December 30, 2021 • 29 mins
The host, Femi the Divine, discusses intention setting, the difference between intentions and goals, and how to use both to manifest your best life.
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Welcome to the divine healingpodcast.
I'm your host, Femi the divine.
And thank you.
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You know, like I mentionedpreviously, this is really a
labor of love for me.
This was something spirit nudgedme to start to share with you
all.
If I'm able to help others bysharing what it is that I know,
then that makes me feel good.
So today's topic is going to beintention setting.
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So we have approached the end ofthe year.
We only have a few more daysleft and I felt like that was a
good time to bring up thistopic.
A lot of people set, what weknow is new year's resolutions.
As we roll into the new year, wethink about what it is that we
want to focus on and accomplish.
In January.
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And how many of us have set newyear's resolutions?
And then we didn't follow.
You know how you say you'regonna lose weight.
You're gonna go to the gym.
And the gym is all packed witheverybody.
Who's decided that they're goingto get in shape and lose weight
in the new year.
And then in February, the gym isempty.
We've all been in thatsituation.
But I figured this was a goodtime of year to think about what
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it is that we want to manifestmoving into the new year.
And I'm going to talk about thedifference between what an
intention is versus what a goalis, why you should really be
setting both.
And then how do you go aboutdoing.
So an intention by definition isa thing intended, an aim or a
plan.
It basically is a commitment toyourself that you're going to do
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something.
So declaration of your focus andit's something that happens in
the present moment.
Think of it like a mindset, avibe, a feeling, a big picture,
a broad concept.
It's really not a guidingprinciple that you are.
Intentionally doing something,something that's internally
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driven intentions are more aboutthe journey.
And the process, whereas a goalis by definition, a goal is the
object of a person's ambition oreffort, an aim or a desired
result.
So as you can see, both of thosedefinitions have the word aim
and intentions and goals aresimilar, but I would say they're
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more like apples and orangesbecause they are different.
The goal is more of thedestination of the journey.
It's something concrete thatyou're working toward achieving.
There's a stopping point.
There's an ending point.
Once you have achieved, whateverit is that you set out to do,
you've checked off your box whenyou compare that to an
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intention?
An intention is more, like Isaid, it's something more broad
and it's something that's more.
When we think about goals, someof you may be familiar with that
acronym smart goals.
The S is specific.
The M is measurable.
The a I've seen a couple ofdifferent things listed,
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actionable attainable,achievable.
The R is realistic or relevant,and the T is time bound or
timely.
So when you're setting a goal, Imean, anybody can just come up
with the goal.
Let's say your goal is okay, I'mgoing to lose weight in the new
year.
Okay.
Well, how much weight do youwant to do?
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When do you want to lose it by,are you trying to lose it in
three months?
Six months by the end of 2022.
Okay.
How much weight?
Okay.
50 pounds.
Okay.
Is it safe to lose 50 pounds in12 months?
How are you going to lose theweight?
Are you going to work out andeat healthy?
Are you going to work with atrainer?
Are you going to go to the gymor you're going to work out at
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home?
Like these are all things thatyou have to think about and
then.
Fall under that smart acronym,because if you really think
about it, you've set the goaland it's specific.
So I'm going to lose 50 poundsby the end of 2022.
Okay.
Well, you got your time inthere.
You got your specific in there.
You got your measurable in therewith the 50 pounds, the action.
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So it just that statement, thatspecific statement that I want
to lose.
Or I'm going to lose 50 poundsby the end of 2020.
You have all of those things inthere.
The end of 2020 is the timing.
If you've thought about howrealistic it is to lose, is it
safe to lose 50 pounds in ayear?
Okay, well, there's yourrealistic and relevant part.
That's the, are the actionableattainable or achievable?
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Is the action of losing theweight?
The measurable is the 50 poundsand the specific is the
statement itself.
If you look at that from anintention PR standpoint.
Okay.
So we know we want to lose this50 pounds by the end of 2022.
Right?
Well, the intention is going tobe all of the small things that
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you do that help you along theprocess of achieving that goal.
If this is my goal for 2022, sowhen I wake up in the morning,
my intention for that day,maybe.
To plan my meals for the day orfor the week to fix a healthy
breakfast, to create a mealplan.
My intention may be to go toyoga class, to go for a walk to
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lift weights.
But think about all of thelittle small things that you may
need to do that may notnecessarily have an end game.
I mean, going to my yoga classyou're I can check the box off
for that, but eating a healthydiet, there may not be an end
point on that.
That's a lifestyle change.
I don't see people setting theintention to eat healthy.
And then later on down the roaddecided, you know what, I'm not
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going to eat.
That does doesn't make any senseto me.
I mean, you may shift and changeyour diet because you may find
that one isn't working for youas well as another, or you want
to try new things, but eatinghealthy.
In general would be anintention.
Maybe you're eating healthywithout the intention to lose
weight.
It really just depends on howyou look at it.
But thinking about intentions asthe small things that you work
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toward each and every day, thathelp you stay on track so that
you can achieve your goal.
Think of them like small wins.
They help you to decide to stayin alignment, allows you to see
progress.
It keeps you motivated.
Intentions are more of anongoing thing as opposed to a
goal being one specific thingyou're trying to accomplish
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sometimes with goals, you mayfind yourself.
Okay.
I've set the goal that I know,for instance, when I was giving,
before I got married, we werepreparing for the wedding I
wanted to lose.
I think it was 25 pounds beforethe wedding.
So that I could look good in mydress and you know, and the
pictures and whatever else.
I remember getting to the weekof the wedding and I was four
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pounds away from my goal andfreaking out and trying to
figure out how I could losethese four pounds.
The reality of the situation isthis.
Was that four pounds reallygonna make that much of a
difference?
