June 21, 2024 • 39 mins
The Cris David Show welcomes back our most requested guest, Clinical Certified Sexuality Coach, Toni Drumwright-Antoine!
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It really is.
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Because someone else, I got another letter and I can't wait to see you rip this apart because
I know you're going to really, you're going to really beat them good.
I got another last week in my email, this girl said she, her man's doing porn in the
living room.
What? Listen.
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This is where you put that sound bite.
Exactly.
Yes.
I tell you, the hits keep coming.
The hits keep coming at The Cris David Show.
Oh my gosh.
Wow. In the living room.
Yeah, I can't wait to see that one.
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Listen, summer reading.
We're going to call it the summer reading.
But thanks Rose and best of luck to you.
Ok.
So this next one, Ok.
So this next one was also featured on the Men's Panel and it comes from Fiona.
Fiona's 26 and she's from Charleston, South Carolina.
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Fiona writes, how come every guy I get with watches porn, I don't want to be with a man
who watches porn.
It's so unhealthy.
And Toni, she has a vomit emoji in this email.
And also she spelled porn P R O N and I just could not bring myself to leave it like that.
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She's 26.
Oh Fiona.
So, I mean, you know why?
Like, because this didn't give like a lot of things.
I'm really curious to like get into Fiona's head and you know, just have a dialogue about
this because what makes it unhealthy?
You know, I'm wondering, does it affect his day to day habits?
Have you had a conversation about it?
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Because it could be something where he doesn't even know how you feel.
But I would definitely talk to him before making judgments because maybe he just enjoys
it and for no other reason at all.
But just find out why.
And then you could also probably meet in the middle.
So if he has like an unhealthy amount of times that he watches it during the day, maybe he
can minimize that.
But also maybe you can just, you know, have a conversation and watch it with him and
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you can have a couple time or it can be, you know, part of foreplay.
But it's just not one of those blanket things where I hate it.
It's unhealthy.
And then you have that right.
To go on and have him not watch it anymore.
So this definitely warrants a conversation and not saying that you're close minded, but
just basically based on the sentence or the statement that you just made, just kind of
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opening up your mind to understand why it is that he's watching it, what he's getting
out of it and what you can get out of it if you started to watch it.
So not sure if you've ever seen porn before, but there's so many different types.
But maybe you can like maybe watch something with him.
And like I said, that could be part of foreplay.
But yeah, what do you think, Cris?
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Oh, Toni.
Oh, Fiona.
Fiona, the cinnamon apple
of my eye.
Thank goodness for… The buffer.
Coach Toni.
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What did you say?
The buffer.
The buffer, the straight man, because she gave you a wealth of information.
I think what you said was very insightful because she could use it as a tool.
It doesn't necessarily have to be something that's bad.
It could be a tool for them to spice things up.
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But Fiona, I hope you do find what I hope you find what you desire and what you deserve.
And that's just really good at that.
We have another question.
Just to add one thing, Fiona, you have to define why you feel that it's unhealthy.
What's your definition of unhealthy?
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Like there's so many there's just a parameter around the word unhealthy when it comes to it that I just really would like for you to kind of dig a little deeper within just to kind of figure out why you think it's unhealthy and what specifically is making it unhealthy for you or for your man.
Yeah, I mean, and also what this I'm wondering if there's something that happened in the past that she's seen something or I don't know.
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It's so deep and I really wish that sometimes they would give a little more detail.
You know, but that's why we have our Coach Toni here because she can work it all out.
So see you guys work it all out this lifetime.
We have another we have another update.
This one comes from Terrence.
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Terrence is 28 and he's from Philly.
He wrote to the show because he had a foot fetish and he didn't want to tell his wife because he thought she might leave him.
And he was very brief with us.
He just says, Hey, this is Terrence writing you back.
Thank you. I took your advice and now I massage my wife's feet.
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She really appreciates it and I do too.
There you go.
Sometimes people think the smallest things are going to have like the biggest ramifications and in this case, all it took was communication.
So win-win. She's getting a massage after hard days work and you are filling your foot fetish fantasies.
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And might I add, you know, go to Bedroom Kandi, maybe you could get some of those nice smelling Haute Cakes or, you know, Sugah Daddy or whatever and maybe you could rub that on her feet.
You know what?
We actually have a brand new product called Foot Fetish and it's a little bundle and it's a foot cream, a foot scrub and a little brush.
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Look at that! It's called Foot Fetish.
Yes. All right it’s up there on your screen. Look at that.
See, that's excellent.
I love when we get updates like that.
Thanks for writing back.
Terrence.
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Our next update comes from Casey.
She's 21.
Remember, Casey wanted advice on getting a BBL on credit.
Now, what you guys don't know was me and Coach Toni both bet that Casey was probably going to go get the BBL.
Did she get the BBL?
I need a drum roll sound effect.
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That dun-dun-dun. Like, OK, exactly.
All right. So it says I'm not getting a BBL because the doctors keep telling me I don't have enough fat to graft.
Toni this is exactly what I said.
What I told you. I did find a doctor; however, who was in New York and does the shots that make it look like I have a better projection.
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I did one session, but they're expensive and I would need to go for multiple rounds of shots just to get the look I want.
I really don't want something that's going to be broke.
And the doctor said I'll need at least five more sessions.
Let me tell you something real quick, Casey. They always say six sessions.
Always, with everything.
I remember when I wanted to get laser hair removal, like from under here, the doctor's like, oh, you're going to need six sessions.
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It's going to be twenty five hundred dollars.
I'm like, for each session or for, you know, for the six?
And, you know, she said for the six.
But the thing was, Toni, the machine wouldn't have worked on my skin.
It’s for white people with dark hair.
So it wouldn't have worked on me. I would have wasted my money.
But anyway, oh, and my boyfriend watched with me and he said he can handle a girl with a big booty.
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I broke up with him and guess what, yall, he got a girl with a big booty, but she dumped his ass.
Ha ha. Casey, you're a mess.
She really wrote ha ha, Toni.
Now he's been hitting me on Snap, singing baby, baby, please. And talking about how I changed on him.
Anyway, thank you for taking my message.
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And Casey, thank you for writing us.
All right, Toni, let's talk about BBL Casey.
Best BBL in history.
Yeah, so I'm glad this worked out.
It may not have been, it may not have worked out in the conventional way that you wished.
But I think it worked out because number one, you know, 21 is just too young to get a BBL and people's bodies change so drastically.
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So who knows, two, three years from now, you might have, you know, the body that you want.
So I'm glad it did work out for you in that way.
And then this is just kind of like a lesson or a reminder to just be grateful with what you have,
because who knows how much money would have lost just in doing, you know, like you said, you did one procedure already.
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But, I'm just I'm glad it worked out for you.
I'm glad you didn't go under the knife and get the BBL.
Toni there was this girl I saw over the pandemic at this place called Sabrina’s it’s down in PA.
And she had to be about 95 pounds soaking wet.
But her behind was enormous.
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Like she literally, I'mma show you. She literally looked like this.
She literally looked like this.
But she was she was itty bitty like she was very, very, very small.
And so I was with one of my homegirls.
She turns around and she's like, how the hell they do that?
Where’d she go? They didn’t have enough BB for them to L.
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No, but I think she might have had like the silicone shots of maybe an implant, this girl.
But Casey, we're glad that you kinda listened to us. Kinda.
And I hope that you continue to work on, like I said before,
BBL-ing your personality and growing into a beautiful, well-rounded young lady.
