January 8, 2025 • 11 mins
Are you ready to become the girl of your dreams? Break free from societal norms and trends as we embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and personal style. Our founder Nour Hassan guides you through cultivating a unique aesthetic that speaks to your individuality. Forget TikTok trends; let's focus on building a wardrobe and lifestyle that align with your genuine self. Whether you're drawn to patterns, block colors, or minimalism, we’ll emphasize living authentically and independently in a world that's constantly connected.
• Importance of detachment for individuality
• Curating a personal style that reflects your true self
• The Artist's Way: nurturing creativity through self-dates
• Journaling with morning pages for clarity
• Waking up early to set the tone for your week
• Power of silence and listening
• Curating life by surrounding yourself with inspirational people
• The necessity of being your authentic self over societal expectations
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to the Curation, a show for the
culturally curious.
This is your host, noor Hassan.
Each week, I'll guide youthrough a curated edit of the
finest in art, fashion, design,culture, luxury, wellness, tech
and more.
This is your go-to space fordiscovering trailblazing ideas,
untold stories and meaningfulconversations with innovators
(00:31):
and creators who are shaping ourworld.
There's no gatekeeping here, sosit back, tune in and let's
discover only the best together,together.
(00:53):
Hey guys, welcome to theCurated by Noor podcast.
This solo episode is especiallyfor you guys, but it's mainly
for the girls.
Actually, this one is the howto be the girl episode up.
You guys wanted a part part two, so now I have some notes on my
phone that I'm gonna runthrough now with you guys on how
to be the girl.
Okay, this episode is one of myfavorites that I ever recorded
(01:15):
and it starts with a reallyimportant point.
This point is something thatreally it's not easy, but if you
can master it, then you're onyour way.
The first thing is detachment,the most important thing if
you're trying to be the girl ofyour dreams, to try to build
your character, to be unique,which is really difficult in
Yemen, because now we haveTikTok and everyone looks the
(01:36):
same and dresses the same andtalks the same and has the same
makeup and everything is thesame.
And trust me when I tell youthis is not attractive to guys,
because at the end of the daylike I'm sorry if a guy wants to
pick you out out of a group ofgirls, he's going to look and
see that you're the exact sameas every single other one.
How is that a differentiatingpoint?
The very first thing I want youto do is go back and think to
(01:59):
yourself what is my personalstyle?
Honestly, I went through aphase where I was very much into
sort of eccentric dressing.
I liked being maximalist, Iliked that sort of vibe, and now
I'm more into my minimalist era.
But this does not mean that Itry to follow the trends of the
(02:20):
times.
I just feel like that's whatmakes me happy and makes me more
comfortable.
But I think the very firstthing to get down is your
aesthetic.
Then let's be real.
Looks do matter and the way youpresent yourself matters.
But my main, main and firstpoint about how to be the girl
is to curate your wardrobe.
Figure out what you like.
Like, what is it that you like?
Patterns me personally.
(02:41):
You will never find me inpatterns, but maybe you you like
block colors, monochrome, maybeyou're more of a tomboy, maybe
you like I don't know dresses.
Whatever it is.
You need to figure out anaesthetic that is yours, not a
TikTok aesthetic, not anaesthetic that you've copied off
of another influencer, butsomething that's truly your own.
My second point is detachment,but something that's truly your
(03:07):
own.
My second point is detachment.
So if you're going to be thegirl that you have always
dreamed of, the woman that youwill look up to, you need to
make sure that you're your ownindividual person.
You're not attached to thehabits and routines of your
partner, your best friend, yourmom.
You need to find anindividualistic way of living.
Calm.
(03:28):
You need to find anindividualistic way of living
and, the end of the day, we'reall attached to other people.
You, you don't live alone.
You're not in your own world.
You're in the world witheveryone else.
So it's a really tough one, butthe way I found and then I'm
genuinely I'm trying to buildthis habit is and no, I try and
make sure that at least once aweek I have something that I
took from a book called theartist's way.
(03:48):
It's not the artist's date.
