March 25, 2025 • 40 mins
In today's episode, we delve into the theme of personal significance following near-death experiences. The episode features a compelling dialogue regarding the intricate questions posed by our callers, particularly focusing on the nature of existence, purpose, and the enduring bonds of love that transcend the physical realm. We explore the profound experiences shared by individuals who have encountered the afterlife, fostering a deeper understanding of their journeys and the implications for their lives thereafter. Through thoughtful examination, we aim to provide clarity and solace to those grappling with their connections to the departed, while also encouraging exploration of one's own intuitive gifts. I am joined by my daughter, Sophia, as we navigate these profound inquiries and share insights that may illuminate the paths of our listeners.
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Welcome to the Dead Life.
Here's world renowned mediumAlison Dubois.
Welcome to the Dead Life.
Today you'll hear part two ofmy Love Me, Love Me not segment with
Sophia Dubois.
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Sophia, are you ready to diveinto more questions?
I am.
I mean, those were complicatedlast week.
No.
Yeah.
Very good.
So I pulled some of the onesthat are very thought provoking for
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a reason.
I want my listeners to thinkabout some of what people experience
and want to know.
I also think this helps peoplewith abilities to have to focus more
and see what impressions they pull.
So I find the show goodpractice for the gifted.
I agree.
So, okay, let's dig in.
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Okay.
First caller.
Hi, this is Claudia.
I wanted to share an afterlifeexperience that I had years ago after
a surgery.
And it was really weird.
I pretty much.
I was in the hospital and I, I don't.
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I fell asleep, I guess, and Iwas drifting.
Anyway, long story, I wasnever going to tell a soul because
I knew that everyone wouldthink that I was crazy.
But apparently my mom saw me.
She lived 45 minutes away atthe time and I was standing in front
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of her and I was saying goodbye.
So I know for a fact that itwas an afterlife experience.
Anyway, it's a lot deeper than that.
I've always been wonderingwhat my purpose is afterwards.
I feel like there's a reason Icame back.
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I mean, obviously my children.
But I just would like to knowif there's a deeper meaning or purpose,
something I'm supposed to be doing.
Anyway, give me a call.
I just became a fan.
I heard about you on a crimepodcast and I think you're amazing.
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So thank you for sharing yourgift and hopefully I will hear from
you.
I'm fine, thank you.
Claudia heard me on CrimeJunkie AF with my friend Ashley Flower.
Yeah, I've actually had a lotof people text and call saying that
they heard you on that podcast.
Well, it was the right podcastfor me to be on, I'd say.
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Well, no, it's so popularright now too.
Just crime documentaries.
Just everything like thatrealm, yeah, is so popular right
now, you know, and.
I stick my toe in it from timeto time, but I lived in it for 20
years, so year before, beforethe trend.
I'm ahead of my time.
What can I say?
Yeah, I, I found thisinteresting, this, this question
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from Claudia.
I would like to say, okay, soshe was standing in front of her
mom saying goodbye.
Her mom saw this.
So she had a near death experience.
Is, is what she feels.
It's interesting and unusualthat I'd have somebody who would
have a near death experiencesay, what is my calling?
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Most of them are so damn happyjust to have not died.
They want to do everything.
So I would say for Claudia,she said, was I saved for my children?
Or like, what is it?
It's like, that's no small thing.
You're shaping your childrenand who they will be that go out
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into the world.
Obviously you were stillneeded here, still necessary.
A lot of people search fortheir calling in life, in the world
and don't seem to be able tofind it.
And I notice with my clientswhen I ask them, when you were young,
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before you had children,before whatever career path you went
down for stability, financial,like, financial resources that you
needed to stabilize life,raise a child, to take care of family,
what did you love doing?
And often one will say, I usedto write, I used to paint, I used
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to skate, whatever it is thatthey did.
And I always say, I need youto go back to that and try it, because
everything will become clearas to your path and where you need
to be.
It's when we lose that youngpart of ourselves, the passionate
part of ourselves, that ourlife sort of comes undone and takes.
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That takes over.
We're on autopilot, just goingthrough life and then 50 years go
by.
So while you're, whatever ageyou're at, Claudia, and you must
be relatively younger becauseyour kids are, you know, still needing
you.
Yeah, I would say go back towhatever your passion was.
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And even if it was retail andworking in retail, it doesn't.
You don't have to change theworld as one person to be important
in raising a child that willchange the world.
So not everybody's here with aclear passion and path to take.
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Your dad knew when he was 10he was gonna be a rocket scientist.
His path was clear.
I knew I was gonna be a lawyer.
Not exactly, but along thoselines, you know, working with crime,
you know, I went in that direction.
Not everybody has a definedpassion for anything.
Although she is listening tocrime junkie Claudia, why don't you,
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why don't you go to, I mean,she could do CSI school or work in
law enforcement at some, somelevel, forensics.
She could be a private investigator.
I wish I knew the month andday she was born because that, that
helps.
But she could go into anysegment of career around law enforcement
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and unraveling mysteries.
I mean, if she was listeningto me on Crime Junkie.
She loves Crime Junkie.
Go into that field.
I will say though, so you hadsaid when, when you see someone that
had a near death experience,they're like, I'm gonna do everything.
You know, some people thoughhave guilt around it of why was I
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saved?
Well, that's if someone elsedied in the same accident.
No, I know, but they stillthink like if, if before that experience
happened, they already hadself doubt of themselves and they
were insecure, then theyprobably died, come back to life
and they're like, okay, butwhy am I special?
Like, it doesn't matter ifanyone else died around them.
It's like, okay, but why didthis happen?
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But then you said, oh, youknow, your dad knew at 10 what he
was gonna do.
I knew what kind of.
What I want to do.
I don't know what I want todo, you know, but I've gotten astrology
readings done and it doesdepend on your chart because my Mars
and Libra.
Libra being a very Indecisive.
Indecisive.
And the communicator.
Indecisive sign.
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I'm.
I'm supposed to do a lot ofthings in life.
Apparently.
You're a plate spinner.
Yeah.
So she might have somethinglike that where she's like, well,
I like a lot of things, but Idon't know what my calling is.
So I would just do some selfreflection, get some clarity.
You're right.
If there's stuff you like todo, do those things, do them with
your kids.
Like I just read a woman acouple weeks ago, she was an ice
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skater when she was younger.
And she's like.
I said, do you live by a rank?
And she said, yes.
I said, get your skates.
Go down there and just skatelaps until you get clarity in your
mind.
And that's going to help youto focus and come up with exactly
where you want to be and whatyou want to do.
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I think a lot of people getused to living a life without momentum,
where you're just goingthrough the motions and nothing exciting
happens and it just gets monotonous.
Pulling yourself out of thatisn't easy, but you can.
And so for Claudia, I, I hearwhat you're saying, and especially
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when the kids are gone, she'sgonna need a purpose.
Well, no, I like that yousaid, what would you want to do if
money was not right?
Well, a part of it, you know.
Yeah, because that's really important.
If, if money wasn't an objectand if you could just do anything
that you wanted to.
To do with that, and you would never.
And you wouldn't fail, youknow, if you could do anything and
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know you weren't going tofail, what would that be?
And that's really the way weknow we're supposed to live our life.
But it's easier said than donefor a lot of people who are hesitant
in taking risks.
With Claudia, I know thatthere's a reason that she was saved.
And here it can come down tosomething as simple as she's gonna
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push a child out of the waybefore a truck hits them in the future
and save their life.
And then that child goes onto, you know, become a police officer
that then saves a bunch ofpeople, or a firefighter that pulls
people out of burning buildings.
You just don't know.
You have to have faith thatthe other side has a plan for you.
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A much bigger picture.
