November 24, 2023 • 50 mins
The Cris David Show #guytalk Men’s Discussion Panel is back with a brand new episode! Put us on while you’re on your way to the mall for Black Friday shopping or recovering from last night’s rum punch. With Joey Baston and Khai Thomas.
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Doing this show has allowed me to gain just so many decent transformative relationships
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that I probably would have never had. Like, I met Joey at a comedy show because I did
this show and somebody invited me to it, whom I had had on my show. I met, Khai was probably
one of the first people to like follow me ever when I started my IG account. So I mean,
you know, I've lost relationships too. And honestly, they weren't that decent to begin
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with because I mean, head's think I'm just going to remain the same person I was in high
school and be stuck with them in their 15-year-old mentality. And listen, I'll keep this
short because you both know I'm with the shits and I can go all morning. But I no longer
invest in anyone who doesn't give me interest. You see some people who were here before aint
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here today. And like, I'm not going to beg anyone to pay attention to me, I’m not going out
of my way to call when they should be calling me. I'm not doing any of that transactional
shit. And the other thing is too, I'll tell both of you that well, everybody's going to
see this, but it's the three of us talking on here. A lot of people aren't safe. Like
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they'll lead you to believe that they're in your corner and they're helping you with the
eaves and the studs when the whole time they're trying to build their own house on your foundation
But see you know
I keep coming with deeper and more shit all the time. Wait a
minute. Look at that cuss bank. Okay. Wait, I guess I'm not going out tomorrow. Wait Cris I have a question
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for you because I think a conversation right goes back and forth. Alright, Khai okay. And then
we got to go into my cuss bank because the cuss bank is like going up higher and higher.
But go but go ahead. You know, you get the quick question the perspective you had of
if you're not there for me, I don't need you anymore. How did you
get to that enlightening point? Because some people feel that way, but they don't know how to express
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it. It really feels like I feel good but I still need them. Like how did you get to the point
of I gotta leave you behind?
Because a person you may not remember what someone did, but you remember how they made
you feel because I don't like to feel anxious. I don't like to be upset. I'm upbeat, happy
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guy genuinely. And when something takes me out of that, I don't like that feeling because
see now I'm triggered. Now I'm going back into, you know, elementary school or being
bullied or something. And I don't like that feeling.
I got a lot of slack for like that type of mentality, like because I compartmentalize
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people which is not like I'm a type of person like I had plenty of relationships work that
are very one sided. Like the reason why we're so friends today is because I'm the one that's
actively keeping this friendship alive.
I can't do that.
If you're okay with that, like I was okay with that. I'm okay with like, we're not like,
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I call them like my drinking buddies. I only drink with you and you are only my drinking
buddy. But if I say that then some people are like, yo, you're, you're an asshole. You
know what I mean? You're a jerk, bro. Like if they're, if you just just drink with them,
like why don't you like, if, if that's all they are to you, then what's the point of
that? Like, because that's my, that's what he's, that's the point. He's, he serves one
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purpose. This is my party friend. This is my academic friend. This is my smart friend.
This is my job friend. Totally. I get that. I keep them in these certain spaces because
that's where they're best utilized and that's where they best fit. But then people, people
look at me as you're more, you're, you're, you're using them for utility purposes. And
I'm like, no. But also if it's one sided, I can use them any way that I want to, because
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they're not actively engaging back the, like the, the friendship. I can understand if I'm
just drawing everything out of them and then not giving them anything back, it's actually
the opposite. I'm giving them everything and I'm, I'm reaching out when it's convenient
for me. And since they don't care whether I hit them up or not, then I feel like it's
a, it's a mutualistic relationship like that. But it can get really dicey when you do stuff
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like that, because it's like, are you guys really friends or you guys, are you just using
that person to, to fulfill some sort of, some sort of niche or need that you have?
I think it should go both ways though. Like, you know, I get, I totally get what you're
saying because I compartmentalize also. I think a lot of people should like try to do
that. That would help with a lot of just the drama we see on social media with friendships
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and family. But even if we are just drinking buddies, you need to be hitting me up talking
about, Hey, let's go have a drink too. It shouldn't be that
I'm doing all of the legwork in this relationship. That shit is exhausting. You know what I'm
saying? Even with, you know, like family, like it shouldn't be that I always got to
call you to see my nieces and nephews. You should be calling me to see your nieces and
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nephews. It shouldn't, it shouldn't be like that. Like it's just, it can be exhausting,
but I do agree with you, Joe. I think that it's good to compartmentalize. You have to
put people in different boxes in different spaces. Everybody is not meant to overlap.
They're just not. Like years ago, I used to have like five different Facebooks. I had
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a Facebook for people I knew from like elementary school and like growing up. I had a Facebook
with people from high school. I had a Facebook with people from college. I had a Facebook
that was kind of thotty and I had a Facebook, you know, with my frat brothers. I mean, I
just had different ones. I'm the same Cris, but I know these people from different junctures
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of life. But someone left a comment for me on YouTube and they said they liked my show,
but they told me I have a cussing mouth. So I said, so listen, I said, why don't I start
a digital swear jar, AKA a cuss bank. So right now on the screen, I have the price list up.
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So there's something called watershed and watershed is pretty much anything you can
get away with on TV after 10 PM. And the others are self-explanatory like combinations like
motherfucker, shit like that. Oh shit. See! The upside is the upside is I'm going to donate
the money to charity at the end of the season. So hopefully some of you are out there might
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want to match the donation. That would be really dope. These are only for me though.
You guys can talk how you want. I'm not paying for your sins. I was about to say, I was going
to start firing them off for you, I'm not paying for your sins. Nope. Nope. Not, not doing it, but, but moving on,
I usually don't do celebrity stuff on here because most of them are just like pretentious,
rude, insecure assholes. But this was out in LA. Shout out to LA. Lauryn showed up late
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and people complained. Oh, she's always late. Exactly. So, so she snapped on the audience.
She was like, you know, yall lucky I made it, but I'll save my comments for now. Joey,
you jump in, you take this and then Khai you go right after. Yeah. So like, so with
Lauryn Hill, like because she's, because she has such limited amount of work and not to
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discredit the quality of her work, you know what I mean? Like she, like we all enjoy her
music and things like that, but she's not, she's also an older artist. She's like, there's
a lot more that goes through that. So people have a different expectation of her. If Cardi
B comes an hour late versus Lauryn Hill coming an hour late, they're going to treat them
both different because of the level of celebrity they are. You know what I mean? Also celebrities
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are late. I've been to a Snoop Dogg show where he comes in an hour or two after he's supposed
to be there. Show starts at eight o'clock. His set starts at eight o'clock. He's not
there until 10 o'clock or something like that. Beyoncé was the same way they said. The show
starts at six o'clock. She doesn't really get on stage until like nine, 10 o'clock.
So what were you doing for the three hours? Just sitting there watching, watching production
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set up the show. That's basically what you do. You just wait for the show. And then once
the show is there, you enjoy the show. It's the greatest show ever. And then at the end
of it, you're like, okay, everything was worth the wait. So it's like, that's part of the
entertainment business. Being late is part of that. So I don't think it's anything outrageous.
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But also people want to, people are going to try to discredit her, her work just because
you don't, for you to be almost like you're wasting my time. You should be happy that
I'm coming to see you because you have such limited work. And also with the amount of
limited work you're now you're getting mad at me for you being late. And I should be
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grateful that you're even performing after I paid the ticket money to even come see you?
So there's a lot of things going on, but that's pretty much, I feel like that's what the sentiment
is for the people. Like you're, you're doing too much now. Like you're already like, you
only have five songs and I'm coming here and already paid the $50. Like the least you could
do is if you're not going to be on time, but don't be egregiously late. Cause then now I
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feel like now, now I feel disrespected.
I got a story about that but Khai, you go.
I mean, one thing you said was interesting Joey, it was like, it's a business, right?
And I think with any business in transaction, right? I pay for goods and services. I expect
those goods and services come back and if it doesn't happen, I want to refund. And I
think even with any other conveniences, I am, there's rules and clauses for things, right?
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If you don't show up or something happens, I get a refund. You know, when Beyoncé was going
pregnant, I was at Coachella that year, the year prior, I got my money to go back and
get to see her to be your following. I think sometimes you forget the fact of I'll be enabling
you to have this type of success because if I don't give you my streams, my views or whatever,
you're not going to have this. You're not going to be able to have a show. You keep
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making excuses. It's not just this one time. The fact that she's known for this is not
just a year or two, it's decades of this, right? And I think about it again, we say business,
that's her fault. The fact that she only had one body of music she can go off of, that
she has to do interpretation. She didn't know the deal. She didn't do the interpretation.
So now she has to do all these different things for the same album, make new music. And that's
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what you want to do. But she don't want to be about the business. They don't be mad about
the way the business goes down. We know music is, I won't say shady, but there's certain
things about how you go about it. 360 deals, everything else. But those that have success,
they have success for a reason because of the business model. If not, then there's a
reason behind it, right? Beyoncé, yeah, she might be late, but you know, you're going to get two
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hours, you know, the set, you know, you gotta go pause or whatever. You know what you're
getting. You're getting a show stopper. Lauryn Hill, is she in the mood? Beyoncé might be sick,
but she's going to give you the best show. So I just look at it as if we're doing business,
you gotta give me my expectation back in business. There's no excuses. Really worst case,
cancel and see what happens the next time and we'll go from there.
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Yeah, it's just the fact of. Khai is the finance guy. So anything Khai says is going to go back
to money. So as Khai is talking, all I keep hearing in my head is if somebody doesn't show up to the
show, dispute, dispute, dispute! Get on the phone with your credit card company and dispute that shit. Or just buy everything in gift cards.
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But here's my thing. Here's my thing. So with age comes compassion. So the me of 25
would have probably been like, fuck her, she only got one and a half albums, she ain't no Beyoncé.
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But the me of today understands that Lauryn could be going through something.