Probably not, but I was so stuckin my mind.
And so hell bent on, I'm goingto lose this 25 pounds that I
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spent so much time chasing afterthe goal that I really didn't
enjoy the journey leading up toit.
I feel like a lot of times whenwe just set a goal, it's like,
you're chasing behind thisdangling carrot and you miss the
journey and the process becauseyou're so fixated on the end
result.
But when you set intentions and,and obviously you can use both
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of these together and are honestand you really should be using
both of them together becausethey go hand in hand.
Maybe I didn't get to the pointof losing the 25 pounds, but I
lost 21, and looking at physicalimprovements, like obviously I,
I looked better with 21 poundslighter than I did when I
started and appreciating thejourney.
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One thing that you can do.
Especially when you're workingwith goals like that, like
that's why a lot of times yousee folks taking weight, loss,
pictures, they do a before andafter, or they take pictures
along the way, because sometimesit's hard to see your progress
with a lot of things, not justweight loss every single day.
And if you're looking everysingle day and you're weighing
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yourself every single day, keepin mind a watched pot, never
boils.
There may not even be enough foryou to see every single day, but
just know that if you keepcontinuing and plotting and
moving forward, you will see.
Small wins when you go back andyou look at your photos and that
type of thing.
I think about intentions asbeing more of the planting, the
seed, and then watching the seedgrow as opposed to, you know,
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running behind chasing thisdangling carrot.
I hope that makes sense.
But you should be settingintentions and goals together.
Now, is it possible to have anintention without an end game or
a goal?
Yeah, I mean, just like we justtalked about, okay.
I want to.
Eat healthy.
There may not be an end gamewith that.
Can you set a goal without anend point?
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No cause what are you reallystriving toward?
That's tangible.
Just something to think about.
So now that we've talked aboutwhat our intentions, what our
goals, how they're similar, howthey're different, why you
should do both, let's talk abouthow to go about setting them.
The first thing you want to dois sit down and think about what
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it is that you really want getclear on it right down.
Jot down, whatever comes to yourmind, you can come back and make
a formal statement if you wouldlike to, but just think about
what it is that you want.
Now that you've figured out whatyou want.
The next thing you want to do iswhat steps do I need to take to
get there?
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Break it down.
Create a roadmap.
This can be as specific or asbroad as you would like it to
be.
I would think more specificwould be better, but it depends
on what it is that you'reworking toward as well.
So in doing this, keep thinkingabout what resources do you need
along the journey, and toachieve the goal at the end, do
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you need money?
Do you need tools?
What steps actually have to betaken?
So let's say your goal is to buya house.
Okay.
Well, you can put a picture ofyour house on your low vision
board, but what happens betweenyou saying, I want to buy a
house and you actually obtainingit.
There's a lot of things thatneed to happen in between,
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right?
Maybe you need to save money fora down payment.
Maybe if you're buying a housefor the first time, you want to
look at what kind of programsand resources are available,
maybe.
You need to check your credit.
You know, maybe you need to seehow much you're going to be
approved for.
Maybe you need to think aboutwhere you want to move.
What zip code do you want tomove in?
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What kind of house is it a rowhouse?
Is it a townhouse?
Is it a single family house?
Is it a condo?
So these are all things that youwant to think about with.
Basically make the declarationthat this is what I want, and
this is what I'm working toward.
What steps come in between thatyou need to take to get from
point a to point B also thinkingabout, is this a short-term goal
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or a long-term goal?
What short term to you maydiffer from what's longterm to
somebody else.
But again, somebody who maybe istrying to lose 20 pounds, that
could be short-term compared tosomebody who's trying to.
I don't know, a hundred pounds.
Do you need any additionaleducation or do you need to take
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classes?
Do you need to go back to schoolfor something?
Maybe your goal is to finishyour degree.
Okay.
Well, what do you need to do toget back enrolled in school?
You probably need some money forthat.
You probably need books, youprobably need to apply some
places.
Right?
So all of those things are stepsif you don't know what they are
already, take some time toresearch those.
Do you need additional help?
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So could that be.
Coaching or mentoring orsomething like that.
Maybe if you want to start abusiness, that's your goal?
Do you need a business coach?
Do you have friends that havetheir own businesses and maybe
you're going to spend some timewith them and pick their brain,
maybe ask them to be yourmentor.
These are all things that aregoing to go into your roadmap.
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Once you figure out what it isthat you want and how to get
from point a to point B, you'regoing to create your roadmap so
that you can move on to thenext.
We talked about short-termversus long-term.
Is there an ending point?
Okay.
So what do you need to doregularly as a part of the
process?
So here's where your habitstacking comes in.
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You are intentionally doingthings every day or every week
or every month or whatever it isthat you've set to be regularly
to help you get to your goal.
Things that help you to stay ontrack and that you're in
alignment with.
So for instance, if I know that.
I'm trying to say, I'm trying tosave money.
My intention this year was tosave money and the goal is to
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save, I don't know,$5,000 by theend of the year.
Okay.
You've divvied out how muchmoney you need to save every pay
or every month or however it is,you choose to work it out.
Okay.
So what are you doing every dayto make sure that that money is
being funneled into your savingsaccount?
Or you're not spending it onnecessarily.
Are you cutting out coffee andmaking coffee at home?
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Well, my intention is to savemoney by cutting out unnecessary
spending.
Then maybe the intention is thatI make my coffee at home every
day and that I eat at home more.
Sometimes they're just smallthings that we do each and every
day to help us along the way.
Once you figured out what youneed to do regularly as a part
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of the process.
So again, we're talking about,you know, maybe that's her meal
prep.
Maybe cutting out theunnecessary spending every day
and checking our bank accountjust to make sure, you know,
we're on top of our spending ormaybe if your goal is, to finish
your degree.
