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Welcome to
today's episode, Living an
Intuition-Led Life.
Today's podcast is a bit of anextension from last week,
episode 47, mapping yourintuition.
So in episode 47, I talked aboutthe ways in which we can work
backwards to see how things inour lives unfold intuitively.
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I think working backwards we canoften gather wisdom and
information that we can usegoing forward, in things that we
want to create and have, and be,and do.
In today's episode, I'm sharingwhat I think of as evidence or
for me, the compelling reasonsin my life on why I'm an
advocate for living in line withyour intuition and being
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connected to your intuition andgathering information and next
steps and paying attention tothe things that are tugging at
you.
I talk about some big thingsthat are really foundational to
my life that were totallyintuitively led.
I say this and I just want torepeat it- I could not have
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foreseen them from myself.
I couldn't have planned them ifI tried.
And I think that is one of themost compelling and exciting
reasons to live an intuition ledlife is that things can be so
different, bigger, better orjust different than what we
foresee for ourselves, or whatwe could imagine right now.
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So I talk about some of thefoundational things that have
happened in my life, especiallyearlier on, and how those came
to be.
And basically I share theintuition maps behind these big
breadcrumbs in my life.
So how these things came to be.
It's so interesting for me toreflect on that personally.
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I love to think about it and Ilove to talk about it.
And I wanted to share it withyou because I think that the
common theme is that usually youjust don't quite know where
you're going and it feels kindof confusing, and definitely
uncertain and sometimes itdoesn't make sense in the
moment.
Like it doesn't look like it'sadding up, but you just keep
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feeling nudged to do something acertain way.
And you can follow that.
And so I wanted to share myevidence of that and how that
has all added up to be the lifethat I have, which I feel so
grateful for.
It's so much different than whatI envisioned for myself when I
was younger.
And I talk a little bit aboutthat in what I share.
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So, what I hope you take fromthis is going into your own life
and seeing when things havehappened, either intuitively,
maybe you've been aware of it,maybe you haven't.
Maybe there's been somesynchronicities that have
happened in your life.
And looking for the intuitionmap behind it.
How did that come to be?
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What hunches did you have?
What was interesting to you?
What was tugging at you?
That led you to this bread crumbin your own life.
I think it's really powerful toreflect on this because the more
you become acquainted with andattuned to your own intuitive
processes, the more predictivethey can become, the more
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sensitive you can become to themwhen they're actually happening,
and the more you can tap into itand harness it.
I just think living an intuitionled life is like the most
exciting thing we can do.
So let's get into today'sepisode.
I hope you enjoy.
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And now I'm
gonna share some of my
breadcrumbs in my own life.
Because I think it's reallyinteresting.
I mean, I think it would bereally interesting to share,
because to me, when I look back,it's really crazy how things
have come together, and I amoften asked like, how do you
know you're intuitive?
How did you become intuitive?
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And it's something that I feellike I've just always had access
to.
I just always paid attention toit.
When I was younger, it washarder to follow because a lot
of times it like didn't totallymake sense to me or it wasn't
logical, and it definitelywasn't on the achievement track
that I was on.
But I just from a young agestarted listening to it and I
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think was willing to experiment.
I was like, I don't know, let'sjust see what happens from here.
And then knowing that I couldchange course if I wanted to or
needed to.
But I wanna share some of the,what I think of as big rocks in
my life, that have led me towhere I am today.
I have been doing this worksince, and, and I'll share this
in a minute, the first time Ifelt like a really strong
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intuitive nudge was when I was15 years old, so a little more
than 20 years.
And so I've explored this quitea bit.
And if I, you know, all of thelike micro breadcrumbs, like
there'd be probably thousands ofthem to share with you, but I'm
gonna share the big breadcrumbs,like the big rocks.
To show what it's like when youlet a life unfold, mostly
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intuitively, and I think Ishared in a previous episode
that I feel so thankful that Ihave followed a mostly intuitive
path in my life.
Because I could have neverplanned where I am right now,
and I'm fairly content withthat.
I feel really good about it.
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If I had tried to likestrategize my way here, I
wouldn't have even known tothink of the things that are in
my life right now.
