April 22, 2025 • 29 mins
In this episode of "The Dead Life," I am joined by my youngest daughter, Sophia DuBois, as we delve into the profound complexities surrounding grief and the experiences of those navigating the emotional turbulence of loss. Our discussion centers on the physical manifestations of grief, particularly as they relate to the passing of loved ones, offering listeners a deeper understanding of how such emotions may express themselves in the body. We address the perplexing claims circulating on social media regarding spirits and their nature, emphasizing the importance of discerning credible sources in the realm of mediumship. Through call-ins, we provide guidance and insight to our listeners, aiming to alleviate their emotional confusion surrounding life after death. Ultimately, our departed loved ones continue to exist in a benevolent form, providing comfort and support from beyond.
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Welcome to the Dead Life.
Here's world renowned mediumAlison Dubois.
Welcome to the Dead Life.
I'm Alison Dubois.
I inspired the hit televisionshow Medium.
Today I have my youngestdaughter Sophia Dubois in studio
for part one of Love Me LoveMe not to help answer calling questions
for my listeners.
Sophia brings an intuitiveperspective from a Gen Z point of
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Welcome to the show.
Thank you.
It's always good to have you here.
I know.
I'm happy to be back.
Little insight from Soph.
People love hearing your insight.
So we got some callbacks fromlisteners and call ins from the past
so this will be a nice followup for some of them.
Okay, why don't we go aheadand start with the first one and
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take it from there.
Okay.
Hi Alison, I am a fellowPhoenician, My name is Jennifer and
I have a quick question for you.
I was scrolling through TikTokand there was a woman being interviewed
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and she was claiming thatshe's a clairvoyant and that she
says that all spirits aredemons and that mediums are not seeing
or reading our loved ones,that these are just demons that are
seeding off of our weaknessand that they have been studying
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us and our parents for ourlifetime and they're the ones that
are coming through and givingyou those answers and feeding off
of our your customers weaknesses.
I was just wanting to know ifwhat your thoughts are on this and
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how do you think about someoneclaiming that they're demons.
Spirits are demons.
But I really love your showand keep doing what you're doing
and you have a beautifulfamily and thanks so much.
Bye bye.
So because this is TikTokbased obviously I wanted to include
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your perspective because Ispend no time on TikTok and you're
familiar with it, the platform.
So how funny.
Clairvoyant that claimsSpirits are just demons.
Yes.
That's far more believablethan our loved ones presences just
exceeding the lifetime oftheir body.
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So I'm curious how thisclairvoyant drew the conclusion that
spirits are demons.
I think there's probably a lotof crackpots on TikTok.
Yeah.
And given the source, it, youknow, everybody's got a microphone
now.
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A lot of people didn't have tobe tested like I did.
They weren't doing readings ontelevision where your accuracy was
displayed.
Yeah.
They're just out there saying,this is who I am, this is what I
do, and this is, you know,what is.
And I would say take that witha grain of salt, because she sounds
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like a crackpot to me.
She obviously doesn't knowwhat she's talking about.
If she calls herself aclairvoyant, does she consider herself
more of a psychic and not a medium?
Like, I don't really know.
But even if she was, she's nota good one.
And it sounds like she has adark side if everything's going back
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to demons for her.
Well, that's what I'm sayingis, first of all, TikTok.
I don't know if this was likeone of those street interviews you
saw, because I see a lot ofthose on TikTok, or is just like
a random person or if this wasset up from her.
But like, you're saying if shecalls herself a clairvoyant, but
she only sees demons becauseobviously she's saying she can talk
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to them and see them.
Well, that's interesting.
Okay, so now is she sayingthat she's evil, too?
Like, you know what I mean?
Like, if she can only seedemons, but then there's all these
mediums out there that arebringing through loved ones, and
they have accurate, you know,depictions and details.
There's something wrong withthis girl.
I agree.
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When I do readings, darkinformation and anything demonic
is not mentioned in readings.
The other side is light, andit's us being free of our wounds
and flaws and mistakes that wemade in the physical world.
It sounds like she doesn'tknow what she's talking about, so
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she spins it into talkingabout demons because nobody can verify,
prove, or substantiate thatthey are demons or aren't demons.
So there's some people thatare out there that are just saying
things that can't be tracked.
Yeah.
And people are out therebored, apparently.
Watch these people.
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So, Jennifer, find a morereliable source.
Oh, that's why she's here.
I get it.
It's unfortunate.
Tom And I, Tom McMullen, forthose of you who listen to the show,
is my resident astrologer.
And you've pulled up tiktoksbefore of astrologers that are like
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20 on TikTok that don't knowwhat the hell they're talking about
and we laugh our asses off.
So I'm just saying ifsomebody's an actual medium, they
would hear this person andthings that they say and know that
this is an individual that'sgot issues who is going down a dark
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path.
People who specifically talkabout demons at length tend to have
dark energy themselves, whichis why this is what rules their mind
and why they.
It's a way of explainingthings away.
Maybe why she can't doreadings, maybe why she can't do
mediumship readings because.
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Or why she's not accurate or getting.
Details because they're alldemons trying to misguide us.
Right?
Yeah.
So it sounds like an excuseand a way to get attention.
That would be my take on that.
