The Delve Podcast

==Media Links==
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Hosts:
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==
This episode reframes job searching as more than “send out as many applications as possible.” Adam and Ali argue that a strong job search includes several kinds o...

==Media Links==
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Hosts: Ali McGarel, Adam W. Fominaya

Guest: Andrea Bink

==Overview of Big Ideas==
A listener’s question about confidence opens into a deeper conversation about self-talk, shame, gender expectations, relationships, and the fear of failure...

==Media Links==
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Hosts:
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• The episode begins with a deceptively simple claim: you may not be failing; the system around you may be failing you.

• Individual responsibility can become a convenient place f...

==Media Links==
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• Ethan Hawke’s quote becomes a springboard for thinking about love as something you do, not just something you feel.
• Unrequited love can be painful, but loving openly is not inhere...

Website: delvepsych.com
Instagram: @delvepsychchicago
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
Substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day” sounds wise, but work remains work, even when it involves something meaningful.
• Turning a beloved activity into a job can change its psycho...

==Media Links==
Website: delvepsych.com
Instagram: @delvepsychchicago
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
Substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• Ridicule can feel powerful because it moves shame outward: if I can criticize you, I do not have to feel what hurts in me.
• Some people turn shame inward through self-attack, depression,...

==Media Links==
Website: delvepsych.com
Instagram: @delvepsychchicago
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
Substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• The 50th episode opens with Ali and Adam reflecting on the podcast itself: the pleasure of dialogue, public thinking, and watching ideas become sharper over time.
• The central claim: ins...

==Media Links==
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• Most behavior-change advice assumes awareness: put the phone away, choose your words carefully, notice activation, use the right script.
• The problem is that people often need help preci...

==Media Links==
Website: delvepsych.com
Instagram: @delvepsychchicago
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
Substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Hosts:

• Ali McGarel
• Adam Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• This episode pushes back on the idea that chemistry is a trustworthy oracle.
• What feels like spark may actually be anxiety, uncertainty, intermittent reassurance, attachment dy...

==Media Links==
Website: delvepsych.com
Instagram: @delvepsychchicago
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
Substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

• The episode tackles free will not as a purely abstract puzzle, but as a practical question for therapy: do we have choices, and what follows if we do?
• Adam sketches the old deterministi...

==Media Links==

website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==

Ali McGarel
Adam Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

This episode tackles a very modern anxiety: when does opening up to friends become too much? Ali and Adam argue that the line is not simply "talking about hard things" versus "keeping them to yoursel...

==Media Links==

website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==

Ali McGarel
Adam Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

This episode takes the "male loneliness epidemic" seriously without pretending that concern for men cancels concern for women or trans people. Ali and Adam explore how many men are taught to build th...

website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==

Ali McGarel
Adam Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

Therapy is not about becoming unbothered, robotic, or perfectly stoic. This episode argues that spiraling, panic, grief, and anger do not automatically mean failure; progress is messy, and shame usually makes it wo...

==Media Links==

website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

==Participants==

Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

==Overview of Big Ideas==

Expectations can spoil experience when life is forced to match a fantasy.
Unplanned moments often bring more joy than curated ones.
Meaning may come more from process than outcome.
Bounda...

====Media Links====
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

====Participants====

• Ali McGarel

• Adam W. Fominaya

====Overview of Big Ideas====

• Procrastination is often framed as personal failure, but it can be a predictable byproduct of a culture that yokes worth to output.

• The "spark" narrative (find motivation, ...

====Media Links====
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

====Participants====

• Ali McGarel

• Adam W. Fominaya

====Overview of Big Ideas====

• Many of us were trained (especially in academia) to meet new ideas with suspicion: what is wrong with this?

• That "reading against" posture can protect truth-seeking, but it...

====Media Links====
website: delvepsych.com
instagram: @delvepsychchicago
youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

====Participants====

• Ali McGarel

• Adam W. Fominaya

====Overview of Big Ideas====

• "Intern" can mean anything from brand-new to someone with hundreds of clinical hours who just has not graduated or licensed yet.

• Intern therapy is closer to an apprenticesh...

--Media Links--

website: delvepsych.com

instagram: @delvepsychchicago

youtube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20⁠

substack: ⁠https://delvepsych.substack.com/⁠

--Participants--

Ali McGarel

Adam W. Fominaya

--Overview of Big Ideas--

A well-meant “How are you feeling today?” can inadvertently become a demand for improvement, loading guilt onto someone who already feels wretched.

The urge to rescue often curdles into frustration...

MEDIA LINKS

Website: delvepsych.com
Instagram: @delvepsychchicago
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DelvePsych20
Substack: https://delvepsych.substack.com/

Hosts
Ali McGarel
Adam W. Fominaya

OVERVIEW OF BIG IDEAS
Ali and Adam unpack the “internal working model” as a mental blueprint: the mostly-implicit rulebook we carry about who we are, what other people are like, and what the world tends to do to u...