March 25, 2024 β’ 25 mins
Welcome back to another episode of The Conscious Home Podcast - we're getting real in this one. Today's discussion is all about rolling up our sleeves and diving into what it truly means to live a life that is authentically ours, a life of intention and purpose. Blanche Garcia is here to deliver some tough love, all with the aim of guiding us closer to our most authentic selves.
- (00:00:00) As the episode kicks off, Blanche takes us on a journey to discover our soul purpose by embracing authenticity and courageously stepping into the direction of self-discovery, even amidst fear and doubt.
- (00:04:00) Next, she offers essential tools and background on how to navigate through life in a way that resonates deeply with our core essence. This discussion reveals the power of living without restrictions, attracting positivity, and letting go of things that no longer serve us.
- (00:09:00) Getting a bit more practical, Blanche emphasizes the influence of our energy and mindset on our environment, and how initiating internal changes can lead to significant shifts in our external circumstances as well.
- (00:22:00) Concluding the episode, Blanche encourages us to uphold authenticity, disregard external judgments, and live unapologetically aligned with our sole purpose.
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Welcome home everybody.
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That is to the Conscious Home Podcast.
My name is BlancheGarcia and I'm your host.
today I wanted to talk about how do youlive following your own true soul purpose?
And sometimes you don't evenrealize that you're in the
direction of your soul purposewhile you're trying to be authentic.
And what's interesting about thistopic is that the reason I brought
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it up is Well, a there's two things.
the first one is, I think thatyour fairy dust or the thing that
really makes you, you and unique isthe thing that everybody tells you
you're really good at or everybodycomments on throughout your life.
And you may think oh, it's justpeople being nice, but you get enough
people from, like, all differentwalks of life telling you that you're
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good at something or that you'rethis or they admire this about you.
And that's basically the universetrying to give you a hint as to
part of what your soul purpose is.
And so I know that sounds crazy,but that is actually true.
and the second thing is that I thinkthat a lot of people at this point in
time in life, in history, are beingmore authentically themselves or
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leaning into it than they ever were.
And I'm not saying thatthat's like for everybody.
It's not.
There are going to be people who just,are fake ass like you just can't avoid
that But I think more and more you'reseeing whether it's businesses social
media Entrepreneurs just people ingeneral being like I just want to do me.
I want to be who I am That's it.
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This is me And they're like showingyou their authentic selves behind
the curtain They're not being asglossy and edited as they used to
be It's just very poignant for me.
So let's go back to what I was sayingPersonally, my whole, whole life, I have
felt the need to really be who I am.
I know that that's for a lot of people,but it actually like from when I
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can remember, literally my earliestmemories, I just wanted to be me.
Now I grew up around people who wereusually telling me that they were afraid
to be themselves It was just like a lot ofhidden stuff and I was like the opposite.
I was like dying to be myself, like ifI was in situations where I felt like
I couldn't use my voice or I had to bea version of myself that wasn't really
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me, I would lose my complete shit.
Like it literally happened all the time.
I would like run in thedirection of just like, freedom!
And so as I got older, the more I kindof leaned into that, like my teenage
years and my twenties and thirties, I waslike, I just want to live Now it doesn't
mean that I'm an asshole and I'm tellingeverybody to just go F their mother.
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That's not what I'm saying.
I'm saying that, I just want tocreate what I want to create.
I want to dress the way I want to dress.
I want to say what's on my mindand not try to hide myself.
And if I want to go in a direction,that's the direction I want to go in.
And what's interesting about thatis that the one thing that people
will always say is my superpower,because we all have them, is that
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I am unapologetically myself.
What you see is what you get.
When I did TV, I was on Travel Channeland HGTV and the number one comment
I would get from fans were Blanche,it seems like what you are on TV
and what we see is really who youare and that's completely the truth.
and I think that that's really importantand where I say that that's kind of going
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in the direction of who you are or whatyour purpose is, is that The only reason
we are really here, and I know that thisis going to sound really simple, but we
are here to be happy, to be ourselves,to go on our own personal journey, nobody
else's, and to go in that direction.
And what's really hard about that, Ithink for a lot of people, is that, right?
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you're probably watching this right now,and you're going But I either have, a ton
of obligations depending on what pointof life you are at, or I'm afraid that
people aren't going to accept me for who Iam, or I don't even know what that means.
I don't even know how to go towardsmy sole purpose or live in a
way that's just uniquely myself.
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So, I want to give you some backgroundto some ways that you can get
into that mode, into that feeling.
Because once you start living ina direction that is really without
handlebars, it's just like completelygoing, You're gonna find that a lot
of things start resonating with youthe life that surrounds you You're
going to be so much happier withbecause it's literally What you want?
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It's everything that you want becauseyour energy will attract like energy
It can't not attract like energy.
when you're living a life that isinauthentic or is not like completely
a hundred percent who you are, you areprobably surrounded with a bunch of crap
that you don't like, people you don'tlike, and situations that you don't like.
And you're probably wonderingwhy don't I love my life?
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This is so weird.
Because you're so used to being byyourself, that you think that just
being by yourself with yourselfauthentically alone is enough, but when
you're on the outward and you're withoutward people are living your life,
you don't necessarily have to be that.
And the universe shouldjust know the difference.
It should just know to give youthe life you want based on who you
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are in your bedroom, watching a TVshow, just reading an effing book.
That's what the universeshould resonate with.
Not the life that you're livingout loud with the people you don't
give a shit about, the job youhate, and everything else, right?
So if you haven't gotten that,that's not gonna work for you.
So how do you figure out Whoyou are or what is your purpose?
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One of the big signs is peoplecomment all the time about.
What you're really good at andby the way, this doesn't have
to be some earth shattering youcure cancer You're a doctor.