And I'm really sorry thatthose people are out there.
It was hard enough 20 years ago.
I wrote chapters in my booksso that people would know how to
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spot a reliable medium, anaccurate medium, so that they didn't
get taken by somebody whoeither had a little bit of abilities
and shouldn't be doing itprofessionally or just somebody that
was out of their mind that wascoming from a dark place.
When your books came out, itwas, you know, there wasn't social
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media with anyone could post.
Right.
Anyone can have a microphone now.
And so there's also a lot ofsources out there.
Right.
That people are relying on.
But back then they couldreally just look it up at the library
or even online of what, whatbooks they could look into.
But now it's just the sevensecond content, one minute content.
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And then they're like, oh,wait, okay, so that must be real
because I saw it on the Internet.
This sort of reminds me ofSanteria, which is more of a Latin
based spiritualism.
Okay.
Where they say you've got darkenergy or you have to their client
that you have spirits thataren't at rest or you've got a demonic
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spirit or a hex has beenplaced on your family.
Give me $300 and I will say aspell to remove it.
So I don't know if that'swhere this particular tiktoker was
headed with that, if shemonetizes people's fear.
But whatever she's doing withit is not constructive and it's not
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good for people to followsomeone like that down that path.
Yeah.
So I don't, I don't know ifthat makes sense as a medium.
I know that different.
We have differentpersonalities and different life
experiences and come fromdifferent places and that can tie
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in our personality, can tieinto our style of readings, but this
is completely different.
This is a different beliefaltogether where she believes that
spirits are demonic andthey've been watching us for our
entire lives and our familyfor their entire lives.
It's interesting, she soundslike she hasn't been on the planet
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for centuries.
So I'm curious as to where sheis getting her source of information
for this.
But either way, it was a lotharder 20 years ago when I had to
be able to prove somethingthat could be visually monitored
by others and let people drawtheir own conclusion.
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And then there's today wherepeople ask for no proof and they
go down these roads justbelieving it or willingly going down
these roads and seek out these people.
It wasn't like that 20 years ago.
20 years ago we probably hadlike four well known mediums on the
planet that had a TV presence.
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And you didn't have hundredsof people out there, some from Nigeria
or wherever else in the worldthat are pretending to be spiritualists,
take your money and then theyleave you high and dry.
So this sounds like somebodythat shouldn't be on TikTok, but
I know free information andall of that.
And people are curious aboutpeople who have these strange beliefs.
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I think it's pretty universalnow that people believe that there
is life after death and thatour loved ones are around us.
And that comes from aconstructive, a positive place in
knowing that we matter to themand that they continue to be part
of our life.
What this woman was talkingabout serves no one.
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Yeah.
So let's go to question two.
Hi, Allison.
My name is Loretta.
I had a reading with you lastSeptember and you did let me know
that mom was going to beleaving this one world in the early
part of 2025.
And she did pass away in February.
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So I appreciated that.
Heads up.
And I was able to plan for it,at least emotionally.
And I did get, you know, amessage from my dad before she passed
that in the dream that I had,he they were packing to go on a trip
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to Hawaii.
They'd never been to Hawaii.
I'd actually taken mom to Hawaii.
My, I was packing too.
And then my dad says, well,no, you can't come with us.
So when I woke up, I knew thatshe was going to be leaving.
And that was The Wednesdaybefore she passed.
And I knew I needed to get to her.
And so I was able to land andbe there to spend the last three
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and a half hours with her.
The question I have is thenight that mom passed.
I have since she's passed.
It's been a couple of weeksnow, About a month, actually.
I've been experiencingphysical reactions that I've never
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had before.
And so mom had what startedher process.
She fell in December, aroundChristmas time, and broke her right
hip at her death bed.
I was actually, I think wassitting on the right hand side, and
I had my hand on her leg.
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She wasn't able to speak atthat time, but I played music for
her.
I knew she could hear all the things.
And I never left anything unsaid.
And she didn't either between us.
So I feel good with that.
But it's this physicalmanifestation of pain that I'm wondering
about.
Like, at first I thought, oh,my God, do I have a blood clot?
Because I was on the plane, Iwas taking aspirin.
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I've been to the doctor, andthen they don't find anything wrong
with me.
And so I'm just wondering howgrief or why grief would manifest
physically.
I know that I have beencrying, but I also know that there's
some tears yet that I stillhave to shed.
Okay, that's my question.
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And also, just as everyone, Ithink that's called in.
I just want to give you andyour family a lot of blessings and
to thank you for everythingthat you do for us.
What a sweetheart.
I know everybody likes Loretta.
Loretta, we agree.
Everybody knows she's tellingthe truth.
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No, Loretta was great.
And thank you for sending yourwell wishes out to the other call
ins.
I think that's very sweet.
I'm glad I was able to giveher a heads up on her mom's passing
so that she could mentally prepare.
And I always tell my clientsthat in readings, this isn't a bad
thing.
This is to prepare you forsomething that will be mentally and
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emotionally draining.
And that's the reason it helpsto know ahead of time when somebody's
gonna pass and what thatwindow is.
So I'm glad that helped.
The dream where dad washelping mom pack.
I love that I was gonna say.
I love that it's so symbolicof that.
He was saying, I'm gonna havemom with me.
