of voice that she never usedwith anybody except for me.
And um, yeah.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (15:51):
Yeah.
Well, you're the first, well,your mom's an only child.
So you were the first grandchild
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (15:55):
well, Mom, well, Mom did have a sister
when they were young and shepassed away, but yeah, no, Mom,
Mom was the
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (16:00):
but okay.
I'll revert back to, she wasraised because she lost her, uh,
her sister early on, basicallyas an only child.
I'll say it that way.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (16:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So, um, but yeah, so and then Ihad my sister, um, but you know,
I was the one calling andchecking in on her every night
and all those kind of things.
But so, I mean, I was thefavorite.
I was told this week, you're,you're, you are my favorite.
And I said, I have that effecton people.
I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (16:29):
Okay.
You got another question for
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (16:31):
do.
Okay, so this has to do withdesign, since, you know, we
talked about design stuff.
What, what one thing do you wishthat you were better at?
In design or what would you, youhad more knowledge?
Like what's, where do you feellike to you?
Like,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (16:44):
Oh gosh.
There's lots of things.
'cause I don't have, I don'thave this background.
I have an accounting backgroundand so I feel like I, okay.
I know, I
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (16:51):
Don't go 45 minutes.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (16:58):
at visualizing the space of the
room that it's harder for me.
It's not scale.
Uh, it's like if people aredoing a remodel and the wall
needs to be moved or the kitchenneeds to go on this side of the
house or that.
I'm like, I kind of can't seethat you give me the house.
(17:19):
You give me the rooms and thisis the parameters.
This is what you got to workwith.
I'll make it look real, real,real good down to the last
toothpick, right?
That's the detail I am, but I'mtrying, I'm not an architect,
right?
And a lot of designers, Stuartis.
exceptionally good at it.
(17:40):
He should be an architectbecause that's, he sees the
space and he's better at givingthe space than he, and I think
that's his joy as opposed toputting the last toothpick in
the room, right?
And I wish I had thatwheelhouse.
I wish I had that ability.
There you go.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (17:57):
I, I'm similar in that.
I wish that the architecturalside of it, I wish that I was
better or understood it better.
Um, Cause like just to sit downand draw plans, that's not me,
you know, uh, and I have apretty good grasp on, proportion
(18:20):
and size, like without having tobe in the space,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (18:23):
Yeah.
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_0903 (18:24):
Stuart has the ability to like go in a
house and remember every turnand every doorway.
I agree.
I don't have that, um, but Ican, so if you tell me to go
from one room to the next, Ican't, in my mind, I don't, I
can't walk from one to the next.
Well, that's not, maybe not, ifI've been in the house multiple
times, yes.
If I've been in the house once,no, he can do it in one.
(18:46):
Um, but I can see the whole roomin my head.
Like, if I'm not in the room, Ican see it and then be able to
turn in that space and like knowwhat's like, know what's going
to be too big.
And I don't know, you're thatway too, as far as like
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (19:01):
No, I can see.
that it's it's more about giveme the room but if you want me
to reimagine the room smallerbigger backside of the house
Just like I can't do that.
Not easy You can get there I canget there, but it is Not my
strength.
Um when I was redoing um, ordoing the basement I had this,
uh, I thought I knew what I wasdoing, and this is where the
(19:24):
kitchen is going to be in thebasement, and this is where the
family room is going to be.
But I started looking at it, andit's like a little self doubt,
and when you have good friends,and you trust them, and you know
that they're good at this.
So I knocked on the door of myfriend, who's been on our
podcast, uh, Barrett.
Because Barrett is much likeStuart.
That she's not really Tooworried about the minute
(19:46):
chachkis.
That's just not her thing.
It's about, she should havebeen, or is, and she can do the
room layout and the architect,and so she came to the basement
and she's like, Oh no, you dothis.
You put this and this and thisand this.
And it's one of those thingsshe, I asked her, I said, are
you sure?
And she kind of looked at me andI said, Okay, I just fired
(20:08):
myself.
Whatever you tell me to do.
That's why you're here.
I trust you.
And that's what customers havedone for me, right?
They can't see it.
They don't understand it, butthey say, I trust you.
And that's what I had to do waslet go and say, if I could have
done it.
I wouldn't have asked her to behere if I trusted my instinct.
I wouldn't have asked her to behere, but I don't.
(20:30):
And she's saying this is whatthe answer is.
I have to trust and I'm going totrust and it was 100 percent the
right answer.
And so, um, that that's alsowhat I want you to lean into is
if you hire somebody, trustthem.
Right?
If you didn't, right?
If you could have done ityourself, what the hell am I
doing here?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_0903 (20:49):
Right.
Yeah.
Well that's, we, we have talkedabout that.
If you hire somebody, you knowyou need to
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (20:56):
Yeah, just trust.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (20:58):
ask.
Ger Uh, Gertrude.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (21:00):
Yeah, yes.
And I go back to, it doesn'tmean you don't question
something, but ultimately, like,if you don't know and somebody's
telling you that, okay, thenthat's what we gotta do.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090 (21:10):
Mm-Hmm.
Are there designers that you'rereally like digging?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (21:18):
Um,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (21:19):
we, we, we can see if we have, they
have social handles.
We'll put'em down in our, ourshow notes.
But.
You
squadcaster-bge5_1_09- (21:25):
Gassler.
Um, always That's, that's kindof it.
That's it.
There's one.
There's one.
There's one.
I mean, that's, that's okay.
Uh, I'm sure there's lots ofothers out there.
Um, I could find appealing, butI really don't know.
Don't get on social media anddig into it.
I really don't look in to thatkind of thing.
(21:47):
So therefore there's notanybody, but I have all of her
books and I'm kind of like agroupie.
And I got one of her signedbooks.
So Jane at the rag peddler has afriend that sells really high
end linens that was from newOrleans.
Anyway, long story is, um, Janeand the high end linen person
were friends.
And then Jane was going to goto.
(22:11):
Atlanta with the high in linenpursing, and I'm talking about
10, 000 for linens for one bed.
I mean, crazy, right?
And they were going to meet,meet Suzanne because Suzanne was
utilizing, uh, and knew thisfriend, uh, Jane's friend in the
bedding.
And I found out about it and Isaid, could you please get my
book signed?
And that's like, that's the onlytime I've ever been like a
(22:31):
groupie or felt like I loved theBeatles.
And she did, she wrote me a nicelittle note and I, and she's
like, she doesn't have a cluewho I am, but I was like, I
really, really, um, not many.
People impressed me as far as,um, I don't get stage fright.
I don't get impressed by much.
Right.
I mean, I literally, I can, Ican meet Bill Clinton tomorrow
(22:53):
and I go, yeah, okay, whatever.
Right?
Uh, I'm thankful, I'm gratefulfor you too, but there's not,
just because I have thisapproach of we're all kind of
equal in this.
I can appreciate what you'vedone, but there's not, there's
not much star power there.
And she's my star power.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (23:12):
also love Suzanne.
She's been, um, very, uh, uh,Influential, I think in many
people's homes around thecountry, especially with her,
her partnership with Ballard'sand other, um, other lines for
me, I have, um, well, there'sone that I know that we share,
but he's more of anarchitectural designer, but he
(23:34):
still does house is BobbyMcAlpin.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (23:36):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (23:40):
Now this is real money.
This is like old money.
This is like, you know, old,new, old, it doesn't matter.
It's just millions and millionsand millions.
And you know, I ain't got it,but I do love his attention to,
uh, mixing natural materials andjust the lines and the stone and
the Lord, it would just gives mechills.