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And Toni, she said he hit her with the Carl Thomas, the baby baby please.
But she had me on edge, though.
I really thought she was going to do it.
And like you said, when your mind is made up to do something, you're going to do it.
But I'm glad she had a change of heart.
And again, anything comes maintenance.
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Some of these people aren't even washing properly after getting these BBLs.
And you know, Casey, I normally like I don't know, I'm in rare form today.
I normally don't stuff like this, but your boyfriend is goofy, I mean, I'm sorry, your ex-boyfriend.
He's the ex. He's the ex-boyfriend.
And Casey's pretty.
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You know that singer Coco Jones? Yes!
That's who she looks like. Ok. Coco’s gorgeous.
She looks like Coco Jones. Yeah. And like I said before, if your man is liking pics,
go do the same. Like on Stefon Diggs’ and Myles Garrett's pics.
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I mean, you know, and the boyfriend, Toni, the ex-boyfriend.
He looks like every light-skinned dude who goes to the gym.
He had this little broccoli haircut and everything.
And he’s trying to like show off. He had on these little bargain basement,
little knockoff Calvin Klein boxer briefs.
I'm not going to go in because he's only like 22.
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He's not my equal. I'm not going to go in on him. I’m really not.
But to Casey and anyone else who may be going through something similar,
if someone doesn't like you for the way you are, they don't like you.
And that's just it.
Thicker than a snicker. Thicker than ya ninja.
I had to. I had to. I had to.
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What do they say? These yams deserve a trophy?
Ok. All right. Next we have an update from Will.
Will's 57, and he’s from California.
And Will wrote in on the last episode of our Sex Coach that his medication
caused him to have prolonged ejaculation.
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Will writes, Hello, Cris and Coach Toni. This is Will from California.
Thanks for your advice. I'm doing much better.
I found a new PCP who switched my medication and now I'm back to normal.
I also looked into the medication you suggested, Cris,
but I wasn't able to get my hands on it.
I'm seeing a doctor who specializes in male reproductive health,
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and he has prescribed something similar to me that has helped my levels tremendously.
I like that.
So sometimes all it takes is finding like a professional who is either
certified to work with that specific issue that you may be having,
or someone who not necessarily is specialized,
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but just who's going to go the extra step to help, you know,
get you where you need to be, help solve whatever problem it is that you're having.
So I'm really glad that he did find another primary care physician.
And yeah, I'm glad that it's working out.
And Will, thanks for writing in from your AOL email address.
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Toni, Will has an AOL email address.
Don’t knock AOL. Excuse me? Because I still have an AOL account.
I'm not knocking it at all, I think it’s dope!
No, but mine, I have two, but one is my professional. What? And one is like a really old one,
because it's so hard to like transition emails.
I have like a ton of email addresses, but two of them are AOL.
So don't go too hard on Will. Toni they’re gonna be worth money one day, I’m telling you.
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I think I might still have one too.
I think I do actually have one.
They’re gonna be worth money one day these AOL email addresses.
I'm telling you, just like, you know, 212 phone numbers,
because people joke with me because I have a 212 phone number.
And they’re like, how did you get a 212?
I’m like I've had it since I was like 13. Ok. It was a pager number.
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But, wow, maybe if Will, if they ever become worth money,
Will can take some of that money and give that to Rose.
So she can, you know, she could have a little change. Pay back that OnlyFans…
I mean, listen, look at me over here I’m shipping them.
I'm shipping Rose and Will.
They're around the same age.
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You know what I mean? I'm shipping them because Rose ain't staying with her husband.
I'm telling you now. For sure.
She ain't doing that.
But anyway, you know, he can pay back that OnlyFans addiction debt that her husband racked up.
Anyway, thanks Will.
Now all right, Toni, this next update here had my head spinning. Ok?
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Ok. This is from Anonymous.
She's 54.
She's from Ohio.
She wrote it because her husband was having ED.
And Coach Toni blessed her with a ton of solutions.
I mean, we got like a whole menu.
With that.
So it says, hello, you two.
Thanks so much for taking the last time.
We took the advice that was intended for Will, the other caller,
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as well as what you said about different foods.
See, look at that.
People are listening.
My husband has been taking the fertility pills.
Needless to say, Christmas and New Year's was very interesting.
And a few weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant.
Now, I'm 54.
And happy belated too, and mind you, now, this is actually months ago that she found out because she wrote us back in like February.
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So she's probably showing at this point.
But she says I'm 54 with two grown kids, three out of five grown grandchildren.
So a baby is the last thing I was thinking of.
But I will accept the blessing.
And I'm due in the Fall.
Yeah Toni, she's definitely showing.
Yeah.
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I am sending the two of you a baby shower invitation.
Ohio!
I love how refreshing and unique this show is.
Thank you.
Please continue sharing your knowledge with the people.
Thanks for your help.
Listen. Yes we’re going to Ohio!
Toni, you might as well go ahead.
I don't even know what to say.
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Well, so first of all, I'm glad the solutions worked out.
And if you're happy, we're happy.
So congratulations on the new addition to the family.
So yeah, I guess, you know, it really does make a difference in like the foods and, you know, the things that, you know, professionals, those types of solutions that they give.
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But yeah, this is definitely a shocker.
So a certain someone was over my shoulder.
And he goes, well, I wonder how many babies she's having?
Because you know, with those fertility drugs, people get multiple births.
So yeah, so there's a possibility she could end up having more than just one. Could you imagine at 54 years old, you’re about to have? You’re about to drop some babies?
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No, I cannot.
No, I cannot.
And I will not.
I will not imagine that.
Because you know you just had the puppies, could you imagine if we were fertile like that?
Right with puppies in the other room and they are driving me insane.
So yeah, no.
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Wow.
No, I'm speechless.
This is twice in one episode.
Like this is a record.
Cris speechless?
Right? Anyway, anonymous.
Congratulations.
I know the new baby is going to be surrounded by lots of love. For sure.
I mean, because it's a lot of them, you know, thanks.
Thanks.
And congratulations again.
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I mean, loads of surprises this episode.
Seriously, I mean, how much should I charge for renting out my time machine?
I mean, like what, like 100,000, maybe two to 250,000.
Like really?
I mean, I'm high class.
This technology is not even out yet.
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Congratulations again, anonymous.
Because they're going to need that money for that baby that’s coming.
Toni.
Haneef wrote us back.
Haneef!
So, Haneef is 44.
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And he's from Philly.
He had never been fully intimate with a woman.
And he experienced anxiety every time he tried.
Haneef writes
Hello, Cris and Toni.
I know you don't like long emails.
So I'll cut to the chase.
I'm in therapy.
And I've been diagnosed as demisexual.
Demisexual.
My therapist also gave me deep breathing techniques to try.
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And I use aromatherapy and yoga
as also recommended by my therapist.
Lately, I've been embracing my sexuality
and I'm no longer afraid of intimacy
because I only want to be intimate
with someone I have feelings for.
Although I'm not currently dating,
I recently approached a woman at my gym
to whom I find myself very attracted.
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We've been on a couple of dates,
but we haven't gone out lately due to our schedules.
However, we still text and talk every chance we get.
I have feelings for her
and I could actually see us being intimate.
The woman I worked with, who I had a crush on,
actually turned out to be separated,
not divorced, like she had told me.
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Found out they still live together
and she even told me
that they are still intimate occasionally.
I really can't stand liars
and I'm happy that I dodged that bullet.
I hope this update makes your next show.
