Real vs. Fake Apologies: 8 Red Flags
How do you know if an apology is truly sincere? In this episode, Matt and Erin walk through practical ways to evaluate an apology and respond in a way that protects the relationship and your peace.
What you’ll learn
• The difference between “I’m sorry” and sincere contrition
• 8 signs to watch for:
1.Convenient timing (ulterior motives)
2.Vague language (no specific action owned)
3.Defensive tone or anger
4.Over-explaining to self-justify
5.Minimizing your hurt (“it’s not a big deal”)
6.Blame-shifting (“sorry you were offended”)
7.Sorry about consequences, not the harm
8.No follow-through—or pressuring you to “get over it”
• How temperament and ignorance vs. contrition affect sincerity
• Mercy without enabling: requests, boundaries, and next steps
• Simple questions that draw out sincerity:
- “What exactly are you sorry for?”
- “How do you wish you’d acted?”
- “What will you do differently next time?”
Key idea: Be a model of mercy while staying in your locus of control. You can forgive, ask for clarity, and set timelines for rebuilding trust—without accepting manipulation.
Related episode: How to Make a Sincere Apology (pairs perfectly with this one)
If this helped, share it with someone who needs a clear, faith-rooted framework for reconciliation.
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