August 14, 2023 • 29 mins
In this special episode, Kushla walks you through what to do when you feel like you have a hard time receiving more ...
whether it's more money, more clients, or even more health and love.
The ironic thing is that some of the women I've helped through this are some of the biggest givers and so there is a giving-and-receiving imbalance, so in this episode, we share tips that will help you shift your energy around money and receiving more.
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Kushla Chadwick (00:00):
This is episode number 11 of the Confident
Coach Academy podcast and it isalso one of our special episodes
.
So it's the fourth episode onour series of blocks that we're
looking at, and today we'relooking at the block of
under-receiving.
So if you want more money andmore clients, if you want to
make more of an impact and moreincome, then make sure you dive
(00:23):
in.
Hey, welcome to the ConfidentCoach Academy podcast.
I'm your host, Kushla Chadwick,and if you have an audacious
dream to really be at service inthe world, do a profitable
coaching business online andhave an awesome life, upline In
my love, you are in the rightplace.
Together we're going to talkstrategy, mindset, manifestation
, thought work, energy work, allthe things.
(00:43):
So let's dive in.
Hey, my friends, how are you?
I hope you're doing amazing.
I'm doing super duper well.
Actually, we have a new puppyin our house.
His name's Argo.
He's a Dalmatian puppy.
He's my second daughter's puppyand he is a rascal, but
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obviously so adorable, and sothings have been pretty full on
in the house around these partswith the puppy training and all
of that.
I also went away on a trip justrecently with one of my best
friends, Kelly.
She's amazing.
She's inspiring to me in somany ways and a super high
(01:30):
quality friend.
I love her and we went away forfour full days.
We left on a flight early on aThursday no Friday morning, come
back late on a Monday night.
We flew down to Tasmania, whichis at the bottom of Australia
here, and hired a car and westayed a couple of different
(01:50):
places.
Our first night was kind offunny because I accidentally
booked a hotel for the wronglocation.
I don't know what happened.
I'm like a book so many placesall around the world so often
and I have never done that.
You know.
It was funny and we ended upbooking at a place which was
still in a great location in theright town.
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But I've been having a lot offun and I feel like I've been
receiving abundantly In my lifefor quite a long time actually,
and this is just another exampleof it, and that's not to say
that my life is, all you know,sweet and beautiful all of the
time, because it's really messysometimes in some areas, just
(02:36):
like you might be experiencingright and requires great effort
sometimes right, and you know Iwill say sometimes like there
are tears and all those types ofthings, but for the most part,
I just feel so incrediblyblessed and so grateful for the
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health that I have, the friendsthat I have, the love that I
have in my husband I mean, I'vebeen together for 25 years our
beautiful children and ourrelationships, our three
daughters Now Argo one of myother daughters also has a dog,
jaeger.
He's crazy and wonderful aswell and all of my family.
(03:20):
And the reason I'm sharingthese very personal things with
you because I think so many ofyou are not really enjoying the
sweetness of life as you aretrying to create a successful
coaching business and asuccessful life, and I know that
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it can be really reallydifficult sometimes not to be
swept up in all the things thatyou can do online to try and
create a successful business.
You know, some of you might noteven be a coach, you might have
a job or be thinking aboutcoaching, but there's literally
thousands and thousands ofoptions of how you can run your
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business online and it can beoverwhelming and you could learn
for the rest of your life.
I promise you, with all thecontent that's online, you could
learn a strategy, like you know, every month.
Go deep, dive into a strategyand do that for the rest of your
life, and so it's reallyimportant that we acknowledge
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that there needs to be a balancein things, and that's what I
really want to talk to you abouttoday is the balance of giving
and receiving.
I want to talk about the blockof not receiving, or under
receiving, or pushing away right, and the funny thing is that
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some of the people who have thisblock ironically are some of
the biggest givers and doincredible things for other
people.
And you know, as a Christian,I'm big on, you know, things
like not being selfish, lookingout for other people, helping
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the poor, needy, helping and bypoor I don't mean just
financially poor.
I don't think it could besomeone who's you know
struggling with the health, oryou know they're in need of a
good friend Like there's allsorts of ways spiritually,
there's all sorts of ways thatwe can be in need, and we all
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are in need, we all have needs,and there are all gaps that we
are experiencing in our lives atany given time that other
people can help with.
And so, as I talk about thisblock of not receiving today, I
particularly want to share mylove and support for those who
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are the overgivers not supportyou in your overgiving, of
course, but share my support foryou in terms of like.
I want to really call you outand help you to get into a flow
of, if you're going to give big,receive big as well, right,
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what's meant to be the naturalorder of things is, like you
know, what we put out, wereceive back, and it doesn't
mean that we're giving in theform of like.
As I give this, I want anexchange to happen back for me,
like this expectation, like thisthing that I'm giving.
I want it back because I'vebeen a good person and I've done
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this.
Like obviously, no, that's notwhat I'm talking about, right,
but there's a trust that happens, that can happen in our lives.
Like, as we're giving, justknowing that we also are
receiving back at any given time.
And I know some of you, likethat's what you feel, like
you've been relying on, right,you feel like you don't
understand.
(06:59):
I've been doing that like Ihelp, you know, here in this
area and I help there and I dothis, but for some reason I'm
still not receiving back.
I'm still like not beingblessed in my business.
So I want to talk about why thatmight be happening, like, if
you're a big giver why you mightnot be receiving big as well.
