November 20, 2024 • 14 mins
In this episode, Cisco shares personal stories of resilience, family, and the lessons that shaped his journey. From growing up without his father and watching his mom’s sacrifices to stepping into a caregiver role for his sisters, Cisco reflects on the challenges and responsibilities that made him who he is today. Now a father himself, […]
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(00:03):
Welcome to the Cisco Chronicles
with your host,
Cisco.
I'm glad to see you guys here.
Welcome back to the Sysco Chronicles.
(00:25):
I'm Sysco, and today I wanna get into
something a little deeper.
Something close to my heart.
You know,
well, I don't know if you know,
but I heard this saying
and I wanna talk about that.
And the saying goes,
(00:46):
home
is dark without mom,
and life
is dark without dad.
It's one of those phrases that makes you
stop and think about the roles
people play in your life.
And for me, growing up,
(01:06):
that saying has
that saying hits pretty close.
So let's talk about family,
about resilience,
and what it means to carry those roles
forward.
I didn't grow up with my dad.
(01:30):
I didn't grow up with my dad around.
He was
well,
he made the choice to live his life
at a distance.
He wasn't interested in being a part
of me and my sister's
life,
and
(01:50):
I had to come to terms with that.
My sister, on the other hand, she still
visits him and all these other things even
though he wasn't there for us.
But that's her relationship with him,
not mine.
But my mom,
she was there through everything.
(02:13):
She was everything.
My mom was the one who held it
all together.
She worked 2 jobs making things happen,
doing whatever it took to give us a
decent life.
There were days where it was just the
2 of us, me and my mom.
(02:33):
We would wake up
at 5 o'clock in the morning
to take the
bus down
downtown,
and from there, we would take a trolley
down to Tijuana, Mexico
because I had a baseball game at 8
o'clock in the morning.
She'd be right there beside me traveling
(02:55):
all the way,
but then again, she kinda had to in
a sense because
I was
only, like, 6, 7, 8,
9, 10, 11 years old
when we had to do this.
But she did it just to make sure
I could do what I loved, which was
playing baseball.
(03:17):
And it wasn't just that one game, obviously,
but
most days,
because,
again, I loved to play baseball,
We would
have to travel
all the way back to the States. I
say all the way back, but it wasn't
really that far.
(03:39):
You know, when you do something
so often,
you kinda
get zombied out,
and the time is
just nonexistent,
if you know what I mean.
And
we would come back
(03:59):
because
I would have another game on that same
day at 4 PM
in the States.
You look back on that stuff,
and
you see the sacrifice,
the love behind it all, you know?
She didn't have to do any of that,
(04:21):
but she did
because she knew, again, I really enjoyed playing
baseball.
Now while my mom was working late shifts,
I was taking care of my sisters.
We all kind of had our roles. You
know?
I'd cook them dinner.
Well,
(04:42):
cook. Right? Because I'm chef Cisco.
Cook is a strong word at the time.
It was mostly
chef Cisco's microwavable dinners,
but we got by. You know?
I would make sure that we were taken
(05:02):
care of.
You know? They ate,
got ready for bed.
And looking back,
I see how those times made me grow
up a little faster
than a lot of the kids my age,
but I didn't really have a choice.
It was just something that needed to be
done.
(05:23):
But it also taught me responsibility,
patience,
and in a way,
it taught me that
it taught me what it meant to be
a man,
even though at the time I didn't really
realize it.
(05:44):
Some people might look at
where I am now and think I should
be further along,
but I'm
exactly where I need to be.
I've could have gone a different route.
Maybe I'd be out there
playing baseball or,
at this point in my life, retiring from
(06:04):
baseball or maybe not.
But being the oldest,
taking care of my sisters,
it shaped me,
and I wouldn't trade that for anything.
And then
becoming a father myself,
it really put everything into perspective.
(06:26):
With my oldest son,
he's from a previous relationship,
let's just say it was hard.
His mom put
every roadblock she could to keep me from
being there,
but
I didn't let it stop me.
We she would she lives
(06:47):
3
hours
north of where I live,
and I'd be up at 4 o'clock in
the morning.
