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December 15, 2023 16 mins

Today's episode is a thought-provoking one as we delve into the topic of why women should stop dating the "ghetto thug." Now, before we dive in, let me clarify that when I use the term "ghetto," I am not exclusively referring to the Black community. However, in my experience, I have noticed that a significant number of Black individuals embrace aspects of ghetto culture, such as certain music genres and aesthetic choices.

 

Now, let's get to the heart of the matter. It seems like there is a silent epidemic in the dating world, particularly among women who are attracted to black men, specifically those from the ghetto or hood. These women often adopt the personalities, language, and aesthetics associated with this culture. Unfortunately, this often leads to becoming a baby mama. While not all ghetto men are bad fathers, it is silently encouraged within the African-American community for men to neglect their parental responsibilities in favor of pursuing their music careers or other endeavors.

 

The allure of dating a ghetto thug stems from the hope that he will provide a glamorous and financially abundant life. However, the reality is often far from that fantasy. Many of these men have limited prospects and are unlikely to achieve the success and wealth that women hope for. It's important to let go of the notion that your ghetto thug will reach his potential and sweep you off your feet into a life of luxury.

 

I understand that love is love, but we must consider the long-term implications beyond our attractions. If the man you're attracted to has a criminal record or exhibits violent behavior, it's time to reconsider. Dating someone with a limited vocabulary and a propensity for aggression is not a safe or healthy choice. We've seen this play out in reality TV shows like Love After Lockup, where delusional women hope for a better future with men who may not have the best track record.

 

It's disheartening to see women who have built their lives around these men face disrespect and ridicule, even from within their own community. We must recognize that aligning ourselves with individuals who perpetuate negative stereotypes only hinders our progress as a community. It's time to prioritize our safety, our children's well-being, and the betterment of our neighborhoods.

 

I speak from personal experience, as I, too, used to date ghetto thugs in my younger years. However, after experiencing violence firsthand, I realized the importance of distancing myself from that lifestyle. It's not about being racist or discriminatory; it's about protecting ourselves and making choices that lead to a safer and more fulfilling life.

 

We must reject the idea that Black women's rights are inherently tied to Black men's rights. Black women deserve support and resources that empower them as individuals and mothers. By investing in women's education, providing access to transportation, and offering opportunities for personal growth, we can transform struggles into success stories.

 

I invite you to visit DivestedDiary.com to learn more about my organization for women's rights and to contribute to our cause. Together, we can uplift and empower women, creating a brighter future for ourselves and our communities.

 

In conclusion, it's time to let go of the allure of dating the ghetto thug. We must choose partners prioritizing our safety, well-being, and personal growth. By breaking free from negative stereotypes and investing in ourselves, we can create a better future for Black women and our communities.

 

Thank you for joining me on this episode of the Divested Diary podcast. I appreciate your support, and I look forward to continuing these important conversations in the future. Stay tuned for weekly episodes on your favorite podcast platforms and my website. Together, we can make a difference.

 

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