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And if you're not giving big,if you're not exchanging tons of
value and giving lots of valueto other people's lives, then
you will receive less, you'llreceive small, or even you might
say no, kushla, you know what?
I get lots of stuff and Ihardly do anything.
I don't think that's the case,because I really don't think
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you'd be listening to my podcastif that were you.
But on the off chance thatthere is someone like that who's
listening, I can promise youthat, however big you're
receiving, you can be receivingso much more if you're expanding
your ability to give.
Now, here's the thing we don'twant to give from this place of
depletion.
Right, you don't want to, like,keep giving and giving because,
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even though time is not real,there is a function in time for
the sake of our mental sanityhere on the planet, right, as we
interact with each other.
And so I'm going to say, eventhough time's not real, there is
a limit on your time.
Okay, and for many of you,because you haven't learned to
tap into like kind ofextrapolating energy out of the
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ether which you can do, right,there is like a very, very
strong limiting feeling on interms of your energy, and all of
us also have a limit on wherewe can focus our attention right
.
So there, we all have limitsand we have to be very
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intentional with what we'redoing and where we're giving.
And I don't want you to feellike when I say you've got to
give big, that now you've got toadd more to your plate when
you're already feeling likeyou're overdoing it.
That is not the case.
In fact, if you're givingbeyond what you feel is healthy
for you, then I want you to kindof reel that back in, and I've
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done another episode, by the way, on the block of overgiving, so
go listen to that one.
But, yeah, as you're thinkingabout it, I want you to know
like, yes, there is a, there isa certain amount that you're
going to want to give, and Ithink that changes depending on
the cycles of our life and thestages of our life, and there
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are all sorts of differentthings that can change how much
we give at any given time.
But, regardless of that, therehas to be this beautiful flow in
and a beautiful flow out, or abeautiful flow out in, a
beautiful flow in of giving andreceiving.
And if you are not receivingenough, and by enough it could
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be enough affection, it could beenough respect, it could be
enough money, it could be enoughhealth.
If you're not receiving that,we want you to get into that
beautiful flow so that you canreceive it more.
Okay, all right, so let's divein.
What are some of the things weneed to pay attention to so that
you can get in that awesomeflow of receiving right,
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receiving money, receivingaffection, receiving respect,
receiving clients, receivinglike, whatever it is that's
awesome that you want to receive, that's in alignment with who
you are, your values, yourvision for your life, all of
that good stuff.
Okay, so there are a few thingsthat we can do, and obviously I
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can.
I'm going to share some of themon the podcast with you today
that have worked really well forme and worked really, really
well with my clients, and I'malso going to invite you if this
is something you want more helpand support with, then come on
over to my Facebook group.
You'll see a link to that inthe episode notes Also.
Actually, currently it's namedLove Uprising, life and Business
(11:12):
Coaching or Business and LifeCoaching, so you can go find it
under that name, but it may havechanged by the time this
episode comes out.
So, anyway, just go check thelink.
If you can't like, find itstraight away on Facebook and
anyway.
So let's dive in.
What are some of the things youcan do?
Let's think of our coachingframework, and our coaching
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framework we have the CTFAR and,for those of you who don't know
much about the coachingframework, I've spoken about it
a little bit on previousepisodes.
You know, it's something that Ifirst began learning about from
Bob Proctor when I went to aseminar.
Well, well, well before I was acoach.
And yeah, it's basically wewant to have a look at what are
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we experiencing now and what arethe results that we want and
what can we change in order forus to arrive at getting the
results that we want faster,right?
So we operate from this acronymcalled CTFAR.
So there's the circumstancesthat we're experiencing, the
circumstances.
We just look at them as facts,and then there's our thoughts
about circumstances, ourfeelings, there's what we do,
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what we don't do and what werespond to, all under the action
line.
So CTFAR, so circumstances,thoughts, feelings, action, and
there's the results, right.
And so, as far as the results,yes, we want to get clear on
what results that we want.
And, yes, we want to get clearback up on the C what are the
current circumstances that we'refinding ourselves in?
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But then we want to beunattached to both of those,
because that's not where ourpower lies.
Our power lies in the TFA thethoughts, feelings and actions.
That's where we can takeresponsibility.
Even if we have been at kind ofthe like a bad feeling effect
or an ill effect of someoneelse's choices, we still have so
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much power when we takeresponsibility for our thoughts,
feelings and actions.
So I'm going to dive in and talka little bit about some things
that you can think about, feelsome different ways that you can
feel and some different thingsthat you can do.
And specifically, I want tofocus on money today for my
coaches who want to make moremoney, because I'm just a big
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believer in like making moremoney and being financially free
and being able to have thosefinancial resources.
If you've got like way, way,way more than enough than what
you will ever need or want, thenobviously you've got an
opportunity to be super generousand share your abundance of
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money with other people, whichis amazing and or even you know
spending more on your businessso you can create online
programs that can reach out andhelp more people.
So there's all sorts of waysthat having much more money can
be so helpful for you, though Iknow most of you aren't in that
situation yet.
So let's dive and talk aboutthe money and you can apply the
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same principles, obviously, asI'm talking, to other areas that
you might want to receive more,whether it's health, you know,
more affection in yourrelationships, all of that good
stuff.
So, when it comes to yourthoughts and I mean I'm not with
you, I'm not coaching you rightnow, but I do want to inspire
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you with some thoughts that youcould consider that will be
really helpful to make sure thatyou're getting into that, that
flow of receiving.
