October 9, 2025 • 51 mins
Confidence isn’t something you find on a shelf; it’s something you unblock. We open with a hard truth—no pill, no candy bar, no shortcut replaces congruent action—and then build a practical path out of self-doubt. You’ll learn why real confidence feels quiet and rooted, how posture and breath change brain chemistry, and why dopamine rewards integrity more than pep talks. We map the confidence crisis cycle—doubt, over-prep or procrastination, sabotage, compare-and-contract, lost self-trust, repeat—and show you how to interrupt it with small, aligned choices that rebuild trust fast.
From there, we prescribe five “doses” of confidence medicine. Inner congruence to stop auditioning and start aligning with your values. Nervous system safety to prevent freeze when the moment counts, using box breathing, grounding touch, and frequency tools to support coherence. Embodied rehearsal so your body learns the role before the room is watching—voice activation, mirror affirmations, and power posture reps. Visibility healing to rewrite the old story that being seen equals being judged, with bold-yet-gentle exposure practices. And identity integrity—asking how the most expressed version of you walks, speaks, and leads today, then acting from that stance.
We bust common myths with rewires you can keep: I can feel fear and still show up. My quiet is powerful. I’m practicing confidence daily. I validate my own voice. Along the way, we share personal stories of breaking the loop, choosing self-trust over external validation, and partnering to protect alignment—because the right room and the right person can multiply your courage. Ready to stop waiting for permission and start living from coherence? Listen now, then tell us: Which dose are you practicing first? If this resonates, follow, share with a friend who needs a lift, and leave a review to help more people find the show.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Yeah, there's there's there's no convenience
store, there's no seven elevenwhen you walk through, you know,
into there, into the store andall of a sudden you see on the
on the shelves confidence.
Uh oh, there's confidence,there's success, there's hot
body, there's yeah, you know,supreme spirituality, you know,
you just can't go there and andgrab a bottle, grab a pill, grab
a candy bar.
(00:20):
Everything that you want has tocome through you.
You have to create it.
You are the portal for anythingthat you want.
And in order for you to have it,you have to go within and pull
it without.
SPEAKER_03 (00:34):
Yeah, and a lot of the empowerment couple
apothecary of you know, freemedicine is us really saying,
like, okay, yes, there'sshortcuts, here's the shortcuts,
but all of them require youtaking an action.
SPEAKER_04 (00:50):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (00:50):
None of them are like, you know, here's your
prescription, and you know,you're gonna have a shit ton of
side effects.
Because like that's that's whatwe're talking about is like this
is the culture that we live in,unfortunately, where you are
being advertised, you know, likejock itch cream, but you know,
(01:12):
you can't, you know, get anerection for the rest of your
life.
Like, you're not gonna be itchy,but no more erections.
Welcome to the EmpowermentCouple Podcast for the lovers,
leaders, and legacy buildersready to rise.
We're Zuri and Michael Starr,your favorite empowerment
coaches, partners in life, love,and leveling up.
SPEAKER_00 (01:35):
This show is your sanctuary for soul aligned
success in a world drowning inburnout, broke mindsets, and
relationship drama.
SPEAKER_03 (01:42):
Each week, we'll bring you real talk, radical
tools, and sacred strategiesacross our four transformational
pillars wellness mastery, wealthexpansion, sacred relationships,
and embodied leadership.
SPEAKER_00 (01:55):
We'll guide you to lead from your soul's desire and
create meaningful impact withoutsacrificing your wellness.
Plus, this season we're bringingon powerful guests, playing
laugh out loud games, andsharing unfiltered stories that
will challenge your beliefs andamplify your energy.
SPEAKER_03 (02:13):
So if you're ready to regulate your nervous system,
elevate your relationships, andrewire your life for magnetic
love, wealth, and purpose, hitfollow and join our empowered
posse.
It's time to rise into your mostbeautiful life.
SPEAKER_00 (02:26):
Your most beautiful let's do it together.
One, two, three.
Your most beautiful life.
Do I look unready?
(02:47):
You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02 (02:48):
Do you want me to do it?
SPEAKER_00 (02:49):
Do I look unready?
Okay.
You hear the confidence in myvoice?
When I say, I am ready.
SPEAKER_03 (03:02):
That's nice.
I like that.
SPEAKER_00 (03:04):
A little bit of confidence medicine.
I am ready.
Let us get this done.
SPEAKER_02 (03:11):
Let us get us, dude.
SPEAKER_00 (03:12):
Let us get this done.
SPEAKER_02 (03:15):
You're like a Power Ranger or something?
SPEAKER_00 (03:18):
Oh yeah.
That's my alter ego.
Power Puppy.
SPEAKER_02 (03:23):
Power Puppy.
SPEAKER_03 (03:25):
Gross.
SPEAKER_00 (03:27):
It's just like regular puppy.
Hey, what's up?
But on power.
SPEAKER_03 (03:32):
What if confidence isn't something that you build,
but something you unblock?
SPEAKER_00 (03:40):
Ooh, unblocking.
SPEAKER_03 (03:41):
Yeah, I'm always talking about building
confidence.