You're a lawyer.
Like it doesn't have to be like that.
It can be something likeyou're really good with animals
You're really empathetic.
you always brighten up people's day.
You're really good at writing oryou're really good with color It could
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be any of those things and You leaninto that because that is what lights
you up and what lights you up is whatpeople will comment on, by the way.
So, that is a really big indicator as towhat, really is part of your soul purpose.
Another exercise that you can kind ofdo that has always helped me is writing.
whenever I'm trying to figure somethingout, I will just start writing.
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I usually will play music in thebackground because the vibration
of music shifts our energyreally quickly and really easily.
That's why music is the highestvibration other than like laughter,
and water is right up there.
But music is a really high vibrational,instrument to tap into the things
that we need to be in flow.
Anything that brings you in flow.
Some people, they like to go running.
Some people, they're good withtheir hands and they're doing art.
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Anything that takes your mind out of thethinking pattern and into just the flow.
If you start writing or just riffingwith that, You're going to start
to get things that come to you.
a third way, well actually there'sfour ways, okay let's do four.
So the third way that I want you to kindof work on this is that I want you to
actually say to the universe, I wantyou to give me three signs, distinctive
signs, like I don't want you to give mesigns that I don't know what the hell
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it is, like a bus passing by that Ijust missed at the side of my glance.
Tell them you want three big signs that.
you can't avoid to help you navigateto what is your sole purpose, And
then just keep an eye out for them.
You're going to know what those are.
you're not going to pass those by.
You're not going to miss them becausewhen you see the sign or feel the
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sign, you're going to feel it likedeep, feel it you can get like chills.
It's just something, it could be somethingsomebody says, something that's an oddity
that would normally never happen to you.
It's going to come out of the blueand then all of a sudden you're
going to like stop what you're doing.
You're going to be like, was that for me?
And you'll be like,that was for me, right?
Like the fact that you're asking about it,but like, don't be like, I'm watching a
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commercial, KFC is on, there's a chickenon there, maybe I should be a rancher.
That's not it.
That's your brain tryingto connect the dots.
Okay.
This is like hit you out of the blue.
Okay, so the fourth thingthat you're going to do gonna
have to suspend your belief.
So, this is the thing.
When we sleep, our brain gets hungup on a little rack and our whole
energy gets to take over So whenwe're sleeping, our soul gets to
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like pick up because it never sleeps.
Our energy never sleeps.
It's just kind of our body sleeping.
And that's why we get like dreams,we get information, sometimes your
dog that past visits you, yourgrandmother, you don't even know.
So when you're sleeping,it's like literally gold.
You can solve all your problems whenyou're sleeping because if you write
down on a journal or on a piece ofpaper and have an intention and say,
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listen, when I go to sleep, ask yourguides, ask all of those that basically
are your soul team and say, I reallyneed help with this one issue, XYZ.
So you're going to say to them, Ireally would love if you can give
me some clues as to my soul purposeand you're going to go to sleep.
When you wake up, Right before you openyour eyes there's that in between state
and it's the in between of being fullyconscious and awake and like thinking
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about who called you or left you amessage or when it's like oh I just
had a dream and what was that dreamlike we always do it I always keep my
eyes closed and I'm like oh I'm liketrying to think and I'm like in my mind
mentally checking all the things I didwhile I was sleeping I want you to try
to write down everything that you canremember even if it's not significant.
I want you to write it down becauselater on when you look at it, there
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might be something that was completelywhat you thought insignificant, but
will actually be really significant.
Now, as you're starting to do this workand work on this energy, believe it or
not, you are actually creating Change,you are changing not only your internal
energy, but you are changing the flow oflife around you because you're basically
telling the universe, I care, I wantto live my authentic, purposeful life.
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And so by doing this, bydefault, the universe starts
connecting the dots for you.
Now.
This is the part thatyou're going to hate.
When this starts happening, yourlife may seem like it's falling
apart because when you are creatingspace for new stuff to happen, right?
It cannot take the same spacethat old stuff is happening
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it's just like these chairs.
If I want to buy new chairs, I cannotbring them into this room because
I have old chairs sitting here.
So, if I'm refusing to takethe old chairs out because I
think, why can't I have both?
You know, Guess what?
The universe may take them out for me.
There may be a big hailstormand rocks that fall through the
roof and like break my chairs.
Somebody may come and break my chairs.
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My toddler may throw wine on my chairs.
There may be something thathappens to the chairs that the
universe is like, uh, no bitch.
You got to get these things out of yourroom before we can bring the new shit in.
So when that happens, don't be upset.
Don't get pissed off andsay Blanche did this.
It's just like making room for new stuff.
So you're gonna go in that directionNow that's kind of going on right It's
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like kind of like one platter that'sspinning in the air The other part of
this is you because you have to actuallyWant to be authentically yourself,
meaning that you have to want to goin the direction of just who you are.
when I say that, that's much easiersaid than done because a lot of
people have been programmed to be veryinsecure about being who they are.
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They don't think that they're worth it.
and I say this, and I myself have hadImposter syndrome and things like that.
So it's not like I came out of thewomb and all of a sudden I'm you
know, so like sure of myself 24 7.
It's just that I'm so used to doingthings that freak me out and scare me.
I'm so used to going in a directionthat feels right and listening to that
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internal, messaging of intuition.
I'm so used to checking inwith myself that I've made it
like a muscle that over time.
is really your superpower.
I want you to start getting really clearand connected with the internal intuition,
the messaging that comes inside yourbody that you usually don't listen to.
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Like a lot of people listen to theirhead, but if you can listen to what
goes on internally it's almost likewhen you're posed with a decision
and your head says something, butthen there's this voice that's like.