Okay, and here are somethoughts that I want you to
check with yourself and See ifthey resonate with you, and I
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want you to see if you can catchyourself, see if you've
actually thought these things orsaid these things, say, in the
last Year or six months orrecently, or on the regular.
Just see if they come up foryou, because these are a lot of
the things that I Hear peoplesaying that I know impact their
ability to receive more.
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Okay.
So things like you might bethinking, or you can might be
seen right, which is evidencethat that's what you're thinking
that money isn't important,right.
That Physical things aren'timportant, that you don't
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believe you can make money, thatyou don't need money, that
other people should give theirtime and talents away for free.
Now, that's not wrong, right,we should do things just out of
love and generosity at times,but the context of what you're
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meaning and how you're sayingthat is a big deal and I can't
know because I don't know how.
I can't know how you're sayingit and I don't have the context
because we're not on a coach.
You go with each other, butthat's something that you
definitely want to watch out forif that's you.
Yes, some of the people who Ihear saying that in coaching
circles have some of the biggestmoney blocks ever.
So if you're someone who'ssaying a thing in that, you
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might want to just take in withyour coach.
If you've got one, you have ahard time Just basically keeping
your business afloat, and sosome of the thoughts you might
be having is like this is toohard.
I Don't know what I'm doing,and that's often a clarity
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problem, by the way, but justsomething to watch out for.
Again, you might be feeling soand I know the feeling line is
different and normally want togive feelings just one word.
But you might be saying toyourself in your thoughts that I
don't feel like my service orproduct is valuable enough to
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charge for or to charge much for.
Or maybe you've got a coachthat said, hey, create a high
ticket offer, because I said itto my clients you've got to have
at least one high ticket offer,at least one offer that's over
$2,000, right.
And even if the majority ofyour money, if you want it to
come from a membership site oran online program, that's low
ticket or mid ticket, you stillwant to have a high ticket offer
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because otherwise you'redefinitely leaving sales on the
floor.
Yeah, okay.
So maybe there's that.
Maybe you feel like you, yourservice or your product isn't
valuable enough to charge morefor.
Another thought you could behaving is I have love in my life
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.
I'm super in love with mypartner, my husband, my spouse
or whatever, and I don't needanything else.
I don't need any more moneyLike that could be a thing.
This one that I'm going toshare next is a really
interesting one, which I see aton, and that's like judging
people who have money right Now.
What you want to do when yousee people with money is you
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want to celebrate and supportthem for whatever they've done
to get that money right I almosthave stolen it Then let's not
celebrate that.
But, in all seriousness, like,yeah, people who have made a lot
of money or people who you seeliving a more lavish lifestyle
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regardless of whatever you thinkI want you to know you don't
have the full context foreverything that they've done or
things that have happened intheir lives, things that they've
persevered in order to enjoywhat they have right now.
You just don't know the wholestory.
So, please, let's withholdjudgment on others and just
celebrate for them.
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And the more relaxed you can bearound people who have great
things, then the more open youare to receiving those good
things yourself From anenergetic perspective.
When you're happy around otherpeople's wealth, then the
universe gets the idea that likehey, that's really cool, she's
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really comfortable around that,she's really happy around that.
Like, let's send her more ofthat, okay.
So make sure you're doing areally good job of celebrating
other people's money and wealthand not judging it and it could
be as simple as this.
You might not go aroundthinking like rich people are
bad, but it could be.
Maybe you hear about yourbrother-in-law and sister-in-law
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or sister-in-law and you hearthat they're going on a holiday
and you say something like wow,they're going on that really
expensive holiday.
They really should be puttingthat money towards their
mortgage Like hello, none ofyour business.
And so I want you yeah, I wantyou just to catch yourself.
If you find yourself doingthings like that and judging how
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other people are using theirmoney.
Okay, another thing, anotherthought that you could be
experiencing or you might hearyourself with, is saying I don't
need any help, I can do itmyself.
Maybe you're feeling frustrated, like why do I have to do it
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all?
Right, and that's definitely.
You've gone past the point ofbeing generous with your giving
and you'll get into that, thaticky space of like giving from a
space of resentment.
Because when you give, you wantto give with a nice clean
energy, right, you want to givefrom a space of love, and you
know, for me, one of the thingsthat I really, actually really
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like about myself is when I giveto other people from a really
nice, clean energy.
I don't ever give out ofresentment or I say ever.
Like 99% of the time I'm notgiving out of like this space
where I don't want to.
And every now and again, ofcourse, I'm going to catch
myself about to do something, ormaybe I've just done something
and like, oh, that wasn'tnecessarily the like, the right
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intention that I had behind thatgiving, and so I catch myself
and correct it quickly.
But it's a super cool thing foryourself and your energy field,
for what you're putting outinto the world when you give
from a really, really cleanspace.
Okay, and that includes in allareas with your children, with
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your husband, with your clients,with your friends, if you have
a job, with co workers all ofthat giving from a clean space.
And if you feel like, hey, butyou don't know what my husband's
like or my boss is like or mykids are like or whatever, what
you're learning there is alesson to be able to articulate
what you really do want to havehappen and that exchange with
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them.
And you're probably learningabout boundaries.
You're probably learning aboutcommunication.
You're probably learning about,like, sorting through your own
values and living in integrityand alignment with those values.
So you'll keep getting lessonsuntil you start implementing
what it is that you're learningand what those experiences are
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able to teach you.
So there's and there's a bunchof other thoughts I could go
through.
I've got like this whole listof thoughts, but I know that I
want to talk about each of thema lot and I don't want to do
that today.
