Have you ever had one of those days where you really meant to stay focused… but somehow, your energy vanished, your to-do list exploded, and your day went completely sideways again? Yeah. Me too.
For a long time, I thought I just needed more willpower. Or maybe better habits.
But here’s the truth: willpower wears out, and even the best habits can fall apart when life gets chaotic.
We all want to stay focused, be productive, and actually move forward on the things that matter most. That’s why in today’s episode—Part 2 of the Own Your Day series—I’m sharing the one thing that’s stronger than willpower and more reliable than habits when it comes to staying on track with your goals: your personal rules.
These aren’t rigid or restrictive. They’re intentional, self-chosen standards—your Standard Operating Rules (SORs)—that make decisions easier, minimize distractions, and keep you aligned with the version of you that you're becoming.
This episode is part conversation, part reflection, and part mini-workshop. So grab a journal or open up your Notes app—because I’m guiding you through exactly how to create your own “I will” and “I will not” rules. These simple but powerful commitments are how you stop relying on willpower and start creating real rhythm and clarity in your day.
The rules you choose are the key to building focus, freedom, and momentum.
Let’s do this together.
00:00 Introduction to the Distracted Dreamer Podcast
00:22 Welcome and Preparation
01:30 The Importance of Rules
03:01 Benefits of Having Rules
05:50 Personal Rules and Examples
07:36 Creating Your Own Rules
08:34 Types of Rules: I Will vs. I Will Not
11:30 Implementing and Sticking to Rules
15:21 Consistency and Self-Compassion
16:45 Conclusion and Next Steps
18:02 Legal Disclaimer
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