June 13, 2023 • 25 mins
Feeling the weight of running an online business and battling burnout? Today, I'm sharing my personal journey of overcoming burnout and how creating a deeply meaningful personal vision helped me get back on track. Tune in as I discuss the importance of discovering what truly belongs to you and how understanding the intersection of your core values and passions can guide you to your purpose.
Listen as I offer exercises to help you reconnect with your true self and design a personal vision for your ideal future. By developing a clear and vivid image of who you want to become, you can build a pathway to recover from burnout that is not just effective, but also deeply fulfilling. Don't miss this chance to reflect on what sparks your passion and embark on a journey towards healing and a more aligned life.
Discussed in this episode: Burnout, Recovery, Core Values, Mission, Vision, Belonging vs Fitting In
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Corinne O'Flynn (00:00):
Hey there, my name is Corinne O'Flynn and
you're listening to the CalmEntrepreneur podcast.
I am a USA Today best-sellingauthor, non-profit executive and
organizing nerd with over 20years experience running my own
small businesses.
I teach entrepreneurs,solarpreneurs and small business
owners like you how to organizeyour business, find more time
(00:20):
and deepen your alignmentpractice to experience more calm
and confidence every single day.
If you're looking for thatintersection between practical
business advice and spiritualgoodness, then you're in the
right place.
So sit back, relax and let'sdive into this week's episode of
the Calm Entrepreneur podcast.
Welcome, welcome to the CalmEntrepreneur podcast.
(00:44):
I'm your host, corinne O'Flynn,and this is episode 25.
So this week I wanted to talkabout burnout and, specifically,
my personal pathway torecovering from burnout, and I
was reminded of this recentlybecause I'm in the process of
(01:04):
moving my online community froma Facebook group to a circle
community, which I am loving, bythe way.
But in the course of creatingall the different spaces in my
new circle community, i foundmyself writing about my vision
for the community and what I washoping to foster in the
(01:26):
community with the new members,and I talked about this vision I
had of a different future asentrepreneurs And in order to
get to that vision and in orderto write down the complete
thought process that brought methere, i had to recall a lot of
(01:47):
what did lead me to doing thethings that I was doing and to
thinking the things that I wasthinking.
And that path came out of areally deep burnout And I've
been thinking about how far I'vecome from being in that darker
burnout place and I wanted toshare a little bit about how I
found my way through, because ifyou're running an online
(02:07):
business, you're probably nostranger to the relentless
pressure right and the seeminglynon-stop need for connectivity
and all the expectations that weplace on ourselves and the ones
that are placed on us that weallow in.
I think that many of us, atsome point or another,
experience periods of emotional,mental and physical exhaustion
(02:30):
caused by prolonged andexcessive stress.
Right then, that's burnout.
But the process of recoveryfrom burnout can be really
challenging and there is noquick fix right there like I
wish that there were, but thereisn't, and I don't advocate
anybody out there who's tellingyou that there is a quick fix
there because there isn't.
It's a healing and healingtakes time.
(02:51):
But there are several things.
Looking back on my own personalexperience that I can see were
actually stepping stones towardmy recovery, and when I like sit
down and enumerate them, theyturned into like a series of
podcast episodes.
I couldn't go into all of themin one episode and give them all
(03:12):
the respect that they're due,but when I did list them out,
there was one that seemed to beat the core of all of it, and
everything kind of centeredaround developing a vision for
myself and for my future.
That held deep personal meaningand it sounds trite, i know,
but having a clear personalfuture view of who I wanted to
(03:37):
be served as a beacon, and itguided me back to center when
all I was feeling wasoverwhelmed and burned out.
So what is this personal vision?
so for me, a personal vision isa clear and vivid picture of
what I want my ideal personalfuture to look like and who I
(03:59):
want to be in that future.
And that sounds easy, butthere's a wrinkle in there,
because in order to get to thattrue future, you, in that vision
, you really have to identifyonly the things that are truly
yours, and what I mean by thatis that you have to also
identify the things that otherpeople expect of you, and that's
(04:21):
a really big part of this, andthis is really just an exercise.
The question to ask is whowould I be if all I had to do
was choose, if nobody else hadto say?
Because I think that part ofwhat pushes us away from what we
really want is this ocean ofshoulds and expectations and
(04:42):
obligations and the things thatwe take on for all the reasons
you know, wrong or right.
This is not a place for thatkind of value judgment, and I'm
not saying that you should cutoff everything and everyone in
order to recover from burnoutnot at all.