So those are some thoughts interms of feelings, some things
to recognise if you're underreceiving.
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Often, like I said, you're oftenover giving.
When you're under receiving,usually they're, like you know,
cousins with each other, butlook out for feelings like
frustration, resentment,confusion.
Often we're under receivingbecause we're leaving ourselves
in a state of confusion.
So, for example, a lot ofcoaches they like especially if
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you're a new coach, or you're acoach that tends to like maybe
you've made some money, but thenyou keep going around in
circles, you kind of can't getpast a certain level and maybe
you haven't even broken throughthe six figure market.
Well, if that's the case, a lotof the time what I see happen
with these coaches is they kindof are stuck in confusion and
therefore they under receive intheir business because they're
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confused.
They therefore aren't takingappropriate, clear action that
will lead to them getting theresults that they want.
Right.
And so, yeah, deal with theconfusion.
If confusion is a thing for you, yeah, get clarity ASAP.
Get clarity around thestrategies.
Get clarity around your blogs.
Get clarity around thestructure that works best for
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you.
Get the clarity, okay.
So that might be a feeling thatyou have.
Another feeling could be anger.
Anger that you feel like you'reovergiving, anger that you're
not receiving enough.
And sometimes again, whenyou're not receiving enough,
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sometimes it's like you're notgiving enough in that particular
area.
So here's the thing thathappens.
A lot of the time I will seeclients.
A lot of my clients are moms,or moms Sorry for over, I'm not
saying that, but yeah.
So a lot of my clients aremothers and they might give a
ton to their children and theirfamily but give very little to
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their business and be frustratedthat the business isn't giving
back to them a lot.
And I'm like my friend are youactually working the strategy?
Are you doing the thing and notjust scrolling on Facebook a
lot?
Because what that truly doeshappen to a lot of coaches
they're like I was working a tonand when you actually check
their hours, they probably spendmost of the time scrolling on
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Facebook or Instagram or TikTok,whatever platforms they're
working on, like looking forideas but actually not really
working, okay, and then it goesfrom looking for ideas to
actually like being entertainedor that kind of stuff, right.
So I want you to know, like, ifyou're feeling angry, check in
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with that, because giving youwant that flow of giving
received to actually be inpractice in each area of your
life.
So that given flow is going tohappen for your health.
It's going to happen for andwith your health, with your
mental health, like a mentalfitness, your physical wellbeing
.
It's going to happen in yourrelationships, like you know,
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your relationship with yourintimate partner, your spouse or
partner.
It's going to happen with yourchildren, if you've got children
, your parents, like whateverrelationships you choose to
maintain.
That given flow, that giventake, it's got to happen in
there as well, and in yourcareer, in your money story, all
of those specific areas.
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There is and there is like yougiving and then there's got to
be you receiving, okay.
So don't feel I don't want youto make the mistake of thinking,
because you're really giving alot in this area that's not
related to your career and yourcoaching and your business.
That means you're going toreceive richly in your coaching
business Because, yes, things dobleed into other areas of our
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life, but it will not entirelymake up for you under giving in
your coaching business.
Okay, so that's another area tolook out for and so you can see
, as you look at the feelings,it really gives a good
indication of you know where youneed to follow the breadcrumbs
in your own life so that youstart receiving more.
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Because you are a divine being.
We're all of infinite worth.
We're all of the same worth.
We've all got this amazingpotential and we all are
connected.
We have this amazing power toco-create in our lives.
But when you feel like, oh, itdoesn't matter how much I do,
I'm not going to receive,obviously you don't want to do
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the things right, you don't wantto get into action.
And that action line is youknow, you've got to put an
operation.
It doesn't mean that you've gotto do all the things.
One of the things that canhappen is, you know, people
overwork and then that actuallystarts to work against them
energetically.
So I don't want that to happenfor you.
But I like there are thingsyou've got to do to receive
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right and if you want that flowof receiving to be ongoing and
consistent and beautiful for you.
So, anyway, those are just somethoughts that I had.
Hopefully they're helpful andclarifying for you today and
they give you an idea of whereyou need to look for yourself so
that you are creating more ofthe results that you want.
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And I will say if you also wantto create more money in your
coaching business, specifically,if you want to receive more, if
you want to receive moreclients, you want to receive
more money and you want to givemore impact, give more love,
give more support and help moreclients have more
transformations as well, if youwant that flow of giving
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received happen at a biggerscale on your business, then
reach out to me and just reachout and message me on Instagram
you can find me at Kush Tadwickor reach out to me in my
Facebook group.
You can comment, or in Messenger, you can just reach out and say
the word ready and I'll hook upa time for us to chat and see
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what would be the best way forme my team to support you to be
able to grow your business, growyour income, grow your
influence and your impact andscale and create an awesome
larger business for you, andalso in a way where it's an
alignment with the life that youwant to create offline.
I'm all about having an amazingbusiness online and an awesome
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life offline.
Okay, so, my friend, sendinglots of love and sunshine to you
and really encouraging you towork past this block of
under-receiving.
If this is you, it's time toclaim more money.
It's time to claim more of thethings that you desire in your
life and stop playing small.
Stop playing like you don'thave the potential to actually
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do the things that you have inyour heart for you to do.
All right, that's it.
Peace out, and I'll catch yousoon.
This is episode number 11 of the Confident
Coach Academy podcast and it isalso one of our special episodes
.
So it's the fourth episode onour series of blocks that we're
looking at, and today we'relooking at the block of
under-receiving.
