January 6, 2025 • 51 mins
In this episode, Taylor dives into setting soulful goals, embracing 100% responsibility, and aligning with your core values for a transformative 2025!
🎙 LIVE insights on reflecting, celebrating, and creating a clear, purpose-driven vision for the new year!
Here’s what you can expect:
- The Power of E + R = O – Learn how focusing on your responses rather than external events can unlock self-awareness and growth.
- Energy Management for Artists – Discover the importance of preserving energy to thrive in high-pressure environments.
- Reflection & Celebration – Why looking back on your wins and challenges is key to setting meaningful intentions for the future.
- Emotional Alignment – How releasing limiting beliefs and tuning into your emotions helps you create goals that truly resonate.
- Soulful Success Strategies – Practical tips on creating goals rooted in your core values, identifying expanders, and celebrating progress authentically.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, it's so good to see people.
I feel like I've been away fora little while, but it's good to
be back and I'm so keen on thiscall.
Yeah, thanks for getting on.
Let's just get straight into it, because I'm just so excited to
share with what I'm going toshare today.
I'm actually going to put thisone out as an actual podcast
episode, so you're going to beinvolved in it.
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I don't know how it's, whetherit's going on here or I've got
another recording out here, sofeel free to just take it as it
comes, but I really am excitedto have you all here and talk on
the topic that I'll be talkingon today, and I also wanted to
be a bit interactive, so I wantto give you some things.
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If you've got a pen and paper,definitely this is your chance
to do it and, as always, I'mhere to guide you and help you
kind of make 2025 the best yearyou can possibly make, because
why not?
We're going to be doing itanyway, so might as well enjoy
the process and set it upcorrectly, because, really, when
I was looking at this episodeand this workshop and we will be
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doing a Q&A at the end of thisso definitely hang around and we
can definitely chat back andforward to give you those
answers or answer your questionsthat you need.
But really, when it comes downto before we get into setting up
our new year, it's all abouttaking that responsibility right
.
So it's taking responsibilityfor ourselves.
And when I was 18, quick littlebackstory when I started working
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in musical theater, I'd neverread a book in my life and I
wasn't really takingresponsibility.
I was just like thrown intothis industry.
I didn't even study theindustry.
I just kind of was like oh yeah, I've got dance abilities, here
we go chuggers.
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And so I was just like deer inthe headlights, absorbing it all
, taking it all in and doing mybest to make it happen.
And whilst I was able to makethat kind of happen in my own
creative way, I was led by anamazing woman that kind of, I
want to say, kind of saved meand helped me guide towards
building this sustainable andlong fun career that I have now.
And one part of that was shegot me onto reading and, oh my
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gosh, me at 18, literally thisbuzz of energy that just wanted
to do 20 million things at oncekind of still like that, but I'm
a bit more regulated now, a bitmore focused, but what I'm
saying is that I didn't reallyhave anything any idea when it
came to mindset, when it came totaking responsibility.
I was 18, I just wanted to havefun.
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Like I'm in new zealand playingon stages and just like I want
to go out for drinks and likewake up in the morning and what,
whatever, ever time, eatwhatever, and that is fun.
We all need to do that right.
But when it comes down tosustainably building a career on
purpose, things don't justhappen like that.
I was very lucky for that tokind of like fall into place as
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it did, but what I found wasthat to create a long term, we
can't do that it.
We need to be like I needed tolike rein in, rein it all in to
then be able to make it allhappen.
So today's call is kind of basedon that and based off the
second book that I ever read,which was how to get from where
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you are to where you want to be,by jack canfield.
Oh my gosh, you could spendlike a month on each chapter.
Two really cool things.
Well, one really cool thingthat I can think of the top of
my head.
If you're not a good not don'tlike reading much, this is
really good for you because Iwas going to say episodes,
chapters are a few pages longand they're all specifically
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actionable steps you can takeand you can kind of do it once a
week, you can do it once a day,but it kind of builds upon next
chapter.
And if you wanted to get a bookand you're kind of like, what
do I need to read for 2025 toget started, this will be
amazing book for you.
So any of my listeners therethat I'll put this out as a
podcast episode how to get fromwhere you are to where you want
to be I'll share a link on whereto buy it.
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It says the 25 principles ofsuccess.
It's very American.
So here I know we havedifferent levels of success and
what that means.
I would put 25 principles offulfillment and the first
chapter in this is takingresponsibility for your life,
100% responsibility for yourlife.
So let me read a little bitabout what that means.
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So if you it says here, if youwant to be successful, you have
to take 100% responsibility foreverything that you experience
in your life.
This includes the level of yourachievements, the results you
produce, the quality of yourrelationships, the state of your
health and physical fitness,your income, your debts, your,
your feelings, everything.
And it says that it's obviouslynot easy to do that, because
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we're actually it's you knowwhat is really easy to kind of
just like blame others or blamethe industry, or blame that
teacher, or blame the weatherand blame all these things.
But there's actually real powerwhen you can understand that,
when you take 100%responsibility of everything
that's happening to you, thatmeans that you have
responsibility, or you haveactual.
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It's how.
What do they say?
Responsibility is actually howyou respond to basically the,
your abilities and the thingsthat are happening out there.
And I wanted to kind of notdisempower you, but I wanted to
kind of be this way of lookingat this new year in a way of how
am I responding to the worldand out there, what's happening
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in my world that I can actuallytake hold of and go?
You know what?
It doesn't matter if theweather's this, it doesn't
matter if I get cut from everyaudition.
What matters is I takeresponsibility for what I do.
I stay in my lane, I show upfor what I do.
I stay in my lane.
I show up for me, I do what Ineed to do to stay in my lane,
keep the laser sharp focusmoving forward and just
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celebrate everyone else that'sout here doing their look in
there.
I feel like 2025, put your handup if you feel like 2025 really
needs to be about that Lasersharp focus, about literally
going.
Let's just celebrate everyonewhere they are.
Let's not like compare, becauseyou know what Comparison is
actually not real.
I know a lot of us in musicaltheater and looking to get a
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musical theater.
We compare a lot, but there isno version of you out there.
There's not a single sameperson as you.
They may look kind of like you,they may be somewhere that you
want to be, but they are not youand you are not them.
So the actual, the concept ofcomparison is really silly,
because there's literally notanother person on the planet
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that has your makeup, your setof skills, your fingerprint,
your life experience.
So let's use that as our powerto go into 2025 of going like
what am I comparing about?
And usually I always say andit's not in every sense, but in
my experience, comparisonwhenever I'm going in that road,
it's usually just a reflectionof what I'm not doing right, and
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I know sometimes it's hard toswallow, like I'll look at
someone I know they're like, oh,you know they're killing it
doing this.
They're singing amazing.
Well, taylor, when was the lastsinging class you went to?
Probably a few months ago, youknow.
So it's about being fun withyourself as well and really
becoming super reflective, andthat's what we're going to be
doing on the call today.
So how does that sound thatwe're going to just go in and
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take responsibility?
Because how does that soundthat we're going to just go in
and take responsibility?
Because once you do that, youactually free yourself up,
because that means you get todecide.
You get to decide every singlething that you respond to,
because, ultimately, everythingthat you respond to gives you
your outcome.
Does that make sense?
So, for anyone that kind of waslike, what does that mean?
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Is that if you were writingdown now what is it?
It's like E, event plus.
Give me some maths here.
So hold on, it's an actual like, a more of an analogy other
than here it is.
Here we go.
So E plus R equals O.
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This changed everything for mewhen I learned about this, and
we will get into the goalsetting in a moment, but I just
want this to sink in for you.
So if you're new to kind ofpersonal development, you're new
here into the world of TelusGalen, we're all about kind of
giving you some.
I want to give you lots ofdifferent things, because some
people are visual, some peopleare mathematical, some people
are audible, some people areexpressive, so I'm giving a
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little bit of taste foreverything.
So E plus R equals O, so thatstands for event plus response
equals your outcome.
So the basic idea is that everyoutcome you experience in life
so whether it's a success or afailure, wealth or poverty,
health or illness, intimacy orwhatever joy, frustrations is a
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result of how you've respondedto an earlier event or events in
your life.
And if you don't like theoutcomes you're currently
getting, there are two basicchoices you can make.
So the first thing that we tendto do is that we can blame the
event.
You know the event happensmaybe.
Okay, let's go into an audition, we've just come out in an
audition and we're going.
You know, uh, we're blaming theaudition.
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Oh, it was run terribly and Icouldn't pick it up, the curry
and that pianist didn't play mymusic right, and we just kind of
like put it on the outsidebecause it's easier, right, it's
easy to kind of like look atthe scenario and you know,
sometimes it's true.
But what I want you to kind ofunderstand is, when we blame and
we complain, all of that isstopping your growth because
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it's putting the power toeveryone else but you so it's
giving your power over to thepianist, to the place, to the
time, to how it was structured,to all these other things.
And I think everyone inside ourcommunity here is kind of on
that other edge.
We don't, we're not like livingand breathing the complaining
and blaming.
But you know, we're all humanand sometimes we can dive into
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that and that's okay.
Sometimes it happens to me too.
But just know that when we areblaming, complaining, we need to
kind of get rid of those for2025 because, again, we are
energetic beings and whateveryou're giving our energy to,
we're going to really know wherewe're putting our energy in
2025.
There's a lot of thingshappening in the world.
There's so much access toknowledge and information, so
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everyone's kind of energy hungry, right, we're all kind of like
wanting another coffee.
We want to hack how to feel thebest way we can.
So all of this is designed togive us energy.
That's what we're kind oflooking for, because without
energy we're kind of nothing,right.
So let's become hyper aware ofwhere we're giving our energy.
And the first thing you can dothat will help you as an artist
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going into the industry is toreally learn how you're taking
responsibility and how yourespond to the events that are
happening.
So just that amazing concept of,okay, how I respond gives my
outcome.
For example, like this I'm justtrying to give an example here.
Okay, say, if I go into anaudition let's just say
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auditions coming up, veryrelevant, anyway, I'm going to
an audition.
It didn't go the best, butinstead I responded in a way
that was like all right, I'mgonna reflect on that, this went
well.
Maybe I feel a little bitshitty for a second, I'm gonna
have a little cry, but then howI respond is moving forward.
What can I gain from thisexperience?
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What did I learn from thisexperience?
What am I proud of from thisexperience and how can I move
from here?
How am I responding to thatcircumstance?
And then that actually givesyou your future right.
Then you can say it.
On the other end, if you wentinto an audition space and you
didn't.
Maybe you did really well, butyou're really self-harsh critic.
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A lot of performers includingmyself when I was earlier on
really harsh critics like to a Twanted to overanalyze every
single possible thing, and againit's coming back to that thing.
What is supporting you?
Does that feel supportive?
Do you feel energized from thataction?
No, not a lot of the time.
So it's really aboutunderstanding ourselves in 2025.
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It's about really diving in andgoing okay, how am I responding
?
How can I dial up this energy?
How can I give myself moreenergy and really just be that
ultimate reflector and ultimate,just curator of your own life?