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She won't be alone.
And I' so that Loretta knewthat her mom would be okay.
But also, you can't go with us.
It's not your time.
Yet.
Right.
So I love that it was astraightforward prediction and giving
her that information.
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Also, she was communicatingwith her dad in those moments, even
though it was more visual.
Experiencing the physicalreactions can.
And I know that my healerfriends would be aware of this.
They can manifest from.
From grief.
You can start having somephysical reactions to loss.
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And Diane Goldner couldprobably explain more specifically
and how it affects differentparts of your body, depending on
what you're grieving.
However, I also know that whenpeople pass and they pass of illness
or they feel like their body'sbroken, sometimes after they cross,
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they'll make us feel things.
And it's how they communicatewith me, too, so that I understand
how they died.
Like, what it felt like, whatthey felt like at the moment they
were passing, when they were crossing.
So her mom may becommunicating through those feelings
that the daughter has.
And so those feelings may bevery temporary of what was hurting
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her or saying, baby, I hurtall over.
You know, I didn't feel good.
And it's, it's, it's.
It's a good thing that I wasable to let go.
It was my time.
I wasn't going to get better.
So having a temporary physicalreaction can happen when they are
trying to communicate to youhow they felt at that time so that,
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you know that they're betteroff now not having to feel those
symptoms anymore.
Her mom may be doing that onceLoretta acknowledges it and says,
mom, I know you know, I'm justsaying, this is me spitballing.
I know that your knees didn'tfeel good.
I know your back hurt.
I know it was hard to breathe.
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Whatever that feeling was,once you acknowledge it, you'll feel
an easing of the energy ofthose physical manifestations that
you're getting, and they'llshift their energy to now show you
what they feel like now, whichwill give you a sense of peace, this
overwhelming love and wellness.
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And so sometimes theycommunicate it briefly until you
acknowledge them and thatthat's how they felt.
So that they can now show youhow they feel in the present.
It's like a calling card.
Yeah.
You know, I've had a guy whowas shot in the back and I felt the
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impact and, you know, lost mybreath before.
And that's how they'llcommunicate that once I acknowledge
the young man that was killedand how he was killed and how I was
sorry that nobody grieved him,how people weren't there loving him
through his life, how he had ahard life, everything eased up.
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But it's how they communicatethis is me thinking you'll know it's
them through those specifictypes of pains that they communicated
to you.
Yeah.
Like, I.
I get it for you specificallyfeeling those things because you're
a medium.
That is what you're supposedto do is tell them, okay, this is
how they died.
Or, you know, I.
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I feel like.
And I'm not, you know, inhealthcare or like a scientist or
anything, but I feel like ifyou're so overwhelmed and obviously
crying a lot and like, whichcan give you headaches and then make
it so you're not taking careof yourself as much or eating as
much or sleeping or maybesleeping too much, you know, Dehydrated.
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Dehydrated.
I could see that.
And you may be an overthinker,and I'm not judging because I'm also
an overthinker.
So you might be feelingsomething that you've already had
before, but you're justthinking so much about it because
your mom did just pass away.
So now you're.
Which is actually a goodthing, that.
You might be more aware.
She's more aware.
And now you're wanting to takecare of yourself and live a long
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and happy life.
Right.
Which is good that you'regoing to the doctor and getting it
checked out and everything.
I mean, steer clear.
But I feel like you're goodand, yeah, you're just sad.
If she wasn't going to beokay, her dad would have packed a
bag for her.
Totally right, though.
So that didn't happen.
Obviously, she's not passinganytime soon.
Sometimes they will make youfeel things more profoundly in an
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ache or a need for you to goto the doctor when they're trying
to get you there, to interveneon your behalf and buffer you, knowing
there's a more severe problem.
So they can do that as well.
But the timing with her momjust dying a month ago, I don't really
think it was that.
But I'm glad she's getting itchecked out.
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Yeah.
Because sometimes people willtell me they had to die in order
to save someone else they love.
And that could be her communicating.
I could do that, thisunwellness, just.
To get her right to the doctor.
To get her to the doctor toget her checked out.
If it turns out that there wasnothing wrong, then that wasn't the
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case.
Yeah.
So we could eliminate that.
Sometimes people will justtake on, you know, because like you
said, she's not eating, notdrinking, and.
And she's grieving.
And we don't realize thatstress depletes our body so heavily.
Yeah.
And I think I'm thinking,right, it's so un.
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Underestimated what stressdoes to our system.
It short circuits us.
So it.
It can be that.
For me, it's when they'recommunicating how they felt.
Well, and the reason why itsaid she was an overthinker was because
she was thinking back tohaving aspirin on her flight, and
that could cause a blood clot.
And I was like, well, okay,let's tune it.
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You know, doesn't that thinyour blood, though?
Yeah, but if it thinned yourblood, wouldn't it not be likely
to clot?
Well, that's why I called heran overthinker.
Okay.
I know I have a lot of nursesas clients.
You can email me and let meknow if that's right, because I think
they give you the bloodthinners so you don't clot.
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But anyways, yeah, she's worried.
And when somebody dies, itmakes you more paranoid of your own
death.
Yeah.
Your own health, your own death.
And so it's heavy on her mind,the energy of the funeral and making
arrangements and life afterdeath, even her parents being together.