Also, near death experiencestend to trigger psychic abilities.
So I would just be curious if,since she had her experience, if
her abilities have been turnedup, because many people who have
nd ease end up havingmediumship experiences, at the very
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least clairvoyant, wherethings that they see are going to
happen, then unfold.
So I would be curious ifClaudia seen that aspect of.
It almost seems like an aftereffect of an nde.
There are also NDE groups thatshe could join to talk to other people
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who have been through whatshe's been through, and that might
be helpful as well.
Yeah.
Yes.
So I hope that helps Claudia,because I know navigating such a
murky field can make you feel alone.
And I've talked to a lot of nd ease.
Is it Jacob Cooper that thathad the near death experience?
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I believe it is.
I guess.
This is my show.
I can do this right here,right now.
So just to be accurate, let mepull it up.
I find it so fascinatingbecause they even.
They have those shows about kids.
Oh, wait, no, that's reincarnation.
Oh, that's past lives.
Never mind that.
That's okay.
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So there was a show though.
That's a.
So Jacob Cooper.
Yes, he's on Instagram.
Jacob Cooper, lcsw.
He had a near death experience.
He wrote the Wisdom of Jacob's Ladder.
You follow him on Instagram,start a convo.
He knows all the ND peeps outthere and he'll bring you together
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so you don't have to feelquite so alone.
I love that, you know, all thegroups of every subcategory of spirituality.
You're like, you know, a guyfor that.
It's my life.
I have the resources.
No, I love it.
I know forensic accountants,for those of you getting divorced.
I've got like my finger on thepulse of everything under the legal
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and.
Ethereal well, and I will sayumbrella on Allison dubois dot com.
Yeah, there is a resource tabwith all of these resources there.
Yeah, check it out.
Yeah, that would be.
I should, yeah, I should addsome for NDE as well because I experience
a lot of people.
I encounter a lot of peoplethat have had that experience.
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And so that's very important.
So I do hope that's a goodplace for Claudia to start getting
her into the community of NDEsso that she has some support and
doesn't have to feel so out of sorts.
What you were talking aboutwas past lives and it was.
I find it so fascinating.
The Ghost Inside My Child isthe show if anybody wants to watch
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it.
I can't remember, it was onprime or something like that.
It came out in like early2000s, 2007.
Those shows are better anyways.
But it was very specific anddetailed on each child and the life
they said they had before.
They're like, where's my wife?
And this is a three or fouryear old little kid.
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You know, I find it fascinating.
Well, there was even one thatexplained or described the Twin Towers
and he was one of the.
Either just a person in thebuilding or a firefighter that died
or something.
And he was like, no, therewere two buildings and, and explained
it, but he was like three orfour too.
So like, there's no way hewould have.
That's why I call smallchildren kindergarten mediums.
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And I always have, becausearound the age that they can fully
communicate, you start to seesome crazy shit come out of their
mouth that's kind of amazingat the same time.
And you have to listen to them.
No, but that's why I'm scaredto be a mom in the future.
Because I swear, if my kidcomes up to me and he's like, mommy,
there's something in some manin my room.
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I'd be like, oh shit, get your dad.
Like, I don't know, I don'twant to check it out.
I have a feeling I'd be comingover to check it out.
That's okay, that's okay.
I one of the little kids onthat show.
It was so Funny.
He.
He was like, I have a wifeand, like, her name is Sarah, and
I have two kids and I havethree cats and I want to go home.
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Yeah.
And his mom's just staring at him.
And I felt so bad for thesemoms, but I was just engrossed in
this series.
It was fascinating.
Yeah.
I've never seen that.
Yeah, you have to watch it.
That's why I reached out tothat one center that does past life
regression.
Yeah.
Still waiting to hear backfrom that woman.
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I'll reach out.
Thank you.
Okay, let's go to the next Colin.
Okay.
Hi, this is Anne from Missouri.
I have been trying to connectto my husband, which doesn't seem
to be going very well.
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He died in June of 23.
He had bone marrow cancer.
But instead of fighting, hejust gave up.
And I don't have any feelingthat he's around me.
I so want to hear from him.
Because he gave up.
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Does that mean he didn't loveme enough to stay?
I now have pancreatic cancerand won't do chemo.
So I guess I won't survive.
Will I see him after I crossover in one little.
No.
I woke up one morning and Iwas laying in bed and my soul was
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sitting up.
Anyway, thank you for listening.
I listen to your show every Tuesday.
You're really great.
Thank you so much.
Well, thank you, Ann.
I wanted to include Ann.
I find in life that whensomebody's terminal, people abandon
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them.
And I counsel the dying allthe time, and it's a hard thing to
do.
So I really wanted to answerAnne's questions for her.
Well, yeah, My heart justbroke listening to that.
And what a sweetheart is she.
I know.
So she's.
But that's the thing, people.
Our perspective's all wrong.
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We'll go.
They're a good one.
Why don't they stay?
Because they're good.
I don't want you to go throughall that.
Well, the next.
Watching them.
The next place is better, too.
Yeah.
So they get to go.
The bad ones still havesomething to learn.
So we're here becauseapparently we haven't learned what
we need to learn or haven'tdone what we need to do.
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Well.
And also, I mean, he had bonemarrow cancer.
That is, like, not good.
First of all, extremely painful.
Yes.
Second of all, that is so hard.
Like, it may have given him afew extra months.
Yeah.
But it's not like it would have.
He would have been miserable.
And he probably didn't wantyou to see him miserable.
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He didn't Want to be miserable.
And, yeah, he's thinking, oh,the other side sounds pretty good
right about now.
And I will see you one day.
Yeah.
So.
But that breaks my heart thatshe thinks it's because.
And that's why we're going toanswer this for her, because I don't
want her feeling like that.
You not being able to feelyour husband around has nothing to
do with whether or not heloved you.
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I can assure you.
Assure you he loves you.
I also can guarantee that heknows when you're gonna die and that
he will be there meeting you,waiting for you, so he'll be the
first person you see.
And that's when your soul willunderstand that you were the love
of his life and that he didvalue you.
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You do matter.
Often when somebody dies, it'sthe person closest to them that's
the last person to get any communication.
Because it's not that theloved one's not around him.
It's that we're blocked by pain.
Absolutely.
So it's because Ann loves herhusband so much and that she misses
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him.
And she's going through herown battle with pancreatic cancer,
which is a losing battle.
All you can do is hope that itmaybe buys you some time.
I.
I feel for her on that levelbecause he had his wife there to
go through what he wentthrough, and now she feels like,
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here I am going through it by myself.
But I know that he's there inspirit next to her, saying, it's
okay.
It's gonna be okay, even ifshe can't hear him or sense him.
And I couldn't hear or sensemy dad for four years.
I had to have Lori Campbellbring him through, and I had to bring
Lori Campbell's dad throughbecause we were blocked by pain.
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Part of us still wanted ourdads to come back, and part of her
can't believe that he's gone.
Yeah.
And so a wall goes up toprotect us because we become very
fragile when we suffer thatkind of loss.
So.
And they get so frustrated.
I did, too.
People get so frustrated.
They're like, do they not love me?
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Do they not want to talk to me?
Is there nothing they need tosay to me?
Am I that forgettable?
And it's the opposite of that.
They're all around you.
The problem's us.
It's not them.
So, Ann, a, you're blocked bypain because your heart's broken
and you miss him, and youwatched him suffer, which is another
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layer.
So you're going to feel alittle bit of Maybe guilt of, did
I do enough for him?
Did he feel loved by me?
Could I have made it better?
Could I have sent him in sooner?
And maybe he would have lived.
We beat ourselves up as.
As humans in the living world,and it's very unfair.
We're our own worst enemy.
