Why Family Isn’t the Fix: When the People Who Love You Can’t Support You

In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, I unpack a painful but crucial truth: sometimes, the people who love you the most—your family, your closest friends—aren’t the support system you actually need during divorce.

I share my deeply personal journey of realizing that my family’s love came bundled with fear, judgment, and expectations that made me feel even more isolated during one of the most vulnerable times in my life. This isn’t about blame—it’s about awareness. Because the support you need to heal and rise isn’t always found in the usual places.

You’ll learn how to evaluate the support systems around you, identify emotional red flags, and consciously curate a circle that truly sees and supports the version of you that’s trying to emerge.

Whether you’re sobbing on the floor, navigating co-parenting, or just trying to breathe through the overwhelm—this episode will help you feel less alone, and more empowered to choose who stands beside you as you rebuild.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Your Emotions Are the Compass – Learn how to tell who’s helping and who’s hurting by how you feel after every conversation.

• No Shade to Family – Love doesn't always equal support. And that’s okay.

• Your Old Circles Were Built for Your Old Life – Why some friendships naturally fall away after divorce.

• Strategic Support Systems – How to match your needs with the right kind of friend energy (cheerleader, mom vibe, spiritual sage, tough love).

• Redefining Relationships – How Erica rebuilt her network and herself—one aligned conversation at a time.

We talk about:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 01:04 Why Family May Not Be the Best Support

• 02:39 The Importance of Support Systems

• 03:56 Evaluating Your Current Support Circles

• 05:11 Finding the Right Support During Divorce

• 07:27 Personal Experiences and Shifts in Support

• 15:24 Leveraging Different Types of Support

• 17:23 Building New Social Circles

• 23:08 Conclusion: Reflect and Build Your Support System

  
  

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