So because it's so present onher mind, she may be slightly overreaching
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on the ailments that she'sfeeling or the dis.
Ease that she's feeling, youknow, that unsettled nature that
she seems to be in.
So, yeah, I think that answers that.
So thank you, Loretta.
Let's go on to caller three.
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Hey, Allison, it's Noah again.
Always love to hear what youhave to say.
I love your shows.
So my question today is when Iguess I'm such a sucker in a way.
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My mom is 99 right now, andshe is not dead yet, but she is on
her way.
And I'm just mourning like crazy.
It's hard for me to be normalright now.
I know she's 99.
She lived a long life.
I'm a mama's girl, but I'meight hours away, and how do I tap
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in when it's time and she isleaving this realm?
Can I actually walk with herto meet the relatives and come back?
Is there a way for me to do itfrom far away?
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Hopefully you could answerthat question, Allison.
Thank you so much.
Bye.
So I just thought this was aninteresting question, and obviously
she is a mama's girl, and shemay feel like she needs to be with
her mom more than her momfeels like she needs that company
as well.
So that's a very specificplace to try and be in it seems as
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though when they pass, they dosee their relatives and loved ones.
It seems like kind of aprivate moment that the only time
I've heard anybody say they'vewitnessed seeing not only the, the
mother, but other relativesthat were present is near death experiences
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where everybody comes andsays, you've got to go back and they
can see them all together or amedium that brings them all through,
but not the moment thatthey're having that crossover.
So I found that very interesting.
Well, especially since, Imean, it's not your time yet, so
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for you to, I mean, of courseyou want to walk your mom to the
gates of heaven and see your,you know, dead relatives.
I, I mean, I would too, but.
It'S not like taking them tothe airport, I was gonna say, but
it's.
It'S also not your moment.
Like it's for her moment tohave this realization of, oh, McKay,
I'm crossing and being atpeace with that, you know, and you
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said you're eight hours away.
I don't know if that's flyingor driving or what, but she's 99.
Like, I would try and make itout there as much as possible, especially
if you're getting thesefeelings right now, you know, that's
good advice.
I would, I'd go out there andstay if I could.
I would too.
99.
It's a nine year this year.
Year of endings, as we know.
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People are falling off thatwe're seeing all over the place.
People are letting go andtransitioning, and that's exactly
what a nine year does.
I would bet money that her momwill cross this year and that Noah
needs to be there if that'swhat she feels like she needs to
do.
But as you said, it's a veryprivate moment when her mother crosses
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and sees all the people sheloved that she lost throughout her
life.
And there's a reunion and ifwe were there, it makes it about
us.
Exactly.
Which is sort of, you know,can be perceived as a selfish act
and we don't want that either.
Yeah.
So it's going to be hard forher to leave you too.
I mean, sure, you're a mama's girl.
Of course she doesn't want toleave you here.
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But if her mom's 99 to sayshe's probably ready.
No, it's not worried.
Or Noah's mother is notworried about her five year old daughter
being able to eat and survive.
It's different.
She'll know that Noah's goingto be all right.
Well, and even the Last, Ithink it was Loretta, who.
Whose mom passed away a month ago.
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She said that she got theclosure she needed because there
was not one thing that wasleft unsaid.
So maybe go be with her.
Say everything you want to sayto her.
Listen to the stories from heras a kid or you as a kid, and just
get the most out of it.
So when it is time for her tocross, you're at peace with it.
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I had a friend, Dominique, youknow who she is?
And I'd known her since I was 14.
And she died at 31 of cancerand before she passed.
And this is just a suggestionto people who have a loved one that's
crossing.
She really wanted to go upnorth to Prescott.
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You know, she wanted to go upthere and be in nature and see the
birds and the pine trees andhave that experience, but she wasn't
well enough to.
So a friend of mine and Ibrought in the plants, we opened
the windows.
I even got.
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I think it was a bluebird,mylar balloon, you know, to represent
nature and butterflies andstuff like that, and brought it to
her house and just tried tosurround her and sort of say, close
your eyes, you know, now, andlet's visualize you taking a walk
and what that would feel like.
I know it's not the same, butit is nice to ask when you know someone's
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going to pass.
What do you want?
Not me.
It's not about me.
What do you want?
And do those things with them.
Domini wanted a lobster fordinner before she died because she
had never had lobster.
Yeah.
And so we took her out forlobster, and she ate it, and she
was very happy.
But it can be something assmall, as sad.
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And I'm so glad we did it.
I mean, what a special memory,you know?
So I hope Noah does that withher mom.
Also, record your mom talkingabout anything historical in the
family, especially if there'syounger people in the family to pass
that knowledge onto, becausethat information dies with that person.
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And I just find it a very goodidea to get older people on video
to sort of encapsulate themoment and to be able to pass that
along.
So recipes.
Yeah, Things of that nature.
That's one of the big ones Ihear from women.
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They're like, my mom didn'twrite her recipe down.
Did you ask?
Yeah, I was gonna say, did youeven ask?
I love it.
So, anyways, Noah, thank youfor calling in, and I wish you well.
I hope your mom has a smooth passing.
My sense is she will have asmooth passing.
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You cannot be there at themoment that she crosses on the other
side.