(24:00):
It's a good, um, there isanother architect who I love and
I follow and his name is Steve.
And I don't know if his lastname is Tyke, Tech, Teek, T I E
K.
I'll, I'll, um, put him down inthe bottom.
But he's out of Utah.
And I think he would reallyappreciate his, uh, uh, eye for
(24:23):
trim work and details.
It's, it's just, it's nextlevel.
Um, mm, it's so good.
And then the other one who Iappreciate a lot, um, and I
think she's got great style, isAshley Gilbreth.
Um, who is, I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (24:39):
See, I'm learning from you.
I don't even know these names.
so here we
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (24:42):
she's out of, uh, Birmingham and so
she has a very classic Southernupscale take and she's done a
lot of, um, well it was, so Ifound her on Instagram years ago
and followed her and I justliked the look.
It was all very good.
(25:03):
Southern and classic, but it'sjust fresh and I don't know.
Um, and, um, I was following heron Instagram and then we were
down in Rosemary beach and thenshe had a store.
She had a little shop that shewas like, this is making sense.
She doesn't live here.
Well, then I realized she wasdoing a lot of houses down
there.
So she has that kind of Rosemarybeach, um, aesthetic.
(25:24):
So it's cool.
Clean and, and, and beautiful,but, um, she just really did a
cabin.
I think her and her husbandbought a cabin in, I don't know
if it's the cashiers or I don't,I don't know where they're at,
but somewhere in, in that areaand, um, she posted pictures of
this, this cabin and it's unlikeany cabin I've ever seen.
(25:48):
This is a cabin, like Iinstantly wanted to buy a cabin
and do and do one.
It's inspired by this because itwas so it was so good.
But I'll share I'll put the
squadcaster-bge5_1_ (25:59):
Absolutely.
No, I'm curious
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090 (26:00):
they're so they're so good and so
beautiful.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (26:03):
Okay, Perfect.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (26:04):
asked two more questions, and then
we'll figure it out.
Okay, so maybe 30 minutes.
Somebody asked this question.
Okay.
I don't know how serious theyare.
And if they were just saying, ifI'd ask it, but how many pillows
do you sleep with at night?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (26:24):
One.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (26:25):
Me too But I when they said this I
thought this is an interestingquestion because I only sleep
with one My husband sleeps withtwo and what I instantly thought
of was, you know This issomething that everybody's very
unique with and different andyou know, you need what you need
to sleep But I had clients Uh,on and we were working on their
(26:47):
primary and we were going to dodo pretty pillows and you know
I'm not one to try to shove 700pillows on a bed, right?
Um, so I did some euros that Idid like a long Lumbar or
something.
I can't remember exactly what itwas And then it was like she's
like, where are these gonna go?
And then she just kept pullingthese pillows from the floor and
(27:08):
I said, what are those?
She goes these are the pillowswe sleep with there were like
eight You Pillows, and she'slike, well, I need two for my
head.
I need one.
I need two for my front.
I have one between my legsThere's one behind me and then
she's like these are just mineThose aren't talking about my
husband's and then there's likea one of those birthing pillows
Like, you know, like thatpregnant women have that they
(27:29):
like I was like You need likethree beds.
I don't know how people sleep ina bed.
Well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (27:38):
that I've never ran into that, you
know, just not.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (27:41):
I said, look, I don't know what
you're going to put me in.
But when a company comes over,just throw them in the floor on
the other side.
I don't, you know, if it mattersto you, like
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (27:48):
No,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (27:49):
out of me, I don't think people
coming
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (27:50):
Kathy found me this crazy pillow
because I have neck issues andit's this tempur pedic pillow
that's, uh, cooling gels becauseI get hot at night, but it's
also, um, contours and it's thisweirdest looking pillow, but it
cradles my little neck and Iused to have headaches all the
time.
And when she got me that crazypillow, it has been, uh, A
(28:10):
savior for me, a savior for me.
I should probably post thatpillow.
Cause I'm telling you, anybodyhas neck problems and sleep at
night.
This is the best pillow in theworld.
Period.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:20):
not going to test.
He takes this pillow everywhere.
It goes everywhere we go.
Hmm.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05 (28:26):
later, I couldn't move my neck.
A pillow has changed my littleworld a little bit.
One pillow.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:33):
One pillow.
Well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (28:35):
It's not my pillow.
either.
Have you ever tried one ofthose?
My dad bought one and it's thisweird little, it is.
It's weird.
It's like a beanbag pillow.
It's like a pillow, like abeanbag.
It's odd,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:49):
I never,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (28:50):
Anyway, I'm not beating up on him.
I just, I found it
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:52):
no, he's crazy.
He is crazy.
You beat up on him.
Everybody knows that man iscrazy.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (28:57):
Uh, I'm not going down that path, so
let's go move on.
Next
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (29:00):
I'm going, I'm going down.
He's fucking nuts.
Okay.
Um, okay.
If there, if what is the onemeal.
This is like, it's not all justdesign really.
It's like all about the
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (29:12):
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's, it's, it's speed dating onTinder for the,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (29:15):
Yeah.
There we go.
Swipe right.
So I don't know which way again.
So I don't know what I just did.
I might have blocked you.
Um, Oh, the one meal that meanshome to you.
Like when you bite into it andyou're like, Oh, this is home.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (29:30):
Oh, I, I can make this one easy.
It's not even a meal.
It's one thing.
It is my, yeah.
My mom's macaroni salad.
And I know, I know I have this,this reoccurring longing my life
to know that one day when Idon't have my sweet mama with
me.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (29:49):
Mm hmm.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (29:50):
Mm-Hmm.
Mm-Hmm
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (29:52):
there for you.
Hmm.
Well, now she we're gonna haveto get Miss Sandy to make make
some this because I don't thinkI've ever tried it and now I
gotta have it.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (30:01):
It's just basic, but it is her and
she sticks her finger in it andthat is
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (30:06):
Okay, hold on.
Maybe I don't need to.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (30:09):
no, it's good It's good.
It's good But I just for somereason that is that's what I
think of and I'm like, I'll knowone day
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (30:17):
Yeah,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2024 (30:18):
I won't have that macaroni salad
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (30:20):
Yeah, I got you.
Understand that very well.
I don't have anything that mymama made.
Because I love my mama, but she,she is not a good cook.
Um, I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (30:36):
She's a good woman good
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (30:37):
oh, she, she's a good woman.
We all have, we all have ourflaws, but she is a good woman.
She loves me.
Um, unconditionally, at least Ithink anyway, um, I don't know.
I've pissed her off a few times.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (30:50):
imagine that
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (30:52):
but, um, listen, I was right.
It doesn't matter.
Um, but I still love my mama.
Um, but she didn't do all thecooking.
Granny did.
Cause granny was always the bigcook.
Right?
So all of the meals that in mylife that mean anything all have
come from my grandmother.
and the meal that she had.
was she just called it peppersteak.
(31:12):
I don't know where it came from.
Uh, you know, I don't, but it'segg noodles and I'll, I have the
recipe.
I'll, I'll put it down or put itin our.
Uh blog so people can see itbecause it's one of my favorite
one of my favorite things on theplanet and um I'm trying to
think I know it was the weekthat she passed away and it I I
(31:34):
can't I can't remember what itwas, but uh, I came home and
jeremy had fixed it and He justknew He knew I needed
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (31:42):
Mm
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (31:42):
it was, but it's a real close tie
between that and her fried greentomatoes.
So, um, and you know, friedgreen tomatoes are one of those
things.
I just don't understand how theycan taste so different
everywhere you go.