And I would drive 3 hours north
for the court dates
that I had to be at at 8
o'clock,
pretty much every time.
(07:07):
It wasn't constant. It wasn't every day. It
wasn't every week.
But when I did have court,
that's what I would do,
just to fight for the right
to be in my son's life.
I was there every time,
no matter what.
And now, years later, things are better. His
(07:30):
mom and I get along. I've always tried
to get along with her.
I'm sure she did too, but in her
own
way.
But now she knows
that I would do anything for my son.
That's a bond no one can break.
(07:50):
My girl and I now have 3 kids
together,
and
they know,
like,
they know that I'm there for them as
well.
I'm not perfect,
but they
know. I'll always show up no matter what.
(08:10):
And
to all the parents out there,
I know you understand this.
I know I know you understand
this. Whether you're you're a mom
or a father,
you guys understand.
We all have our own ways of teaching
our kids as well, and we have our
own ways of guiding them.
(08:32):
It might not be the popular way,
but it's our way,
and we know what's best for our own
families.
You know,
kids these days are different.
Some of them
talk back to their parents,
(08:53):
disrespect them
over something
something really small. Like,
I saw a video
of a girl yelling
at her parents because her Nintendo wasn't charged,
her Nintendo Switch.
Oh, man.
I just wanna say,
(09:14):
back in the day,
my mom would have put me in my
place
for even
starting
to wanna talk like that.
She didn't mess around,
and it taught me respect.
It taught me discipline.
(09:36):
I'm not saying that that's the answer,
but, hey,
I believe in boundaries
and in respect.
When I say my kids' names,
in a certain way,
they know to listen,
and they know to stop,
whatever it is they're doing.
(09:59):
And if that's not a popular way to
parent,
so be it.
I'd rather raise strong,
respectful,
grounded,
unentitled
kids
than ones who
don't know the
right from wrong.
(10:21):
It's funny because I've had conversations with some
people who did, like,
who did have their dads around,
and sometimes those kids wish they did that
they didn't have their dads around
or their mothers, whatever the case may be.
Either they didn't get along or
they just had that friction. You know?
(10:45):
Maybe it's just a phase.
Maybe when they get older,
they'll see things differently.
I tell my oldest son, look.
I might seem hard on you now,
but I'm raising you to be a man.
I want you to be respectful,
(11:06):
caring,
but also strong
when you need to be, like a warrior
when it demands to be.
I've been in the ring
myself.
I've done Muay Thai and boxing for 15
(11:26):
years,
give or take,
and I wanna pass those skills to my
son, to all my kids.
I want him to know how to defend
himself
and
the people he loves.
But I also told him straight up, if
you ever use what I teach you to
(11:48):
bully others,
he's gonna get in the ring with me,
learning a hard lesson.
I'd love
for
my younger kids to learn that as well
(12:09):
if they want.
I'm not gonna
go around and be pushy with them. I
mean, sometimes I sort of kinda am, but
not to the extent where I'm constantly pushing
them to wanting to do something that I
would want them to do.
I want them to choose their own paths.
(12:32):
If there's one thing
I hope my kids
and anyone listening can take
from all of this
is that
life isn't always easy,
and it's never just handed to you.
You have to work for it
and fight for the things you believe in.
(12:57):
Don't let someone else decide your story
or tell you where
your life is headed.
Only you
can write that.
As for me, looking back,
I could have taken different paths.
Maybe
I I could have been a baseball player,
(13:18):
but, again,
who knows?
But I am grateful
for where I am now,
for my kids,
my girl,
my family,
and this chance to share these stories with
you,
this is
(13:39):
if I went another path, you'd probably never
hear any of this story,
this story in particular.
So to anyone out there who's been told
that
they aren't good enough,
that
they can't make it,
remember,
you decide what happens next.
(14:01):
Your story isn't over
until you say it is.
Thanks for tuning in again to The Cisco
Chronicles.
If you're enjoying this journey,
please subscribe,
leave a rating,
share it with someone who needs a little
encouragement.