Okay, the book the artist's way.
I cannot recommend it enough.
Guys, this is one of the booksthat I feel like can really
change your life.
It's by Julia Cameron and it isa book that teaches you two
main things, and these twothings I'm going to teach you in
this episode today, and thefirst one is the artist's date.
For me, women have a lot offeminine energy.
(04:10):
We have feminine and masculine,but at the end of the day, we
are very creative creatures, andfor you to really tap into that
creativity, into yourdetachment, your individuality
you're not stuck to other peopleand their routines and
everything attachment, yourindividuality, you're not stuck
to other people and theirroutines and everything you need
(04:30):
to tap into your own artist,your own creative, your own
feminine energy.
Which basically means takeyourself out on a date every
week.
What does this entail?
Literally, pick something youlove to do, even if it's Pilates
, a coffee date, whatever it is,I don't know what you like do
that for an hour every week.
It will change your life.
The second thing is calledmorning pages.
Morning pages is one of themain tips that I give to curate
(04:54):
your life and become the girl ofyour dreams.
You journal and I literallyhated journaling.
I injured my right hand in anaccident a couple of years ago
and ever since then I wasn'treally writing much, to be
honest with you.
But this got me back to writingPen paper.
Write down three pages nonstop,matfakkarish, matfakkarish,
(05:17):
khalis Ektebi your thoughts,your flow of thoughts.
Okay, for three pages everysingle day and watch how you can
organize your life.
Everything becomes clear.
You know what you need to do.
You know what you don't need todo.
It is an incredible tool and amiraculous tool that I
personally didn't even believein.
(05:38):
But at the end of the day, letme tell you something.
It was an uncomfortable thingand I thought journaling this
morning was a big deal.
Why should I write what I'mfeeling?
What if someone finds it?
Honestly, guys, this is a majorlife hack to be the girl.
My next one is waking up early.
Okay, this one is a reallytough one because it's something
that I did for a very long time, religiously.
(05:59):
I woke up at 5 am every day,read the 5 am club.
I interviewed Robin Sharmaduring Egypt's entrepreneur
awards in 2022, and he's abrilliant man, very nice man,
and he practices what hepreaches.
But I live in Cairo and Cairois a city that never sleeps or
(06:21):
whatever.
Um, I'm excited.
How am I expected to wake up at5 am the next day?
It depends on your culture.
It depends on the city that youlive in and as Arabs in general
, we have a very like late nightstaying routine.
But my real tip for this is,instead of joining the 5 am club
and every single day waking upearly, you can have a day in the
week where you need to get upearly and set the tone for your
(06:43):
week.
This is my biggest piece ofadvice for the girl routine.
It's not about every day and itwill never be best.
It's about once a week to setthe tone, okay.
So the next thing is the powerof silence.
This is major because it tookme forever to master and I'm a
yapper like I like talking, Ilike yapping, I'm a podcaster,
(07:04):
this is my job, but sometimessilence is your biggest and most
powerful tool.
Fi aw et.
Listen to the otherconversations and just know when
to zip it.
Do not talk, don't try to fillthe silence, don't try to add
unnecessary comments, don't eventry to entertain.
(07:25):
This is what I'm trying to getto.
Women fall into the trap offeeling like they need to be the
entertainer, and you're not theentertainer.
That's not your role.
Your role is to be a strong andindependent woman and let
whoever else is around youentertain you.
Ultimately, being the girl isnot about being the center of
(07:47):
attention.
It's not about trying to be thesmartest, best looking,
whatever in the room.
It's about holding your own andbeing comfortable with yourself
.
The biggest sign of beingcomfortable with yourself is
being comfortable in silence.
Sometimes you're sitting,you're chilling alone with
people, with friends, withpartners, whatever.
You don't need to fill thesilence.
You can can just enjoy it.
(08:08):
But God, this is a life changerand I feel the girls that are
just talking, talking, talking,talking, and there's no point
reminds me of that.
Devil wears Prada reference,where she says you're doing this
and you should be doing this,okay.