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I mean, are you going to yourclasses and doing your homeworks
and stuff like that?
You want to do things habituallyso that.
It becomes second nature so thatit becomes effortlessly and
that'll make the journey to theend goal.
More pleasurable for you.
Instead of me running, chasingbehind this dangling carrot,
trying to lose these 20 pounds.
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The next thing you want to do isto release.
I've set my goal.
I've declared.
This is what I'm going to do.
I figured out how I'm going todo it.
I've gotten my roadmap.
Now I'm going to release thatrequest into the universe.
As long as you stay on trackwith your habits, with your
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intentions, you will reach yourgoal.
If this is what you set out todo, and you've accurately
determined the steps that youneed to take release it, have
faith and believe that it isgoing to happen.
Don't doubt yourself.
Don't beat yourself up.
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If it takes longer than youanticipated, if you are actively
trying and doing and puttingenergy into it, there's no
reason why you can't achieve it.
I think a lot of times we sellourselves short because keep in
mind that a watched pot neverboils.
So we're so worried about, oh,I'm not doing this or I'm not
doing that.
You know, isn't going to happen.
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Is it coming?
Like for instance, I wasspeaking with somebody and they
were talking to.
Manifesting money.
And then they said, I hope Idon't have any resistance.
Well, damn you didn't just shotthe damn girl dead in the water.
Why would you declare thatyou're going to do something and
then turn around and say, oh, Ihope it works.
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I hope it happens.
That type of thinking that typeof mindset is not in alignment
with what it is that we'redoing.
Why even waste your time.
If you're not going to believein yourself and have faith that
you can achieve, whatever it isthat you want to achieve.
So just sometimes we have totake a step back and check
ourselves and think about ourmindset.
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One thing that drives me, batty,you ever hear people say that
phrase about their kids?
Oh, those are my broke low bestfriends.
Why would you put that on them?
Don't be calling them broke.
We talked about speaking thingsinto existence.
I think in episode number four,be very mindful of the language
that you use.
Don't be calling your kidsbroke, whether they're broken
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out, that's just not, we'll saythings like that.
Or, you know, you're trying tomanifest love and you want a man
to come in your life and thenyou turn around and say, men
ain't shit.
Well, I don't know.
Do you want the universe to sendyou an ancient man?
Cause the universe can decipherbetween the, I don't want or
not.
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They just heard ancient, man.
Do you mean.
Be mindful about the things thatwe are thinking, the things that
we are saying out loud, we makeour declarations in the present
as if they have alreadyhappened.
We don't hope we don't wish wewe achieve, we obtain, we attain
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shifting your mindset alone.
Trust me.
That will put you in.
The next thing we want to thinkabout is just simply staying in
the course.
So reinforcing regularly,staying on track with our habits
or intentions or things that aresmall things that we do each and
every day to help us stay ontrack, because it can become
frustrating when you feel likeyou're working hard at
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something, and you're not seeingprogress right away.
And sometimes that's just how itis.
You're not going to see progressright away, but don't feel
encouraged.
Don't feel discouraged.
Just stay the course.
So if you need an extra boost,if you need to give whatever it
is that you're working towardsthem energy, some things you can
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do set reminders to help youstay on track.
We've talked about that before.
It could be something as simpleas setting an alarm on your
phone.
Posting up what it is thatyou're working toward as a
reminder, that could be postingyour vision board on your wall,
in your room.
So you see it every time youwork up, that's a form of
visualization.
You can meditate, you canliterally sit and visualize
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yourself, if your goal is to buya new car, visualize yourself
driving down the road and thatsucker, you know, maybe do you
need an accountability partner?
So we've talked about, losingweight and going to the gym.
Do you have a gym buddy and youall text each other and hold
each other accountable aboutgoing to the gym on there?
Or if you're working with atrainer, same thing.
I remember working with thetrainer and she would text me
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and check in.
Did you do your workout today?
Did you do this?
Did you do that?
I'll be honest with you.
That drove me freaking batty.
So I probably wouldn't do thatno more, but that might work for
you.
I found it easier, to work withthe trainer in the gym and have
them on my behind, in thatregard because I paid my money.
So I'm not going to show up andlose it.
And I'm going to work throughthis hour workout or whatever it
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is, but that helped me to stay.
We talked about visualizationwith the vision board, but also
think about maybe it's ajournal.
So something I picked up fromMarshall's a couple of weeks
ago, I'm working on, getting myfinances in order.
And I found a money journal andit was kind of like a workbook
it had pages in it where you canwrite down, your daily spending
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your bills, your income for themonth, that type of thing.
You could put your goal.
Literally there was space forwriting goals in there.
So that's something that.
We talked about taking pictures.
So again, if there's somethingthat you're working on, you want
to, you can't see progress rightaway.
You can take picturesperiodically and look back at
your pictures and you'll see theprogress.
Maybe creating a chart.
So something that kind of fitsinto this whole small wins
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thing.
If anybody follows Dave Ramsey,one of the methods that he
teaches to pay down debt, I knowthat's often a goal for people
to be debt free to pay off debtis the snowball method.
Basically the way that it worksis you line up your debts based
on.
Either the lowest balance to thehighest or the highest interest
rate down to the lowest.
And then you throw all of yourmoney at the first one and
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tackle it.
And so if my smallest creditcard bills say the balance was
500 and originally dependent.
I don't know,$50 a month.
I keep paying back$50 a month,plus whatever extra money I have
toward it.
When that one's paid off, I takeall of the money that I was
paying on the first one.
And then I now attack the secondone.
And then you go down the listuntil you're done doing it.
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Like that allows you to seesmall wins instead of just
putting one big balance at thetop.