You don't want to do that.
Don't do that.
And you're like, no, Ireally should do this.
And you're like, if I don't do thisand you kind of talk yourself out of
it, you know, you're kind of givingit the benefit of the doubt, right?
it's like the guy who asks you out andyou kind of have this weird feeling
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about him, but he checks all the boxes.
So he asks you out and you'relike, I should say yes.
But really inside something's like, Idon't know, this doesn't feel right.
So you avoid what doesn't feel right.
And you go, yeah, I'mactually gonna listen to that.
I'm gonna listen to my headand I'm gonna go out with him.
And it ends up to be like a disaster orit ends up being Okay enough that you fool
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yourself into five more dates and then yourealize that you're really don't like him
and something's completely off of by nowyou're completely in it and it's just like
a whole mess people do this all the time.
what I want you to start doing isreally start listening to your own
intuition because that voice willget stronger as you check in with
it and so when you're faced with adecision I want you to suspend Any
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response, and I want you to just getstill and say what does it feel like?
Does the energy feel uplifting?
Does it feel like a yes?
Because if it doesn't feel likeyour body's energized by this,
answer, then it's probably a no.
there's a lot of no's that are gonna comeup in your life and you're like, well if
I just did nothing that came up and gotoffered to me then I would just have no
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direction, I would make no decision.
But the truth is, there's goingto be a lot of things that
aren't a right fit for you.
There's going to be probably more thingsthat are not a right fit than are a
fit because the more you get discerningabout what you want and the type of life
that you want to live, the easier it'sgoing to be for you to cut out things
that aren't in alignment with that.
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And that takes youchecking in with yourself.
for instance.
Let's go back to dating,just because it's easy.
Well, not for everybody,but it's an easy target.
So, in my 20s, there were like abillion guys I could date, right?
I would trip and there would be a guy.
And he'd be like, Blanche,let's go out, blah blah.
And I'd be like, yeah, let's do this.
And I was like, wow, like,I feel like I'm always in a
relationship or I'm always dating.
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And then in my 30s, I was like,there's not that many guys out there.
And the truth of the matteris, There are the same amount
of guys that were out there.
The difference is is that Igot to know myself so much.
I got to figure out what Iwanted and what I didn't want
that I became more discerning.
And when you raise the bar foryourself of what you want, and if you
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know authentically who you are, thenyou're going to accept less crap.
So then there was 10 guys, but yourealize really quickly that six of
them, they weren't even up to snuff.
They weren't even in your real house.
you were just like, eh, no.
So now it just limited it to four.
But then you realize two ofthose guys, one has mommy issues.
And then the other guy, Itliterally just lies all the time,
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so you're like, can't do that.
So now you're left with just two guys.
So that's why you think there'snot enough guys, but it's not that.
You just would have acceptedmuch more crap before.
As you decide and realize who you are andstart listening to that internal voice
and start going in the direction of thethings that really are in alignment with
who you are, there's only going to be.
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Certain decisions there for you theuniverse and you yourself your own
discernment is going to take others outof your path So we already talk about how
to figure out what your sole purpose is.
And then the second part to that beinghow to tune into who you are and what you
want, how to tune into that intuition andhow to exercise that on a daily basis.
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I would say that the third part of thisis you have gotten to the place where
you know who you are and you know whatyou don't want and You want what you want
And with that comes an inner strength.
And that's the part thatmost people have time with.
And I'll tell you why.
Because, It's actually saying noto things and saying yes to things
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when everybody's doing the opposite.
And that really takes a lot ofinner courage and it takes a lot
of like, I'm not going to lie.
It takes a lot of balls, It really does.
because there are so many times inmy life that the path I want to go.
is the harder path.
Not many people are doing it.
I'm not sure if it'sgoing to get me anywhere.
I just know that it feels right to me.
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it's in alignment with who I am,but everybody's telling me to
go the other way, the easy way.
Why don't I just do it this way?
When that happens, you have to be ableto say no To the easy things or to the
things that people are bringing to youeven though it has benefits it's not
like they're bringing you poison andyou're like, no, I can't take the poison.
I'll die It's like they're just likelook at these pretty flowers and bunnies
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and you're just like yeah, they're cuteThey're cute, but they're not what I want.
And they're like, but look at them.
Look how cute.
I'm going to give them to you.
And you're just like, ah, so it's like,you have to say no to good enough to
say yes sometimes to the thing thateverybody's like, Oh, I don't even know.
Nobody's even done that before.
that's weird.
And you have to sometimesbe able to say yes to that.
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that's where you have tohave that inner courage.
So if you don't get really clear onthe first two steps of this, you are
not going to be able to say no tothings that are not in alignment with
who you are and say yes to the thingsthat are because it is not always easy
and it's not always a clear answer.
There are so many peoplethat I come across.
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that say to me, I could never dothat, that I could never say no to,
or why don't you just do this Blanche,Or why do you have to do X, Y, Z?
I'll give you an example of this.
So I was, on a TV show, Hotel Impossiblethrough Travel Channel, and I was
traveling around the world and toeverybody that was watching me, they
were like, you are a success story.
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This is amazing.
You get to travel around the world,be on TV, you get to fix hotels
and really live out the dream.
The problem was, that I wasn't happy.
I was literally burningthe candle at both ends.
I felt like I was just holding on to it.
Even though there were aspects thatI loved, I felt like I was holding
on to it because I wasn't happy.
I thought it was going to get me towhat I really wanted and you just
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keep going and going thinking thiswill get me from A to B, A to B.
I just have to do this long enough.
But I realized eventually thatit was literally killing my soul.
Like I was just miserable.
I had no life.
I wasn't dating anybody.
I mean, it was like crickets.