Because when you start doingthat, you start to see patterns
and you start to see oh, do Ireally want to start following
that passion?
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Do I really want to startfollowing that pattern or this?
What do I want instead?
Know that you actually have thepower in every moment to decide
something new, but 95% of thetime, we're running on
unconscious patterns, meaningthat we have a set of things
that we do Like think about thismorning, right, then we all
wake up.
You probably get out of the bedthe same way.
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You brush your teeth with thesame toothbrush and the same
hand.
You probably, when you go intothe shower probably too much
information, but you probablylike wash the same parts of your
body at the same time and thenwhen you get out of the shower,
you probably towel your hair anddo it's all automatic and we
actually need a lot of theseautomatic things right to um to
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keep us alive.
But there's also so manyautomatic things like
self-criticism or things thatstart to dive in that actually
aren't supportive.
So I want you, after thisepisode or after this workshop,
to really just become in in acompassionate way, really
understand what am I doing,because you are exactly where
you are right now based off allof the beliefs that you
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currently have, and beliefs showup as behaviors.
So, in order to change a newbelief, what do we need to do?
Change our behaviors and how todo that new belief.
What do we need to do?
Change our behaviors, and weneed to, and how to do that is
by becoming aware of ourbehaviors.
What are we doing?
What actions are we taking?
And, again, we've really got tobe passionate not passionate
compassionate about when webecome aware.
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Because, again, if we'rerunning on that over analytical
mind that loves toself-criticism and do those
things.
Once we start giving awarenessto all these things that maybe
don't want to be, like you know,brought to life, we're just
going to be kind to ourselves inthat and just know that, like
you, have an option in everysingle circumstance to stay
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there or to move forward.
Just become aware, learn tostart becoming aware and being
like does this serve me you knowit's procrastinating on the
thing that I know I need to dofor another week serving me, or
is it just biting at myself-respect and my
self-discipline?
You know what happens if youjust did what.
What is one step towards that?
Look like today?
I think sometimes we um overcomplicate not sometimes as a
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human race, we over complicatelife as a whole, and so it's
really about just simplifyingyour process, being that kind
and compassionate performer and,yeah, really just dialing in
the relationship with yourself.
That's something that's comingin with me, um, in this new year
.
It's really just deepening inthe relationship to self because
we give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give as
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performers that we forget toactually give back to ourselves
and really we can only be as asgood and as supportive and as
interactive and active in theindustry when we are filling our
cups and that we are.
You know, we all know thesethings.
You know you're probablylistening to this today, going,
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I kind of know that, but whereare we practicing it?
Are we showing up?
Are we doing those things?
Because it's doing in the doing, like I say, forever.
You can read this book 20 times.
You can read my whole libraryover there.
We can have chats till the cowscome home.
But if you're just sitting onthe couch doing the same old
things, nothing's going tochange.
You can listen to this episode20 million times, but if you
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actually don't apply the thingsand get curious and actually
take on the knowledge you'rebeing given and try it out, you
could try all these things andit might not work, and that's
okay, but at least you've triedit and made that step forward.
So that's what 2025, to me, isall about just trying new things
.
Don't be afraid.
Everything is just data,whether it's good or bad, just
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go for it.
Try something new, try aninstrument.
Try that you're not running outof time.
Musical theater is not goinganywhere.
There.
You can do musical theater at60 year old plus like stop
rushing to get into somethingthat you're building for a
lifetime.
So why don't we just dial in,look after ourselves and be kind
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and compassionate as we go inthere?
Yeah, taylor scanlon rant over.
Ah, okay, does that sound allgood?
Thumbs up, yes.
So if anyone's listening on thepodcast, we're live here inside
our amazing community in thePerformer's Mindset Hub.
If you haven't checked it outyet, we currently have 44
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members inside.
It's a mindset hub that Idesigned for performers looking
to get into the industry butjust needing that support and
needing that guidance.
And I think when I was 18, Ihad no idea about this and I had
just one person that helped meunderstand about it, and now
we're already a community of 44members inside this and I just
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think it's so awesome.
So if you want, if you'relistening to the podcast and you
want more information aboutthat, you can still get inside
free by clicking the link in thedescription below.
Okay, so let's get back into theworkshop.
So for the next few minutes orso, let's dive in, let's create
some goals and, as always, I'mhere to give you resources out
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the wazoo.
So if you are listening in,you're driving, or if you're
just listening on the workshoptoday and you're not having a
pen on paper.
I've already created a wholeJotForm where you can fill out
all these questions.
You can send it to me so I cansee it all and I can support you
too.
So I'm going to kind of zipthrough it.
But the best thing to do if youare going through these kind of
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2025 goal setting questions isjust to write maybe one word or
a sentence as you're goingthrough and then, if you're
listening to the podcast or ifyou're inside our group, I'll
send you a link to fill out thisform in whole and give you a
bit more time with that.
That's so that we're not onhere for hours and hours, which
I know a lot of us probably justwant to stay on here.
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But let's move forward.
Okay, so let's get into 2025.
So we can't actually go into2025 without actually knowing
where we are.
You know, there's this analogyof when we are.
Have you ever been to going toyour friend's house and you like
kind of know where the addressis, but you kind of forget?
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So you call your friend and yousay, hey, I think I'm like near
your house, but can you give medirections on how to get there?
What's the first thing they'regoing to ask us when are you?
Where are you?
Because we need to know wherewe are to be directed to, where
we want to go.
I heard that recently, today,and I thought that was really
cool.
So, in order for us tounderstand where we want to go,
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we really need to understandwhere we are, and we can do this
by dialing in our reflection.
So here are one, two, three,four, five, five questions to
easily and quickly effectivelyreflect on your 2024.
First thing what made you proudof 2024?
So what made you proud?
Let's celebrate your wins for asecond, and something that you
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can do if you're listening inand you want to kind of go
through this.
I did this for an houryesterday.
I know not everyone has theluxury of time of doing it.
Maybe you do it over thiscoming week, as we're starting
into Jan 2025.
Get your camera roll out on yourphone.
This is the only time I'llallow you to just scroll on your
phone, even on your Instagram.
Just don't get sidetracked tolooking all the other things and
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look at all the things you didlike.
Look at January on your phoneand the photos, like I was
looking through and I was like,oh my gosh, I launched the dive
podcast one year ago, you know,and I feel like I've been doing
it forever.
But and I was camping and Ilike launched it and I had no
reception and I just knew that Iwanted it to be on that date.
And I was stubborn and I waslike no, 1st of Jan, we're doing
it.
And so I had to.
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I remember the day I had to getmy car and drive like I don't
know 30 minutes with my fianceto find reception on top of a
mountain and we like publishedit and we made it happen.
But, like, there's all thesethings that you'll start to go
through through your year to belike, oh my gosh, that was a
highlight, oh, that was ahighlight.
Or what made you proud, whatmade you feel?
And it can be small Again, weneed to be self-reflective.
Do not think for a second.
What did everyone elsecelebrate me on?
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What don't give it away Like,celebrate your wins.
Was it on stage?
Was it in audition?
Was it like I've got my cathere, but, like you know, just
like being with your cat, orwhatever it is like, what made
you proud and what made youexcited?
What made you feel like thoselittle nice feelings in 2024?
So you know, another thingcould be just simply showing up
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again.
Nothing matters in this wholereflection other than yourself,
how that made you feel.
So that's the first question Goin there, go through your
camera roll.
It's a really cool thing,because there's probably 95% of
your year.
You don't even recognize thewins that you've done, the
amount of progress you've made.
Oh my gosh, like you just don'tknow and we always never do it,
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which is so weird.
We always think about right,here's the next thing, we need
to do this, but I'm not here, soI need to go forward and you're
just like wait a second, whatabout all these amazing things
that you've just been doing forthe past year?
And the cool thing about thiseveryone is that when you
actually do that first exercise,you're unlocking one extra
thing, and you're unlocking whatis important to you, what
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excites you and what you valuethe most.
That's really special becauseif those things light you up,
we're going to be bringing thosethings more of those into 2025.
So just go through your cameraroll, go have a little look at
those things and um, yeah, as Isaid, I have a jot form.
You can fill all this out,share it with me and I can also
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inside our group.
I'll have a list of all thesequestions that you can go into
too.
So once you've gone throughthat and you're like, oh, we're
feeling amazing, let's dive into, you know, maybe, the other
side of the coin, which we needto.
You know what challenges did youface and you know what did they
teach you.
You know, I think, challengeswhen you're growing, I like to
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say we're growing pains.
We have growing pains whenwe're growing and it's really
important that we feel thathappen.
So, what challenges did youface?
Maybe?
What kind of did you set foryourself?
But it didn't really work outthat way.
You know, what did it teach youas well?
Because I think, if we canthink of everything as data nor
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good or bad, but just data tokind of go in and be like, hmm,
that was a challenge, did I growfrom it?
Did I let it take over me?
Like, just get reallyreflective again from this kind
and compassionate vibey way andjust think of things as like
setbacks, as lessons.
You know, what did this teachme?
How did you adapt in thatscenario?
Like was that a really strongand difficult time and just
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acknowledge that because we'rehuman, we came here to have a
human experience, to live all ofthe emotions.
So just know that if you'regoing through your list and your
camera roll and there were somehard times, you're human,
you're meant to.
You know we're not designed tolive at this high state, high
vibrational.
You know I'm not like that 24-7.
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It would be absolutelyexhausting, like my whole day
today.
I was like I just had a teabefore I had a sound bath nap on
my couch, I went for a walk, Iwent for yoga because I know I
have to be on for my community,on live and giving my full self
because that's what ourcommunity deserves.
So it's just reallyunderstanding again, being that
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super reflector.
I know that's what I need.
Otherwise, if I was justtalking like this all day, I'd
get to which I have before gotto a call like this and I forget
my place, I wouldn't be my bestself, I wouldn't be grounded,
and so on and so forth.
So what challenges did you face?
What did you go through?
What was difficult?
But more so, what did you learnfrom that?
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What did it teach you?
Because everything in life isjust a teacher.
It's this master teacher toteaching you really what you
need to kind of go towards.
Next, I always say that emotionsare just energy in motion and
the emotions that we feel areall just directing us either on
the path or off the path, oressentially towards the where we
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need to go.
So I always say follow the goodfeelings, things that feel
amazing, that light you up isactually your higher self
guiding you towards exactlywhere you need to go.
Anything that doesn't feel, youknow that gut feeling like this
doesn't feel right.
That means you've kind of goneoff the track.
You're hunting down the woodsup here and in the woods they're
like no darling, this is notfor you.
You need to go back on thattrack towards where you need to
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go.
So then we go.
Oh, that's why it doesn't feelgood, because I'm not actually
designed to be here.
So allow that to be your kindof second question.
Third question question whathabits, thoughts or actions held
me back?
So what habits and thoughts youknow and actions really held
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you back?
Maybe not really held you back,but what things kind of came up
?
Was it overthinking?
Did you feel like 2024?
You just maybe overthoughtthings way too much and that
made you not take action.
You know what were the things.
