June 7, 2025 • 48 mins
Dreams, what do they all mean? Also, why was Freud such a freak?
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello everybody, and welcome to the Buddhist af Podcast. I
am your host, no I chance visik as always. Thank
you for your continued listening. I have a confession to make.
I was a little over zealous with with the packing
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and I packed away my my gaming computer, which I
also used to do a production with UH to record
this show, and so I sat on it. I thought
about it for a bit and as as you can tell,
and I decided maybe I should go on a hiatus.
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But if I go on a hiatus, I should at
least tell you guys that I'm going on a hiatus.
So here I am. I. I Jerry rigged recording quote
unquote studio together using my laptop and headphones, and so
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hopefully it sounds decent. Hopefully there isn't an echo or
anything like that. But I do have a fully fledged episode.
I was going to do it later, but you know what,
you guys deserve it, and you guys still listen, and
I appreciate you guys, and so I'm going to go
ahead and I get this episode going. Episode sixty nine
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or session sixty nine actually nice, but some things Alex
is Monday, Tuesday Wednesday, three days of school left before
he is officially done with the second grade, and we
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can get the ball rolling on what the future holds.
But I am really cautious about what's happening because thinking
about moving. But we probably should get other things in
order first, get our ducks in a row first. So
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here we are. I'm sorry. I normally write notes, but
again I thought I was gonna go to Hiatus, so
I'm just free free balling it here like I did
back in the early days, back in the Chasing Chance
of BSIC days, where I just winged it. But what
am I playing? I am still I'm still playing Animal Crossing.
I don't see that changing for the foreseeable future. I
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am playing the new Tokyo Extreme Racer before I packed
up my computer. Great game. It was everything that the
original on the Dreamcast was, and it just added enough
to make it feel fresh, but keeps everything you loved
about the old game, and that includes bouncing off the
walls at one hundred miles plus per hour and said,
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you still squeeze a lead, So yeah, the mechanics aren't realistic.
It's not Grand Turismo. But what am I reading? I
am currently reading Kitchen Confidential since I don't have my
gaming PC anymore. I'm doing a lot more reading, and
I am reading Kitchen Confidential by Anthony Bourdain again. I
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think I've covered how Cheff Bourdain changed my life. You know,
he he was a recovering addict. I was also. I
guess you can still say I am a recovering addict.
I was born in a kitchen. I grew up around restaurants.
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I've worked and headed several profitable restaurants in my lifetime.
I'm still a phone call away if any restaurant is
willing to pay my mercenary fee. He he gave me
one of the two greatest pieces of advice I've ever gotten. It.
I had a chance to meet him at a book
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signing for his book The Nasty Bits, and I told
him I was also in the culinary world. It's culinary,
by the way, not culinary culinary. I was also in
the culinary world as well, and could he could he
give me some advice on how to survive hectic business,
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because let's be honest, eighty or so percent of restaurants
that start up go bankrupt within the first year. So
I myself have never opened a restaurant of my own
I have helped open several restaurants, and he told me.
He told me, respect the food. Respect the food because
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it feeds us and it pays us. So I take
that to heart. Like, even though I don't like a
certain style of food, I shout it all the time
whenever I'm cooking. Is I hate fusion cooking. I hate
cooking that's like, oh, it's like an Asian inspired Italian roasts,
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blah blah blah. I don't like that. I like foods
that are basic, that are that are primal and very
very little ingredients. That's my style of cooking. And then
all of a sudden I lean into fusion cooking. Somehow
I end up there. It's like a it's like that
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kid you try to avoid on the playground and then
he just sneaks up on you. And so that's where
it is, that's where the business is. That's where people like.
They love fusion cooking. And so I got into it.
And yeah, I mean I'm French and Italian trained. I
became a Hobaci chef because no one else was available.
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I became a sushi chef because no one else was available.
I got into a catering job and I was pretty
much a utility player. I did everything from washing dishes
to setting up tables to being a live on the
spot sushi chef because somebody decided they wanted sushi at
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this catering event and they were willing to pay, you know,
thousands of dollars for it, and I said, you know,
what the hell, yeah, let's go, let's go, let's do this.
And yeah, I thrive off of that. I thrive off
the hecticness of on the spot thinking, which is why
I'm quite good at sales. Actually, I mean, I do
pretty well in sales because I adapt because I think
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very quickly, and I have the answers right then and there.
And so respect the food because it feeds us and
it pays us. The other advice I was given to
me was actually, during my pro wrestling days, I was
going too hard in the ring, blowing myself up. For
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those of you who don't know, uh, that means just
tiring yourself out really quickly, and a trainer pulled me
aside and asked me what was going through my head,
and I told him that I just I just had
to get everything right and it just wasn't clicking properly.
And so he told me to slow down. And if
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I think I'm going too slow, to slow down even more,
like take don't use any wasted movements, don't do things
that are unnecessary. So I took that to heart, like,
if you think you're going too slow, you're going to
speed up and you're going to screw things up. And
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so those are the two biggest advice I've ever gotten,
and I still hold dearly to my heart to this day.
And respect the food because it feeds us and it
pays us. And if you ever think you're going too slow,
slow down. So H hopefully you guys take that to
heart as well if you would like a little advice
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from from NOI. Uh, today's main topic is dreams. We
all have them, We've all played them on the on
the Sega Saturn. Recently, I have been doing a little
Oh it's not a thought experiment, it's an actual experiment.
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And what I've been doing, uh a couple of weeks
ago two about two, yeah, two weeks ago, is that
I've been sleeping on my on on my stomach and
dangling my feet over over the bed. And I do
this purposely just to see just just just I had
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an idea. I had a thought and I said, what
if I do this? What if I lay on my stomach.
I'm usually a side sleeper. What if I lay on
my stomach and dangle my feet over the bed. What
would happen? And it's a very primal way of sleeping.
When you hold a baby, you hold them belly down,
kind of like a football. Used to what our our
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ancestors used to do by sleeping on branches with you know,
over our bellies against the branch and in our arms
and feet dangling off the off the branch. Excuse me.
And so I did this and two nights in a row,
three nights, actually, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I lie three
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nights in a row. I've gotten myself to have that
falling reaction, you know, where like you're just about to
fall asleep. Your body is no longer tense, it's it's relaxed.
You're feeling it, and all of a sudden boom, like
your body just jerks and you wake up because you
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think you're falling. And I said, the first night I
did it. Coincidence, all right, coincidence never happens again. Second night,
same thing, sleeping my souma feet dangling over the bed.
Boom happens again. I shake awake, and all right, let's
see best, best out of five. So third night, I
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try it on my stomach, feet dangling on the bed.
Boom again, Up, shaky, jolted up, and I said, all right,
three times in a row. Can't be like, can't be
a coincidence. So I did some thought. I did some
thinking into it and some more research, because I do
like research. I don't like studying, but I like research.
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And so some think some articles I've read say that
it goes back to when we were primates, when we
were sleeping in the trees because things were trying to
eat us, and we left. Just like I said, we
slept on our stomachs against the branches with our arms
and legs dangling. And it's a reactionary. It's a it's hey,
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you're about to fall off this tree, Wake the hell
up and catch yourself. And so I thought, yeah, that's
that actually tracks I am okay with that, And so
I went ahead and did some more studying and got
a list of dreams that people have, what they might mean,
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what the experience is, what it says about you, and
what my two favorite psychologists, Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung,
what they think about those dreams. And that's what tonight's
main topic is. So first one, obviously, is the falling dream.
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The experience is sudden sensation of plummeting, often waking with
a jolt, sometimes times a slow, uncontrollable descent. Scientific explanations
include a what's called a hypnick jerk. As you drift
into sleep, your muscles relax and the brain misinterprets this
as falling, triggering a reflex rem atonia. During rem sleep,
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your body is paralyzed to prevent acting out your dreams.
But sometimes the brain tests this by simulating a fall.
