Is Your Dating Pattern Keeping You Stuck? How to Attract the Right Partner After Divorce with Shonda Howard

Are you navigating the dating world post-divorce and finding yourself stuck in the same patterns? Many women re-entering the dating scene often unknowingly repeat cycles that keep them attracting the wrong partners.

In this episode ofThe Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I sit down withShonda Howard, a dating coach who specializes in helping women build confidence and attract emotionally available partners. Shonda shares her own journey from toxic relationships to finding true love and breaks down the subconscious patterns that hold many women back. Together, we discuss why we attract certain types of partners, how to break free from destructive cycles, and how to cultivate self-worth to call in a love that truly aligns with you.

🔑Key Themes & Takeaways:

• 💔Breaking Free from Dating Patterns – Understanding why we attract the same kind of partners and how to shift into healthier, fulfilling relationships.
  

• 🧠The Power of Subconscious Beliefs – How the patterns we develop from past relationships shape who we attract and how to rewrite them for the love we truly desire.
  

• 💡Emotional Availability Starts with You – Why emotionally unavailable partners keep showing up and how to do the inner work to attract someone who is ready for commitment.
  

• ✨Regulating Your Nervous System for Love – How past emotional wounds and trauma responses can sabotage dating and what tools can help you feel secure in relationships.
  

• ⚡Creating a High-Value Dating Mindset – Why self-validation is the key to magnetizing the right person and how to shift from needing validation to radiating confidence.
  

• 💭How to Know If You’re Ready for Love – A simple self-inventory to assess whether you’re dating from a place of confidence or fear.

  
  

🎁Grab Shonda’s Free Training!

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We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction to Modern Dating Post-Divorce

• 01:06 Meet Shonda Howard: The Dating Coach

• 03:06 Understanding Dating Patterns

• 05:36 Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Relationships

• 14:48 Self-Validation and Finding True Love

• 20:10 Embracing Contentment and Manifesting Desires

• 23:17 Navigating Trust Issues in Relationships

• 24:40 Regulating Emotions: Tools and Techniques

• 26:12 Balancing Self and Partnership

• 28:24 Communicating Needs in Relationships

• 37:41 Creating Inner Happiness and Clarity

• 41:32 Free Training and Final Thoughts
  

  
  

Learn More About This Week’s Guest: Shonda Howard

Shonda is a Dating coach and hypnotherapist that helps women over 30 find their soulmate - a partner who has their shit together and is ready for commitment! She came to this work first as a client in her late thirties, in NYC and desperate to not die alone with 10 cats. Once she learned that her subconscious program was the real problem causing her to attract all of those emotionally unavailable d-bags, she changed it and met her husband 6 months later! She believes that every woman deserves to have the relationship that makes them feel loved, safe, and truly happy - and that it’s possible no matter how old you are or how long you’ve been out of the dating