September 8, 2025 • 22 mins
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What does real self-care look like? For years, I silently judged people who focused on their appearance—thinking it was shallow or vain. But a recent experience completely shifted my perspective.
In this episode, I share how I went from dismissing appearance-based self-care to realizing that true confidence comes from honoring both the internal and external parts of who we are. From my journey with hormone replacement therapy to a Halo laser treatment that sparked the comment, “You’re 57, by now you should just be okay with it”—I’ll unpack the moment that changed everything for me.
Self-care isn’t just bubble baths or meditation, and it isn’t just skincare or workouts. It’s about choosing practices—inside and out—that make you feel strong, confident, and aligned with your values. When we stop labeling certain types of care as “shallow” and others as “worthy,” we free ourselves to create resilience and self-trust that radiates through every area of life.
If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s “okay” to care about how you look—or questioned whether you’re doing self-care the “right” way—this episode will give you the permission you’ve been waiting for.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Do you want to lose weight but struggle to stay
committed to a meal plan becauseyou constantly feel hungry?
Does food provide you comfortwhen you're bored, angry, lonely
or sad?
If so, you are in the rightplace.
My name is Kristen Jones andI'm a life coach specializing in
emotional eating and weightloss, and I'm also a lifelong
(00:24):
emotional eater.
I want to provide you withinformation, motivation and
support so you, too, can learnto manage your issues with food
and develop a healthyrelationship with yourself.
Welcome to the BreakthroughEmotional Eating Podcast.
My name is Kristen Jones andthank you so much for joining me
(01:03):
this week.
Name is Kristen Jones and thankyou so much for joining me this
week.
So this week's episode is goingto be pretty personal and it is
going to be a little bit of areflection of not only what is
going on in my life at thecurrent moment, but also
something that I've beenthinking a lot about, probably
(01:24):
in the last since the beginningof the year, probably in the
last eight or nine months, andit's the idea.
It's the idea of self care, butit's that there are two
different types of self care andthat there is nothing wrong
with either type of self care.
(01:44):
So I'm going to talk about thetwo types of self-care and I
think you'll understand.
I think one type of self-carekind of gets kind of not
poo-pooed but kind of diminished, or people get viewed
differently because they usethat type of self-care, and that
there is a balance that needsto be achieved between the two
(02:08):
types of self-care for them tobe healthy and for them to get
you the outcome that you want tohave.
So welcome, super happy you'rehere.
So we're again going to diveinto self-care.
So self-care at its basic root,at its core, self-care is
anything that you do foryourself that makes you feel
(02:32):
nurtured, makes you feelnurtured, makes you feel cared
for, either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
So in any of those realms youcould do something that's going
to make you feel good, make youfeel taken care of, confident.
Any of those things Most peoplethink about self-care that we
(02:54):
do that is reflective on theinside, something like, um, you
know, taking the time to take anap.
Um, taking the time to uh,actually, that would be more
physical.
Uh, you know reading, reading abook.
You know reading somethingthat's inspiring.
Um, taking the time to listento a podcast.
(03:16):
Um, uh, you know, taking abubble bath, any of those things
, those things that you do foryourself, that give yourself
journaling, um affirmations, anyof those things are things that
you do to kind of feed yoursoul.
So that would be the thespiritually and the emotional
side of you.
But there is a whole other sideof self-care that is geared
(03:40):
towards taking care of yourselfphysically.
So physically it could be, youknow, getting your hair done.
It could be, um, having, youknow, having a facial treatment.
Uh, it could be working out.
It could be, um, you know,getting your getting your toes
done, getting your nails done,and that would be something that
would have impact youphysically.
(04:02):
And I feel like oftentimes andmaybe it's just me, maybe it's
the way that I had viewed itwhen I was younger that always
seemed to me to be a littleindulgent and I'm going to be
honest and say that I was kindof a little judgy about like
people who did that kind ofstuff, like, oh, they're all so
(04:25):
wrapped up in themselves andI've realized as I've gotten
older that there is such a hugeimpact and reflection that it
can have on other areas of mylife that, as long as I make
sure that I maintain the balancebetween all of those areas of
my life the physical, the mental, the emotional and the
spiritual and I I maintain thebalance between all of those
areas of my life the physical,the mental, the emotional and
(04:47):
the spiritual and I take care ofmyself in all of those areas
and there's balance between thefour areas.