But in this exercise, i thinkthat you should identify the
things that you want for youfrom your heart, identify them
(05:07):
and write them down, withoutconsideration of anything
external.
What does that look like?
So a good starting place is tomake a list of the things that
you love and the things that youlove doing.
For me, my list included thingslike drinking hot tea with milk
and sugar, holding hands withmy husband when we walk around
(05:28):
places, all the way up tocoaching somebody in need
through a problem and hosting ahuge charity event for my
nonprofit.
Your list should includeanything that comes to mind, big
or small, without guilt orjudgment.
The only rule is that it has tobe something that lights you up
, and it doesn't need to lightyou up in this moment of burnout
(05:48):
.
It needs to light you up inyour future.
You.
And then the next exercise thatI did and I did this like I
have.
This is all in my journalsThink about what it is that you
value, like I'm talking likecore values, the big character
things that we think about,because we all have core values,
(06:09):
but I don't know that we reallyspend a lot of time thinking
about them, unless somebody'scrossed a line and we're upset
because something outside theworld has violated our core
values.
But making a list of the thingsthat we consider core values is
something that I found reallyhelpful, and the list for me
(06:31):
includes things like trust,honesty, essence of humor, being
in service to others, doingthings in alignment, like you
get the drift right.
My list has over 40 core valueson them, and if you're working
through a burnout or you're in alow phase, try to challenge
yourself to see how many ofthese you can identify.
So why are these two listsimportant?
(06:52):
I think because when weidentify our core values and
also the things that light us up.
We're only a few clicks awayfrom finding our purpose.
And when I talk about purpose,i'm not talking about your job.
We are not our jobs.
We are not what we do.
Right, we're who we are.
(07:12):
We are who we be.
As my quantum human designmentor coach talks about Karen
Curry-Parker says, you are nothere to do anything.
Your purpose here is to be yourtruest self.
So how do we find out who thatperson is?
So consider how your passionsand your values intersect.
(07:35):
Right, if you were going todraw that out on a piece of
paper, what does that Venndiagram look like?
How can you use your uniqueskills and passions to
contribute to the world in a waythat aligns with your values?
The intersection here is whatholds the key to what is your
purpose, and it's not justidentifying these black and
(08:00):
white things.
It's also like what does itfeel like?
Where is the sense of purposecoming from?
And once you have identifiedthat, see if you can envision an
ideal future.
And I want you to resist thepull of that voice that tells
you to stay in reality and thinkabout all the practical things
that need doing right.
This isn't the time for that.
(08:21):
This is an exercise in healing.
This is a vision for the future.
So when you think about yourlife one year, five years, ten
years or twenty years from now,you're gonna feel cool and Gray.
What does that look like whenit aligns with your values,
(08:42):
includes your passions andfulfills your purpose?
For me, that was my vision.
That's my personal vision ofmyself.
So what is yours?
What is your personal vision?
Because by developing ameaningful personal vision, you
can start creating a pathway ofrecovery from burnout right, a
(09:06):
recovery that's not justeffective but it's also deeply
fulfilling.
And it's not a matter of youknow, wake up in the morning and
brush your teeth and do thesepractical things.
This is a spiritual healing,and I think that burnout is a
whole body thing.
It's not just physical, it'syour soul, and I think that when
(09:27):
we find ourselves in burnout,that's our whole being crying
out for relief And we have toheal.
It's a healing process.
Once your personal vision isdefined, the key is not just to
have it, but to actively startto incorporate it into your
daily life, and this practicewill help you bring resilience
(09:49):
in And it'll help you becomeless susceptible to setbacks
when you're trying to build outof burnout.
Because when you have this asthis new compass, you can start
making shifts, and these are theshifts that align your actions
(10:10):
with this new vision.
Right.
You can start to think abouthow your everyday decisions and
the things that you do alignwith your personal ideal vision.
This is the ideal right.
This isn't like some concrete10-year plan that you've written
down and that you have thestair steps to.
(10:31):
This is the greater overarchingvision.
This is the ideal right,because being in alignment with
that serves as a reminder of whyyou're making the decisions
right.
It's the big, it's the capitalW, why.
And it helps you stay motivatedAnd it helps keep that passion
lit, even during reallychallenging times.
(10:53):
And I think that when you startmaking shifts toward that ideal
vision you have to then the nextstep is you can't help but
embrace self-care, right,because then you start to
realize that part of your corevision, part of your core values
, speaks to taking care ofyourself physically, emotionally
(11:15):
, mentally.