I'm sorry I couldn't send it
so that could make it on to the December show,
but I had some things going on
and I got the message too late.
Thanks for your help.
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Haneef.
Toni.
I have such high hopes for the woman and Haneef.
I really, really did.
But I'm glad he's seeing a therapist, I really am,
because I feel like that was probably
the more important solution
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than working it or trying to work something out
with the woman.
So it's very good that the therapist
has helped him to diagnose what the issue is.
And so hopefully he's working through that.
So the deep breathing exercises
and the things that he or she suggested,
that's awesome.
So I really hope that Haneef is working through it
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and maybe the next episode,
we can get another update saying
that he's met someone or something.
So, yeah.
You know, demisexuality is very common, I've heard.
And I'm glad he's able to put a label
on what it was he was experiencing.
And he wanted to come on the show with us,
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but he wasn't able to because of the schedule
and then we weren't able,
we were all over the place trying to get this show to happen.
But we actually, so he and I actually FaceTimed.
And he's really cool, he's a really nice guy.
But I had to have a moment with him.
I had to tell him, don't end up like that guy Lance Herndon.
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And if you know, you know, who that guy is,
because he was messing around with separated women
and the woman ended up killing him.
But I know, but see now,
everyone wants to know what Haneef looks like.
Because Haneef just had this really, I guess,
attractive description.
And Toni knows this about me.
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I'm very good at accurately describing people.
And he said it was ok if I described him.
So, and mainly because I told him the description
I was gonna use and he said it was one point.
So, ok, Toni, so get ready.
Haneef looks like, if Shemar Moore will full Black, Ok?
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Tyrese's complexion, maybe even a little bit darker.
He's a dark skinned guy.
And he's like heavier, but not fat.
Like you can tell that he works out.
But like his face is fuller and he has the beard.
They call it a Sunna beard.
Or the Freeway beard is, you know, the Philly beard.
Yeah, the Philly beard, you know,
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what I used to have, you guys know what the beard is.
And his eyes are kind of like a light brown color,
almost like hazel.
Very, very attractive guy.
And he has braces.
And he said he's gonna get his,
he said he's getting his braces off this summer.
So I said, you know, don't hurt ‘em, Neef.
Right, Haneef about to be outside.
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Ok, but thank you for getting back to us.
And I'm glad that we were able to help you.
And listen, Haneef guys, has to heal.
Please do not DM me asking me for Haneef’s information
what Haneef’s phone number is or his iCloud
or iMessage or whatever.
Like let him work through his shit
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so that his shit doesn't through him.
But Coach Toni, takeaways today?
So I guess a couple of the takeaways are
that people are actually listening
to some of the advice that we're giving.
So I really appreciate that.
A couple of takeaways for shoppers, but in a good way.
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We're going to Ohio for a baby shower.
These were really good updates
and then new questions that we have
were pretty good questions.
So yeah, I like this.
I mean
I’ll just say this.
I'm glad you guys stopped talking at us, finally.
Because yall used to talk at us.
And I don't like that.
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She'll post a Live Tuesday night.
My Stories.
Was it Tuesday?
My Stories.
Oh your Stories, I'm sorry.
Not your Lives your Stories.
Yep, it's my Instagram Stories.
(24:58):
And I'll usually post the Story on like Wednesday morning.
Ok, so Wednesday morning.
So Wednesday morning, go to
Bedroomkandi_bytoni
There's an underscore between the I and the B, right?
Yes.
Yeah, the I and the B.
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Look at me photographic memory today.
I still can't figure out acronyms.
It's a mess.
And here’s the other thing.
Because I mentioned this earlier,
this happened before you started taping the show.
A man is not gonna honk his horn passive aggressively
if he likes you.
And he's also not gonna penetrate you so hard
to where you end up in the ER.
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You know what I'm saying?
Like even with dating, if a person doesn't like you,
they're dissing you.
I mean, you know, Toni, they have a term for that
that is called negging.
When the guys like diss the girls or you know.
I mean, there's a name for everything.
But I'm also, I'm glad that we do these shows
because a lot of generational gatekeeping goes on
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within families regarding,
especially regarding like women's health.
You know, and I mean, Toni, you know this.
I mean, everything from orgasms to childbirth to menopause.
And it's important that you're here
to have these dialogues with us.
These open dialogues about these things
because people don't even, I mean, honestly,
(26:26):
people don't even talk about non-sexual health
the way they should.
Like I found out a lot of things recently
about health issues that run in my family.
And I'm like, well, why wouldn't you tell me this?
You know, like we hope we can stop making people suffer
in the dark.
We just, we gotta stop.
But wait a minute.
I have a question.
Coach Toni.
(26:46):
Ok.
Oh, stop.
Toni, you hear them?
They’re carrying on.
Already. Ok.
Should us men, should we be shaving down there?
Well, technically there is no right or wrong answer.
It's all about preference.
So if you do shave, it is gonna expose more
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of the sensitive skin in that area.
So just be gentle.
Now what I will say is this.
Some men do like the look and the feel of,
if they do shave, just, you know,
make sure that you are looking out for things
like ingrown hairs, and things of that nature.
Also cutting yourself because the skin down there
is more sensitive.
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But on the flip side, if you do shave,
well, on the flip side, I would say if you don't shave,
excess hair can hide things like sweating, oil, bacteria.
So that will cause more of an odor
if you're not taking care of yourself and washing properly.
But it's just all about what's your preference is.
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So there's really no right or wrong answer
about whether or not you should be shaving down there.
It's just ultimately, you know, your preference
and there is no medical reason to shave down there.
So yeah, it just depends on the person
and their perspective on how they wanna look
and how willing they are to take care of themselves.
And be very careful doing that guys
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because you not wanna cut something down there.
I can imagine.
All right, now we can't get to every question,
but a lot of you guys ask similar things.
So we hope that you can apply our answers.
You can take our answers and apply them to your situation.
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And you know, when we get something unique,
we do what we can to answer.
And I know you all remember
Anonymous from last season
who said, “my husband is gay, please advise.”
I know you all remember that.
Well, she wrote us back this nasty,
passive aggressive letter and Toni she was out of pocket.
(29:00):
I was gonna blast her, but then I said, you know what?
She's got deeper issues.
So let me not pick on the slow kid.
Let me just move on.
But you know, we're here to help,
but if you don't want our help,
move around so we can help someone who does.
And now also, it's been brought to our attention
(29:24):
that some of you have been using objects
as opposed to toys to masturbate.
Bananas, squashes, bottles of Florida water.
Yeah, I know. But we're grown
and you need to do things safely and responsibly.
Use a damn toy, all right?
Toni's Bedroom Kandy store is bkparties.com/6109.
(29:52):
And she has tons of toys there.
Now, if there's a toy that you want,
but you don't see it on the Bedroom Kandi site,
go to thekittychronicles.co and there you can request it.
Or just hit me with a DM me on Instagram
to see, you know, if there's something in particular
that you don't see, I can recommend something
that's really similar to it.
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And then also all of our toys are made
with medical-grade silicone.
So regardless of if you purchase a $30 toy or $100 toy,
you're still gonna get a quality product.
Which is what you want because they're toys
that are sold in other marketplaces.
I won't name names,
but you know what I mean by marketplace,
You know, Toni.
And you don't know what those toys are made out of.
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Some people, you know, I've read the reviews
and they talk about those toys and they smell funny.
Nothing that you should be sticking in your body
should smell funny.
It really shouldn't have a smell at all.