Remember, we're all out here working toward wealth,
(14:22):
health,
and stronger relationships.
Until next time,
keep moving forward
and trust that you are exactly where you
need to be.
Welcome to the Cisco Chronicles
with your host,
Cisco.
I'm glad to see you guys here.
Welcome back to the Sysco Chronicles.
(00:25):
I'm Sysco, and today I wanna get into
something a little deeper.
Something close to my heart.
You know,
well, I don't know if you know,
but I heard this saying
and I wanna talk about that.
And the saying goes,
(00:46):
home
is dark without mom,
and life
is dark without dad.
It's one of those phrases that makes you
stop and think about the roles
people play in your life.
And for me, growing up,
(01:06):
that saying has
that saying hits pretty close.
So let's talk about family,
about resilience,
and what it means to carry those roles
forward.
I didn't grow up with my dad.
(01:30):
I didn't grow up with my dad around.
He was
well,
he made the choice to live his life
at a distance.
He wasn't interested in being a part
of me and my sister's
life,
and
(01:50):
I had to come to terms with that.
My sister, on the other hand, she still
visits him and all these other things even
though he wasn't there for us.
But that's her relationship with him,
not mine.
But my mom,
she was there through everything.
(02:13):
She was everything.
My mom was the one who held it
all together.
She worked 2 jobs making things happen,
doing whatever it took to give us a
decent life.
There were days where it was just the
2 of us, me and my mom.
(02:33):
We would wake up
at 5 o'clock in the morning
to take the
bus down
downtown,
and from there, we would take a trolley
down to Tijuana, Mexico
because I had a baseball game at 8
o'clock in the morning.
She'd be right there beside me traveling
(02:55):
all the way,
but then again, she kinda had to in
a sense because
I was
only, like, 6, 7, 8,
9, 10, 11 years old
when we had to do this.
But she did it just to make sure
I could do what I loved, which was
playing baseball.
(03:17):
And it wasn't just that one game, obviously,
but
most days,
because,
again, I loved to play baseball,
We would
have to travel
all the way back to the States. I
say all the way back, but it wasn't
really that far.
(03:39):
You know, when you do something
so often,
you kinda
get zombied out,
and the time is
just nonexistent,
if you know what I mean.
And
we would come back
(03:59):
because
I would have another game on that same
day at 4 PM
in the States.
You look back on that stuff,
and
you see the sacrifice,
the love behind it all, you know?
She didn't have to do any of that,
(04:21):
but she did
because she knew, again, I really enjoyed playing
baseball.
Now while my mom was working late shifts,
I was taking care of my sisters.
We all kind of had our roles. You
know?
I'd cook them dinner.
Well,
(04:42):
cook. Right? Because I'm chef Cisco.
Cook is a strong word at the time.
It was mostly
chef Cisco's microwavable dinners,
but we got by. You know?
I would make sure that we were taken
(05:02):
care of.
You know? They ate,
got ready for bed.
And looking back,
I see how those times made me grow
up a little faster
than a lot of the kids my age,
but I didn't really have a choice.
It was just something that needed to be
done.
(05:23):
But it also taught me responsibility,
patience,
and in a way,
it taught me that
it taught me what it meant to be
a man,
even though at the time I didn't really
realize it.
(05:44):
Some people might look at
where I am now and think I should
be further along,
but I'm
exactly where I need to be.
I've could have gone a different route.
Maybe I'd be out there
playing baseball or,
at this point in my life, retiring from
(06:04):
baseball or maybe not.
But being the oldest,
taking care of my sisters,
it shaped me,
and I wouldn't trade that for anything.
And then
becoming a father myself,
it really put everything into perspective.
(06:26):
With my oldest son,
he's from a previous relationship,
let's just say it was hard.
His mom put
every roadblock she could to keep me from
being there,
but
I didn't let it stop me.
We she would she lives
(06:47):
3
hours
north of where I live,
and I'd be up at 4 o'clock in
the morning.
And I would drive 3 hours north
for the court dates
that I had to be at at 8
o'clock,
pretty much every time.