All of those things need to bein alignment in order for you to
have any hope of reachinganything near your vision right.
So self-care practices are huge, and that includes everything
from nutrition and exercise andmindfulness, rest and all those
things that we need, and, assomebody who has been there, i
(11:35):
understand how hard it is.
Right, when you're in the lowphase, when you're suffering
from burnout, when you arebroken and out of energy so
completely depleted it's reallyhard to do anything.
So take baby steps on all ofthose things, focus on the micro
until you have the energy forthe larger things, and also
(11:58):
celebrate small wins.
Right, your personal vision isa long-term guide.
Right, it's the North Star.
It's the larger picture, butit's important to celebrate all
the small steps and victoriesalong the way.
Acknowledging your progress, nomatter how small, is a boost.
It boosts motivation, it addspositivity and it is
(12:21):
incrementally chipping away atburnout.
Right, it's all these littlethings of the medicine.
That's the thing that we needto heal.
Again, support systems.
This is something that comes upso often in my podcasts, but
you have to surround yourselfwith people who support your
vision and understand yourvalues and your passions, and
(12:42):
the exercise of identifying thethings that you love and
identifying the things that areyour core values will also help
you identify the things thataren't, and so, when you
identify the things that are thethings that you can't budge on.
You can't help but identify thethings that no longer fit, and
when you do that, you then startto find the right people and
(13:05):
start putting yourselves in thecircles that fit you, because
social support is a significantpart of healing and burnout
recovery.
It's what we need to becomeresilient.
It's the place we need to go tofind the voice that tells us no
, you know what you're doing.
(13:26):
All right, you're not losingyour mind.
This is progress And I'm herefor you.
So building a support system isI don't know.
I feel like self care shouldinclude people, other people.
And, lastly, i think that it'sreally important that once you
(13:47):
have made these lists, that youkeep them handy.
When I was writing about mymanifesto is really what I
called it.
I called it a welcome manifestoin my new community, because
I'm tired of pretending not tofeel so strongly this vision.
I'm done with making it small.
(14:12):
I'm done with trying to make itfit.
I was listening to somethingyesterday on, i think, on
Instagram.
I forget anymore where I hearthings from, but it was Brené
Brown, and if you're notfamiliar with Brené Brown,
please Google her and find herTed Talks.
Everything that falls out ofthis woman's mouth is not just
(14:34):
gold, it's like a balm for thesoul.
She speaks truths in ways thatI don't think anybody else has
before, and something that shetalked about in this snippet it
was just like a minute that Isaw.
She said, "The opposite ofbelonging.
(14:55):
She said I was so surprised todiscover that the opposite of
belonging is fitting in, youknow, and when I heard that I
was like, oh, like, it was oneof those revelation feelings.
It was like, oh my God, ofcourse.
And I asked my family and I saidyou know, what do you think the
(15:15):
opposite of belonging is?
And all of them said thingslike being an outcast or being
rejected or, you know, not beingpart of the group.
And fitting in is actually theopposite of belonging.
Because when you are fitting in, you're a chameleon, you're
(15:36):
putting on a mask, you'rewearing a costume, you're
showing up in a way to then findacceptance, you're bending to
fit a mold, you're not beingyourself, whereas belonging
Brene Brown says belongingdoesn't ask that of us.
When you have belonging, youare there fully as you, and so
(16:04):
that was so profound to me.
It was a wonderful revelationand it's something that I think
I'm like never going to stopthinking about it.
It's so important, it's vitallyimportant that we understand
that we are meant to be who weare And by showing up as
(16:30):
anything other.
That takes a lot of energy.
It's a lot of work, and I thinkthat when we do that, that's
also something that causes us topush into burnout.
I don't think that's deniable,i don't have any data, i'm just
going off the cuff here, but Ifeel that feels true to me,
(16:53):
because it's a lot of worktrying to fit in And it's a lot
of work maintaining that.
It's not sustainable.
It burns us, it burns too muchenergy, which leads to burnout,
which is why my manifesto cameto be.
Which is why I'm talking aboutburnout in this episode, because
(17:13):
the entire vision of the futurethat I was able to cultivate by
digging deep and really cuttingback to the core of who am I?
What do I want?
Why am I here?
What is the perfect future looklike.
If where I'm at now isn'tserving me and the things that I
(17:39):
was doing before were notsustainable and landed me in
this hole, well, i've gotnothing to lose, so I might as
well think big right.