Was it self-doubt, did you letthe doubt overtake you, or did
you kind of like maybe 20 to 4,you had the doubt, but maybe it
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just held you back from takingthat next step which you knew
you could have done.
So really get reflective ofthat.
What habits, thoughts andactions held you back?
Was procrastination, fear ofjudgment, fear of success or
even fear of failure, or, um,yeah, there's actually that fear
of success is a real thing,which is crazy, right?
Um, what it basically means isthat a lot of the time, you know
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, we always talk about fear ofrejection, fear of failure, all
that stuff, but fear of success,fear of failure, all that stuff
, but fear of success is realbecause being I don't like the
word success, because I thinkwe're all successful in our own
right but when we really unpackit, it's being really fearful of
standing in that power, ofbeing seen.
That's a real thing.
And if we don't feel groundedand supported and powerful in
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feeling seen and feeling open,imagine how much of our behavior
, which again going back, is ourbeliefs.
Our beliefs show up as ourbehavior, how we're showing that
in a rehearsal room or anaudition panel If we ultimately,
somewhere deep down, don'treally want to be seen?
Or you know what are peoplegoing to think of me if I'm all
of a sudden, you know,performing at shows a week and
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my friend's going to be leftthere, like there's so many
other things happening?
And so, without getting tooenwrapped with it, just quickly
answer what habits, thoughts andactions held you back and maybe
, if you want to add a littlething in there, you know,
identify one thing that you'rejust ready to release, what you
ready to release.
Know what are you ready torelease.
Know that when you're goinginto this reflection and you're
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looking to release habits andthings like that, again going
back to the 95% of our time, weare spending basically doing the
same things and thinking thesame things.
And I just want you to knowright now that every single
thing in your past you don'thave to take with you.
It's like this baggage that welike hold on to, we got all
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these books.
It's like we carry around allthese things if you're watching
me and we're like, yep, that'sall good, that's all good, I'm
gonna hold that, but you canliterally just put down all of
that garbage and that it can beas simple as that.
Or sometimes we think, oh no, Ineed to do this incredible
20-day course and I need to payall this money and I need to do
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all these classes and make it sohard.
You know, it could be just thesimplest thing.
Healing and moving forward inyour life can be the easiest and
easeful and exciting thing ever.
It could be a bit scary, butagain, it's how we think about
things.
Our behavior is showing up.
If we behave and we believethat it's got to be hard, then
we will behave in a way thatit's going to be hard.
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I recently went through this.
A quick side note before wecontinue is that I had a real
strong belief that I had to workimmensely, immensely, immensely
hard to achieve anything right.
And I know it's kind of like ifyou're a performer.
It's kind of like this um, youmay tune in or out on this, but
it's just something that I'vegone through.
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Is that, yes, there has to be acertain amount of effort, but I
think the word hard indicatesthat it has to be difficult for
something to happen.
So maybe, coming in, what I'vebasically been to rewrite myself
is, instead of working reallyhard.
It's working reallyintentionally.
So like kind of let's workreally really intentionally
instead of really really hard,because that always led me to
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burn out personally and I endedup starting to um equivalent
equivalent.
I don't know other words, youknow what it is.
I, I started to um assimilateis that the word?
Whatever it is, is that I.
I used to essentially buildmyself all the way to burnout
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and I would have that as like anauthority to be like, yes, I
worked hard, I achieved, butlike no, we don't need to get to
burnout.
What happens if it just gets tobe simple and intentional and
that can build over time andthat can be fun, like let's
allow ourselves to have all ofthat?
Again, these are all kind ofold habits that we get taught
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upon us, but again, it's notabout what is taught to us or
the events that happen, it's howwe respond to them.
So maybe things have come upfor you in this session so far,
but again, let's be kind, let'sbe compassionate and just know
that anything you want torelease, you can release just
like that.
Maybe write it out on a pieceof paper.
If you want to be dramatic,light it on fire safely or just
like tear it up and put it inthe bin and be like sorry,
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darling, thank you for gettingme to where I am today, but you
are no longer, and this is whatI want to step into now.
I'm ready to support myself inthis way.
Simple as that, seriously Okay.
Final two questions for thereflection.
I know this workshop is kind ofa little bit bigger, but 2025,
if you're really wanting to setit up, we've really got to get
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that reflection.
So, is everyone with me so far?
Thumbs up, amazing, great,fantastic.
All right, let's get out of the.
I don't want to say negativity,but we've got into some
challenges.
We'll tell you back.
Let's get back into it.
So the fourth out of the fivequestions of reflection is what
lights me up as a performer?
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This gets me excited, thisquestion, because what moments
remind you of why you love whatyou do?
What fuels your passion?
Again, we are like a car.
I know we're not a machine.
We're a human being withmulti-dimensional sort of
aspects to ourselves.
But in terms of our car andwhat we need to move forward,
what actually puts the fuel in?
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What's getting you off thecouch?
You know, a lot of performersand myself we sometimes lack
with motivation.
You don't lack motivation.
You lack like movement and fuelto get in there.
Like, what are you eating?
Who are you surroundingyourselves with?
Have you seen sunshine?
Have you seen water?
Like, get out there.
And again also, what are youconsuming?
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What are you listening to?
Who are you surroundingyourself with?
That's all fuel.
And I always always say try andfind a network, and I know
inside our network here, we'reall expanding and we're all
growing together, which is soawesome, and maybe this group is
one of your main aspects ofpeople that you're around.
But start to find people thatare expanders in your life,
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because what that means is thatyou're automatically going to
expand, not um, which I knowwith.
It's sometimes hard with ourfamily, but sorry, I have to say
it, but family is not alwaysthe most supportive and they can
be draining sometimes becausethey are not going where you
want to go a lot of the time.
So when we're sharing with themour dreams and things, they
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they just don't get it okay andif they do, amazing.
We love your family and myfamily's also been really
supportive.
But I want you to step into thenext level version of you and in
order to do that.
It means stepping outside andtowards people that are your
expanders and that are alreadywhere you are right.
And I feel like that's in ourcommunity, where a lot of our
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community get a lot ofinspiration from me, because I'm
actually living it, I've beenliving it, I'm still living it,
I'm still auditioning, I'm doingall these things and so, by
automatically being aroundmyself, you're expanding because
you're wanting to have or bewhere I want to be, which is
awesome, and I'm here to showyou to do that.
But you've got to also findsome other people that, um, you
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know, it can be really specifictoo.
It could be a singing expander,it could be a yoga expand like
look at your expanders, whereare you wanting to expand?
Because, again, we're elastic.
We're elastic as beings.
We need to move and morph anddo, do, do new things, and a lot
of the time when we're stagnantand still like a rock, that's
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where our emotions can alsoreflect that too.
Oh, channeling and all thesegorgeous words today I'm so
happy I'm recording today.
Sometimes I have these amazingrants and I know a few people
are on here from past programsI've been running.
I, you know, sometimes forgetto press record.
So here we are.
So what lights you up as aperformer here there?
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Once you've wrote all of thatout, write out what your fuel is
.
If you want to be creative,draw a car and write little tabs
all the way out of it Likewhat's your fuel to go into that
car, what car are you driving?
What is it?
You know whatever it is.
You can also do a photo ofyourself.
Okay, final question of thereflection, before we get 2025
what values matter most to me?
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What values matter most to meoh, I love it, I could almost
cry is that you know whatactually matters most.
Okay, we all know in our hubhere that what matters most is
your health and your energy andyour time and, yeah, essentially
more so, your health, yourmindset, your mental health and
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your physical health, for sure.
But what values do you?
What mattered most to you?
I'll give you some examples.
So, like, integrity is beingintegral.
Something that you value mostis being authentic, is being
joyous, like joy, connection.
You know what principles youknow of these values do you
really want to embody in yourcareer, in your life and, uh,
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you know, coming into the newyear, you can I kind of put this
at the end of the reflection,as we go into the kind of
setting up the new year, becauseI think it's really important
and maybe you want to look at,like, what values did you have
in 2024 and were they supportive?
Um, did you really live them?
And that's okay if you didn't.
Maybe they were just new values, you were just popping in,
going I'm going to try this out.
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But then, and going into 2025,what are you really wanting to
bring?
You know, I would say likethree to four max and really
dive into that and each day, ifyou ever feel lost, you feel
confused, go back to thosevalues.
How can I be integral in thisnext decision?
You know, I set up myself to goto the class and here I am on
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the couch canceling again.
You know, guilty, guilty overhere, right.
So you know, whatever it is,again it's coming from that
compassionate, kind placebecause you are the only person
that spends the most time withyou.
So if we can't be kind andcompassionate as we go through
these growing pains, growingpains and being compassionate,
compassionate and the kindnessis kind of like the medicine to
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the growing pains.
It's the only way.
If we get really harsh with allof it.
We just get more pain, and wedon't want pain.
We're not all about pain here.
We're about growth and desireand moving forward.
So what values do you want tobring into the new year?
Growth and desire and movingforward.
So what values do you want tobring into the new year?
Fabulous, let's take a fivesecond break.
Let's go with some water.
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If you're listening in, I knowit's been like 37 minutes.
Then the next five um ones areactually a lot easier, because
the reflection kind of takes alittle bit longer because we've
gone through a whole year, right, so we really need to kind of
go through the weeds andunderstand what's working well,
but now we know where we areright, we know what, where we
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are as an individual.
When we've done these questions, we can kind of like leave 2024
there and go right, let's setup this new year.
That's what a lot of people andmyself mistake is that I used
to kind of just like neverreflect and be like well, I'm
here now, so let's go forwardand forward and forward.
Increase burnout, decrease inawareness and increase in
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bringing all the things that Ididn't want from the previous
year into the new one.
Because you didn't reflect, youdidn't realize.
Oh, that actually didn't serveme.
Yeah, okay, let me have a sipof tea Fabulosa.
So let's get into yourempowered vision.
Question number one if you couldwave a magic wand, what would
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you want my career, what wouldyou want your career to look
like one year from now?
This is all about writingfreely.
It's not about getting.
We need to kind of let go ofattachments, right, because a
lot of the time, you have noidea what's in store for you.
So why not just dream big?
Look, worst thing that's goingto happen is that you're going
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to go towards that goal.
You would have learned so manythings, developed so much, and
maybe you're going to surpriseyourself.
So sometimes, when we'resetting goals and we go like, if
I could wave a magic wand, Iwould be in a musical theatre
show and I would be a lead, yeah, and so what?
What happens if that happensfor you?
Allow yourself to dream, tomove there.
Because actually, do you think?
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What have you been believingthe most?
That it can't be possible foryou, that you need another five
years of training, that you needanother thing, another, this
and more money and this.
They're all the things that areholding you back, not actually
going for it.
And I know there is that marrybetween you do have to have
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skill, you do have to workintentionally, not hard, but
when you marry skill and youmarry the way you look after
yourself and that's where Itruly believe I live now things
just happen.
Things happen for you becauseyou're in alignment, and that's
what we're about in thiscommunity that I've been
building.
It's about really building analigned performer self the one
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that's sustainable, thatsustains all of it and that can
enjoy each step.
It's not about quick winsrushing, but I'll do this
because I'm going to do thisclass, because I know they're
teaching this audition and thenI've got to be in it.