So like I said, you know, Coach Toni’s store,
the link is at the bottom, has what you need.
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And this was a good one, Coach.
We ate our Wheaties today.
We needed that little extra hour.
Let everyone know though
how they can get in touch with you, Toni.
Sure, so again, my Bedroom Kandi site
is bkparties.com/6109.
Or you can go to my main website, thekittychronicles.co.
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I'm on there.
I occasionally post a blog or two.
Haven't done it recently,
but you can also link to my YouTube
where I'll talk about products, things of that nature.
So yeah, those are my two sites.
And then feel free to follow me on Instagram,
instagram.com/bedroomkandi_bytoni
Which is fine,
(31:39):
Either way, they'll figure, they'll find you.
It's fine.
I know we're a little older,
so we say instagram.com slash
we do a whole long thing.
Right.
And all that information is up.
And you guys go to Toni's channel
is probably one of two channels that I'm following,
because I don't follow a lot of channels.
I don't like a lot of people on YouTube
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that like there are a lot of YouTubers
I just can't be bothered with.
But you I have and I have another person.
But all of that information is up.
And to everyone we didn't get today,
we will get you next time.
Because Coach Toni has a lot of summer reading.
Yes. That I’m going to send her. That shit is good.
But Toni, what are you up to this summer?
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I mean, Leo season will be here before we know it.
Leo season, yeah, can't wait.
So I'm going on a cruise, Bedroom Kandi.
We normally do our convention every August in Atlanta,
because of course that's where Kandi lives.
But this year we're taking it to the sea.
So we're going to the Bahamas as our convention
for Bedroom Kandi.
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So I'm looking forward to that.
And then my husband and I are trying to plan
a trip to Toronto.
So looking forward to that as well.
And maybe you'll see BBL Drizzy up there.
Right.
But speaking of Leos and Lions,
Toni, did you see the video of the Lions in Africa
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they were getting it in on top of the safari truck?
No, I didn't.
Toni, it's so fitting because this is the sex show.
The Lions were so, Ok.
So in Namibia and in South Africa it’s pretty common.
And I don't know what triggered it or whatever,
but they just started getting it in
on top of the safari truck.
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But it reminded me though, it's crazy.
It reminded me of this adult film.
I'll just say it was an adult film that I saw years ago
and they were on top of a white Jeep.
IYKYK, let's move on.
It’s funny, my friend around the corner,
my homie Stacey, he has a Jeep, Toni,
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and he has all these rubber ducks on his dashboard.
It's hilarious.
But you know what's crazy?
He looks just like Ray J.
Like if you were to see him.
Oh wow.
You’d be like you look more like Ray J than Ray J.
Shout out to Stacey.
So Toni and Darwin have new additions
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that you’ve probably heard in the background.
They're not my additions, they're Toni and Darwin's
new additions.
So Toni, share with the class your new additions.
Yeah, so our two dogs had puppies.
So we have the two dogs plus eight puppies
in the other room.
There's four boys and four girls.
And so far we've managed to kind of get rid,
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not get rid of, I don't wanna say that,
but five will be going to new homes
and we're still looking for homes.
For three of them, they're so freaking adorable,
but I want them to go so freaking bad,
it's not even funny.
So yes.
I'm showing pictures now of them little Baby G.
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It's just too cute.
Look at that face.
Yeah, I'm obsessed with Nell
and thankfully my sister is taking Nell.
So Nell will still be in the family.
So I'm happy about that.
Nell is. Look at Nell.
I've posted videos on their Instagram
because my two dogs have their own Instagram.
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I'm so happy.
We have it on the screen, but I have the Instagram.
So somebody got Baby G, right?
Somebody got him?
Yes.
So as of now Dot unfortunately,
she was gonna go to a home,
but something unfortunate happened with that home
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so they can't take her now.
So Dot, Fatso, and Cute Face are still available.
Yes.
Why Boom Boom?
Where'd you get that name from?
Because my husband, because Boom Boom is the biggest one
and my husband when he was a baby, he was chubby
and they called him Fatty Boom Boom as a nickname.
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He's from the Caribbean, He’s from Grenada.
So that's what his nickname was as a baby, Fatty Boom Boom.
So because this one was probably the first puppy
and he was the biggest, we call him Boom Boom.
So isn't that crazy?
Fatso isn't the biggest one, it's Boom Boom.
Right.
Fatso used to be probably second him
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and Boom Boom were like the two biggest,
but Boom Boom is just thriving.
So yeah.
Caribbean folks are gonna tell you about how you look.
Oh yes.
Yes, for sure.
They're gonna call you fat, they're gonna call you skinny,
they're gonna call you tall, too short,
they're gonna remind you.
Good night to everybody Caribbean, good night.
If you'd like to adopt one of these sweet little angel,
(36:47):
dog, puppy, creature, children, babies,
DM their parents on IG
@guapo_and_leila
And don't talk crazy in those DMs either
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because they are pit bulls and they will get you.
Right.
And they're reasonably priced too, Toni.
How much are they?
$600 with a $200 deposit.
So altogether $800, right?
No, no, no, flat 600.
Oh, flat 600.
So you gotta do 200 first and then you pay the other four.
(37:28):
Yeah, 200 is going to reserve them
and let us know you really are coming to get them.
And then the remaining 400,
and they're available when they're ready for pickup.
Me and Toni were talking earlier before the show
and I told her she could have charged double that
since they're purebred.
And yall know me, you know I'm high falutin.
But I'd rather you, listen,
(37:50):
I'd rather you guys buy them there from people we know.
We know Toni and we know Darwin,
other than off of DoorDash, Ok?
Because some lady in Jersey was using her DoorDash
to sell puppies and people were buying them too.
That's insane.
That is absolutely insane.
(38:10):
I mean, but Toni, if they'll sell puppies on DoorDash,
they'll sell something more sinister.
That's how I feel about it.
Hey, what exactly?
Just, just throw the whole...
Just...
Thanks for listening and watching.
Tell your friends, tell your mama, tell your daddy,
tell your baby daddy, tell your boyfriend,
(38:31):
tell your sister, tell your kittens, tell your bullies,
tell their puppies, tell your OBGYN,
your endocrinologist, and your urologist.
Listen, tell your doula too, Ok, and your midwife.
So your FWB, your masseur,
and everyone at the Beauty Supply Store.
To follow us on Instagram @CrisDavidTV,
(38:55):
and follow our show @TheCrisDavidShow
on Instagram and YouTube.
You can also visit crisdavidshow.com.
There you'll find everything you need to know
about the show.
Before we go, your comfort comes first.
Don't compromise your comfort.
Bless and release.
Don't invest in anyone or anything
(39:17):
who doesn't give you interest.
If someone doesn't love you the way you are,
they don't love you. Don't make yourself available to the unavailable
And you know what else?
They didn't stop making dick when they made his,
and they didn't stop making pussy when they made hers.
Never underestimate the investment you make in yourself. Oh, and another one.
He put that where?
(39:37):
Back there.
Now be kind, be well, and #talklikesex,
Rated XXX.
It really is.
(00:09):
Because someone else, I got another letter and I can't wait to see you rip this apart because
I know you're going to really, you're going to really beat them good.
I got another last week in my email, this girl said she, her man's doing porn in the
living room.
What? Listen.
(00:29):
This is where you put that sound bite.
Exactly.
Yes.
I tell you, the hits keep coming.
The hits keep coming at The Cris David Show.
Oh my gosh.
Wow. In the living room.
Yeah, I can't wait to see that one.