However, you can be next toher, holding her hand, and that's
an important place to be as well.
Okay.
Well, Sophia, thank you forweighing in today.
No problem, then.
Thank you to my listeners.
Tune in next week for part twoof Love Me, Love Me Not.
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Welcome to the Dead Life.
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Today I have my youngestdaughter Sophia Dubois in studio
for part one of Love Me LoveMe not to help answer calling questions
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Sophia brings an intuitiveperspective from a Gen Z point of
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Welcome to the show.
Thank you.
It's always good to have you here.
I know.
I'm happy to be back.
Little insight from Soph.
People love hearing your insight.
So we got some callbacks fromlisteners and call ins from the past
so this will be a nice followup for some of them.
Okay, why don't we go aheadand start with the first one and
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take it from there.
Okay.
Hi Alison, I am a fellowPhoenician, My name is Jennifer and
I have a quick question for you.
I was scrolling through TikTokand there was a woman being interviewed
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and she was claiming thatshe's a clairvoyant and that she
says that all spirits aredemons and that mediums are not seeing
or reading our loved ones,that these are just demons that are
seeding off of our weaknessand that they have been studying
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us and our parents for ourlifetime and they're the ones that
are coming through and givingyou those answers and feeding off
of our your customers weaknesses.
I was just wanting to know ifwhat your thoughts are on this and
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how do you think about someoneclaiming that they're demons.
Spirits are demons.
But I really love your showand keep doing what you're doing
and you have a beautifulfamily and thanks so much.
Bye bye.
So because this is TikTokbased obviously I wanted to include
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your perspective because Ispend no time on TikTok and you're
familiar with it, the platform.
So how funny.
Clairvoyant that claimsSpirits are just demons.
Yes.
That's far more believablethan our loved ones presences just
exceeding the lifetime oftheir body.
(03:31):
So I'm curious how thisclairvoyant drew the conclusion that
spirits are demons.
I think there's probably a lotof crackpots on TikTok.
Yeah.
And given the source, it, youknow, everybody's got a microphone
now.
(03:51):
A lot of people didn't have tobe tested like I did.
They weren't doing readings ontelevision where your accuracy was
displayed.
Yeah.
They're just out there saying,this is who I am, this is what I
do, and this is, you know,what is.
And I would say take that witha grain of salt, because she sounds
(04:12):
like a crackpot to me.
She obviously doesn't knowwhat she's talking about.
If she calls herself aclairvoyant, does she consider herself
more of a psychic and not a medium?
Like, I don't really know.
But even if she was, she's nota good one.
And it sounds like she has adark side if everything's going back
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to demons for her.
Well, that's what I'm sayingis, first of all, TikTok.
I don't know if this was likeone of those street interviews you
saw, because I see a lot ofthose on TikTok, or is just like
a random person or if this wasset up from her.
But like, you're saying if shecalls herself a clairvoyant, but
she only sees demons becauseobviously she's saying she can talk
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to them and see them.
Well, that's interesting.
Okay, so now is she sayingthat she's evil, too?
Like, you know what I mean?
Like, if she can only seedemons, but then there's all these
mediums out there that arebringing through loved ones, and
they have accurate, you know,depictions and details.
There's something wrong withthis girl.
I agree.
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When I do readings, darkinformation and anything demonic
is not mentioned in readings.
The other side is light, andit's us being free of our wounds
and flaws and mistakes that wemade in the physical world.
It sounds like she doesn'tknow what she's talking about, so
(05:37):
she spins it into talkingabout demons because nobody can verify,
prove, or substantiate thatthey are demons or aren't demons.
So there's some people thatare out there that are just saying
things that can't be tracked.
Yeah.
And people are out therebored, apparently.
Watch these people.
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So, Jennifer, find a morereliable source.
Oh, that's why she's here.
I get it.
It's unfortunate.
Tom And I, Tom McMullen, forthose of you who listen to the show,
is my resident astrologer.
And you've pulled up tiktoksbefore of astrologers that are like
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20 on TikTok that don't knowwhat the hell they're talking about
and we laugh our asses off.
So I'm just saying ifsomebody's an actual medium, they
would hear this person andthings that they say and know that
this is an individual that'sgot issues who is going down a dark
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path.
People who specifically talkabout demons at length tend to have
dark energy themselves, whichis why this is what rules their mind
and why they.
It's a way of explainingthings away.
Maybe why she can't doreadings, maybe why she can't do
mediumship readings because.
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Or why she's not accurate or getting.
Details because they're alldemons trying to misguide us.
Right?
Yeah.
So it sounds like an excuseand a way to get attention.
That would be my take on that.
And I'm really sorry thatthose people are out there.
It was hard enough 20 years ago.
I wrote chapters in my booksso that people would know how to
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spot a reliable medium, anaccurate medium, so that they didn't
get taken by somebody whoeither had a little bit of abilities
and shouldn't be doing itprofessionally or just somebody that
was out of their mind that wascoming from a dark place.
When your books came out, itwas, you know, there wasn't social
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media with anyone could post.
Right.
Anyone can have a microphone now.
And so there's also a lot ofsources out there.
Right.
That people are relying on.
But back then they couldreally just look it up at the library
or even online of what, whatbooks they could look into.