And if I'm going to go to one of her shows, I need to bring snacks. I need some Uno cards,
maybe a folding chair and a puzzle or something to keep myself occupied while I wait. But I mean,
I also know how to separate the artists from the art because she has exhibited some bratty,
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ungrateful behavior to her fans. But so has R. Kelly. And years ago, I went to that Best of
Both Worlds show back in the day at the Garden when he showed up like six hours late because he was
up at Ruckers playing basketball and eating at Sylvia's and shit. But I was there for the music.
And granted, he's done some fucked up shit that landed him in prison, but his artistry is
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undeniable. Now he wouldn't get my money today. But you know, anyway, Khai, what's in your Shazam?
I find myself at a crux in my life right now where being a millennial listens to the old school is
what makes me feel good. But the old school nowadays, if you go to 94.7 in Jersey, New York
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City, is Nelly and all the other stuff, the 2000s. And that's old school nowadays. It's weird. It's
like, oh shit, what happened to this remix? But at the same time, being in New York, being on the
block, if I'm hanging out and doing community service with some of the young boys, what are
they listening to? Where's that connection point? So one thing is really understanding of this crux
of drill. And for me, I grew up on Chicago drill. Chief Keef, Lil’ Durk, we're talking Lil’ Reese,
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all that stuff was drill. Now there's new stuff. You can't keep remixing Ray J's One Wish and I'm
like, wait, when it's gonna drop? It's something else. So it's always going on the radio. I'm
getting ready to be like, yeah. And I'm like, wait, what? Who's this? Groovy B and a little whatever.
I'm like, I don't even know. But it's honestly just trying to see what's the new scene of New
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York. But the thing is, in trying to be hip. I'm also learning, I gotta say my lane. I'm getting
more and more of my go out. Unless it's who I listen to. Honestly, it's all the new stuff.
Where any song is less than two and a half minutes, I question it.
But you know, that's social media's fault. That social media's fault. That's these fucking record
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executives that are trying to tie everything into TikTok. They don't have the attention spans anymore.
But you know, you mentioned something and then Joey, I'm going to go to you with this,
but you mentioned something about The Block 94.7. Shout out to The Block playing stuff like Nelly,
stuff that we remember because we're all around the same age. And my mother listens to a station
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down in Philly and it's called Classix. It's 107.9, I want to say. And it's so funny when
I go visit her and I hear Crush on You. And I'm like, when I used to play this,
you hated this. But now this is your station. So they're playing all the songs that I grew up on.
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And they're not playing the stuff that you grew up on because it's way, way back in the day.
You've got to get a Sirius subscription for that. But now you don't have any other choice.
But Joey, what's in your Shazam?
So my Shazam, I'm more of a music astronaut. I like to like, if I'm like, I might be at a Korean
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hotpot and then I might just Shazam something in the background. I know there was an American
Eagle, I was at American Eagle, American Eagle or Express, they always got a banger in the
background somewhere. So I'll just Shazam something like that. So I don't know exact songs.
There's nothing that is coming straight to my brain as like, oh, you got to hear this. But
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definitely, if something catches my ear just in passing, that's what I'll Shazam because I won't
know what that is right off the top of my head. And then if once I Shazam it, then I'll put that
into my Spotify and add that to my like list and playlist like that.
So about 500 of my like 1800 Shazams, because I'm just looking through them, like about 500 of them
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are smooth jazz. And yo, I love smooth jazz. Like when I'm in a car, I put on the Watercolors channel
and it makes me feel like really classy, you know, like driving around with the smooth jazz.
That new André 3000 album.
Listen, the André, André has like outdone himself with this album. It came out last week. So listen,
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listen, guys, it's only like 10 tracks. But the tracks are like 20 minutes a piece. Like it's a
freaking like he's playing instruments. There's very little rapping on there. But it's like,
it's an experience. Like it is it is an immersive experience.
André 3000 had an interview talking about how he's 48. And he's like, as you get older, you cant
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rap like you were like how you used to when you were younger, like, not saying that he gave up
on Rap, but meaning that he, he doesn't still have that same, like, not saying relevancy, but it's
he's like, I don't like, he's not young anymore. He's a 48, almost 50 year old man. So the things
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that he's rapping about are not going to be the same thing. Like he's not, he's not in the club
popping bottles and doing all these other types of things like you used to him. He's like,
what he said was kind of funny. He was like, what am I supposed to rap about? Like I have to go get
a colonoscopy or something like that. And I thought that was kind of crazy because that's, yeah,
we're older now. If you got the, what do you, a 50 year old rapper, what is he rapping about?
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Well, there's some 50 year old rappers rapping about the young boy shit, but they have ghost
writers and it's obvious. We're not going to say who, just saying. Rap’s is the only genre,
where you can't get old. You have Rock & Roll artists, U2 is still making albums, right? And
they're, people still love it. Rap, you're 48. It's like, I mean, you're pushing it. You know,
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what the fact look at it Nas has a reemergence, right? Nas is a monster though
Nas and he talks about being, he doesn't, he was never, he's more lyrically like better than other
people that he doesn't have to talk about. He could talk about all the things that he's doing,
business ventures and things like that. He don't have to talk about bitches and hoes.
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Yes. E-40’s still doing the same thing and having fun on the West coast.
But now that's a totally different type of rap. Like that's some, like that's that Hyphy. That's
that Dance Rap. Like he could do that forever. Yeah. There are acts with literally one foot in the grave.
And people listen, people refinance their houses. Just to get tickets. Billy Joel. I don’t know how he does it.
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My mom took me to go see Philly Collins, like a year ago. Like I was, I see Phil Collins and he
sat the whole time. He's that old, but I still enjoyed it. Phil Collins and Genesis. Exactly. He's dope. He's
dope. But, but I'm sure that that place was crowded, Joe. It was crowded.
It was standing room only. It was crazy. See what I mean? But then our acts, like our R&B acts,
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some of our Funk and Soul acts, they can barely sell tickets because people are like, oh, they're
old. Why you want to go see them? Like, but this is our music. These are our people who shaped and
formed our musical culture and you're not supporting them. Do you guys have any favorite Christmas
songs? Khai, I'm going to go to you first. You know what? I think we talk about music and variability.
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I've been sitting with every artist that has a Christmas album. The ones that come to mind are
TLC's Christmas album. Real talk, bangers, NSYNC’s Christmas album. They had some bops on that.
You know, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays. Like let's go off JC. But truth be told, NSYNC, TLC,
Mariah Carey, pretty much everyone had a Christmas album. I think Whitney had one too. Like it's a
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thing. Even Bryson Tiller has a Christmas album. Like that's how it's actually fire though. I’d give it a listen. We need
The O’Jays. We need the Silent Night. So that's why I get excited for the our versions of Christmas. Nice.
Go ahead, Joey. I like controversial Christmas songs. Like the Baby It’s Cold Outside. Like
I like that song. I always thought it was a funny song. I just found out it was controversial last
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year. I didn't know it got rapey. And then you read the lyrics and I'm like, yeah, but this is
like, and you got to remember this is like 1960, I think. 60s, 70s or something when that song came
out. Probably before then. That was definitely, yeah, it could be even older. I just know that
in 2023, everything got a little rapier. So I don't know. But that, yeah, Baby It’s Cold Outside
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still good. Still takes the cake as one of my favorites, for sure. Baby It's Cold Outside was
written in 1944. Exactly. And popularized in the 1949 film Neptune's Daughter. So 1944, that's like
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79 years ago. So you got to think of how things were back then. I mean, people were getting married
in their teens. Yes, for sure. And no one bat an eyelash. But for me, but for me, one of my all time
favorites is This Christmas, Donny Hathaway. And I used to play the 45 single over and over and over
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as a kid on my mom's record player. And shout out to my mom, she's watching. And a lot of people
depending on where they grew up, hearing it on the radio, don't know about the refrain in that record.
And I can tell where folks grew up by how they see it. Like if you, so Joey, you grew up in New York,
you grew up probably listening to ‘BLS and Kiss. They played it on ‘BLS and Kiss. But Khai where you grew
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up, they didn't necessarily play that full version on the radio. Also, Deniece Williams,
Do You Hear What I Hear? I have that on repeat when I'm in the gym this time of the year,
because it's very boppy. What else? Luther, My Favorite Things, Best of My Love, by The Emotions,
even though Best of My Love isn't a Christmas record, it just puts me in the spirit. I mean,
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Madison Avenue pretty much made it a Christmas record, and it's in C major. If you're a music
person, you know that C major is one of the Christmas song keys. And something else, this is
going to sound crazy, but like, you know, I just, I go down a rabbit hole musically. Soon As I Get
Home by Faith Evans, always sounded like a Christmas song to me. And that's in A flat minor.
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It's a kind of a sad key, but they're all good records. And the Luther record, I play it all year
round, fight me you lil’ bitch. Because I play that year round. Let me get your thoughts on this. So there's at
least one expert who believes that the singularity, the moment when AI, artificial intelligence,
surpasses the control of humans, could be just a few years away. That's a lot shorter than current
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predictions regarding the timeline of AI dominance, especially considering that AI dominance is not
exactly guaranteed in the first place. Ben Goertzel, CEO of Singularity Net, who holds a PhD
from Temple University and has worked as a leader of Humanity Plus and the artificial intelligence,
I'm sorry, Artificial General Intelligence Society, told Decrypt that he believes AI general
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intelligence or AGI is three to eight years away. AGI is the term for AI that can truly perform
tasks just as well as humans. And it's a prerequisite for the singularity soon following.
Joey, you're the science guy. I want you to take this. So AI is like the gift and the curse.
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It's that Pandora's box. It's like modern medicine. It's like anything like that can be
used for good or used for bad. In and of itself, it's not a bad thing. My friends are using Chat
GPT to rewrite emails or to formulate whatever they need to. I used it for the show.
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Yeah. Also you have it where there was a scientist, he uses the AI to make different molecules that
will be used to make medicines. But he was also thinking, he did a little experiment just for a
day and it spooked him so bad that he actually canceled it. He said, well, if I can make the AI,
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give me a list of good drugs, let's say. What if I change the algorithm to instead of it being the
one, let's make it zero. So it gives me the opposite. He said the things that were least
toxic, what are the least toxic materials? And then he turned the AI to show me the combination
of the most toxic material. And then when the AI started spitting out real things that he could
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make or things like that, it kind of scared him. He was like, what if other people were doing this?