Are we living in a simulation? Ooh what my two dudes,
my two psychiatrists think. Sigmund Freud saw it as a
repressed sexual desire falling into temptation. Freud was all about sex.
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Carl Jung symbolizes the loss of control or ego collapse.
What the modern dudes think about it. Anxiety about stability
like your job or relationships, fear of failure or falling
from grace. I mean I am thinking about I have
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been applying for jobs so in other states, because you know,
we're moving and maybe, I mean, I don't have the
anxiety about other jobs. It's just well, I hope I
get those jobs. I guess, so maybe they're ound to
something there cultural and historical beliefs. The ancient Babylonians believed
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falling dreams predicted literal falls, illness, or injury. Chinese folklore
a sign of impending bad luck unless you hit the
ground in the dream, then it's resolved. Native American traditions
indicates a need to ground yourself spiritually. So what do
you do well if frequent examine stressors, your job in security,
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unresolved fears, or practice grounding techniques like meditation and physical activity.
The falling is like everyone's number one dream. Falling and flying,
I guess are the two biggest ones. Number two being chased.
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So the experience is running from an unknown figure, monster,
or animal. Often you can't scream or move quickly. Sleep
paralysis overlap things like that. Scientific explanations is the amygdala activation.
The brain sphere center is hyperactive during rem stimulating threats.
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Evolutionary holdover may stem from primal survival instincts. Again that
you know, evolutionary thing where we're no longer being hunted.
We're no longer having to to go for miles to
get food, but there's still traces of those things that
are still within us. So what does Freud think? Freud
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running from your repressed desires or forbidden attraction? Young, The
pursuer is the shadow repressed traits you deny. I want
to talk more about Young later. Carl Jung is one
of my favorite psychiatrists. He talks about your shadow a
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lot in a lot of his books, and it's the
basic way to interpret it is who you are, is
you as you see yourself, and your shadow is everything
that is the opposite of you. And when you're walking around,
if your shadow is in front of you, it's leading you,
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and if the shadows behind you, it's constantly following you.
It's It's a really good topic. Hopefully I'll get into
that later on down the line. I have to do
a lot of reading for Kyl Youngkarl likes to he
likes to write. So the modern view on that is
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avoidance of problems like debt, conflict, emotions. The pursuer does matter,
the chaser and what it means. So if it's a monster,
sometimes it's a unprocessed trauma. If it's a stranger, it's
a fear of the unknown. If it's an animal, it's
raw instincts like anger or passion. A shadowy figure could
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be depression or guilt. The Egyptian dream book that was
written in twelve one hundred BC, being chased by an
animal meant enemies were plotting against you. In medieval Europe,
a demon chasing you signified moral failure. So what do
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you do well? Next time? Try turning to face the pursuer.
Lucid dreaming techniques. You can control your dream sometimes a
lot of times you don't like. When you see a
pile of money, you can grab that pile of money,
or you can walk away. Most of the times my
body tells it it's brain to walk away, and then
I wake up really mad and disappointed. Or you can
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journal about it when as soon as you wake up
you start writing. I used to keep a dream journal
back when I was at my dad's house. I don't
do it anymore. I probably should get back into it,
but the journal like what am I running from? In
my waking life? Number three teeth falling out dreams. The
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experience is teeth crumble, rot or fall out painlessly, often
accompanied by embarrassment. Scientific explanations broxism. Teeth grinding at night
may trigger these dreams or some ma to sensory feedback
somatosensory feed back. There you go. Your brain interprets slight
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mouth sensations as teeth loss. So if you're like sucking
on your teeth then night, or you're grinding your teeth,
maybe in your head subconsciously your teeth falloup Freud. Freud
thinks it's linked to castration, anxiety or sexual repression. Damn it, Freud,
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damn it young, fear of aging or losing power. See
young is more less sexual, he's more like straight to
the point. The modern view is anxiety about appearance or attractiveness,
fear of helplessness, unable to fight back. The ancient Romans
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believed a sign of impending death, a metaphor for loss.
Hinduism indicates lies or deceits catching up to you, and
the western more modern Western belief is that it's associated
with financials. So what do you do address your oral health?
If it's grinding, Visit a dentist or get a moth guard,
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reflect on communicating fears, speaking up, and you know, face
your fear number four. One of my favorites, the flying dream.
The experience is soaring effortlessly or struggling to stay airborne.
Scientific explanation is the vestibular system activation. The brain mimics
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motion without physical movement dopamine release. Flying dreams often correlate
with joy. Freud thinks it's sexual liberation or your rising energy.
Young believes it's a spiritual ascension or transcendience. The modern
view is a desire to be free, escaping your routine,
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and confidence in overcoming obstacles. There are different types of
flying dreams. By the way, easy joyful flight means confidence
and liberation. Struggling to fly is a fear of failure,
and flying too high is over ambition. The Greeks believe
that data lists and icarus flying as ambitioned. Double edge
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sword Buddhism represents detachment from earthly desires. So what do
you do? Use it as motivations? Are you craving a
career change or adventure? Practice lucid dreaming to control the flight.
I have been able to do that a few times.
I have been able to say, Hey, I'm going to
fly over that house and then land over here. I've
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don't know how I do it, but I've done it.
I have also done the Superman take off, you know
where you're posing for a little bit and you're squatting
down and all of a sudden you just shoot straight up.
I've done that in dreams too, so I am kind
of able to control my flying dreams. Five. I've never
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this has never happened to me, but of being naked
in public. I can't wait to hear what Freud has
to say about this. The experience is suddenly realizing you're
nude in the crowd. Others may not notice, others may stare.
Scientific explanation says that it's social anxiety activation. The interior
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singulate cortex, which process is embarrassment, is active. Freud believes
it is a fear of exposure, hidden desires, or shame.
Young didn't really have anything to say about this. The
modern view is imposter syndrome. They'll find out that I'm
a fraud or vulnerability like a new job or a
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new relationship. Bibically, Adam and Eve's shame after gaining knowledge,
Japanese tradition indicates honesty is coming to light. So what
do you do well? It build self confidence? I mean,
if you're naked and you're owning it and you're not
embarrassed by it, then accept it. You know, it's therapy
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affirmations or ask yourself where do I feel exposed in life?
And then go from there. Six also didn't happen to
me because I'm Asian. Failing a test. The experience is
showing up unprepared, blank exam missing the test. Scientific explanation
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means memory, rehearsal, brain replays old stressors even decades later.
Freud thinks it's a pear. It's a fear of parental judgment.
Young also has nothing to say about this either. But
the modern view is performance anxiety, like work or social expectations.
So modern versions include forgetting a zoom meeting or a presentation.
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So what do you do? Refrain from failure? What's the
test in your life? Now? Prepare more in your way
life reduces subconscious anxiety. Number seven dying or death dreams.
I've had this once. It was a chase dream. First,
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I was being chased by a shadowy figure in a
hood in an apartment building. The building was completely abandoned
and it was dark, there was no lights, and I
was just chasing like I was just running for my life,
just through these corridors, and just like all the movies
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like Mike Myers or Jason or something like that, this
person didn't run, but they were always constantly behind me.
And I finally get to this window that's like it's
also doubles as a fire escape, and I turned around
there was this figure in a hood, dark face. I
couldn't see anything, and this cigre pushes me and I
fall out the window, and right before I hit the ground,
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I wake up. So you know that thing where it's like, oh,
dying in dreams you dine in real life? Who knows.
I don't think that's true, but I'm not going to
test that. So death or dying dreams, the experience is
dreaming of your own death, a loved one dying or
witnessing death, often peaceful, sometimes dramatic. Science says it's a
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threat simulation theory. The brain rehearses extreme scenarios to prepare
for real life dangers or memory consolidations, processing grief, loss,
existential thoughts. I have a lot of existential thoughts. Actually, uh,
what does Freud think? Well, my good old buddy signal Freud.