And also like always saying likepractice builds confidence,
right?
That's like not my phrase, butit's something that I use in in
my coaching a lot to get peopleto, you know, move forward.
Um but there are blocks, and I'mnoticing that some of these
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blocks need a little medicinethat they little tending to.
SPEAKER_00 (04:09):
Just just a little nudge here and there.
And I I have I've realized thatreal confidence isn't loud.
You know, I kind of changed myvoice to kind of mess with it.
It's rooted, right?
So when I feel confident, when Ifeel grounded, I'm I'm more
confident.
It's when your inner voice getslouder than the world's
opinions.
SPEAKER_03 (04:29):
Yes.
Right?
SPEAKER_00 (04:30):
It's just it's you you hear the voice come through.
SPEAKER_03 (04:34):
It's it's it doesn't have to be power poppy.
SPEAKER_00 (04:36):
No, it doesn't have to be power posse, pop power
poppy.
But in my in my mind, it comesthrough as clear and and as as
profound as power poppy voice.
You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02 (04:49):
You're gonna try to make that a thing, aren't you?
SPEAKER_00 (04:52):
Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (04:54):
Well, welcome back, Empowered Posse, to another
juicy and potent episode of theEmpowerment Couple Podcast.
Today we are prescribingsomething we all need at some
point in our journey.
Confidence medicine.
SPEAKER_00 (05:09):
You got that confidence medicine?
Oh, I need it.
I need a little just a littletouch of that confidence
medicine.
SPEAKER_03 (05:14):
Just a taste.
Whether you're launchingsomething new, reclaiming your
voice, stepping into leadership,or simply trying to stop
second-guessing yourself everytime you make a decision.
Uh this episode should give yousome clarity.
It's gonna give you that nicedose of delicious clarity,
courage, and conviction you'vebeen missing.
SPEAKER_00 (05:37):
Let me let me get that clarity hit.
SPEAKER_03 (05:39):
And let's just uh say why this matters.
Confidence is not arrogance.
It's often confused asarrogance.
And it's not perfection.
SPEAKER_00 (05:50):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (05:52):
It's the felt sense that you are safe to be
yourself.
SPEAKER_00 (05:56):
And that is I don't know why that is so difficult to
attain.
SPEAKER_03 (06:00):
But because we're all hiding, you know, and
there's shame and there's like,you know, cultural like
expectations and familydynamics.
Like it it starts very young,you know?
Go ahead.
SPEAKER_00 (06:13):
Yeah, and and when you feel that safety, you lead,
you love, you create withoutapology, right?
Confidence is the permissionslip to live your purpose out
loud.
SPEAKER_03 (06:26):
Yeah.
Like, why are you here?
You get to just be you.
SPEAKER_00 (06:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (06:29):
Do you, boo.
unknown (06:30):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (06:30):
Um, and most people aren't lacking talent, they're
lacking belief.
SPEAKER_00 (06:36):
That is so true.
That is so so true.
And belief is free.
SPEAKER_03 (06:40):
Belief is free, and like it's not the most talented
that are the most successful.
We've seen that plenty of times.
It's the people who, you know,have just enough Dululu to be
like, let's go and do it anyway.
SPEAKER_00 (06:55):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (06:55):
And, you know, those people, like, if they aren't
like they don't might not havethe talent muscle, but they have
the let's fucking go muscle.
You know, let's just do itanyway.
SPEAKER_00 (07:07):
Yeah, there's there's definitely science and
psychology behind this.
SPEAKER_03 (07:12):
Yes.
And so let's talk about that.
Amy Cuddy um is a Harvardresearcher, and she has this
great TED talk, if you haven'tseen it, about this
specifically.
She talks about how bodylanguage shapes how we see
ourselves.
And she calls it power posture.
Um, but it's like a superwomanstance or superman stance.
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And just two minutes of thispower posture can increase
testosterone and reducecortisol.
And so if you've worked with mein group coaching or in private
sessions, you know, I'm alwayslike, okay, get into your
superwoman stance.
It's part of a lot of my guidedmeditations.
Like it's something that I'veused because I've found that my
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clients that are, you know,public speakers that do like,
you know, keynotes, like, hey,you better get into that
superwoman stance.
And it works.
It it just instantly works.
There's other tricks too, butthis one specifically I love.
And um definitely watch that TEDtalk if you have time.
SPEAKER_00 (08:15):
Oh, yeah, most certainly.
I mean, there's there's so muchbrain chemistry involved in
regards to confidence, right?
Like, for instance, dopamine isreleased when you act in
alignment with your values, evenwhen it's scary, right?
If you're going up againstsomething, it's scary.
If you're in alignment, thatdopamine is released, right?
Uh, the prefrontal cortexstrengthens each time you take
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aligned risks, right?
So alignment is everythingduring the um the confidence
building game.
It states in the Journal ofBehavioral Neuroscience that
confidence is less aboutpositive self-talk and more
about congruent action, right?
The match between your innertruth and your outer expression.
SPEAKER_03 (08:59):
Yes, because confidence isn't I'm the best,
it's I'm aligned.