And so to me, that's the mostcompelling reason to allow your
life, or maybe to commit yourlife, to following things
intuitively and mapping yourintuition as a tool that we can
use, because what we think ispossible for us is so limited.
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And if we pursue that, we willlimit ourselves.
Versus following intuitivenudges, not really quite always
knowing where it's gonna takeyou, trusting yourself, being
willing to adjust course, andit's a lot of being willing to
sit in an unknown place, whichis pretty uncomfortable and be
like, I have no idea why this ishappening.
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I don't know where this isleading me.
I don't know.
And just sitting with that andhaving a deeper trust that- I
guess I choose to believe thatI'm learning some really
important lessons in thesemoments and focusing on that
while I wait for moreinformation to come in.
So that was a little bit of atangent there about why I'm an
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advocate for living intuitively.
And I'm gonna share some of mybig rocks, my big breadcrumbs
with you.
So my intuitive journey startedI would say when I was a
teenager, though I can see backto always having it as a little
kid.
And side note, I think everyonehas it.
I think everyone is intuitive,just like I think everyone is
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creative.
And I think it's just a musclethat we can develop.
I think it's a relationship thatwe can develop, but I always
felt like a deeply intuitiveperson, even as a little kid.
But my strongest memory thatsticks out is when I was a
teenager.
I was 15 years old and I had ahunch to go to a particular
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university for a college.
Where I knew no one.
I had no idea why, but I hadthis inner knowing at 15 that I
was meant to go away to school.
And I heard someone talk aboutthe school that I ended up going
to, which was George Washingtonin DC, and I had a very strong
resonant body response and I waslike, that's where I'm going.
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And it just became like, I justmade the decision in that
moment.
Like only a 15 year old would.
So fast forward I visited, whichwas my very first time going to
DC, and it was the only schoolthat I applied to for college,
which again, something that onlya 17 year old would do.
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And I got in early decision andI was elated.
And it was the first time that Ireally had, and it was, you
know, an extended period of timewhen you're applying to college.
It was the first time I reallywanted something, like for
myself, like genuinely wantedit, not just an achievement,
like I wanted to get good gradesor win this certain award or
whatever.
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I really wanted to go to schoolthere and I got it.
And I don't know, maybe I neededthat like big win in the
beginning to be evidence of whatcan happen when we follow our
intuition.
But it was major for me at 17 tohave this first experience.
And I will say I had a verydifficult time adjusting to
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being away from my family, atsuch a big school, in a city.
I grew up in a town of 12,000people.
But I never, that first month Iwas at school was really
difficult, but I never was like,I'm not supposed to be here.
Or, oh, something is terriblywrong because I feel so deeply
uncomfortable.
I just was like, oh, I'm in thisuncomfortable place.
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And I don't know that I had theforethought to think like, oh,
I'm gonna get through this,because I was like 18 years old,
but I was just like, yeah, I'min it.
I wasn't like, I need to comehome, this is wrong.
It was just like a deeplyuncomfortable, transformative
period for me.
And luckily I met a friend on myfloor early on, in my dorm, and
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that friend was roommates withmy now husband.
And I keep a lot of my lifepretty private.
But when I met Matt, I wasimmediately drawn to him.
And I had this tugging thatwouldn't leave me alone.
And I had had, you know, teenagerelationships before that, but
this one felt different.
This resonance I had with himfelt very different than with
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anyone I had been interested inbefore that.
And I just felt this liketugging, and pulling, the
nudging that I keep talkingabout towards him.
And so we pursued it, and nowwe've been together for 18
years.
And our relationship is one ofthe greatest gifts of my life.
But it has not been easy and I'mnever one to glorify
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relationships, or marriage.
My experience is that it's noteasy, and it's not really meant
to be easy, I don't think.
But if you find someone withcommon values and goals and you
share a joint desire to learnand grow, then it can flourish
with consistent care.
So that's my second bigbreadcrumb.
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Another one is during myfreshman year of college, just
after returning from winterbreak, I felt a strong sense
that I needed to travel home,which it made no sense at the
time cause I had just been therefor several weeks.