So this future vision, thisdream thing that I saw myself in
started off with sitting downand thinking about what, if
what's possible.
And so my core values havebolstered my ability to step
(18:07):
into my true self, or at leastreveal my true self, and do it
in a way that is compassionateand not forceful, but strong and
confident.
And I say confident not in away that says I'm not fearful,
because I'll tell you that Iopened the doors to my community
(18:30):
this week and the lump in mythroat and the shake in my voice
is legit, like it's hard tostand up.
And it's even harder to standup and show yourself when you're
showing your true self.
And so that's what I'm talkingabout when I talk about, like,
really showing up.
But that's the power of thepersonal vision, because I now
(18:53):
understand how knowing mypersonal vision is what healed
my burnout.
Working only toward my personalvision healed my burnout.
Releasing the things that nolonger served is what healed me,
and I did that by identifyingmy values like my unshakables
(19:17):
These are the non-negotiablesand also all the things that I
love and believe in that lightme up, and I was able to find in
there the calm entrepreneur.
Like it sounds strange, butthat's how this all happened.
So if you're listening to this,you are talking to somebody who
(19:39):
has come out the other side ofburnout and done so in a way
that still is.
You know, i'm still me, i'mstill human.
I'm still having a really hardtime with a lot of the things,
but I'm doing them anyway,because I feel so much more
confident in who I am.
I did a deep dive into me andcame out the other side with my
(20:02):
eyes and my heart wide open, andI think that it's something
that's accessible to everybody.
So if you are struggling inburnout, i urge you to really
try this.
It's a simple enough exerciseto understand, but it's not easy
to do, because theidentification of the things
that are 100% you calls out thethings that aren't.
(20:27):
And once you've decided thatthese are the things that are
you, you have work to do.
You have to let things go, andthat doesn't mean, you know,
burn down the house and pack upthe car and drive off and leave
your life behind.
That's not what I'm talkingabout.
I'm talking about the larger,overarching things.
You know, i think that there'sa balance in there between
(20:51):
holding fast to the things andthe choices and the life that
you have and also shiftingtoward this vision that you
identify for yourself and do itin a sustainable way.
And I talk about that in mymanifesto, which maybe I'll read
one day to you guys.
But it was really important tome to be able to share that.
(21:12):
And I just feel called to talkabout burnout with you today
because it was brought back upin the opening up of my
community.
I opened up my community and Iinvited people in and as soon as
I did it, i was like, oh my God, they're going to read my
manifesto.
What are they going to think?
And I was like you know what?
I don't know that it matters.
(21:34):
What matters to me is that thepeople that read it, that it
resonates with those, are theones that belong there.
And if it doesn't resonate withyou, then this is not the
community for you.
It's really like that's one ofthose things like be yourself
right, show up as you, and thenyou attract all the people to
you.
And it's so easy to say it.
It's easier said than done, butI'm here to say that there's
(21:59):
value in it And I think thatit's a worthwhile endeavor.
And if you do end up takingpart in this exercise for
yourself, please let me know.
I would love to hear what thatjourney was like for you,
because burnout is no joke guys.
It's a complex, multifacetedthing that can affect anyone and
(22:23):
it hits people regardless ofour profession, our lifestyle,
our age.
It can come from anywhere, atany time.
But I truly believe thatdeveloping a personal vision
through the exercise that Iillustrated earlier in this
episode, you can create a vividrepresentation of your higher
(22:43):
self, this ideal that is steepedin core values and dripping
with your passions, and thosethings get woven together to
create a profound sense ofpurpose And that can be
transformative when it comes tohealing from burnout.
So, in the midst of burnout,when you feel disconnected, in a
drift, try to remember thatyour personal vision can be the
(23:06):
thing that guides you back right, that brings you back to you,
and this process can help youfoster a new path forward.
You know, one that notnecessarily is devoid of stress
and that burnout will neverhappen again, but it could be
more rewarding and morefulfilling and perhaps be more
(23:29):
of a compass to prevent us fromveering off the path that brings
us toward burnout.
So I urge you to remember thatthe journey of recovery from
burnout and the pursuit of yourpersonal vision is a marathon.
It is not a sprint.
It is not a switch that you canflip.
It is not an overnight solution.
(23:49):
So be gentle with yourself,celebrate your progress and
continue to strive toward yourideal future, one step at a time
.