And then on top of it, like myfriends stopped calling me because
I was just never around because Iwas so called traveling the world.
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But I was staying at like thesecrazy hotels sometimes I was like
bedbugs one hotel, mold another hotel.
layovers.
It's just not as glamorous as it seems.
And at the same time, I had already becomea green designer, through the USGBC.
I kind of was really on my spiritualpath already, but my spiritual path
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was still very a parallel thing.
It wasn't connected to what I did everyday, even though I wanted it to be more
integrated into what I did every day.
So here I am miserable.
And, supposed to be happy by all accounts.
And, two things happened.
One was that I decided to write a bookbecause I had always loved writing books.
And when I was shopping it aroundto different publishers, the
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publishers were like, Oh, great,Blanche Garcia from that one show.
she's going to do a tabletop design book.
And.
The book I wanted to write was abouthow empowered design, basically
designing your life from the inside out.
So this is like where it startedto crack through the life I'm
living now those seeds startedcoming through into my work life.
So every time I would talk to a publisher,they would be like, Uh, that's never
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gonna fly, you should not do that.
We need the tabletop design book.
That's what we do.
The before and after.
And I was like, I don't want to do that.
I'm not saying I don't design andI don't love what I do design, but
it's not the take on my life or thebook, what I want to talk about.
But nobody wanted to publish that book.
So I was like, I'm goingto self publish that book.
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that costs money, time, I wrote my ownbook, I self published my book, and I knew
that it could or could not do anything,and it really honestly never sold much,
I had it out there, but I knew that Iwanted that in the world, that Vibration
into the world and if it made a ton ofmoney great But that's where my passion
was leading me and that's who I was It isnot what everybody wanted me to do It is
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not what most people in my situation wouldhave done because I would have gotten
a quick book deal Had I done the otherway, but that's not what I wanted I went
in a direction that made sense for me.
I followed my Intuition and the secondthing I did at that time is that I quit
the show everybody thought I was nuts.
They were just like what are you doing?
You're on a very popular show you'regetting paid not great, but I was getting
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paid you're traveling the world And Iwas just like I can't do this anymore.
I'm losing myself I don't even know ifi've lost myself at this point I'm just
like in a closet after every day thati'm shooting Drinking some bottle of
vodka in the middle of nowhere whetherI was like in Missouri or like Timbuktu
I don't even know where I was Andjust trying to figure it out to get to
the next day to wake up for hair andmakeup that I was doing Myself 5 a.
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m.
Make it to set design contractors arewalking off set and I'm like jumping
through hula hoops just to get the showand the space to be amazing because
that is how I work I leave blood on thefloor right but I'm leaving my soul on
the floor and then I have nothing leftfor me I'm like a shell of a person
when I get home if I get home so I quitthe show I went against the grain but
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looking back What was great about thatis that those were like breadcrumbs.
Those were in the direction ofwhere my soul was leading me.
So conscious home, even connectingmy spiritual and my work in a way
that was really authentic to who Iam, started with that step, leaving
what was not in alignment withwho I was Not making the popular
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choice and did it happen overnight?
Was I like, oh my god, I'm so happy.
I did these things overnight No, I wasn'tthere were times that I was like, oh
my god, did I make the right decision?
But I could not ignorethat internal clock.
So you have to be okay with saying noto things and yes to the things that
fuel your soul because I will tell youthat even though That was hard to do.
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I was happier I was happier.
I was lighter.
was doing things that I love to doand if I like got hit by a bus the
next day, I would have been happywith everything that I was doing.
I was not leaving anything on the floor.
I was living my life to my fullest.
honestly, that's the most you canask for, just follow your joy,
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be who you are authentically.
That is our purpose.
And we just, Over complicated.
We think that the voices around us, knowbetter than us, and that is not true.
They get to live their life.
This is your life andit's really interesting.
I will leave you with this becausehonestly, I could talk about this
forever because it really is partof my soul purpose is to live
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authentically and to find myselfand to constantly be doing that.
I was really young when I left home.
I was 18 and, my younger years werelike my most angst years and my mother
and I have an amazing relationshipnow and I love her to death.
But, you know, It's hard when you knowwho you are or what you don't want at a
very young age and you still have to livewith other people under their house and
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their rules and things like that I thinkthat's really hard because a lot of us
Really know at a very young age who weare it's just that as we get older It's
the older people the adults that tell ushow to live and that they want us to live
a certain way or they Want us to be morelike them without them even realizing
they try to like Raise their kids to beexactly like them and not that my mother
did this to me but i'm very cognizant withmy own daughter that She's four right now
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and she tells me exactly what she wantsto do and within reason I try to let her
be her, you know, I have to make sureshe's like safe and stuff but literally
today she decided to wear pajamas,not go to school, not brush her hair.
She did brush her teeth.
So that was good.
It was a win.
And she was just like, this isjust this is what I'm doing today.
And I was like, all right, soshe's going to me, my OPA, which
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is like my husband's parents.
tell them that today was a day thatyou made decisions for yourself.
And she's like, yeah,I'm going to do that.
but I go back.
So the story is, that when I wasyounger and my mother used to
tell me you're going to regretthis, you're going to regret that.
And that was like her thing.
she would try to tell me thethings that I was going to regret
that she would have regretted.
And I remember saying to her somethingthat I still believe in to this day
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and it's funny that I knew it thenI remember saying to her, if I make
this mistake and it is a mistake.
I will be okay with it because it wasmy mistake to make but I would never
forgive myself if I made a decisionbased on what somebody else told me
to do and it wasn't even my mistake.
I did something I didn't even want to doand it ended up being the wrong choice.
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I'm not going to regret somethingthat I in the moment felt like this
is what I needed because that was mylesson, That's how I learned from it.
this is my mistake to make it.