Stop mapping it all out.
Why don't you just trust thatit's all working out for you?
Why don't you just trust thatif you keep backing yourself and
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showing up for the things youknow you need to do, what if you
just keep doing those thingsand it all works out?
Because it can?
Again, it's the side of thecoin you want to believe.
I believe more so the otherside.
That's what I teach now andthat's what I've been doing for
10 years.
So let me be an example and Iwill hold your hand and tell you
that it is possible for sure.
So what will your career looklike one year from now?
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You know where are youperforming, how do you feel and
who are you becoming Woo?
Yeah, where are you performing,how do you feel, who are you
becoming Boom?
I'll move on to the next one.
What are the three goals?
So when you do that, writefreely and just see what comes
up, usually the ones that comenear the end, after you've
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probably filled out half a pageis what really matters to you,
which is cool, and then fromthat, just identify three key
goals that you want to achievein the year.
So the three main ones.
So again, it doesn't have to begetting into a musical, which I
know a lot of us that will be anamazing one, but you know lot
of us that will be amazing one.
But you know, think of all theother aspects, you know.
For example, you know, build aself-tape library that you're
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proud of, that it's ready to go.
Maybe it's a goal to feelconfident walking into an
audition room or being detachedfrom the outcome and truly
living that like these arepretty cool goals.
So really be creative.
Don't just think it's the goalthat's been set for me.
I need to be this and this.
No, a lot of us are eithermoving out of training or, like
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we've done.
Everyone that kind of comes tothis hub or to my community has
already done some form oftraining or kind of the back end
of their training, so they knowyou know what is working right.
So you kind of the back end oftheir training, so they know you
know what what is working right.
So you kind of can be a littlebit more creative.
You don't need a teacheroutside of you to be like you
need to be this theater swinghere because you look this way
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and you need to be in thismusical because you fit that
brief great, that's nice.
But you know what you need andyou know what you desire and you
know what you want and that isall possible and that's what you
should be having as yourguiding force moving forward.
Use all things as knowledge anddata, not as gospel.
Again, you know what you wantand you already know what you
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have to do.
We're just gonna get our buttsinto gear and go and get it,
honey.
Okay, how will it feel toachieve those goals?
Probably one of my favoritequestions of the whole entire
call today, as we start to wrapup how will it feel to achieve
your goals?
Imagine, right now you'veachieved those three goals, or
at least one of the major ones,the ones that you would just cry
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and die if you got it or youachieved it.
You're there.
I just want to say congrats.
Well done, slay, you'd made it.
How do you feel?
And write this out in detail?
This is going to changeeverything for you.
It changed everything for me,because what happens when you
start to, just when you bringfeeling into it and emotion this
is something I'm going to divea lot into teaching this year as
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I start to bring out a fewexciting offers and programs
with my community is that whenwe bring their feeling to things
, what it's going to feel likewhen we have already achieved it
, then we're tapping intoemotion, and emotion is the
biggest driver for taking action, which is we love.
You know.
No more worrying about, oh,feeling motivated, I'm not.
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How will you feel once you'veachieved those things and then
starting to essentially alignyour schedule, align your life
with the guidance towardsfeeling those things in the now,
for example?
If you would feel just sograteful then you could start to
start your day with what's onething today that would make me
feel that much gratitude?
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Because if you start feelingthe things today that you will
say, you will think because alot of the time we actually
don't want the goal.
I've said this a lot of times.
We actually don't want the car,we don't want the musical, we
don't want the thing, weactually just want how it will
feel, the relief, the excitement, how I'll just feel I'll be
able to tell and do that postand write a snazzy little
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caption that I'm in the showlike we want.
That's how we'll feel weactually don't want the thing,
or how it will feel.
And you don't have to wait ayear, two years, three years for
that to happen.
You can feel all those thingsin the now and it's actually
within those feelings that'sactually going to guide you to
that destination.
Because it makes no sense if youbuilt your life based off how
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you will feel, which is thedriver of action to take you
towards those things that willmake you have those results.
It just makes no sense if thatjust doesn't work.
It has to work because it'salready working for you, because
right now we're feeling theopposite.
We're not feeling successful.
We're not feeling I mean youmaybe you know, don't want to
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push down, but maybe a lot ofthe time we're not feeling
successful.
We're not feeling I mean youmaybe you know, don't want to
push down, but maybe a lot ofthe time we're feeling not
empowered and not ready andcomparing, and the opposite.
If that we know now that allthose emotions are driving us
towards the direction of that.
So it's all about just changingthat direction and how amazing
that you can just use thatdriving force.
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So if you're ever lost againgoing through 2025, ask yourself
that question if I was alreadywhere I want to be, how would I
feel?
And what's one thing I can dotoday that would make me feel
that?
Because automatically, yourguidance system is going to tap
you towards the exact next stepyou need to take.
No more feeling confused, nomore feeling doubt, because you
already essentially know whatyou need to do and if you tap
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into the emotion, you'll startto reprogram your mind towards
exactly where you need to go.
Publish that, okay.
So the final three.
Is it three questions?
Three questions?
What small daily?
And this is kind of back on theback end.
I'll kind of skim through this.
It's what small daily or weeklyactions will move me closer to
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feeling those feelings and which, in turn, guides me to my goals
.
So, for example, it's maybeit's practicing singing for the
love of it for 20 minutes a day,because you know that if you
were in a musical, maybe youdidn't need to practice singing
as much, because you're justdoing it and you just want to do
it for love, right, not to getinto anything.
That's the massive thing aboutmanifesting.
You've never done it before.
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Manifesting truly comes whenyou're doing things without an
expected result, because it'sreally, if you were already
there, you already have theresult.
And so it's about living inthat truth today without kind of
like being delulue.
I mean, let's be real, everymusical theater artist are all a
bit delusional.
We're all a bit a little bitdelulue, and that's okay.
Let's live in your delusion,but live in the intention that
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it's supportive for you.
And so, yeah, write out, maybeyou know what's a small daily
action or a weekly action thatwill make, that will move you
closer to feeling those feelings.
It could be attend a workshopor a class each and every month.
That maybe pushes you but makesyou feel excited.
So it's again bringing that gapbetween just actually having
fun and enjoying, as if you knowyou're already on contract.
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How would you be showing up inyour day-to-day life?
Start to build your life now sothat when you're in the show
it's just so easy and fun,because you know it's not all
new, because you've already beenbuilding the life.
Life you're literally sayinguniverse, I am ready, not like
I'm not ready, I will only beready once I get it.
Honestly, that does not how itworks.
You, you've got to show thatyou're putting in the work.
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You've got to show that you'reready for the life that you're
calling in.
Are you ready to pack up yourlife and go overseas for two
years in a musical, doing eightshows a week, like, like.
Are you really ready?
Right, and it's okay if you'renot, but it's like learning how
to just shift it towards howwould that feel?
And starting to base youractions off that.
Second last question who have Ileaned on for support in the
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past and who is coming with youin 2025?
Ooh, love this.
Identify mentors.
Maybe it's Taylor peers in thiscommunity or this community
that lifts you up.
Who helps you feel inspired andgrounded?
So just quickly have a thinkabout.
You know, who are some friends,maybe family, who are some key
people, maybe three to fivepeople that really supported you
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that you felt like if you wentto them it would just it was
just amazing.
They expanded your vision again.
Maybe there are some expandersand maybe you can only think of
one or two.
That's okay.
Um, just write it down.
Who supported you in that yearthat you feel like you want to
bring them into?
You know, we're not we're notthrowing them out and deleting
them off on the socials or thenumber, but we're actually like
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going okay, who was supportingme in last year and we want to
bring them in and it's aboutdialing that up.
Let's dial up that.
And then what else?
Yeah, and then think aboutwho's coming with you in the
next year as well.
Do we have a question in thechat box?
No, okay, no question, all good.
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I haven't actually navigatedmuch on this one, so it's all
good, all good.
Yes, who's coming with you in2025?
Maybe it's this community.
Let's not do the.
Maybe this community is goingto be here for 2025.
We're doing some amazing thingshere and we're all here for you
.
And if you're new to theplatform.
Come on in Check in the shownotes if you're watching the
podcast.
So that's about thatIdentifying the mentors, peers
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and community that lift you up,who help you feel inspired and
grounded.
Final question what's onesoulful way I'll celebrate my
wins?
Amen, amen.
How are you going to actuallycelebrate soulfully the wins you
do?
Because, again, we'reprogrammed to just be in this
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forward thinking motion oftrialing and like not actually
reflecting or celebrating.
You know, because a lot of thetime we are actually searching
for that outward validation youknow we're waiting for I've got
a post-it.
How many views, how many things?
Or, um, in a class I want to bepicked out.
All these things, they're allfine because we're all human.
But what happens if you startto soulfully celebrate when you
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really felt proud of yourself?
Because guess what happens?
You don't have to wait foranyone else, so you get to just
automatically feel the valuebecause you knew that already
that was valuable to you.
And guess what?
No one knows what you value,but you.
So what's one soulful way youcan celebrate your win?
And this can be a dinner withfriends.
Bring people over, have anachos night.
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I don't know, I'm really moreof an introvert, so maybe one
friend will come over.
I can only deal with so much atsome time.
Or is it just a day off Goingto nature, maybe?
Or is it just a day off goingto nature?
Maybe it's a day where you justdo nothing?
This is something I've had toget on board coming into the end
of last year, like I would wefeel guilty, right, if we don't
do something.
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But we're in such a massivestate of doing, doing, doing
that we forget to just be.
You know, when we're childrenand we don't have things that
we've got to do.
Yes, we're going to work.
Don't go.
Don't, all of a sudden, justcancel work.
Taylor said I need a day off.
I mean, maybe you need to,that's okay.
Um, but yeah, do the thingsthat are going to refill you and
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kind of give you theacknowledgement.
Because, honey, if you waitaround for the industry, for
other people, to give you theacknowledgement you know you
deserve, you'll be waiting along time.
And if you, once you get it,you almost won't be able to
handle it.
You'll be like oh no, no, no,you're not.
Like, oh yeah, not me, oh yeah.
So start to validate yourself,start to know that you are so
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worth it, and doing thatsoulfully is really where that
medicine and that magic comes.
This could also be a joyfulmoment to acknowledge your
progress.
Writing it out, you know howwill you honour you.
So, nearly an hour of me talking.
But, yeah, 2025, I really hope,and not even hope I'll get this
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word out of it, but I just wantthis to be your year to step
forward with a bit more clarityand purpose.
Let's you, let's leave whatdidn't serve us in the past and
just leave it there.
Let us not dive into the samehabitual things because, again,
coming back to takingresponsibility, it's all about
how you're responding toeverything around you.
So trust your unique path andlet these questions I'll add it
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in the show notes Again, ifyou're listening in a jot form
you can fill out so you can sendall of these wonderful things
to me.
The benefits of that is I get tocelebrate you for doing this
work and to share your vision,and I love hearing from everyone
in the community that shareswith me all the things you're
wanting to achieve, and it'sjust amazing.