Next point and I only have liketwo more is the idea of curating
(08:29):
your life or editing your life,people and all.
So this one is it goes back toa lot of things that I talk
about regularly on my solos,actually, guys, but this is a
point that I will harp on aboutforever which is Back to the
boundaries and blocking episode,back to the leveling up episode
.
Essentially, it's the idea ofmaking sure that you're
surrounded by people who reallyinspire you and bring you up.
(08:51):
My podcast it strikes a balancebetween getting to know someone
as a person and getting to knowtheir successes and their work,
and I try to inspire you in apositive way.
I don't like to deal with thenegativity unless you absolutely
have to, and certain peoplewill bring you that.
So my tip is خلوا بالكوا أويأنتو بتعادوا كتير مع أمين.
(09:16):
بتكلموا مع أمين.
Who do you share your dreamswith?
And this is something that, ifyou want to be the girl of your
dreams, you're never going toget to if you are not careful of
Okay.
Want to be the girl of yourdreams, you're never going to
get to if you are not careful ofokay for editing your life,
curating your life, people andall is a really important one,
okay, guys, my last point forbeing the girl is something that
I mentioned in episode one, butI'm gonna come back to it which
(09:38):
is I want you to sit back andrelax and stop trying to be the
fun girl, stop trying toentertain, stop trying to be the
girl that's like so fun and allof this like, but god, this
does not help anyone.
If you are a tiktoker, okay,great, then that's your job to
entertain.
(09:59):
But in general, just beyourself, like that is the most
essential and difficult thing toreach and so cliche to say.
But if you're trying to be thefun girl, the smart girl, uh,
the hot girl, a certaincharacter, yani, whatever the
character is, okay, you're notbeing yourself and essentially
(10:19):
it shows so.
In order to avoid all of this,I really think that consuming
less content, first of all, isreally important.
Surrounding yourself withpeople that you actually feel
inspired by or that support yourdreams, and finally doing a
date with yourself, figuring outwho you really are and
presenting that way.
That is all the beginning ofcoming back to yourself, coming
(10:42):
back to the girl of your dreams,rather than the girls that you
look at on social media and youthink I wish I could be her
someday, or I want to be hersomeday, when that is actually
not possible, never will be,because you're not her, you're
you.
So that's my episode on how tobe the girl, part two.
I hope you guys liked it andI'll see you guys in my next
(11:03):
solo Bye.
Welcome to the Curation, a show for the
culturally curious.
This is your host, noor Hassan.
Each week, I'll guide youthrough a curated edit of the
finest in art, fashion, design,culture, luxury, wellness, tech
and more.
This is your go-to space fordiscovering trailblazing ideas,
untold stories and meaningfulconversations with innovators
(00:31):
and creators who are shaping ourworld.
There's no gatekeeping here, sosit back, tune in and let's
discover only the best together,together.
(00:53):
Hey guys, welcome to theCurated by Noor podcast.
This solo episode is especiallyfor you guys, but it's mainly
for the girls.
Actually, this one is the howto be the girl episode up.
You guys wanted a part part two, so now I have some notes on my
phone that I'm gonna runthrough now with you guys on how
to be the girl.
Okay, this episode is one of myfavorites that I ever recorded
(01:15):
and it starts with a reallyimportant point.
This point is something thatreally it's not easy, but if you
can master it, then you're onyour way.
The first thing is detachment,the most important thing if
you're trying to be the girl ofyour dreams, to try to build
your character, to be unique,which is really difficult in
Yemen, because now we haveTikTok and everyone looks the
(01:36):
same and dresses the same andtalks the same and has the same
makeup and everything is thesame.
And trust me when I tell youthis is not attractive to guys,
because at the end of the daylike I'm sorry if a guy wants to
pick you out out of a group ofgirls, he's going to look and
see that you're the exact sameas every single other one.
How is that a differentiatingpoint?
The very first thing I want youto do is go back and think to
(01:59):
yourself what is my personalstyle?
Honestly, I went through aphase where I was very much into
sort of eccentric dressing.