We can have an outbreak or those rogue agent type of things. That can be a really real thing.
Seeing how fast these things can go, it only takes one little mistake. Like, oh, I didn't mean for it
to go like that. I set the autonomous robot free into the world and now we can't find him anymore
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because he's blended in with everybody. So now we're in a different type of situation. So
it can be very real and everything like that. So I don't really know.
I would have to look at it from two perspectives. One,
responsible AI, just like facial recognition software, you have to have the responsibility
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of the companies to say, does the good outweigh the bad? What are the parameters of the logistics of
the standards of going of practices? What are the regulations? What can we do? What can we not do
with this? Because at the sake of profits, are we releasing something that's uncensored? What about
aunties that don't know how to work it in their job because they're at the lower skill wages?
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How do you make an inclusive future of work that everyone can participate, make the money to do
things? We can upskill, we can learn a new skill, but cousin who just got out, he's not really going
to learn how to be this. He has certain limitations. So if AI is being used to replace those lower wage
jobs, what are they supposed to do? And not everyone can work at Amazon. So in the work I did
and that got published and I research for, those understand how do you make sure that the work is something
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that people can participate in the future? Because look at the pandemic, someone might be a cashier
and you're thinking, oh, I'm losing hours in the store. No, we're getting more self-checkouts,
which is more technology in the workplace. It's not because you're losing hours, because
you're getting replaced. But now what do you do next? You don't have the skills, you don't
know how to upskill, you don't know how to work ChatGPT, you don't know the prompts. So how do you
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assure that companies and everyone's responsible, your local governments to say, I'm going to make
sure that people can upskill for the future. So that way you're not having as many benefits and
welfare on me. You're actually continuing back with their taxes. So this is actually the biggest
thing that people need to worry about is the fact that people are losing jobs if you can't upskill.
And what does upskill look like right now? Is no one learning Python and this? How do you
need to be, what's a prompt engineer? That's a new role that came out in the past 24 months.
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People really need to learn about how do I participate because, oh, I don't need that.
You ask people, right, uncles in their 50s or aunts, their 55, they're close to retirement.
If AI is going to replace your job, what are they supposed to do? Be a Walmart greeter?
They're not, they can't retire yet, they don't have the money. They need to be able to do that.
But they’re not going to learn a whole new technology at their age? So what are we doing with this?
The fact that it's not just what it can do for the future terminators, more so how can someone make
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a nine to five off of this knowing that they're going to get replaced? And no one's thinking
about that within five years. They're going to be like, yeah, yeah, replace my computer. I don't
know what to do now. And no one's thinking about that. But we were able to upscale, but how do we
make sure the rest of our community can do the same? And no one's thinking about that. Because
not just, no one wants to be a coder. No one wants to code. I need to be able to make it mean
for me and my two kids. But I don't know how to because no one taught me about these different
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technologies because I was not part of the inclusive future of that work. So honestly,
it's more so how do we work with colleges, we work force programs to say, hey, these are the jobs and
skills you need to train people so that way in two or three years, they can get somewhere. They're
not just a cashier, they're actually not stuck. But it's always a problem until it's too late.
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And we always get left behind. So what can we do for our leaders in our community to say,
I'm taking care of my fellow Black person say, hey, learn this thing or be aware how this works.
You know, we all have the iPhone, but are you actually using it for the full advantage or no?
A lot of people aren't. And so that was my concern of how do you make sure that people
can work? Because I'm not concerned about me. I'll learn this. But my brothers, my cousins,
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and this is the thing they're saying people in the art, if you're an artist, you're losing it,
because now we're generating it. So honestly, I'm more concerned about how do you make sure
that people can actually work versus, you know, get replaced and things like that.
I am so glad that I got both of you for this. Both of you were hitting on everything that I'm
going to talk about in this video. And just anyway, Joey, you was going to say something.
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I just had to say that is when he brought up art, which is interesting, because art is something
that is super subjective in a can a machine make art? And technically, a machine can make anything.
But is that still classified as art? That's the question.
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I mean, I look at the writer's strike, right? They're going to use people like this to say,
Hey, I got your image, and I can use your image for in perpetuity for us your life.
I don't need you as an actor anymore. That's crazy.
All these sites was like, Oh, give me your image. If you're like, stop using this,
even YouTube just came out with something right now, like you got label as AI generated content
on YouTube, or it wont be posted. And so art is objective, but I'm not going to pay $5,000 for
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something that someone didn't actually make. Like, if I ever, if that's the thing about art, because it's the
value placed on by the beholders, and we're all going online, it's like NFTs, right? NFTs had a
value. And now it was art, but now they were selling for $300,000. Now we're worthless.
And that's the the subject is the technology. So I just look at as art, it's subjective. At the same
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time, we're losing a form because now where's the actual soul behind it, I guess, you know, like,
it's like the record label, they have that one rapper that my friend was telling me on Sony.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Exactly. But it was a white generated saying the N word
but that's art. It's music, right? But at the same time, using it for bad, using it for bad.
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So Goertzel says that singularity could be in place by 2031, which really isn't far from now.
And here's my thing. We get all of these technological advancements, but they keep
getting made in the wrong direction. Like if this is going to help close with the digital divide,
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then I'm all for it. But it's probably going to be used for some iRobot nonsense. I mean,
here's a stat for you all. 98% of the internet is inaccessible to people with disabilities.
So how about they spend that money to truly close, just truly eliminate equity gaps? Like
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I just want to regedit and deltree WIN when on this AI shit sometimes, man, little Windows joke. But
now something I didn't know was that AI was driven by the military as a national defense tool.
And that's interesting because the development of the internet was funded by the Department of
Defense. It wasn't Al Gore or Beyoncé or whoever it is
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that you all say it's their internet.
Yeah, no, come on. I mean, the digital divide though is why a lot of people end up getting
scammed on social media. And Khai, Joey, I feel it coming. I feel it coming. And then, you know,
and then, you know, that the cuss bank is about to go up, it's about to explode. So here's my deal.
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Here's my deal. Here's my thing. People also get scammed because they'd rather watch and listen
to some popular bullshit garbage from some unlikable motherfucker than to actually get
educated by an expert. I mean, you got dumbasses out here paying thousands of dollars for seminars
and courses and scam brunches to quote unquote learn from some scam likely headasses some shit
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that they can learn online for free. I mean, like who raised you? Seriously. And the more I think
we're moving forward as a society, social media just lets me know that we're not. Like we've
regressed so much in the last six years that it's not even funny. And honestly, those solar flares
can't come soon enough. Blow up the atmosphere. It's like that. I remember back in the day that meme,
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like read a book, motherfucker, read a book, read a book. That whole like commercial that happened.
And it caught everyone off guard. But it's like, yo, who's actually reading? And it's tough because
like you want to save your fellow man, but I got to take care of myself. But I just worry that at
times we need something to talk about position and privilege and say, oh, you should do this in the
new era. But not everyone has the privilege to do that. And then sometimes put myself in those
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shoes and those people to say, I get why you got scammed or why you got the forex trading. I don't need
to know what Guangdong on dollar is on the dollar right now, but someone told you can make $200 right now.
You're going to do that because need that $200. That's why you have payday loans. I need that money
right now. I don't know the terms and conditions of everything. And it's tough because I want to
save at the same time. That's not that person’s situation. They need that. Like sometimes people
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need these things and it hurts them in the long run. Scammas gonna scam my boy. That's
that's just life. Because they were that was like, I've seen that on the news too. They were talking
about dudes are getting fem-botted out of money and stuff like that out of thousands and thousands
of dollars thinking that they're talking to the, of course, she's the most beautiful girl that you've
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ever seen. And she says that she loves you and can you send her something so that she can buy the
ticket to come fly out to wherever you're at and things like that. Like people, people want these
type of interactions like, like human to human interaction is what people are still need. And
that's part of life. And that's very important. But now that we have the technology, we can insert
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the technology into that person to person interaction. And they're doing it in a malicious
way actually, so that they can take advantage of people. Because these people, if they had those
interactions naturally in their lives, then they wouldn't have to seek it online. Or to, you know
what I mean? Like if you, if they have, if everybody had significant others, then there would be no
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online dating. So if there was like, if there was these, if there was these, basically, what am I
trying to say? If there are these resources out there for the people, then they wouldn't be getting
scammed. But since they aren't, this is an easy opportunity for somebody who has, who's being predatorial
and taking advantage of people. Despite how people act online, this isn't high school. This is real
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adult grown up life. We have notes and bills and responsibilities. Like we don't have time
for grifts and grabs. I mean, this is why I gave everyone some shopping tips at the top of the
show for the holidays. People are trying to stretch their funds and the average American
can't afford to throw some money at someone on social media asking for money. I mean,
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especially someone who lacks legitimate expertise in that field of human endeavor.
I mean, you wouldn't get dental work done by your barber. Well, wait now, some of yall would.
Yeah, someone will.
Some of yall would. I did a show at the top of the year with my Realtor friend Terry and on that
show, he told you all, don't be buying houses without a real estate agent. I'm going to take
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it even a step further and then I'm going to move along because we have more topics.
Stop giving these imps and simps, your hard earned money just because they're popular.
Stop sacrificing quality, safety and security. Remember The Simpsons had that Halloween episode
where the ads came to life and they were like, just don't look, just don't look, like the Simpsons be
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knowing man. And stop flocking to these narcissists on social media. Just stop. They're
going to leave you holding the bag. If a nigga talking fast and he can't put shit in black and
white, red motherfucking flag. Lie to get by, choose to confuse. But see, that's what you all
love. You don't want facts and experts. You want fast and easy. That's how you got gooped and gagged
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at that financial expo. You better stop giving those shifty, difty charlatans your money. They’ll end
your life. Be aware of conscious folks too. But you know, literacy plays a part in people getting
caught up in scams. People don't read, either they don't know how to, or they don't feel like it.