But now it's just the sevensecond content, one minute content.
(08:07):
And then they're like, oh,wait, okay, so that must be real
because I saw it on the Internet.
This sort of reminds me ofSanteria, which is more of a Latin
based spiritualism.
Okay.
Where they say you've got darkenergy or you have to their client
that you have spirits thataren't at rest or you've got a demonic
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spirit or a hex has beenplaced on your family.
Give me $300 and I will say aspell to remove it.
So I don't know if that'swhere this particular tiktoker was
headed with that, if shemonetizes people's fear.
But whatever she's doing withit is not constructive and it's not
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good for people to followsomeone like that down that path.
Yeah.
So I don't, I don't know ifthat makes sense as a medium.
I know that different.
We have differentpersonalities and different life
experiences and come fromdifferent places and that can tie
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in our personality, can tieinto our style of readings, but this
is completely different.
This is a different beliefaltogether where she believes that
spirits are demonic andthey've been watching us for our
entire lives and our familyfor their entire lives.
It's interesting, she soundslike she hasn't been on the planet
(09:33):
for centuries.
So I'm curious as to where sheis getting her source of information
for this.
But either way, it was a lotharder 20 years ago when I had to
be able to prove somethingthat could be visually monitored
by others and let people drawtheir own conclusion.
(09:55):
And then there's today wherepeople ask for no proof and they
go down these roads justbelieving it or willingly going down
these roads and seek out these people.
It wasn't like that 20 years ago.
20 years ago we probably hadlike four well known mediums on the
planet that had a TV presence.
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And you didn't have hundredsof people out there, some from Nigeria
or wherever else in the worldthat are pretending to be spiritualists,
take your money and then theyleave you high and dry.
So this sounds like somebodythat shouldn't be on TikTok, but
I know free information andall of that.
And people are curious aboutpeople who have these strange beliefs.
(10:43):
I think it's pretty universalnow that people believe that there
is life after death and thatour loved ones are around us.
And that comes from aconstructive, a positive place in
knowing that we matter to themand that they continue to be part
of our life.
What this woman was talkingabout serves no one.
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Yeah.
So let's go to question two.
Hi, Allison.
My name is Loretta.
I had a reading with you lastSeptember and you did let me know
that mom was going to beleaving this one world in the early
part of 2025.
And she did pass away in February.
(11:25):
So I appreciated that.
Heads up.
And I was able to plan for it,at least emotionally.
And I did get, you know, amessage from my dad before she passed
that in the dream that I had,he they were packing to go on a trip
(11:45):
to Hawaii.
They'd never been to Hawaii.
I'd actually taken mom to Hawaii.
My, I was packing too.
And then my dad says, well,no, you can't come with us.
So when I woke up, I knew thatshe was going to be leaving.
And that was The Wednesdaybefore she passed.
And I knew I needed to get to her.
And so I was able to land andbe there to spend the last three
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and a half hours with her.
The question I have is thenight that mom passed.
I have since she's passed.
It's been a couple of weeksnow, About a month, actually.
I've been experiencingphysical reactions that I've never
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had before.
And so mom had what startedher process.
She fell in December, aroundChristmas time, and broke her right
hip at her death bed.
I was actually, I think wassitting on the right hand side, and
I had my hand on her leg.
(12:51):
She wasn't able to speak atthat time, but I played music for
her.
I knew she could hear all the things.
And I never left anything unsaid.
And she didn't either between us.
So I feel good with that.
But it's this physicalmanifestation of pain that I'm wondering
about.
Like, at first I thought, oh,my God, do I have a blood clot?
Because I was on the plane, Iwas taking aspirin.
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I've been to the doctor, andthen they don't find anything wrong
with me.
And so I'm just wondering howgrief or why grief would manifest
physically.
I know that I have beencrying, but I also know that there's
some tears yet that I stillhave to shed.
Okay, that's my question.
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And also, just as everyone, Ithink that's called in.
I just want to give you andyour family a lot of blessings and
to thank you for everythingthat you do for us.
What a sweetheart.
I know everybody likes Loretta.
Loretta, we agree.
Everybody knows she's tellingthe truth.
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No, Loretta was great.
And thank you for sending yourwell wishes out to the other call
ins.
I think that's very sweet.
I'm glad I was able to giveher a heads up on her mom's passing
so that she could mentally prepare.
And I always tell my clientsthat in readings, this isn't a bad
thing.
This is to prepare you forsomething that will be mentally and
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emotionally draining.
And that's the reason it helpsto know ahead of time when somebody's
gonna pass and what thatwindow is.
So I'm glad that helped.
The dream where dad washelping mom pack.
I love that I was gonna say.
I love that it's so symbolicof that.
He was saying, I'm gonna havemom with me.
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She won't be alone.
And I' so that Loretta knewthat her mom would be okay.
But also, you can't go with us.
It's not your time.
Yet.
Right.
So I love that it was astraightforward prediction and giving
her that information.
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Also, she was communicatingwith her dad in those moments, even
though it was more visual.
Experiencing the physicalreactions can.
And I know that my healerfriends would be aware of this.
They can manifest from.
From grief.
You can start having somephysical reactions to loss.
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And Diane Goldner couldprobably explain more specifically
and how it affects differentparts of your body, depending on
what you're grieving.