I liked being maximalist, Iliked that sort of vibe, and now
I'm more into my minimalist era.
But this does not mean that Itry to follow the trends of the
(02:20):
times.
I just feel like that's whatmakes me happy and makes me more
comfortable.
But I think the very firstthing to get down is your
aesthetic.
Then let's be real.
Looks do matter and the way youpresent yourself matters.
But my main, main and firstpoint about how to be the girl
is to curate your wardrobe.
Figure out what you like.
Like, what is it that you like?
Patterns me personally.
(02:41):
You will never find me inpatterns, but maybe you you like
block colors, monochrome, maybeyou're more of a tomboy, maybe
you like I don't know dresses.
Whatever it is.
You need to figure out anaesthetic that is yours, not a
TikTok aesthetic, not anaesthetic that you've copied off
of another influencer, butsomething that's truly your own.
My second point is detachment,but something that's truly your
(03:07):
own.
My second point is detachment.
So if you're going to be thegirl that you have always
dreamed of, the woman that youwill look up to, you need to
make sure that you're your ownindividual person.
You're not attached to thehabits and routines of your
partner, your best friend, yourmom.
You need to find anindividualistic way of living.
Calm.
(03:28):
You need to find anindividualistic way of living
and, the end of the day, we'reall attached to other people.
You, you don't live alone.
You're not in your own world.
You're in the world witheveryone else.
So it's a really tough one, butthe way I found and then I'm
genuinely I'm trying to buildthis habit is and no, I try and
make sure that at least once aweek I have something that I
took from a book called theartist's way.
(03:48):
It's not the artist's date.
Okay, the book the artist's way.
I cannot recommend it enough.
Guys, this is one of the booksthat I feel like can really
change your life.
It's by Julia Cameron and it isa book that teaches you two
main things, and these twothings I'm going to teach you in
this episode today, and thefirst one is the artist's date.
For me, women have a lot offeminine energy.
(04:10):
We have feminine and masculine,but at the end of the day, we
are very creative creatures, andfor you to really tap into that
creativity, into yourdetachment, your individuality
you're not stuck to other peopleand their routines and
everything attachment, yourindividuality, you're not stuck
to other people and theirroutines and everything you need
(04:30):
to tap into your own artist,your own creative, your own
feminine energy.
Which basically means takeyourself out on a date every
week.
What does this entail?
Literally, pick something youlove to do, even if it's Pilates
, a coffee date, whatever it is,I don't know what you like do
that for an hour every week.
It will change your life.
The second thing is calledmorning pages.
Morning pages is one of themain tips that I give to curate
(04:54):
your life and become the girl ofyour dreams.
You journal and I literallyhated journaling.
I injured my right hand in anaccident a couple of years ago
and ever since then I wasn'treally writing much, to be
honest with you.
But this got me back to writingPen paper.
Write down three pages nonstop,matfakkarish, matfakkarish,
(05:17):
khalis Ektebi your thoughts,your flow of thoughts.
Okay, for three pages everysingle day and watch how you can
organize your life.
Everything becomes clear.
You know what you need to do.
You know what you don't need todo.
It is an incredible tool and amiraculous tool that I
personally didn't even believein.
(05:38):
But at the end of the day, letme tell you something.
It was an uncomfortable thingand I thought journaling this
morning was a big deal.
Why should I write what I'mfeeling?
What if someone finds it?
Honestly, guys, this is a majorlife hack to be the girl.
My next one is waking up early.
Okay, this one is a reallytough one because it's something
that I did for a very long time, religiously.
(05:59):
I woke up at 5 am every day,read the 5 am club.
I interviewed Robin Sharmaduring Egypt's entrepreneur
awards in 2022, and he's abrilliant man, very nice man,
and he practices what hepreaches.
But I live in Cairo and Cairois a city that never sleeps or
(06:21):
whatever.
Um, I'm excited.
How am I expected to wake up at5 am the next day?
It depends on your culture.