And for the latter, their ignorance leads to their detriment. Like I said earlier, don't invest in
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anyone or anything that doesn't give you interest. Oh, and to any of you frauds who choose to respond
to what I've said on here, be wise because my show comes up in my search results. Scammer comes up
in yours. Remember that. That article, by the way, was from Popular Mechanics. We reference all
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kinds of resources here at The Cris David Show. But I just hate seeing us get taken advantage of.
I hate it, especially by greedy motherfuckers who have more than enough. But anyway.
How do you feel GoFundMe’s?
End rant.
Here's the thing with GoFundMe. Because I've had people on who
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have GoFundMe’s and they're truly raising money for a cause, you know, like something unfortunate
happened in their lives, you know, it depends on where it's coming from. If you're coming from a
pure place, if you're coming from somewhere where, you know, like you had an event in your life,
something unfortunate happened and you truly need help. OK, fine. But I'm not doing a GoFundMe for
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you to buy your kid, you know, a PS5 because your kid doesn't need a PS5. I'm not doing a GoFundMe
for you for a Goyard bag. I'm not, you know, like I'll tell you guys a story. A friend of my sister
had ended up being she was in danger of being evicted. My brother-in-law says,
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why are yall donating to her GoFundMe? Tell her to sell some of those handbags she's got.
She's got over a thousand handbags. So, I mean, anyway, what did you two do for Thanksgiving?
Well, I'm here in Orlando, so I flew out. So I have family here in Florida and
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we every other year we we try to bring all of us because it's hard to get some of us are in New
York, Pennsylvania. It's hard to get us all together, bring the band back together. So
every other year we have Thanksgiving and we rent the rent, the party house, a nice big Airbnb with
five, five to seven rooms. Everybody has their own room. The kids get to jump in the pool and
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the kids get to jump in the pool and we all have a we have a set of it being cold. We have a nice
hot Florida Thanksgiving. Nice. Khai, what about you? Bar, food, sleep. Nice. And then, you know,
get up the next day and hang out with me. So for me, we went to my cousin's house. We Trini so
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we had a lot of curry everything. It was nice. You know, we played games, drank brown liquor,
had a good time. Shout out to my cousin, Michelle and her husband, Matt, and all my cousins,
Seasons Greetings! But more like Seasons Beatings. Yall thought that Timberwolves game was wild?
Wait till I tell you what went on at Walmart this morning. But anyway, we have another letter.
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We have another letter. You guys, you guys ready for this one? Let's get it. All right.
So this young lady named Anonymous, she's 22. And she's from Joey's neck of the woods, Long Island.
Okay. She says, I really don't know how to say this, but I've been dealing with this guy from my job
that I liked, really liked a lot. We've been on dates and he's met my friends and family.
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After we had sex, he turned on the lights unexpectedly and kept gazing at it. Oop! I asked him
what he saw or if something was wrong. He asked me if I had ever been in an accident or something.
I asked him what kind of accident and told him just get to the point. He said, how come I'm one
color and my girl is darker. I told him not everyone is the same color all over and that
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our nipples usually tell what color we are down there. He laughed and said, but you are light.
I just didn't expect it to be so ugly. Disrespectful! Like, full stop. Disrespectful!
So I cried for the first time ever after sex. I've never been so hurt by someone I cared about
before. Now everything is awkward because we haven't spoken since that day and we work together.
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What should I do? And I'm going to just say this, they don't pay me enough for this. So one of you
guys just go. Just take it away. I've never seen an ugly. I didn't know that a kitty could be ugly.
They're body parts. You know what I mean? That's like, I don't know. That's kind of crazy.
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Honestly, I had a conversation with my friends, because it's crazy how the world works. So
the rise of Twitch streamers and all these influencers and stuff is creating a new type
of insult, right? There's men don't know how to interact with women or even seen what a woman looks
like. Let's see I saw a clip online. One of Kai Cenat’s boys had a stream and he put a picture of a girl
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was thick. Cute. All that. People in the comments are like, oh, she's ugly. She's this. She's fat.
He goes, hold on, hold on, hold on. You know what a real woman looks like? You're just so used
Instagram models and all these different things and of porn. You don't actually know how to talk
Even the term rizz, right? I hate this term rizz because of that. Oh, you're rizz-ing her up.
You mean talk to a woman because I'm actually engaging. Say, Hey, I like you. You want to go
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out. Oh, he got the rizz. He's talking to people. The newer generation. How do you even spell that?
Is that R-I-Z-Z? Yes. Yeah. Rizz. Rizzy. I’m getting old. Yeah. And that's the thing. You're making a new
Black incels because they never had to interact with Black women in general. So when they see
someone in real time, it's not what they expect, right? It's not the Pornhub. It's not Instagram.
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It's not the DMs. It's none of the stuff I saw online. It's a real natural woman and they don’t know
how to react. So you're getting comments out of 22. Who is he following, right? Who is he listening
to to say, this is wrong about your body that she grew up with, right? Where is he coming from? So
I just look at it in the fact of there's obviously something wrong with this generation where no one knows what
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natural looks like anymore. I think it's also another thing about it is that when you're,
if you're going into a sexual encounter for the first time, you might like, if you have a bump
down, like let's say that you have a pimple by your crotch area, somebody might be like, oh,
that might be a disease. Like, no, it's just a pimple. But I've never seen your anatomy before.
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So I don't know what that is. That could be foreign to me or it could be normal. But that might be the
way that he, him saying its ugly. That's being disrespectful. He went straight for the, he went
straight for the touchdown with that. But I like, he might not have been used to it. Like some,
some kitties are, some kitties are like have big lips. Some don't. Some are, some are like nice and
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nice and like, look like plastic, you know, like they look like the pornos and some of them look
like, like whatever they look like, they all, they, you know what I mean? They are like a,
they're a flower. They look all different. So he might be used to ones that look naturally different,
but I mean, that's not to say ugly or not, but he went for it though. That's kind of,
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that's kind of very bold of him to go for it. I think we need to acknowledge the obvious though.
And this is what I want to know. So if you're watching, I want you to let me, write me back.
Is she dealing with a non-Black man? Because I'm not really seeing too many of us brothas
calling something that we've just been up in ugly just because it's dark.
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And then again, I'm from a different era. Like I didn't partake in that misogynoir on early Twitter,
but anyway, Anonymous, I'm sorry you had to deal with this. I think you need to move on.
Let him find someone who's monochromatic or thin or has light eyes or a phatty or whatever
physical attributes he deems pretty. And you're 22. As a much older man, I'm just going to tell you,
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I'm just going to tell you, you don't need to change yourself for anyone. If he doesn't love
you for who you are, he doesn't love you. And you know what you do too Anonymous, find someone who
can't stop looking at it because trust me, he's out there. And I just like, guys, I can't believe
that in 2023, 2024, people are still weaponizing things about people that they can't change.
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I mean, like this is why people cheat hard body. Like they're with someone who has something they
don't like. And instead of just breaking up, they go out and cheat with the person who has what they
think they like all the while. The issue was within themselves. Yall got to ignore those
narcissists, man. But anyway, Anonymous, write us back. Let us know if this guy you're messing
with is Black and for fuck's sake, stop dating people at work! Speaking of cheaters, speaking
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of cheaters, do you guys watch that show Cheaters? Uh, not since he got poked. Not since they stabbed him. With Peter Gunz?
This shit is hilarious. Oh, it is? I gotta watch it sometime. So listen, so listen, so listen. So the hosts, they instigate like crazy
and rest in peace to the guy, Clark Gable. But he put the battery in his one guy's back. He was like,
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he was like this IT guy. He had like these 300, these big Coke bottle glasses, like 300 times
magnification. So he had homie amped up. So he busts up in the crib. He pushes the guy whose girl
is cheating with, he pushes, pushes his head into the pissy toilet. And then there's another episode
that is, this is a Peter Gunz episode. And it's this, this Wale looking guy. And he got this guy
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so fired up that they almost come to blows. Like Peter's in the phone, like he's showing me the
tablet. He's showing him the video. He's like, he feeling all up on your girl and sliding her the D
and homie just loses it. But what really gets me though with cheaters is how they stay lying on the
phone. Like they don't even try because there's this one episode, and ole girl was on her knees
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on some Hookers at the Point type shit. And she's like, Oh, she's like, I'm at the supermarket with
my grandma. What the hell? But shout out the Dallas though, cause that's where a lot of the cheaters are.
Do you guys watch House Hunters though? Speaking of shows, do you guys watch House Hunters?
No. No, I can't afford it. I'm in Brooklyn.
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That's a good one. House Hunters is one of my favorites though. Like I like Lil’ Jon had a show too.
I can't remember the name of the show, but on the weekend on the OWN channel, they show like all the
episodes with like Black home buyers. And I think that's really dope. But here's the thing with what
I've noticed. People bring the wrong friends and family with them to see these houses. Like they
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end up projecting their insecurities onto them and onto their search. And another thing I noticed,
people like be so adamant about getting fixer uppers. Like there was this homeless couple and
they picked the fixer upper instead of picking the house that was just like move-in ready.
That was maybe like 10 grand more, but the fixer upper, they're going to have to put like 30 grand
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into. And I just don't think that first time home buyers should be fixing up a home, but you know,
they brought a Cribs back to MTV Cribs. I seen that. Yeah, I see. I mean, now listen, I'm gonna
say this Redman had the best episode in Cribs history. Khai you laughing because you remember Redman's episode.
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It was real. He did. But I just think, but this is my thing. I just think that
you bring him back Cribs now in this economy that we're living in is just a little tone deaf
because mortgage rates are like 7-8%. Like most people can't swing that or like, Khai, you
mentioned you went Brooklyn. You can't buy no house. I mean, most people can't do the down payment.
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It's just like MTV is just like grabbing for straws at this point anyway. I mean, Ridiculous is on like all day.
But is it, is it the new Cribs? Do they own the houses or are they not owning these houses? Or they do but they’re just staging them for the show.
That's the thing. That's the thing. That's the thing. I don't, I don't think that they,
knowing how celebrities operate, I don't think that they do actually own these homes.