So I don't know, maybe you gotto pay$25,000 that looking at
that big 25 may seem daunting.
But when you break it down andyou think about, okay, well I
paid off my first one.
I checked that one off.
That's a small win.
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So now you move to the next one.
So that helps you to, get yourfeelings invested into the
journey instead of looking at,oh my God, I have to pay off
$25,000 of debt.
And that seeming,insurmountable.
And even if you want to do itthat way, maybe create a chart
or like, A bar and then you callher in, okay, well now I'm up to
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500.
So I'm calling up to 500 nextmonth.
I'm up to a thousand, I'mcovering up to a thousand and
then eventually you get all theway to the top of the bar is now
at a hundred percent, you'vepaid it for a hundred percent of
your debt.
Now you owe$0.
That's a visual aid type ofthing.
If you're a visual person, youmay find that.
Something else you may want tothink about, if you are a
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metaphysical practitioner, likeI am and you practice candle
magic or you work with mooncycles or any of those types of
things, you can sync yourintentions up with the moon
cycle.
So if you know me personally, orone of my friends, you know that
I will shoot messages out, Hey,it's a full moon.
Hey, it's a new moon.
Hey, it's 11, 11 portal.
That ain't folks know today's agood day to set intentions.
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When the moon is in a certainspace that allows additional
energy.
So if you know anything aboutmoon cycles within a month, the
moon is going to cycle from ablack or a new moon all the way
up to a full moon.
And then it'll come back downto.
The new moon.
It goes in a cycle every month,and then it, between the new
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moon and the full moon, you haveadditional cycles.
When the full moon is becomingsmaller and going back down to
the new moon, that's called thewaning cycle.
And when it's growing from thenew moon up to the full moon,
That's the waxing cycle.
So if you are trying to releasesomething, which we didn't
really talk about earlier inthis episode, keep in mind that
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an intention doesn't have to besomething that you are
attracting, and it could besomething that you're working on
removing as well.
Getting rid of debt would beremoving right?
Losing weight would be removing,but maybe trying to save up
money to purchase something orbuying a house or buying a car,
you're attracting something intoyour life.
So thinking about when you aresetting those intensive.
In a month, you have one fullmoon and you have one new moon.
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So maybe when I'm trying toattract something, you can say,
I'm trying to attract money forsomething.
Most likely, I'm going to starton a new moon and allow the
energy to build up as the moongrows.
And that energy goes toward myrequest and vice versa.
If I'm trying to removesomething, maybe I'll start a
full moon and the.
You know, continue with theprocess as the moon becomes
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smaller until it goes back downto that new moon.
You can definitely sync up yourintentions with astrological
events.
I know a couple Saturdays ago,we have the last full moon of
the year, and I know I sentfolks a message like, Hey, write
your stuff down.
Today's a good day.
So that's just something tothink about.
I talked about this in pastepisodes.
I'm a metaphysical practitioner.
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I don't, that's not really whatthis podcast is going to be
about.
I think I may start a Patrion orYouTube or something else to
discuss those kinds of things.
I just don't think this is theproper forum for that.
If you want to message me aboutthat, feel free to do so.
The last thing we want to doafter we've set our intentions
and our goals, and we've beenactively working toward them,
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being intentional with all ofthe things that we're doing each
and every day and plotting away,trying to get to our goal.
Don't forget to check in andreassess periodically.
May be, stepping on the scaleand seeing how much weight
you've lost using your measuringtape to measure around your
waist, checking your savingsaccount, to see how much money
is in there.
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If you're eating healthy formedical reasons, maybe
reassessing is checking in withyour doctor to see how you're
doing, but you do want to take astep in and reassess at some
point, depending on how longyou've given yourself to achieve
that goal, because maybe youneed to make an adjustment.
Maybe things are moving fasterthan you thought they would.
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That's great.
Maybe they're moving slower thanyou thought they would.
Maybe the plan that you have inplace needs to be tweaked.
You need to make some changes,but it don't feel like just
because you've committed to thisone thing.
Like I committed to losing the25 pounds and didn't make it by
my deadline.
Don't mean that doesn't meanthat you can't change it.
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You may decide that once you getinto the process of, you know,
working towards something thatthat's not really even what you
want.
It may be going back to thedrawing board and working on
something else.
Sometimes we have to dosomething to discover that is
really not what we want.
And sometimes, getting into theprocess of it will reinforce
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that this is what you want.
This is a good fit for you, butdon't be afraid to take a step
back and reassess, take a lookat your progress.
See what's working.
See what's not working.
See where you can make changesand improvements.
And also keep in mind that.
You can set intentions and goalsat any point in time.
I know first firstly, the yearit's often.
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A popular time to do so becausefolks are in this new year, new
me, new year's resolution typeof mood.
Another time people often setintentions is on their birthday
because your birthday comes in.
It's like, you're moving intothis next chapter.
I prefer to set my intentionsfor my birthday.
But I've done both.
It really just depends on, whatworks for you.
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And sometimes it's a randomTuesday in may and you decide
you need a fresh start and wantto set an intention.
Do what works for you.
But I thought that it was timelyto have this discussion because
a lot of times we be rolled intothe new year with a fresh start
new year, new me, newintentions.
So hope that made sense for youall about the difference between
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intentions and goals, why weshould be setting both in how
they work?
And how to do so.
Thank you all for listening.
I hope that you found someinformation in here that's
useful and you can use it as youset your intentions, if you're
exciting them between now andfirst of the year, this coming
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weekend, or at any point intime, if you're listening to
this and you decide that youhave something that you want to
work towards achieving, you canset your intentions at any time.
You can set goals for yourselfat any time, you may find it
more helpful to use bothtogether because it'll help you
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to stay on track and enjoy thejourney from the moment you set
the intention to the moment thatyou achieve the goal in the
final destination.