Cause hers always tasted thesame, like always tasted the
same
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05 (31:59):
You've done this before.
They're really simple.
What you, what she made, whatyou make.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (32:03):
she, I mean, she literally, she
sliced them, she salted them topull out, you know, all the
excess liquid.
And when she had to say shesalted them, she salted them.
Um, don't be fearful of that.
And then she, you know, she usedCrisco and melted that.
And then she, she put a littlebit of flour, but it was
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (32:23):
So when you say Crisco, was it
liquid Crisco or that the, thecongealed?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09 (32:27):
congeal, well you melt it, yeah, you take
that and you put it
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (32:29):
But it doesn't matter, basic, but it
doesn't need to be Crisco.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (32:32):
yeah, she loves, that's what she used,
that was granny's cooking stuff,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (32:35):
Well, see, I think that's part of the
character of it.
I think it's the subtle nuance.
That's the character of it.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (32:40):
and, you know, that was in the frying
pan, and then she literally justdipped the, um, the salted, um,
She just dipped the fried, well,hell, she just dipped the green
tomatoes that had been salted,um, and put them in the
cornmeal.
No, she had salted and alsopeppered the cornmeal because,
you know, more salt is alwaysbetter.
(33:02):
Um, and,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (33:04):
she she lived a long time, so it
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (33:06):
oh yeah, Lord, you know.
And, um, and then she just friedthem.
So it was a real thin, it wasn'tlike a batter or anything like
that.
It was very, very easy.
You just do it until they'regolden brown.
You put them over and, ooh, mm,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (33:18):
Well, I, I want to be remiss to say
this food is my love language.
That's what gives me, um, thattells me that I'm loved.
And so like Kathy, and it'sreally almost at Easter's really
when she does it, she makes aseven layer salad, but it's
actually a six layer saladbecause she doesn't put peas in
it because if anybody knows, Ihate peas.
I hate peas and her fat cousinllama and uh, so I know that
(33:41):
that seven layer salad is
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_0903 (33:43):
Mmhmm.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (33:46):
And I love that so much because you
can have it But she made thisfor me and I just love that
salad because of that and thenkathy's grandmother had um on
her father's side um Mert hadthe world famous chicken and
dumplings, and she would notshare this recipe until
literally she was at our housedying of cancer.
And we have these framed recipesof the women of Kathy's life and
(34:11):
Ian, I'll tell you that story inanother podcast, but there's
framed recipes of all the womenin her life on our wall.
And, Kathy said, Mammal Mert,don't pass without sharing this
because she had grown children.
She wouldn't share this recipe.
So Mert wrote it out and it'sframed and Chloe And Kathy take
the recipe down and they alwaysmake it usually Christmas Eve or
(34:31):
on Thanksgiving either one ofthose holidays usually just once
a year but that also when I eatthat I think of memories and
life and all things good
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (34:42):
Yeah, food is such an incredible
thing.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (34:45):
Yeah,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (34:45):
To tie people to memories and times
and places.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (34:50):
takes us and he he makes the
reservations when we go toAtlanta.
I'd like food and I eateverything but he takes us to
this restaurant.
That's I don't know some urbanspoon.
I don't know what it's freakingcalled and it's, you know, it's
it's country kitchen, right?
And they have, you know, Friedchicken.
And I was like, well, what kindof potatoes you have?
(35:10):
Oh, we don't have potatoes.
We have grits or they have lardlim lims or something like that.
Like you're a country restaurantwithout a mashed potato, a fried
potato, baked potato, scallopedpotato, a boiled potato, butter
potato, not a potato.
No, no potato.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (35:29):
Okay, well let me paint you the
accurate picture of what thisis.
It's a southern, it's an updatedsouthern restaurant.
Not a country.
Southern.
Two different things.
And, there, it's not even
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (35:43):
when he did twenty nine dollars for a
piece of chicken.
Come
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (35:46):
I mean, well, everything, you
know, everything's expensivewhen you go into the city
anyway.
But they did, he just wanted, hewanted, he was good with the
fried chicken.
It came with greens.
He didn't want the
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (35:56):
Very good chicken.
Yeah
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (35:59):
and then he was like, can I just get
mashed potatoes?
And she says, we don't havemashed potatoes.
And he's like, how do you nothave mashed potatoes?
She goes, well, we havescalloped potatoes.
I don't want scalloped potatoes.
I want mashed potatoes.
I'm sorry, sir.
We don't have mashed potatoes.
How are you a Southernrestaurant?
Don't have mashed potatoes.
I'm sorry, sir.
We don't have mashed potatoes.
That's more of like how it went.
So
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (36:22):
very very good.
They're very good.
We went there the last time wewere there and they really look
with all jokes aside that thescallop potatoes are very very
good I still don't understandhow you don't have fried
potatoes mashed potatoes, butwhatever.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (36:34):
I'm with you.
It's interesting, but I don'tknow.
Listen, mashed potatoes.
Yeah.
Okay,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (36:39):
seems basic
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (36:40):
last question is, and if you have
one, you can ask.
If you
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2024 (36:44):
I don't have anything.
Anything to bring to the table.
Yes.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (36:48):
you had a tagline, a phrase, a
statement that you felt wasrepresented you and your life
and your spirit as a whole?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (37:03):
No.
Yeah.
It's a sign.
And my wife bought it a thousandyears ago.
And you'll, you'll know this.
Work hard.
Be nice.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (37:10):
Yeah,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (37:11):
yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (37:13):
Yeah, very simple.
Yeah.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (37:15):
Yeah.
Look, that.
that's, that's, that's all yougotta do.
The rest of it will fall inplace.
Go to work.
Don't expect anybody to give youanything, right?
Be grateful for those who pickyou up and lift you up and say,
thank you, but don't expect it.
Right?
There are no guarantees andevery opportunity, when you can,
(37:38):
be nice to somebody.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024 (37:39):
Absolutely.
No.
I thought about this one.
And I thought, you know, It wasinstant when I said it, um, and
for me, it's just, I think it's,it has just always been
something that's just alwaysrolled off my tongue.
Um, there was an occurrence witha coworker of ours and something
(38:01):
had happened, somebody had comeinto the store and, um, You
know, it was just, it was kindof disappointing.
It was, it was just, it wasn't agood situation.
And I said, well, I said, justremember we're all God's
children.
And, um, and I was like, youknow what?
And I thought that came from atthe time, just a visceral gut
(38:22):
response.
But I was like, yeah, no, that'sit.
We're all God's children.
And so I just always try to, um,we're all just trying to do our
best.
Sometimes failing miserably.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (38:33):
well, you know what, the first thing
that popped to me is, becauseyou are gay, some people don't
see you as God's children.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (38:40):
Yeah, well, yeah,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (38:43):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (38:43):
yeah.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (38:44):
Fuck you.
Who thinks that, right?
And that's as strong as I cansay of how much I love
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (38:52):
Oh, love you too, friend.
All right.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (38:54):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (38:55):
All right.
Well, work hard and be nice.
And remember, we're all God'schildren.
And we'll be back next Wednesdaywith another podcast.
Hopefully Stuart will be backfrom the beach.
I don't know.
He might have, he was swimmingwith sea turtles yesterday.
So he might lose a finger.
I don't know.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (39:09):
Well, he's a little man, he can ride
some of those sea turtles.
Hmm.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09 (39:13):
Alright, well, um, again, if you haven't
downloaded our shopping app, besure that you download that.
You can find it in the shownotes below.
and remember our hotline, whichis also listed below.