So, um, it's been awesomechatting with you all.
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I know that I put out in herethere's going to be a Q&A, but I
feel like I've really I justkind of I don't know I channeled
in something today.
So I feel like I've answered alot of questions.
So I think we'll leave it theretoday and maybe on the hub
we'll do another Q&A.
And yeah, if you're listeningin on the dive podcast,
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no-transcript.
Hey, it's so good to see people.
I feel like I've been away fora little while, but it's good to
be back and I'm so keen on thiscall.
Yeah, thanks for getting on.
Let's just get straight into it, because I'm just so excited to
share with what I'm going toshare today.
I'm actually going to put thisone out as an actual podcast
episode, so you're going to beinvolved in it.
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I don't know how it's, whetherit's going on here or I've got
another recording out here, sofeel free to just take it as it
comes, but I really am excitedto have you all here and talk on
the topic that I'll be talkingon today, and I also wanted to
be a bit interactive, so I wantto give you some things.
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If you've got a pen and paper,definitely this is your chance
to do it and, as always, I'mhere to guide you and help you
kind of make 2025 the best yearyou can possibly make, because
why not?
We're going to be doing itanyway, so might as well enjoy
the process and set it upcorrectly, because, really, when
I was looking at this episodeand this workshop and we will be
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doing a Q&A at the end of thisso definitely hang around and we
can definitely chat back andforward to give you those
answers or answer your questionsthat you need.
But really, when it comes downto before we get into setting up
our new year, it's all abouttaking that responsibility right
.
So it's taking responsibilityfor ourselves.
And when I was 18, quick littlebackstory when I started working
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in musical theater, I'd neverread a book in my life and I
wasn't really takingresponsibility.
I was just like thrown intothis industry.
I didn't even study theindustry.
I just kind of was like oh yeah, I've got dance abilities, here
we go chuggers.
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And so I was just like deer inthe headlights, absorbing it all
, taking it all in and doing mybest to make it happen.
And whilst I was able to makethat kind of happen in my own
creative way, I was led by anamazing woman that kind of, I
want to say, kind of saved meand helped me guide towards
building this sustainable andlong fun career that I have now.
And one part of that was shegot me onto reading and, oh my
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gosh, me at 18, literally thisbuzz of energy that just wanted
to do 20 million things at oncekind of still like that, but I'm
a bit more regulated now, a bitmore focused, but what I'm
saying is that I didn't reallyhave anything any idea when it
came to mindset, when it came totaking responsibility.
I was 18, I just wanted to havefun.
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Like I'm in new zealand playingon stages and just like I want
to go out for drinks and likewake up in the morning and what,
whatever, ever time, eatwhatever, and that is fun.
We all need to do that right.
But when it comes down tosustainably building a career on
purpose, things don't justhappen like that.
I was very lucky for that tokind of like fall into place as
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it did, but what I found wasthat to create a long term, we
can't do that it.
We need to be like I needed tolike rein in, rein it all in to
then be able to make it allhappen.
So today's call is kind of basedon that and based off the
second book that I ever read,which was how to get from where
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you are to where you want to be,by jack canfield.
Oh my gosh, you could spendlike a month on each chapter.
Two really cool things.
Well, one really cool thingthat I can think of the top of
my head.
If you're not a good not don'tlike reading much, this is
really good for you because Iwas going to say episodes,
chapters are a few pages longand they're all specifically
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actionable steps you can takeand you can kind of do it once a
week, you can do it once a day,but it kind of builds upon next
chapter.
And if you wanted to get a bookand you're kind of like, what
do I need to read for 2025 toget started, this will be
amazing book for you.
So any of my listeners therethat I'll put this out as a
podcast episode how to get fromwhere you are to where you want
to be I'll share a link on whereto buy it.
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It says the 25 principles ofsuccess.
It's very American.
So here I know we havedifferent levels of success and
what that means.
I would put 25 principles offulfillment and the first
chapter in this is takingresponsibility for your life,
100% responsibility for yourlife.
So let me read a little bitabout what that means.
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So if you it says here, if youwant to be successful, you have
to take 100% responsibility foreverything that you experience
in your life.
This includes the level of yourachievements, the results you
produce, the quality of yourrelationships, the state of your
health and physical fitness,your income, your debts, your,
your feelings, everything.
And it says that it's obviouslynot easy to do that, because
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we're actually it's you knowwhat is really easy to kind of
just like blame others or blamethe industry, or blame that
teacher, or blame the weatherand blame all these things.
But there's actually real powerwhen you can understand that,
when you take 100%responsibility of everything
that's happening to you, thatmeans that you have
responsibility, or you haveactual.
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It's how.
What do they say?
Responsibility is actually howyou respond to basically the,
your abilities and the thingsthat are happening out there.
And I wanted to kind of notdisempower you, but I wanted to
kind of be this way of lookingat this new year in a way of how
am I responding to the worldand out there, what's happening
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in my world that I can actuallytake hold of and go?
You know what?
It doesn't matter if theweather's this, it doesn't
matter if I get cut from everyaudition.
What matters is I takeresponsibility for what I do.
I stay in my lane, I show upfor what I do.
I stay in my lane.
I show up for me, I do what Ineed to do to stay in my lane,
keep the laser sharp focusmoving forward and just
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celebrate everyone else that'sout here doing their look in
there.
I feel like 2025, put your handup if you feel like 2025 really
needs to be about that Lasersharp focus, about literally
going.
Let's just celebrate everyonewhere they are.
Let's not like compare, becauseyou know what Comparison is
actually not real.
I know a lot of us in musicaltheater and looking to get a
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musical theater.
We compare a lot, but there isno version of you out there.
There's not a single sameperson as you.
They may look kind of like you,they may be somewhere that you
want to be, but they are not youand you are not them.
So the actual, the concept ofcomparison is really silly,
because there's literally notanother person on the planet
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that has your makeup, your setof skills, your fingerprint,
your life experience.
So let's use that as our powerto go into 2025 of going like
what am I comparing about?
And usually I always say andit's not in every sense, but in
my experience, comparisonwhenever I'm going in that road,
it's usually just a reflectionof what I'm not doing right, and
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I know sometimes it's hard toswallow, like I'll look at
someone I know they're like, oh,you know they're killing it
doing this.
They're singing amazing.
Well, taylor, when was the lastsinging class you went to?
Probably a few months ago, youknow.
So it's about being fun withyourself as well and really
becoming super reflective, andthat's what we're going to be
doing on the call today.
So how does that sound thatwe're going to just go in and
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take responsibility?
Because how does that soundthat we're going to just go in
and take responsibility?
Because once you do that, youactually free yourself up,
because that means you get todecide.
You get to decide every singlething that you respond to,
because, ultimately, everythingthat you respond to gives you
your outcome.
Does that make sense?
So, for anyone that kind of waslike, what does that mean?
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Is that if you were writingdown now what is it?
It's like E, event plus.
Give me some maths here.
So hold on, it's an actual like, a more of an analogy other
than here it is.
Here we go.
So E plus R equals O.
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This changed everything for mewhen I learned about this, and
we will get into the goalsetting in a moment, but I just
want this to sink in for you.
So if you're new to kind ofpersonal development, you're new
here into the world of TelusGalen, we're all about kind of
giving you some.
I want to give you lots ofdifferent things, because some
people are visual, some peopleare mathematical, some people
are audible, some people areexpressive, so I'm giving a
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little bit of taste foreverything.
So E plus R equals O, so thatstands for event plus response
equals your outcome.
So the basic idea is that everyoutcome you experience in life
so whether it's a success or afailure, wealth or poverty,
health or illness, intimacy orwhatever joy, frustrations is a
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result of how you've respondedto an earlier event or events in
your life.
And if you don't like theoutcomes you're currently
getting, there are two basicchoices you can make.
So the first thing that we tendto do is that we can blame the
event.
You know the event happensmaybe.
Okay, let's go into an audition, we've just come out in an
audition and we're going.
You know, uh, we're blaming theaudition.
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Oh, it was run terribly and Icouldn't pick it up, the curry
and that pianist didn't play mymusic right, and we just kind of
like put it on the outsidebecause it's easier, right, it's
easy to kind of like look atthe scenario and you know,
sometimes it's true.
But what I want you to kind ofunderstand is, when we blame and
we complain, all of that isstopping your growth because
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it's putting the power toeveryone else but you so it's
giving your power over to thepianist, to the place, to the
time, to how it was structured,to all these other things.
And I think everyone inside ourcommunity here is kind of on
that other edge.
We don't, we're not like livingand breathing the complaining
and blaming.
But you know, we're all humanand sometimes we can dive into
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that and that's okay.
Sometimes it happens to me too.
But just know that when we areblaming, complaining, we need to
kind of get rid of those for2025 because, again, we are
energetic beings and whateveryou're giving our energy to,
we're going to really know wherewe're putting our energy in
2025.
There's a lot of thingshappening in the world.
There's so much access toknowledge and information, so
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everyone's kind of energy hungry, right, we're all kind of like
wanting another coffee.
We want to hack how to feel thebest way we can.
So all of this is designed togive us energy.
That's what we're kind oflooking for, because without
energy we're kind of nothing,right.
So let's become hyper aware ofwhere we're giving our energy.
And the first thing you can dothat will help you as an artist
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going into the industry is toreally learn how you're taking
responsibility and how yourespond to the events that are
happening.
So just that amazing concept of,okay, how I respond gives my
outcome.
For example, like this I'm justtrying to give an example here.
Okay, say, if I go into anaudition let's just say
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auditions coming up, veryrelevant, anyway, I'm going to
an audition.
It didn't go the best, butinstead I responded in a way
that was like all right, I'mgonna reflect on that, this went
well.
Maybe I feel a little bitshitty for a second, I'm gonna
have a little cry, but then howI respond is moving forward.
What can I gain from thisexperience?
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What did I learn from thisexperience?
What am I proud of from thisexperience and how can I move
from here?
How am I responding to thatcircumstance?
And then that actually givesyou your future right.
Then you can say it.
On the other end, if you wentinto an audition space and you
didn't.
Maybe you did really well, butyou're really self-harsh critic.
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A lot of performers includingmyself when I was earlier on
really harsh critics like to a Twanted to overanalyze every
single possible thing, and againit's coming back to that thing.
What is supporting you?
Does that feel supportive?
Do you feel energized from thataction?
No, not a lot of the time.
So it's really aboutunderstanding ourselves in 2025.
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It's about really diving in andgoing okay, how am I responding
?
How can I dial up this energy?
How can I give myself moreenergy and really just be that
ultimate reflector and ultimate,just curator of your own life?
Because when you start doingthat, you start to see patterns
and you start to see oh, do Ireally want to start following
that passion?
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Do I really want to startfollowing that pattern or this?
What do I want instead?
Know that you actually have thepower in every moment to decide
something new, but 95% of thetime, we're running on
unconscious patterns, meaningthat we have a set of things
that we do Like think about thismorning, right, then we all
wake up.
You probably get out of the bedthe same way.
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You brush your teeth with thesame toothbrush and the same
hand.