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And we just really go atourselves when someone dies, thinking
somehow we did something wrong.
And I always bring themthrough, and they say, you did everything
right.
Don't worry about it.
Let that go.
That's your stuff.
That's not part of my reality.
That's what the souls say.
So for Anne, the fact that shesaw her soul sitting up in bed is
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a huge sign of.
Usually that window's open forher to pass.
So I think sounds like she'sready anyway, because.
Right.
She misses him so much.
Absolutely.
And so I want to talk a littlebit about this.
The other side is showing herher soul sitting up so that she recognizes
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that she doesn't die, thatthat part of her will remain.
So it's a visual communicationthat, you're coming with us.
You're going to come with us.
So this.
That's actually not a bad thing.
And especially with pancreatic cancer.
That's how your grandfather died.
That's how dad's dad went.
And it's not a great way to die.
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Yeah.
And so, you know, for Anne, Iwill say a.
Your husband loves you.
He never left you.
You're gonna see him.
He's younger.
You revert to a younger agewhen you cross.
So if I brought your husbandthrough, for instance, he'd give
me the age that he reverted towhat he looks like now.
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And that usually was theirheaven on earth, which almost always
ends up being when they gotmarried, when they fell in love,
when they had children,whatever it was that made their heart
race and made life the best ithad ever been.
That's what age we go back to, so.
Or guys, if they wish.
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And women, if they wish they'dmet their partner sooner, if they
could have been youngtogether, they'll go back to a younger
age and wait for them at thatyounger age so they can live that
life together.
I love that.
I love that, too.
So Ann's husband, just likeBetty White.
When Betty White died, thelast thing she said was Allen.
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And that was the husband thatshe had lost, like 40 years before
that she missed.
And I think that is straightup one of the most beautiful illustrations
of what happens at the momentof death.
And that's what Ann can expect.
She will.
She'll see him, he'll put hishand out to her, she'll grab it,
grab it, and she'll sit up outof her body, stand up and walk into
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the light with him, and shallpart from the body that betrayed
her.
But the body's only a vesselfor us for a short time.
It's not intended to stay so pristine.
We work so hard on theoutside, on maintaining how we look
on the outside, that often weforget to focus on the inside and
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who we are as people, which iswhy we're actually here.
It's ironic because I do bringa lot of people through and they
can have vanity to them, like,looks still matter, which I find
just hilarious.
But it's like, who they are.
But I guarantee that Ann'sgoing to go back to a younger age
and it'll be a different timefor her when she crosses over.
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So she'll acclimate with themusic, the furniture, the hairstyles,
the clothing of whateverdecade was happy for her, which I
love when they share thosethings with me as well.
And so I just want Ann to knowthere's so much waiting for you when
you cross and you're going tobe amongst the living.
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The dead always tell us thatwe're the dead ones, that they're
more alive than we are.
So consider yourself leavingthe graveyard.
When you leave the physicalworld, you're going into the living
one.
That's really.
That's really where Ann'sgoing and that's where her husband
is.
But I guarantee you, Ann, yourhusband's around you.
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He gives you a kiss goodnight, he holds your hand, he whispers,
I'm okay.
He's trying to get you tofocus on yourself, which you don't
even probably care aboutbecause you just want to go.
I think you seeing your soulsitting up is a huge heads up that
it's.
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It's time, that it's imminent.
And I say that with absolutelove and a sense of excitement for
you because I don't want youto suffer in this body, this body.
You're done with it.
It's time to move into thenext phase of your life with your
husband, and you'll be morealive than you were.
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Here we are in a nine year,which I've been very clear about
with my listeners.
It is a year of ending.
So people that have barelybeen hanging on do let go.
And so all of this is justindicative of a passing.
Well, I wanted to.
I didn't want to cut you offbefore, but I haven't looked at the
clock, the Entire time we'vebeen podcasting.
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And when I looked at theclock, it was 444, which is an angel
number.
Angels are watching us.
He's probably saying, tell her that.
Tell her.
I love that.
Thank you.
I just wanted to let you knowit was 444 when I just looked at
the clock.
And your husband's watching you.
And he'll try and ease herpain as well.
He'll try and buffer her andhold her hand when she's going through
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any sort of therapy that she needs.
I wish I had some sort of amagic email address that people could
just send messages of love to Anne.
I just want Ann to know thatshe matters, that she won't be forgotten,
and that we're all so gratefulthat she was here and we don't deserve
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her anymore.
And that's what death is.
When we no longer deserve thatperson here, they cross over to a
place where they can thrive.
I love that.
I think that this will helpher, actually.
I hope so.
So we're sending you.
Love, Ann.
Okay, let's go on to the next one.
Now that I'm all weepy.
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I know my eyes are watering, too.
Okay.
This is Nancy.
Yes, Allison.
Hi.
This is Nancy.
I'm from Illinois.
I just had a quick question.
Years ago, after my motherpassed, I woke up in the middle of
the night and saw her as plainas day standing at the foot of my
bed.
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It didn't scare me, but I hadso many questions, and I was just
numb, and I couldn't say anything.
She.
As quick as she was there, she disappeared.
But she's never came back tome since then.
And I wonder if, because I wasscared, she's not going to come visit
me again and how I could kindof break through that, because I
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would love another visit from her.
It's been 40 years, and Ialways think about her.
She's always in my thoughtsand prayers.
But I just wondered.
And also, I seem to be intuitive.
Like, I can walk into a roomand I can feel people's energy, and
I don't know if that couldmake me intuitive or should I tap
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into that and how can Ifurther that gift?
I guess.
And pretty.
I'm pretty spot on when I canfeel people's energy.
So I just had a question.
If I could or how I could tapinto more of my skills if I have
it.
I don't know.
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Thank you.
I appreciate it.
Have a great day.
God bless you.
You're doing great things forso many people.
Thank you.
Nancy didn't she have some zest?
She did.
Well, she probably just had areally fun, fun St.
Patty's Day if she's in Illinois.
Oh, yeah, yeah, I'm sure.
Yeah.
I hope she went to the Greenriver in Chicago.
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That's right.
They do that there too.
Some guy just jumped in it.
Oh, he did.
Okay.
It's so funny.
We're so.
We consider it Irish, butwe're so damn American.
If you don't see a green beer.
You'Re like, oh, I'm gettingthat right after this podcast.
So we've got our shirts on our green.
Because today is St.
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Patrick's Day, and tomorrowthere will be people with a lot of
hangovers.
Oh, yeah, this is part two.
Oh, yeah.
They won't be hearing this fora little bit.
St.
Patrick's for us.
Never mind.
A two parter.
Yes.
So the question from Nancy was the.
Does she have abilities, herintuitiveness how to go back or how
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to increase that?
But she saw the mom at herfoot of the foot of her bed.
After she died, she had avisit, but it scared her.
So for everybody out there, ifyou see someone at the foot of your
bed, and that's why I had thepilot episode with Medium, that's
how it opened with where I'mseeing people standing at the foot
of my bed, because theyliterally do that.
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That's what they do.
She.
She was letting Nancy knowthis is how I'm okay.
And I know the words I'm okayto us seem, like, obvious or overheard.
Here's the thing.
They need you to see them in aform that they're not suffering.
They're trying to convey toyou that they're well, that they're
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whole.
So when I say they're tryingto convey I'm okay, that's actually
a very big thing.
They're trying to take yourpain away by showing you they live
on.
And so when Nancy's mom stoodat the foot of her bed and real and
recognized that Nancy engagedher and knew that she was there,
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she's thinking, my daughterknows, right?
So she's gone, and thenthere's no sense of time.
So the 40 years it's been forNancy, her mom's just, like, living
her best life and peeking inon Nancy, seeing how her life's unfolded.