That that's when it can bereally, really impactful in an
incredibly positive way, andthat we really need to be open
to looking at all sides ofself-care, both the physical
(05:07):
side as well as the internalside.
So that's what we're going totalk about today.
So the benefits of self-careare huge because self-care helps
build resilience, it helps youfeel cared for, it helps you be
able to easily manage whenthings are difficult, because
(05:27):
you feel taken care of, you feelvalued, you feel like you've
given yourself value and you'vegiven yourself things that you
need Um you.
We have a tendency to be lessreactive and we're more present
um in the moment and we show upfor ourselves and for others
with more energy.
And it builds more confidenceand more confidence and belief
(05:48):
in ourselves, because every timewe follow through on taking
care of ourselves, we arereinforcing to our brain that we
are valuable, that we're worththe time or worth the effort,
and that, in turn, then buildsself-trust and allows us to be
able to trust ourselves, trustthe decisions that we are going
(06:08):
to make and trust how we treatourselves and how we treat
others.
So there is a huge power inalso having self-care be
physically based, so physicallyor appearance focused self-care.
(06:30):
And again, totally honest andI'm going to be completely
transparent that I used to bevery, very judgmental about this
, about like, oh, why wouldpeople do that?
That's so shallow.
And I have to be honest nowthat it was really, frankly,
just ridiculous of me to do that, because all the while I was
(06:56):
thinking, gosh, I'd really liketo be able to do that, I'd like
to be able to do that, but Iwant to be better than that.
There's nothing.
There's no being better orbeing worse.
It's I wasn't being honest withmyself about how I felt about
it and um didn't necessarilyever talk about it, but I know
how I felt inside.
And the honest truth is thatmost people, if they're
(07:21):
completely truthful, care abouthow they look, and that's not a
bad thing.
That is not a bad thing Takingcare of yourself, valuing
yourself, giving yourselfwhatever you need to have the
life that you want to live.
Everybody's life can bedifferent.
There's no cookie cutter,there's no um list of things
that people want to have intheir lives that makes their
(07:41):
lives better or complete.
It's just everybody has theirown, uh, their own criteria for
what makes their life the waythey want it.
And I think, as I've gottenolder, I've gotten more
comfortable with, with the ideaof, yeah, it's okay to want
those things and it's okay to behonest about it, and I don't
(08:02):
have to be embarrassed and Idon't have to be, um, ashamed.
And and I will I will tell youwhere this is going and that
there have been things that havebeen said to me very recently,
um, about some of the thingsthat I'm doing, and, and for a
moment it made me like like, ohgosh, am I, am I doing the right
thing?
(08:22):
And then it was like, no, Ineed to do what's comfortable
for me.
So, really, this podcast is moreabout doing what's right for
you and being honest withyourself about what it is that
you truly need in your life tomake yourself feel complete,
feel valued, feel loved and tofeel worthy of your own
attention.
So, about well, eight monthsago, you all know that, if you,
(08:52):
if you have followed my podcastuh, eight months ago I started
hormone replacement therapy.
I will be completely honestthat if I had not met my hormone
doctor's wife in my yoga classshe's one of my yoga students If
I had not met her, I wouldstill be doing what I had been
(09:14):
doing Achy joints, not feelinggood, not sleeping at all.
Um, would not be, would not befeeling in any way as good as I
feel now, because I just thoughtthat that was just the way
things had to be and I've talkedabout this in other podcasts,
but it was.
I really wasn't taking care ofmyself because I really didn't
(09:36):
even know it was an option.
I didn't even know that thattype of self-care was something
that I could do.
And so I really, as I have gonemore in the direction of of and
it's not fighting aging, it'sjust understanding that there
are things that I can do, thatI'm comfortable doing, that can
(09:56):
help my aging process.
And everybody gets thatdecision, gets that right, has
that right to make the decisionin their life of what is best
for them and what's going tomake them feel comfortable, make
them feel confident, allow eachand every person to walk into a
room and feel as good aboutthemselves as they possibly can,
(10:17):
both internally and externally.