I think that they may be just like rented or they may be Airbnb's that they're staying out of some
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shit. But anyway, MTV, I got a show idea for you. So holla at your boy, but
I'm going to tell you guys this, somebody DM’d me.
Doing this show has allowed me to gain just so many decent transformative relationships
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that I probably would have never had. Like, I met Joey at a comedy show because I did
this show and somebody invited me to it, whom I had had on my show. I met, Khai was probably
one of the first people to like follow me ever when I started my IG account. So I mean,
you know, I've lost relationships too. And honestly, they weren't that decent to begin
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with because I mean, head's think I'm just going to remain the same person I was in high
school and be stuck with them in their 15-year-old mentality. And listen, I'll keep this
short because you both know I'm with the shits and I can go all morning. But I no longer
invest in anyone who doesn't give me interest. You see some people who were here before aint
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here today. And like, I'm not going to beg anyone to pay attention to me, I’m not going out
of my way to call when they should be calling me. I'm not doing any of that transactional
shit. And the other thing is too, I'll tell both of you that well, everybody's going to
see this, but it's the three of us talking on here. A lot of people aren't safe. Like
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they'll lead you to believe that they're in your corner and they're helping you with the
eaves and the studs when the whole time they're trying to build their own house on your foundation
But see you know
I keep coming with deeper and more shit all the time. Wait a
minute. Look at that cuss bank. Okay. Wait, I guess I'm not going out tomorrow. Wait Cris I have a question
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for you because I think a conversation right goes back and forth. Alright, Khai okay. And then
we got to go into my cuss bank because the cuss bank is like going up higher and higher.
But go but go ahead. You know, you get the quick question the perspective you had of
if you're not there for me, I don't need you anymore. How did you
get to that enlightening point? Because some people feel that way, but they don't know how to express
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it. It really feels like I feel good but I still need them. Like how did you get to the point
of I gotta leave you behind?
Because a person you may not remember what someone did, but you remember how they made
you feel because I don't like to feel anxious. I don't like to be upset. I'm upbeat, happy
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guy genuinely. And when something takes me out of that, I don't like that feeling because
see now I'm triggered. Now I'm going back into, you know, elementary school or being
bullied or something. And I don't like that feeling.
I got a lot of slack for like that type of mentality, like because I compartmentalize
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people which is not like I'm a type of person like I had plenty of relationships work that
are very one sided. Like the reason why we're so friends today is because I'm the one that's
actively keeping this friendship alive.
I can't do that.
If you're okay with that, like I was okay with that. I'm okay with like, we're not like,
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I call them like my drinking buddies. I only drink with you and you are only my drinking
buddy. But if I say that then some people are like, yo, you're, you're an asshole. You
know what I mean? You're a jerk, bro. Like if they're, if you just just drink with them,
like why don't you like, if, if that's all they are to you, then what's the point of
that? Like, because that's my, that's what he's, that's the point. He's, he serves one
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purpose. This is my party friend. This is my academic friend. This is my smart friend.
This is my job friend. Totally. I get that. I keep them in these certain spaces because
that's where they're best utilized and that's where they best fit. But then people, people
look at me as you're more, you're, you're, you're using them for utility purposes. And
I'm like, no. But also if it's one sided, I can use them any way that I want to, because
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they're not actively engaging back the, like the, the friendship. I can understand if I'm
just drawing everything out of them and then not giving them anything back, it's actually
the opposite. I'm giving them everything and I'm, I'm reaching out when it's convenient
for me. And since they don't care whether I hit them up or not, then I feel like it's
a, it's a mutualistic relationship like that. But it can get really dicey when you do stuff
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like that, because it's like, are you guys really friends or you guys, are you just using
that person to, to fulfill some sort of, some sort of niche or need that you have?
I think it should go both ways though. Like, you know, I get, I totally get what you're
saying because I compartmentalize also. I think a lot of people should like try to do
that. That would help with a lot of just the drama we see on social media with friendships
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and family. But even if we are just drinking buddies, you need to be hitting me up talking
about, Hey, let's go have a drink too. It shouldn't be that
I'm doing all of the legwork in this relationship. That shit is exhausting. You know what I'm
saying? Even with, you know, like family, like it shouldn't be that I always got to
call you to see my nieces and nephews. You should be calling me to see your nieces and
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nephews. It shouldn't, it shouldn't be like that. Like it's just, it can be exhausting,
but I do agree with you, Joe. I think that it's good to compartmentalize. You have to
put people in different boxes in different spaces. Everybody is not meant to overlap.
They're just not. Like years ago, I used to have like five different Facebooks. I had
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a Facebook for people I knew from like elementary school and like growing up. I had a Facebook
with people from high school. I had a Facebook with people from college. I had a Facebook
that was kind of thotty and I had a Facebook, you know, with my frat brothers. I mean, I
just had different ones. I'm the same Cris, but I know these people from different junctures
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of life. But someone left a comment for me on YouTube and they said they liked my show,
but they told me I have a cussing mouth. So I said, so listen, I said, why don't I start
a digital swear jar, AKA a cuss bank. So right now on the screen, I have the price list up.
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So there's something called watershed and watershed is pretty much anything you can
get away with on TV after 10 PM. And the others are self-explanatory like combinations like
motherfucker, shit like that. Oh shit. See! The upside is the upside is I'm going to donate
the money to charity at the end of the season. So hopefully some of you are out there might
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want to match the donation. That would be really dope. These are only for me though.
You guys can talk how you want. I'm not paying for your sins. I was about to say, I was going
to start firing them off for you, I'm not paying for your sins. Nope. Nope. Not, not doing it, but, but moving on,
I usually don't do celebrity stuff on here because most of them are just like pretentious,
rude, insecure assholes. But this was out in LA. Shout out to LA. Lauryn showed up late
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and people complained. Oh, she's always late. Exactly. So, so she snapped on the audience.
She was like, you know, yall lucky I made it, but I'll save my comments for now. Joey,
you jump in, you take this and then Khai you go right after. Yeah. So like, so with
Lauryn Hill, like because she's, because she has such limited amount of work and not to
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discredit the quality of her work, you know what I mean? Like she, like we all enjoy her
music and things like that, but she's not, she's also an older artist. She's like, there's
a lot more that goes through that. So people have a different expectation of her. If Cardi
B comes an hour late versus Lauryn Hill coming an hour late, they're going to treat them
both different because of the level of celebrity they are. You know what I mean? Also celebrities
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are late. I've been to a Snoop Dogg show where he comes in an hour or two after he's supposed
to be there. Show starts at eight o'clock. His set starts at eight o'clock. He's not
there until 10 o'clock or something like that. Beyoncé was the same way they said. The show
starts at six o'clock. She doesn't really get on stage until like nine, 10 o'clock.
So what were you doing for the three hours? Just sitting there watching, watching production
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set up the show. That's basically what you do. You just wait for the show. And then once
the show is there, you enjoy the show. It's the greatest show ever. And then at the end
of it, you're like, okay, everything was worth the wait. So it's like, that's part of the
entertainment business. Being late is part of that. So I don't think it's anything outrageous.
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But also people want to, people are going to try to discredit her, her work just because
you don't, for you to be almost like you're wasting my time. You should be happy that
I'm coming to see you because you have such limited work. And also with the amount of
limited work you're now you're getting mad at me for you being late. And I should be
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grateful that you're even performing after I paid the ticket money to even come see you?
So there's a lot of things going on, but that's pretty much, I feel like that's what the sentiment
is for the people. Like you're, you're doing too much now. Like you're already like, you
only have five songs and I'm coming here and already paid the $50. Like the least you could
do is if you're not going to be on time, but don't be egregiously late. Cause then now I
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feel like now, now I feel disrespected.
I got a story about that but Khai, you go.
I mean, one thing you said was interesting Joey, it was like, it's a business, right?
And I think with any business in transaction, right? I pay for goods and services. I expect
those goods and services come back and if it doesn't happen, I want to refund. And I
think even with any other conveniences, I am, there's rules and clauses for things, right?
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If you don't show up or something happens, I get a refund. You know, when Beyoncé was going
pregnant, I was at Coachella that year, the year prior, I got my money to go back and
get to see her to be your following. I think sometimes you forget the fact of I'll be enabling
you to have this type of success because if I don't give you my streams, my views or whatever,
you're not going to have this. You're not going to be able to have a show. You keep
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making excuses. It's not just this one time. The fact that she's known for this is not
just a year or two, it's decades of this, right? And I think about it again, we say business,
that's her fault. The fact that she only had one body of music she can go off of, that
she has to do interpretation. She didn't know the deal. She didn't do the interpretation.
So now she has to do all these different things for the same album, make new music. And that's
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what you want to do. But she don't want to be about the business. They don't be mad about
the way the business goes down. We know music is, I won't say shady, but there's certain
things about how you go about it. 360 deals, everything else. But those that have success,
they have success for a reason because of the business model. If not, then there's a
reason behind it, right? Beyoncé, yeah, she might be late, but you know, you're going to get two
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hours, you know, the set, you know, you gotta go pause or whatever. You know what you're
getting. You're getting a show stopper. Lauryn Hill, is she in the mood? Beyoncé might be sick,
but she's going to give you the best show. So I just look at it as if we're doing business,
you gotta give me my expectation back in business. There's no excuses. Really worst case,
cancel and see what happens the next time and we'll go from there.
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Yeah, it's just the fact of. Khai is the finance guy. So anything Khai says is going to go back
to money. So as Khai is talking, all I keep hearing in my head is if somebody doesn't show up to the
show, dispute, dispute, dispute! Get on the phone with your credit card company and dispute that shit. Or just buy everything in gift cards.
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But here's my thing. Here's my thing. So with age comes compassion. So the me of 25
would have probably been like, fuck her, she only got one and a half albums, she ain't no Beyoncé.
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But the me of today understands that Lauryn could be going through something.
And if I'm going to go to one of her shows, I need to bring snacks. I need some Uno cards,
maybe a folding chair and a puzzle or something to keep myself occupied while I wait. But I mean,
I also know how to separate the artists from the art because she has exhibited some bratty,
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ungrateful behavior to her fans. But so has R. Kelly. And years ago, I went to that Best of
Both Worlds show back in the day at the Garden when he showed up like six hours late because he was
up at Ruckers playing basketball and eating at Sylvia's and shit. But I was there for the music.