But I followed this feeling thatI needed to go home, and I was
able to see my grandmother justbefore she unexpectedly passed
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away.
It just still feels so wild tome, and I'm so grateful that at
that point I had had a coupleexperiences with this inner
knowing, because I remember mylogic was like, this is so
silly.
You were just home for severalweeks.
Like you, it doesn't make anysense for you to go back.
But I was just like, I have togo.
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And I went.
And of course I didn't know thatshe was gonna pass away, but I
got to see her again before shedid.
And I, you know, of course Igrieved it, but I didn't have
any regrets of like, oh my God,if I would've just listened to
myself and gone back home like Ithought I should.
Like, that is another compellingreason to me to follow our
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intuition is, of course you'llstill have regrets sometimes,
but I think when you're livingaligned with your inner knowing
or your intuition, you feel morecongruence that allows you to be
more settled in your decisionsand more peaceful with the ways
in which life works itself out,or shakes out.
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So after graduating college,Matt received a job offer in
California and I felt this sensethat we were meant to go, and we
did.
I'll never forget, he sent me amessage on Gchat back in the day
when that was a thing of like, Igot a job offer, dot, dot, dot
in California, and I was like,he's meant to do this.
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And that was the first time wewere on our own really.
We were young, 23, and traveledand visited parts of the country
that broadened my mind.
It was so different from theeast coast, and this little
beach town where I grew up.
We got our two dogs who weadore, and it was a really
transformative experience.
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It really planted seeds for meabout what was possible and just
seeing different parts of thecountry.
I'm a huge advocate forexpanding our minds, like we,
what we see is what we think ispossible, and so exposing
yourself to so many things, asmany as you can, so that you can
begin to think that more ispossible for you than what you
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currently believe.
When we are moving back fromCalifornia, back to the East
coast, we drove across countryand while driving through
Amarillo, Texas, I sometimes Ihave like no filter between
these like inner knowings and Ijust speak'em out loud, and this
is one of those examples I justblurted out: I wouldn't mind
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living in Austin someday.
And then six months later, Mattgot a job offer in Austin.
Neither of us had ever been toTexas before and he accepted it.
And now we've lived here foralmost 12 years.
A few years ago, we bought ourfirst house in the exact
neighborhood that I wanted tobuy in.
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We bought the smallest house inthe neighborhood, and it was
only the second house that Isaw, and I just knew I had this
feeling.
I remember standing in theliving room and just knowing
that we were meant to put anoffer in on it.
Our realtor kind of pushed back.
She was like, are you sure youhaven't barely seen any houses
like how do you know?
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And I just knew and within a fewmonths of closing, the
neighborhood just blew up andour house increased in value by
a very significant percentage,and we would've been completely
priced out of our neighborhoodhad we not bought exactly when
we did.
I have more examples I couldshare with you- strangers who
became some of my closestfriends, chance meetings, office
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spaces, projects, careerchanges.
But those are some of my bigrocks that have been really kind
of life defining.
When you do the Mapping YourIntuition exercise, I would
encourage you to choose one bigrock or one big breadcrumb, and
break it all the way down.
Following the mapping yourintuition method that I shared
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earlier, to see all the ways inwhich you created it.
Because trust me, you haveactively created everything that
you have.
Even the things that you feellike just happened to you.
You did the work to make themhappen.
You set yourself up, you set theintention, you did the inner
work, you laid the groundwork,you did it.
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And owning that is imperative toyou continuing to create what
you want in your life.
If we think life is just sort ofhappening to us, which sometimes
it is, I'm not like gonna say,oh it we are totally in control,
sometimes life does happen tous, but if we think that life is
always just happening to us andwe don't have much
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participation, we're going toexperience our lives very
differently, and we're going toshow up and operate in our lives
very differently, then if webelieve that we are in
partnership, I would say, withthe way our lives are unfolding
and working out.
And there's a lot that we can doon our end to influence the
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things that we have and do andbecome.
That is what I have for youtoday.
I am so glad that you are hereand that we get to walk our
paths together.
See you next time.
Same time, same place.
Bye for now.