If you have another questionyou'd like to ask, aside from
how many pillows we sleep with,you're more than welcome to send
us your questions.
And we will see you again nextWednesday with a new podcast.
(39:33):
Thanks for listening, guys.
Bye.
Good morning, let's start off our
(00:01):
podcast with a dad joke.
Are you ready?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (00:04):
uh, well, you are a dad, I am ready.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (00:07):
Yeah.
Yeah taco emergency call 9 1 1Is that the best Okay, brother.
(00:27):
Tell me what your plans are.
What do you not wait a minute?
Is there silence?
There's not another voice.
We don't hear
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (00:35):
it is a little silent extra today
because this week Stewart is onvacation.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (00:41):
good for him.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (00:42):
Yeah, well, he, I mean, he deserved
it.
So, I mean, every day I'vewanted to ring his neck while he
is gone.
'cause there's stuff I had to dothat he should have done.
But, you know, Hey,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (00:56):
I'll just sit here and be quiet
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (01:00):
No, no, he, he
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (01:01):
With that
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (01:02):
he tried to get everything done
before he left.
So I've just been, there's justbeen small things and it takes a
village.
We know that.
Well, okay.
So trying to figure out what wewere going to discuss today.
Um, and you know, it's just thetwo of us.
And, um, so I thought, well,it'd be an easier, like
conversation, even though it'swhat we always do anyway.
Um, but I thought, you know, wego, we've worked together for 20
(01:23):
years, which is, Crazy.
Um, and there are a lot ofthings that we know about each
other, but there, I thinkthere's a lot of things that we
don't know about each other.
And then I know definitelypeople who listening at home.
Um, even if they've beencustomers virus for 20 years,
there's a lot of stuff that theydon't know about.
So I thought this would be alittle interesting, like getting
(01:44):
to know you, um, humor fieldsection.
So
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (01:48):
podcast speed dating?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (01:51):
sure.
Listen, you know, neither one ofus have dated in a very long
time.
I can't imagine having to dothat.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (02:00):
This is gonna be our version of
tinder
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (02:04):
Yeah, but if I swipe or, I don't even
know which way you swipe.
I know you swipe.
If I swipe,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (02:08):
don't either.
I
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (02:09):
I'm afraid I'm going to lose you on
the computer screen.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (02:14):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, it is not, not good outthere.
So I've been told.
So,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (02:20):
well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (02:21):
anyway.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (02:21):
I don't even, I don't, oh lord,
Jeremy and I went to dinner theother night, and I won't mention
the restaurant in case thepeople that, um, well I'm gonna
talk about listen to thepodcast.
But it was
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (02:33):
the tens of tens?
Come on,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (02:35):
well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (02:35):
You are fooling yourself.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (02:37):
how many people have stopped you to
tell you they listen to thepodcast, that you have no clue
who they are?
Okay, well, steals.
Well, seven.
She could have been one of theseven.
I don't know.
Um, but we were at dinner and itwas, um, Oh God, maybe I got my
inspiration for this.
Podcast from her because theywere literally sitting at the
(02:57):
table next to us And she waslike getting into her phone and
then asking all these questionsAnd they were like the worst
questions ever and I thoughtlord if this is a first date
Doomed and my husband just keptlooking at him.
It's like if you if you needhelp blink blink twice It was
just it was it was really odd.
(03:18):
Okay Yeah, all right.
So what I I have questions andwe'll both answer them, but I
thought these would be things umYou That would be interesting to
know because I think it tellsyou more about you as a whole
and your life and, and, and Idon't know, interesting stuff.
Okay,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (03:34):
Okay, let's see.
This is your experiment.
So I got to see what you'regoing with.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (03:37):
Well, you know, I'm, I'm winging most
of it, but you know, hey, we're,we're doing our best.
You know, we, my goal was towrite all these questions down
yesterday and then of course,you know, we had our live sale
last night and that takes half aday to get ready for and then
you got to do that at night andthen, you know, they just, you
know, there's not enough time.
Okay.
Um, so the first question is,well, no, it's two thoughts put
(03:59):
into one, I'll listen to the,Julia Louis Dreyfus podcast, I
don't remember what it's called,but it's funny.
Um, and one of the questionsthat she always asks somebody in
her podcast is if there wassomething that you would have
gone back to in your life andsaid, yes.
And basically, like, is it,what's the one thing that you'd
like to go back and change?
Or is there one thing you'd liketo change?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (04:21):
Um, whatever, whatever.
I'd like to have been a schoolteacher.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (04:25):
Would you?
Or you would have?
Oh,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (04:28):
What?
I don't know.
That's the because I didn't doit and I didn't pursue it.
I don't know that answer.
But that was the other thingthat, um, called to my mind.
Heart.
This is what you need to be whenyou grow up.
This is what you need to be whenyou grow up.
And I didn't do it.
Um, So in the heart of who I am,I think I am a teacher.
(04:52):
I just do it in a different way.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (04:53):
Oh, You
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (04:54):
And,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (04:55):
are.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (04:56):
and, Knowing what my clients go
through as a teacher, Teacherwhat I knew my mom went through
as a teacher, and I think that'spart of the reasoning.
I saw, the challenge of wanting,not to do that, seeing what my
wife goes through as a schoolteacher.
Now, Chloe's new.
She's only a few weeks into it,and she literally, her
principal, her, her team ofteachers and the students of all
(05:20):
wrapped their arms around herand giving her love, right?
Uh, but I see the school systemas a challenge and knowing my
personality and I might'vechanged it and adjusted it.
Um, I probably would've beenfired the first week, but I
doubt it truthfully.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (05:35):
day one.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (05:36):
you know what, I say, you say that
and, um, I could have, Ibelieve, see, here, here's the
problem.
I've only worked for myself forthe very longest of time and
therefore then it changes howyou think and approach and do
because if you don't do it, fixit, say it, then anybody,
(05:57):
they'll run over top of you.
Right.
And, you have to be strong andyou have to trust your instinct
and you have to trust your, gutwhen it comes to business,
really, once it's said and done,you've got to listen to the
voice.
And I think that's true in life,but in particularly on your own
business, you've got to listento your gut.
And if your gut said, eventhough everybody around you is
saying you need to do that, youneed to do this, you need to do
(06:18):
this, you listen, you take itin, but if your gut comes back
and says, no, I got to do this,you just have to go with that.
I don't think that can benecessarily true.
And other jobs that you work forsomebody else, right?
Because you ultimately kind ofgot to do what people tell you
to do.
And that's not, it's a completeopposite for me in business
ownership.
I'd see it completely different.
(06:39):
Now that doesn't mean you don'tdismiss people.
It doesn't mean you hear people.
It doesn't mean you pivot, butultimately you got to listen to
your gut.
Maybe that's true in life.
I don't know, but I feel like,um, I would have listened more
because it would have been a, anecessary aspect of how you work
with people, uh, that you're,you're like, you're rolling your
(07:01):
eyes.
I know you're thinking, he'slike, No! because you're like, I
worked with you and you didn'tlisten to anybody.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (07:06):
Well, no, that was 20 years into you
being an adult.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (07:10):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (07:11):
Well, I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (07:11):
And I had already experienced it
like
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (07:13):
but you know, you'd been adult and
you had, you'd owned your ownbusiness.
You had worked at other places.
Like you said, you had, you madedecisions.
You did your thing.
And by the time I started tomeet you, you, I mean, you were
30.
Well, we won't get into it, butsomewhere in the mid thirties.
And, um, so you've started tofigure out who you were.
Yeah, somewhat you start startedto figure out who you were,
(07:35):
right and wrong and where youstand.