Now if Nancy's in a caraccident or something, mama gonna
be there.
You know, they show up.
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So this is not a bad thing forNancy that her mom hasn't consistently
come.
Her mom probably hadunfinished business on the other
side that she needed to takecare of the people who preceded her
mother.
And death already assured herthat Nancy would be not only fine,
but exactly how her life would unfold.
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So her mom already knew shewas in good hands and who was taking
care of her.
Also knowing that mama couldcome in anytime she needs to buffer
her baby.
So that was a good thing.
But without knowing Nancy andwithout knowing her mom's energy,
it's hard for me to saybecause if the mom was gregarious
and full of life andenergetic, they tend to come through
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a little bit more often and alittle bit more full on sparkling
Their, their glitter.
And the ones who lived more ofa monotone life where it was just,
you know, going through themotions, yeah, they don't have as
much to say because they'relearning some things on the other
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side about how to exude energyand how they didn't do that in the
last lifetime and why that mayhave been.
Why was your soul alreadyfractured or.
Well, and it's beaten down.
So you'd have to assume themom died pretty young, you know.
Well, I don't know how oldNancy is, but yeah, she'd be on the
younger end, I would imagine.
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So.
I'm glad Nancy's here.
I know it's hard for peoplewhen they surpass their parents age,
when you live longer than yourparent did, and we all have it in
our mind of what that age isand how far off it is.
So she wants to know how shecan tap in.
I think this would be a greatexercise for Nancy in her intuitive
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abilities.
Now, there's a distinction.
People can be intuitivewithout communicating with the other
side.
More people are intuitivewhere they get an inkling, a feeling.
They know who's on the otherend of the line on the phone before
they answer it.
They predict something's goingto happen, then it comes to pass.
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That's much more common thancommunicating with the dead.
So when she says intuitive,her mom at the foot of her bed, that
could have happened to anyone.
That's a non medium.
They don't have to have anyabilities for that.
But she says she has anintuitive nature as well.
And that's what I'm speaking to.
But I'm also saying to her,manifesting the other side is a whole
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other level.
So it doesn't mean it's impossible.
It just means you have toremove all of the barriers that are
around you.
And I liken it to Somewhere inTime, which is one of my favorite
movies.
Christopher Reeve, JaneSeymour, Watch it and don't cry.
Dare you?
I don't think you could.
And in the movie, when he'ssetting the scene in his room to
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go back to the time where thatbeautiful woman was in the hotel
that she lived to meet her, hehad to remove the coins from that
year.
He had to take the picturesoff the wall.
He had to create anenvironment that was not clouded
by the future, that it wasn'ttainted by the future.
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So it had to be as it was back then.
I love that.
So down to the suit.
Yes, down to the suit, whichhe was off on the year, which was
funny, but it's not so different.
But it's easier in what I'mabout to tell you.
So when you want to make aconnection with somebody who died,
and this is what I tell myclients, you take up a picture of
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them that you'll be attracted to.
And it's never an old picture.
So let me just rule that outfor everyone right there, that's
like, oh, I'm going to put thelast picture of mom up.
It's like, mom's 22.
Mom doesn't want to see that picture.
So when you're drawn to ayounger picture of them, that's the
one you're going to put upbecause your heart's telling you
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that's what I look like now.
It's your mom speaking to you.
So you put that on your nightstand.
I don't want you to think oftheir death or anything attached
to the death.
You can't think of an illnessleading to the death.
You cannot think of the funeral.
Nothing that remotely attachesto it.
You think about when you werea little girl, when she would carry
you on her hip, when she wouldget you chocolate milk without your
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dad knowing as a treat.
All the little times with yourmother on your birthday when she'd
bake you a cake, even thoughthere wasn't a lot of money, so she'd
make it herself, but it wasalways really special, and she'd
decorate it, and she was agreat cake decorator.
You know all the littledetails around your happiest moments
in your life with your mom.
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Okay, so now we've establishedthat, then you're gonna smile and
you're gonna say, mom, I'mready for a visit.
And just close your eyes andgo to sleep.
Because we have set yourenergy tone to be on the same page,
or at least as near to herenergy so that she can connect with
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you as possible.
So all of the things that Ijust said will help in communication.
I And there is a hugedifference between.
And I've heard people say this.
I put out a picture and I saidI wanted to visit.
It's like, okay, what's thedifference between that.
That town and everything thatI just said?
Two different worlds, wouldn'tyou say?
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Yeah.
So.
But the second one is, like, right.
Running an agenda.
Like, why isn't she comingthrough still?
Right.
Like I.
Like I said the words.
I asked for it.
I demanded it.
Because your heart wasn'tasking for it.
Your soul wasn't reaching for her.
You're just putting in anorder at a fast food restaurant that
mom can visit.
You know what I'm saying?
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So.
So that would be thedifference in energy.
So for any of you that aren'tgonna put your whole heart and soul
into that connection, don'texpect any results other than what
you get, which will be nothing.
Yeah.
You know, a whole lot of nothing.
So for Nancy, I hope thishelps her connect with her mother,
because my sense is her motheris easily accessible by Nancy.
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It's just setting the stage.
It's setting the environment.
Another thing is every dayjust letting her know, mom, I still
want you to be part of my life.
You know, I have thatcaricature up of my dad dancing.
You guys used to think it wasmy mom.
It is not.
And looks like, yeah, dad hada type.
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So I've got a caricature of mydad up on the wall, and I invited
him as soon as he died.
I'm like, dad, you know, Istill want you to be part of my life,
but it took four years for meto start being able to see him because
I couldn't see through the tears.
My heart was broken.
I had a lump in my throat allthe time.
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And all of this blocks theother side from being heard and seen
by you.
It's not that you're trying to.
It's the person that feelsclosest to the one who died that's
always the last one to havethe interaction, which is what mediums
are for and why people willhear a cousin of theirs say, I had
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a dream.
And Tony said, he's good.
Like, he wanted me to let youknow they'll go through everybody
but you because they can't getthrough to you.
Your heart's just too broken.
So I hope that helps.
Nancy, your mom's been aroundthe whole time.
Sort of what I was saying toAnn, you know, your.
Whose husband is there waitingfor her, watching her, monitoring
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her, making sure she's okay.
And by okay, I mean that herSoul's being eased over to the other
side.
Slowly and as smooth as possible.
For Nancy, who's not goinganywhere, her mom's just watching
her saying, do all the thingsI didn't do, all the things I told
you not to do when you weregrowing up.
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I'm sorry.
Like, go do those things.
Go travel.
You know, don't worry, you'llhave the money down the road.
Just go.
You know, whenever you live anevent, I know you don't do events
anymore, but the ones that Iwould had seen, you would always
tell people, like, that personwants you to do the things that were
on their bucket list.
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So go do it.
Yeah.
I wish so deeply that allthose people would have sent you
photos of them doing those things.
Right.
Like, wait a second.
Yeah.
We just had this wholeinteraction of you telling me that
you're going to Ireland in two months.
Right.
I want to see the photos.
Yeah.
It's so true what you guys did.
I love.
You're such a little Looky Lou.
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You've got to see everything.
I'm a visual being.
I want to know.
And there's.
I think it's my father's listis the woman who did take her dad's
bucket list, and she dideverything on the list and then wrote
a book about it.
So you can check her out onInstagram, too.
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For my father's list.
That was very interesting, andI hope that answered Nancy's question.
And I thank Claudia Ann andNancy for calling in.
And I thank you for being here.
Thank you for having me.
Your insight actually helps a lot.
I'm Gen X, you're Gen Z.
Different perspectives, andsometimes you see things that I'm
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not seeing.
And I feel we give all a muchbroader perspective on it.
Yeah, there it is right there.