(00:50):
Listen, summer reading.
We're going to call it the summer reading.
But thanks Rose and best of luck to you.
Ok.
So this next one, Ok.
So this next one was also featured on the Men's Panel and it comes from Fiona.
Fiona's 26 and she's from Charleston, South Carolina.
(01:13):
Fiona writes, how come every guy I get with watches porn, I don't want to be with a man
who watches porn.
It's so unhealthy.
And Toni, she has a vomit emoji in this email.
And also she spelled porn P R O N and I just could not bring myself to leave it like that.
(01:36):
She's 26.
Oh Fiona.
So, I mean, you know why?
Like, because this didn't give like a lot of things.
I'm really curious to like get into Fiona's head and you know, just have a dialogue about
this because what makes it unhealthy?
You know, I'm wondering, does it affect his day to day habits?
Have you had a conversation about it?
(01:58):
Because it could be something where he doesn't even know how you feel.
But I would definitely talk to him before making judgments because maybe he just enjoys
it and for no other reason at all.
But just find out why.
And then you could also probably meet in the middle.
So if he has like an unhealthy amount of times that he watches it during the day, maybe he
can minimize that.
But also maybe you can just, you know, have a conversation and watch it with him and
(02:23):
you can have a couple time or it can be, you know, part of foreplay.
But it's just not one of those blanket things where I hate it.
It's unhealthy.
And then you have that right.
To go on and have him not watch it anymore.
So this definitely warrants a conversation and not saying that you're close minded, but
just basically based on the sentence or the statement that you just made, just kind of
(02:48):
opening up your mind to understand why it is that he's watching it, what he's getting
out of it and what you can get out of it if you started to watch it.
So not sure if you've ever seen porn before, but there's so many different types.
But maybe you can like maybe watch something with him.
And like I said, that could be part of foreplay.
But yeah, what do you think, Cris?
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Oh, Toni.
Oh, Fiona.
Fiona, the cinnamon apple
of my eye.
Thank goodness for… The buffer.
Coach Toni.
(03:30):
What did you say?
The buffer.
The buffer, the straight man, because she gave you a wealth of information.
I think what you said was very insightful because she could use it as a tool.
It doesn't necessarily have to be something that's bad.
It could be a tool for them to spice things up.
(03:52):
But Fiona, I hope you do find what I hope you find what you desire and what you deserve.
And that's just really good at that.
We have another question.
Just to add one thing, Fiona, you have to define why you feel that it's unhealthy.
What's your definition of unhealthy?
(04:13):
Like there's so many there's just a parameter around the word unhealthy when it comes to it that I just really would like for you to kind of dig a little deeper within just to kind of figure out why you think it's unhealthy and what specifically is making it unhealthy for you or for your man.
Yeah, I mean, and also what this I'm wondering if there's something that happened in the past that she's seen something or I don't know.
(04:41):
It's so deep and I really wish that sometimes they would give a little more detail.
You know, but that's why we have our Coach Toni here because she can work it all out.
So see you guys work it all out this lifetime.
We have another we have another update.
This one comes from Terrence.
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Terrence is 28 and he's from Philly.
He wrote to the show because he had a foot fetish and he didn't want to tell his wife because he thought she might leave him.
And he was very brief with us.
He just says, Hey, this is Terrence writing you back.
Thank you. I took your advice and now I massage my wife's feet.
(05:23):
She really appreciates it and I do too.
There you go.
Sometimes people think the smallest things are going to have like the biggest ramifications and in this case, all it took was communication.
So win-win. She's getting a massage after hard days work and you are filling your foot fetish fantasies.
(05:47):
And might I add, you know, go to Bedroom Kandi, maybe you could get some of those nice smelling Haute Cakes or, you know, Sugah Daddy or whatever and maybe you could rub that on her feet.
You know what?
We actually have a brand new product called Foot Fetish and it's a little bundle and it's a foot cream, a foot scrub and a little brush.
(06:08):
Look at that! It's called Foot Fetish.
Yes. All right it’s up there on your screen. Look at that.
See, that's excellent.
I love when we get updates like that.
Thanks for writing back.
Terrence.
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Our next update comes from Casey.
She's 21.
Remember, Casey wanted advice on getting a BBL on credit.
Now, what you guys don't know was me and Coach Toni both bet that Casey was probably going to go get the BBL.
Did she get the BBL?
I need a drum roll sound effect.
(06:54):
That dun-dun-dun. Like, OK, exactly.
All right. So it says I'm not getting a BBL because the doctors keep telling me I don't have enough fat to graft.
Toni this is exactly what I said.
What I told you. I did find a doctor; however, who was in New York and does the shots that make it look like I have a better projection.
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I did one session, but they're expensive and I would need to go for multiple rounds of shots just to get the look I want.
I really don't want something that's going to be broke.
And the doctor said I'll need at least five more sessions.
Let me tell you something real quick, Casey. They always say six sessions.
Always, with everything.
I remember when I wanted to get laser hair removal, like from under here, the doctor's like, oh, you're going to need six sessions.
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It's going to be twenty five hundred dollars.
I'm like, for each session or for, you know, for the six?
And, you know, she said for the six.
But the thing was, Toni, the machine wouldn't have worked on my skin.
It’s for white people with dark hair.
So it wouldn't have worked on me. I would have wasted my money.
But anyway, oh, and my boyfriend watched with me and he said he can handle a girl with a big booty.
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I broke up with him and guess what, yall, he got a girl with a big booty, but she dumped his ass.
Ha ha. Casey, you're a mess.
She really wrote ha ha, Toni.
Now he's been hitting me on Snap, singing baby, baby, please. And talking about how I changed on him.
Anyway, thank you for taking my message.
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And Casey, thank you for writing us.
All right, Toni, let's talk about BBL Casey.
Best BBL in history.
Yeah, so I'm glad this worked out.
It may not have been, it may not have worked out in the conventional way that you wished.
But I think it worked out because number one, you know, 21 is just too young to get a BBL and people's bodies change so drastically.
(08:57):
So who knows, two, three years from now, you might have, you know, the body that you want.
So I'm glad it did work out for you in that way.
And then this is just kind of like a lesson or a reminder to just be grateful with what you have,
because who knows how much money would have lost just in doing, you know, like you said, you did one procedure already.
(09:20):
But, I'm just I'm glad it worked out for you.
I'm glad you didn't go under the knife and get the BBL.
Toni there was this girl I saw over the pandemic at this place called Sabrina’s it’s down in PA.
And she had to be about 95 pounds soaking wet.
But her behind was enormous.
(09:41):
Like she literally, I'mma show you. She literally looked like this.
She literally looked like this.
But she was she was itty bitty like she was very, very, very small.
And so I was with one of my homegirls.
She turns around and she's like, how the hell they do that?
Where’d she go? They didn’t have enough BB for them to L.
(10:03):
No, but I think she might have had like the silicone shots of maybe an implant, this girl.
But Casey, we're glad that you kinda listened to us. Kinda.
And I hope that you continue to work on, like I said before,
BBL-ing your personality and growing into a beautiful, well-rounded young lady.
(10:27):
And Toni, she said he hit her with the Carl Thomas, the baby baby please.
But she had me on edge, though.
I really thought she was going to do it.
And like you said, when your mind is made up to do something, you're going to do it.
But I'm glad she had a change of heart.
And again, anything comes maintenance.
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Some of these people aren't even washing properly after getting these BBLs.
And you know, Casey, I normally like I don't know, I'm in rare form today.