So now I know I get what you'resaying.
Because like, I do think like,if you got if you would have
went in at 2021 into a schooland knowing you and knowing your
heart You would have doneanything possible for the kids,
right?
Like it would have, you wouldhave always been there and built
(07:55):
them up.
And cause you are like theworld's biggest cheerleader and
teacher.
Um, but I mean, our luck, youwould have gotten like some
horrible principal and you'dhave been out the first day, you
know?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (08:10):
Yeah, and it could have been, it could
have been, um, I, I, I see, um,I see our school system, um,
struggling and, uh, you know,it's from an outside, outside
perspective, but also see thosewho are trying to hang on by
their claws to, to change itand, make it better.
And then, you know, I'm not surewhen it's going to air, but
we're just off the cusp of themost recent school shooting.
(08:33):
And, you know, other people arelike, oh, we've got, you know,
uh, we got to change things.
We got to, you know, I want to,I best do not want to hear that.
I want to pray about this.
It's like, I don't want to prayanymore.
I want to do something.
And I really am at a place ofbeing numb about this.
(08:53):
And this is the last, last placeI want to be.
Um, my heart is with my wifewho, Is a math teacher and the
two people that got killed weremath teacher.
So in a middle school, she's amiddle school math teacher and
it makes it even a connectionand my sweet daughter in the
school system.
So I'm in the trenches ofputting the, two things I love
(09:15):
the most in a place that's notsafe.
And, um, we're not listening.
We're not listening.
And so I'm not going intopolitics.
We're not listening.
So long story is, um, you Ourschool system is in trouble, but
there's so many reasons why.
And I'm thankful that I have twopeople that I love the most that
(09:35):
are hanging on and trying tomake a difference.
And they will, they will.
So that's, that's, that's it.
So I wonder, could I have beenthat person?
That, that's, along just, Iwonder if I could have been that
person.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (09:47):
you could have.
Yeah.
You, you, you would have beenthe, you would have been, uh,
Alexander the great.
I think you would have been a,uh, a big, a conqueror.
I do think that, but you'veconquered many other things.
So it's not like you've not,it's not like you've failed a
lot.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (10:08):
uh, also thought this.
I will, Never be the smartestperson in the room, but what I
will be is the one thatsurvives.
And because, like, you give me achallenge and I'll actually, I'm
going to outthink you, outworkyou, and outdo you.
And that's, if you don't havethat drive, then, you know, I
actually, I think you've lookedat me before and you've said to
(10:31):
me, not everybody has the samedrive.
Um, intensity or work driverthat you do.
And I've had to dial it backbecause I can be pretty rough on
people.
And I have, I've kind ofsoftened with that because it
landed on me learning this yearsago, they don't see it and I'm a
seer, right?
You are a seer and,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (10:51):
My husband might disagree with you.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (10:54):
well, you see work.
I can't, I can't commit to whatyou say at home,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (11:00):
It's not what I say.
It's just about cleaning athome.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (11:02):
Well, see, that's different.
I'm talking about, well, it iscleaning here, but you're at
work to give you all the creditwhere you see what needs to be
done for work and you neverstop.
So you're a seer, you're adifferent seer, but you're a
seer and there are a lot of nonseers in the world that needs to
be done.
Right?
And those who see, um, it'stough, right?
(11:26):
Because like, I'm like, how canyou not, I literally have said
this a thousand times, how canyou not see this?
Right?
And it's like, I'm equating itto being cleaning,
straightening, fluffing, fixing,doing, right?
Literally, just seeing the storeneeds to be cleaned.
Now, stop there.
The crew that we have and thepeople there, we've got sears.
(11:48):
And it's been a wonderfulexperience.
I said that, you know, I startedredisplaying something a few
weeks ago, and normally I wouldhave to clean the shelf and do
all this stuff.
I'm not.
Past cleaning the shelf, butthat's not my, needed expertise.
I just need to take the shelfand make it pretty.
Instead of spending 15 minutescleaning it.
Well, the last couple of timesI've been displaying stuff, it
(12:10):
is clean.
And I'm like, Oh Lord, I lovethis.
And I purposely told those who Iknew were going the seers of
that part.
They're seers of differentthings.
And I told those two people, Ithank you because you made my
work and day easier.
So that's also something youneed to see is acknowledge the
good, not the bad.
Always say to people the goodstuff, not the bad stuff.
(12:34):
Fair enough.
Okay.
Anyway, that was 14 minutesalready into this.
One, one question.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (12:39):
Well, you know, um, for me.
I have always tried to, uh,believe whatever decisions I've
made in life were what I wassupposed to be.
And we, I, you know, I'vementioned how, you know, numbers
I see, and then I feel like thatI'm where I'm supposed to be and
those kinds of things.
The only thing that I wish Icould have changed, was, or I
(13:02):
would have said yes to, was Imarched drum corps one year, in
2001 and my feet, I don't, uh,we haven't had any problems
since then.
So, um, you know, whatever, butthe bone structure that I have
in my feet are kind of wonky.
Um, and I was in incrediblepain, um, taking ridiculous
amounts of, whatever painmedicine at the time just to get
(13:26):
through, the season.
And so when I went to the doctorafter that, the foot doctor was
like, Hmm, yeah, you probablyshouldn't do that again.
Um, cause I don't think you'llmake it through another season.
Cause by the end of the season,my feet were so destroyed.
And so I didn't go back with theage out basically the oldest
year you can be 21 before youage out And so I didn't go back
(13:47):
to do it and I were I regretthat because I know it would
have been an incredibleExperience and I would have
loved every minute of it but theopposite side of that is that
was the last Summer vacationthat I was able to take with my
grandparents where we went toFlorida so I was able to be with
them um to Pawpaw's last trip tothe beach that he just, he
(14:11):
loved.
They loved the beach.
it's like there's those kinds ofthings, right?
So it's like, okay, it wasn'tlike I totally missed out, but
that's the one thing.
If I could have changedeverything, I would have, um,
it's not one thing.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (14:23):
You didn't feel like you finished
it,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (14:25):
yeah, I feel like I finished it.
Yeah.
You know, but, you know, I had agreat summer.
I still have incredible friendsthat we marched together and
love them all and learned lotsof things and, all that kind of
stuff.
But that's the one thing I lookback and I'm like, yeah, okay.
You know, I've always tried tobe really cognizant of not
taking anything for granted.
(14:46):
Um, and I won't say that thatwas always at the forefront of
my mind.
Um, it definitely, that switchkind of flipped when my
grandfather became ill, youknow.
back in 2012, 2010.
Um, and so ever since then I'vebeen much more present anytime
(15:07):
that with I've tried not to takeanything for granted.
Um, every hug, every pad, everylove you on the phone, um,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (15:15):
shook you up, didn't it?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (15:16):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And, uh, so I don't, And it maybe because I don't, I don't
know, but I tried to, I just tryto be aware and appreciative of
that moment.
Cause you know, eventually theygoing to be gone.
But like, you know, every time Icall granny, she would, she'd
say, hello.
(15:37):
I'd say, Hey granny.
And she'd say, Hey hun.
And like every time she said,Hey hun, like it was in a tone
of voice that she never usedwith anybody except for me.
And um, yeah.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (15:51):
Yeah.
Well, you're the first, well,your mom's an only child.
So you were the first grandchild
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (15:55):
well, Mom, well, Mom did have a sister
when they were young and shepassed away, but yeah, no, Mom,
Mom was the
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (16:00):
but okay.