So before I go, I'm going toleave you all with the
affirmation as always.
I affirm I live my life withintention.
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Thanks for listening.
Bye.
Bye
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then that makes me feel good.
So today's topic is going to beintention setting.
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So we have approached the end ofthe year.
We only have a few more daysleft and I felt like that was a
good time to bring up thistopic.
A lot of people set, what weknow is new year's resolutions.
As we roll into the new year, wethink about what it is that we
want to focus on and accomplish.
In January.
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And how many of us have set newyear's resolutions?
And then we didn't follow.
You know how you say you'regonna lose weight.
You're gonna go to the gym.
And the gym is all packed witheverybody.
Who's decided that they're goingto get in shape and lose weight
in the new year.
And then in February, the gym isempty.
We've all been in thatsituation.
But I figured this was a goodtime of year to think about what
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it is that we want to manifestmoving into the new year.
And I'm going to talk about thedifference between what an
intention is versus what a goalis, why you should really be
setting both.
And then how do you go aboutdoing.
So an intention by definition isa thing intended, an aim or a
plan.
It basically is a commitment toyourself that you're going to do
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something.
So declaration of your focus andit's something that happens in
the present moment.
Think of it like a mindset, avibe, a feeling, a big picture,
a broad concept.
It's really not a guidingprinciple that you are.
Intentionally doing something,something that's internally
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driven intentions are more aboutthe journey.
And the process, whereas a goalis by definition, a goal is the
object of a person's ambition oreffort, an aim or a desired
result.
So as you can see, both of thosedefinitions have the word aim
and intentions and goals aresimilar, but I would say they're
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more like apples and orangesbecause they are different.
The goal is more of thedestination of the journey.
It's something concrete thatyou're working toward achieving.
There's a stopping point.
There's an ending point.
Once you have achieved, whateverit is that you set out to do,
you've checked off your box whenyou compare that to an
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intention?
An intention is more, like Isaid, it's something more broad
and it's something that's more.
When we think about goals, someof you may be familiar with that
acronym smart goals.
The S is specific.
The M is measurable.
The a I've seen a couple ofdifferent things listed,
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actionable attainable,achievable.
The R is realistic or relevant,and the T is time bound or
timely.
So when you're setting a goal, Imean, anybody can just come up
with the goal.
Let's say your goal is okay, I'mgoing to lose weight in the new
year.
Okay.
Well, how much weight do youwant to do?
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When do you want to lose it by,are you trying to lose it in
three months?
Six months by the end of 2022.
Okay.
How much weight?
Okay.
50 pounds.
Okay.
Is it safe to lose 50 pounds in12 months?
How are you going to lose theweight?
Are you going to work out andeat healthy?
Are you going to work with atrainer?
Are you going to go to the gymor you're going to work out at
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home?
Like these are all things thatyou have to think about and
then.
Fall under that smart acronym,because if you really think
about it, you've set the goaland it's specific.
So I'm going to lose 50 poundsby the end of 2022.
Okay.
Well, you got your time inthere.
You got your specific in there.
You got your measurable in therewith the 50 pounds, the action.
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So it just that statement, thatspecific statement that I want
to lose.
Or I'm going to lose 50 poundsby the end of 2020.
You have all of those things inthere.
The end of 2020 is the timing.
If you've thought about howrealistic it is to lose, is it
safe to lose 50 pounds in ayear?
Okay, well, there's yourrealistic and relevant part.
That's the, are the actionableattainable or achievable?
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Is the action of losing theweight?
The measurable is the 50 poundsand the specific is the
statement itself.
If you look at that from anintention PR standpoint.
Okay.
So we know we want to lose this50 pounds by the end of 2022.
Right?
Well, the intention is going tobe all of the small things that
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you do that help you along theprocess of achieving that goal.
If this is my goal for 2022, sowhen I wake up in the morning,
my intention for that day,maybe.
To plan my meals for the day orfor the week to fix a healthy
breakfast, to create a mealplan.
My intention may be to go toyoga class, to go for a walk to
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lift weights.
But think about all of thelittle small things that you may
need to do that may notnecessarily have an end game.
I mean, going to my yoga classyou're I can check the box off
for that, but eating a healthydiet, there may not be an end
point on that.
That's a lifestyle change.
I don't see people setting theintention to eat healthy.
And then later on down the roaddecided, you know what, I'm not
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going to eat.
That does doesn't make any senseto me.
I mean, you may shift and changeyour diet because you may find
that one isn't working for youas well as another, or you want
to try new things, but eatinghealthy.
In general would be anintention.
Maybe you're eating healthywithout the intention to lose
weight.
It really just depends on howyou look at it.
But thinking about intentions asthe small things that you work
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toward each and every day, thathelp you stay on track so that
you can achieve your goal.
Think of them like small wins.
They help you to decide to stayin alignment, allows you to see
progress.
It keeps you motivated.
Intentions are more of anongoing thing as opposed to a
goal being one specific thingyou're trying to accomplish
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sometimes with goals, you mayfind yourself.
Okay.
I've set the goal that I know,for instance, when I was giving,
before I got married, we werepreparing for the wedding I
wanted to lose.
I think it was 25 pounds beforethe wedding.
So that I could look good in mydress and you know, and the
pictures and whatever else.
I remember getting to the weekof the wedding and I was four
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pounds away from my goal andfreaking out and trying to
figure out how I could losethese four pounds.
The reality of the situation isthis.
Was that four pounds reallygonna make that much of a
difference?
Probably not, but I was so stuckin my mind.
And so hell bent on, I'm goingto lose this 25 pounds that I
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spent so much time chasing afterthe goal that I really didn't
enjoy the journey leading up toit.