And granted, he's done some fucked up shit that landed him in prison, but his artistry is
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undeniable. Now he wouldn't get my money today. But you know, anyway, Khai, what's in your Shazam?
I find myself at a crux in my life right now where being a millennial listens to the old school is
what makes me feel good. But the old school nowadays, if you go to 94.7 in Jersey, New York
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City, is Nelly and all the other stuff, the 2000s. And that's old school nowadays. It's weird. It's
like, oh shit, what happened to this remix? But at the same time, being in New York, being on the
block, if I'm hanging out and doing community service with some of the young boys, what are
they listening to? Where's that connection point? So one thing is really understanding of this crux
of drill. And for me, I grew up on Chicago drill. Chief Keef, Lil’ Durk, we're talking Lil’ Reese,
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all that stuff was drill. Now there's new stuff. You can't keep remixing Ray J's One Wish and I'm
like, wait, when it's gonna drop? It's something else. So it's always going on the radio. I'm
getting ready to be like, yeah. And I'm like, wait, what? Who's this? Groovy B and a little whatever.
I'm like, I don't even know. But it's honestly just trying to see what's the new scene of New
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York. But the thing is, in trying to be hip. I'm also learning, I gotta say my lane. I'm getting
more and more of my go out. Unless it's who I listen to. Honestly, it's all the new stuff.
Where any song is less than two and a half minutes, I question it.
But you know, that's social media's fault. That social media's fault. That's these fucking record
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executives that are trying to tie everything into TikTok. They don't have the attention spans anymore.
But you know, you mentioned something and then Joey, I'm going to go to you with this,
but you mentioned something about The Block 94.7. Shout out to The Block playing stuff like Nelly,
stuff that we remember because we're all around the same age. And my mother listens to a station
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down in Philly and it's called Classix. It's 107.9, I want to say. And it's so funny when
I go visit her and I hear Crush on You. And I'm like, when I used to play this,
you hated this. But now this is your station. So they're playing all the songs that I grew up on.
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And they're not playing the stuff that you grew up on because it's way, way back in the day.
You've got to get a Sirius subscription for that. But now you don't have any other choice.
But Joey, what's in your Shazam?
So my Shazam, I'm more of a music astronaut. I like to like, if I'm like, I might be at a Korean
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hotpot and then I might just Shazam something in the background. I know there was an American
Eagle, I was at American Eagle, American Eagle or Express, they always got a banger in the
background somewhere. So I'll just Shazam something like that. So I don't know exact songs.
There's nothing that is coming straight to my brain as like, oh, you got to hear this. But
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definitely, if something catches my ear just in passing, that's what I'll Shazam because I won't
know what that is right off the top of my head. And then if once I Shazam it, then I'll put that
into my Spotify and add that to my like list and playlist like that.
So about 500 of my like 1800 Shazams, because I'm just looking through them, like about 500 of them
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are smooth jazz. And yo, I love smooth jazz. Like when I'm in a car, I put on the Watercolors channel
and it makes me feel like really classy, you know, like driving around with the smooth jazz.
That new André 3000 album.
Listen, the André, André has like outdone himself with this album. It came out last week. So listen,
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listen, guys, it's only like 10 tracks. But the tracks are like 20 minutes a piece. Like it's a
freaking like he's playing instruments. There's very little rapping on there. But it's like,
it's an experience. Like it is it is an immersive experience.
André 3000 had an interview talking about how he's 48. And he's like, as you get older, you cant
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rap like you were like how you used to when you were younger, like, not saying that he gave up
on Rap, but meaning that he, he doesn't still have that same, like, not saying relevancy, but it's
he's like, I don't like, he's not young anymore. He's a 48, almost 50 year old man. So the things
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that he's rapping about are not going to be the same thing. Like he's not, he's not in the club
popping bottles and doing all these other types of things like you used to him. He's like,
what he said was kind of funny. He was like, what am I supposed to rap about? Like I have to go get
a colonoscopy or something like that. And I thought that was kind of crazy because that's, yeah,
we're older now. If you got the, what do you, a 50 year old rapper, what is he rapping about?
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Well, there's some 50 year old rappers rapping about the young boy shit, but they have ghost
writers and it's obvious. We're not going to say who, just saying. Rap’s is the only genre,
where you can't get old. You have Rock & Roll artists, U2 is still making albums, right? And
they're, people still love it. Rap, you're 48. It's like, I mean, you're pushing it. You know,
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what the fact look at it Nas has a reemergence, right? Nas is a monster though
Nas and he talks about being, he doesn't, he was never, he's more lyrically like better than other
people that he doesn't have to talk about. He could talk about all the things that he's doing,
business ventures and things like that. He don't have to talk about bitches and hoes.
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Yes. E-40’s still doing the same thing and having fun on the West coast.
But now that's a totally different type of rap. Like that's some, like that's that Hyphy. That's
that Dance Rap. Like he could do that forever. Yeah. There are acts with literally one foot in the grave.
And people listen, people refinance their houses. Just to get tickets. Billy Joel. I don’t know how he does it.
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My mom took me to go see Philly Collins, like a year ago. Like I was, I see Phil Collins and he
sat the whole time. He's that old, but I still enjoyed it. Phil Collins and Genesis. Exactly. He's dope. He's
dope. But, but I'm sure that that place was crowded, Joe. It was crowded.
It was standing room only. It was crazy. See what I mean? But then our acts, like our R&B acts,
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some of our Funk and Soul acts, they can barely sell tickets because people are like, oh, they're
old. Why you want to go see them? Like, but this is our music. These are our people who shaped and
formed our musical culture and you're not supporting them. Do you guys have any favorite Christmas
songs? Khai, I'm going to go to you first. You know what? I think we talk about music and variability.
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I've been sitting with every artist that has a Christmas album. The ones that come to mind are
TLC's Christmas album. Real talk, bangers, NSYNC’s Christmas album. They had some bops on that.
You know, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays. Like let's go off JC. But truth be told, NSYNC, TLC,
Mariah Carey, pretty much everyone had a Christmas album. I think Whitney had one too. Like it's a
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thing. Even Bryson Tiller has a Christmas album. Like that's how it's actually fire though. I’d give it a listen. We need
The O’Jays. We need the Silent Night. So that's why I get excited for the our versions of Christmas. Nice.
Go ahead, Joey. I like controversial Christmas songs. Like the Baby It’s Cold Outside. Like
I like that song. I always thought it was a funny song. I just found out it was controversial last
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year. I didn't know it got rapey. And then you read the lyrics and I'm like, yeah, but this is
like, and you got to remember this is like 1960, I think. 60s, 70s or something when that song came
out. Probably before then. That was definitely, yeah, it could be even older. I just know that
in 2023, everything got a little rapier. So I don't know. But that, yeah, Baby It’s Cold Outside
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still good. Still takes the cake as one of my favorites, for sure. Baby It's Cold Outside was
written in 1944. Exactly. And popularized in the 1949 film Neptune's Daughter. So 1944, that's like
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79 years ago. So you got to think of how things were back then. I mean, people were getting married
in their teens. Yes, for sure. And no one bat an eyelash. But for me, but for me, one of my all time
favorites is This Christmas, Donny Hathaway. And I used to play the 45 single over and over and over
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as a kid on my mom's record player. And shout out to my mom, she's watching. And a lot of people
depending on where they grew up, hearing it on the radio, don't know about the refrain in that record.
And I can tell where folks grew up by how they see it. Like if you, so Joey, you grew up in New York,
you grew up probably listening to ‘BLS and Kiss. They played it on ‘BLS and Kiss. But Khai where you grew
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up, they didn't necessarily play that full version on the radio. Also, Deniece Williams,
Do You Hear What I Hear? I have that on repeat when I'm in the gym this time of the year,
because it's very boppy. What else? Luther, My Favorite Things, Best of My Love, by The Emotions,
even though Best of My Love isn't a Christmas record, it just puts me in the spirit. I mean,
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Madison Avenue pretty much made it a Christmas record, and it's in C major. If you're a music
person, you know that C major is one of the Christmas song keys. And something else, this is
going to sound crazy, but like, you know, I just, I go down a rabbit hole musically. Soon As I Get
Home by Faith Evans, always sounded like a Christmas song to me. And that's in A flat minor.
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It's a kind of a sad key, but they're all good records. And the Luther record, I play it all year
round, fight me you lil’ bitch. Because I play that year round. Let me get your thoughts on this. So there's at
least one expert who believes that the singularity, the moment when AI, artificial intelligence,
surpasses the control of humans, could be just a few years away. That's a lot shorter than current
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predictions regarding the timeline of AI dominance, especially considering that AI dominance is not
exactly guaranteed in the first place. Ben Goertzel, CEO of Singularity Net, who holds a PhD
from Temple University and has worked as a leader of Humanity Plus and the artificial intelligence,
I'm sorry, Artificial General Intelligence Society, told Decrypt that he believes AI general
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intelligence or AGI is three to eight years away. AGI is the term for AI that can truly perform
tasks just as well as humans. And it's a prerequisite for the singularity soon following.
Joey, you're the science guy. I want you to take this. So AI is like the gift and the curse.
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It's that Pandora's box. It's like modern medicine. It's like anything like that can be
used for good or used for bad. In and of itself, it's not a bad thing. My friends are using Chat
GPT to rewrite emails or to formulate whatever they need to. I used it for the show.
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Yeah. Also you have it where there was a scientist, he uses the AI to make different molecules that
will be used to make medicines. But he was also thinking, he did a little experiment just for a
day and it spooked him so bad that he actually canceled it. He said, well, if I can make the AI,
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give me a list of good drugs, let's say. What if I change the algorithm to instead of it being the
one, let's make it zero. So it gives me the opposite. He said the things that were least
toxic, what are the least toxic materials? And then he turned the AI to show me the combination
of the most toxic material. And then when the AI started spitting out real things that he could
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make or things like that, it kind of scared him. He was like, what if other people were doing this?