I'll revert back to, she wasraised because she lost her, uh,
her sister early on, basicallyas an only child.
I'll say it that way.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (16:08):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So, um, but yeah, so and then Ihad my sister, um, but you know,
I was the one calling andchecking in on her every night
and all those kind of things.
But so, I mean, I was thefavorite.
I was told this week, you're,you're, you are my favorite.
And I said, I have that effecton people.
I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (16:29):
Okay.
You got another question for
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (16:31):
do.
Okay, so this has to do withdesign, since, you know, we
talked about design stuff.
What, what one thing do you wishthat you were better at?
In design or what would you, youhad more knowledge?
Like what's, where do you feellike to you?
Like,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (16:44):
Oh gosh.
There's lots of things.
'cause I don't have, I don'thave this background.
I have an accounting backgroundand so I feel like I, okay.
I know, I
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (16:51):
Don't go 45 minutes.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (16:58):
at visualizing the space of the
room that it's harder for me.
It's not scale.
Uh, it's like if people aredoing a remodel and the wall
needs to be moved or the kitchenneeds to go on this side of the
house or that.
I'm like, I kind of can't seethat you give me the house.
(17:19):
You give me the rooms and thisis the parameters.
This is what you got to workwith.
I'll make it look real, real,real good down to the last
toothpick, right?
That's the detail I am, but I'mtrying, I'm not an architect,
right?
And a lot of designers, Stuartis.
exceptionally good at it.
(17:40):
He should be an architectbecause that's, he sees the
space and he's better at givingthe space than he, and I think
that's his joy as opposed toputting the last toothpick in
the room, right?
And I wish I had thatwheelhouse.
I wish I had that ability.
There you go.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (17:57):
I, I'm similar in that.
I wish that the architecturalside of it, I wish that I was
better or understood it better.
Um, Cause like just to sit downand draw plans, that's not me,
you know, uh, and I have apretty good grasp on, proportion
(18:20):
and size, like without having tobe in the space,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (18:23):
Yeah.
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_0903 (18:24):
Stuart has the ability to like go in a
house and remember every turnand every doorway.
I agree.
I don't have that, um, but Ican, so if you tell me to go
from one room to the next, Ican't, in my mind, I don't, I
can't walk from one to the next.
Well, that's not, maybe not, ifI've been in the house multiple
times, yes.
If I've been in the house once,no, he can do it in one.
(18:46):
Um, but I can see the whole roomin my head.
Like, if I'm not in the room, Ican see it and then be able to
turn in that space and like knowwhat's like, know what's going
to be too big.
And I don't know, you're thatway too, as far as like
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (19:01):
No, I can see.
that it's it's more about giveme the room but if you want me
to reimagine the room smallerbigger backside of the house
Just like I can't do that.
Not easy You can get there I canget there, but it is Not my
strength.
Um when I was redoing um, ordoing the basement I had this,
uh, I thought I knew what I wasdoing, and this is where the
(19:24):
kitchen is going to be in thebasement, and this is where the
family room is going to be.
But I started looking at it, andit's like a little self doubt,
and when you have good friends,and you trust them, and you know
that they're good at this.
So I knocked on the door of myfriend, who's been on our
podcast, uh, Barrett.
Because Barrett is much likeStuart.
That she's not really Tooworried about the minute
(19:46):
chachkis.
That's just not her thing.
It's about, she should havebeen, or is, and she can do the
room layout and the architect,and so she came to the basement
and she's like, Oh no, you dothis.
You put this and this and thisand this.
And it's one of those thingsshe, I asked her, I said, are
you sure?
And she kind of looked at me andI said, Okay, I just fired
(20:08):
myself.
Whatever you tell me to do.
That's why you're here.
I trust you.
And that's what customers havedone for me, right?
They can't see it.
They don't understand it, butthey say, I trust you.
And that's what I had to do waslet go and say, if I could have
done it.
I wouldn't have asked her to behere if I trusted my instinct.
I wouldn't have asked her to behere, but I don't.
(20:30):
And she's saying this is whatthe answer is.
I have to trust and I'm going totrust and it was 100 percent the
right answer.
And so, um, that that's alsowhat I want you to lean into is
if you hire somebody, trustthem.
Right?
If you didn't, right?
If you could have done ityourself, what the hell am I
doing here?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_0903 (20:49):
Right.
Yeah.
Well that's, we, we have talkedabout that.
If you hire somebody, you knowyou need to
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (20:56):
Yeah, just trust.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (20:58):
ask.
Ger Uh, Gertrude.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (21:00):
Yeah, yes.
And I go back to, it doesn'tmean you don't question
something, but ultimately, like,if you don't know and somebody's
telling you that, okay, thenthat's what we gotta do.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090 (21:10):
Mm-Hmm.
Are there designers that you'rereally like digging?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (21:18):
Um,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (21:19):
we, we, we can see if we have, they
have social handles.
We'll put'em down in our, ourshow notes.
But.
You
squadcaster-bge5_1_09- (21:25):
Gassler.
Um, always That's, that's kindof it.
That's it.
There's one.
There's one.
There's one.
I mean, that's, that's okay.
Uh, I'm sure there's lots ofothers out there.
Um, I could find appealing, butI really don't know.
Don't get on social media anddig into it.
I really don't look in to thatkind of thing.
(21:47):
So therefore there's notanybody, but I have all of her
books and I'm kind of like agroupie.
And I got one of her signedbooks.
So Jane at the rag peddler has afriend that sells really high
end linens that was from newOrleans.
Anyway, long story is, um, Janeand the high end linen person
were friends.
And then Jane was going to goto.
(22:11):
Atlanta with the high in linenpursing, and I'm talking about
10, 000 for linens for one bed.
I mean, crazy, right?
And they were going to meet,meet Suzanne because Suzanne was
utilizing, uh, and knew thisfriend, uh, Jane's friend in the
bedding.
And I found out about it and Isaid, could you please get my
book signed?
And that's like, that's the onlytime I've ever been like a
(22:31):
groupie or felt like I loved theBeatles.
And she did, she wrote me a nicelittle note and I, and she's
like, she doesn't have a cluewho I am, but I was like, I
really, really, um, not many.
People impressed me as far as,um, I don't get stage fright.
I don't get impressed by much.
Right.
I mean, I literally, I can, Ican meet Bill Clinton tomorrow
(22:53):
and I go, yeah, okay, whatever.
Right?
Uh, I'm thankful, I'm gratefulfor you too, but there's not,
just because I have thisapproach of we're all kind of
equal in this.
I can appreciate what you'vedone, but there's not, there's
not much star power there.
And she's my star power.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (23:12):
also love Suzanne.
She's been, um, very, uh, uh,Influential, I think in many
people's homes around thecountry, especially with her,
her partnership with Ballard'sand other, um, other lines for
me, I have, um, well, there'sone that I know that we share,
but he's more of anarchitectural designer, but he
(23:34):
still does house is BobbyMcAlpin.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (23:36):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (23:40):
Now this is real money.
This is like old money.
This is like, you know, old,new, old, it doesn't matter.
It's just millions and millionsand millions.
And you know, I ain't got it,but I do love his attention to,
uh, mixing natural materials andjust the lines and the stone and
the Lord, it would just gives mechills.
(24:00):
It's a good, um, there isanother architect who I love and
I follow and his name is Steve.
And I don't know if his lastname is Tyke, Tech, Teek, T I E
K.
I'll, I'll, um, put him down inthe bottom.
But he's out of Utah.
And I think he would reallyappreciate his, uh, uh, eye for
(24:23):
trim work and details.