You finished my sentence.
I love that.
Okay, Sophia, I'm.
I'm here.
You know what's up.
Okay.
I'm intuitive, Mom.
Yeah, you are.
I know.
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Sophia, are you ready to diveinto more questions?
I am.
I mean, those were complicatedlast week.
No.
Yeah.
Very good.
So I pulled some of the onesthat are very thought provoking for
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a reason.
I want my listeners to thinkabout some of what people experience
and want to know.
I also think this helps peoplewith abilities to have to focus more
and see what impressions they pull.
So I find the show goodpractice for the gifted.
I agree.
So, okay, let's dig in.
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Okay.
First caller.
Hi, this is Claudia.
I wanted to share an afterlifeexperience that I had years ago after
a surgery.
And it was really weird.
I pretty much.
I was in the hospital and I, I don't.
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I fell asleep, I guess, and Iwas drifting.
Anyway, long story, I wasnever going to tell a soul because
I knew that everyone wouldthink that I was crazy.
But apparently my mom saw me.
She lived 45 minutes away atthe time and I was standing in front
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of her and I was saying goodbye.
So I know for a fact that itwas an afterlife experience.
Anyway, it's a lot deeper than that.
I've always been wonderingwhat my purpose is afterwards.
I feel like there's a reason Icame back.
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I mean, obviously my children.
But I just would like to knowif there's a deeper meaning or purpose,
something I'm supposed to be doing.
Anyway, give me a call.
I just became a fan.
I heard about you on a crimepodcast and I think you're amazing.
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So thank you for sharing yourgift and hopefully I will hear from
you.
I'm fine, thank you.
Claudia heard me on CrimeJunkie AF with my friend Ashley Flower.
Yeah, I've actually had a lotof people text and call saying that
they heard you on that podcast.
Well, it was the right podcastfor me to be on, I'd say.
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Well, no, it's so popularright now too.
Just crime documentaries.
Just everything like thatrealm, yeah, is so popular right
now, you know, and.
I stick my toe in it from timeto time, but I lived in it for 20
years, so year before, beforethe trend.
I'm ahead of my time.
What can I say?
Yeah, I, I found thisinteresting, this, this question
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from Claudia.
I would like to say, okay, soshe was standing in front of her
mom saying goodbye.
Her mom saw this.
So she had a near death experience.
Is, is what she feels.
It's interesting and unusualthat I'd have somebody who would
have a near death experiencesay, what is my calling?
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Most of them are so damn happyjust to have not died.
They want to do everything.
So I would say for Claudia,she said, was I saved for my children?
Or like, what is it?
It's like, that's no small thing.
You're shaping your childrenand who they will be that go out
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into the world.
Obviously you were stillneeded here, still necessary.
A lot of people search fortheir calling in life, in the world
and don't seem to be able tofind it.
And I notice with my clientswhen I ask them, when you were young,
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before you had children,before whatever career path you went
down for stability, financial,like, financial resources that you
needed to stabilize life,raise a child, to take care of family,
what did you love doing?
And often one will say, I usedto write, I used to paint, I used
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to skate, whatever it is thatthey did.
And I always say, I need youto go back to that and try it, because
everything will become clearas to your path and where you need
to be.
It's when we lose that youngpart of ourselves, the passionate
part of ourselves, that ourlife sort of comes undone and takes.
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That takes over.
We're on autopilot, just goingthrough life and then 50 years go
by.
So while you're, whatever ageyou're at, Claudia, and you must
be relatively younger becauseyour kids are, you know, still needing
you.
Yeah, I would say go back towhatever your passion was.
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And even if it was retail andworking in retail, it doesn't.
You don't have to change theworld as one person to be important
in raising a child that willchange the world.
So not everybody's here with aclear passion and path to take.
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Your dad knew when he was 10he was gonna be a rocket scientist.
His path was clear.
I knew I was gonna be a lawyer.
Not exactly, but along thoselines, you know, working with crime,
you know, I went in that direction.
Not everybody has a definedpassion for anything.
Although she is listening tocrime junkie Claudia, why don't you,
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why don't you go to, I mean,she could do CSI school or work in
law enforcement at some, somelevel, forensics.
She could be a private investigator.
I wish I knew the month andday she was born because that, that
helps.
But she could go into anysegment of career around law enforcement
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and unraveling mysteries.
I mean, if she was listeningto me on Crime Junkie.
She loves Crime Junkie.
Go into that field.
I will say though, so you hadsaid when, when you see someone that
had a near death experience,they're like, I'm gonna do everything.
You know, some people thoughhave guilt around it of why was I
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saved?
Well, that's if someone elsedied in the same accident.
No, I know, but they stillthink like if, if before that experience
happened, they already hadself doubt of themselves and they
were insecure, then theyprobably died, come back to life
and they're like, okay, butwhy am I special?
Like, it doesn't matter ifanyone else died around them.
It's like, okay, but why didthis happen?
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But then you said, oh, youknow, your dad knew at 10 what he
was gonna do.
I knew what kind of.
What I want to do.
I don't know what I want todo, you know, but I've gotten astrology
readings done and it doesdepend on your chart because my Mars
and Libra.
Libra being a very Indecisive.
Indecisive.
And the communicator.
Indecisive sign.
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I'm.
I'm supposed to do a lot ofthings in life.
Apparently.
You're a plate spinner.
Yeah.
So she might have somethinglike that where she's like, well,
I like a lot of things, but Idon't know what my calling is.
So I would just do some selfreflection, get some clarity.
You're right.
If there's stuff you like todo, do those things, do them with
your kids.
Like I just read a woman acouple weeks ago, she was an ice
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skater when she was younger.
And she's like.
I said, do you live by a rank?
And she said, yes.
I said, get your skates.
Go down there and just skatelaps until you get clarity in your
mind.
And that's going to help youto focus and come up with exactly
where you want to be and whatyou want to do.
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I think a lot of people getused to living a life without momentum,
where you're just goingthrough the motions and nothing exciting
happens and it just gets monotonous.
Pulling yourself out of thatisn't easy, but you can.
And so for Claudia, I, I hearwhat you're saying, and especially
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when the kids are gone, she'sgonna need a purpose.
Well, no, I like that yousaid, what would you want to do if
money was not right?
Well, a part of it, you know.
Yeah, because that's really important.
If, if money wasn't an objectand if you could just do anything
that you wanted to.
To do with that, and you would never.
And you wouldn't fail, youknow, if you could do anything and
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know you weren't going tofail, what would that be?
And that's really the way weknow we're supposed to live our life.
But it's easier said than donefor a lot of people who are hesitant
in taking risks.
With Claudia, I know thatthere's a reason that she was saved.
And here it can come down tosomething as simple as she's gonna
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push a child out of the waybefore a truck hits them in the future
and save their life.
And then that child goes onto, you know, become a police officer
that then saves a bunch ofpeople, or a firefighter that pulls
people out of burning buildings.
You just don't know.
You have to have faith thatthe other side has a plan for you.
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A much bigger picture.
Also, near death experiencestend to trigger psychic abilities.
So I would just be curious if,since she had her experience, if
her abilities have been turnedup, because many people who have
nd ease end up havingmediumship experiences, at the very
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least clairvoyant, wherethings that they see are going to
happen, then unfold.
So I would be curious ifClaudia seen that aspect of.
It almost seems like an aftereffect of an nde.
There are also NDE groups thatshe could join to talk to other people
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who have been through whatshe's been through, and that might
be helpful as well.
Yeah.
Yes.
So I hope that helps Claudia,because I know navigating such a
murky field can make you feel alone.
And I've talked to a lot of nd ease.
Is it Jacob Cooper that thathad the near death experience?
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I believe it is.