I normally don't stuff like this, but your boyfriend is goofy, I mean, I'm sorry, your ex-boyfriend.
He's the ex. He's the ex-boyfriend.
And Casey's pretty.
(11:10):
You know that singer Coco Jones? Yes!
That's who she looks like. Ok. Coco’s gorgeous.
She looks like Coco Jones. Yeah. And like I said before, if your man is liking pics,
go do the same. Like on Stefon Diggs’ and Myles Garrett's pics.
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I mean, you know, and the boyfriend, Toni, the ex-boyfriend.
He looks like every light-skinned dude who goes to the gym.
He had this little broccoli haircut and everything.
And he’s trying to like show off. He had on these little bargain basement,
little knockoff Calvin Klein boxer briefs.
I'm not going to go in because he's only like 22.
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He's not my equal. I'm not going to go in on him. I’m really not.
But to Casey and anyone else who may be going through something similar,
if someone doesn't like you for the way you are, they don't like you.
And that's just it.
Thicker than a snicker. Thicker than ya ninja.
I had to. I had to. I had to.
(12:16):
What do they say? These yams deserve a trophy?
Ok. All right. Next we have an update from Will.
Will's 57, and he’s from California.
And Will wrote in on the last episode of our Sex Coach that his medication
caused him to have prolonged ejaculation.
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Will writes, Hello, Cris and Coach Toni. This is Will from California.
Thanks for your advice. I'm doing much better.
I found a new PCP who switched my medication and now I'm back to normal.
I also looked into the medication you suggested, Cris,
but I wasn't able to get my hands on it.
I'm seeing a doctor who specializes in male reproductive health,
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and he has prescribed something similar to me that has helped my levels tremendously.
I like that.
So sometimes all it takes is finding like a professional who is either
certified to work with that specific issue that you may be having,
or someone who not necessarily is specialized,
(13:25):
but just who's going to go the extra step to help, you know,
get you where you need to be, help solve whatever problem it is that you're having.
So I'm really glad that he did find another primary care physician.
And yeah, I'm glad that it's working out.
And Will, thanks for writing in from your AOL email address.
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Toni, Will has an AOL email address.
Don’t knock AOL. Excuse me? Because I still have an AOL account.
I'm not knocking it at all, I think it’s dope!
No, but mine, I have two, but one is my professional. What? And one is like a really old one,
because it's so hard to like transition emails.
I have like a ton of email addresses, but two of them are AOL.
So don't go too hard on Will. Toni they’re gonna be worth money one day, I’m telling you.
(14:14):
I think I might still have one too.
I think I do actually have one.
They’re gonna be worth money one day these AOL email addresses.
I'm telling you, just like, you know, 212 phone numbers,
because people joke with me because I have a 212 phone number.
And they’re like, how did you get a 212?
I’m like I've had it since I was like 13. Ok. It was a pager number.
(14:36):
But, wow, maybe if Will, if they ever become worth money,
Will can take some of that money and give that to Rose.
So she can, you know, she could have a little change. Pay back that OnlyFans…
I mean, listen, look at me over here I’m shipping them.
I'm shipping Rose and Will.
They're around the same age.
(14:57):
You know what I mean? I'm shipping them because Rose ain't staying with her husband.
I'm telling you now. For sure.
She ain't doing that.
But anyway, you know, he can pay back that OnlyFans addiction debt that her husband racked up.
Anyway, thanks Will.
Now all right, Toni, this next update here had my head spinning. Ok?
(15:22):
Ok. This is from Anonymous.
She's 54.
She's from Ohio.
She wrote it because her husband was having ED.
And Coach Toni blessed her with a ton of solutions.
I mean, we got like a whole menu.
With that.
So it says, hello, you two.
Thanks so much for taking the last time.
We took the advice that was intended for Will, the other caller,
(15:44):
as well as what you said about different foods.
See, look at that.
People are listening.
My husband has been taking the fertility pills.
Needless to say, Christmas and New Year's was very interesting.
And a few weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant.
Now, I'm 54.
And happy belated too, and mind you, now, this is actually months ago that she found out because she wrote us back in like February.
(16:12):
So she's probably showing at this point.
But she says I'm 54 with two grown kids, three out of five grown grandchildren.
So a baby is the last thing I was thinking of.
But I will accept the blessing.
And I'm due in the Fall.
Yeah Toni, she's definitely showing.
Yeah.
(16:33):
I am sending the two of you a baby shower invitation.
Ohio!
I love how refreshing and unique this show is.
Thank you.
Please continue sharing your knowledge with the people.
Thanks for your help.
Listen. Yes we’re going to Ohio!
Toni, you might as well go ahead.
I don't even know what to say.
(16:55):
Well, so first of all, I'm glad the solutions worked out.
And if you're happy, we're happy.
So congratulations on the new addition to the family.
So yeah, I guess, you know, it really does make a difference in like the foods and, you know, the things that, you know, professionals, those types of solutions that they give.
(17:19):
But yeah, this is definitely a shocker.
So a certain someone was over my shoulder.
And he goes, well, I wonder how many babies she's having?
Because you know, with those fertility drugs, people get multiple births.
So yeah, so there's a possibility she could end up having more than just one. Could you imagine at 54 years old, you’re about to have? You’re about to drop some babies?
(17:49):
No, I cannot.
No, I cannot.
And I will not.
I will not imagine that.
Because you know you just had the puppies, could you imagine if we were fertile like that?
Right with puppies in the other room and they are driving me insane.
So yeah, no.
(18:10):
Wow.
No, I'm speechless.
This is twice in one episode.
Like this is a record.
Cris speechless?
Right? Anyway, anonymous.
Congratulations.
I know the new baby is going to be surrounded by lots of love. For sure.
I mean, because it's a lot of them, you know, thanks.
Thanks.
And congratulations again.
(18:32):
I mean, loads of surprises this episode.
Seriously, I mean, how much should I charge for renting out my time machine?
I mean, like what, like 100,000, maybe two to 250,000.
Like really?
I mean, I'm high class.
This technology is not even out yet.
(18:53):
Congratulations again, anonymous.
Because they're going to need that money for that baby that’s coming.
Toni.
Haneef wrote us back.
Haneef!
So, Haneef is 44.
(19:15):
And he's from Philly.
He had never been fully intimate with a woman.
And he experienced anxiety every time he tried.
Haneef writes
Hello, Cris and Toni.
I know you don't like long emails.
So I'll cut to the chase.
I'm in therapy.
And I've been diagnosed as demisexual.
Demisexual.
My therapist also gave me deep breathing techniques to try.
(19:38):
And I use aromatherapy and yoga
as also recommended by my therapist.
Lately, I've been embracing my sexuality
and I'm no longer afraid of intimacy
because I only want to be intimate
with someone I have feelings for.
Although I'm not currently dating,
I recently approached a woman at my gym
to whom I find myself very attracted.
(20:00):
We've been on a couple of dates,
but we haven't gone out lately due to our schedules.
However, we still text and talk every chance we get.
I have feelings for her
and I could actually see us being intimate.
The woman I worked with, who I had a crush on,
actually turned out to be separated,
not divorced, like she had told me.
(20:21):
Found out they still live together
and she even told me
that they are still intimate occasionally.
I really can't stand liars
and I'm happy that I dodged that bullet.
I hope this update makes your next show.
I'm sorry I couldn't send it
so that could make it on to the December show,
but I had some things going on
and I got the message too late.
Thanks for your help.