So when I I originally so aboutfour days ago, I'm on day four
of my recovery from having ahalo laser treatment, and I have
since I was I'm 57 now, since Iwas probably 35, I have been
(10:40):
regularly having precancerouscells burned off of various
parts of my body.
I get a skin, I get a bodycheck every six to nine months
and I get a number of cancersburned off.
And we've gotten to the pointnow where it's like they don't
even want to burn them offanymore.
Now they want me to do thesedeeper layer, deeper level
(11:04):
treatments and they involvelotions and things that take
anywhere from, like you know, aweek and a half to two weeks and
they can be extremely painful.
And I've done them before and Iopted because of the, the
services that my, that my doctoroffers in his office.
I opted to do a laser treatmentnot only to treat these
(11:27):
precancerous cells, but alsobecause I felt like I wanted to
see what it would do from asurface standpoint, about some
of the sagging that I'm seeingin my skin and, in particular
and I'm going to tell you thisis the first time I've talked
about it and I'm going to betalking about it on my Instagram
as well.
It's the first time I'll betalking about it is that I
originally wanted to do thisbecause I was seeing a texture
(11:53):
change in the skin on my legsand for the front of my thighs
and it was so impactful to me.
It was making me not want towear shorts.
I was extremely self-consciousabout it and I kept telling
myself, oh, you don't need toworry about it, you don't need
to worry about it.
It was like, no, it was reallybothering me, because those of
(12:13):
you who know me, um, and you,and if you follow me for any
length of time, um, you know Iam extremely active in, um, in
in fitness.
I teach classes.
I'm a Yogi.
Um, I teach fitness classes.
I'm a Pilates instructor.
Um, I do the reformer.
All these things.
I have a lot of different areas.
I'm a runner, all of thesethings, and so, as I have
(12:39):
noticed over the last two years,this skin in my legs has gotten
really, I mean like sag dropped.
I mean it's like, really, youknow those?
I think what is the one?
Is it?
Oh gosh, I forget who the ladyis, um, jane Seymour.
Jane Seymour has thosecommercials for crepe away.
Okay, that was me.
Like the crepe away cream havehad.
Have gotten.
That doesn't work.
(12:59):
Um, so I I knew I needed, Ineeded to do something.
I needed to see if there wassomething that I could do that
would help.
And so I went to see, um, uh,carlos Sandoval, who is the
director of aesthetic wellnessat my doctor's office, and we
consulted about my legsinitially first, hadn't even
(13:20):
thought about doing my face, andthen we decided that we would
do, and I have, I have.
I had a few cancers on each oneof my legs, so I knew I needed
to get those done anyway.
So have done both those things.
So I had my legs done, at thebacks of my legs.
So I knew I needed to get thosedone anyway.
So have done both those things.
So I had my legs done at thebacks of my hands done.
I had, um, my face done and myneck done, and I'm going to be
honest and tell you that mybacks of my hands I have had
(13:41):
hands of a 90 year old since Iwas 15.
So these babies, this was allbecause I just had some cancers
on the back of my hand.
So did those, and I would loveit if my hands were a little bit
smoother because they're prettyrough, but anyway.
So I have done this procedureand I was telling somebody about
(14:02):
it the other day and I wasmentioning and I was showing
them my legs, and the firstthing they said was well, you're
57 years old, you by now youshould be just okay with it.
And I was.
And you know, like, why did you?
That was basically like why didyou do it?
Because you should.
You should be okay with it.
(14:23):
Why do you?
Why do you even care?
And and it wasn't about nobodyelse sees it Nobody else sees
what my legs look like.
I see what my legs.
It makes us feel is the onlything that matters.
(14:54):
And so when I noticed this eight, nine, 10 months ago, I didn't
just jump in and do it.
I really worked on okay, how doI, how am I feeling about
myself, how am I doing?
And I did a lot of internalwork of why are you feeling this
way, what are the feelings thatyou're having about yourself,
about your aging process, all ofthe things.
And I really worked throughthat in order to come to the
(15:20):
place where I felt comfortabledoing my hormone replacement and
and then taking that next stepof of having this laser
treatment.
And so that's one of the thingsthat I think is really
important that everyonerecognize is that there is
nothing wrong with doingsomething that makes you from a
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physical appearance for yourself, makes you feel confident,
makes you feel beautiful, makesyou feel powerful and gives you
that uplifted feeling.