I guess.
This is my show.
I can do this right here,right now.
So just to be accurate, let mepull it up.
I find it so fascinatingbecause they even.
They have those shows about kids.
Oh, wait, no, that's reincarnation.
Oh, that's past lives.
Never mind that.
That's okay.
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So there was a show though.
That's a.
So Jacob Cooper.
Yes, he's on Instagram.
Jacob Cooper, lcsw.
He had a near death experience.
He wrote the Wisdom of Jacob's Ladder.
You follow him on Instagram,start a convo.
He knows all the ND peeps outthere and he'll bring you together
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so you don't have to feelquite so alone.
I love that, you know, all thegroups of every subcategory of spirituality.
You're like, you know, a guyfor that.
It's my life.
I have the resources.
No, I love it.
I know forensic accountants,for those of you getting divorced.
I've got like my finger on thepulse of everything under the legal
(12:20):
and.
Ethereal well, and I will sayumbrella on Allison dubois dot com.
Yeah, there is a resource tabwith all of these resources there.
Yeah, check it out.
Yeah, that would be.
I should, yeah, I should addsome for NDE as well because I experience
a lot of people.
I encounter a lot of peoplethat have had that experience.
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And so that's very important.
So I do hope that's a goodplace for Claudia to start getting
her into the community of NDEsso that she has some support and
doesn't have to feel so out of sorts.
What you were talking aboutwas past lives and it was.
I find it so fascinating.
The Ghost Inside My Child isthe show if anybody wants to watch
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it.
I can't remember, it was onprime or something like that.
It came out in like early2000s, 2007.
Those shows are better anyways.
But it was very specific anddetailed on each child and the life
they said they had before.
They're like, where's my wife?
And this is a three or fouryear old little kid.
(13:25):
You know, I find it fascinating.
Well, there was even one thatexplained or described the Twin Towers
and he was one of the.
Either just a person in thebuilding or a firefighter that died
or something.
And he was like, no, therewere two buildings and, and explained
it, but he was like three orfour too.
So like, there's no way hewould have.
That's why I call smallchildren kindergarten mediums.
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And I always have, becausearound the age that they can fully
communicate, you start to seesome crazy shit come out of their
mouth that's kind of amazingat the same time.
And you have to listen to them.
No, but that's why I'm scaredto be a mom in the future.
Because I swear, if my kidcomes up to me and he's like, mommy,
there's something in some manin my room.
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I'd be like, oh shit, get your dad.
Like, I don't know, I don'twant to check it out.
I have a feeling I'd be comingover to check it out.
That's okay, that's okay.
I one of the little kids onthat show.
It was so Funny.
He.
He was like, I have a wifeand, like, her name is Sarah, and
I have two kids and I havethree cats and I want to go home.
(14:30):
Yeah.
And his mom's just staring at him.
And I felt so bad for thesemoms, but I was just engrossed in
this series.
It was fascinating.
Yeah.
I've never seen that.
Yeah, you have to watch it.
That's why I reached out tothat one center that does past life
regression.
Yeah.
Still waiting to hear backfrom that woman.
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I'll reach out.
Thank you.
Okay, let's go to the next Colin.
Okay.
Hi, this is Anne from Missouri.
I have been trying to connectto my husband, which doesn't seem
to be going very well.
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He died in June of 23.
He had bone marrow cancer.
But instead of fighting, hejust gave up.
And I don't have any feelingthat he's around me.
I so want to hear from him.
Because he gave up.
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Does that mean he didn't loveme enough to stay?
I now have pancreatic cancerand won't do chemo.
So I guess I won't survive.
Will I see him after I crossover in one little.
No.
I woke up one morning and Iwas laying in bed and my soul was
(15:57):
sitting up.
Anyway, thank you for listening.
I listen to your show every Tuesday.
You're really great.
Thank you so much.
Well, thank you, Ann.
I wanted to include Ann.
I find in life that whensomebody's terminal, people abandon
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them.
And I counsel the dying allthe time, and it's a hard thing to
do.
So I really wanted to answerAnne's questions for her.
Well, yeah, My heart justbroke listening to that.
And what a sweetheart is she.
I know.
So she's.
But that's the thing, people.
Our perspective's all wrong.
(16:39):
We'll go.
They're a good one.
Why don't they stay?
Because they're good.
I don't want you to go throughall that.
Well, the next.
Watching them.
The next place is better, too.
Yeah.
So they get to go.
The bad ones still havesomething to learn.
So we're here becauseapparently we haven't learned what
we need to learn or haven'tdone what we need to do.
(16:59):
Well.
And also, I mean, he had bonemarrow cancer.
That is, like, not good.
First of all, extremely painful.
Yes.
Second of all, that is so hard.
Like, it may have given him afew extra months.
Yeah.
But it's not like it would have.
He would have been miserable.
And he probably didn't wantyou to see him miserable.
(17:20):
He didn't Want to be miserable.
And, yeah, he's thinking, oh,the other side sounds pretty good
right about now.
And I will see you one day.
Yeah.
So.
But that breaks my heart thatshe thinks it's because.
And that's why we're going toanswer this for her, because I don't
want her feeling like that.
You not being able to feelyour husband around has nothing to
do with whether or not heloved you.
(17:41):
I can assure you.
Assure you he loves you.
I also can guarantee that heknows when you're gonna die and that
he will be there meeting you,waiting for you, so he'll be the
first person you see.
And that's when your soul willunderstand that you were the love
of his life and that he didvalue you.
(18:02):
You do matter.
Often when somebody dies, it'sthe person closest to them that's
the last person to get any communication.
Because it's not that theloved one's not around him.
It's that we're blocked by pain.
Absolutely.
So it's because Ann loves herhusband so much and that she misses
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him.
And she's going through herown battle with pancreatic cancer,
which is a losing battle.
All you can do is hope that itmaybe buys you some time.
I.
I feel for her on that levelbecause he had his wife there to
go through what he wentthrough, and now she feels like,
(18:45):
here I am going through it by myself.
But I know that he's there inspirit next to her, saying, it's
okay.
It's gonna be okay, even ifshe can't hear him or sense him.
And I couldn't hear or sensemy dad for four years.
I had to have Lori Campbellbring him through, and I had to bring
Lori Campbell's dad throughbecause we were blocked by pain.
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Part of us still wanted ourdads to come back, and part of her
can't believe that he's gone.
Yeah.
And so a wall goes up toprotect us because we become very
fragile when we suffer thatkind of loss.
So.
And they get so frustrated.
I did, too.
People get so frustrated.
They're like, do they not love me?
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Do they not want to talk to me?
Is there nothing they need tosay to me?
Am I that forgettable?
And it's the opposite of that.
They're all around you.
The problem's us.
It's not them.
So, Ann, a, you're blocked bypain because your heart's broken
and you miss him, and youwatched him suffer, which is another
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layer.
So you're going to feel alittle bit of Maybe guilt of, did
I do enough for him?
Did he feel loved by me?
Could I have made it better?
Could I have sent him in sooner?
And maybe he would have lived.
We beat ourselves up as.
As humans in the living world,and it's very unfair.
We're our own worst enemy.
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And we just really go atourselves when someone dies, thinking
somehow we did something wrong.
And I always bring themthrough, and they say, you did everything
right.
Don't worry about it.
Let that go.
That's your stuff.
That's not part of my reality.
That's what the souls say.
So for Anne, the fact that shesaw her soul sitting up in bed is
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a huge sign of.
Usually that window's open forher to pass.
So I think sounds like she'sready anyway, because.
Right.
She misses him so much.
Absolutely.
And so I want to talk a littlebit about this.
The other side is showing herher soul sitting up so that she recognizes
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that she doesn't die, thatthat part of her will remain.