You probably, when you go intothe shower probably too much
information, but you probablylike wash the same parts of your
body at the same time and thenwhen you get out of the shower,
you probably towel your hair anddo it's all automatic and we
actually need a lot of theseautomatic things right to um to
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keep us alive.
But there's also so manyautomatic things like
self-criticism or things thatstart to dive in that actually
aren't supportive.
So I want you, after thisepisode or after this workshop,
to really just become in in acompassionate way, really
understand what am I doing,because you are exactly where
you are right now based off allof the beliefs that you
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currently have, and beliefs showup as behaviors.
So, in order to change a newbelief, what do we need to do?
Change our behaviors and how todo that new belief.
What do we need to do?
Change our behaviors, and weneed to, and how to do that is
by becoming aware of ourbehaviors.
What are we doing?
What actions are we taking?
And, again, we've really got tobe passionate not passionate
compassionate about when webecome aware.
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Because, again, if we'rerunning on that over analytical
mind that loves toself-criticism and do those
things.
Once we start giving awarenessto all these things that maybe
don't want to be, like you know,brought to life, we're just
going to be kind to ourselves inthat and just know that, like
you, have an option in everysingle circumstance to stay
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there or to move forward.
Just become aware, learn tostart becoming aware and being
like does this serve me you knowit's procrastinating on the
thing that I know I need to dofor another week serving me, or
is it just biting at myself-respect and my
self-discipline?
You know what happens if youjust did what.
What is one step towards that?
Look like today?
I think sometimes we um overcomplicate not sometimes as a
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human race, we over complicatelife as a whole, and so it's
really about just simplifyingyour process, being that kind
and compassionate performer and,yeah, really just dialing in
the relationship with yourself.
That's something that's comingin with me, um, in this new year
.
It's really just deepening inthe relationship to self because
we give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give as
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performers that we forget toactually give back to ourselves
and really we can only be as asgood and as supportive and as
interactive and active in theindustry when we are filling our
cups and that we are.
You know, we all know thesethings.
You know you're probablylistening to this today, going,
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I kind of know that, but whereare we practicing it?
Are we showing up?
Are we doing those things?
Because it's doing in the doing, like I say, forever.
You can read this book 20 times.
You can read my whole libraryover there.
We can have chats till the cowscome home.
But if you're just sitting onthe couch doing the same old
things, nothing's going tochange.
You can listen to this episode20 million times, but if you
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actually don't apply the thingsand get curious and actually
take on the knowledge you'rebeing given and try it out, you
could try all these things andit might not work, and that's
okay, but at least you've triedit and made that step forward.
So that's what 2025, to me, isall about just trying new things
.
Don't be afraid.
Everything is just data,whether it's good or bad, just
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go for it.
Try something new, try aninstrument.
Try that you're not running outof time.
Musical theater is not goinganywhere.
There.
You can do musical theater at60 year old plus like stop
rushing to get into somethingthat you're building for a
lifetime.
So why don't we just dial in,look after ourselves and be kind
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and compassionate as we go inthere?
Yeah, taylor scanlon rant over.
Ah, okay, does that sound allgood?
Thumbs up, yes.
So if anyone's listening on thepodcast, we're live here inside
our amazing community in thePerformer's Mindset Hub.
If you haven't checked it outyet, we currently have 44
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members inside.
It's a mindset hub that Idesigned for performers looking
to get into the industry butjust needing that support and
needing that guidance.
And I think when I was 18, Ihad no idea about this and I had
just one person that helped meunderstand about it, and now
we're already a community of 44members inside this and I just
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think it's so awesome.
So if you want, if you'relistening to the podcast and you
want more information aboutthat, you can still get inside
free by clicking the link in thedescription below.
Okay, so let's get back into theworkshop.
So for the next few minutes orso, let's dive in, let's create
some goals and, as always, I'mhere to give you resources out
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the wazoo.
So if you are listening in,you're driving, or if you're
just listening on the workshoptoday and you're not having a
pen on paper.
I've already created a wholeJotForm where you can fill out
all these questions.
You can send it to me so I cansee it all and I can support you
too.
So I'm going to kind of zipthrough it.
But the best thing to do if youare going through these kind of
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2025 goal setting questions isjust to write maybe one word or
a sentence as you're goingthrough and then, if you're
listening to the podcast or ifyou're inside our group, I'll
send you a link to fill out thisform in whole and give you a
bit more time with that.
That's so that we're not onhere for hours and hours, which
I know a lot of us probably justwant to stay on here.
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But let's move forward.
Okay, so let's get into 2025.
So we can't actually go into2025 without actually knowing
where we are.
You know, there's this analogyof when we are.
Have you ever been to going toyour friend's house and you like
kind of know where the addressis, but you kind of forget?
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So you call your friend and yousay, hey, I think I'm like near
your house, but can you give medirections on how to get there?
What's the first thing they'regoing to ask us when are you?
Where are you?
Because we need to know wherewe are to be directed to, where
we want to go.
I heard that recently, today,and I thought that was really
cool.
So, in order for us tounderstand where we want to go,
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we really need to understandwhere we are, and we can do this
by dialing in our reflection.
So here are one, two, three,four, five, five questions to
easily and quickly effectivelyreflect on your 2024.
First thing what made you proudof 2024?
So what made you proud?
Let's celebrate your wins for asecond, and something that you
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can do if you're listening inand you want to kind of go
through this.
I did this for an houryesterday.
I know not everyone has theluxury of time of doing it.
Maybe you do it over thiscoming week, as we're starting
into Jan 2025.
Get your camera roll out on yourphone.
This is the only time I'llallow you to just scroll on your
phone, even on your Instagram.
Just don't get sidetracked tolooking all the other things and
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look at all the things you didlike.
Look at January on your phoneand the photos, like I was
looking through and I was like,oh my gosh, I launched the dive
podcast one year ago, you know,and I feel like I've been doing
it forever.
But and I was camping and Ilike launched it and I had no
reception and I just knew that Iwanted it to be on that date.
And I was stubborn and I waslike no, 1st of Jan, we're doing
it.
And so I had to.
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I remember the day I had to getmy car and drive like I don't
know 30 minutes with my fianceto find reception on top of a
mountain and we like publishedit and we made it happen.
But, like, there's all thesethings that you'll start to go
through through your year to belike, oh my gosh, that was a
highlight, oh, that was ahighlight.
Or what made you proud, whatmade you feel?
And it can be small Again, weneed to be self-reflective.
Do not think for a second.
What did everyone elsecelebrate me on?
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What don't give it away Like,celebrate your wins.
Was it on stage?
Was it in audition?
Was it like I've got my cathere, but, like you know, just
like being with your cat, orwhatever it is like, what made
you proud and what made youexcited?
What made you feel like thoselittle nice feelings in 2024?
So you know, another thingcould be just simply showing up
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again.
Nothing matters in this wholereflection other than yourself,
how that made you feel.
So that's the first question Goin there, go through your
camera roll.
It's a really cool thing,because there's probably 95% of
your year.
You don't even recognize thewins that you've done, the
amount of progress you've made.
Oh my gosh, like you just don'tknow and we always never do it,
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which is so weird.
We always think about right,here's the next thing, we need
to do this, but I'm not here, soI need to go forward and you're
just like wait a second, whatabout all these amazing things
that you've just been doing forthe past year?
And the cool thing about thiseveryone is that when you
actually do that first exercise,you're unlocking one extra
thing, and you're unlocking whatis important to you, what
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excites you and what you valuethe most.
That's really special becauseif those things light you up,
we're going to be bringing thosethings more of those into 2025.
So just go through your cameraroll, go have a little look at
those things and um, yeah, as Isaid, I have a jot form.
You can fill all this out,share it with me and I can also
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inside our group.
I'll have a list of all thesequestions that you can go into
too.
So once you've gone throughthat and you're like, oh, we're
feeling amazing, let's dive into, you know, maybe, the other
side of the coin, which we needto.
You know what challenges did youface and you know what did they
teach you.
You know, I think, challengeswhen you're growing, I like to
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say we're growing pains.
We have growing pains whenwe're growing and it's really
important that we feel thathappen.
So, what challenges did youface?
Maybe?
What kind of did you set foryourself?
But it didn't really work outthat way.
You know, what did it teach youas well?
Because I think, if we canthink of everything as data nor
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good or bad, but just data tokind of go in and be like, hmm,
that was a challenge, did I growfrom it?
Did I let it take over me?
Like, just get reallyreflective again from this kind
and compassionate vibey way andjust think of things as like
setbacks, as lessons.
You know, what did this teachme?
How did you adapt in thatscenario?
Like was that a really strongand difficult time and just
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acknowledge that because we'rehuman, we came here to have a
human experience, to live all ofthe emotions.
So just know that if you'regoing through your list and your
camera roll and there were somehard times, you're human,
you're meant to.
You know we're not designed tolive at this high state, high
vibrational.
You know I'm not like that 24-7.
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It would be absolutelyexhausting, like my whole day
today.
I was like I just had a teabefore I had a sound bath nap on
my couch, I went for a walk, Iwent for yoga because I know I
have to be on for my community,on live and giving my full self
because that's what ourcommunity deserves.
So it's just reallyunderstanding again, being that
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super reflector.
I know that's what I need.
Otherwise, if I was justtalking like this all day, I'd
get to which I have before gotto a call like this and I forget
my place, I wouldn't be my bestself, I wouldn't be grounded,
and so on and so forth.
So what challenges did you face?
What did you go through?
What was difficult?
But more so, what did you learnfrom that?
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What did it teach you?
Because everything in life isjust a teacher.
It's this master teacher toteaching you really what you
need to kind of go towards.
Next, I always say that emotionsare just energy in motion and
the emotions that we feel areall just directing us either on
the path or off the path, oressentially towards the where we
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need to go.
So I always say follow the goodfeelings, things that feel
amazing, that light you up isactually your higher self
guiding you towards exactlywhere you need to go.
Anything that doesn't feel, youknow that gut feeling like this
doesn't feel right.
That means you've kind of goneoff the track.
You're hunting down the woodsup here and in the woods they're
like no darling, this is notfor you.
You need to go back on thattrack towards where you need to
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go.
So then we go.
Oh, that's why it doesn't feelgood, because I'm not actually
designed to be here.
So allow that to be your kindof second question.
Third question question whathabits, thoughts or actions held
me back?
So what habits and thoughts youknow and actions really held
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you back?
Maybe not really held you back,but what things kind of came up
?
Was it overthinking?
Did you feel like 2024?
You just maybe overthoughtthings way too much and that
made you not take action.
You know what were the things.
Was it self-doubt, did you letthe doubt overtake you, or did
you kind of like maybe 20 to 4,you had the doubt, but maybe it
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just held you back from takingthat next step which you knew
you could have done.
So really get reflective ofthat.
What habits, thoughts andactions held you back?
Was procrastination, fear ofjudgment, fear of success or
even fear of failure, or, um,yeah, there's actually that fear
of success is a real thing,which is crazy, right?
