How to Divorce Without Destroying Your Family

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down with certified family law specialist, parenting coordinator, and podcast host Jaime Davis—aka the woman rewriting the rules on how to divorce without destroying your life (or each other). With over 20 years in the legal trenches, Jaime shares the five key steps to navigate divorce in a way that preserves your sanity, your bank account, and—most importantly—your kids’ wellbeing.

From gathering documents before emotions detonate, to choosing your “divorce dream team,” to letting go of that wedding china (yes, really), Jaime’s wisdom is a must-listen for anyone in the thick of it. We talk about co-parenting dynamics, emotional landmines, and why fighting over a Dyson vacuum isn’t worth the therapy bills. Whether you're just starting to ask “is this the end?” or you're deep in the paperwork, Jaime offers a practical, compassionate roadmap forward.

This episode is your permission slip to protect your peace and start building your next chapter—without burning everything down first.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The Separation Strategy – How you separate sets the tone for the whole divorce.

• Assemble Your A-Team – Lawyers, therapists, friends... Everyone has a role.

• Pick Your Battles – Focus on what actually matters (hint: not the vacuum).

• Kids Come First – Parenting post-divorce doesn’t mean parenting in pain.

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 02:02 The Importance of Jamie's Book

• 04:51 Five Steps to Navigate Divorce Without Destruction

• 06:53 Step One: Planning Your Separation

• 13:27 Step Two: Assembling Your Support Team

• 15:34 Step Three: Setting Clear Goals

• 21:33 Step Four: Focusing on the Best Interest of the Children

• 21:55 Breaking Free from Marriage Roles

• 22:47 Embracing Co-Parenting Realities

• 26:08 Navigating New Relationships

• 29:34 Prioritizing Self-Care

• 33:07 Avoiding Self-Medication Pitfalls

• 37:12 Embracing New Beginnings

• 40:21 Final Thoughts and Resources

  
  

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Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Jaime Davis

Jaime Davis is a seasoned divorce attorney and co-managing partner at Gailor Hunt Davis Taylor & Gibbs, PLLC in Raleigh, with over 20 years of experience in family law. She hosts the podcast A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction and authored a book by the same name, helping individuals navigate divorce with dignity and financial clarity. A Certified Family Law Specialist and Parenting Coordinator, Jaime brings both professional expertise and personal experience to guiding clients through custody, support, and complex divorce matters. Her podcast features insights from legal, financial, and mental health experts, reinforcing her belief that divorce doesn’t have to destroy families. Jaime lives in Raleigh with her husband and three children and has received multiple honors, including North Carolina Super Lawyers and Enterprising Woman of the Year.

Connect with Jamie

• Website: https://www.divorceistough.com/attorney/jaime-davis/ 

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaimehdavisattorney/ 

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaimedavisattorneyatlaw 

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