So if you want more money andmore clients, if you want to
make more of an impact and moreincome, then make sure you dive
(00:23):
in.
Hey, welcome to the ConfidentCoach Academy podcast.
I'm your host, Kushla Chadwick,and if you have an audacious
dream to really be at service inthe world, do a profitable
coaching business online andhave an awesome life, upline In
my love, you are in the rightplace.
Together we're going to talkstrategy, mindset, manifestation
, thought work, energy work, allthe things.
(00:43):
So let's dive in.
Hey, my friends, how are you?
I hope you're doing amazing.
I'm doing super duper well.
Actually, we have a new puppyin our house.
His name's Argo.
He's a Dalmatian puppy.
He's my second daughter's puppyand he is a rascal, but
(01:10):
obviously so adorable, and sothings have been pretty full on
in the house around these partswith the puppy training and all
of that.
I also went away on a trip justrecently with one of my best
friends, Kelly.
She's amazing.
She's inspiring to me in somany ways and a super high
(01:30):
quality friend.
I love her and we went away forfour full days.
We left on a flight early on aThursday no Friday morning, come
back late on a Monday night.
We flew down to Tasmania, whichis at the bottom of Australia
here, and hired a car and westayed a couple of different
(01:50):
places.
Our first night was kind offunny because I accidentally
booked a hotel for the wronglocation.
I don't know what happened.
I'm like a book so many placesall around the world so often
and I have never done that.
You know.
It was funny and we ended upbooking at a place which was
still in a great location in theright town.
(02:12):
But I've been having a lot offun and I feel like I've been
receiving abundantly In my lifefor quite a long time actually,
and this is just another exampleof it, and that's not to say
that my life is, all you know,sweet and beautiful all of the
time, because it's really messysometimes in some areas, just
(02:36):
like you might be experiencingright and requires great effort
sometimes right, and you know Iwill say sometimes like there
are tears and all those types ofthings, but for the most part,
I just feel so incrediblyblessed and so grateful for the
(02:58):
health that I have, the friendsthat I have, the love that I
have in my husband I mean, I'vebeen together for 25 years our
beautiful children and ourrelationships, our three
daughters Now Argo one of myother daughters also has a dog,
jaeger.
He's crazy and wonderful aswell and all of my family.
(03:20):
And the reason I'm sharingthese very personal things with
you because I think so many ofyou are not really enjoying the
sweetness of life as you aretrying to create a successful
coaching business and asuccessful life, and I know that
(03:40):
it can be really reallydifficult sometimes not to be
swept up in all the things thatyou can do online to try and
create a successful business.
You know, some of you might noteven be a coach, you might have
a job or be thinking aboutcoaching, but there's literally
thousands and thousands ofoptions of how you can run your
(04:03):
business online and it can beoverwhelming and you could learn
for the rest of your life.
I promise you, with all thecontent that's online, you could
learn a strategy, like you know, every month.
Go deep, dive into a strategyand do that for the rest of your
life, and so it's reallyimportant that we acknowledge
(04:29):
that there needs to be a balancein things, and that's what I
really want to talk to you abouttoday is the balance of giving
and receiving.
I want to talk about the blockof not receiving, or under
receiving, or pushing away right, and the funny thing is that
(04:50):
some of the people who have thisblock ironically are some of
the biggest givers and doincredible things for other
people.
And you know, as a Christian,I'm big on, you know, things
like not being selfish, lookingout for other people, helping
(05:11):
the poor, needy, helping and bypoor I don't mean just
financially poor.
I don't think it could besomeone who's you know
struggling with the health, oryou know they're in need of a
good friend Like there's allsorts of ways spiritually,
there's all sorts of ways thatwe can be in need, and we all
(05:33):
are in need, we all have needs,and there are all gaps that we
are experiencing in our lives atany given time that other
people can help with.
And so, as I talk about thisblock of not receiving today, I
particularly want to share mylove and support for those who
(05:56):
are the overgivers not supportyou in your overgiving, of
course, but share my support foryou in terms of like.
I want to really call you outand help you to get into a flow
of, if you're going to give big,receive big as well, right,
(06:18):
what's meant to be the naturalorder of things is, like you
know, what we put out, wereceive back, and it doesn't
mean that we're giving in theform of like.
As I give this, I want anexchange to happen back for me,
like this expectation, like thisthing that I'm giving.
I want it back because I'vebeen a good person and I've done
(06:38):
this.
Like obviously, no, that's notwhat I'm talking about, right,
but there's a trust that happens, that can happen in our lives.
Like, as we're giving, justknowing that we also are
receiving back at any given time.
And I know some of you, likethat's what you feel, like
you've been relying on, right,you feel like you don't
understand.
(06:59):
I've been doing that like Ihelp, you know, here in this
area and I help there and I dothis, but for some reason I'm
still not receiving back.
I'm still like not beingblessed in my business.
So I want to talk about why thatmight be happening, like, if
you're a big giver why you mightnot be receiving big as well.
(07:22):
And if you're not giving big,if you're not exchanging tons of
value and giving lots of valueto other people's lives, then
you will receive less, you'llreceive small, or even you might
say no, kushla, you know what?
I get lots of stuff and Ihardly do anything.
I don't think that's the case,because I really don't think
(07:42):
you'd be listening to my podcastif that were you.
But on the off chance thatthere is someone like that who's
listening, I can promise youthat, however big you're
receiving, you can be receivingso much more if you're expanding
your ability to give.
Now, here's the thing we don'twant to give from this place of
depletion.