It's, it's just, it's nextlevel.
Um, mm, it's so good.
And then the other one who Iappreciate a lot, um, and I
think she's got great style, isAshley Gilbreth.
Um, who is, I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (24:39):
See, I'm learning from you.
I don't even know these names.
so here we
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (24:42):
she's out of, uh, Birmingham and so
she has a very classic Southernupscale take and she's done a
lot of, um, well it was, so Ifound her on Instagram years ago
and followed her and I justliked the look.
It was all very good.
(25:03):
Southern and classic, but it'sjust fresh and I don't know.
Um, and, um, I was following heron Instagram and then we were
down in Rosemary beach and thenshe had a store.
She had a little shop that shewas like, this is making sense.
She doesn't live here.
Well, then I realized she wasdoing a lot of houses down
there.
So she has that kind of Rosemarybeach, um, aesthetic.
(25:24):
So it's cool.
Clean and, and, and beautiful,but, um, she just really did a
cabin.
I think her and her husbandbought a cabin in, I don't know
if it's the cashiers or I don't,I don't know where they're at,
but somewhere in, in that areaand, um, she posted pictures of
this, this cabin and it's unlikeany cabin I've ever seen.
(25:48):
This is a cabin, like Iinstantly wanted to buy a cabin
and do and do one.
It's inspired by this because itwas so it was so good.
But I'll share I'll put the
squadcaster-bge5_1_ (25:59):
Absolutely.
No, I'm curious
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090 (26:00):
they're so they're so good and so
beautiful.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (26:03):
Okay, Perfect.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (26:04):
asked two more questions, and then
we'll figure it out.
Okay, so maybe 30 minutes.
Somebody asked this question.
Okay.
I don't know how serious theyare.
And if they were just saying, ifI'd ask it, but how many pillows
do you sleep with at night?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (26:24):
One.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (26:25):
Me too But I when they said this I
thought this is an interestingquestion because I only sleep
with one My husband sleeps withtwo and what I instantly thought
of was, you know This issomething that everybody's very
unique with and different andyou know, you need what you need
to sleep But I had clients Uh,on and we were working on their
(26:47):
primary and we were going to dodo pretty pillows and you know
I'm not one to try to shove 700pillows on a bed, right?
Um, so I did some euros that Idid like a long Lumbar or
something.
I can't remember exactly what itwas And then it was like she's
like, where are these gonna go?
And then she just kept pullingthese pillows from the floor and
(27:08):
I said, what are those?
She goes these are the pillowswe sleep with there were like
eight You Pillows, and she'slike, well, I need two for my
head.
I need one.
I need two for my front.
I have one between my legsThere's one behind me and then
she's like these are just mineThose aren't talking about my
husband's and then there's likea one of those birthing pillows
Like, you know, like thatpregnant women have that they
(27:29):
like I was like You need likethree beds.
I don't know how people sleep ina bed.
Well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (27:38):
that I've never ran into that, you
know, just not.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (27:41):
I said, look, I don't know what
you're going to put me in.
But when a company comes over,just throw them in the floor on
the other side.
I don't, you know, if it mattersto you, like
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (27:48):
No,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (27:49):
out of me, I don't think people
coming
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (27:50):
Kathy found me this crazy pillow
because I have neck issues andit's this tempur pedic pillow
that's, uh, cooling gels becauseI get hot at night, but it's
also, um, contours and it's thisweirdest looking pillow, but it
cradles my little neck and Iused to have headaches all the
time.
And when she got me that crazypillow, it has been, uh, A
(28:10):
savior for me, a savior for me.
I should probably post thatpillow.
Cause I'm telling you, anybodyhas neck problems and sleep at
night.
This is the best pillow in theworld.
Period.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:20):
not going to test.
He takes this pillow everywhere.
It goes everywhere we go.
Hmm.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05 (28:26):
later, I couldn't move my neck.
A pillow has changed my littleworld a little bit.
One pillow.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:33):
One pillow.
Well,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (28:35):
It's not my pillow.
either.
Have you ever tried one ofthose?
My dad bought one and it's thisweird little, it is.
It's weird.
It's like a beanbag pillow.
It's like a pillow, like abeanbag.
It's odd,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:49):
I never,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (28:50):
Anyway, I'm not beating up on him.
I just, I found it
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (28:52):
no, he's crazy.
He is crazy.
You beat up on him.
Everybody knows that man iscrazy.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (28:57):
Uh, I'm not going down that path, so
let's go move on.
Next
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (29:00):
I'm going, I'm going down.
He's fucking nuts.
Okay.
Um, okay.
If there, if what is the onemeal.
This is like, it's not all justdesign really.
It's like all about the
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (29:12):
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's, it's, it's speed dating onTinder for the,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (29:15):
Yeah.
There we go.
Swipe right.
So I don't know which way again.
So I don't know what I just did.
I might have blocked you.
Um, Oh, the one meal that meanshome to you.
Like when you bite into it andyou're like, Oh, this is home.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (29:30):
Oh, I, I can make this one easy.
It's not even a meal.
It's one thing.
It is my, yeah.
My mom's macaroni salad.
And I know, I know I have this,this reoccurring longing my life
to know that one day when Idon't have my sweet mama with
me.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (29:49):
Mm hmm.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (29:50):
Mm-Hmm.
Mm-Hmm
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (29:52):
there for you.
Hmm.
Well, now she we're gonna haveto get Miss Sandy to make make
some this because I don't thinkI've ever tried it and now I
gotta have it.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (30:01):
It's just basic, but it is her and
she sticks her finger in it andthat is
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (30:06):
Okay, hold on.
Maybe I don't need to.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (30:09):
no, it's good It's good.
It's good But I just for somereason that is that's what I
think of and I'm like, I'll knowone day
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (30:17):
Yeah,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2024 (30:18):
I won't have that macaroni salad
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (30:20):
Yeah, I got you.
Understand that very well.
I don't have anything that mymama made.
Because I love my mama, but she,she is not a good cook.
Um, I
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (30:36):
She's a good woman good
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (30:37):
oh, she, she's a good woman.
We all have, we all have ourflaws, but she is a good woman.
She loves me.
Um, unconditionally, at least Ithink anyway, um, I don't know.
I've pissed her off a few times.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-0 (30:50):
imagine that
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (30:52):
but, um, listen, I was right.
It doesn't matter.
Um, but I still love my mama.
Um, but she didn't do all thecooking.
Granny did.
Cause granny was always the bigcook.
Right?
So all of the meals that in mylife that mean anything all have
come from my grandmother.
and the meal that she had.
was she just called it peppersteak.
(31:12):
I don't know where it came from.
Uh, you know, I don't, but it'segg noodles and I'll, I have the
recipe.
I'll, I'll put it down or put itin our.
Uh blog so people can see itbecause it's one of my favorite
one of my favorite things on theplanet and um I'm trying to
think I know it was the weekthat she passed away and it I I
(31:34):
can't I can't remember what itwas, but uh, I came home and
jeremy had fixed it and He justknew He knew I needed
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (31:42):
Mm
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (31:42):
it was, but it's a real close tie
between that and her fried greentomatoes.
So, um, and you know, friedgreen tomatoes are one of those
things.
I just don't understand how theycan taste so different
everywhere you go.
Cause hers always tasted thesame, like always tasted the
same
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05 (31:59):
You've done this before.
They're really simple.
What you, what she made, whatyou make.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (32:03):
she, I mean, she literally, she
sliced them, she salted them topull out, you know, all the
excess liquid.
And when she had to say shesalted them, she salted them.