I own it and I don't think it was I justthink I made decisions to what made sense
to me at that time because nothing'sreally a mistake It's just a learning
lesson remember that because it's notthis perfect little journey that we're
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all on and you have to like tick allthese dots, you know, it's just learning
experiences And if something doesn't workout, you get to go in another direction,
but at least go in the direction.
just do it, because life'sgonna be so much better.
It's gonna be so much sweeter whenyou go in the direction of something
that really is authenticallyand purposefully your own.
Welcome home everybody.
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That is to the Conscious Home Podcast.
My name is BlancheGarcia and I'm your host.
today I wanted to talk about how do youlive following your own true soul purpose?
And sometimes you don't evenrealize that you're in the
direction of your soul purposewhile you're trying to be authentic.
And what's interesting about thistopic is that the reason I brought
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it up is Well, a there's two things.
the first one is, I think thatyour fairy dust or the thing that
really makes you, you and unique isthe thing that everybody tells you
you're really good at or everybodycomments on throughout your life.
And you may think oh, it's justpeople being nice, but you get enough
people from, like, all differentwalks of life telling you that you're
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good at something or that you'rethis or they admire this about you.
And that's basically the universetrying to give you a hint as to
part of what your soul purpose is.
And so I know that sounds crazy,but that is actually true.
and the second thing is that I thinkthat a lot of people at this point in
time in life, in history, are beingmore authentically themselves or
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leaning into it than they ever were.
And I'm not saying thatthat's like for everybody.
It's not.
There are going to be people who just,are fake ass like you just can't avoid
that But I think more and more you'reseeing whether it's businesses social
media Entrepreneurs just people ingeneral being like I just want to do me.
I want to be who I am That's it.
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This is me And they're like showingyou their authentic selves behind
the curtain They're not being asglossy and edited as they used to
be It's just very poignant for me.
So let's go back to what I was sayingPersonally, my whole, whole life, I have
felt the need to really be who I am.
I know that that's for a lot of people,but it actually like from when I
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can remember, literally my earliestmemories, I just wanted to be me.
Now I grew up around people who wereusually telling me that they were afraid
to be themselves It was just like a lot ofhidden stuff and I was like the opposite.
I was like dying to be myself, like ifI was in situations where I felt like
I couldn't use my voice or I had to bea version of myself that wasn't really
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me, I would lose my complete shit.
Like it literally happened all the time.
I would like run in thedirection of just like, freedom!
And so as I got older, the more I kindof leaned into that, like my teenage
years and my twenties and thirties, I waslike, I just want to live Now it doesn't
mean that I'm an asshole and I'm tellingeverybody to just go F their mother.
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That's not what I'm saying.
I'm saying that, I just want tocreate what I want to create.
I want to dress the way I want to dress.
I want to say what's on my mindand not try to hide myself.
And if I want to go in a direction,that's the direction I want to go in.
And what's interesting about thatis that the one thing that people
will always say is my superpower,because we all have them, is that
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I am unapologetically myself.
What you see is what you get.
When I did TV, I was on Travel Channeland HGTV and the number one comment
I would get from fans were Blanche,it seems like what you are on TV
and what we see is really who youare and that's completely the truth.
and I think that that's really importantand where I say that that's kind of going
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in the direction of who you are or whatyour purpose is, is that The only reason
we are really here, and I know that thisis going to sound really simple, but we
are here to be happy, to be ourselves,to go on our own personal journey, nobody
else's, and to go in that direction.
And what's really hard about that, Ithink for a lot of people, is that, right?
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you're probably watching this right now,and you're going But I either have, a ton
of obligations depending on what pointof life you are at, or I'm afraid that
people aren't going to accept me for who Iam, or I don't even know what that means.
I don't even know how to go towardsmy sole purpose or live in a
way that's just uniquely myself.
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So, I want to give you some backgroundto some ways that you can get
into that mode, into that feeling.
Because once you start living ina direction that is really without
handlebars, it's just like completelygoing, You're gonna find that a lot
of things start resonating with youthe life that surrounds you You're
going to be so much happier withbecause it's literally What you want?
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It's everything that you want becauseyour energy will attract like energy
It can't not attract like energy.
when you're living a life that isinauthentic or is not like completely
a hundred percent who you are, you areprobably surrounded with a bunch of crap
that you don't like, people you don'tlike, and situations that you don't like.
And you're probably wonderingwhy don't I love my life?
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This is so weird.
Because you're so used to being byyourself, that you think that just
being by yourself with yourselfauthentically alone is enough, but when
you're on the outward and you're withoutward people are living your life,
you don't necessarily have to be that.
And the universe shouldjust know the difference.
It should just know to give youthe life you want based on who you
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are in your bedroom, watching a TVshow, just reading an effing book.
That's what the universeshould resonate with.
Not the life that you're livingout loud with the people you don't
give a shit about, the job youhate, and everything else, right?
So if you haven't gotten that,that's not gonna work for you.
So how do you figure out Whoyou are or what is your purpose?
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One of the big signs is peoplecomment all the time about.
What you're really good at andby the way, this doesn't have
to be some earth shattering youcure cancer You're a doctor.
You're a lawyer.
Like it doesn't have to be like that.
It can be something likeyou're really good with animals
You're really empathetic.
you always brighten up people's day.
You're really good at writing oryou're really good with color It could
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be any of those things and You leaninto that because that is what lights
you up and what lights you up is whatpeople will comment on, by the way.
So, that is a really big indicator as towhat, really is part of your soul purpose.
Another exercise that you can kind ofdo that has always helped me is writing.
whenever I'm trying to figure somethingout, I will just start writing.