However, I also know that whenpeople pass and they pass of illness
or they feel like their body'sbroken, sometimes after they cross,
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they'll make us feel things.
And it's how they communicatewith me, too, so that I understand
how they died.
Like, what it felt like, whatthey felt like at the moment they
were passing, when they were crossing.
So her mom may becommunicating through those feelings
that the daughter has.
And so those feelings may bevery temporary of what was hurting
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her or saying, baby, I hurtall over.
You know, I didn't feel good.
And it's, it's, it's.
It's a good thing that I wasable to let go.
It was my time.
I wasn't going to get better.
So having a temporary physicalreaction can happen when they are
trying to communicate to youhow they felt at that time so that,
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you know that they're betteroff now not having to feel those
symptoms anymore.
Her mom may be doing that onceLoretta acknowledges it and says,
mom, I know you know, I'm justsaying, this is me spitballing.
I know that your knees didn'tfeel good.
I know your back hurt.
I know it was hard to breathe.
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Whatever that feeling was,once you acknowledge it, you'll feel
an easing of the energy ofthose physical manifestations that
you're getting, and they'llshift their energy to now show you
what they feel like now, whichwill give you a sense of peace, this
overwhelming love and wellness.
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And so sometimes theycommunicate it briefly until you
acknowledge them and thatthat's how they felt.
So that they can now show youhow they feel in the present.
It's like a calling card.
Yeah.
You know, I've had a guy whowas shot in the back and I felt the
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impact and, you know, lost mybreath before.
And that's how they'llcommunicate that once I acknowledge
the young man that was killedand how he was killed and how I was
sorry that nobody grieved him,how people weren't there loving him
through his life, how he had ahard life, everything eased up.
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But it's how they communicatethis is me thinking you'll know it's
them through those specifictypes of pains that they communicated
to you.
Yeah.
Like, I.
I get it for you specificallyfeeling those things because you're
a medium.
That is what you're supposedto do is tell them, okay, this is
how they died.
Or, you know, I.
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I feel like.
And I'm not, you know, inhealthcare or like a scientist or
anything, but I feel like ifyou're so overwhelmed and obviously
crying a lot and like, whichcan give you headaches and then make
it so you're not taking careof yourself as much or eating as
much or sleeping or maybesleeping too much, you know, Dehydrated.
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Dehydrated.
I could see that.
And you may be an overthinker,and I'm not judging because I'm also
an overthinker.
So you might be feelingsomething that you've already had
before, but you're justthinking so much about it because
your mom did just pass away.
So now you're.
Which is actually a goodthing, that.
You might be more aware.
She's more aware.
And now you're wanting to takecare of yourself and live a long
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and happy life.
Right.
Which is good that you'regoing to the doctor and getting it
checked out and everything.
I mean, steer clear.
But I feel like you're goodand, yeah, you're just sad.
If she wasn't going to beokay, her dad would have packed a
bag for her.
Totally right, though.
So that didn't happen.
Obviously, she's not passinganytime soon.
Sometimes they will make youfeel things more profoundly in an
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ache or a need for you to goto the doctor when they're trying
to get you there, to interveneon your behalf and buffer you, knowing
there's a more severe problem.
So they can do that as well.
But the timing with her momjust dying a month ago, I don't really
think it was that.
But I'm glad she's getting itchecked out.
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Yeah.
Because sometimes people willtell me they had to die in order
to save someone else they love.
And that could be her communicating.
I could do that, thisunwellness, just.
To get her right to the doctor.
To get her to the doctor toget her checked out.
If it turns out that there wasnothing wrong, then that wasn't the
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case.
Yeah.
So we could eliminate that.
Sometimes people will justtake on, you know, because like you
said, she's not eating, notdrinking, and.
And she's grieving.
And we don't realize thatstress depletes our body so heavily.
Yeah.
And I think I'm thinking,right, it's so un.
(20:30):
Underestimated what stressdoes to our system.
It short circuits us.
So it.
It can be that.
For me, it's when they'recommunicating how they felt.
Well, and the reason why itsaid she was an overthinker was because
she was thinking back tohaving aspirin on her flight, and
that could cause a blood clot.
And I was like, well, okay,let's tune it.
(20:52):
You know, doesn't that thinyour blood, though?
Yeah, but if it thinned yourblood, wouldn't it not be likely
to clot?
Well, that's why I called heran overthinker.
Okay.
I know I have a lot of nursesas clients.
You can email me and let meknow if that's right, because I think
they give you the bloodthinners so you don't clot.
(21:12):
But anyways, yeah, she's worried.
And when somebody dies, itmakes you more paranoid of your own
death.
Yeah.
Your own health, your own death.
And so it's heavy on her mind,the energy of the funeral and making
arrangements and life afterdeath, even her parents being together.
So because it's so present onher mind, she may be slightly overreaching
(21:38):
on the ailments that she'sfeeling or the dis.
Ease that she's feeling, youknow, that unsettled nature that
she seems to be in.
So, yeah, I think that answers that.
So thank you, Loretta.
Let's go on to caller three.
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Hey, Allison, it's Noah again.
Always love to hear what youhave to say.
I love your shows.
So my question today is when Iguess I'm such a sucker in a way.