I feel like a lot of times whenwe just set a goal, it's like,
you're chasing behind thisdangling carrot and you miss the
journey and the process becauseyou're so fixated on the end
result.
But when you set intentions and,and obviously you can use both
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of these together and are honestand you really should be using
both of them together becausethey go hand in hand.
Maybe I didn't get to the pointof losing the 25 pounds, but I
lost 21, and looking at physicalimprovements, like obviously I,
I looked better with 21 poundslighter than I did when I
started and appreciating thejourney.
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One thing that you can do.
Especially when you're workingwith goals like that, like
that's why a lot of times yousee folks taking weight, loss,
pictures, they do a before andafter, or they take pictures
along the way, because sometimesit's hard to see your progress
with a lot of things, not justweight loss every single day.
And if you're looking everysingle day and you're weighing
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yourself every single day, keepin mind a watched pot, never
boils.
There may not even be enough foryou to see every single day, but
just know that if you keepcontinuing and plotting and
moving forward, you will see.
Small wins when you go back andyou look at your photos and that
type of thing.
I think about intentions asbeing more of the planting, the
seed, and then watching the seedgrow as opposed to, you know,
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running behind chasing thisdangling carrot.
I hope that makes sense.
But you should be settingintentions and goals together.
Now, is it possible to have anintention without an end game or
a goal?
Yeah, I mean, just like we justtalked about, okay.
I want to.
Eat healthy.
There may not be an end gamewith that.
Can you set a goal without anend point?
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No cause what are you reallystriving toward?
That's tangible.
Just something to think about.
So now that we've talked aboutwhat our intentions, what our
goals, how they're similar, howthey're different, why you
should do both, let's talk abouthow to go about setting them.
The first thing you want to dois sit down and think about what
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it is that you really want getclear on it right down.
Jot down, whatever comes to yourmind, you can come back and make
a formal statement if you wouldlike to, but just think about
what it is that you want.
Now that you've figured out whatyou want.
The next thing you want to do iswhat steps do I need to take to
get there?
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Break it down.
Create a roadmap.
This can be as specific or asbroad as you would like it to
be.
I would think more specificwould be better, but it depends
on what it is that you'reworking toward as well.
So in doing this, keep thinkingabout what resources do you need
along the journey, and toachieve the goal at the end, do
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you need money?
Do you need tools?
What steps actually have to betaken?
So let's say your goal is to buya house.
Okay.
Well, you can put a picture ofyour house on your low vision
board, but what happens betweenyou saying, I want to buy a
house and you actually obtainingit.
There's a lot of things thatneed to happen in between,
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right?
Maybe you need to save money fora down payment.
Maybe if you're buying a housefor the first time, you want to
look at what kind of programsand resources are available,
maybe.
You need to check your credit.
You know, maybe you need to seehow much you're going to be
approved for.
Maybe you need to think aboutwhere you want to move.
What zip code do you want tomove in?
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What kind of house is it a rowhouse?
Is it a townhouse?
Is it a single family house?
Is it a condo?
So these are all things that youwant to think about with.
Basically make the declarationthat this is what I want, and
this is what I'm working toward.
What steps come in between thatyou need to take to get from
point a to point B also thinkingabout, is this a short-term goal
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or a long-term goal?
What short term to you maydiffer from what's longterm to
somebody else.
But again, somebody who maybe istrying to lose 20 pounds, that
could be short-term compared tosomebody who's trying to.
I don't know, a hundred pounds.
Do you need any additionaleducation or do you need to take
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classes?
Do you need to go back to schoolfor something?
Maybe your goal is to finishyour degree.
Okay.
Well, what do you need to do toget back enrolled in school?
You probably need some money forthat.
You probably need books, youprobably need to apply some
places.
Right?
So all of those things are stepsif you don't know what they are
already, take some time toresearch those.
Do you need additional help?
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So could that be.
Coaching or mentoring orsomething like that.
Maybe if you want to start abusiness, that's your goal?
Do you need a business coach?
Do you have friends that havetheir own businesses and maybe
you're going to spend some timewith them and pick their brain,
maybe ask them to be yourmentor.
These are all things that aregoing to go into your roadmap.
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Once you figure out what it isthat you want and how to get
from point a to point B, you'regoing to create your roadmap so
that you can move on to thenext.
We talked about short-termversus long-term.
Is there an ending point?
Okay.
So what do you need to doregularly as a part of the
process?
So here's where your habitstacking comes in.
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You are intentionally doingthings every day or every week
or every month or whatever it isthat you've set to be regularly
to help you get to your goal.
Things that help you to stay ontrack and that you're in
alignment with.
So for instance, if I know that.
I'm trying to say, I'm trying tosave money.
My intention this year was tosave money and the goal is to
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save, I don't know,$5,000 by theend of the year.
Okay.
You've divvied out how muchmoney you need to save every pay
or every month or however it is,you choose to work it out.
Okay.
So what are you doing every dayto make sure that that money is
being funneled into your savingsaccount?
Or you're not spending it onnecessarily.
Are you cutting out coffee andmaking coffee at home?
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Well, my intention is to savemoney by cutting out unnecessary
spending.
Then maybe the intention is thatI make my coffee at home every
day and that I eat at home more.
Sometimes they're just smallthings that we do each and every
day to help us along the way.
Once you figured out what youneed to do regularly as a part
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of the process.
So again, we're talking about,you know, maybe that's her meal
prep.
Maybe cutting out theunnecessary spending every day
and checking our bank accountjust to make sure, you know,
we're on top of our spending ormaybe if your goal is, to finish
your degree.
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I mean, are you going to yourclasses and doing your homeworks
and stuff like that?
You want to do things habituallyso that.
It becomes second nature so thatit becomes effortlessly and
that'll make the journey to theend goal.