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It represents repressed guilt or self punishment, or fear of
abandonment if someone else dies. Young believes that it's a transformation.
Death equals rebirth, shedding old identity or shadow work, confronting
mortality to integrate the unconscious. I don't even know what
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that means, but that's what he wrote, and I had
to go through a lot of his books just to
see what he thought about death dreams. Modern beliefs are
life transitions, ending a relationship, career or phase, exsistential anxiety,
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fear of irrelevance, or aging. There are different types of dreams,
so let's go by that scenario, peaceful death, and the
interpretation of that is the acceptance of change. A violent death,
unresolved anger or trauma. Watching someone else die is a
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fear of losing them or guilt coming back to life,
renewal or second chances. The ancient Egyptians believe that death
dreams were prophetic, seen as messages from the afterlifestianity. Dying
in a dream equals a spiritual awakening. Hinduism or Buddhism
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reflects reincarnation cycles. So what do you do if it's
a traumatic death process, grief or fear therapy or journaling.
If it's a peaceful death, embrace change what's dying in
your life to make room for new growth. Number eight
Recurring dreams. The same dreams repeat with minor variations. Often
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involves unresolved stress i e. Being chased, falling or failing,
I'm sorry, and losing places. Science believe it's an emotional loop.
The brain keeps replaying an unprocessed memory or fear. Neuroplasticy. Ooh,
big word. The neuropathway of this dream is overused. So
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kind of like when you go to work and you're
driving the same route over and over and over, and
sometimes you're in the right lane, sometimes you're in the
left lane, and sometimes there's a pothole. So that's what
neuroplasticy is. Freud believes it is a repressed childhood drama resurfacing.
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Young believes it's the unconscious is screaming for attention, ignored
aspects of the self. Man really can't wait to dive
into that, Probably gonna go crazy doing it. The modern
view is avoidance. You're not addressing a real life issue
or problem solving. The brain keeps trying to fix something.
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Common Recurring dreams equals are includes being chased, running from
a problem, lost in a house, searching for identity, missing
a flight, a fear of missed opportunities. How to stop
recurring dreams One lucid dreaming, Recognize your dreaming and change
the outcome. Two therapy reprocess the unlying anxiety. Three rehearse
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a new ending. So before bed, visualize a positive resolution.
Number nine. Meeting celebrities or your crush. The experience is
talking to, kissing, or being admired by a famous person
or crush. Science believes it's dopamine and wish fulfillment. The
brain simulates reward scenarios, the memory activation. Celebrities equal symbols
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of traits you admire. Freud believes it is a sublimated
sexual desire, especially if it's romantic. Young believes the celebrity
represents your anima or animis idealize feminine or masculine traits.
The modern view believes is desire for recognition, wanting to
feel special, or lack of fulfillment. Your crush equals unmet
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emotional needs. And yes, there are different styles, different symbols,
celebrity type and what they mean. So if it's an actor,
it's desire for attention and charisma, a musician craving creativity
or freedom, an athlete wanting discipline or success. An X
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or a crush is an unresolved longing. So what do
you do? Ask yourself? What traits does this person represents
that I want in myself? If it's about an X process,
unresolved feelings, journal or goes deceit therapy number ten being
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late or missing a flight or train or anything. Missing
the bus remember that? Remember waking up thinking you missed
the bus when you're a kid. So the experience is
frantically running, but always sometimes the vehicle leaves without you.
Science believes that time perception in dreams, the brain struggles
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with linear time, creating urgency. Remember time isn't real by
the way, stress hormones cortisol spikes during sleep can generate
rushed dreams. Freud believes it's a fear of missing sexual opportunities.
Yeah yeah. Young believes the train equals life's journey, missing
it feeling off track. Modern view it's a fear of
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missed opportunities or fomo or procrastination guilt you feel behind
in life. The ancient Chinese believed missing a train equaled
warning to slow down, and Western folklore indicates a major
life change is coming. So what do you do? Examine?
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Where do I feel left behind in life? You know,
talk to yourself. Sometimes you gotta sit down and actually
have a chat with yourself, like, dude, what's up? What
do you want to talk about? Practice time management? It
reduces subconscious anxiety. So here are some bonuses. Since we
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flew through so quickly, I shot it down. Some brief
notes about natural disasters like tsunamis or tornadoes, They mean
emotional overwhelm or sudden life changes. You can identify the stressors.
Are you ignoring a storm in your life? Finding new
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rooms in a house is number twelve. It means discovering
hidden potential or repressed memories, and what you should do
about that is explore new hobbies or therapy. Number thirteen.
Being paralyzed or unable to stream meaning sleep paralysis. Your
brain's awake but your body's asleep, or you're feeling powerless
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in your waking life. What you want to do is
you want to reduce sleep deprivation, address situations where you
feel voiceless. And then actually went and dug a little
bit deeper into those things, I said, if I had time,
I was going to dig deeper into those and so
I did, and so the natural dreams in natural disaster dreams,
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the tsunamis tornadoes, earthquakes. Sometimes you experience like crashing waves,
roaring winds, or the crumbling ground, often feeling out of control.
You might be running, watching helplessly, or surviving the chaos.
This is back to your magdala overdrive. The brain fear
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center activates simulating a real threat response, or you're somatsa
somato sensory feedback back to that one. Somato sensory feedback
physical sensation such as heavy blankets equals earthquake rumblings. So
what do they mean? Tsunamis often means overwhelming emotions like
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grief anger. The modern interpretation is drowning in stress or
repressed feelings. Tornadoes means a chaotic life change like jobs
or divorce, job loss or divorce. Sorry. Modern interpretation of
that is you are you're feeling spun out of control,
like there's so many things going on and you just
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can't grasp a single thing. The earthquake means that you
have shaken foundations. You're questioning your beliefs. You're questioning your relationships,
and the modern interpretation of that is that you are
fearing instability in your life. Then there's the volk. I
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never dreamt about a volcano, but apparently other people do,
and that means you are suppressing your rage and it's
slowly starting to come out. And the modern interpretation is
that you need to address your anger issues before it explodes.
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Young versus Freud. Freud saw disasters as repressed trauma bursting forth,
especially volcanos, equaling sexual frustrations. Damn it, Freud, damn it.
I thought we were going to get away with that one.
Young viewed them as the psyche's attempt to rebalance through
destruction or rebirth. The Japanese believed tsunami dreams worn of
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emotional neglect, water equals unconscious Native Americans tornadoes signify spiritual cleansing,
and the ancient Greeks believe that earthquakes equals messages from
the god Poseidon's anger. So if you're running, ask yourself,
what am I avoiding? If you survive, you're resilient, focus
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on your coping strategies. If you're stuck, practice dream rescripting.
Lucid dreaming again. Imagine building a safe shelter for yourself.
Number twelve back to it finding a new room in
the house. The experience is discovering hidden wings, secret passages,
or entire floors in a familiar house. You often feels eerie,
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or it often feels eerie, exciting, and all inspiring all
the same time. The hippocampus is responsible for this. The
brain's memory center maps spaces, blending real and imagine architecture.
Neurogenesis theory, new rooms equals new neuropathways forming you're learning,
or you know you're learning, a new wrinkle in your
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brain whenever you learn. There's a theory where whenever you
learn something, your brain gets a new wrinkle. And so
so ever, since I heard that and I learned something,
go huh, I'll be damn new wrinkle. So what are
the rooms? What do they mean? And what are you asking?
If you are in an attic, it is a forgotten
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memory or a hidden talent, So ask yourself what have
I neglected? If it's the basement, it's your subconscious fears
or repressed trauma, ask yourself what's buried that needs Like
if you are in a grand ballroom, social potential or
unmet desire. Ask yourself, where do I crave more joy?