(07:07):
It wasn't constant. It wasn't every day. It
wasn't every week.
But when I did have court,
that's what I would do,
just to fight for the right
to be in my son's life.
I was there every time,
no matter what.
And now, years later, things are better. His
(07:30):
mom and I get along. I've always tried
to get along with her.
I'm sure she did too, but in her
own
way.
But now she knows
that I would do anything for my son.
That's a bond no one can break.
(07:50):
My girl and I now have 3 kids
together,
and
they know,
like,
they know that I'm there for them as
well.
I'm not perfect,
but they
know. I'll always show up no matter what.
(08:10):
And
to all the parents out there,
I know you understand this.
I know I know you understand
this. Whether you're you're a mom
or a father,
you guys understand.
We all have our own ways of teaching
our kids as well, and we have our
own ways of guiding them.
(08:32):
It might not be the popular way,
but it's our way,
and we know what's best for our own
families.
You know,
kids these days are different.
Some of them
talk back to their parents,
(08:53):
disrespect them
over something
something really small. Like,
I saw a video
of a girl yelling
at her parents because her Nintendo wasn't charged,
her Nintendo Switch.
Oh, man.
I just wanna say,
(09:14):
back in the day,
my mom would have put me in my
place
for even
starting
to wanna talk like that.
She didn't mess around,
and it taught me respect.
It taught me discipline.
(09:36):
I'm not saying that that's the answer,
but, hey,
I believe in boundaries
and in respect.
When I say my kids' names,
in a certain way,
they know to listen,
and they know to stop,
whatever it is they're doing.
(09:59):
And if that's not a popular way to
parent,
so be it.
I'd rather raise strong,
respectful,
grounded,
unentitled
kids
than ones who
don't know the
right from wrong.
(10:21):
It's funny because I've had conversations with some
people who did, like,
who did have their dads around,
and sometimes those kids wish they did that
they didn't have their dads around
or their mothers, whatever the case may be.
Either they didn't get along or
they just had that friction. You know?
(10:45):
Maybe it's just a phase.
Maybe when they get older,
they'll see things differently.
I tell my oldest son, look.
I might seem hard on you now,
but I'm raising you to be a man.
I want you to be respectful,
(11:06):
caring,
but also strong
when you need to be, like a warrior
when it demands to be.
I've been in the ring
myself.
I've done Muay Thai and boxing for 15
(11:26):
years,
give or take,
and I wanna pass those skills to my
son, to all my kids.
I want him to know how to defend
himself
and
the people he loves.
But I also told him straight up, if
you ever use what I teach you to
(11:48):
bully others,
he's gonna get in the ring with me,
learning a hard lesson.
I'd love
for
my younger kids to learn that as well
(12:09):
if they want.
I'm not gonna
go around and be pushy with them. I
mean, sometimes I sort of kinda am, but
not to the extent where I'm constantly pushing
them to wanting to do something that I
would want them to do.
I want them to choose their own paths.
(12:32):
If there's one thing
I hope my kids
and anyone listening can take
from all of this
is that
life isn't always easy,
and it's never just handed to you.
You have to work for it
and fight for the things you believe in.
(12:57):
Don't let someone else decide your story
or tell you where
your life is headed.
Only you
can write that.
As for me, looking back,
I could have taken different paths.
Maybe
I I could have been a baseball player,
(13:18):
but, again,
who knows?
But I am grateful
for where I am now,
for my kids,
my girl,
my family,
and this chance to share these stories with
you,
this is
(13:39):
if I went another path, you'd probably never
hear any of this story,
this story in particular.
So to anyone out there who's been told
that
they aren't good enough,
that
they can't make it,
remember,
you decide what happens next.
(14:01):
Your story isn't over
until you say it is.
Thanks for tuning in again to The Cisco
Chronicles.
If you're enjoying this journey,
please subscribe,
leave a rating,
share it with someone who needs a little
encouragement.
Remember, we're all out here working toward wealth,
(14:22):
health,
and stronger relationships.
Until next time,
keep moving forward
and trust that you are exactly where you
need to be.
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