Um, what it basically means isthat a lot of the time, you know
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, we always talk about fear ofrejection, fear of failure, all
that stuff, but fear of success,fear of failure, all that stuff
, but fear of success is realbecause being I don't like the
word success, because I thinkwe're all successful in our own
right but when we really unpackit, it's being really fearful of
standing in that power, ofbeing seen.
That's a real thing.
And if we don't feel groundedand supported and powerful in
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feeling seen and feeling open,imagine how much of our behavior
, which again going back, is ourbeliefs.
Our beliefs show up as ourbehavior, how we're showing that
in a rehearsal room or anaudition panel If we ultimately,
somewhere deep down, don'treally want to be seen?
Or you know what are peoplegoing to think of me if I'm all
of a sudden, you know,performing at shows a week and
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my friend's going to be leftthere, like there's so many
other things happening?
And so, without getting tooenwrapped with it, just quickly
answer what habits, thoughts andactions held you back and maybe
, if you want to add a littlething in there, you know,
identify one thing that you'rejust ready to release, what you
ready to release.
Know what are you ready torelease.
Know that when you're goinginto this reflection and you're
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looking to release habits andthings like that, again going
back to the 95% of our time, weare spending basically doing the
same things and thinking thesame things.
And I just want you to knowright now that every single
thing in your past you don'thave to take with you.
It's like this baggage that welike hold on to, we got all
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these books.
It's like we carry around allthese things if you're watching
me and we're like, yep, that'sall good, that's all good, I'm
gonna hold that, but you canliterally just put down all of
that garbage and that it can beas simple as that.
Or sometimes we think, oh no, Ineed to do this incredible
20-day course and I need to payall this money and I need to do
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all these classes and make it sohard.
You know, it could be just thesimplest thing.
Healing and moving forward inyour life can be the easiest and
easeful and exciting thing ever.
It could be a bit scary, butagain, it's how we think about
things.
Our behavior is showing up.
If we behave and we believethat it's got to be hard, then
we will behave in a way thatit's going to be hard.
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I recently went through this.
A quick side note before wecontinue is that I had a real
strong belief that I had to workimmensely, immensely, immensely
hard to achieve anything right.
And I know it's kind of like ifyou're a performer.
It's kind of like this um, youmay tune in or out on this, but
it's just something that I'vegone through.
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Is that, yes, there has to be acertain amount of effort, but I
think the word hard indicatesthat it has to be difficult for
something to happen.
So maybe, coming in, what I'vebasically been to rewrite myself
is, instead of working reallyhard.
It's working reallyintentionally.
So like kind of let's workreally really intentionally
instead of really really hard,because that always led me to
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burn out personally and I endedup starting to um equivalent
equivalent.
I don't know other words, youknow what it is.
I, I started to um assimilateis that the word?
Whatever it is, is that I.
I used to essentially buildmyself all the way to burnout
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and I would have that as like anauthority to be like, yes, I
worked hard, I achieved, butlike no, we don't need to get to
burnout.
What happens if it just gets tobe simple and intentional and
that can build over time andthat can be fun, like let's
allow ourselves to have all ofthat?
Again, these are all kind ofold habits that we get taught
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upon us, but again, it's notabout what is taught to us or
the events that happen, it's howwe respond to them.
So maybe things have come upfor you in this session so far,
but again, let's be kind, let'sbe compassionate and just know
that anything you want torelease, you can release just
like that.
Maybe write it out on a pieceof paper.
If you want to be dramatic,light it on fire safely or just
like tear it up and put it inthe bin and be like sorry,
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darling, thank you for gettingme to where I am today, but you
are no longer, and this is whatI want to step into now.
I'm ready to support myself inthis way.
Simple as that, seriously Okay.
Final two questions for thereflection.
I know this workshop is kind ofa little bit bigger, but 2025,
if you're really wanting to setit up, we've really got to get
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that reflection.
So, is everyone with me so far?
Thumbs up, amazing, great,fantastic.
All right, let's get out of the.
I don't want to say negativity,but we've got into some
challenges.
We'll tell you back.
Let's get back into it.
So the fourth out of the fivequestions of reflection is what
lights me up as a performer?
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This gets me excited, thisquestion, because what moments
remind you of why you love whatyou do?
What fuels your passion?
Again, we are like a car.
I know we're not a machine.
We're a human being withmulti-dimensional sort of
aspects to ourselves.
But in terms of our car andwhat we need to move forward,
what actually puts the fuel in?
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What's getting you off thecouch?
You know, a lot of performersand myself we sometimes lack
with motivation.
You don't lack motivation.
You lack like movement and fuelto get in there.
Like, what are you eating?
Who are you surroundingyourselves with?
Have you seen sunshine?
Have you seen water?
Like, get out there.
And again also, what are youconsuming?
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What are you listening to?
Who are you surroundingyourself with?
That's all fuel.
And I always always say try andfind a network, and I know
inside our network here, we'reall expanding and we're all
growing together, which is soawesome, and maybe this group is
one of your main aspects ofpeople that you're around.
But start to find people thatare expanders in your life,
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because what that means is thatyou're automatically going to
expand, not um, which I knowwith.
It's sometimes hard with ourfamily, but sorry, I have to say
it, but family is not alwaysthe most supportive and they can
be draining sometimes becausethey are not going where you
want to go a lot of the time.
So when we're sharing with themour dreams and things, they
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they just don't get it okay andif they do, amazing.
We love your family and myfamily's also been really
supportive.
But I want you to step into thenext level version of you and in
order to do that.
It means stepping outside andtowards people that are your
expanders and that are alreadywhere you are right.
And I feel like that's in ourcommunity, where a lot of our
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community get a lot ofinspiration from me, because I'm
actually living it, I've beenliving it, I'm still living it,
I'm still auditioning, I'm doingall these things and so, by
automatically being aroundmyself, you're expanding because
you're wanting to have or bewhere I want to be, which is
awesome, and I'm here to showyou to do that.
But you've got to also findsome other people that, um, you
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know, it can be really specifictoo.
It could be a singing expander,it could be a yoga expand like
look at your expanders, whereare you wanting to expand?
Because, again, we're elastic.
We're elastic as beings.
We need to move and morph anddo, do, do new things, and a lot
of the time when we're stagnantand still like a rock, that's
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where our emotions can alsoreflect that too.
Oh, channeling and all thesegorgeous words today I'm so
happy I'm recording today.
Sometimes I have these amazingrants and I know a few people
are on here from past programsI've been running.
I, you know, sometimes forgetto press record.
So here we are.
So what lights you up as aperformer here there?
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Once you've wrote all of thatout, write out what your fuel is
.
If you want to be creative,draw a car and write little tabs
all the way out of it Likewhat's your fuel to go into that
car, what car are you driving?
What is it?
You know whatever it is.
You can also do a photo ofyourself.
Okay, final question of thereflection, before we get 2025
what values matter most to me?
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What values matter most to meoh, I love it, I could almost
cry is that you know whatactually matters most.
Okay, we all know in our hubhere that what matters most is
your health and your energy andyour time and, yeah, essentially
more so, your health, yourmindset, your mental health and
(33:58):
your physical health, for sure.
But what values do you?
What mattered most to you?
I'll give you some examples.
So, like, integrity is beingintegral.
Something that you value mostis being authentic, is being
joyous, like joy, connection.
You know what principles youknow of these values do you
really want to embody in yourcareer, in your life and, uh,
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you know, coming into the newyear, you can I kind of put this
at the end of the reflection,as we go into the kind of
setting up the new year, becauseI think it's really important
and maybe you want to look at,like, what values did you have
in 2024 and were they supportive?
Um, did you really live them?
And that's okay if you didn't.
Maybe they were just new values, you were just popping in,
going I'm going to try this out.
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But then, and going into 2025,what are you really wanting to
bring?
You know, I would say likethree to four max and really
dive into that and each day, ifyou ever feel lost, you feel
confused, go back to thosevalues.
How can I be integral in thisnext decision?
You know, I set up myself to goto the class and here I am on
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the couch canceling again.
You know, guilty, guilty overhere, right.
So you know, whatever it is,again it's coming from that
compassionate, kind placebecause you are the only person
that spends the most time withyou.
So if we can't be kind andcompassionate as we go through
these growing pains, growingpains and being compassionate,
compassionate and the kindnessis kind of like the medicine to
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the growing pains.
It's the only way.
If we get really harsh with allof it.
We just get more pain, and wedon't want pain.
We're not all about pain here.
We're about growth and desireand moving forward.
So what values do you want tobring into the new year?
Growth and desire and movingforward.
So what values do you want tobring into the new year?
Fabulous, let's take a fivesecond break.
Let's go with some water.
(35:44):
If you're listening in, I knowit's been like 37 minutes.
Then the next five um ones areactually a lot easier, because
the reflection kind of takes alittle bit longer because we've
gone through a whole year, right, so we really need to kind of
go through the weeds andunderstand what's working well,
but now we know where we areright, we know what, where we
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are as an individual.
When we've done these questions, we can kind of like leave 2024
there and go right, let's setup this new year.
That's what a lot of people andmyself mistake is that I used
to kind of just like neverreflect and be like well, I'm
here now, so let's go forwardand forward and forward.
Increase burnout, decrease inawareness and increase in
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bringing all the things that Ididn't want from the previous
year into the new one.
Because you didn't reflect, youdidn't realize.
Oh, that actually didn't serveme.
Yeah, okay, let me have a sipof tea Fabulosa.
So let's get into yourempowered vision.
Question number one if you couldwave a magic wand, what would
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you want my career, what wouldyou want your career to look
like one year from now?
This is all about writingfreely.
It's not about getting.
We need to kind of let go ofattachments, right, because a
lot of the time, you have noidea what's in store for you.
So why not just dream big?
Look, worst thing that's goingto happen is that you're going
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to go towards that goal.
You would have learned so manythings, developed so much, and
maybe you're going to surpriseyourself.
So sometimes, when we'resetting goals and we go like, if
I could wave a magic wand, Iwould be in a musical theatre
show and I would be a lead, yeah, and so what?
What happens if that happensfor you?
Allow yourself to dream, tomove there.
Because actually, do you think?
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What have you been believingthe most?
That it can't be possible foryou, that you need another five
years of training, that you needanother thing, another, this
and more money and this.
They're all the things that areholding you back, not actually
going for it.
And I know there is that marrybetween you do have to have
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skill, you do have to workintentionally, not hard, but
when you marry skill and youmarry the way you look after
yourself and that's where Itruly believe I live now things
just happen.
Things happen for you becauseyou're in alignment, and that's
what we're about in thiscommunity that I've been
building.
It's about really building analigned performer self the one
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that's sustainable, thatsustains all of it and that can
enjoy each step.
It's not about quick winsrushing, but I'll do this
because I'm going to do thisclass, because I know they're
teaching this audition and thenI've got to be in it.
Stop mapping it all out.
Why don't you just trust thatit's all working out for you?
Why don't you just trust thatif you keep backing yourself and
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showing up for the things youknow you need to do, what if you
just keep doing those thingsand it all works out?
Because it can?
Again, it's the side of thecoin you want to believe.
I believe more so the otherside.
That's what I teach now andthat's what I've been doing for
10 years.