But it can't all be dependentupon that physical change.
The physical can't be the onlything we're relying on to make
(16:04):
us feel that way.
We have to be feeling that wayall the time.
We have to be feeling and I'mgoing to also preface with there
are going to be days thatyou're going to wake up and
you're not going to be feelingit.
No matter what, you're not goingto feel positive physically,
you're not going to feelpositive mentally, and that is
just part of being a human being, and it's one of the most
(16:24):
important things that I tell myclients now is that we cannot
beat ourselves up because wehave down days, because that is
just the roller coaster of beinga human being.
Doesn't mean you're less than,doesn't mean you've lost your,
your, your mojo.
You haven't lost anything.
It's just part of being a humanbeing that we go through ebbs
(16:46):
and flows, and that is all okay,but that self-care of having
that be a consistent thing inour life is what's really going
to ground us and keep us feelinggrounded in who we are, how we
feel about ourselves, bothmentally, spiritually,
emotionally and physically, andso all of those things go
(17:08):
together to make you that wholeperson.
And so I guess, in reality, thereason I'm saying this is, and
the reason I'm even doing thispodcast, is because I want
people to remember that it isokay to take care of yourself,
it's okay to want to honoryourself by doing something kind
(17:32):
for yourself or doing somethingfor yourself that makes you
feel good.
We're not trying to fixourselves, but we can honor who
we are and we can honorourselves and give ourselves the
things that make us feelbeautiful and make us feel
wonderful and allow us tointernalize that and hold on to
that and not solely rely on thereflection in the mirror.
(17:53):
Work on the other stuff as well, but don't just dismiss the
physical because we feel likethat's vain or we feel like
that's shallow.
It's not shallow.
It's not shallow to want tohave your hair look nice.
It's not shallow to want to,you know, work out, to feel good
and to feel, to feel and lookthe way you want to look.
(18:13):
There is nothing wrong withthat and I follow a lot of
people who are very much umabout you know it's.
It's it's like a crime if youwant to improve yourself,
because it's it's just this,this overall, it's it's just
this bashing of people who dothat, and I don't think that's
(18:35):
necessary.
I don't think it's, I don'tthink it's healthy and, honestly
, it is no one else's business.
If you want to do it, or I wantto do it, or anybody in your
life wants to do it, people areentitled to do whatever they
want to do to make themselvesfeel good, as long as it's not
hurting anybody else.
So that, more than anythingelse, if you can walk away with
one thing from this podcast, Iwould say that absolutely 100%.
(18:57):
Do make self care about whatmakes you feel good in all four
of those areas and try to hit anarea every, every week, every
day, every, you know, every timeyou do self-care.
Self-care should be somethingthat we do regularly and it
should be something that we'rehitting all four of those areas
(19:19):
and making ourselves feel asgood as we can in all aspects of
our lives.
I think it's just so, so veryimportant.
And again, we don't want tobecome too much going in one
direction or the other.
We want to have a balance.
We want to always be looking atall four things, and we always
want to be looking at how am Ihonoring myself?
Not am I trying to fix myself.
(19:39):
How am I trying to honor myselfand put myself in a position
where I feel powerful, I feelencouraged, I feel valued and
I'm giving myself what I need?
I'm not feeling like I'm goingto let other people dictate how
I'm going to take care of myself.
Only the only person who knowshow to take care of you is you.
(20:02):
So do what you need to do.
I'm here by giving youpermission, all right.
So I hope that that you know.
I hope that what we've talkedabout today kind of gives you
that little bit of spark or thatlittle bit of of encouragement
to think about all four of theseareas.
How can I give myself self-carein all four areas Mental,
(20:27):
emotional, spiritual andphysical?
Don't don't keep the physicalout just because you're afraid
of judgment.
Don't make that a part of ittoo.
They all encompass and cometogether to help with your
confidence and your belief inyourself and for you.
For you to show yourselfworthiness is the best gift that
(20:48):
you can give, because otherpeople can do it all the time.
But if you don't value it andyou don't think that you're
worthy of these good things, noamount of what anybody else does
is ever, ever going to make itreal, and within you, you have
to do it for yourself.