It depends on the city that youlive in and as Arabs in general
, we have a very like late nightstaying routine.
But my real tip for this is,instead of joining the 5 am club
and every single day waking upearly, you can have a day in the
week where you need to get upearly and set the tone for your
(06:43):
week.
This is my biggest piece ofadvice for the girl routine.
It's not about every day and itwill never be best.
It's about once a week to setthe tone, okay.
So the next thing is the powerof silence.
This is major because it tookme forever to master and I'm a
yapper like I like talking, Ilike yapping, I'm a podcaster,
(07:04):
this is my job, but sometimessilence is your biggest and most
powerful tool.
Fi aw et.
Listen to the otherconversations and just know when
to zip it.
Do not talk, don't try to fillthe silence, don't try to add
unnecessary comments, don't eventry to entertain.
(07:25):
This is what I'm trying to getto.
Women fall into the trap offeeling like they need to be the
entertainer, and you're not theentertainer.
That's not your role.
Your role is to be a strong andindependent woman and let
whoever else is around youentertain you.
Ultimately, being the girl isnot about being the center of
(07:47):
attention.
It's not about trying to be thesmartest, best looking,
whatever in the room.
It's about holding your own andbeing comfortable with yourself
.
The biggest sign of beingcomfortable with yourself is
being comfortable in silence.
Sometimes you're sitting,you're chilling alone with
people, with friends, withpartners, whatever.
You don't need to fill thesilence.
You can can just enjoy it.
(08:08):
But God, this is a life changerand I feel the girls that are
just talking, talking, talking,talking, and there's no point
reminds me of that.
Devil wears Prada reference,where she says you're doing this
and you should be doing this,okay.
Next point and I only have liketwo more is the idea of curating
(08:29):
your life or editing your life,people and all.
So this one is it goes back toa lot of things that I talk
about regularly on my solos,actually, guys, but this is a
point that I will harp on aboutforever which is Back to the
boundaries and blocking episode,back to the leveling up episode
.
Essentially, it's the idea ofmaking sure that you're
surrounded by people who reallyinspire you and bring you up.
(08:51):
My podcast it strikes a balancebetween getting to know someone
as a person and getting to knowtheir successes and their work,
and I try to inspire you in apositive way.
I don't like to deal with thenegativity unless you absolutely
have to, and certain peoplewill bring you that.
So my tip is خلوا بالكوا أويأنتو بتعادوا كتير مع أمين.
(09:16):
بتكلموا مع أمين.
Who do you share your dreamswith?
And this is something that, ifyou want to be the girl of your
dreams, you're never going toget to if you are not careful of
Okay.
Want to be the girl of yourdreams, you're never going to
get to if you are not careful ofokay for editing your life,
curating your life, people andall is a really important one,
okay, guys, my last point forbeing the girl is something that
I mentioned in episode one, butI'm gonna come back to it which
(09:38):
is I want you to sit back andrelax and stop trying to be the
fun girl, stop trying toentertain, stop trying to be the
girl that's like so fun and allof this like, but god, this
does not help anyone.
If you are a tiktoker, okay,great, then that's your job to
entertain.
(09:59):
But in general, just beyourself, like that is the most
essential and difficult thing toreach and so cliche to say.
But if you're trying to be thefun girl, the smart girl, uh,
the hot girl, a certaincharacter, yani, whatever the
character is, okay, you're notbeing yourself and essentially
(10:19):
it shows so.
In order to avoid all of this,I really think that consuming
less content, first of all, isreally important.
Surrounding yourself withpeople that you actually feel
inspired by or that support yourdreams, and finally doing a
date with yourself, figuring outwho you really are and
presenting that way.
That is all the beginning ofcoming back to yourself, coming
(10:42):
back to the girl of your dreams,rather than the girls that you
look at on social media and youthink I wish I could be her
someday, or I want to be hersomeday, when that is actually
not possible, never will be,because you're not her, you're
you.
So that's my episode on how tobe the girl, part two.
I hope you guys liked it andI'll see you guys in my next
(11:03):
solo Bye.
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