More pleasurable for you.
Instead of me running, chasingbehind this dangling carrot,
trying to lose these 20 pounds.
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The next thing you want to do isto release.
I've set my goal.
I've declared.
This is what I'm going to do.
I figured out how I'm going todo it.
I've gotten my roadmap.
Now I'm going to release thatrequest into the universe.
As long as you stay on trackwith your habits, with your
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intentions, you will reach yourgoal.
If this is what you set out todo, and you've accurately
determined the steps that youneed to take release it, have
faith and believe that it isgoing to happen.
Don't doubt yourself.
Don't beat yourself up.
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If it takes longer than youanticipated, if you are actively
trying and doing and puttingenergy into it, there's no
reason why you can't achieve it.
I think a lot of times we sellourselves short because keep in
mind that a watched pot neverboils.
So we're so worried about, oh,I'm not doing this or I'm not
doing that.
You know, isn't going to happen.
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Is it coming?
Like for instance, I wasspeaking with somebody and they
were talking to.
Manifesting money.
And then they said, I hope Idon't have any resistance.
Well, damn you didn't just shotthe damn girl dead in the water.
Why would you declare thatyou're going to do something and
then turn around and say, oh, Ihope it works.
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I hope it happens.
That type of thinking that typeof mindset is not in alignment
with what it is that we'redoing.
Why even waste your time.
If you're not going to believein yourself and have faith that
you can achieve, whatever it isthat you want to achieve.
So just sometimes we have totake a step back and check
ourselves and think about ourmindset.
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One thing that drives me, batty,you ever hear people say that
phrase about their kids?
Oh, those are my broke low bestfriends.
Why would you put that on them?
Don't be calling them broke.
We talked about speaking thingsinto existence.
I think in episode number four,be very mindful of the language
that you use.
Don't be calling your kidsbroke, whether they're broken
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out, that's just not, we'll saythings like that.
Or, you know, you're trying tomanifest love and you want a man
to come in your life and thenyou turn around and say, men
ain't shit.
Well, I don't know.
Do you want the universe to sendyou an ancient man?
Cause the universe can decipherbetween the, I don't want or
not.
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They just heard ancient, man.
Do you mean.
Be mindful about the things thatwe are thinking, the things that
we are saying out loud, we makeour declarations in the present
as if they have alreadyhappened.
We don't hope we don't wish wewe achieve, we obtain, we attain
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shifting your mindset alone.
Trust me.
That will put you in.
The next thing we want to thinkabout is just simply staying in
the course.
So reinforcing regularly,staying on track with our habits
or intentions or things that aresmall things that we do each and
every day to help us stay ontrack, because it can become
frustrating when you feel likeyou're working hard at
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something, and you're not seeingprogress right away.
And sometimes that's just how itis.
You're not going to see progressright away, but don't feel
encouraged.
Don't feel discouraged.
Just stay the course.
So if you need an extra boost,if you need to give whatever it
is that you're working towardsthem energy, some things you can
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do set reminders to help youstay on track.
We've talked about that before.
It could be something as simpleas setting an alarm on your
phone.
Posting up what it is thatyou're working toward as a
reminder, that could be postingyour vision board on your wall,
in your room.
So you see it every time youwork up, that's a form of
visualization.
You can meditate, you canliterally sit and visualize
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yourself, if your goal is to buya new car, visualize yourself
driving down the road and thatsucker, you know, maybe do you
need an accountability partner?
So we've talked about, losingweight and going to the gym.
Do you have a gym buddy and youall text each other and hold
each other accountable aboutgoing to the gym on there?
Or if you're working with atrainer, same thing.
I remember working with thetrainer and she would text me
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and check in.
Did you do your workout today?
Did you do this?
Did you do that?
I'll be honest with you.
That drove me freaking batty.
So I probably wouldn't do thatno more, but that might work for
you.
I found it easier, to work withthe trainer in the gym and have
them on my behind, in thatregard because I paid my money.
So I'm not going to show up andlose it.
And I'm going to work throughthis hour workout or whatever it
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is, but that helped me to stay.
We talked about visualizationwith the vision board, but also
think about maybe it's ajournal.
So something I picked up fromMarshall's a couple of weeks
ago, I'm working on, getting myfinances in order.
And I found a money journal andit was kind of like a workbook
it had pages in it where you canwrite down, your daily spending
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your bills, your income for themonth, that type of thing.
You could put your goal.
Literally there was space forwriting goals in there.
So that's something that.
We talked about taking pictures.
So again, if there's somethingthat you're working on, you want
to, you can't see progress rightaway.
You can take picturesperiodically and look back at
your pictures and you'll see theprogress.
Maybe creating a chart.
So something that kind of fitsinto this whole small wins
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thing.
If anybody follows Dave Ramsey,one of the methods that he
teaches to pay down debt, I knowthat's often a goal for people
to be debt free to pay off debtis the snowball method.
Basically the way that it worksis you line up your debts based
on.
Either the lowest balance to thehighest or the highest interest
rate down to the lowest.
And then you throw all of yourmoney at the first one and
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tackle it.
And so if my smallest creditcard bills say the balance was
500 and originally dependent.
I don't know,$50 a month.
I keep paying back$50 a month,plus whatever extra money I have
toward it.
When that one's paid off, I takeall of the money that I was
paying on the first one.
And then I now attack the secondone.
And then you go down the listuntil you're done doing it.
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Like that allows you to seesmall wins instead of just
putting one big balance at thetop.
So I don't know, maybe you gotto pay$25,000 that looking at
that big 25 may seem daunting.
But when you break it down andyou think about, okay, well I
paid off my first one.
I checked that one off.
That's a small win.
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So now you move to the next one.