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If you find yourself in a nursery, it means that
there are new beginnings or unfulfilled nurturing needs. So ask
yourself what wants to be borne in me. It's like
you have a skill that you've always wanted, Like I
want to be a zoologist, and you just pushed that down,
and all of a sudden you're dreaming about being at
a zoo. Maybe it's time to learn how to be
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a zoologists. Freud My boy believes that the house equals
the body. Rooms represent sexual zones, basements equals genitals. Young
believe the house equals the self. New rooms equaled undiscovered
aspects of personality. The Victorians believe that hidden rooms symbolize
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secret affairs or shame in functuate. A cluttered room in
dreams represents stagnant energy in your waking life. So what
do you do? Draw the house, map the rooms to
identify life areas needing exploration, revisit the dream before sleep,
Intend to open a specific door back to that lucid
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dreaming Number thirteen. Being paralyzed or unable to stream the
experience is you are trapped in your body, unable to
move or cry out, often paired with a sinister presence.
Sleep paralysis link occurs when the brain wakes during rem
atonia Muscle paralysis. Science believes that rem atonia malfunction a
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body stays paralyzed while the mind wakes hypnagogic hallucinations. The
brain projects figures i e. Shadow intruders due to hypervigilance.
What do they mean? Psychologically so powerlessness, feeling stuck in
a job, relationship, or life phase, repressed voice, fear of
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speaking your truth hence the muted screams, cultural fear embeddings.
The Hag phenomenon old Hag singing an chests exists worldwide.
Freud believes that paralysis equals castration, anxiety, or sexual guilt.
Young believes the shadow figure equals integrated unintegrated fear or trauma.
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Around the world, what do we have have? We all
have our sleep paralysis demons. In Japan, it is known
as the kana shibari or bound spirit. The Monoor equivalent
of that is the alien abduction narrative. Mexico believes in
the subersi El muerto or the death rider, sleep paralysis
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demon and In Scandinavia, she's known as Mara, the nighttime
Spirit or the Old Hag syndrome. So what do you
do during an episode? Focus on wiggling your toes fingers
to break paralysis. Preventativeness include improve sleep hygiene, reduce caffeine,
or sleep on your side. See here's the thing. I
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do sleep on my side, and I had a sleep
paralysis episode. One night. I was sleeping on the side
of the bed. Alex was sleeping between Mary and I.
Mary was on the farther side, and I always sleep
on my left side, and so I know where Alex sleeps.
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Alex likes to sleep in the middle when he comes
to sleep with us, and my wife always sleeps on
my left side. So Mary on my left side. Alex
also on my left side because he's in the middle,
and I'm turned to the left because that's how I
like to sleep. And one night I felt something laying
down behind me, and it felt like there was definitely
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some weight, there was definitely some health there behind me.
And I woke up except I was unable to move.
I was unable to do anything. I just knew there
was something behind me because I felt it on my
entire back, and the blanket was tightened as if somebody
was sleeping on top of the blanket right next to me,
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and I almost felt breathing. I'm pretty sure it was
probably my own breathing, because my mind is awake and
my body is still asleep, so I'm pretty sure it's
my own breathing. But just the fact that I felt
something behind me laying down right next to me. It
felt almost like a big, heavy dog, like when you
when you get a dog that jumps on your bed
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and sleeps next to you. It felt just like that.
And like I said, I felt I thought I felt
dreaming or I'm sorry, I thought I felt breathing. And
again I just kind of just laid there. I couldn't turn.
I don't think I wanted to turn, but I just
laid there for a bit, you know, opening my eyes,
closing my eyes, opening my eyes, closing my eyes. And
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then eventually I just woke up and nothing was there.
It just it just felt lifted, like it something got
up as I was waking up, and so I just
thought that was weird. But yeah, that's my episode, my
most recent episode of sleep paralysis. So this whole preventiveness
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of sleeping on your side. I don't believe that one,
because I was on my side. Emotional work address real
life situations where do you feel voiceless? Number fourteen. I
didn't address this in the quick notes, but I again
went in number fourteen. Being pregnant when you're not. The
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experience is sudden pregnancy, often with confusion or joy. More
common in men than you think. Never have this myself, actually,
scientists Science believes that it is a body schema. Activation.
The brain mimics physical change, like phantom kicks, hormonal fluctuations.
Even men dream of pregnancy during creative surges, psychological meanings,
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creative projects. The baby equals a book, business, or art piece.
You're nurturing new identity, preparing for a life row i e.
Becoming a leader or a caregiver. An anxiety, fear of responsibility,
growing out of your control. Young, I'm sorry, Freud. Oh
go Freud first, right, because you know as well he's
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the main event Freud literal wish for children. Oh that's
nice of you, Freud. Uh Young, symbol of the self
being reborn, individuation process are The ancient Egyptians believe that
dreamed pregnancies predicted actual fertility or harvest bounty. Modern youngins youngians.
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There you go, people who follow car Young's teachings. Male
pregnancy equals integrating female energy. Your anima anima, not enema,
not not e what a anima? It's your other persona
your first SONA shout out to Mike. So what do
you do? Ask what's growing in my life right now?
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If you're fearful, explore anxieties about upcoming responsibilities, get more
modern fear or dream number fifteen. Losing your car or
I'm sorry, losing your phone or your car isn't working.
The experience is frantically searching for your phone or a
car that won't start. Science believe it's tech anxiety. The
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brain rehearses disconnection fears. Your phone equals social ties, procedural memories.
Cars represent forward motions, glitches in Glitch's mirror, life obstacles.
There you go, psychological meanings. Your phone loss is fear
of being disconnected, irrelevant or unheard. Your car breaking down,
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feeling of stuck in life or lacking direction. Freud. Phones
equals repressed communications or unspoken desires. Young cars equal the
vehicle of your life journey. So you're going on your
life's journey and your car breaks down? What does that mean? Young?
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What does that mean? Cultural twists. The pre digital era
people dreamed of losing watches, time anxiety. In the modern era,
AI nightmares, jat GPT, hijacking your phone. Oh it's happening.
So what do you do? Phone dreams, well, reconnect with
someone you're neglected. Car dreams map out a literal or
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physical next step, even a small action. So key takeaways
from all these dreams that we've been having. Number One,
emotions equal plot. How do you feel in the dream?
Matters more than the story. Recurring symbols, your personal lexicon,
I e. Cats equals independence or or I'm sorry independence
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versus be true. Your brain is a playwright. Your brain
is just giving you things to think about. Dreams blend
memory fragments to solve problems. I like. I like the
theory that since sleep is the cousin of death, your
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dreams are just demos that you that you downloaded, and
your dreams are the pop ups until you buy the
pro version, which is full sleep, which is death. And
so I like that. I like that dreams are actually
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just pop ups and you try to get rid of them,
so you wake up. That's a cool little theory. So
that's what I got. I mean, the key takeaway from
that is, first of all, Freud's a freak. Secondly, dreams
are good. Dreams are something that should be talked about more.
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I think a lot of people say they have dreams
and then they say they forget them. But I bet
they do remember them. It's just that they don't pay
enough attention to them. And I think your body is
telling you something when you're dreaming. So maybe we should
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slow down if maybe we should if we think we're
going too slow in life, maybe we should slow down
and listen to what our bodies are telling us, what
our dreams are telling us. And I think we're gonna
end it at that. I don't know. I don't know
when I'm going to go in this hiatus. I am
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going to see how this recording sounds, and then we'll
go from there. I would definitely announce it because I
don't want to leave you guys hanging, So I'll put
it on social or something like that, or I'll just
make like a quick update podcast using, like I said,
my Jerry rig recording studio here. So I hope this
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sounds good. I appreciate you guys for listening. I appreciate
you guys for hanging on. I will definitely be back.
I just don't know when yet, so this is a
soft hiatus, ever so soft. But yeah, I'm sure when
I get back, I will definitely have some more stories,
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some more topics to talk about. Hopefully I am done
playing animal crossing. I don't think that will be a thing,
but again, who knows. Let's all just slow down a
little bit, huh. But again, thank you all for listening,
and as always, B Bignan, goodbye.