So let me be an example and Iwill hold your hand and tell you
that it is possible for sure.
So what will your career looklike one year from now?
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You know where are youperforming, how do you feel and
who are you becoming Woo?
Yeah, where are you performing,how do you feel, who are you
becoming Boom?
I'll move on to the next one.
What are the three goals?
So when you do that, writefreely and just see what comes
up, usually the ones that comenear the end, after you've
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probably filled out half a pageis what really matters to you,
which is cool, and then fromthat, just identify three key
goals that you want to achievein the year.
So the three main ones.
So again, it doesn't have to begetting into a musical, which I
know a lot of us that will be anamazing one, but you know lot
of us that will be amazing one.
But you know, think of all theother aspects, you know.
For example, you know, build aself-tape library that you're
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proud of, that it's ready to go.
Maybe it's a goal to feelconfident walking into an
audition room or being detachedfrom the outcome and truly
living that like these arepretty cool goals.
So really be creative.
Don't just think it's the goalthat's been set for me.
I need to be this and this.
No, a lot of us are eithermoving out of training or, like
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we've done.
Everyone that kind of comes tothis hub or to my community has
already done some form oftraining or kind of the back end
of their training, so they knowyou know what is working right.
So you kind of the back end oftheir training, so they know you
know what what is working right.
So you kind of can be a littlebit more creative.
You don't need a teacheroutside of you to be like you
need to be this theater swinghere because you look this way
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and you need to be in thismusical because you fit that
brief great, that's nice.
But you know what you need andyou know what you desire and you
know what you want and that isall possible and that's what you
should be having as yourguiding force moving forward.
Use all things as knowledge anddata, not as gospel.
Again, you know what you wantand you already know what you
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have to do.
We're just gonna get our buttsinto gear and go and get it,
honey.
Okay, how will it feel toachieve those goals?
Probably one of my favoritequestions of the whole entire
call today, as we start to wrapup how will it feel to achieve
your goals?
Imagine, right now you'veachieved those three goals, or
at least one of the major ones,the ones that you would just cry
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and die if you got it or youachieved it.
You're there.
I just want to say congrats.
Well done, slay, you'd made it.
How do you feel?
And write this out in detail?
This is going to changeeverything for you.
It changed everything for me,because what happens when you
start to, just when you bringfeeling into it and emotion this
is something I'm going to divea lot into teaching this year as
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I start to bring out a fewexciting offers and programs
with my community is that whenwe bring their feeling to things
, what it's going to feel likewhen we have already achieved it
, then we're tapping intoemotion, and emotion is the
biggest driver for taking action, which is we love.
You know.
No more worrying about, oh,feeling motivated, I'm not.
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How will you feel once you'veachieved those things and then
starting to essentially alignyour schedule, align your life
with the guidance towardsfeeling those things in the now,
for example?
If you would feel just sograteful then you could start to
start your day with what's onething today that would make me
feel that much gratitude?
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Because if you start feelingthe things today that you will
say, you will think because alot of the time we actually
don't want the goal.
I've said this a lot of times.
We actually don't want the car,we don't want the musical, we
don't want the thing, weactually just want how it will
feel, the relief, the excitement, how I'll just feel I'll be
able to tell and do that postand write a snazzy little
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caption that I'm in the showlike we want.
That's how we'll feel weactually don't want the thing,
or how it will feel.
And you don't have to wait ayear, two years, three years for
that to happen.
You can feel all those thingsin the now and it's actually
within those feelings that'sactually going to guide you to
that destination.
Because it makes no sense if youbuilt your life based off how
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you will feel, which is thedriver of action to take you
towards those things that willmake you have those results.
It just makes no sense if thatjust doesn't work.
It has to work because it'salready working for you, because
right now we're feeling theopposite.
We're not feeling successful.
We're not feeling I mean youmaybe you know, don't want to
(43:18):
push down, but maybe a lot ofthe time we're not feeling
successful.
We're not feeling I mean youmaybe you know, don't want to
push down, but maybe a lot ofthe time we're feeling not
empowered and not ready andcomparing, and the opposite.
If that we know now that allthose emotions are driving us
towards the direction of that.
So it's all about just changingthat direction and how amazing
that you can just use thatdriving force.
(43:39):
So if you're ever lost againgoing through 2025, ask yourself
that question if I was alreadywhere I want to be, how would I
feel?
And what's one thing I can dotoday that would make me feel
that?
Because automatically, yourguidance system is going to tap
you towards the exact next stepyou need to take.
No more feeling confused, nomore feeling doubt, because you
already essentially know whatyou need to do and if you tap
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into the emotion, you'll startto reprogram your mind towards
exactly where you need to go.
Publish that, okay.
So the final three.
Is it three questions?
Three questions?
What small daily?
And this is kind of back on theback end.
I'll kind of skim through this.
It's what small daily or weeklyactions will move me closer to
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feeling those feelings and which, in turn, guides me to my goals
.
So, for example, it's maybeit's practicing singing for the
love of it for 20 minutes a day,because you know that if you
were in a musical, maybe youdidn't need to practice singing
as much, because you're justdoing it and you just want to do
it for love, right, not to getinto anything.
That's the massive thing aboutmanifesting.
You've never done it before.
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Manifesting truly comes whenyou're doing things without an
expected result, because it'sreally, if you were already
there, you already have theresult.
And so it's about living inthat truth today without kind of
like being delulue.
I mean, let's be real, everymusical theater artist are all a
bit delusional.
We're all a bit a little bitdelulue, and that's okay.
Let's live in your delusion,but live in the intention that
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it's supportive for you.
And so, yeah, write out, maybeyou know what's a small daily
action or a weekly action thatwill make, that will move you
closer to feeling those feelings.
It could be attend a workshopor a class each and every month.
That maybe pushes you but makesyou feel excited.
So it's again bringing that gapbetween just actually having
fun and enjoying, as if you knowyou're already on contract.
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How would you be showing up inyour day-to-day life?
Start to build your life now sothat when you're in the show
it's just so easy and fun,because you know it's not all
new, because you've already beenbuilding the life.
Life you're literally sayinguniverse, I am ready, not like
I'm not ready, I will only beready once I get it.
Honestly, that does not how itworks.
You, you've got to show thatyou're putting in the work.
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You've got to show that you'reready for the life that you're
calling in.
Are you ready to pack up yourlife and go overseas for two
years in a musical, doing eightshows a week, like, like.
Are you really ready?
Right, and it's okay if you'renot, but it's like learning how
to just shift it towards howwould that feel?
And starting to base youractions off that.
Second last question who have Ileaned on for support in the
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past and who is coming with youin 2025?
Ooh, love this.
Identify mentors.
Maybe it's Taylor peers in thiscommunity or this community
that lifts you up.
Who helps you feel inspired andgrounded?
So just quickly have a thinkabout.
You know, who are some friends,maybe family, who are some key
people, maybe three to fivepeople that really supported you
(46:33):
that you felt like if you wentto them it would just it was
just amazing.
They expanded your vision again.
Maybe there are some expandersand maybe you can only think of
one or two.
That's okay.
Um, just write it down.
Who supported you in that yearthat you feel like you want to
bring them into?
You know, we're not we're notthrowing them out and deleting
them off on the socials or thenumber, but we're actually like
(46:55):
going okay, who was supportingme in last year and we want to
bring them in and it's aboutdialing that up.
Let's dial up that.
And then what else?
Yeah, and then think aboutwho's coming with you in the
next year as well.
Do we have a question in thechat box?
No, okay, no question, all good.
(47:17):
I haven't actually navigatedmuch on this one, so it's all
good, all good.
Yes, who's coming with you in2025?
Maybe it's this community.
Let's not do the.
Maybe this community is goingto be here for 2025.
We're doing some amazing thingshere and we're all here for you
.
And if you're new to theplatform.
Come on in Check in the shownotes if you're watching the
podcast.
So that's about thatIdentifying the mentors, peers
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and community that lift you up,who help you feel inspired and
grounded.
Final question what's onesoulful way I'll celebrate my
wins?
Amen, amen.
How are you going to actuallycelebrate soulfully the wins you
do?
Because, again, we'reprogrammed to just be in this
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forward thinking motion oftrialing and like not actually
reflecting or celebrating.
You know, because a lot of thetime we are actually searching
for that outward validation youknow we're waiting for I've got
a post-it.
How many views, how many things?
Or, um, in a class I want to bepicked out.
All these things, they're allfine because we're all human.
But what happens if you startto soulfully celebrate when you
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really felt proud of yourself?
Because guess what happens?
You don't have to wait foranyone else, so you get to just
automatically feel the valuebecause you knew that already
that was valuable to you.
And guess what?
No one knows what you value,but you.
So what's one soulful way youcan celebrate your win?
And this can be a dinner withfriends.
Bring people over, have anachos night.
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I don't know, I'm really moreof an introvert, so maybe one
friend will come over.
I can only deal with so much atsome time.
Or is it just a day off Goingto nature, maybe?
Or is it just a day off goingto nature?
Maybe it's a day where you justdo nothing?
This is something I've had toget on board coming into the end
of last year, like I would wefeel guilty, right, if we don't
do something.
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But we're in such a massivestate of doing, doing, doing
that we forget to just be.
You know, when we're childrenand we don't have things that
we've got to do.
Yes, we're going to work.
Don't go.
Don't, all of a sudden, justcancel work.
Taylor said I need a day off.
I mean, maybe you need to,that's okay.
Um, but yeah, do the thingsthat are going to refill you and
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kind of give you theacknowledgement.
Because, honey, if you waitaround for the industry, for
other people, to give you theacknowledgement you know you
deserve, you'll be waiting along time.
And if you, once you get it,you almost won't be able to
handle it.
You'll be like oh no, no, no,you're not.
Like, oh yeah, not me, oh yeah.
So start to validate yourself,start to know that you are so
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worth it, and doing thatsoulfully is really where that
medicine and that magic comes.
This could also be a joyfulmoment to acknowledge your
progress.
Writing it out, you know howwill you honour you.
So, nearly an hour of me talking.
But, yeah, 2025, I really hope,and not even hope I'll get this
(50:10):
word out of it, but I just wantthis to be your year to step
forward with a bit more clarityand purpose.
Let's you, let's leave whatdidn't serve us in the past and
just leave it there.
Let us not dive into the samehabitual things because, again,
coming back to takingresponsibility, it's all about
how you're responding toeverything around you.
So trust your unique path andlet these questions I'll add it
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in the show notes Again, ifyou're listening in a jot form
you can fill out so you can sendall of these wonderful things
to me.
The benefits of that is I get tocelebrate you for doing this
work and to share your vision,and I love hearing from everyone
in the community that shareswith me all the things you're
wanting to achieve, and it'sjust amazing.
So, um, it's been awesomechatting with you all.
(50:55):
I know that I put out in herethere's going to be a Q&A, but I
feel like I've really I justkind of I don't know I channeled
in something today.
So I feel like I've answered alot of questions.
So I think we'll leave it theretoday and maybe on the hub
we'll do another Q&A.
And yeah, if you're listeningin on the dive podcast,
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