So that helps you to, get yourfeelings invested into the
journey instead of looking at,oh my God, I have to pay off
$25,000 of debt.
And that seeming,insurmountable.
And even if you want to do itthat way, maybe create a chart
or like, A bar and then you callher in, okay, well now I'm up to
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500.
So I'm calling up to 500 nextmonth.
I'm up to a thousand, I'mcovering up to a thousand and
then eventually you get all theway to the top of the bar is now
at a hundred percent, you'vepaid it for a hundred percent of
your debt.
Now you owe$0.
That's a visual aid type ofthing.
If you're a visual person, youmay find that.
Something else you may want tothink about, if you are a
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metaphysical practitioner, likeI am and you practice candle
magic or you work with mooncycles or any of those types of
things, you can sync yourintentions up with the moon
cycle.
So if you know me personally, orone of my friends, you know that
I will shoot messages out, Hey,it's a full moon.
Hey, it's a new moon.
Hey, it's 11, 11 portal.
That ain't folks know today's agood day to set intentions.
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When the moon is in a certainspace that allows additional
energy.
So if you know anything aboutmoon cycles within a month, the
moon is going to cycle from ablack or a new moon all the way
up to a full moon.
And then it'll come back downto.
The new moon.
It goes in a cycle every month,and then it, between the new
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moon and the full moon, you haveadditional cycles.
When the full moon is becomingsmaller and going back down to
the new moon, that's called thewaning cycle.
And when it's growing from thenew moon up to the full moon,
That's the waxing cycle.
So if you are trying to releasesomething, which we didn't
really talk about earlier inthis episode, keep in mind that
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an intention doesn't have to besomething that you are
attracting, and it could besomething that you're working on
removing as well.
Getting rid of debt would beremoving right?
Losing weight would be removing,but maybe trying to save up
money to purchase something orbuying a house or buying a car,
you're attracting something intoyour life.
So thinking about when you aresetting those intensive.
In a month, you have one fullmoon and you have one new moon.
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So maybe when I'm trying toattract something, you can say,
I'm trying to attract money forsomething.
Most likely, I'm going to starton a new moon and allow the
energy to build up as the moongrows.
And that energy goes toward myrequest and vice versa.
If I'm trying to removesomething, maybe I'll start a
full moon and the.
You know, continue with theprocess as the moon becomes
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smaller until it goes back downto that new moon.
You can definitely sync up yourintentions with astrological
events.
I know a couple Saturdays ago,we have the last full moon of
the year, and I know I sentfolks a message like, Hey, write
your stuff down.
Today's a good day.
So that's just something tothink about.
I talked about this in pastepisodes.
I'm a metaphysical practitioner.
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I don't, that's not really whatthis podcast is going to be
about.
I think I may start a Patrion orYouTube or something else to
discuss those kinds of things.
I just don't think this is theproper forum for that.
If you want to message me aboutthat, feel free to do so.
The last thing we want to doafter we've set our intentions
and our goals, and we've beenactively working toward them,
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being intentional with all ofthe things that we're doing each
and every day and plotting away,trying to get to our goal.
Don't forget to check in andreassess periodically.
May be, stepping on the scaleand seeing how much weight
you've lost using your measuringtape to measure around your
waist, checking your savingsaccount, to see how much money
is in there.
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If you're eating healthy formedical reasons, maybe
reassessing is checking in withyour doctor to see how you're
doing, but you do want to take astep in and reassess at some
point, depending on how longyou've given yourself to achieve
that goal, because maybe youneed to make an adjustment.
Maybe things are moving fasterthan you thought they would.
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That's great.
Maybe they're moving slower thanyou thought they would.
Maybe the plan that you have inplace needs to be tweaked.
You need to make some changes,but it don't feel like just
because you've committed to thisone thing.
Like I committed to losing the25 pounds and didn't make it by
my deadline.
Don't mean that doesn't meanthat you can't change it.
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You may decide that once you getinto the process of, you know,
working towards something thatthat's not really even what you
want.
It may be going back to thedrawing board and working on
something else.
Sometimes we have to dosomething to discover that is
really not what we want.
And sometimes, getting into theprocess of it will reinforce
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that this is what you want.
This is a good fit for you, butdon't be afraid to take a step
back and reassess, take a lookat your progress.
See what's working.
See what's not working.
See where you can make changesand improvements.
And also keep in mind that.
You can set intentions and goalsat any point in time.
I know first firstly, the yearit's often.
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A popular time to do so becausefolks are in this new year, new
me, new year's resolution typeof mood.
Another time people often setintentions is on their birthday
because your birthday comes in.
It's like, you're moving intothis next chapter.
I prefer to set my intentionsfor my birthday.
But I've done both.
It really just depends on, whatworks for you.
(26:43):
And sometimes it's a randomTuesday in may and you decide
you need a fresh start and wantto set an intention.
Do what works for you.
But I thought that it was timelyto have this discussion because
a lot of times we be rolled intothe new year with a fresh start
new year, new me, newintentions.
So hope that made sense for youall about the difference between
(27:05):
intentions and goals, why weshould be setting both in how
they work?
And how to do so.
Thank you all for listening.
I hope that you found someinformation in here that's
useful and you can use it as youset your intentions, if you're
exciting them between now andfirst of the year, this coming
(27:25):
weekend, or at any point intime, if you're listening to
this and you decide that youhave something that you want to
work towards achieving, you canset your intentions at any time.
You can set goals for yourselfat any time, you may find it
more helpful to use bothtogether because it'll help you
(27:46):
to stay on track and enjoy thejourney from the moment you set
the intention to the moment thatyou achieve the goal in the
final destination.
So before I go, I'm going toleave you all with the
affirmation as always.
I affirm I live my life withintention.
(28:06):
Thanks for listening.
Bye.
Bye
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