Hello everybody, and welcome to the Buddhist af Podcast. I
am your host, no I chance visik as always. Thank
you for your continued listening. I have a confession to make.
I was a little over zealous with with the packing
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and I packed away my my gaming computer, which I
also used to do a production with UH to record
this show, and so I sat on it. I thought
about it for a bit and as as you can tell,
and I decided maybe I should go on a hiatus.
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But if I go on a hiatus, I should at
least tell you guys that I'm going on a hiatus.
So here I am. I. I Jerry rigged recording quote
unquote studio together using my laptop and headphones, and so
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hopefully it sounds decent. Hopefully there isn't an echo or
anything like that. But I do have a fully fledged episode.
I was going to do it later, but you know what,
you guys deserve it, and you guys still listen, and
I appreciate you guys, and so I'm going to go
ahead and I get this episode going. Episode sixty nine
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or session sixty nine actually nice, but some things Alex
is Monday, Tuesday Wednesday, three days of school left before
he is officially done with the second grade, and we
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can get the ball rolling on what the future holds.
But I am really cautious about what's happening because thinking
about moving. But we probably should get other things in
order first, get our ducks in a row first. So
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here we are. I'm sorry. I normally write notes, but
again I thought I was gonna go to Hiatus, so
I'm just free free balling it here like I did
back in the early days, back in the Chasing Chance
of BSIC days, where I just winged it. But what
am I playing? I am still I'm still playing Animal Crossing.
I don't see that changing for the foreseeable future. I
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am playing the new Tokyo Extreme Racer before I packed
up my computer. Great game. It was everything that the
original on the Dreamcast was, and it just added enough
to make it feel fresh, but keeps everything you loved
about the old game, and that includes bouncing off the
walls at one hundred miles plus per hour and said,
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you still squeeze a lead, So yeah, the mechanics aren't realistic.
It's not Grand Turismo. But what am I reading? I
am currently reading Kitchen Confidential since I don't have my
gaming PC anymore. I'm doing a lot more reading, and
I am reading Kitchen Confidential by Anthony Bourdain again. I
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think I've covered how Cheff Bourdain changed my life. You know,
he he was a recovering addict. I was also. I
guess you can still say I am a recovering addict.
I was born in a kitchen. I grew up around restaurants.
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I've worked and headed several profitable restaurants in my lifetime.
I'm still a phone call away if any restaurant is
willing to pay my mercenary fee. He he gave me
one of the two greatest pieces of advice I've ever gotten. It.
I had a chance to meet him at a book
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signing for his book The Nasty Bits, and I told
him I was also in the culinary world. It's culinary,
by the way, not culinary culinary. I was also in
the culinary world as well, and could he could he
give me some advice on how to survive hectic business,
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because let's be honest, eighty or so percent of restaurants
that start up go bankrupt within the first year. So
I myself have never opened a restaurant of my own
I have helped open several restaurants, and he told me.
He told me, respect the food. Respect the food because
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it feeds us and it pays us. So I take
that to heart. Like, even though I don't like a
certain style of food, I shout it all the time
whenever I'm cooking. Is I hate fusion cooking. I hate
cooking that's like, oh, it's like an Asian inspired Italian roasts,
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blah blah blah. I don't like that. I like foods
that are basic, that are that are primal and very
very little ingredients. That's my style of cooking. And then
all of a sudden I lean into fusion cooking. Somehow
I end up there. It's like a it's like that
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kid you try to avoid on the playground and then
he just sneaks up on you. And so that's where
it is, that's where the business is. That's where people like.
They love fusion cooking. And so I got into it.
And yeah, I mean I'm French and Italian trained. I
became a Hobaci chef because no one else was available.
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I became a sushi chef because no one else was available.
I got into a catering job and I was pretty
much a utility player. I did everything from washing dishes
to setting up tables to being a live on the
spot sushi chef because somebody decided they wanted sushi at
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this catering event and they were willing to pay, you know,
thousands of dollars for it, and I said, you know,
what the hell, yeah, let's go, let's go, let's do this.
And yeah, I thrive off of that. I thrive off
the hecticness of on the spot thinking, which is why
I'm quite good at sales. Actually, I mean, I do
pretty well in sales because I adapt because I think
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very quickly, and I have the answers right then and there.
And so respect the food because it feeds us and
it pays us. The other advice I was given to
me was actually, during my pro wrestling days, I was
going too hard in the ring, blowing myself up. For
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those of you who don't know, uh, that means just
tiring yourself out really quickly, and a trainer pulled me
aside and asked me what was going through my head,
and I told him that I just I just had
to get everything right and it just wasn't clicking properly.
And so he told me to slow down. And if
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I think I'm going too slow, to slow down even more,
like take don't use any wasted movements, don't do things
that are unnecessary. So I took that to heart, like,
if you think you're going too slow, you're going to
speed up and you're going to screw things up. And
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so those are the two biggest advice I've ever gotten,
and I still hold dearly to my heart to this day.
And respect the food because it feeds us and it
pays us. And if you ever think you're going too slow,
slow down. So H hopefully you guys take that to
heart as well if you would like a little advice
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from from NOI. Uh, today's main topic is dreams. We
all have them, We've all played them on the on
the Sega Saturn. Recently, I have been doing a little
Oh it's not a thought experiment, it's an actual experiment.
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And what I've been doing, uh a couple of weeks
ago two about two, yeah, two weeks ago, is that
I've been sleeping on my on on my stomach and
dangling my feet over over the bed. And I do
this purposely just to see just just just I had
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an idea. I had a thought and I said, what
if I do this? What if I lay on my stomach.
I'm usually a side sleeper. What if I lay on
my stomach and dangle my feet over the bed. What
would happen? And it's a very primal way of sleeping.
When you hold a baby, you hold them belly down,
kind of like a football. Used to what our our
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ancestors used to do by sleeping on branches with you know,
over our bellies against the branch and in our arms
and feet dangling off the off the branch. Excuse me.
And so I did this and two nights in a row,
three nights, actually, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I lie three
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nights in a row. I've gotten myself to have that
falling reaction, you know, where like you're just about to
fall asleep. Your body is no longer tense, it's it's relaxed.
You're feeling it, and all of a sudden boom, like
your body just jerks and you wake up because you
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think you're falling. And I said, the first night I
did it. Coincidence, all right, coincidence never happens again. Second night,
same thing, sleeping my souma feet dangling over the bed.
Boom happens again. I shake awake, and all right, let's
see best, best out of five. So third night, I
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try it on my stomach, feet dangling on the bed.
Boom again, Up, shaky, jolted up, and I said, all right,
three times in a row. Can't be like, can't be
a coincidence. So I did some thought. I did some
thinking into it and some more research, because I do
like research. I don't like studying, but I like research.
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And so some think some articles I've read say that
it goes back to when we were primates, when we
were sleeping in the trees because things were trying to
eat us, and we left. Just like I said, we
slept on our stomachs against the branches with our arms
and legs dangling. And it's a reactionary. It's a it's hey,
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you're about to fall off this tree, Wake the hell
up and catch yourself. And so I thought, yeah, that's
that actually tracks I am okay with that, And so
I went ahead and did some more studying and got
a list of dreams that people have, what they might mean,
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what the experience is, what it says about you, and
what my two favorite psychologists, Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung,
what they think about those dreams. And that's what tonight's
main topic is. So first one, obviously, is the falling dream.
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The experience is sudden sensation of plummeting, often waking with
a jolt, sometimes times a slow, uncontrollable descent. Scientific explanations
include a what's called a hypnick jerk. As you drift
into sleep, your muscles relax and the brain misinterprets this
as falling, triggering a reflex rem atonia. During rem sleep,
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your body is paralyzed to prevent acting out your dreams.
But sometimes the brain tests this by simulating a fall.
