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March 11, 2025 27 mins

When you’re grieving, the last thing you need to be doing is planning a service. Pre-planning allows you to make only two decisions when death occurs: what day and what time the service will be held. Everything else can be arranged in advance, giving you the space to honor your loved one while processing your grief.


We are Sue Ryan and Nancy Treaster, and we recently spoke with Greg Cannon, who has more than 45 years of experience in the funeral profession, including as a funeral director. Greg shared his expertise on planning ahead for a loved one’s service, offering eight essential tips that can make all the difference during a difficult time.

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Full Show Notes

https://thecaregiversjourney.com/finding-peace-in-preparation-end-of-life-service-preplanning-eight-essential-tips-alzheimers-and-other-dementias/



Additional Resources Mentioned

End of Life Service Worksheet here


Takeaways

Tip 1: Choose a Funeral Home

Select a funeral home that will meet your needs. This choice may be based on location, previous experience with them, or their reputation. 


Tip 2: Decide on Burial or Cremation

This fundamental decision shapes many subsequent choices. 

If choosing burial, consider:

  • Cemetery location
  • If the person is married, reserving an adjoining space for the spouse
  • Whether traditional burial or green burial options are preferred.


For cremation, consider:

  • Whether the cremation will happen before or after the service.
  • What will be done with the cremated remains afterward.


In both cases, you’ll need to decide what clothing the person will wear. Greg advises bringing a complete set of clothing, including undergarments and outerwear. Shoes are optional and often difficult to put on, but can be included if they’re meaningful.


Tip 3: Decide on the Type of Service

Funeral services have evolved beyond the traditional. 

Traditional Service (for either burial or cremation)

Memorial Service

Green Burial

Direct Cremation or Direct Burial


Tip 4: Choose a Location

The location for the service could be:

  • A funeral home
  • A place of worship
  • A location meaningful to the deceased


Tip 5: Prepare the Obituary

Rather than writing the complete obituary under time pressure, prepare by:

  • Compiling all necessary information ahead of time
  • Creating a comprehensive list of family members to include
  • Selecting a photo or photos to accompany the obituary.


Tip 6: Create a Notification Tree

Decide ahead of time:

  • Who needs to be notified of the death
  • Who will notify whom
  • Create a “notification tree” so you’re not responsible for contacting everyone.


Tip 7: Plan the Service

Consider these elements and include your care receiver as much as possible:

  • Officiant: Choose the clergy
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