The C.S. Café

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Dating has been around for a while. For those of us who have been out of the game and reentering it dating can be very challenging with new lingo, oversexualization, less eye contact, more distractions and the list goes on. Most of us want intellectual stimuli as well as intimacy. Some can be intellectual but not intimate. Some can be intimate and not intellectual. There must be a balance if...

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In this episode we talk about workplace hostility. If I say name that person, we all know who I'm talking about when it comes to that person who's triggered by your existence. The person that is obsessed with your whereabouts. The person who turns the problem on you. You know the problem that they caused. Let's get into it. Sometimes you have to stand your ground because keepi...

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In this episode, we get real about other cultures telling black Americans that they have no culture. That we have no sense of self. The main things we're known for are imitated. Never duplicate the formula close enough to solidify ownership. Most people still don't realize the original blueprint because they've seen imitation so much. Let's get into it. Tune in!

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History is going unheard. Well the truth is be silenced. It has gotten so bad that we believe the lies of someone else that to reconnect with history to find the truth for ourselves. The ones who know the truth are dying out and feel that the younger ones don't truly want to know anything about them. Better learn all you can before history has to teach you a lesson you could have skippe...

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In this episode we discuss the mistrust of physicians who cannot discard their -isms as they converse and diagnose their patients. We tend to disregard advice when it solely based on -isms. History has told us of many accounts where trust had been reneged in healthcare. Most times we don't listen. The only person that can advocate for you is you. You know your own bodies because you liv...

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In this episode, we discuss the struggles men have with being aware and accepting that most times their first time was rape. It wasn't by someone from the clergy or someone their own age but a babysitter, family friend, family member, or teacher. Society teaches men that it's a badge of honor to sleep with an older woman so it doesn't get seen as rape. It wasn't seen for ...

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This episode is for every adult who has been diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, SPD, AUTISM in their adult years. Some of us have known we were different decades ago but were never seen. Some of us were so high functioning that no one noticed. When we finally take the time to be around people who actually see the difference and can identify it it becomes a blessing. We start to actually learn how to ...

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In a time line of dating. We have more so the men who want their dates to be like their mother. You only want the part of your mother presented to you but not her whole life in totality that you didn't see. Often compared to his mother young women tend to lay down who they are becoming to represent a persona they are not. Your autonomy is yours to cherish. the fight for women's aut...

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This episode delves into the south. We often get teased a lot about our southern dialect. It may sound silly to others but to us it's something to be proud of. I wanted to uplift the culture of the south. I wanted to tell a story about southern living. Be proud of the region you came from. There's a lot of politics and harsh history but there's also culture and love. Don'...

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In this episode we peel back the layers of why people cannot separate church from trauma. Often times people bring their trauma to church or their trauma started in a church but they cannot separate the culprit from God. It is like a man/woman of the cloth and God is one in the same. They're not! Some trauma is simply from being convicted by God and other are way worse and those traumas...

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In this episode we're discussing how the 1970s Blaxploitation era redefined the art of dating. It passed down the notion that dating is mere transactional and that if a man spends money on a date then he is owed a woman's body. Well, that doesn't get us to a lasting relationship with that mindset now does it? We have to return that notion back to the 70s on BOTH ENDS. Dating i...

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How many many women wished they could have dated young under parental supervision? In this episode, we discuss raising teenagers especially young women. We tend to have a long leash on our young men but yet a shock collar on our young women. We expect them to choose wisely when they become adults but their emotional state haven't even been developed yet. All the things they could have w...

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In this episode we get into emotional regulation. What sets a person off? How did you learn to self deescalate a situation? Everyone isn't raised with the tools to do so early hence why we have prisons and diversion centers filled. We all know that even the best of us weren't taught how to regulate our emotions but by adulthood it shouldn't just be "who we are" but s...

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Pt 7/7. In this episode we get into the hard part of relationships. The ending. When does does us part. How do you move on when you have more love to give? The anger you feel about the other dying without you? The pain you feel about losing the other? The guilt you feel about wasting time. It's all part of grief and as soon as we start to let that part go then we can begin to live again...

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Pt 6/7. In this episode we shed a light on empty nesters. What happens between a couple when the kids have recently left the nest? How do you refocus on each other when you don't have to set an example for someone watching you? Learning to date each other or just date when there's no excuse to fall back on can be challenging but it's a good challenge. Don't let this era b...

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Pt 5/7. In this episode, we focus on connective intimacy. In a relationship we get so bogged down with work, chores, kids, that we forget or just plain out don't want to connect with each other. Whether it be just touch, a massage, a back rub, or sexual intimacy all of it is needed to recharge the other. I get it a relationship is not all about sex but if it stops prematurely and not co...