Because you've got this, and ifthis resonated with you, i would
love to hear from you, whileI'll put my link in the show
notes and you can reach outanytime.
Thank you for listening.
(24:11):
Remember, part of being a calmentrepreneur is developing the
systems, habits and know-howthat lets you know that you are
the one in the driver's seat.
You get to choose how you runyour business and you get to
choose how you work.
So you got this.
(24:31):
I hope you enjoyed listening tothis episode of the calm
entrepreneur podcast.
I'm Corinne O'Flynn and if thisepisode was valuable to you,
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New episodes go out each weekon Tuesdays and I look forward
(24:53):
to hanging with you again.
This is Karin signing off.
Have an excellent day.
Hey there, my name is Corinne O'Flynn and
you're listening to the CalmEntrepreneur podcast.
I am a USA Today best-sellingauthor, non-profit executive and
organizing nerd with over 20years experience running my own
small businesses.
I teach entrepreneurs,solarpreneurs and small business
owners like you how to organizeyour business, find more time
(00:20):
and deepen your alignmentpractice to experience more calm
and confidence every single day.
If you're looking for thatintersection between practical
business advice and spiritualgoodness, then you're in the
right place.
So sit back, relax and let'sdive into this week's episode of
the Calm Entrepreneur podcast.
Welcome, welcome to the CalmEntrepreneur podcast.
(00:44):
I'm your host, corinne O'Flynn,and this is episode 25.
So this week I wanted to talkabout burnout and, specifically,
my personal pathway torecovering from burnout, and I
was reminded of this recentlybecause I'm in the process of
(01:04):
moving my online community froma Facebook group to a circle
community, which I am loving, bythe way.
But in the course of creatingall the different spaces in my
new circle community, i foundmyself writing about my vision
for the community and what I washoping to foster in the
(01:26):
community with the new members,and I talked about this vision I
had of a different future asentrepreneurs And in order to
get to that vision and in orderto write down the complete
thought process that brought methere, i had to recall a lot of
(01:47):
what did lead me to doing thethings that I was doing and to
thinking the things that I wasthinking.
And that path came out of areally deep burnout And I've
been thinking about how far I'vecome from being in that darker
burnout place and I wanted toshare a little bit about how I
found my way through, because ifyou're running an online
(02:07):
business, you're probably nostranger to the relentless
pressure right and the seeminglynon-stop need for connectivity
and all the expectations that weplace on ourselves and the ones
that are placed on us that weallow in.
I think that many of us, atsome point or another,
experience periods of emotional,mental and physical exhaustion
(02:30):
caused by prolonged andexcessive stress.
Right then, that's burnout.
But the process of recoveryfrom burnout can be really
challenging and there is noquick fix right there like I
wish that there were, but thereisn't, and I don't advocate
anybody out there who's tellingyou that there is a quick fix
there because there isn't.
It's a healing and healingtakes time.
(02:51):
But there are several things.
Looking back on my own personalexperience that I can see were
actually stepping stones towardmy recovery, and when I like sit
down and enumerate them, theyturned into like a series of
podcast episodes.
I couldn't go into all of themin one episode and give them all
(03:12):
the respect that they're due,but when I did list them out,
there was one that seemed to beat the core of all of it, and
everything kind of centeredaround developing a vision for
myself and for my future.
That held deep personal meaningand it sounds trite, i know,
but having a clear personalfuture view of who I wanted to
(03:37):
be served as a beacon, and itguided me back to center when
all I was feeling wasoverwhelmed and burned out.
So what is this personal vision?
so for me, a personal vision isa clear and vivid picture of
what I want my ideal personalfuture to look like and who I
(03:59):
want to be in that future.
And that sounds easy, butthere's a wrinkle in there,
because in order to get to thattrue future, you, in that vision
, you really have to identifyonly the things that are truly
yours, and what I mean by thatis that you have to also
identify the things that otherpeople expect of you, and that's
(04:21):
a really big part of this, andthis is really just an exercise.
The question to ask is whowould I be if all I had to do
was choose, if nobody else hadto say?
Because I think that part ofwhat pushes us away from what we
really want is this ocean ofshoulds and expectations and
(04:42):
obligations and the things thatwe take on for all the reasons
you know, wrong or right.
This is not a place for thatkind of value judgment, and I'm
not saying that you should cutoff everything and everyone in
order to recover from burnoutnot at all.
But in this exercise, i thinkthat you should identify the
things that you want for youfrom your heart, identify them
(05:07):
and write them down, withoutconsideration of anything
external.