Right, you don't want to, like,keep giving and giving because,
(08:03):
even though time is not real,there is a function in time for
the sake of our mental sanityhere on the planet, right, as we
interact with each other.
And so I'm going to say, eventhough time's not real, there is
a limit on your time.
Okay, and for many of you,because you haven't learned to
tap into like kind ofextrapolating energy out of the
(08:28):
ether which you can do, right,there is like a very, very
strong limiting feeling on interms of your energy, and all of
us also have a limit on wherewe can focus our attention right
.
So there, we all have limitsand we have to be very
(08:49):
intentional with what we'redoing and where we're giving.
And I don't want you to feellike when I say you've got to
give big, that now you've got toadd more to your plate when
you're already feeling likeyou're overdoing it.
That is not the case.
In fact, if you're givingbeyond what you feel is healthy
for you, then I want you to kindof reel that back in, and I've
(09:12):
done another episode, by the way, on the block of overgiving, so
go listen to that one.
But, yeah, as you're thinkingabout it, I want you to know
like, yes, there is a, there isa certain amount that you're
going to want to give, and Ithink that changes depending on
the cycles of our life and thestages of our life, and there
(09:32):
are all sorts of differentthings that can change how much
we give at any given time.
But, regardless of that, therehas to be this beautiful flow in
and a beautiful flow out, or abeautiful flow out in, a
beautiful flow in of giving andreceiving.
And if you are not receivingenough, and by enough it could
(09:58):
be enough affection, it could beenough respect, it could be
enough money, it could be enoughhealth.
If you're not receiving that,we want you to get into that
beautiful flow so that you canreceive it more.
Okay, all right, so let's divein.
What are some of the things weneed to pay attention to so that
you can get in that awesomeflow of receiving right,
(10:22):
receiving money, receivingaffection, receiving respect,
receiving clients, receivinglike, whatever it is that's
awesome that you want to receive, that's in alignment with who
you are, your values, yourvision for your life, all of
that good stuff.
Okay, so there are a few thingsthat we can do, and obviously I
(10:47):
can.
I'm going to share some of themon the podcast with you today
that have worked really well forme and worked really, really
well with my clients, and I'malso going to invite you if this
is something you want more helpand support with, then come on
over to my Facebook group.
You'll see a link to that inthe episode notes Also.
Actually, currently it's namedLove Uprising, life and Business
(11:12):
Coaching or Business and LifeCoaching, so you can go find it
under that name, but it may havechanged by the time this
episode comes out.
So, anyway, just go check thelink.
If you can't like, find itstraight away on Facebook and
anyway.
So let's dive in.
What are some of the things youcan do?
Let's think of our coachingframework, and our coaching
(11:32):
framework we have the CTFAR and,for those of you who don't know
much about the coachingframework, I've spoken about it
a little bit on previousepisodes.
You know, it's something that Ifirst began learning about from
Bob Proctor when I went to aseminar.
Well, well, well before I was acoach.
And yeah, it's basically wewant to have a look at what are
(11:55):
we experiencing now and what arethe results that we want and
what can we change in order forus to arrive at getting the
results that we want faster,right?
So we operate from this acronymcalled CTFAR.
So there's the circumstancesthat we're experiencing, the
circumstances.
We just look at them as facts,and then there's our thoughts
about circumstances, ourfeelings, there's what we do,
(12:20):
what we don't do and what werespond to, all under the action
line.
So CTFAR, so circumstances,thoughts, feelings, action, and
there's the results, right.
And so, as far as the results,yes, we want to get clear on
what results that we want.
And, yes, we want to get clearback up on the C what are the
current circumstances that we'refinding ourselves in?
(12:42):
But then we want to beunattached to both of those,
because that's not where ourpower lies.
Our power lies in the TFA thethoughts, feelings and actions.
That's where we can takeresponsibility.
Even if we have been at kind ofthe like a bad feeling effect
or an ill effect of someoneelse's choices, we still have so
(13:06):
much power when we takeresponsibility for our thoughts,
feelings and actions.
So I'm going to dive in and talka little bit about some things
that you can think about, feelsome different ways that you can
feel and some different thingsthat you can do.
And specifically, I want tofocus on money today for my
coaches who want to make moremoney, because I'm just a big
(13:28):
believer in like making moremoney and being financially free
and being able to have thosefinancial resources.
If you've got like way, way,way more than enough than what
you will ever need or want, thenobviously you've got an
opportunity to be super generousand share your abundance of
(13:49):
money with other people, whichis amazing and or even you know
spending more on your businessso you can create online
programs that can reach out andhelp more people.
So there's all sorts of waysthat having much more money can
be so helpful for you, though Iknow most of you aren't in that
situation yet.
So let's dive and talk aboutthe money and you can apply the
(14:10):
same principles, obviously, asI'm talking, to other areas that
you might want to receive more,whether it's health, you know,
more affection in yourrelationships, all of that good
stuff.
So, when it comes to yourthoughts and I mean I'm not with
you, I'm not coaching you rightnow, but I do want to inspire
(14:33):
you with some thoughts that youcould consider that will be
really helpful to make sure thatyou're getting into that, that
flow of receiving.
Okay, and here are somethoughts that I want you to
check with yourself and See ifthey resonate with you, and I
(14:53):
want you to see if you can catchyourself, see if you've
actually thought these things orsaid these things, say, in the
last Year or six months orrecently, or on the regular.
Just see if they come up foryou, because these are a lot of
the things that I Hear peoplesaying that I know impact their
ability to receive more.