Does is ever, ever going to makeit real, and within you, you
have to do it for yourself.
So do what's going to make youfeel the best in your life.
(21:08):
Have an amazing rest of yourweek.
Thank you so much for joiningme and go out and figure out
what is going to make you feelgood, what can you afford, what
feels right for you, and then goout and do it.
Take care.
Have a great week.
Thank you for listening to thisweek's episode.
(21:32):
If you are interested inlearning more about how I can
help you understand and manageyour emotional eating, including
the use of hypnosis to uncoverthe root cause of your eating,
go to my website,kristinjonescoachingcom.
Do you want to lose weight but struggle to stay
committed to a meal plan becauseyou constantly feel hungry?
Does food provide you comfortwhen you're bored, angry, lonely
or sad?
If so, you are in the rightplace.
My name is Kristen Jones andI'm a life coach specializing in
emotional eating and weightloss, and I'm also a lifelong
(00:24):
emotional eater.
I want to provide you withinformation, motivation and
support so you, too, can learnto manage your issues with food
and develop a healthyrelationship with yourself.
Welcome to the BreakthroughEmotional Eating Podcast.
My name is Kristen Jones andthank you so much for joining me
(01:03):
this week.
Name is Kristen Jones and thankyou so much for joining me this
week.
So this week's episode is goingto be pretty personal and it is
going to be a little bit of areflection of not only what is
going on in my life at thecurrent moment, but also
something that I've beenthinking a lot about, probably
(01:24):
in the last since the beginningof the year, probably in the
last eight or nine months, andit's the idea.
It's the idea of self care, butit's that there are two
different types of self care andthat there is nothing wrong
with either type of self care.
(01:44):
So I'm going to talk about thetwo types of self-care and I
think you'll understand.
I think one type of self-carekind of gets kind of not
poo-pooed but kind of diminished, or people get viewed
differently because they usethat type of self-care, and that
there is a balance that needsto be achieved between the two
(02:08):
types of self-care for them tobe healthy and for them to get
you the outcome that you want tohave.
So welcome, super happy you'rehere.
So we're again going to diveinto self-care.
So self-care at its basic root,at its core, self-care is
anything that you do foryourself that makes you feel
(02:32):
nurtured, makes you feelnurtured, makes you feel cared
for, either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
So in any of those realms youcould do something that's going
to make you feel good, make youfeel taken care of, confident.
Any of those things Most peoplethink about self-care that we
(02:54):
do that is reflective on theinside, something like, um, you
know, taking the time to take anap.
Um, taking the time to uh,actually, that would be more
physical.
Uh, you know reading, reading abook.
You know reading somethingthat's inspiring.
Um, taking the time to listento a podcast.
(03:16):
Um, uh, you know, taking abubble bath, any of those things
, those things that you do foryourself, that give yourself
journaling, um affirmations, anyof those things are things that
you do to kind of feed yoursoul.
So that would be the thespiritually and the emotional
side of you.
But there is a whole other sideof self-care that is geared
(03:40):
towards taking care of yourselfphysically.
So physically it could be, youknow, getting your hair done.
It could be, um, having, youknow, having a facial treatment.
Uh, it could be working out.
It could be, um, you know,getting your getting your toes
done, getting your nails done,and that would be something that
would have impact youphysically.
(04:02):
And I feel like oftentimes andmaybe it's just me, maybe it's
the way that I had viewed itwhen I was younger that always
seemed to me to be a littleindulgent and I'm going to be
honest and say that I was kindof a little judgy about like
people who did that kind ofstuff, like, oh, they're all so
(04:25):
wrapped up in themselves andI've realized as I've gotten
older that there is such a hugeimpact and reflection that it
can have on other areas of mylife that, as long as I make
sure that I maintain the balancebetween all of those areas of
my life the physical, the mental, the emotional and the
spiritual and I I maintain thebalance between all of those
areas of my life the physical,the mental, the emotional and
(04:47):
the spiritual and I take care ofmyself in all of those areas
and there's balance between thefour areas.
That that's when it can bereally, really impactful in an
incredibly positive way, andthat we really need to be open
to looking at all sides ofself-care, both the physical
(05:07):
side as well as the internalside.