So it's a visual communicationthat, you're coming with us.
You're going to come with us.
So this.
That's actually not a bad thing.
And especially with pancreatic cancer.
That's how your grandfather died.
That's how dad's dad went.
And it's not a great way to die.
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Yeah.
And so, you know, for Anne, Iwill say a.
Your husband loves you.
He never left you.
You're gonna see him.
He's younger.
You revert to a younger agewhen you cross.
So if I brought your husbandthrough, for instance, he'd give
me the age that he reverted towhat he looks like now.
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And that usually was theirheaven on earth, which almost always
ends up being when they gotmarried, when they fell in love,
when they had children,whatever it was that made their heart
race and made life the best ithad ever been.
That's what age we go back to, so.
Or guys, if they wish.
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And women, if they wish they'dmet their partner sooner, if they
could have been youngtogether, they'll go back to a younger
age and wait for them at thatyounger age so they can live that
life together.
I love that.
I love that, too.
So Ann's husband, just likeBetty White.
When Betty White died, thelast thing she said was Allen.
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And that was the husband thatshe had lost, like 40 years before
that she missed.
And I think that is straightup one of the most beautiful illustrations
of what happens at the momentof death.
And that's what Ann can expect.
She will.
She'll see him, he'll put hishand out to her, she'll grab it,
grab it, and she'll sit up outof her body, stand up and walk into
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the light with him, and shallpart from the body that betrayed
her.
But the body's only a vesselfor us for a short time.
It's not intended to stay so pristine.
We work so hard on theoutside, on maintaining how we look
on the outside, that often weforget to focus on the inside and
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who we are as people, which iswhy we're actually here.
It's ironic because I do bringa lot of people through and they
can have vanity to them, like,looks still matter, which I find
just hilarious.
But it's like, who they are.
But I guarantee that Ann'sgoing to go back to a younger age
and it'll be a different timefor her when she crosses over.
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So she'll acclimate with themusic, the furniture, the hairstyles,
the clothing of whateverdecade was happy for her, which I
love when they share thosethings with me as well.
And so I just want Ann to knowthere's so much waiting for you when
you cross and you're going tobe amongst the living.
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The dead always tell us thatwe're the dead ones, that they're
more alive than we are.
So consider yourself leavingthe graveyard.
When you leave the physicalworld, you're going into the living
one.
That's really.
That's really where Ann'sgoing and that's where her husband
is.
But I guarantee you, Ann, yourhusband's around you.
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He gives you a kiss goodnight, he holds your hand, he whispers,
I'm okay.
He's trying to get you tofocus on yourself, which you don't
even probably care aboutbecause you just want to go.
I think you seeing your soulsitting up is a huge heads up that
it's.
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It's time, that it's imminent.
And I say that with absolutelove and a sense of excitement for
you because I don't want youto suffer in this body, this body.
You're done with it.
It's time to move into thenext phase of your life with your
husband, and you'll be morealive than you were.
(24:56):
Here we are in a nine year,which I've been very clear about
with my listeners.
It is a year of ending.
So people that have barelybeen hanging on do let go.
And so all of this is justindicative of a passing.
Well, I wanted to.
I didn't want to cut you offbefore, but I haven't looked at the
clock, the Entire time we'vebeen podcasting.
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And when I looked at theclock, it was 444, which is an angel
number.
Angels are watching us.
He's probably saying, tell her that.
Tell her.
I love that.
Thank you.
I just wanted to let you knowit was 444 when I just looked at
the clock.
And your husband's watching you.
And he'll try and ease herpain as well.
He'll try and buffer her andhold her hand when she's going through
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any sort of therapy that she needs.
I wish I had some sort of amagic email address that people could
just send messages of love to Anne.
I just want Ann to know thatshe matters, that she won't be forgotten,
and that we're all so gratefulthat she was here and we don't deserve
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her anymore.
And that's what death is.
When we no longer deserve thatperson here, they cross over to a
place where they can thrive.
I love that.
I think that this will helpher, actually.
I hope so.
So we're sending you.
Love, Ann.
Okay, let's go on to the next one.
Now that I'm all weepy.
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I know my eyes are watering, too.
Okay.
This is Nancy.
Yes, Allison.
Hi.
This is Nancy.
I'm from Illinois.
I just had a quick question.
Years ago, after my motherpassed, I woke up in the middle of
the night and saw her as plainas day standing at the foot of my
bed.
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It didn't scare me, but I hadso many questions, and I was just
numb, and I couldn't say anything.
She.
As quick as she was there, she disappeared.
But she's never came back tome since then.
And I wonder if, because I wasscared, she's not going to come visit
me again and how I could kindof break through that, because I
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would love another visit from her.
It's been 40 years, and Ialways think about her.
She's always in my thoughtsand prayers.
But I just wondered.
And also, I seem to be intuitive.
Like, I can walk into a roomand I can feel people's energy, and
I don't know if that couldmake me intuitive or should I tap
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into that and how can Ifurther that gift?
I guess.
And pretty.
I'm pretty spot on when I canfeel people's energy.
So I just had a question.
If I could or how I could tapinto more of my skills if I have
it.
I don't know.
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Thank you.
I appreciate it.
Have a great day.
God bless you.
You're doing great things forso many people.
Thank you.
Nancy didn't she have some zest?
She did.
Well, she probably just had areally fun, fun St.
Patty's Day if she's in Illinois.
Oh, yeah, yeah, I'm sure.
Yeah.
I hope she went to the Greenriver in Chicago.
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That's right.
They do that there too.
Some guy just jumped in it.
Oh, he did.
Okay.
It's so funny.
We're so.
We consider it Irish, butwe're so damn American.
If you don't see a green beer.
You'Re like, oh, I'm gettingthat right after this podcast.
So we've got our shirts on our green.
Because today is St.
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Patrick's Day, and tomorrowthere will be people with a lot of
hangovers.
Oh, yeah, this is part two.
Oh, yeah.
They won't be hearing this fora little bit.
St.
Patrick's for us.
Never mind.
A two parter.
Yes.
So the question from Nancy was the.
Does she have abilities, herintuitiveness how to go back or how
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to increase that?
But she saw the mom at herfoot of the foot of her bed.
After she died, she had avisit, but it scared her.
So for everybody out there, ifyou see someone at the foot of your
bed, and that's why I had thepilot episode with Medium, that's
how it opened with where I'mseeing people standing at the foot
of my bed, because theyliterally do that.
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That's what they do.
She.
She was letting Nancy knowthis is how I'm okay.
And I know the words I'm okayto us seem, like, obvious or overheard.
Here's the thing.
They need you to see them in aform that they're not suffering.
They're trying to convey toyou that they're well, that they're
(29:35):
whole.
So when I say they're tryingto convey I'm okay, that's actually
a very big thing.
They're trying to take yourpain away by showing you they live
on.
And so when Nancy's mom stoodat the foot of her bed and real and
recognized that Nancy engagedher and knew that she was there,
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she's thinking, my daughterknows, right?
So she's gone, and thenthere's no sense of time.
So the 40 years it's been forNancy, her mom's just, like, living
her best life and peeking inon Nancy, seeing how her life's unfolded.
Now if Nancy's in a caraccident or something, mama gonna
be there.
You know, they show up.
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So this is not a bad thing forNancy that her mom hasn't consistently
come.
Her mom probably hadunfinished business on the other
side that she needed to takecare of the people who preceded her
mother.
And death already assured herthat Nancy would be not only fine,
but exactly how her life would unfold.
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So her mom already knew shewas in good hands and who was taking
care of her.
Also knowing that mama couldcome in anytime she needs to buffer
her baby.
So that was a good thing.