Are we living in a simulation? Ooh what my two dudes,
my two psychiatrists think. Sigmund Freud saw it as a
repressed sexual desire falling into temptation. Freud was all about sex.
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Carl Jung symbolizes the loss of control or ego collapse.
What the modern dudes think about it. Anxiety about stability
like your job or relationships, fear of failure or falling
from grace. I mean I am thinking about I have
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been applying for jobs so in other states, because you know,
we're moving and maybe, I mean, I don't have the
anxiety about other jobs. It's just well, I hope I
get those jobs. I guess, so maybe they're ound to
something there cultural and historical beliefs. The ancient Babylonians believed
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falling dreams predicted literal falls, illness, or injury. Chinese folklore
a sign of impending bad luck unless you hit the
ground in the dream, then it's resolved. Native American traditions
indicates a need to ground yourself spiritually. So what do
you do well if frequent examine stressors, your job in security,
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unresolved fears, or practice grounding techniques like meditation and physical activity.
The falling is like everyone's number one dream. Falling and flying,
I guess are the two biggest ones. Number two being chased.
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So the experience is running from an unknown figure, monster,
or animal. Often you can't scream or move quickly. Sleep
paralysis overlap things like that. Scientific explanations is the amygdala activation.
The brain sphere center is hyperactive during rem stimulating threats.
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Evolutionary holdover may stem from primal survival instincts. Again that
you know, evolutionary thing where we're no longer being hunted.
We're no longer having to to go for miles to
get food, but there's still traces of those things that
are still within us. So what does Freud think? Freud
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running from your repressed desires or forbidden attraction? Young, The
pursuer is the shadow repressed traits you deny. I want
to talk more about Young later. Carl Jung is one
of my favorite psychiatrists. He talks about your shadow a
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lot in a lot of his books, and it's the
basic way to interpret it is who you are, is
you as you see yourself, and your shadow is everything
that is the opposite of you. And when you're walking around,
if your shadow is in front of you, it's leading you,
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and if the shadows behind you, it's constantly following you.
It's It's a really good topic. Hopefully I'll get into
that later on down the line. I have to do
a lot of reading for Kyl Youngkarl likes to he
likes to write. So the modern view on that is
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avoidance of problems like debt, conflict, emotions. The pursuer does matter,
the chaser and what it means. So if it's a monster,
sometimes it's a unprocessed trauma. If it's a stranger, it's
a fear of the unknown. If it's an animal, it's
raw instincts like anger or passion. A shadowy figure could
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be depression or guilt. The Egyptian dream book that was
written in twelve one hundred BC, being chased by an
animal meant enemies were plotting against you. In medieval Europe,
a demon chasing you signified moral failure. So what do
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you do well? Next time? Try turning to face the pursuer.
Lucid dreaming techniques. You can control your dream sometimes a
lot of times you don't like. When you see a
pile of money, you can grab that pile of money,
or you can walk away. Most of the times my
body tells it it's brain to walk away, and then
I wake up really mad and disappointed. Or you can
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journal about it when as soon as you wake up
you start writing. I used to keep a dream journal
back when I was at my dad's house. I don't
do it anymore. I probably should get back into it,
but the journal like what am I running from? In
my waking life? Number three teeth falling out dreams. The
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experience is teeth crumble, rot or fall out painlessly, often
accompanied by embarrassment. Scientific explanations broxism. Teeth grinding at night
may trigger these dreams or some ma to sensory feedback
somatosensory feed back. There you go. Your brain interprets slight
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mouth sensations as teeth loss. So if you're like sucking
on your teeth then night, or you're grinding your teeth,
maybe in your head subconsciously your teeth falloup Freud. Freud
thinks it's linked to castration, anxiety or sexual repression. Damn it, Freud,
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damn it young, fear of aging or losing power. See
young is more less sexual, he's more like straight to
the point. The modern view is anxiety about appearance or attractiveness,
fear of helplessness, unable to fight back. The ancient Romans
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believed a sign of impending death, a metaphor for loss.
Hinduism indicates lies or deceits catching up to you, and
the western more modern Western belief is that it's associated
with financials. So what do you do address your oral health?
If it's grinding, Visit a dentist or get a moth guard,
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reflect on communicating fears, speaking up, and you know, face
your fear number four. One of my favorites, the flying dream.
The experience is soaring effortlessly or struggling to stay airborne.
Scientific explanation is the vestibular system activation. The brain mimics
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motion without physical movement dopamine release. Flying dreams often correlate
with joy. Freud thinks it's sexual liberation or your rising energy.
Young believes it's a spiritual ascension or transcendience. The modern
view is a desire to be free, escaping your routine,
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and confidence in overcoming obstacles. There are different types of
flying dreams. By the way, easy joyful flight means confidence
and liberation. Struggling to fly is a fear of failure,
and flying too high is over ambition. The Greeks believe
that data lists and icarus flying as ambitioned. Double edge
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sword Buddhism represents detachment from earthly desires. So what do
you do? Use it as motivations? Are you craving a
career change or adventure? Practice lucid dreaming to control the flight.
I have been able to do that a few times.
I have been able to say, Hey, I'm going to
fly over that house and then land over here. I've
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don't know how I do it, but I've done it.
I have also done the Superman take off, you know
where you're posing for a little bit and you're squatting
down and all of a sudden you just shoot straight up.
I've done that in dreams too, so I am kind
of able to control my flying dreams. Five. I've never
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this has never happened to me, but of being naked
in public. I can't wait to hear what Freud has
to say about this. The experience is suddenly realizing you're
nude in the crowd. Others may not notice, others may stare.
Scientific explanation says that it's social anxiety activation. The interior
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singulate cortex, which process is embarrassment, is active. Freud believes
it is a fear of exposure, hidden desires, or shame.
Young didn't really have anything to say about this. The
modern view is imposter syndrome. They'll find out that I'm
a fraud or vulnerability like a new job or a
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new relationship. Bibically, Adam and Eve's shame after gaining knowledge,
Japanese tradition indicates honesty is coming to light. So what
do you do well? It build self confidence? I mean,
if you're naked and you're owning it and you're not
embarrassed by it, then accept it. You know, it's therapy
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affirmations or ask yourself where do I feel exposed in life?
And then go from there. Six also didn't happen to
me because I'm Asian. Failing a test. The experience is
showing up unprepared, blank exam missing the test. Scientific explanation
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means memory, rehearsal, brain replays old stressors even decades later.
Freud thinks it's a pear. It's a fear of parental judgment.
Young also has nothing to say about this either. But
the modern view is performance anxiety, like work or social expectations.
So modern versions include forgetting a zoom meeting or a presentation.
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So what do you do? Refrain from failure? What's the
test in your life? Now? Prepare more in your way
life reduces subconscious anxiety. Number seven dying or death dreams.
I've had this once. It was a chase dream. First,
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I was being chased by a shadowy figure in a
hood in an apartment building. The building was completely abandoned
and it was dark, there was no lights, and I
was just chasing like I was just running for my life,
just through these corridors, and just like all the movies
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like Mike Myers or Jason or something like that, this
person didn't run, but they were always constantly behind me.
And I finally get to this window that's like it's
also doubles as a fire escape, and I turned around
there was this figure in a hood, dark face. I
couldn't see anything, and this cigre pushes me and I
fall out the window, and right before I hit the ground,
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I wake up. So you know that thing where it's like, oh,
dying in dreams you dine in real life? Who knows.
I don't think that's true, but I'm not going to
test that. So death or dying dreams, the experience is
dreaming of your own death, a loved one dying or
witnessing death, often peaceful, sometimes dramatic. Science says it's a
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threat simulation theory. The brain rehearses extreme scenarios to prepare
for real life dangers or memory consolidations, processing grief, loss,
existential thoughts. I have a lot of existential thoughts. Actually, uh,
what does Freud think? Well, my good old buddy signal Freud.
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It represents repressed guilt or self punishment, or fear of
abandonment if someone else dies. Young believes that it's a transformation.