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My mom is 99 right now, andshe is not dead yet, but she is on
her way.
And I'm just mourning like crazy.
It's hard for me to be normalright now.
I know she's 99.
She lived a long life.
I'm a mama's girl, but I'meight hours away, and how do I tap
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in when it's time and she isleaving this realm?
Can I actually walk with herto meet the relatives and come back?
Is there a way for me to do itfrom far away?
(23:08):
Hopefully you could answerthat question, Allison.
Thank you so much.
Bye.
So I just thought this was aninteresting question, and obviously
she is a mama's girl, and shemay feel like she needs to be with
her mom more than her momfeels like she needs that company
as well.
So that's a very specificplace to try and be in it seems as
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though when they pass, they dosee their relatives and loved ones.
It seems like kind of aprivate moment that the only time
I've heard anybody say they'vewitnessed seeing not only the, the
mother, but other relativesthat were present is near death experiences
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where everybody comes andsays, you've got to go back and they
can see them all together or amedium that brings them all through,
but not the moment thatthey're having that crossover.
So I found that very interesting.
Well, especially since, Imean, it's not your time yet, so
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for you to, I mean, of courseyou want to walk your mom to the
gates of heaven and see your,you know, dead relatives.
I, I mean, I would too, but.
It'S not like taking them tothe airport, I was gonna say, but
it's.
It'S also not your moment.
Like it's for her moment tohave this realization of, oh, McKay,
I'm crossing and being atpeace with that, you know, and you
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said you're eight hours away.
I don't know if that's flyingor driving or what, but she's 99.
Like, I would try and make itout there as much as possible, especially
if you're getting thesefeelings right now, you know, that's
good advice.
I would, I'd go out there andstay if I could.
I would too.
99.
It's a nine year this year.
Year of endings, as we know.
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People are falling off thatwe're seeing all over the place.
People are letting go andtransitioning, and that's exactly
what a nine year does.
I would bet money that her momwill cross this year and that Noah
needs to be there if that'swhat she feels like she needs to
do.
But as you said, it's a veryprivate moment when her mother crosses
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and sees all the people sheloved that she lost throughout her
life.
And there's a reunion and ifwe were there, it makes it about
us.
Exactly.
Which is sort of, you know,can be perceived as a selfish act
and we don't want that either.
Yeah.
So it's going to be hard forher to leave you too.
I mean, sure, you're a mama's girl.
Of course she doesn't want toleave you here.
(25:44):
But if her mom's 99 to sayshe's probably ready.
No, it's not worried.
Or Noah's mother is notworried about her five year old daughter
being able to eat and survive.
It's different.
She'll know that Noah's goingto be all right.
Well, and even the Last, Ithink it was Loretta, who.
Whose mom passed away a month ago.
(26:05):
She said that she got theclosure she needed because there
was not one thing that wasleft unsaid.
So maybe go be with her.
Say everything you want to sayto her.
Listen to the stories from heras a kid or you as a kid, and just
get the most out of it.
So when it is time for her tocross, you're at peace with it.
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I had a friend, Dominique, youknow who she is?
And I'd known her since I was 14.
And she died at 31 of cancerand before she passed.
And this is just a suggestionto people who have a loved one that's
crossing.
She really wanted to go upnorth to Prescott.
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You know, she wanted to go upthere and be in nature and see the
birds and the pine trees andhave that experience, but she wasn't
well enough to.
So a friend of mine and Ibrought in the plants, we opened
the windows.
I even got.
(27:08):
I think it was a bluebird,mylar balloon, you know, to represent
nature and butterflies andstuff like that, and brought it to
her house and just tried tosurround her and sort of say, close
your eyes, you know, now, andlet's visualize you taking a walk
and what that would feel like.
I know it's not the same, butit is nice to ask when you know someone's
(27:32):
going to pass.
What do you want?
Not me.
It's not about me.
What do you want?
And do those things with them.
Domini wanted a lobster fordinner before she died because she
had never had lobster.
Yeah.
And so we took her out forlobster, and she ate it, and she
was very happy.
But it can be something assmall, as sad.
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And I'm so glad we did it.
I mean, what a special memory,you know?
So I hope Noah does that withher mom.
Also, record your mom talkingabout anything historical in the
family, especially if there'syounger people in the family to pass
that knowledge onto, becausethat information dies with that person.
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And I just find it a very goodidea to get older people on video
to sort of encapsulate themoment and to be able to pass that
along.
So recipes.
Yeah, Things of that nature.
That's one of the big ones Ihear from women.
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They're like, my mom didn'twrite her recipe down.
Did you ask?
Yeah, I was gonna say, did youeven ask?
I love it.
So, anyways, Noah, thank youfor calling in, and I wish you well.
I hope your mom has a smooth passing.
My sense is she will have asmooth passing.
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You cannot be there at themoment that she crosses on the other
side.
However, you can be next toher, holding her hand, and that's
an important place to be as well.
Okay.
Well, Sophia, thank you forweighing in today.
No problem, then.
Thank you to my listeners.
Tune in next week for part twoof Love Me, Love Me Not.
(29:15):
I'm Allison Dubois.
This is the Dead Life.
And to all of my believers outthere, don't stop believing.
Join us next week on the deadlife.
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