But without knowing Nancy andwithout knowing her mom's energy,
it's hard for me to saybecause if the mom was gregarious
and full of life andenergetic, they tend to come through
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a little bit more often and alittle bit more full on sparkling
Their, their glitter.
And the ones who lived more ofa monotone life where it was just,
you know, going through themotions, yeah, they don't have as
much to say because they'relearning some things on the other
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side about how to exude energyand how they didn't do that in the
last lifetime and why that mayhave been.
Why was your soul alreadyfractured or.
Well, and it's beaten down.
So you'd have to assume themom died pretty young, you know.
Well, I don't know how oldNancy is, but yeah, she'd be on the
younger end, I would imagine.
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So.
I'm glad Nancy's here.
I know it's hard for peoplewhen they surpass their parents age,
when you live longer than yourparent did, and we all have it in
our mind of what that age isand how far off it is.
So she wants to know how shecan tap in.
I think this would be a greatexercise for Nancy in her intuitive
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abilities.
Now, there's a distinction.
People can be intuitivewithout communicating with the other
side.
More people are intuitivewhere they get an inkling, a feeling.
They know who's on the otherend of the line on the phone before
they answer it.
They predict something's goingto happen, then it comes to pass.
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That's much more common thancommunicating with the dead.
So when she says intuitive,her mom at the foot of her bed, that
could have happened to anyone.
That's a non medium.
They don't have to have anyabilities for that.
But she says she has anintuitive nature as well.
And that's what I'm speaking to.
But I'm also saying to her,manifesting the other side is a whole
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other level.
So it doesn't mean it's impossible.
It just means you have toremove all of the barriers that are
around you.
And I liken it to Somewhere inTime, which is one of my favorite
movies.
Christopher Reeve, JaneSeymour, Watch it and don't cry.
Dare you?
I don't think you could.
And in the movie, when he'ssetting the scene in his room to
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go back to the time where thatbeautiful woman was in the hotel
that she lived to meet her, hehad to remove the coins from that
year.
He had to take the picturesoff the wall.
He had to create anenvironment that was not clouded
by the future, that it wasn'ttainted by the future.
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So it had to be as it was back then.
I love that.
So down to the suit.
Yes, down to the suit, whichhe was off on the year, which was
funny, but it's not so different.
But it's easier in what I'mabout to tell you.
So when you want to make aconnection with somebody who died,
and this is what I tell myclients, you take up a picture of
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them that you'll be attracted to.
And it's never an old picture.
So let me just rule that outfor everyone right there, that's
like, oh, I'm going to put thelast picture of mom up.
It's like, mom's 22.
Mom doesn't want to see that picture.
So when you're drawn to ayounger picture of them, that's the
one you're going to put upbecause your heart's telling you
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that's what I look like now.
It's your mom speaking to you.
So you put that on your nightstand.
I don't want you to think oftheir death or anything attached
to the death.
You can't think of an illnessleading to the death.
You cannot think of the funeral.
Nothing that remotely attachesto it.
You think about when you werea little girl, when she would carry
you on her hip, when she wouldget you chocolate milk without your
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dad knowing as a treat.
All the little times with yourmother on your birthday when she'd
bake you a cake, even thoughthere wasn't a lot of money, so she'd
make it herself, but it wasalways really special, and she'd
decorate it, and she was agreat cake decorator.
You know all the littledetails around your happiest moments
in your life with your mom.
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Okay, so now we've establishedthat, then you're gonna smile and
you're gonna say, mom, I'mready for a visit.
And just close your eyes andgo to sleep.
Because we have set yourenergy tone to be on the same page,
or at least as near to herenergy so that she can connect with
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you as possible.
So all of the things that Ijust said will help in communication.
I And there is a hugedifference between.
And I've heard people say this.
I put out a picture and I saidI wanted to visit.
It's like, okay, what's thedifference between that.
That town and everything thatI just said?
Two different worlds, wouldn'tyou say?
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Yeah.
So.
But the second one is, like, right.
Running an agenda.
Like, why isn't she comingthrough still?
Right.
Like I.
Like I said the words.
I asked for it.
I demanded it.
Because your heart wasn'tasking for it.
Your soul wasn't reaching for her.
You're just putting in anorder at a fast food restaurant that
mom can visit.
You know what I'm saying?
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So.
So that would be thedifference in energy.
So for any of you that aren'tgonna put your whole heart and soul
into that connection, don'texpect any results other than what
you get, which will be nothing.
Yeah.
You know, a whole lot of nothing.
So for Nancy, I hope thishelps her connect with her mother,
because my sense is her motheris easily accessible by Nancy.
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It's just setting the stage.
It's setting the environment.
Another thing is every dayjust letting her know, mom, I still
want you to be part of my life.
You know, I have thatcaricature up of my dad dancing.
You guys used to think it wasmy mom.
It is not.
And looks like, yeah, dad hada type.
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So I've got a caricature of mydad up on the wall, and I invited
him as soon as he died.
I'm like, dad, you know, Istill want you to be part of my life,
but it took four years for meto start being able to see him because
I couldn't see through the tears.
My heart was broken.
I had a lump in my throat allthe time.
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And all of this blocks theother side from being heard and seen
by you.
It's not that you're trying to.
It's the person that feelsclosest to the one who died that's
always the last one to havethe interaction, which is what mediums
are for and why people willhear a cousin of theirs say, I had
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a dream.
And Tony said, he's good.
Like, he wanted me to let youknow they'll go through everybody
but you because they can't getthrough to you.
Your heart's just too broken.
So I hope that helps.
Nancy, your mom's been aroundthe whole time.
Sort of what I was saying toAnn, you know, your.
Whose husband is there waitingfor her, watching her, monitoring
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her, making sure she's okay.
And by okay, I mean that herSoul's being eased over to the other
side.
Slowly and as smooth as possible.
For Nancy, who's not goinganywhere, her mom's just watching
her saying, do all the thingsI didn't do, all the things I told
you not to do when you weregrowing up.
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I'm sorry.
Like, go do those things.
Go travel.
You know, don't worry, you'llhave the money down the road.
Just go.
You know, whenever you live anevent, I know you don't do events
anymore, but the ones that Iwould had seen, you would always
tell people, like, that personwants you to do the things that were
on their bucket list.
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So go do it.
Yeah.
I wish so deeply that allthose people would have sent you
photos of them doing those things.
Right.
Like, wait a second.
Yeah.
We just had this wholeinteraction of you telling me that
you're going to Ireland in two months.
Right.
I want to see the photos.
Yeah.
It's so true what you guys did.
I love.
You're such a little Looky Lou.
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You've got to see everything.
I'm a visual being.
I want to know.
And there's.
I think it's my father's listis the woman who did take her dad's
bucket list, and she dideverything on the list and then wrote
a book about it.
So you can check her out onInstagram, too.
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For my father's list.
That was very interesting, andI hope that answered Nancy's question.
And I thank Claudia Ann andNancy for calling in.
And I thank you for being here.
Thank you for having me.
Your insight actually helps a lot.
I'm Gen X, you're Gen Z.
Different perspectives, andsometimes you see things that I'm
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not seeing.
And I feel we give all a muchbroader perspective on it.
Yeah, there it is right there.
You finished my sentence.
I love that.
Okay, Sophia, I'm.
I'm here.
You know what's up.
Okay.
I'm intuitive, Mom.
Yeah, you are.
I know.
So everybody that needs tocall in with a question for a future
(40:08):
episode, you know, to call inat 802-332-3811.
So thank you to my listeners.
Tune in next Tuesday for afresh episode of the Dead Life.
I'm Allison Dubois.
This is the Dead Life.
And to all of my believers outthere, don't stop believing.
Join us next week on the deadlife.
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