The Trap: Part 2

This week on The Dating Detectives, we meet Sandra, an accomplished counselor whose relationship began with friendship, trust, and late-night heart-to-hearts during the pandemic. But what started as a slow-burn romance with a charming EMT quickly spiraled into a web of lies, emotional manipulation, financial devastation, and ultimately, physical violence. In Part 2 of this two-part series, Sandra bravely walks us through the gradual erosion of reality that left her questioning everything, including her own sanity. It’s a textbook case of how abusers groom, isolate, and control, layer by layer, and a powerful reminder that trusting your instincts isn’t just important, it can be life-saving.

⚠️ Content Warning: This episode includes descriptions of emotional, financial, and physical abuse

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