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I usually will play music in thebackground because the vibration
of music shifts our energyreally quickly and really easily.
That's why music is the highestvibration other than like laughter,
and water is right up there.
But music is a really high vibrational,instrument to tap into the things
that we need to be in flow.
Anything that brings you in flow.
Some people, they like to go running.
Some people, they're good withtheir hands and they're doing art.
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Anything that takes your mind out of thethinking pattern and into just the flow.
If you start writing or just riffingwith that, You're going to start
to get things that come to you.
a third way, well actually there'sfour ways, okay let's do four.
So the third way that I want you to kindof work on this is that I want you to
actually say to the universe, I wantyou to give me three signs, distinctive
signs, like I don't want you to give mesigns that I don't know what the hell
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it is, like a bus passing by that Ijust missed at the side of my glance.
Tell them you want three big signs that.
you can't avoid to help you navigateto what is your sole purpose, And
then just keep an eye out for them.
You're going to know what those are.
you're not going to pass those by.
You're not going to miss them becausewhen you see the sign or feel the
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sign, you're going to feel it likedeep, feel it you can get like chills.
It's just something, it could be somethingsomebody says, something that's an oddity
that would normally never happen to you.
It's going to come out of the blueand then all of a sudden you're
going to like stop what you're doing.
You're going to be like, was that for me?
And you'll be like,that was for me, right?
Like the fact that you're asking about it,but like, don't be like, I'm watching a
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commercial, KFC is on, there's a chickenon there, maybe I should be a rancher.
That's not it.
That's your brain tryingto connect the dots.
Okay.
This is like hit you out of the blue.
Okay, so the fourth thingthat you're going to do gonna
have to suspend your belief.
So, this is the thing.
When we sleep, our brain gets hungup on a little rack and our whole
energy gets to take over So whenwe're sleeping, our soul gets to
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like pick up because it never sleeps.
Our energy never sleeps.
It's just kind of our body sleeping.
And that's why we get like dreams,we get information, sometimes your
dog that past visits you, yourgrandmother, you don't even know.
So when you're sleeping,it's like literally gold.
You can solve all your problems whenyou're sleeping because if you write
down on a journal or on a piece ofpaper and have an intention and say,
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listen, when I go to sleep, ask yourguides, ask all of those that basically
are your soul team and say, I reallyneed help with this one issue, XYZ.
So you're going to say to them, Ireally would love if you can give
me some clues as to my soul purposeand you're going to go to sleep.
When you wake up, Right before you openyour eyes there's that in between state
and it's the in between of being fullyconscious and awake and like thinking
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about who called you or left you amessage or when it's like oh I just
had a dream and what was that dreamlike we always do it I always keep my
eyes closed and I'm like oh I'm liketrying to think and I'm like in my mind
mentally checking all the things I didwhile I was sleeping I want you to try
to write down everything that you canremember even if it's not significant.
I want you to write it down becauselater on when you look at it, there
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might be something that was completelywhat you thought insignificant, but
will actually be really significant.
Now, as you're starting to do this workand work on this energy, believe it or
not, you are actually creating Change,you are changing not only your internal
energy, but you are changing the flow oflife around you because you're basically
telling the universe, I care, I wantto live my authentic, purposeful life.
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And so by doing this, bydefault, the universe starts
connecting the dots for you.
Now.
This is the part thatyou're going to hate.
When this starts happening, yourlife may seem like it's falling
apart because when you are creatingspace for new stuff to happen, right?
It cannot take the same spacethat old stuff is happening
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it's just like these chairs.
If I want to buy new chairs, I cannotbring them into this room because
I have old chairs sitting here.
So, if I'm refusing to takethe old chairs out because I
think, why can't I have both?
You know, Guess what?
The universe may take them out for me.
There may be a big hailstormand rocks that fall through the
roof and like break my chairs.
Somebody may come and break my chairs.
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My toddler may throw wine on my chairs.
There may be something thathappens to the chairs that the
universe is like, uh, no bitch.
You got to get these things out of yourroom before we can bring the new shit in.
So when that happens, don't be upset.
Don't get pissed off andsay Blanche did this.
It's just like making room for new stuff.
So you're gonna go in that directionNow that's kind of going on right It's
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like kind of like one platter that'sspinning in the air The other part of
this is you because you have to actuallyWant to be authentically yourself,
meaning that you have to want to goin the direction of just who you are.
when I say that, that's much easiersaid than done because a lot of
people have been programmed to be veryinsecure about being who they are.
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They don't think that they're worth it.
and I say this, and I myself have hadImposter syndrome and things like that.
So it's not like I came out of thewomb and all of a sudden I'm you
know, so like sure of myself 24 7.
It's just that I'm so used to doingthings that freak me out and scare me.
I'm so used to going in a directionthat feels right and listening to that
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internal, messaging of intuition.
I'm so used to checking inwith myself that I've made it
like a muscle that over time.
is really your superpower.
I want you to start getting really clearand connected with the internal intuition,
the messaging that comes inside yourbody that you usually don't listen to.
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Like a lot of people listen to theirhead, but if you can listen to what
goes on internally it's almost likewhen you're posed with a decision
and your head says something, butthen there's this voice that's like.
You don't want to do that.
Don't do that.
And you're like, no, Ireally should do this.
And you're like, if I don't do thisand you kind of talk yourself out of
it, you know, you're kind of givingit the benefit of the doubt, right?
it's like the guy who asks you out andyou kind of have this weird feeling
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about him, but he checks all the boxes.
So he asks you out and you'relike, I should say yes.
But really inside something's like, Idon't know, this doesn't feel right.
So you avoid what doesn't feel right.
And you go, yeah, I'mactually gonna listen to that.