Death equals rebirth, shedding old identity or shadow work, confronting
mortality to integrate the unconscious. I don't even know what
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that means, but that's what he wrote, and I had
to go through a lot of his books just to
see what he thought about death dreams. Modern beliefs are
life transitions, ending a relationship, career or phase, exsistential anxiety,
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fear of irrelevance, or aging. There are different types of dreams,
so let's go by that scenario, peaceful death, and the
interpretation of that is the acceptance of change. A violent death,
unresolved anger or trauma. Watching someone else die is a
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fear of losing them or guilt coming back to life,
renewal or second chances. The ancient Egyptians believe that death
dreams were prophetic, seen as messages from the afterlifestianity. Dying
in a dream equals a spiritual awakening. Hinduism or Buddhism
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reflects reincarnation cycles. So what do you do if it's
a traumatic death process, grief or fear therapy or journaling.
If it's a peaceful death, embrace change what's dying in
your life to make room for new growth. Number eight
Recurring dreams. The same dreams repeat with minor variations. Often
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involves unresolved stress i e. Being chased, falling or failing,
I'm sorry, and losing places. Science believe it's an emotional loop.
The brain keeps replaying an unprocessed memory or fear. Neuroplasticy. Ooh,
big word. The neuropathway of this dream is overused. So
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kind of like when you go to work and you're
driving the same route over and over and over, and
sometimes you're in the right lane, sometimes you're in the
left lane, and sometimes there's a pothole. So that's what
neuroplasticy is. Freud believes it is a repressed childhood drama resurfacing.
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Young believes it's the unconscious is screaming for attention, ignored
aspects of the self. Man really can't wait to dive
into that, Probably gonna go crazy doing it. The modern
view is avoidance. You're not addressing a real life issue
or problem solving. The brain keeps trying to fix something.
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Common Recurring dreams equals are includes being chased, running from
a problem, lost in a house, searching for identity, missing
a flight, a fear of missed opportunities. How to stop
recurring dreams One lucid dreaming, Recognize your dreaming and change
the outcome. Two therapy reprocess the unlying anxiety. Three rehearse
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a new ending. So before bed, visualize a positive resolution.
Number nine. Meeting celebrities or your crush. The experience is
talking to, kissing, or being admired by a famous person
or crush. Science believes it's dopamine and wish fulfillment. The
brain simulates reward scenarios, the memory activation. Celebrities equal symbols
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of traits you admire. Freud believes it is a sublimated
sexual desire, especially if it's romantic. Young believes the celebrity
represents your anima or animis idealize feminine or masculine traits.
The modern view believes is desire for recognition, wanting to
feel special, or lack of fulfillment. Your crush equals unmet
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emotional needs. And yes, there are different styles, different symbols,
celebrity type and what they mean. So if it's an actor,
it's desire for attention and charisma, a musician craving creativity
or freedom, an athlete wanting discipline or success. An X
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or a crush is an unresolved longing. So what do
you do? Ask yourself? What traits does this person represents
that I want in myself? If it's about an X process,
unresolved feelings, journal or goes deceit therapy number ten being
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late or missing a flight or train or anything. Missing
the bus remember that? Remember waking up thinking you missed
the bus when you're a kid. So the experience is
frantically running, but always sometimes the vehicle leaves without you.
Science believes that time perception in dreams, the brain struggles
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with linear time, creating urgency. Remember time isn't real by
the way, stress hormones cortisol spikes during sleep can generate
rushed dreams. Freud believes it's a fear of missing sexual opportunities.
Yeah yeah. Young believes the train equals life's journey, missing
it feeling off track. Modern view it's a fear of
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missed opportunities or fomo or procrastination guilt you feel behind
in life. The ancient Chinese believed missing a train equaled
warning to slow down, and Western folklore indicates a major
life change is coming. So what do you do? Examine?
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Where do I feel left behind in life? You know,
talk to yourself. Sometimes you gotta sit down and actually
have a chat with yourself, like, dude, what's up? What
do you want to talk about? Practice time management? It
reduces subconscious anxiety. So here are some bonuses. Since we
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flew through so quickly, I shot it down. Some brief
notes about natural disasters like tsunamis or tornadoes, They mean
emotional overwhelm or sudden life changes. You can identify the stressors.
Are you ignoring a storm in your life? Finding new
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rooms in a house is number twelve. It means discovering
hidden potential or repressed memories, and what you should do
about that is explore new hobbies or therapy. Number thirteen.
Being paralyzed or unable to stream meaning sleep paralysis. Your
brain's awake but your body's asleep, or you're feeling powerless
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in your waking life. What you want to do is
you want to reduce sleep deprivation, address situations where you
feel voiceless. And then actually went and dug a little
bit deeper into those things, I said, if I had time,
I was going to dig deeper into those and so
I did, and so the natural dreams in natural disaster dreams,
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the tsunamis tornadoes, earthquakes. Sometimes you experience like crashing waves,
roaring winds, or the crumbling ground, often feeling out of control.
You might be running, watching helplessly, or surviving the chaos.
This is back to your magdala overdrive. The brain fear
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center activates simulating a real threat response, or you're somatsa
somato sensory feedback back to that one. Somato sensory feedback
physical sensation such as heavy blankets equals earthquake rumblings. So
what do they mean? Tsunamis often means overwhelming emotions like
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grief anger. The modern interpretation is drowning in stress or
repressed feelings. Tornadoes means a chaotic life change like jobs
or divorce, job loss or divorce. Sorry. Modern interpretation of
that is you are you're feeling spun out of control,
like there's so many things going on and you just
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can't grasp a single thing. The earthquake means that you
have shaken foundations. You're questioning your beliefs. You're questioning your relationships,
and the modern interpretation of that is that you are
fearing instability in your life. Then there's the volk. I
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never dreamt about a volcano, but apparently other people do,
and that means you are suppressing your rage and it's
slowly starting to come out. And the modern interpretation is
that you need to address your anger issues before it explodes.
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Young versus Freud. Freud saw disasters as repressed trauma bursting forth,
especially volcanos, equaling sexual frustrations. Damn it, Freud, damn it.
I thought we were going to get away with that one.
Young viewed them as the psyche's attempt to rebalance through
destruction or rebirth. The Japanese believed tsunami dreams worn of
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emotional neglect, water equals unconscious Native Americans tornadoes signify spiritual cleansing,
and the ancient Greeks believe that earthquakes equals messages from
the god Poseidon's anger. So if you're running, ask yourself,
what am I avoiding? If you survive, you're resilient, focus
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on your coping strategies. If you're stuck, practice dream rescripting.
Lucid dreaming again. Imagine building a safe shelter for yourself.
Number twelve back to it finding a new room in
the house. The experience is discovering hidden wings, secret passages,
or entire floors in a familiar house. You often feels eerie,
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or it often feels eerie, exciting, and all inspiring all
the same time. The hippocampus is responsible for this. The
brain's memory center maps spaces, blending real and imagine architecture.
Neurogenesis theory, new rooms equals new neuropathways forming you're learning,
or you know you're learning, a new wrinkle in your
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brain whenever you learn. There's a theory where whenever you
learn something, your brain gets a new wrinkle. And so
so ever, since I heard that and I learned something,
go huh, I'll be damn new wrinkle. So what are
the rooms? What do they mean? And what are you asking?
If you are in an attic, it is a forgotten
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memory or a hidden talent, So ask yourself what have
I neglected? If it's the basement, it's your subconscious fears
or repressed trauma, ask yourself what's buried that needs Like
if you are in a grand ballroom, social potential or
unmet desire. Ask yourself, where do I crave more joy?