Um, don't be fearful of that.
And then she, you know, she usedCrisco and melted that.
And then she, she put a littlebit of flour, but it was
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-202 (32:23):
So when you say Crisco, was it
liquid Crisco or that the, thecongealed?
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09 (32:27):
congeal, well you melt it, yeah, you take
that and you put it
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (32:29):
But it doesn't matter, basic, but it
doesn't need to be Crisco.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (32:32):
yeah, she loves, that's what she used,
that was granny's cooking stuff,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (32:35):
Well, see, I think that's part of the
character of it.
I think it's the subtle nuance.
That's the character of it.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (32:40):
and, you know, that was in the frying
pan, and then she literally justdipped the, um, the salted, um,
She just dipped the fried, well,hell, she just dipped the green
tomatoes that had been salted,um, and put them in the
cornmeal.
No, she had salted and alsopeppered the cornmeal because,
you know, more salt is alwaysbetter.
(33:02):
Um, and,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (33:04):
she she lived a long time, so it
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (33:06):
oh yeah, Lord, you know.
And, um, and then she just friedthem.
So it was a real thin, it wasn'tlike a batter or anything like
that.
It was very, very easy.
You just do it until they'regolden brown.
You put them over and, ooh, mm,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (33:18):
Well, I, I want to be remiss to say
this food is my love language.
That's what gives me, um, thattells me that I'm loved.
And so like Kathy, and it'sreally almost at Easter's really
when she does it, she makes aseven layer salad, but it's
actually a six layer saladbecause she doesn't put peas in
it because if anybody knows, Ihate peas.
I hate peas and her fat cousinllama and uh, so I know that
(33:41):
that seven layer salad is
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_0903 (33:43):
Mmhmm.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (33:46):
And I love that so much because you
can have it But she made thisfor me and I just love that
salad because of that and thenkathy's grandmother had um on
her father's side um Mert hadthe world famous chicken and
dumplings, and she would notshare this recipe until
literally she was at our housedying of cancer.
And we have these framed recipesof the women of Kathy's life and
(34:11):
Ian, I'll tell you that story inanother podcast, but there's
framed recipes of all the womenin her life on our wall.
And, Kathy said, Mammal Mert,don't pass without sharing this
because she had grown children.
She wouldn't share this recipe.
So Mert wrote it out and it'sframed and Chloe And Kathy take
the recipe down and they alwaysmake it usually Christmas Eve or
(34:31):
on Thanksgiving either one ofthose holidays usually just once
a year but that also when I eatthat I think of memories and
life and all things good
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (34:42):
Yeah, food is such an incredible
thing.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (34:45):
Yeah,
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (34:45):
To tie people to memories and times
and places.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (34:50):
takes us and he he makes the
reservations when we go toAtlanta.
I'd like food and I eateverything but he takes us to
this restaurant.
That's I don't know some urbanspoon.
I don't know what it's freakingcalled and it's, you know, it's
it's country kitchen, right?
And they have, you know, Friedchicken.
And I was like, well, what kindof potatoes you have?
(35:10):
Oh, we don't have potatoes.
We have grits or they have lardlim lims or something like that.
Like you're a country restaurantwithout a mashed potato, a fried
potato, baked potato, scallopedpotato, a boiled potato, butter
potato, not a potato.
No, no potato.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (35:29):
Okay, well let me paint you the
accurate picture of what thisis.
It's a southern, it's an updatedsouthern restaurant.
Not a country.
Southern.
Two different things.
And, there, it's not even
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (35:43):
when he did twenty nine dollars for a
piece of chicken.
Come
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (35:46):
I mean, well, everything, you
know, everything's expensivewhen you go into the city
anyway.
But they did, he just wanted, hewanted, he was good with the
fried chicken.
It came with greens.
He didn't want the
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (35:56):
Very good chicken.
Yeah
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (35:59):
and then he was like, can I just get
mashed potatoes?
And she says, we don't havemashed potatoes.
And he's like, how do you nothave mashed potatoes?
She goes, well, we havescalloped potatoes.
I don't want scalloped potatoes.
I want mashed potatoes.
I'm sorry, sir.
We don't have mashed potatoes.
How are you a Southernrestaurant?
Don't have mashed potatoes.
I'm sorry, sir.
We don't have mashed potatoes.
That's more of like how it went.
So
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (36:22):
very very good.
They're very good.
We went there the last time wewere there and they really look
with all jokes aside that thescallop potatoes are very very
good I still don't understandhow you don't have fried
potatoes mashed potatoes, butwhatever.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (36:34):
I'm with you.
It's interesting, but I don'tknow.
Listen, mashed potatoes.
Yeah.
Okay,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (36:39):
seems basic
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (36:40):
last question is, and if you have
one, you can ask.
If you
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2024 (36:44):
I don't have anything.
Anything to bring to the table.
Yes.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (36:48):
you had a tagline, a phrase, a
statement that you felt wasrepresented you and your life
and your spirit as a whole?
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-20 (37:03):
No.
Yeah.
It's a sign.
And my wife bought it a thousandyears ago.
And you'll, you'll know this.
Work hard.
Be nice.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (37:10):
Yeah,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (37:11):
yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (37:13):
Yeah, very simple.
Yeah.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (37:15):
Yeah.
Look, that.
that's, that's, that's all yougotta do.
The rest of it will fall inplace.
Go to work.
Don't expect anybody to give youanything, right?
Be grateful for those who pickyou up and lift you up and say,
thank you, but don't expect it.
Right?
There are no guarantees andevery opportunity, when you can,
(37:38):
be nice to somebody.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024 (37:39):
Absolutely.
No.
I thought about this one.
And I thought, you know, It wasinstant when I said it, um, and
for me, it's just, I think it's,it has just always been
something that's just alwaysrolled off my tongue.
Um, there was an occurrence witha coworker of ours and something
(38:01):
had happened, somebody had comeinto the store and, um, You
know, it was just, it was kindof disappointing.
It was, it was just, it wasn't agood situation.
And I said, well, I said, justremember we're all God's
children.
And, um, and I was like, youknow what?
And I thought that came from atthe time, just a visceral gut
(38:22):
response.
But I was like, yeah, no, that'sit.
We're all God's children.
And so I just always try to, um,we're all just trying to do our
best.
Sometimes failing miserably.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (38:33):
well, you know what, the first thing
that popped to me is, becauseyou are gay, some people don't
see you as God's children.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (38:40):
Yeah, well, yeah,
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (38:43):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09034 (38:43):
yeah.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05-2 (38:44):
Fuck you.
Who thinks that, right?
And that's as strong as I cansay of how much I love
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (38:52):
Oh, love you too, friend.
All right.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (38:54):
Yeah.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_090344 (38:55):
All right.
Well, work hard and be nice.
And remember, we're all God'schildren.
And we'll be back next Wednesdaywith another podcast.
Hopefully Stuart will be backfrom the beach.
I don't know.
He might have, he was swimmingwith sea turtles yesterday.
So he might lose a finger.
I don't know.
squadcaster-bge5_1_09-05- (39:09):
Well, he's a little man, he can ride
some of those sea turtles.
Hmm.
jeremy_1_09-05-2024_09 (39:13):
Alright, well, um, again, if you haven't
downloaded our shopping app, besure that you download that.
You can find it in the shownotes below.
and remember our hotline, whichis also listed below.
If you have another questionyou'd like to ask, aside from
how many pillows we sleep with,you're more than welcome to send
us your questions.
And we will see you again nextWednesday with a new podcast.
(39:33):
Thanks for listening, guys.
Bye.
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