Five Questions to Discover + Connect

Join me this week as I share my five favorite questions you can use to connect with yourself, with your partner, with a cherished friend, or with a new friend. 

These are some of my favorite questions to ask ever, and I want to share them with you. 

In this episode, I share: 

• Five thought provoking questions (+ one bonus question) that you can use to discover + connect with yourself, a loved one, or new friend/partner. 
• How asking good questions can help us fulfill a core need we all have - to be seen, known, and cherished. 
• I hope you’ll take time this week to ask yourself these questions, and take time in the next week to ask a friend or partner these questions too. 

Show Notes

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Episode Transcript

Scarlett 2i2 USB (00:24):
Welcome to today's episode, Five Questions
to Discover Connect.
For today's episode, which it isthe 50th episode of this
podcast.
I am really excited about that.
That's a goal that I set a yearago.
I committed to doing thispodcast for 50 episodes.

(00:45):
I'm going to keep going.
But it feels really good to meeta goal that I set a year ago.
And it has definitely been achallenge to be consistent as a
creative person.
But I have just loved thisexperiment, and I've loved
getting to record these, andtalk to you, and share my

(01:05):
thoughts, week over week.
So for today's episode, I wantedto share an offering of sorts.
I'm going to share fivequestions that you can use to
connect with yourself, with apartner, with a cherished
friend, or maybe even a newfriend.
These are some of my favoritequestions to ask ever.

(01:26):
And I wanted to share them withyou today so that you can put
them to use for you, and tostrengthen and reveal more in
your relationships, to godeeper.
I love learning about myself andabout people in general, people
I care about people I don't evenknow.
And I believe that it startswith asking good questions.

(01:51):
And coming up with reallythought provoking questions is
actually one of my very favoriteways to spend time.
I find learning andunderstanding myself and other
people endlessly fascinating.
It's what I do for work and Iwould do it for free.
I've done it for free for thepast probably 20 years.
I love it so much and so much sothat this just as a side note, I

(02:16):
guess a tangent here.
I started a project two yearsago- ish, I think, yeah, it was
two years ago, where I startedwriting these questions down
that I had.
And it just started organically.
I was actually sitting on abeach around my birthday.
And I was just writing down allthese questions that were on my
mind.

(02:37):
And over time, they formed into365 unique questions that I
organized into writing prompts.
But really they're just reallygood questions.
I love thinking about that.
Just still on this tangent,because it started very
organically.
I just had all of thesequestions in my mind.
And I started writing them down,sitting on the beach.

(03:00):
And then I just kept going.
I think that one day I got tolike a hundred, it was crazy.
I was like, whoa, this is soneat.
These could become a body ofwork that I could share with
other people.
And now they are, two yearslater.
There's 365 unique writingprompts as part of a program
that I have.
And what I think is sointeresting about them is that

(03:21):
these questions, these writingprompts, are unlike any that
I've ever seen.
They're very specific, I thinkthey're expansive questions,
they are spacious.
There's no right or wrong.
Yes or no.
It's very much encouragingexploration and discovery.
And I'm sharing a couple ofthose with you today, too.

(03:41):
So that's the purpose of thistangent.
Let's get into those questions.

Question number one (03:47):
you are a human being, spinning around in
space.
We tend to take life SOSERIOUSLY.
But, what do you really want toexperience out of this one life
that you have?
And when you ask this questionor consider it for yourself, I
would encourage you to put asidethe material things, or look at

(04:12):
the material wants that you haveand try to uncover what need
they're meeting.
Like basically, why do youreally want these things?
And then ask yourself, do youknow why?
Why do you want these thingsspecifically?
Why does this matter to you?
Whether it's material or not?

Question number two (04:30):
what emotions do you tend to
experience most often?
And what are three emotions thatyou want to feel more often?
And then once you've shared themor listed them, then ask
yourself why those three?
Why do you want to experiencethose three emotions more often?

Question number three (04:53):
what do you believe about yourself and
your ability to have be docreate what you desire?
I love this question.
I think it's so revealing.
I ask myself that all the time,because I keep uncovering and
learning new things.

Question number four (05:12):
what is something recent that you're
proud of?
Another one of my favoritequestions ever.

Question number five (05:21):
what is your favorite thing about
yourself?
I mean, I'm going to say itagain.
These are all my favoritequestions.
So that's why I'm sharing withyou today.
I love that one a lot too.
And then a bonus questionbecause I just couldn't narrow
it down to five.

Bonus question (05:38):
what are three peak life experiences you've had
so far?
And if you don't know what apeak life experiences, let me
look up the definition.
Okay, so peak life experienceswere originally defined by
Abraham Maslow and he definespeak life experiences as the

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most wonderful experiences ofyour life, those moments of
ecstasy, and complete and utterhappiness.
A couple other ways that I liketo think about peak life
experiences are times when youhave felt like your favorite
self, or times that you feltquote'high on life'.
Times you felt most alive.

(06:20):
Moments when you felt the mostlike yourself and the most
connected to what's important toyou.
And here's the definition byAbraham Maslow- peak life
experiences are defined as"moments of highest happiness
and fulfillment".
So think about those definitionswhen you think about that
question, what are three peaklife experiences you've had so

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far?
It doesn't need to be, what areyour top three?
Just like what are three of themto consider?
For yourself and document them,or to ask a friend or a partner
what there's have been.
Okay, so there you go.
You have the questions, my fiveplus one bonus favorite
questions to ask, anddeliberate, and inquire of other

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people.
I would love to encourage you toask yourself these questions.
And maybe you set a time overthe next week to ask a partner
or a close friend, thesequestions too, or a new friend.
We all want to be known, seen,and cherished for who we are.
And I believe that deepconversations, where we share

(07:26):
our heart with someone that wecare about and trust, is a
beautiful way to meet that coreneed.
And I think that really good,juicy questions definitely help
us get there.
And who knows what conversationsmight spur from these questions.
It might reveal something that'sjust hanging out, just below the

(07:48):
surface of your awareness, or onthe edge of your awareness that
you might get access to and whoknows where that will take you?
I love to think about that too.
What is constantly beingrevealed to us when we are
seeking, when we're beingintrospective, when we're
excavating and uncovering.
I'm so glad that you were hereand that we get to walk our

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paths together.
See you next time.
Same time, same place.
Bye for now.