I'm gonna listen to my headand I'm gonna go out with him.
And it ends up to be like a disaster orit ends up being Okay enough that you fool
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yourself into five more dates and then yourealize that you're really don't like him
and something's completely off of by nowyou're completely in it and it's just like
a whole mess people do this all the time.
what I want you to start doing isreally start listening to your own
intuition because that voice willget stronger as you check in with
it and so when you're faced with adecision I want you to suspend Any
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response, and I want you to just getstill and say what does it feel like?
Does the energy feel uplifting?
Does it feel like a yes?
Because if it doesn't feel likeyour body's energized by this,
answer, then it's probably a no.
there's a lot of no's that are gonna comeup in your life and you're like, well if
I just did nothing that came up and gotoffered to me then I would just have no
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direction, I would make no decision.
But the truth is, there's goingto be a lot of things that
aren't a right fit for you.
There's going to be probably more thingsthat are not a right fit than are a
fit because the more you get discerningabout what you want and the type of life
that you want to live, the easier it'sgoing to be for you to cut out things
that aren't in alignment with that.
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And that takes youchecking in with yourself.
for instance.
Let's go back to dating,just because it's easy.
Well, not for everybody,but it's an easy target.
So, in my 20s, there were like abillion guys I could date, right?
I would trip and there would be a guy.
And he'd be like, Blanche,let's go out, blah blah.
And I'd be like, yeah, let's do this.
And I was like, wow, like,I feel like I'm always in a
relationship or I'm always dating.
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And then in my 30s, I was like,there's not that many guys out there.
And the truth of the matteris, There are the same amount
of guys that were out there.
The difference is is that Igot to know myself so much.
I got to figure out what Iwanted and what I didn't want
that I became more discerning.
And when you raise the bar foryourself of what you want, and if you
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know authentically who you are, thenyou're going to accept less crap.
So then there was 10 guys, but yourealize really quickly that six of
them, they weren't even up to snuff.
They weren't even in your real house.
you were just like, eh, no.
So now it just limited it to four.
But then you realize two ofthose guys, one has mommy issues.
And then the other guy, Itliterally just lies all the time,
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so you're like, can't do that.
So now you're left with just two guys.
So that's why you think there'snot enough guys, but it's not that.
You just would have acceptedmuch more crap before.
As you decide and realize who you are andstart listening to that internal voice
and start going in the direction of thethings that really are in alignment with
who you are, there's only going to be.
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Certain decisions there for you theuniverse and you yourself your own
discernment is going to take others outof your path So we already talk about how
to figure out what your sole purpose is.
And then the second part to that beinghow to tune into who you are and what you
want, how to tune into that intuition andhow to exercise that on a daily basis.
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I would say that the third part of thisis you have gotten to the place where
you know who you are and you know whatyou don't want and You want what you want
And with that comes an inner strength.
And that's the part thatmost people have time with.
And I'll tell you why.
Because, It's actually saying noto things and saying yes to things
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when everybody's doing the opposite.
And that really takes a lot ofinner courage and it takes a lot
of like, I'm not going to lie.
It takes a lot of balls, It really does.
because there are so many times inmy life that the path I want to go.
is the harder path.
Not many people are doing it.
I'm not sure if it'sgoing to get me anywhere.
I just know that it feels right to me.
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it's in alignment with who I am,but everybody's telling me to
go the other way, the easy way.
Why don't I just do it this way?
When that happens, you have to be ableto say no To the easy things or to the
things that people are bringing to youeven though it has benefits it's not
like they're bringing you poison andyou're like, no, I can't take the poison.
I'll die It's like they're just likelook at these pretty flowers and bunnies
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and you're just like yeah, they're cuteThey're cute, but they're not what I want.
And they're like, but look at them.
Look how cute.
I'm going to give them to you.
And you're just like, ah, so it's like,you have to say no to good enough to
say yes sometimes to the thing thateverybody's like, Oh, I don't even know.
Nobody's even done that before.
that's weird.
And you have to sometimesbe able to say yes to that.
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that's where you have tohave that inner courage.
So if you don't get really clear onthe first two steps of this, you are
not going to be able to say no tothings that are not in alignment with
who you are and say yes to the thingsthat are because it is not always easy
and it's not always a clear answer.
There are so many peoplethat I come across.
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that say to me, I could never dothat, that I could never say no to,
or why don't you just do this Blanche,Or why do you have to do X, Y, Z?
I'll give you an example of this.
So I was, on a TV show, Hotel Impossiblethrough Travel Channel, and I was
traveling around the world and toeverybody that was watching me, they
were like, you are a success story.
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This is amazing.
You get to travel around the world,be on TV, you get to fix hotels
and really live out the dream.
The problem was, that I wasn't happy.
I was literally burningthe candle at both ends.
I felt like I was just holding on to it.
Even though there were aspects thatI loved, I felt like I was holding
on to it because I wasn't happy.
I thought it was going to get me towhat I really wanted and you just
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keep going and going thinking thiswill get me from A to B, A to B.
I just have to do this long enough.
But I realized eventually thatit was literally killing my soul.
Like I was just miserable.
I had no life.
I wasn't dating anybody.
I mean, it was like crickets.
And then on top of it, like myfriends stopped calling me because
I was just never around because Iwas so called traveling the world.
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But I was staying at like thesecrazy hotels sometimes I was like
bedbugs one hotel, mold another hotel.
layovers.
It's just not as glamorous as it seems.
And at the same time, I had already becomea green designer, through the USGBC.
I kind of was really on my spiritualpath already, but my spiritual path
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was still very a parallel thing.
It wasn't connected to what I did everyday, even though I wanted it to be more
integrated into what I did every day.
So here I am miserable.