(15:14):
Okay.
So things like you might bethinking, or you can might be
seen right, which is evidencethat that's what you're thinking
that money isn't important,right.
That Physical things aren'timportant, that you don't
(15:39):
believe you can make money, thatyou don't need money, that
other people should give theirtime and talents away for free.
Now, that's not wrong, right,we should do things just out of
love and generosity at times,but the context of what you're
(16:01):
meaning and how you're sayingthat is a big deal and I can't
know because I don't know how.
I can't know how you're sayingit and I don't have the context
because we're not on a coach.
You go with each other, butthat's something that you
definitely want to watch out forif that's you.
Yes, some of the people who Ihear saying that in coaching
circles have some of the biggestmoney blocks ever.
So if you're someone who'ssaying a thing in that, you
(16:22):
might want to just take in withyour coach.
If you've got one, you have ahard time Just basically keeping
your business afloat, and sosome of the thoughts you might
be having is like this is toohard.
I Don't know what I'm doing,and that's often a clarity
(16:42):
problem, by the way, but justsomething to watch out for.
Again, you might be feeling soand I know the feeling line is
different and normally want togive feelings just one word.
But you might be saying toyourself in your thoughts that I
don't feel like my service orproduct is valuable enough to
(17:05):
charge for or to charge much for.
Or maybe you've got a coachthat said, hey, create a high
ticket offer, because I said itto my clients you've got to have
at least one high ticket offer,at least one offer that's over
$2,000, right.
And even if the majority ofyour money, if you want it to
come from a membership site oran online program, that's low
ticket or mid ticket, you stillwant to have a high ticket offer
(17:25):
because otherwise you'redefinitely leaving sales on the
floor.
Yeah, okay.
So maybe there's that.
Maybe you feel like you, yourservice or your product isn't
valuable enough to charge morefor.
Another thought you could behaving is I have love in my life
(17:47):
.
I'm super in love with mypartner, my husband, my spouse
or whatever, and I don't needanything else.
I don't need any more moneyLike that could be a thing.
This one that I'm going toshare next is a really
interesting one, which I see aton, and that's like judging
people who have money right Now.
What you want to do when yousee people with money is you
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want to celebrate and supportthem for whatever they've done
to get that money right I almosthave stolen it Then let's not
celebrate that.
But, in all seriousness, like,yeah, people who have made a lot
of money or people who you seeliving a more lavish lifestyle
(18:30):
regardless of whatever you thinkI want you to know you don't
have the full context foreverything that they've done or
things that have happened intheir lives, things that they've
persevered in order to enjoywhat they have right now.
You just don't know the wholestory.
So, please, let's withholdjudgment on others and just
celebrate for them.
(18:50):
And the more relaxed you can bearound people who have great
things, then the more open youare to receiving those good
things yourself From anenergetic perspective.
When you're happy around otherpeople's wealth, then the
universe gets the idea that likehey, that's really cool, she's
(19:11):
really comfortable around that,she's really happy around that.
Like, let's send her more ofthat, okay.
So make sure you're doing areally good job of celebrating
other people's money and wealthand not judging it and it could
be as simple as this.
You might not go aroundthinking like rich people are
bad, but it could be.
Maybe you hear about yourbrother-in-law and sister-in-law
(19:32):
or sister-in-law and you hearthat they're going on a holiday
and you say something like wow,they're going on that really
expensive holiday.
They really should be puttingthat money towards their
mortgage Like hello, none ofyour business.
And so I want you yeah, I wantyou just to catch yourself.
If you find yourself doingthings like that and judging how
(19:56):
other people are using theirmoney.
Okay, another thing, anotherthought that you could be
experiencing or you might hearyourself with, is saying I don't
need any help, I can do itmyself.
Maybe you're feeling frustrated, like why do I have to do it
(20:18):
all?
Right, and that's definitely.
You've gone past the point ofbeing generous with your giving
and you'll get into that, thaticky space of like giving from a
space of resentment.
Because when you give, you wantto give with a nice clean
energy, right, you want to givefrom a space of love, and you
know, for me, one of the thingsthat I really, actually really
(20:38):
like about myself is when I giveto other people from a really
nice, clean energy.
I don't ever give out ofresentment or I say ever.
Like 99% of the time I'm notgiving out of like this space
where I don't want to.
And every now and again, ofcourse, I'm going to catch
myself about to do something, ormaybe I've just done something
and like, oh, that wasn'tnecessarily the like, the right
(21:00):
intention that I had behind thatgiving, and so I catch myself
and correct it quickly.
But it's a super cool thing foryourself and your energy field,
for what you're putting outinto the world when you give
from a really, really cleanspace.
Okay, and that includes in allareas with your children, with
(21:21):
your husband, with your clients,with your friends, if you have
a job, with co workers all ofthat giving from a clean space.
And if you feel like, hey, butyou don't know what my husband's
like or my boss is like or mykids are like or whatever, what
you're learning there is alesson to be able to articulate
what you really do want to havehappen and that exchange with
(21:41):
them.
And you're probably learningabout boundaries.
You're probably learning aboutcommunication.
You're probably learning about,like, sorting through your own
values and living in integrityand alignment with those values.
So you'll keep getting lessonsuntil you start implementing
what it is that you're learningand what those experiences are
(22:03):
able to teach you.
So there's and there's a bunchof other thoughts I could go
through.
I've got like this whole listof thoughts, but I know that I
want to talk about each of thema lot and I don't want to do
that today.