What does that look like?
So a good starting place is tomake a list of the things that
you love and the things that youlove doing.
For me, my list included thingslike drinking hot tea with milk
and sugar, holding hands withmy husband when we walk around
(05:28):
places, all the way up tocoaching somebody in need
through a problem and hosting ahuge charity event for my
nonprofit.
Your list should includeanything that comes to mind, big
or small, without guilt orjudgment.
The only rule is that it has tobe something that lights you up
, and it doesn't need to lightyou up in this moment of burnout
(05:48):
.
It needs to light you up inyour future.
You.
And then the next exercise thatI did and I did this like I
have.
This is all in my journalsThink about what it is that you
value, like I'm talking likecore values, the big character
things that we think about,because we all have core values,
(06:09):
but I don't know that we reallyspend a lot of time thinking
about them, unless somebody'scrossed a line and we're upset
because something outside theworld has violated our core
values.
But making a list of the thingsthat we consider core values is
something that I found reallyhelpful, and the list for me
(06:31):
includes things like trust,honesty, essence of humor, being
in service to others, doingthings in alignment, like you
get the drift right.
My list has over 40 core valueson them, and if you're working
through a burnout or you're in alow phase, try to challenge
yourself to see how many ofthese you can identify.
So why are these two listsimportant?
(06:52):
I think because when weidentify our core values and
also the things that light us up.
We're only a few clicks awayfrom finding our purpose.
And when I talk about purpose,i'm not talking about your job.
We are not our jobs.
We are not what we do.
Right, we're who we are.
(07:12):
We are who we be.
As my quantum human designmentor coach talks about Karen
Curry-Parker says, you are nothere to do anything.
Your purpose here is to be yourtruest self.
So how do we find out who thatperson is?
So consider how your passionsand your values intersect.
(07:35):
Right, if you were going todraw that out on a piece of
paper, what does that Venndiagram look like?
How can you use your uniqueskills and passions to
contribute to the world in a waythat aligns with your values?
The intersection here is whatholds the key to what is your
purpose, and it's not justidentifying these black and
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white things.
It's also like what does itfeel like?
Where is the sense of purposecoming from?
And once you have identifiedthat, see if you can envision an
ideal future.
And I want you to resist thepull of that voice that tells
you to stay in reality and thinkabout all the practical things
that need doing right.
This isn't the time for that.
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This is an exercise in healing.
This is a vision for the future.
So when you think about yourlife one year, five years, ten
years or twenty years from now,you're gonna feel cool and Gray.
What does that look like whenit aligns with your values,
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includes your passions andfulfills your purpose?
For me, that was my vision.
That's my personal vision ofmyself.
So what is yours?
What is your personal vision?
Because by developing ameaningful personal vision, you
can start creating a pathway ofrecovery from burnout right, a
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recovery that's not justeffective but it's also deeply
fulfilling.
And it's not a matter of youknow, wake up in the morning and
brush your teeth and do thesepractical things.
This is a spiritual healing,and I think that burnout is a
whole body thing.
It's not just physical, it'syour soul, and I think that when
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we find ourselves in burnout,that's our whole being crying
out for relief And we have toheal.
It's a healing process.
Once your personal vision isdefined, the key is not just to
have it, but to actively startto incorporate it into your
daily life, and this practicewill help you bring resilience
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in And it'll help you becomeless susceptible to setbacks
when you're trying to build outof burnout.
Because when you have this asthis new compass, you can start
making shifts, and these are theshifts that align your actions
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with this new vision.
Right.
You can start to think abouthow your everyday decisions and
the things that you do alignwith your personal ideal vision.
This is the ideal right.
This isn't like some concrete10-year plan that you've written
down and that you have thestair steps to.
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This is the greater overarchingvision.
This is the ideal right,because being in alignment with
that serves as a reminder of whyyou're making the decisions
right.
It's the big, it's the capitalW, why.
And it helps you stay motivatedAnd it helps keep that passion
lit, even during reallychallenging times.
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And I think that when you startmaking shifts toward that ideal
vision you have to then the nextstep is you can't help but
embrace self-care, right,because then you start to
realize that part of your corevision, part of your core values
, speaks to taking care ofyourself physically, emotionally
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, mentally.
All of those things need to bein alignment in order for you to
have any hope of reachinganything near your vision right.
So self-care practices are huge, and that includes everything
from nutrition and exercise andmindfulness, rest and all those
things that we need, and, assomebody who has been there, i
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understand how hard it is.