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Haneef.
Toni.
I have such high hopes for the woman and Haneef.
I really, really did.
But I'm glad he's seeing a therapist, I really am,
because I feel like that was probably
the more important solution
(21:03):
than working it or trying to work something out
with the woman.
So it's very good that the therapist
has helped him to diagnose what the issue is.
And so hopefully he's working through that.
So the deep breathing exercises
and the things that he or she suggested,
that's awesome.
So I really hope that Haneef is working through it
(21:25):
and maybe the next episode,
we can get another update saying
that he's met someone or something.
So, yeah.
You know, demisexuality is very common, I've heard.
And I'm glad he's able to put a label
on what it was he was experiencing.
And he wanted to come on the show with us,
(21:48):
but he wasn't able to because of the schedule
and then we weren't able,
we were all over the place trying to get this show to happen.
But we actually, so he and I actually FaceTimed.
And he's really cool, he's a really nice guy.
But I had to have a moment with him.
I had to tell him, don't end up like that guy Lance Herndon.
(22:08):
And if you know, you know, who that guy is,
because he was messing around with separated women
and the woman ended up killing him.
But I know, but see now,
everyone wants to know what Haneef looks like.
Because Haneef just had this really, I guess,
attractive description.
And Toni knows this about me.
(22:29):
I'm very good at accurately describing people.
And he said it was ok if I described him.
So, and mainly because I told him the description
I was gonna use and he said it was one point.
So, ok, Toni, so get ready.
Haneef looks like, if Shemar Moore will full Black, Ok?
(22:52):
Tyrese's complexion, maybe even a little bit darker.
He's a dark skinned guy.
And he's like heavier, but not fat.
Like you can tell that he works out.
But like his face is fuller and he has the beard.
They call it a Sunna beard.
Or the Freeway beard is, you know, the Philly beard.
Yeah, the Philly beard, you know,
(23:12):
what I used to have, you guys know what the beard is.
And his eyes are kind of like a light brown color,
almost like hazel.
Very, very attractive guy.
And he has braces.
And he said he's gonna get his,
he said he's getting his braces off this summer.
So I said, you know, don't hurt ‘em, Neef.
Right, Haneef about to be outside.
(23:33):
Ok, but thank you for getting back to us.
And I'm glad that we were able to help you.
And listen, Haneef guys, has to heal.
Please do not DM me asking me for Haneef’s information
what Haneef’s phone number is or his iCloud
or iMessage or whatever.
Like let him work through his shit
(23:53):
so that his shit doesn't through him.
But Coach Toni, takeaways today?
So I guess a couple of the takeaways are
that people are actually listening
to some of the advice that we're giving.
So I really appreciate that.
A couple of takeaways for shoppers, but in a good way.
(24:18):
We're going to Ohio for a baby shower.
These were really good updates
and then new questions that we have
were pretty good questions.
So yeah, I like this.
I mean
I’ll just say this.
I'm glad you guys stopped talking at us, finally.
Because yall used to talk at us.
And I don't like that.
(24:38):
Oh, oh, oh, Hump Day Sales, 50% off.
bkparties.com/6109.
And also check out Toni's Lives.
She'll post a Live Tuesday night.
My Stories.
Was it Tuesday?
My Stories.
Oh your Stories, I'm sorry.
Not your Lives your Stories.
Yep, it's my Instagram Stories.
(24:58):
And I'll usually post the Story on like Wednesday morning.
Ok, so Wednesday morning.
So Wednesday morning, go to
Bedroomkandi_bytoni
There's an underscore between the I and the B, right?
Yes.
Yeah, the I and the B.
(25:20):
Look at me photographic memory today.
I still can't figure out acronyms.
It's a mess.
And here’s the other thing.
Because I mentioned this earlier,
this happened before you started taping the show.
A man is not gonna honk his horn passive aggressively
if he likes you.
And he's also not gonna penetrate you so hard
to where you end up in the ER.
(25:42):
You know what I'm saying?
Like even with dating, if a person doesn't like you,
they're dissing you.
I mean, you know, Toni, they have a term for that
that is called negging.
When the guys like diss the girls or you know.
I mean, there's a name for everything.
But I'm also, I'm glad that we do these shows
because a lot of generational gatekeeping goes on
(26:05):
within families regarding,
especially regarding like women's health.
You know, and I mean, Toni, you know this.
I mean, everything from orgasms to childbirth to menopause.
And it's important that you're here
to have these dialogues with us.
These open dialogues about these things
because people don't even, I mean, honestly,
(26:26):
people don't even talk about non-sexual health
the way they should.
Like I found out a lot of things recently
about health issues that run in my family.
And I'm like, well, why wouldn't you tell me this?
You know, like we hope we can stop making people suffer
in the dark.
We just, we gotta stop.
But wait a minute.
I have a question.
Coach Toni.
(26:46):
Ok.
Oh, stop.
Toni, you hear them?
They’re carrying on.
Already. Ok.
Should us men, should we be shaving down there?
Well, technically there is no right or wrong answer.
It's all about preference.
So if you do shave, it is gonna expose more
(27:06):
of the sensitive skin in that area.
So just be gentle.
Now what I will say is this.
Some men do like the look and the feel of,
if they do shave, just, you know,
make sure that you are looking out for things
like ingrown hairs, and things of that nature.
Also cutting yourself because the skin down there
is more sensitive.
(27:27):
But on the flip side, if you do shave,
well, on the flip side, I would say if you don't shave,
excess hair can hide things like sweating, oil, bacteria.
So that will cause more of an odor
if you're not taking care of yourself and washing properly.
But it's just all about what's your preference is.
(27:51):
So there's really no right or wrong answer
about whether or not you should be shaving down there.
It's just ultimately, you know, your preference
and there is no medical reason to shave down there.
So yeah, it just depends on the person
and their perspective on how they wanna look
and how willing they are to take care of themselves.
And be very careful doing that guys
(28:12):
because you not wanna cut something down there.
I can imagine.
All right, now we can't get to every question,
but a lot of you guys ask similar things.
So we hope that you can apply our answers.
You can take our answers and apply them to your situation.
(28:36):
And you know, when we get something unique,
we do what we can to answer.
And I know you all remember
Anonymous from last season
who said, “my husband is gay, please advise.”
I know you all remember that.
Well, she wrote us back this nasty,
passive aggressive letter and Toni she was out of pocket.
(29:00):
I was gonna blast her, but then I said, you know what?
She's got deeper issues.
So let me not pick on the slow kid.
Let me just move on.
But you know, we're here to help,
but if you don't want our help,
move around so we can help someone who does.
And now also, it's been brought to our attention
(29:24):
that some of you have been using objects
as opposed to toys to masturbate.
Bananas, squashes, bottles of Florida water.
Yeah, I know. But we're grown
and you need to do things safely and responsibly.
Use a damn toy, all right?
Toni's Bedroom Kandy store is bkparties.com/6109.
(29:52):
And she has tons of toys there.
Now, if there's a toy that you want,
but you don't see it on the Bedroom Kandi site,
go to thekittychronicles.co and there you can request it.
Or just hit me with a DM me on Instagram
to see, you know, if there's something in particular
that you don't see, I can recommend something
that's really similar to it.
(30:14):
And then also all of our toys are made
with medical-grade silicone.
So regardless of if you purchase a $30 toy or $100 toy,
you're still gonna get a quality product.
Which is what you want because they're toys
that are sold in other marketplaces.
I won't name names,
but you know what I mean by marketplace,
You know, Toni.
