Why Am I So Lonely? The Deeper Truth About Disconnection

In this episode, Sarah and Casey take a deep dive into loneliness—the kind that lingers even when you're surrounded by people. They explore how childhood experiences shape our sense of connection, why loneliness can sometimes feel protective, and why "just make friends" is the worst advice ever. Together, they unpack the emotional roots of isolation, the role of emotional attunement, and how understanding your loneliness can actually be a path to healing.

Takeaways:

• Loneliness is about disconnection, not just being alone.
• You can feel lonely in a crowded room.
• Sometimes, loneliness serves as self-protection.
• Making friends isn’t always the fix.
• Exploring loneliness can lead to self-awareness and growth.
• Childhood experiences shape how we experience loneliness.
• Emotional attunement is key to meaningful connection.
• Social anxiety often traces back to trauma and attachment wounds.
• Resilience and loneliness can coexist.

Join us for a conversation that validates your experience, challenges the myths, and offers a deeper understanding of loneliness beyond the usual “just put yourself out there” advice.

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