So that's what we're going totalk about today.
So the benefits of self-careare huge because self-care helps
build resilience, it helps youfeel cared for, it helps you be
able to easily manage whenthings are difficult, because
(05:27):
you feel taken care of, you feelvalued, you feel like you've
given yourself value and you'vegiven yourself things that you
need Um you.
We have a tendency to be lessreactive and we're more present
um in the moment and we show upfor ourselves and for others
with more energy.
And it builds more confidenceand more confidence and belief
(05:48):
in ourselves, because every timewe follow through on taking
care of ourselves, we arereinforcing to our brain that we
are valuable, that we're worththe time or worth the effort,
and that, in turn, then buildsself-trust and allows us to be
able to trust ourselves, trustthe decisions that we are going
(06:08):
to make and trust how we treatourselves and how we treat
others.
So there is a huge power inalso having self-care be
physically based, so physicallyor appearance focused self-care.
(06:30):
And again, totally honest andI'm going to be completely
transparent that I used to bevery, very judgmental about this
, about like, oh, why wouldpeople do that?
That's so shallow.
And I have to be honest nowthat it was really, frankly,
just ridiculous of me to do that, because all the while I was
(06:56):
thinking, gosh, I'd really liketo be able to do that, I'd like
to be able to do that, but Iwant to be better than that.
There's nothing.
There's no being better orbeing worse.
It's I wasn't being honest withmyself about how I felt about
it and um didn't necessarilyever talk about it, but I know
how I felt inside.
And the honest truth is thatmost people, if they're
(07:21):
completely truthful, care abouthow they look, and that's not a
bad thing.
That is not a bad thing Takingcare of yourself, valuing
yourself, giving yourselfwhatever you need to have the
life that you want to live.
Everybody's life can bedifferent.
There's no cookie cutter,there's no um list of things
that people want to have intheir lives that makes their
(07:41):
lives better or complete.
It's just everybody has theirown, uh, their own criteria for
what makes their life the waythey want it.
And I think, as I've gottenolder, I've gotten more
comfortable with, with the ideaof, yeah, it's okay to want
those things and it's okay to behonest about it, and I don't
(08:02):
have to be embarrassed and Idon't have to be, um, ashamed.
And and I will I will tell youwhere this is going and that
there have been things that havebeen said to me very recently,
um, about some of the thingsthat I'm doing, and, and for a
moment it made me like like, ohgosh, am I, am I doing the right
thing?
(08:22):
And then it was like, no, Ineed to do what's comfortable
for me.
So, really, this podcast is moreabout doing what's right for
you and being honest withyourself about what it is that
you truly need in your life tomake yourself feel complete,
feel valued, feel loved and tofeel worthy of your own
attention.
So, about well, eight monthsago, you all know that, if you,
(08:52):
if you have followed my podcastuh, eight months ago I started
hormone replacement therapy.
I will be completely honestthat if I had not met my hormone
doctor's wife in my yoga classshe's one of my yoga students If
I had not met her, I wouldstill be doing what I had been
(09:14):
doing Achy joints, not feelinggood, not sleeping at all.
Um, would not be, would not befeeling in any way as good as I
feel now, because I just thoughtthat that was just the way
things had to be and I've talkedabout this in other podcasts,
but it was.
I really wasn't taking care ofmyself because I really didn't
(09:36):
even know it was an option.
I didn't even know that thattype of self-care was something
that I could do.
And so I really, as I have gonemore in the direction of of and
it's not fighting aging, it'sjust understanding that there
are things that I can do, thatI'm comfortable doing, that can
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help my aging process.
And everybody gets thatdecision, gets that right, has
that right to make the decisionin their life of what is best
for them and what's going tomake them feel comfortable, make
them feel confident, allow eachand every person to walk into a
room and feel as good aboutthemselves as they possibly can,
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both internally and externally.
So when I I originally so aboutfour days ago, I'm on day four
of my recovery from having ahalo laser treatment, and I have
since I was I'm 57 now, since Iwas probably 35, I have been
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regularly having precancerouscells burned off of various
parts of my body.
I get a skin, I get a bodycheck every six to nine months
and I get a number of cancersburned off.
And we've gotten to the pointnow where it's like they don't
even want to burn them offanymore.