We can have an outbreak or those rogue agent type of things. That can be a really real thing.
Seeing how fast these things can go, it only takes one little mistake. Like, oh, I didn't mean for it
to go like that. I set the autonomous robot free into the world and now we can't find him anymore
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because he's blended in with everybody. So now we're in a different type of situation. So
it can be very real and everything like that. So I don't really know.
I would have to look at it from two perspectives. One,
responsible AI, just like facial recognition software, you have to have the responsibility
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of the companies to say, does the good outweigh the bad? What are the parameters of the logistics of
the standards of going of practices? What are the regulations? What can we do? What can we not do
with this? Because at the sake of profits, are we releasing something that's uncensored? What about
aunties that don't know how to work it in their job because they're at the lower skill wages?
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How do you make an inclusive future of work that everyone can participate, make the money to do
things? We can upskill, we can learn a new skill, but cousin who just got out, he's not really going
to learn how to be this. He has certain limitations. So if AI is being used to replace those lower wage
jobs, what are they supposed to do? And not everyone can work at Amazon. So in the work I did
and that got published and I research for, those understand how do you make sure that the work is something
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that people can participate in the future? Because look at the pandemic, someone might be a cashier
and you're thinking, oh, I'm losing hours in the store. No, we're getting more self-checkouts,
which is more technology in the workplace. It's not because you're losing hours, because
you're getting replaced. But now what do you do next? You don't have the skills, you don't
know how to upskill, you don't know how to work ChatGPT, you don't know the prompts. So how do you
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assure that companies and everyone's responsible, your local governments to say, I'm going to make
sure that people can upskill for the future. So that way you're not having as many benefits and
welfare on me. You're actually continuing back with their taxes. So this is actually the biggest
thing that people need to worry about is the fact that people are losing jobs if you can't upskill.
And what does upskill look like right now? Is no one learning Python and this? How do you
need to be, what's a prompt engineer? That's a new role that came out in the past 24 months.
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People really need to learn about how do I participate because, oh, I don't need that.
You ask people, right, uncles in their 50s or aunts, their 55, they're close to retirement.
If AI is going to replace your job, what are they supposed to do? Be a Walmart greeter?
They're not, they can't retire yet, they don't have the money. They need to be able to do that.
But they’re not going to learn a whole new technology at their age? So what are we doing with this?
The fact that it's not just what it can do for the future terminators, more so how can someone make
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a nine to five off of this knowing that they're going to get replaced? And no one's thinking
about that within five years. They're going to be like, yeah, yeah, replace my computer. I don't
know what to do now. And no one's thinking about that. But we were able to upscale, but how do we
make sure the rest of our community can do the same? And no one's thinking about that. Because
not just, no one wants to be a coder. No one wants to code. I need to be able to make it mean
for me and my two kids. But I don't know how to because no one taught me about these different
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technologies because I was not part of the inclusive future of that work. So honestly,
it's more so how do we work with colleges, we work force programs to say, hey, these are the jobs and
skills you need to train people so that way in two or three years, they can get somewhere. They're
not just a cashier, they're actually not stuck. But it's always a problem until it's too late.
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And we always get left behind. So what can we do for our leaders in our community to say,
I'm taking care of my fellow Black person say, hey, learn this thing or be aware how this works.
You know, we all have the iPhone, but are you actually using it for the full advantage or no?
A lot of people aren't. And so that was my concern of how do you make sure that people
can work? Because I'm not concerned about me. I'll learn this. But my brothers, my cousins,
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and this is the thing they're saying people in the art, if you're an artist, you're losing it,
because now we're generating it. So honestly, I'm more concerned about how do you make sure
that people can actually work versus, you know, get replaced and things like that.
I am so glad that I got both of you for this. Both of you were hitting on everything that I'm
going to talk about in this video. And just anyway, Joey, you was going to say something.
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I just had to say that is when he brought up art, which is interesting, because art is something
that is super subjective in a can a machine make art? And technically, a machine can make anything.
But is that still classified as art? That's the question.
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I mean, I look at the writer's strike, right? They're going to use people like this to say,
Hey, I got your image, and I can use your image for in perpetuity for us your life.
I don't need you as an actor anymore. That's crazy.
All these sites was like, Oh, give me your image. If you're like, stop using this,
even YouTube just came out with something right now, like you got label as AI generated content
on YouTube, or it wont be posted. And so art is objective, but I'm not going to pay $5,000 for
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something that someone didn't actually make. Like, if I ever, if that's the thing about art, because it's the
value placed on by the beholders, and we're all going online, it's like NFTs, right? NFTs had a
value. And now it was art, but now they were selling for $300,000. Now we're worthless.
And that's the the subject is the technology. So I just look at as art, it's subjective. At the same
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time, we're losing a form because now where's the actual soul behind it, I guess, you know, like,
it's like the record label, they have that one rapper that my friend was telling me on Sony.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Exactly. But it was a white generated saying the N word
but that's art. It's music, right? But at the same time, using it for bad, using it for bad.
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So Goertzel says that singularity could be in place by 2031, which really isn't far from now.
And here's my thing. We get all of these technological advancements, but they keep
getting made in the wrong direction. Like if this is going to help close with the digital divide,
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then I'm all for it. But it's probably going to be used for some iRobot nonsense. I mean,
here's a stat for you all. 98% of the internet is inaccessible to people with disabilities.
So how about they spend that money to truly close, just truly eliminate equity gaps? Like
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I just want to regedit and deltree WIN when on this AI shit sometimes, man, little Windows joke. But
now something I didn't know was that AI was driven by the military as a national defense tool.
And that's interesting because the development of the internet was funded by the Department of
Defense. It wasn't Al Gore or Beyoncé or whoever it is
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that you all say it's their internet.
Yeah, no, come on. I mean, the digital divide though is why a lot of people end up getting
scammed on social media. And Khai, Joey, I feel it coming. I feel it coming. And then, you know,
and then, you know, that the cuss bank is about to go up, it's about to explode. So here's my deal.
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Here's my deal. Here's my thing. People also get scammed because they'd rather watch and listen
to some popular bullshit garbage from some unlikable motherfucker than to actually get
educated by an expert. I mean, you got dumbasses out here paying thousands of dollars for seminars
and courses and scam brunches to quote unquote learn from some scam likely headasses some shit
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that they can learn online for free. I mean, like who raised you? Seriously. And the more I think
we're moving forward as a society, social media just lets me know that we're not. Like we've
regressed so much in the last six years that it's not even funny. And honestly, those solar flares
can't come soon enough. Blow up the atmosphere. It's like that. I remember back in the day that meme,
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like read a book, motherfucker, read a book, read a book. That whole like commercial that happened.
And it caught everyone off guard. But it's like, yo, who's actually reading? And it's tough because
like you want to save your fellow man, but I got to take care of myself. But I just worry that at
times we need something to talk about position and privilege and say, oh, you should do this in the
new era. But not everyone has the privilege to do that. And then sometimes put myself in those
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shoes and those people to say, I get why you got scammed or why you got the forex trading. I don't need
to know what Guangdong on dollar is on the dollar right now, but someone told you can make $200 right now.
You're going to do that because need that $200. That's why you have payday loans. I need that money
right now. I don't know the terms and conditions of everything. And it's tough because I want to
save at the same time. That's not that person’s situation. They need that. Like sometimes people
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need these things and it hurts them in the long run. Scammas gonna scam my boy. That's
that's just life. Because they were that was like, I've seen that on the news too. They were talking
about dudes are getting fem-botted out of money and stuff like that out of thousands and thousands
of dollars thinking that they're talking to the, of course, she's the most beautiful girl that you've
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ever seen. And she says that she loves you and can you send her something so that she can buy the
ticket to come fly out to wherever you're at and things like that. Like people, people want these
type of interactions like, like human to human interaction is what people are still need. And
that's part of life. And that's very important. But now that we have the technology, we can insert
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the technology into that person to person interaction. And they're doing it in a malicious
way actually, so that they can take advantage of people. Because these people, if they had those
interactions naturally in their lives, then they wouldn't have to seek it online. Or to, you know
what I mean? Like if you, if they have, if everybody had significant others, then there would be no
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online dating. So if there was like, if there was these, if there was these, basically, what am I
trying to say? If there are these resources out there for the people, then they wouldn't be getting
scammed. But since they aren't, this is an easy opportunity for somebody who has, who's being predatorial
and taking advantage of people. Despite how people act online, this isn't high school. This is real
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adult grown up life. We have notes and bills and responsibilities. Like we don't have time
for grifts and grabs. I mean, this is why I gave everyone some shopping tips at the top of the
show for the holidays. People are trying to stretch their funds and the average American
can't afford to throw some money at someone on social media asking for money. I mean,
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especially someone who lacks legitimate expertise in that field of human endeavor.
I mean, you wouldn't get dental work done by your barber. Well, wait now, some of yall would.
Yeah, someone will.
Some of yall would. I did a show at the top of the year with my Realtor friend Terry and on that
show, he told you all, don't be buying houses without a real estate agent. I'm going to take
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it even a step further and then I'm going to move along because we have more topics.
Stop giving these imps and simps, your hard earned money just because they're popular.
Stop sacrificing quality, safety and security. Remember The Simpsons had that Halloween episode
where the ads came to life and they were like, just don't look, just don't look, like the Simpsons be
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knowing man. And stop flocking to these narcissists on social media. Just stop. They're
going to leave you holding the bag. If a nigga talking fast and he can't put shit in black and
white, red motherfucking flag. Lie to get by, choose to confuse. But see, that's what you all
love. You don't want facts and experts. You want fast and easy. That's how you got gooped and gagged
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at that financial expo. You better stop giving those shifty, difty charlatans your money. They’ll end
your life. Be aware of conscious folks too. But you know, literacy plays a part in people getting
caught up in scams. People don't read, either they don't know how to, or they don't feel like it.
And for the latter, their ignorance leads to their detriment. Like I said earlier, don't invest in
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anyone or anything that doesn't give you interest. Oh, and to any of you frauds who choose to respond
to what I've said on here, be wise because my show comes up in my search results. Scammer comes up
in yours. Remember that. That article, by the way, was from Popular Mechanics. We reference all
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kinds of resources here at The Cris David Show. But I just hate seeing us get taken advantage of.
