The Selfish Year: How Choosing Yourself After Divorce Can Transform Your Life with Valerie Jones on Divorce & Beyond #389

Susan Guthrie welcomes Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year, to share a radically different perspective on what it means to put yourself first after divorce. Valerie’s story of going from broke, divorced, stay-at-home mom to thriving six-figure entrepreneur began with one powerful decision: to be selfish. In this conversation, she redefines selfishness as being “full of self” and shows how embracing it can become the gateway to healing, clarity, and abundance.

As this episode highlights, “selfish” is a word most women have been conditioned to fear. Yet, as Valerie explains, choosing yourself isn’t only allowed: it’s essential. Her journey and strategies offer inspiration and practical steps for anyone navigating divorce or life transitions.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode

• Why selfish is not arrogance but becoming “full of self” instead of self-less
• How small, daily acts of selfishness create transformation
• The importance of saying no, setting boundaries, and breaking free from people-pleasing patterns
• Valerie’s “selfish strategies” that help you reconnect with your intuition, reclaim your power, and act as if you love yourself

More About Our Special Guest, Valerie Jones:   Valerie Jones is the author of The Selfish Year (remeased September 3, 2025), host of The Selfish Woman podcast, and founder of The Selfish Woman movement, a global collective of women rising into their power and claiming the life they deserve. A thought leader in midlife reinvention and the sacred rebellion of women daring to put themselves first, Valerie is redefining what it means to be selfish. Her work helps women ditch the good girl conditioning, stop performing for approval, and step unapologetically into desire, self-trust, and overflow. Through her bold storytelling, viral social media presence, and fast-growing global community, she is leading a new era for women who are ready to stop surviving and start shining — without apology.

Website and Book:

http://valeriejones.ca

The Selfish Year: https://a.co/d/i8ANT8W

Social Media: 

http://instagram.com/thevaleriejones

https://www.tiktok.com/@valeriejones11

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SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, has been nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country for more than 30 years.  Susan is the Immediate Past Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here: https://susaneguthrie.com

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