Now they want me to do thesedeeper layer, deeper level
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treatments and they involvelotions and things that take
anywhere from, like you know, aweek and a half to two weeks and
they can be extremely painful.
And I've done them before and Iopted because of the, the
services that my, that my doctoroffers in his office.
I opted to do a laser treatmentnot only to treat these
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precancerous cells, but alsobecause I felt like I wanted to
see what it would do from asurface standpoint, about some
of the sagging that I'm seeingin my skin and, in particular
and I'm going to tell you thisis the first time I've talked
about it and I'm going to betalking about it on my Instagram
as well.
It's the first time I'll betalking about it is that I
originally wanted to do thisbecause I was seeing a texture
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change in the skin on my legsand for the front of my thighs
and it was so impactful to me.
It was making me not want towear shorts.
I was extremely self-consciousabout it and I kept telling
myself, oh, you don't need toworry about it, you don't need
to worry about it.
It was like, no, it was reallybothering me, because those of
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you who know me, um, and you,and if you follow me for any
length of time, um, you know Iam extremely active in, um, in
in fitness.
I teach classes.
I'm a Yogi.
Um, I teach fitness classes.
I'm a Pilates instructor.
Um, I do the reformer.
All these things.
I have a lot of different areas.
I'm a runner, all of thesethings, and so, as I have
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noticed over the last two years,this skin in my legs has gotten
really, I mean like sag dropped.
I mean it's like, really, youknow those?
I think what is the one?
Is it?
Oh gosh, I forget who the ladyis, um, jane Seymour.
Jane Seymour has thosecommercials for crepe away.
Okay, that was me.
Like the crepe away cream havehad.
Have gotten.
That doesn't work.
(12:59):
Um, so I I knew I needed, Ineeded to do something.
I needed to see if there wassomething that I could do that
would help.
And so I went to see, um, uh,carlos Sandoval, who is the
director of aesthetic wellnessat my doctor's office, and we
consulted about my legsinitially first, hadn't even
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thought about doing my face, andthen we decided that we would
do, and I have, I have.
I had a few cancers on each oneof my legs, so I knew I needed
to get those done anyway.
So have done both those things.
So I had my legs done, at thebacks of my legs.
So I knew I needed to get thosedone anyway.
So have done both those things.
So I had my legs done at thebacks of my hands done.
I had, um, my face done and myneck done, and I'm going to be
honest and tell you that mybacks of my hands I have had
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hands of a 90 year old since Iwas 15.
So these babies, this was allbecause I just had some cancers
on the back of my hand.
So did those, and I would loveit if my hands were a little bit
smoother because they're prettyrough, but anyway.
So I have done this procedureand I was telling somebody about
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it the other day and I wasmentioning and I was showing
them my legs, and the firstthing they said was well, you're
57 years old, you by now youshould be just okay with it.
And I was.
And you know, like, why did you?
That was basically like why didyou do it?
Because you should.
You should be okay with it.
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Why do you?
Why do you even care?
And and it wasn't about nobodyelse sees it Nobody else sees
what my legs look like.
I see what my legs.
It makes us feel is the onlything that matters.
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And so when I noticed this eight, nine, 10 months ago, I didn't
just jump in and do it.
I really worked on okay, how doI, how am I feeling about
myself, how am I doing?
And I did a lot of internalwork of why are you feeling this
way, what are the feelings thatyou're having about yourself,
about your aging process, all ofthe things.
And I really worked throughthat in order to come to the
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place where I felt comfortabledoing my hormone replacement and
and then taking that next stepof of having this laser
treatment.
And so that's one of the thingsthat I think is really
important that everyonerecognize is that there is
nothing wrong with doingsomething that makes you from a
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physical appearance for yourself, makes you feel confident,
makes you feel beautiful, makesyou feel powerful and gives you
that uplifted feeling.
But it can't all be dependentupon that physical change.
The physical can't be the onlything we're relying on to make
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us feel that way.
We have to be feeling that wayall the time.
We have to be feeling and I'mgoing to also preface with there
are going to be days thatyou're going to wake up and
you're not going to be feelingit.