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If you find yourself in a nursery, it means that
there are new beginnings or unfulfilled nurturing needs. So ask
yourself what wants to be borne in me. It's like
you have a skill that you've always wanted, Like I
want to be a zoologist, and you just pushed that down,
and all of a sudden you're dreaming about being at
a zoo. Maybe it's time to learn how to be
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a zoologists. Freud My boy believes that the house equals
the body. Rooms represent sexual zones, basements equals genitals. Young
believe the house equals the self. New rooms equaled undiscovered
aspects of personality. The Victorians believe that hidden rooms symbolize
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secret affairs or shame in functuate. A cluttered room in
dreams represents stagnant energy in your waking life. So what
do you do? Draw the house, map the rooms to
identify life areas needing exploration, revisit the dream before sleep,
Intend to open a specific door back to that lucid
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dreaming Number thirteen. Being paralyzed or unable to stream the
experience is you are trapped in your body, unable to
move or cry out, often paired with a sinister presence.
Sleep paralysis link occurs when the brain wakes during rem
atonia Muscle paralysis. Science believes that rem atonia malfunction a
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body stays paralyzed while the mind wakes hypnagogic hallucinations. The
brain projects figures i e. Shadow intruders due to hypervigilance.
What do they mean? Psychologically so powerlessness, feeling stuck in
a job, relationship, or life phase, repressed voice, fear of
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speaking your truth hence the muted screams, cultural fear embeddings.
The Hag phenomenon old Hag singing an chests exists worldwide.
Freud believes that paralysis equals castration, anxiety, or sexual guilt.
Young believes the shadow figure equals integrated unintegrated fear or trauma.
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Around the world, what do we have have? We all
have our sleep paralysis demons. In Japan, it is known
as the kana shibari or bound spirit. The Monoor equivalent
of that is the alien abduction narrative. Mexico believes in
the subersi El muerto or the death rider, sleep paralysis
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demon and In Scandinavia, she's known as Mara, the nighttime
Spirit or the Old Hag syndrome. So what do you
do during an episode? Focus on wiggling your toes fingers
to break paralysis. Preventativeness include improve sleep hygiene, reduce caffeine,
or sleep on your side. See here's the thing. I
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do sleep on my side, and I had a sleep
paralysis episode. One night. I was sleeping on the side
of the bed. Alex was sleeping between Mary and I.
Mary was on the farther side, and I always sleep
on my left side, and so I know where Alex sleeps.
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Alex likes to sleep in the middle when he comes
to sleep with us, and my wife always sleeps on
my left side. So Mary on my left side. Alex
also on my left side because he's in the middle,
and I'm turned to the left because that's how I
like to sleep. And one night I felt something laying
down behind me, and it felt like there was definitely
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some weight, there was definitely some health there behind me.
And I woke up except I was unable to move.
I was unable to do anything. I just knew there
was something behind me because I felt it on my
entire back, and the blanket was tightened as if somebody
was sleeping on top of the blanket right next to me,
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and I almost felt breathing. I'm pretty sure it was
probably my own breathing, because my mind is awake and
my body is still asleep, so I'm pretty sure it's
my own breathing. But just the fact that I felt
something behind me laying down right next to me. It
felt almost like a big, heavy dog, like when you
when you get a dog that jumps on your bed
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and sleeps next to you. It felt just like that.
And like I said, I felt I thought I felt
dreaming or I'm sorry, I thought I felt breathing. And
again I just kind of just laid there. I couldn't turn.
I don't think I wanted to turn, but I just
laid there for a bit, you know, opening my eyes,
closing my eyes, opening my eyes, closing my eyes. And
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then eventually I just woke up and nothing was there.
It just it just felt lifted, like it something got
up as I was waking up, and so I just
thought that was weird. But yeah, that's my episode, my
most recent episode of sleep paralysis. So this whole preventiveness
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of sleeping on your side. I don't believe that one,
because I was on my side. Emotional work address real
life situations where do you feel voiceless? Number fourteen. I
didn't address this in the quick notes, but I again
went in number fourteen. Being pregnant when you're not. The
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experience is sudden pregnancy, often with confusion or joy. More
common in men than you think. Never have this myself, actually,
scientists Science believes that it is a body schema. Activation.
The brain mimics physical change, like phantom kicks, hormonal fluctuations.
Even men dream of pregnancy during creative surges, psychological meanings,
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creative projects. The baby equals a book, business, or art piece.
You're nurturing new identity, preparing for a life row i e.
Becoming a leader or a caregiver. An anxiety, fear of responsibility,
growing out of your control. Young, I'm sorry, Freud. Oh
go Freud first, right, because you know as well he's
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the main event Freud literal wish for children. Oh that's
nice of you, Freud. Uh Young, symbol of the self
being reborn, individuation process are The ancient Egyptians believe that
dreamed pregnancies predicted actual fertility or harvest bounty. Modern youngins youngians.
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There you go, people who follow car Young's teachings. Male
pregnancy equals integrating female energy. Your anima anima, not enema,
not not e what a anima? It's your other persona
your first SONA shout out to Mike. So what do
you do? Ask what's growing in my life right now?
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If you're fearful, explore anxieties about upcoming responsibilities, get more
modern fear or dream number fifteen. Losing your car or
I'm sorry, losing your phone or your car isn't working.
The experience is frantically searching for your phone or a
car that won't start. Science believe it's tech anxiety. The
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brain rehearses disconnection fears. Your phone equals social ties, procedural memories.
Cars represent forward motions, glitches in Glitch's mirror, life obstacles.
There you go, psychological meanings. Your phone loss is fear
of being disconnected, irrelevant or unheard. Your car breaking down,
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feeling of stuck in life or lacking direction. Freud. Phones
equals repressed communications or unspoken desires. Young cars equal the
vehicle of your life journey. So you're going on your
life's journey and your car breaks down? What does that mean? Young?
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What does that mean? Cultural twists. The pre digital era
people dreamed of losing watches, time anxiety. In the modern era,
AI nightmares, jat GPT, hijacking your phone. Oh it's happening.
So what do you do? Phone dreams, well, reconnect with
someone you're neglected. Car dreams map out a literal or
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physical next step, even a small action. So key takeaways
from all these dreams that we've been having. Number One,
emotions equal plot. How do you feel in the dream?
Matters more than the story. Recurring symbols, your personal lexicon,
I e. Cats equals independence or or I'm sorry independence
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versus be true. Your brain is a playwright. Your brain
is just giving you things to think about. Dreams blend
memory fragments to solve problems. I like. I like the
theory that since sleep is the cousin of death, your
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dreams are just demos that you that you downloaded, and
your dreams are the pop ups until you buy the
pro version, which is full sleep, which is death. And
so I like that. I like that dreams are actually
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just pop ups and you try to get rid of them,
so you wake up. That's a cool little theory. So
that's what I got. I mean, the key takeaway from
that is, first of all, Freud's a freak. Secondly, dreams
are good. Dreams are something that should be talked about more.
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I think a lot of people say they have dreams
and then they say they forget them. But I bet
they do remember them. It's just that they don't pay
enough attention to them. And I think your body is
telling you something when you're dreaming. So maybe we should
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slow down if maybe we should if we think we're
going too slow in life, maybe we should slow down
and listen to what our bodies are telling us, what
our dreams are telling us. And I think we're gonna
end it at that. I don't know. I don't know
when I'm going to go in this hiatus. I am
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going to see how this recording sounds, and then we'll
go from there. I would definitely announce it because I
don't want to leave you guys hanging, So I'll put
it on social or something like that, or I'll just
make like a quick update podcast using, like I said,
my Jerry rig recording studio here. So I hope this
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sounds good. I appreciate you guys for listening. I appreciate
you guys for hanging on. I will definitely be back.
I just don't know when yet, so this is a
soft hiatus, ever so soft. But yeah, I'm sure when
I get back, I will definitely have some more stories,
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some more topics to talk about. Hopefully I am done
playing animal crossing. I don't think that will be a thing,
but again, who knows. Let's all just slow down a
little bit, huh. But again, thank you all for listening,
and as always, B Bignan, goodbye.
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