The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast
Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle. Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey. Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences. Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more. Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.
Episodes
#159 How can “no” still be consensual? Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of BDSM’s most misunderstood practices. We’re breaking down what CNC really means, why people want it, how consent and safewords work, and what can happen after a scene. Is CNC really BDSM’s darkest kink? Listen now and decide for yourself.
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#158 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little too vanilla? These 4 kinky challenges for Doms and subs can help you shake up your routine, build anticipation, deepen your power exchange, and bring fresh energy back into your BDSM dynamic. And yes, we’ve personally tried every one! Listen now, then share which challenge you’re taking!
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#157 What should a Dom expect from their sub, and what should a sub expect from their Dom? In this guest episode, Luna from Submissive Guide breaks down healthy D/s expectations, BDSM rules and protocols, communication, and red flags to avoid. Whether you're a Dom or sub, learn how to build a stronger D/s dynamic without unrealistic expectations. Listen now!
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#156 What “weird” things does a 24/7 submissive actually do for their Dom? I’m sharing 5 things from my real-life D/s dynamic that even other people in the BDSM lifestyle think go too far. We’ll explore submission, power exchange, and what 24/7 Dom/sub really looks like beyond a scene. Listen now and ask yourself: Would I do any of these?
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#155 Can jealousy actually damage your D/s dynamic? Learn how we handle jealousy without letting it wreck trust, roles, or connection. We cover communication, boundaries, insecurity, compersion, and jealousy in polyamory, non-monogamy, and monogamous dynamics. Listen now to build a stronger, more secure Dom/sub relationship.
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#154 What if making a sub feel more submissive only took 10 seconds? In this episode, discover 8 surprisingly simple ways to deepen submission, strengthen your D/s dynamic, and bring more kinky power exchange into everyday life – without needing elaborate BDSM scenes or more intensity. Listen now and choose one to try today.
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#153 Think being a good Dom means being stricter or more in control? Think again. Discover 10 things great Doms do differently – from how they handle rules and punishment to the surprising way they build trust, obedience, and confidence in their sub. Steal these habits for your own D/s dynamic and listen now.
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#152 How far is too far with BDSM humiliation play? Explore degradation and humiliation kink, from setting boundaries and using safewords to aftercare, communication, and ideas for beginners and advanced players. Learn how to push limits while protecting trust in your Dom/sub dynamic. Listen now to discover how far you can safely take humiliation play.
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#151 What if your partner isn’t rejecting BDSM, they’re rejecting the pressure? Learn why nagging and hinting backfire, how to talk about kink without topping from the bottom, and how to get your partner more engaged in your D/s dynamic. Listen now to learn what actually works.
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#150 What if the reason your sub seems "bratty" has nothing to do with them? Learn five common training mistakes that can create resistance instead of trust. Discover how better communication, consistency, and leadership can build a more obedient, devoted submissive and a stronger D/s relationship. Watch now and tell us which mistake surprised you most.
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#149 How many times should you believe, 'I'll do better'? Whether you're the Dom struggling to stay consistent or the submissive wondering how much longer to wait, this episode is for you. Learn how to identify the real problem, improve communication, and decide whether your D/s dynamic is worth fighting for. Listen now before making a decision you'll regret.
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#148 You've been told these BDSM rules are non-negotiable. But are they? We're challenging 10 of the most common BDSM "rules", revealing which protect you, which are outdated, and which may be holding you back. Press play and challenge everything you thought you knew.
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#147 Free use sounds simple... until you actually try to build it. In this episode, We explain what free use and blanket consent really mean, how they work together, and the signs your relationship is ready for this level of trust. Listen now to find out if your relationship is truly ready for free use.
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#146 Has your D/s dynamic started feeling a little... vanilla? In this episode, we sharing simple BDSM habits that help you stay consistent, build trust, strengthen your Dom/sub relationship, and avoid the vanilla rut – even when life gets busy. Listen now and discover the small daily changes that can make a big difference.
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#145 What if the biggest mistake in BDSM isn't what you think? Five top BDSM educators reveal the most common mistakes in Dominance, submission, consent, communication, trust, and personal growth. Their answers all point to one surprising truth. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and subscribe for more.
– Justine Cross: https://www.thejustinecross.com
– Luna from Submissive Guide: https://shop.submissivegu...
#144 If your D/s dynamic only exists when life is easy, that might be why it keeps falling apart.
What do you do when stress, illness, family obligations, or major life changes push your Dom/sub role to the back burner? In this episode, I share the mindset shift that changed everything for me and how to identify the non-negotiables that keep a BDSM relationship strong during life's busiest seasons.
As you listen, ask yourself: What a...
#143 Most new Dominants make the same mistake: they water themselves down because they're afraid of becoming the stereotypical Dom everyone rolls their eyes at. In this episode, we're sharing how to step into authority without becoming controlling, arrogant, or mean – and why that fear may be holding your dynamic back. Listen now and discover what real dominance looks like.
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#142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, leather culture, Pride, consent, and radical self-ownership. Discover how BDSM helped build community, challenge shame, and create space for authentic self-expression. Listen now and see kink history in a whole new way.
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#141 Want a stronger D/s dynamic without adding complicated rules? Start here. I'm walking you through 5 beginner-friendly protocols straight from my own relationship — what worked, what flopped, and one protocol that sparked a wave of online controversy. Listen now and pick one idea to try this week.
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#140 “Am I supposed to just wait for direction… or take initiative?" If you’re new to a 24/7 D/s dynamic, this episode is for you.
We're sharing advice for submissives and Dominants on communication, structure, expectations, proactive service, and building a real-world power exchange relationship that actually works long term.
Listen now and see if you’ve been making this common D/s mistake.
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