And, supposed to be happy by all accounts.
And, two things happened.
One was that I decided to write a bookbecause I had always loved writing books.
And when I was shopping it aroundto different publishers, the
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publishers were like, Oh, great,Blanche Garcia from that one show.
she's going to do a tabletop design book.
And.
The book I wanted to write was abouthow empowered design, basically
designing your life from the inside out.
So this is like where it startedto crack through the life I'm
living now those seeds startedcoming through into my work life.
So every time I would talk to a publisher,they would be like, Uh, that's never
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gonna fly, you should not do that.
We need the tabletop design book.
That's what we do.
The before and after.
And I was like, I don't want to do that.
I'm not saying I don't design andI don't love what I do design, but
it's not the take on my life or thebook, what I want to talk about.
But nobody wanted to publish that book.
So I was like, I'm goingto self publish that book.
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that costs money, time, I wrote my ownbook, I self published my book, and I knew
that it could or could not do anything,and it really honestly never sold much,
I had it out there, but I knew that Iwanted that in the world, that Vibration
into the world and if it made a ton ofmoney great But that's where my passion
was leading me and that's who I was It isnot what everybody wanted me to do It is
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not what most people in my situation wouldhave done because I would have gotten
a quick book deal Had I done the otherway, but that's not what I wanted I went
in a direction that made sense for me.
I followed my Intuition and the secondthing I did at that time is that I quit
the show everybody thought I was nuts.
They were just like what are you doing?
You're on a very popular show you'regetting paid not great, but I was getting
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paid you're traveling the world And Iwas just like I can't do this anymore.
I'm losing myself I don't even know ifi've lost myself at this point I'm just
like in a closet after every day thati'm shooting Drinking some bottle of
vodka in the middle of nowhere whetherI was like in Missouri or like Timbuktu
I don't even know where I was Andjust trying to figure it out to get to
the next day to wake up for hair andmakeup that I was doing Myself 5 a.
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m.
Make it to set design contractors arewalking off set and I'm like jumping
through hula hoops just to get the showand the space to be amazing because
that is how I work I leave blood on thefloor right but I'm leaving my soul on
the floor and then I have nothing leftfor me I'm like a shell of a person
when I get home if I get home so I quitthe show I went against the grain but
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looking back What was great about thatis that those were like breadcrumbs.
Those were in the direction ofwhere my soul was leading me.
So conscious home, even connectingmy spiritual and my work in a way
that was really authentic to who Iam, started with that step, leaving
what was not in alignment withwho I was Not making the popular
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choice and did it happen overnight?
Was I like, oh my god, I'm so happy.
I did these things overnight No, I wasn'tthere were times that I was like, oh
my god, did I make the right decision?
But I could not ignorethat internal clock.
So you have to be okay with saying noto things and yes to the things that
fuel your soul because I will tell youthat even though That was hard to do.
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I was happier I was happier.
I was lighter.
was doing things that I love to doand if I like got hit by a bus the
next day, I would have been happywith everything that I was doing.
I was not leaving anything on the floor.
I was living my life to my fullest.
honestly, that's the most you canask for, just follow your joy,
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be who you are authentically.
That is our purpose.
And we just, Over complicated.
We think that the voices around us, knowbetter than us, and that is not true.
They get to live their life.
This is your life andit's really interesting.
I will leave you with this becausehonestly, I could talk about this
forever because it really is partof my soul purpose is to live
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authentically and to find myselfand to constantly be doing that.
I was really young when I left home.
I was 18 and, my younger years werelike my most angst years and my mother
and I have an amazing relationshipnow and I love her to death.
But, you know, It's hard when you knowwho you are or what you don't want at a
very young age and you still have to livewith other people under their house and
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their rules and things like that I thinkthat's really hard because a lot of us
Really know at a very young age who weare it's just that as we get older It's
the older people the adults that tell ushow to live and that they want us to live
a certain way or they Want us to be morelike them without them even realizing
they try to like Raise their kids to beexactly like them and not that my mother
did this to me but i'm very cognizant withmy own daughter that She's four right now
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and she tells me exactly what she wantsto do and within reason I try to let her
be her, you know, I have to make sureshe's like safe and stuff but literally
today she decided to wear pajamas,not go to school, not brush her hair.
She did brush her teeth.
So that was good.
It was a win.
And she was just like, this isjust this is what I'm doing today.
And I was like, all right, soshe's going to me, my OPA, which
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is like my husband's parents.
tell them that today was a day thatyou made decisions for yourself.
And she's like, yeah,I'm going to do that.
but I go back.
So the story is, that when I wasyounger and my mother used to
tell me you're going to regretthis, you're going to regret that.
And that was like her thing.
she would try to tell me thethings that I was going to regret
that she would have regretted.
And I remember saying to her somethingthat I still believe in to this day
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and it's funny that I knew it thenI remember saying to her, if I make
this mistake and it is a mistake.
I will be okay with it because it wasmy mistake to make but I would never
forgive myself if I made a decisionbased on what somebody else told me
to do and it wasn't even my mistake.
I did something I didn't even want to doand it ended up being the wrong choice.
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I'm not going to regret somethingthat I in the moment felt like this
is what I needed because that was mylesson, That's how I learned from it.
this is my mistake to make it.
I own it and I don't think it was I justthink I made decisions to what made sense
to me at that time because nothing'sreally a mistake It's just a learning
lesson remember that because it's notthis perfect little journey that we're
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all on and you have to like tick allthese dots, you know, it's just learning
experiences And if something doesn't workout, you get to go in another direction,
but at least go in the direction.
just do it, because life'sgonna be so much better.
It's gonna be so much sweeter whenyou go in the direction of something
that really is authenticallyand purposefully your own.
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