The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.
Episodes
#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands?
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We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control.
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#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.”
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In this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriving.
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#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention?
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We're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex.
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#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous?
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We're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong.
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#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes.
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#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again.
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We're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink!
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#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle?
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Turns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriting the rules of control, discipline, ...
#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way?
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In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that cracked open years of trauma.
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#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget?
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In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and...
#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think.
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We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to ...
#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub?
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It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI subs with no real surrender to AI Dom...
#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives?
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We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whether you're leading or letting go...
#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either.
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Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way that makes your submissive feel safe, ...
#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes!
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Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play, communication, and more. Hopefully,...
#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new.
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Alesandra and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological side of things like power play. Whether you're new to bondage or a seaso...
#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think!
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We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also explore role-based dynamics like DD/l...
#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques!
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Ever wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experiences! Explore contrasting sensations, the magic of slowing down, and creative tool...
#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone!
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We're revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic with confidence!
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#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship?
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In this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink, navigating D/s dynamics with kids, and why communication is key in a power exchange ...
#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology.
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We're unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve into why anticipation feels so good, the allure of taboo desires, and how...
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