And you don't know what those toys are made out of.
(30:35):
Some people, you know, I've read the reviews
and they talk about those toys and they smell funny.
Nothing that you should be sticking in your body
should smell funny.
It really shouldn't have a smell at all.
So like I said, you know, Coach Toni’s store,
the link is at the bottom, has what you need.
(30:56):
And this was a good one, Coach.
We ate our Wheaties today.
We needed that little extra hour.
Let everyone know though
how they can get in touch with you, Toni.
Sure, so again, my Bedroom Kandi site
is bkparties.com/6109.
Or you can go to my main website, thekittychronicles.co.
(31:19):
I'm on there.
I occasionally post a blog or two.
Haven't done it recently,
but you can also link to my YouTube
where I'll talk about products, things of that nature.
So yeah, those are my two sites.
And then feel free to follow me on Instagram,
instagram.com/bedroomkandi_bytoni
Which is fine,
(31:39):
Either way, they'll figure, they'll find you.
It's fine.
I know we're a little older,
so we say instagram.com slash
we do a whole long thing.
Right.
And all that information is up.
And you guys go to Toni's channel
is probably one of two channels that I'm following,
because I don't follow a lot of channels.
I don't like a lot of people on YouTube
(32:01):
that like there are a lot of YouTubers
I just can't be bothered with.
But you I have and I have another person.
But all of that information is up.
And to everyone we didn't get today,
we will get you next time.
Because Coach Toni has a lot of summer reading.
Yes. That I’m going to send her. That shit is good.
But Toni, what are you up to this summer?
(32:25):
I mean, Leo season will be here before we know it.
Leo season, yeah, can't wait.
So I'm going on a cruise, Bedroom Kandi.
We normally do our convention every August in Atlanta,
because of course that's where Kandi lives.
But this year we're taking it to the sea.
So we're going to the Bahamas as our convention
for Bedroom Kandi.
(32:45):
So I'm looking forward to that.
And then my husband and I are trying to plan
a trip to Toronto.
So looking forward to that as well.
And maybe you'll see BBL Drizzy up there.
Right.
But speaking of Leos and Lions,
Toni, did you see the video of the Lions in Africa
(33:07):
they were getting it in on top of the safari truck?
No, I didn't.
Toni, it's so fitting because this is the sex show.
The Lions were so, Ok.
So in Namibia and in South Africa it’s pretty common.
And I don't know what triggered it or whatever,
but they just started getting it in
on top of the safari truck.
(33:30):
But it reminded me though, it's crazy.
It reminded me of this adult film.
I'll just say it was an adult film that I saw years ago
and they were on top of a white Jeep.
IYKYK, let's move on.
It’s funny, my friend around the corner,
my homie Stacey, he has a Jeep, Toni,
(33:53):
and he has all these rubber ducks on his dashboard.
It's hilarious.
But you know what's crazy?
He looks just like Ray J.
Like if you were to see him.
Oh wow.
You’d be like you look more like Ray J than Ray J.
Shout out to Stacey.
So Toni and Darwin have new additions
(34:15):
that you’ve probably heard in the background.
They're not my additions, they're Toni and Darwin's
new additions.
So Toni, share with the class your new additions.
Yeah, so our two dogs had puppies.
So we have the two dogs plus eight puppies
in the other room.
There's four boys and four girls.
And so far we've managed to kind of get rid,
(34:38):
not get rid of, I don't wanna say that,
but five will be going to new homes
and we're still looking for homes.
For three of them, they're so freaking adorable,
but I want them to go so freaking bad,
it's not even funny.
So yes.
I'm showing pictures now of them little Baby G.
(34:59):
It's just too cute.
Look at that face.
Yeah, I'm obsessed with Nell
and thankfully my sister is taking Nell.
So Nell will still be in the family.
So I'm happy about that.
Nell is. Look at Nell.
I've posted videos on their Instagram
because my two dogs have their own Instagram.
(35:19):
I'm so happy.
We have it on the screen, but I have the Instagram.
So somebody got Baby G, right?
Somebody got him?
Yes.
So as of now Dot unfortunately,
she was gonna go to a home,
but something unfortunate happened with that home
(35:41):
so they can't take her now.
So Dot, Fatso, and Cute Face are still available.
Yes.
Why Boom Boom?
Where'd you get that name from?
Because my husband, because Boom Boom is the biggest one
and my husband when he was a baby, he was chubby
and they called him Fatty Boom Boom as a nickname.
(36:01):
He's from the Caribbean, He’s from Grenada.
So that's what his nickname was as a baby, Fatty Boom Boom.
So because this one was probably the first puppy
and he was the biggest, we call him Boom Boom.
So isn't that crazy?
Fatso isn't the biggest one, it's Boom Boom.
Right.
Fatso used to be probably second him
(36:23):
and Boom Boom were like the two biggest,
but Boom Boom is just thriving.
So yeah.
Caribbean folks are gonna tell you about how you look.
Oh yes.
Yes, for sure.
They're gonna call you fat, they're gonna call you skinny,
they're gonna call you tall, too short,
they're gonna remind you.
Good night to everybody Caribbean, good night.
If you'd like to adopt one of these sweet little angel,
(36:47):
dog, puppy, creature, children, babies,
DM their parents on IG
@guapo_and_leila
And don't talk crazy in those DMs either
(37:07):
because they are pit bulls and they will get you.
Right.
And they're reasonably priced too, Toni.
How much are they?
$600 with a $200 deposit.
So altogether $800, right?
No, no, no, flat 600.
Oh, flat 600.
So you gotta do 200 first and then you pay the other four.
(37:28):
Yeah, 200 is going to reserve them
and let us know you really are coming to get them.
And then the remaining 400,
and they're available when they're ready for pickup.
Me and Toni were talking earlier before the show
and I told her she could have charged double that
since they're purebred.
And yall know me, you know I'm high falutin.
But I'd rather you, listen,
(37:50):
I'd rather you guys buy them there from people we know.
We know Toni and we know Darwin,
other than off of DoorDash, Ok?
Because some lady in Jersey was using her DoorDash
to sell puppies and people were buying them too.
That's insane.
That is absolutely insane.
(38:10):
I mean, but Toni, if they'll sell puppies on DoorDash,
they'll sell something more sinister.
That's how I feel about it.
Hey, what exactly?
Just, just throw the whole...
Just...
Thanks for listening and watching.
Tell your friends, tell your mama, tell your daddy,
tell your baby daddy, tell your boyfriend,
(38:31):
tell your sister, tell your kittens, tell your bullies,
tell their puppies, tell your OBGYN,
your endocrinologist, and your urologist.
Listen, tell your doula too, Ok, and your midwife.
So your FWB, your masseur,
and everyone at the Beauty Supply Store.
To follow us on Instagram @CrisDavidTV,
(38:55):
and follow our show @TheCrisDavidShow
on Instagram and YouTube.
You can also visit crisdavidshow.com.
There you'll find everything you need to know
about the show.
Before we go, your comfort comes first.
Don't compromise your comfort.
Bless and release.
Don't invest in anyone or anything
(39:17):
who doesn't give you interest.
If someone doesn't love you the way you are,
they don't love you. Don't make yourself available to the unavailable
And you know what else?
They didn't stop making dick when they made his,
and they didn't stop making pussy when they made hers.
Never underestimate the investment you make in yourself. Oh, and another one.
He put that where?
(39:37):
Back there.
Now be kind, be well, and #talklikesex,
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