No matter what, you're not goingto feel positive physically,
you're not going to feelpositive mentally, and that is
just part of being a human being, and it's one of the most
(16:24):
important things that I tell myclients now is that we cannot
beat ourselves up because wehave down days, because that is
just the roller coaster of beinga human being.
Doesn't mean you're less than,doesn't mean you've lost your,
your, your mojo.
You haven't lost anything.
It's just part of being a humanbeing that we go through ebbs
(16:46):
and flows, and that is all okay,but that self-care of having
that be a consistent thing inour life is what's really going
to ground us and keep us feelinggrounded in who we are, how we
feel about ourselves, bothmentally, spiritually,
emotionally and physically, andso all of those things go
(17:08):
together to make you that wholeperson.
And so I guess, in reality, thereason I'm saying this is, and
the reason I'm even doing thispodcast, is because I want
people to remember that it isokay to take care of yourself,
it's okay to want to honoryourself by doing something kind
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for yourself or doing somethingfor yourself that makes you
feel good.
We're not trying to fixourselves, but we can honor who
we are and we can honorourselves and give ourselves the
things that make us feelbeautiful and make us feel
wonderful and allow us tointernalize that and hold on to
that and not solely rely on thereflection in the mirror.
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Work on the other stuff as well, but don't just dismiss the
physical because we feel likethat's vain or we feel like
that's shallow.
It's not shallow.
It's not shallow to want tohave your hair look nice.
It's not shallow to want to,you know, work out, to feel good
and to feel, to feel and lookthe way you want to look.
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There is nothing wrong withthat and I follow a lot of
people who are very much umabout you know it's.
It's it's like a crime if youwant to improve yourself,
because it's it's just this,this overall, it's it's just
this bashing of people who dothat, and I don't think that's
(18:35):
necessary.
I don't think it's, I don'tthink it's healthy and, honestly
, it is no one else's business.
If you want to do it, or I wantto do it, or anybody in your
life wants to do it, people areentitled to do whatever they
want to do to make themselvesfeel good, as long as it's not
hurting anybody else.
So that, more than anythingelse, if you can walk away with
one thing from this podcast, Iwould say that absolutely 100%.
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Do make self care about whatmakes you feel good in all four
of those areas and try to hit anarea every, every week, every
day, every, you know, every timeyou do self-care.
Self-care should be somethingthat we do regularly and it
should be something that we'rehitting all four of those areas
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and making ourselves feel asgood as we can in all aspects of
our lives.
I think it's just so, so veryimportant.
And again, we don't want tobecome too much going in one
direction or the other.
We want to have a balance.
We want to always be looking atall four things, and we always
want to be looking at how am Ihonoring myself?
Not am I trying to fix myself.
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How am I trying to honor myselfand put myself in a position
where I feel powerful, I feelencouraged, I feel valued and
I'm giving myself what I need?
I'm not feeling like I'm goingto let other people dictate how
I'm going to take care of myself.
Only the only person who knowshow to take care of you is you.
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So do what you need to do.
I'm here by giving youpermission, all right.
So I hope that that you know.
I hope that what we've talkedabout today kind of gives you
that little bit of spark or thatlittle bit of of encouragement
to think about all four of theseareas.
How can I give myself self-carein all four areas Mental,
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emotional, spiritual andphysical?
Don't don't keep the physicalout just because you're afraid
of judgment.
Don't make that a part of ittoo.
They all encompass and cometogether to help with your
confidence and your belief inyourself and for you.
For you to show yourselfworthiness is the best gift that
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you can give, because otherpeople can do it all the time.
But if you don't value it andyou don't think that you're
worthy of these good things, noamount of what anybody else does
is ever, ever going to make itreal, and within you, you have
to do it for yourself.
Does is ever, ever going to makeit real, and within you, you
have to do it for yourself.
So do what's going to make youfeel the best in your life.
(21:08):
Have an amazing rest of yourweek.
Thank you so much for joiningme and go out and figure out
what is going to make you feelgood, what can you afford, what
feels right for you, and then goout and do it.
Take care.
Have a great week.
Thank you for listening to thisweek's episode.
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If you are interested inlearning more about how I can
help you understand and manageyour emotional eating, including
the use of hypnosis to uncoverthe root cause of your eating,
go to my website,kristinjonescoachingcom.
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