So those are some thoughts interms of feelings, some things
to recognise if you're underreceiving.
(22:23):
Often, like I said, you're oftenover giving.
When you're under receiving,usually they're, like you know,
cousins with each other, butlook out for feelings like
frustration, resentment,confusion.
Often we're under receivingbecause we're leaving ourselves
in a state of confusion.
So, for example, a lot ofcoaches they like especially if
(22:47):
you're a new coach, or you're acoach that tends to like maybe
you've made some money, but thenyou keep going around in
circles, you kind of can't getpast a certain level and maybe
you haven't even broken throughthe six figure market.
Well, if that's the case, a lotof the time what I see happen
with these coaches is they kindof are stuck in confusion and
therefore they under receive intheir business because they're
(23:08):
confused.
They therefore aren't takingappropriate, clear action that
will lead to them getting theresults that they want.
Right.
And so, yeah, deal with theconfusion.
If confusion is a thing for you, yeah, get clarity ASAP.
Get clarity around thestrategies.
Get clarity around your blogs.
Get clarity around thestructure that works best for
(23:31):
you.
Get the clarity, okay.
So that might be a feeling thatyou have.
Another feeling could be anger.
Anger that you feel like you'reovergiving, anger that you're
not receiving enough.
And sometimes again, whenyou're not receiving enough,
(23:52):
sometimes it's like you're notgiving enough in that particular
area.
So here's the thing thathappens.
A lot of the time I will seeclients.
A lot of my clients are moms,or moms Sorry for over, I'm not
saying that, but yeah.
So a lot of my clients aremothers and they might give a
ton to their children and theirfamily but give very little to
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their business and be frustratedthat the business isn't giving
back to them a lot.
And I'm like my friend are youactually working the strategy?
Are you doing the thing and notjust scrolling on Facebook a
lot?
Because what that truly doeshappen to a lot of coaches
they're like I was working a tonand when you actually check
their hours, they probably spendmost of the time scrolling on
(24:37):
Facebook or Instagram or TikTok,whatever platforms they're
working on, like looking forideas but actually not really
working, okay, and then it goesfrom looking for ideas to
actually like being entertainedor that kind of stuff, right.
So I want you to know, like, ifyou're feeling angry, check in
(25:01):
with that, because giving youwant that flow of giving
received to actually be inpractice in each area of your
life.
So that given flow is going tohappen for your health.
It's going to happen for andwith your health, with your
mental health, like a mentalfitness, your physical wellbeing
.
It's going to happen in yourrelationships, like you know,
(25:24):
your relationship with yourintimate partner, your spouse or
partner.
It's going to happen with yourchildren, if you've got children
, your parents, like whateverrelationships you choose to
maintain.
That given flow, that giventake, it's got to happen in
there as well, and in yourcareer, in your money story, all
of those specific areas.
(25:47):
There is and there is like yougiving and then there's got to
be you receiving, okay.
So don't feel I don't want youto make the mistake of thinking,
because you're really giving alot in this area that's not
related to your career and yourcoaching and your business.
That means you're going toreceive richly in your coaching
business Because, yes, things dobleed into other areas of our
(26:10):
life, but it will not entirelymake up for you under giving in
your coaching business.
Okay, so that's another area tolook out for and so you can see
, as you look at the feelings,it really gives a good
indication of you know where youneed to follow the breadcrumbs
in your own life so that youstart receiving more.
(26:32):
Because you are a divine being.
We're all of infinite worth.
We're all of the same worth.
We've all got this amazingpotential and we all are
connected.
We have this amazing power toco-create in our lives.
But when you feel like, oh, itdoesn't matter how much I do,
I'm not going to receive,obviously you don't want to do
(26:53):
the things right, you don't wantto get into action.
And that action line is youknow, you've got to put an
operation.
It doesn't mean that you've gotto do all the things.
One of the things that canhappen is, you know, people
overwork and then that actuallystarts to work against them
energetically.
So I don't want that to happenfor you.
But I like there are thingsyou've got to do to receive
(27:14):
right and if you want that flowof receiving to be ongoing and
consistent and beautiful for you.
So, anyway, those are just somethoughts that I had.
Hopefully they're helpful andclarifying for you today and
they give you an idea of whereyou need to look for yourself so
that you are creating more ofthe results that you want.
(27:36):
And I will say if you also wantto create more money in your
coaching business, specifically,if you want to receive more, if
you want to receive moreclients, you want to receive
more money and you want to givemore impact, give more love,
give more support and help moreclients have more
transformations as well, if youwant that flow of giving
(27:58):
received happen at a biggerscale on your business, then
reach out to me and just reachout and message me on Instagram
you can find me at Kush Tadwickor reach out to me in my
Facebook group.
You can comment, or in Messenger, you can just reach out and say
the word ready and I'll hook upa time for us to chat and see
(28:19):
what would be the best way forme my team to support you to be
able to grow your business, growyour income, grow your
influence and your impact andscale and create an awesome
larger business for you, andalso in a way where it's an
alignment with the life that youwant to create offline.
I'm all about having an amazingbusiness online and an awesome
(28:42):
life offline.
Okay, so, my friend, sendinglots of love and sunshine to you
and really encouraging you towork past this block of
under-receiving.
If this is you, it's time toclaim more money.
It's time to claim more of thethings that you desire in your
life and stop playing small.
Stop playing like you don'thave the potential to actually
(29:03):
do the things that you have inyour heart for you to do.
All right, that's it.
Peace out, and I'll catch yousoon.
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