Right, when you're in the lowphase, when you're suffering
from burnout, when you arebroken and out of energy so
completely depleted it's reallyhard to do anything.
So take baby steps on all ofthose things, focus on the micro
until you have the energy forthe larger things, and also
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celebrate small wins.
Right, your personal vision isa long-term guide.
Right, it's the North Star.
It's the larger picture, butit's important to celebrate all
the small steps and victoriesalong the way.
Acknowledging your progress, nomatter how small, is a boost.
It boosts motivation, it addspositivity and it is
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incrementally chipping away atburnout.
Right, it's all these littlethings of the medicine.
That's the thing that we needto heal.
Again, support systems.
This is something that comes upso often in my podcasts, but
you have to surround yourselfwith people who support your
vision and understand yourvalues and your passions, and
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the exercise of identifying thethings that you love and
identifying the things that areyour core values will also help
you identify the things thataren't, and so, when you
identify the things that are thethings that you can't budge on.
You can't help but identify thethings that no longer fit, and
when you do that, you then startto find the right people and
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start putting yourselves in thecircles that fit you, because
social support is a significantpart of healing and burnout
recovery.
It's what we need to becomeresilient.
It's the place we need to go tofind the voice that tells us no
, you know what you're doing.
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All right, you're not losingyour mind.
This is progress And I'm herefor you.
So building a support system isI don't know.
I feel like self care shouldinclude people, other people.
And, lastly, i think that it'sreally important that once you
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have made these lists, that youkeep them handy.
When I was writing about mymanifesto is really what I
called it.
I called it a welcome manifestoin my new community, because
I'm tired of pretending not tofeel so strongly this vision.
I'm done with making it small.
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I'm done with trying to make itfit.
I was listening to somethingyesterday on, i think, on
Instagram.
I forget anymore where I hearthings from, but it was Brené
Brown, and if you're notfamiliar with Brené Brown,
please Google her and find herTed Talks.
Everything that falls out ofthis woman's mouth is not just
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gold, it's like a balm for thesoul.
She speaks truths in ways thatI don't think anybody else has
before, and something that shetalked about in this snippet it
was just like a minute that Isaw.
She said, "The opposite ofbelonging.
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She said I was so surprised todiscover that the opposite of
belonging is fitting in, youknow, and when I heard that I
was like, oh, like, it was oneof those revelation feelings.
It was like, oh my God, ofcourse.
And I asked my family and I saidyou know, what do you think the
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opposite of belonging is?
And all of them said thingslike being an outcast or being
rejected or, you know, not beingpart of the group.
And fitting in is actually theopposite of belonging.
Because when you are fitting in, you're a chameleon, you're
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putting on a mask, you'rewearing a costume, you're
showing up in a way to then findacceptance, you're bending to
fit a mold, you're not beingyourself, whereas belonging
Brene Brown says belongingdoesn't ask that of us.
When you have belonging, youare there fully as you, and so
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that was so profound to me.
It was a wonderful revelationand it's something that I think
I'm like never going to stopthinking about it.
It's so important, it's vitallyimportant that we understand
that we are meant to be who weare And by showing up as
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anything other.
That takes a lot of energy.
It's a lot of work, and I thinkthat when we do that, that's
also something that causes us topush into burnout.
I don't think that's deniable,i don't have any data, i'm just
going off the cuff here, but Ifeel that feels true to me,
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because it's a lot of worktrying to fit in And it's a lot
of work maintaining that.
It's not sustainable.
It burns us, it burns too muchenergy, which leads to burnout,
which is why my manifesto cameto be.
Which is why I'm talking aboutburnout in this episode, because
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the entire vision of the futurethat I was able to cultivate by
digging deep and really cuttingback to the core of who am I?
What do I want?
Why am I here?
What is the perfect future looklike.
If where I'm at now isn'tserving me and the things that I
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was doing before were notsustainable and landed me in
this hole, well, i've gotnothing to lose, so I might as
well think big right.
So this future vision, thisdream thing that I saw myself in
started off with sitting downand thinking about what, if
what's possible.
And so my core values havebolstered my ability to step
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into my true self, or at leastreveal my true self, and do it
in a way that is compassionateand not forceful, but strong and
confident.
And I say confident not in away that says I'm not fearful,
because I'll tell you that Iopened the doors to my community
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this week and the lump in mythroat and the shake in my voice
is legit, like it's hard tostand up.