I hate it, especially by greedy motherfuckers who have more than enough. But anyway.
How do you feel GoFundMe’s?
End rant.
Here's the thing with GoFundMe. Because I've had people on who
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have GoFundMe’s and they're truly raising money for a cause, you know, like something unfortunate
happened in their lives, you know, it depends on where it's coming from. If you're coming from a
pure place, if you're coming from somewhere where, you know, like you had an event in your life,
something unfortunate happened and you truly need help. OK, fine. But I'm not doing a GoFundMe for
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you to buy your kid, you know, a PS5 because your kid doesn't need a PS5. I'm not doing a GoFundMe
for you for a Goyard bag. I'm not, you know, like I'll tell you guys a story. A friend of my sister
had ended up being she was in danger of being evicted. My brother-in-law says,
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why are yall donating to her GoFundMe? Tell her to sell some of those handbags she's got.
She's got over a thousand handbags. So, I mean, anyway, what did you two do for Thanksgiving?
Well, I'm here in Orlando, so I flew out. So I have family here in Florida and
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we every other year we we try to bring all of us because it's hard to get some of us are in New
York, Pennsylvania. It's hard to get us all together, bring the band back together. So
every other year we have Thanksgiving and we rent the rent, the party house, a nice big Airbnb with
five, five to seven rooms. Everybody has their own room. The kids get to jump in the pool and
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the kids get to jump in the pool and we all have a we have a set of it being cold. We have a nice
hot Florida Thanksgiving. Nice. Khai, what about you? Bar, food, sleep. Nice. And then, you know,
get up the next day and hang out with me. So for me, we went to my cousin's house. We Trini so
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we had a lot of curry everything. It was nice. You know, we played games, drank brown liquor,
had a good time. Shout out to my cousin, Michelle and her husband, Matt, and all my cousins,
Seasons Greetings! But more like Seasons Beatings. Yall thought that Timberwolves game was wild?
Wait till I tell you what went on at Walmart this morning. But anyway, we have another letter.
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We have another letter. You guys, you guys ready for this one? Let's get it. All right.
So this young lady named Anonymous, she's 22. And she's from Joey's neck of the woods, Long Island.
Okay. She says, I really don't know how to say this, but I've been dealing with this guy from my job
that I liked, really liked a lot. We've been on dates and he's met my friends and family.
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After we had sex, he turned on the lights unexpectedly and kept gazing at it. Oop! I asked him
what he saw or if something was wrong. He asked me if I had ever been in an accident or something.
I asked him what kind of accident and told him just get to the point. He said, how come I'm one
color and my girl is darker. I told him not everyone is the same color all over and that
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our nipples usually tell what color we are down there. He laughed and said, but you are light.
I just didn't expect it to be so ugly. Disrespectful! Like, full stop. Disrespectful!
So I cried for the first time ever after sex. I've never been so hurt by someone I cared about
before. Now everything is awkward because we haven't spoken since that day and we work together.
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What should I do? And I'm going to just say this, they don't pay me enough for this. So one of you
guys just go. Just take it away. I've never seen an ugly. I didn't know that a kitty could be ugly.
They're body parts. You know what I mean? That's like, I don't know. That's kind of crazy.
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Honestly, I had a conversation with my friends, because it's crazy how the world works. So
the rise of Twitch streamers and all these influencers and stuff is creating a new type
of insult, right? There's men don't know how to interact with women or even seen what a woman looks
like. Let's see I saw a clip online. One of Kai Cenat’s boys had a stream and he put a picture of a girl
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was thick. Cute. All that. People in the comments are like, oh, she's ugly. She's this. She's fat.
He goes, hold on, hold on, hold on. You know what a real woman looks like? You're just so used
Instagram models and all these different things and of porn. You don't actually know how to talk
Even the term rizz, right? I hate this term rizz because of that. Oh, you're rizz-ing her up.
You mean talk to a woman because I'm actually engaging. Say, Hey, I like you. You want to go
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out. Oh, he got the rizz. He's talking to people. The newer generation. How do you even spell that?
Is that R-I-Z-Z? Yes. Yeah. Rizz. Rizzy. I’m getting old. Yeah. And that's the thing. You're making a new
Black incels because they never had to interact with Black women in general. So when they see
someone in real time, it's not what they expect, right? It's not the Pornhub. It's not Instagram.
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It's not the DMs. It's none of the stuff I saw online. It's a real natural woman and they don’t know
how to react. So you're getting comments out of 22. Who is he following, right? Who is he listening
to to say, this is wrong about your body that she grew up with, right? Where is he coming from? So
I just look at it in the fact of there's obviously something wrong with this generation where no one knows what
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natural looks like anymore. I think it's also another thing about it is that when you're,
if you're going into a sexual encounter for the first time, you might like, if you have a bump
down, like let's say that you have a pimple by your crotch area, somebody might be like, oh,
that might be a disease. Like, no, it's just a pimple. But I've never seen your anatomy before.
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So I don't know what that is. That could be foreign to me or it could be normal. But that might be the
way that he, him saying its ugly. That's being disrespectful. He went straight for the, he went
straight for the touchdown with that. But I like, he might not have been used to it. Like some,
some kitties are, some kitties are like have big lips. Some don't. Some are, some are like nice and
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nice and like, look like plastic, you know, like they look like the pornos and some of them look
like, like whatever they look like, they all, they, you know what I mean? They are like a,
they're a flower. They look all different. So he might be used to ones that look naturally different,
but I mean, that's not to say ugly or not, but he went for it though. That's kind of,
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that's kind of very bold of him to go for it. I think we need to acknowledge the obvious though.
And this is what I want to know. So if you're watching, I want you to let me, write me back.
Is she dealing with a non-Black man? Because I'm not really seeing too many of us brothas
calling something that we've just been up in ugly just because it's dark.
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And then again, I'm from a different era. Like I didn't partake in that misogynoir on early Twitter,
but anyway, Anonymous, I'm sorry you had to deal with this. I think you need to move on.
Let him find someone who's monochromatic or thin or has light eyes or a phatty or whatever
physical attributes he deems pretty. And you're 22. As a much older man, I'm just going to tell you,
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I'm just going to tell you, you don't need to change yourself for anyone. If he doesn't love
you for who you are, he doesn't love you. And you know what you do too Anonymous, find someone who
can't stop looking at it because trust me, he's out there. And I just like, guys, I can't believe
that in 2023, 2024, people are still weaponizing things about people that they can't change.
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I mean, like this is why people cheat hard body. Like they're with someone who has something they
don't like. And instead of just breaking up, they go out and cheat with the person who has what they
think they like all the while. The issue was within themselves. Yall got to ignore those
narcissists, man. But anyway, Anonymous, write us back. Let us know if this guy you're messing
with is Black and for fuck's sake, stop dating people at work! Speaking of cheaters, speaking
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of cheaters, do you guys watch that show Cheaters? Uh, not since he got poked. Not since they stabbed him. With Peter Gunz?
This shit is hilarious. Oh, it is? I gotta watch it sometime. So listen, so listen, so listen. So the hosts, they instigate like crazy
and rest in peace to the guy, Clark Gable. But he put the battery in his one guy's back. He was like,
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he was like this IT guy. He had like these 300, these big Coke bottle glasses, like 300 times
magnification. So he had homie amped up. So he busts up in the crib. He pushes the guy whose girl
is cheating with, he pushes, pushes his head into the pissy toilet. And then there's another episode
that is, this is a Peter Gunz episode. And it's this, this Wale looking guy. And he got this guy
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so fired up that they almost come to blows. Like Peter's in the phone, like he's showing me the
tablet. He's showing him the video. He's like, he feeling all up on your girl and sliding her the D
and homie just loses it. But what really gets me though with cheaters is how they stay lying on the
phone. Like they don't even try because there's this one episode, and ole girl was on her knees
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on some Hookers at the Point type shit. And she's like, Oh, she's like, I'm at the supermarket with
my grandma. What the hell? But shout out the Dallas though, cause that's where a lot of the cheaters are.
Do you guys watch House Hunters though? Speaking of shows, do you guys watch House Hunters?
No. No, I can't afford it. I'm in Brooklyn.
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That's a good one. House Hunters is one of my favorites though. Like I like Lil’ Jon had a show too.
I can't remember the name of the show, but on the weekend on the OWN channel, they show like all the
episodes with like Black home buyers. And I think that's really dope. But here's the thing with what
I've noticed. People bring the wrong friends and family with them to see these houses. Like they
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end up projecting their insecurities onto them and onto their search. And another thing I noticed,
people like be so adamant about getting fixer uppers. Like there was this homeless couple and
they picked the fixer upper instead of picking the house that was just like move-in ready.
That was maybe like 10 grand more, but the fixer upper, they're going to have to put like 30 grand
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into. And I just don't think that first time home buyers should be fixing up a home, but you know,
they brought a Cribs back to MTV Cribs. I seen that. Yeah, I see. I mean, now listen, I'm gonna
say this Redman had the best episode in Cribs history. Khai you laughing because you remember Redman's episode.
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It was real. He did. But I just think, but this is my thing. I just think that
you bring him back Cribs now in this economy that we're living in is just a little tone deaf
because mortgage rates are like 7-8%. Like most people can't swing that or like, Khai, you
mentioned you went Brooklyn. You can't buy no house. I mean, most people can't do the down payment.
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It's just like MTV is just like grabbing for straws at this point anyway. I mean, Ridiculous is on like all day.
But is it, is it the new Cribs? Do they own the houses or are they not owning these houses? Or they do but they’re just staging them for the show.
That's the thing. That's the thing. That's the thing. I don't, I don't think that they,
knowing how celebrities operate, I don't think that they do actually own these homes.
I think that they may be just like rented or they may be Airbnb's that they're staying out of some
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shit. But anyway, MTV, I got a show idea for you. So holla at your boy, but
I'm going to tell you guys this, somebody DM’d me.
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