And it's even harder to standup and show yourself when you're
showing your true self.
And so that's what I'm talkingabout when I talk about, like,
really showing up.
But that's the power of thepersonal vision, because I now
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understand how knowing mypersonal vision is what healed
my burnout.
Working only toward my personalvision healed my burnout.
Releasing the things that nolonger served is what healed me,
and I did that by identifyingmy values like my unshakables
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These are the non-negotiablesand also all the things that I
love and believe in that lightme up, and I was able to find in
there the calm entrepreneur.
Like it sounds strange, butthat's how this all happened.
So if you're listening to this,you are talking to somebody who
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has come out the other side ofburnout and done so in a way
that still is.
You know, i'm still me, i'mstill human.
I'm still having a really hardtime with a lot of the things,
but I'm doing them anyway,because I feel so much more
confident in who I am.
I did a deep dive into me andcame out the other side with my
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eyes and my heart wide open, andI think that it's something
that's accessible to everybody.
So if you are struggling inburnout, i urge you to really
try this.
It's a simple enough exerciseto understand, but it's not easy
to do, because theidentification of the things
that are 100% you calls out thethings that aren't.
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And once you've decided thatthese are the things that are
you, you have work to do.
You have to let things go, andthat doesn't mean, you know,
burn down the house and pack upthe car and drive off and leave
your life behind.
That's not what I'm talkingabout.
I'm talking about the larger,overarching things.
You know, i think that there'sa balance in there between
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holding fast to the things andthe choices and the life that
you have and also shiftingtoward this vision that you
identify for yourself and do itin a sustainable way.
And I talk about that in mymanifesto, which maybe I'll read
one day to you guys.
But it was really important tome to be able to share that.
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And I just feel called to talkabout burnout with you today
because it was brought back upin the opening up of my
community.
I opened up my community and Iinvited people in and as soon as
I did it, i was like, oh my God, they're going to read my
manifesto.
What are they going to think?
And I was like you know what?
I don't know that it matters.
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What matters to me is that thepeople that read it, that it
resonates with those, are theones that belong there.
And if it doesn't resonate withyou, then this is not the
community for you.
It's really like that's one ofthose things like be yourself
right, show up as you, and thenyou attract all the people to
you.
And it's so easy to say it.
It's easier said than done, butI'm here to say that there's
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value in it And I think thatit's a worthwhile endeavor.
And if you do end up takingpart in this exercise for
yourself, please let me know.
I would love to hear what thatjourney was like for you,
because burnout is no joke guys.
It's a complex, multifacetedthing that can affect anyone and
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it hits people regardless ofour profession, our lifestyle,
our age.
It can come from anywhere, atany time.
But I truly believe thatdeveloping a personal vision
through the exercise that Iillustrated earlier in this
episode, you can create a vividrepresentation of your higher
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self, this ideal that is steepedin core values and dripping
with your passions, and thosethings get woven together to
create a profound sense ofpurpose And that can be
transformative when it comes tohealing from burnout.
So, in the midst of burnout,when you feel disconnected, in a
drift, try to remember thatyour personal vision can be the
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thing that guides you back right, that brings you back to you,
and this process can help youfoster a new path forward.
You know, one that notnecessarily is devoid of stress
and that burnout will neverhappen again, but it could be
more rewarding and morefulfilling and perhaps be more
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of a compass to prevent us fromveering off the path that brings
us toward burnout.
So I urge you to remember thatthe journey of recovery from
burnout and the pursuit of yourpersonal vision is a marathon.
It is not a sprint.
It is not a switch that you canflip.
It is not an overnight solution.
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So be gentle with yourself,celebrate your progress and
continue to strive toward yourideal future, one step at a time
.
Because you've got this, and ifthis resonated with you, i would
love to hear from you, whileI'll put my link in the show
notes and you can reach outanytime.
Thank you for listening.
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Remember, part of being a calmentrepreneur is developing the
systems, habits and know-howthat lets you know that you are
the one in the driver's seat.
You get to choose how you runyour business and you get to
choose how you work.
So you got this.
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I hope you enjoyed listening tothis episode of the calm
entrepreneur podcast.
I'm Corinne O'Flynn and if thisepisode was valuable to you,
please head on over and rate andreview wherever you consume
your podcasts.
Please subscribe so you'llnever miss an episode.
New episodes go out each weekon Tuesdays and I look forward
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to hanging with you again.
This is Karin signing off.
Have an excellent day.
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