SPEAKER_00 (09:03):
I'm aligned, exactly.
Every bold move rewires youridentity.
SPEAKER_03 (09:07):
Ooh, right?
SPEAKER_00 (09:08):
So just keep those bold moves in an alignment, and
all of a sudden you'reconfident.
SPEAKER_03 (09:14):
Yeah, and then your identity shifts because your
reality starts aligning withthat.
SPEAKER_00 (09:20):
Yeah.
And the key is, of course, tonote when you're out of balance.
SPEAKER_03 (09:24):
Right.
Yeah.
So let's talk about theconfidence crisis cycle.
And it's basically like thispattern that you have created.
All of us are guilty of this.
And when I start naming it,you'll kind of notice where you
land in this cycle and how quickyou can change this pattern is
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reliant on how long you've beenin this pattern.
SPEAKER_04 (09:52):
Correct.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (09:52):
So, like the more times, for example, you break a
promise to yourself, the harderit is to rewire trust in your,
you know, for for whatever thething is.
So let's go through it here.
So it usually starts with afeeling of doubt or imposter
syndrome.
SPEAKER_00 (10:13):
I have felt that before.
SPEAKER_03 (10:15):
And then it moves to you will either over-pre
prepare, like over-preparation,you know, preparation to the
end's degree, or procrastinateand do nothing.
SPEAKER_00 (10:26):
I know which one I fall under.
SPEAKER_03 (10:29):
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00 (10:29):
We won't get that.
SPEAKER_03 (10:30):
And then then it it likely moves to self-sabotage or
shrinking.
SPEAKER_00 (10:37):
Both of them are uncomfortable.
SPEAKER_03 (10:39):
Mm-hmm.
So recap real quick.
You're gonna feel doubt orimposter syndrome, you're gonna
over-prepare or procrastinate,then you're gonna self-sabotage
or shrink.
The next you're going to compareand contract.
And so usually, you know, you'vedecided like, oh, okay, like
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this is this, you know, I'm inthis phase, then now I'm going
to like look at all these otherpeople who are not as talented
as me and compare.
Yeah, exactly.
And then you're, you know, gonnacontract.
Then the the next step is thatyou're gonna lose trust in
yourself.
SPEAKER_04 (11:18):
Naturally, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (11:19):
Right.
Because you've now now you're sodeep into that pattern and that
cycle, you know, of basicallynot really doing anything.
So you're kind of circling thedrain, is what I like to to
reference it.
And then you're gonna repeat.
SPEAKER_00 (11:35):
Yikes.
SPEAKER_03 (11:36):
And so you have to realize that confidence will
erode when we abandon ourselvesin moments of truth.
SPEAKER_00 (11:45):
I agree.
SPEAKER_03 (11:46):
And in moments of desire.
So you have if you really wantsomething and you're like, okay,
here's my goal, and then you gothrough the confidence crisis
cycle where ultimately you'rebetraying yourself at the end.
You're gonna be in this cyclerepeatedly, and it's just a
groove in, you know, or wiringin our mind, or just like a
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groove that you've you've builtfrom, you know, sitting in your
chair for too long.
It's like it's it can be undone.
SPEAKER_00 (12:15):
Yeah, it's amazing how powerful our minds are that
we can actually create our ownproblems and have them manifest
in the world as bona fideproblems.
SPEAKER_03 (12:26):
Yeah, and we do this because it keeps us feeling safe
and in our comfort zone.
SPEAKER_00 (12:32):
And even if our comfort zone is really
comfortable comfortable, right?
Even if our comfort zone iscomplaining.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (12:40):
Exactly.
And so let's talk next about thefive doses of confidence
medicine.
So we can start rewiring thisand unblocking this and freeing
you up.
SPEAKER_00 (12:51):
I'm gonna be your happiness pusher right here.
Here we go.
Dose number one, innercongruence, right?
Your confidence rises when youractions match your values.
So stop additioning and startaligning, right?
You're not trying to makesomething happen.
You're in alignment with thathappening.
SPEAKER_03 (13:09):
Yeah, I love that inner good inner congruence.
SPEAKER_00 (13:12):
So here's a practice.
You can you can say no when yourbody says no.
Yes.
Right?
When your body feels that's ano, say no.
Uh and say yes when your bodylights up.
If your body says yes, it is ayes.
SPEAKER_03 (13:26):
Yeah, for me, the the all-body yes is like, I say
yes.
But there is times where I amasked to do something or offered
something, and I'm like, uh, Idon't know.
And that's usually a no.
Like if you don't know, it'susually a no.
SPEAKER_00 (13:42):
Yeah, it's it's three categories.
It's hell no, no, and hell yes.
Right?
SPEAKER_03 (13:48):
Totally, totally.
And the hell yes feels like allover your body.
You're just like, yes, like it'sso palpable.
SPEAKER_00 (13:56):
Yeah, your highest self isn't waiting for you to be
fearless, just honest.
SPEAKER_03 (14:01):
Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_00 (14:02):
Be honest with yourself, see where you are, and
just go for it.
SPEAKER_03 (14:05):
Yeah, just truthful to yourself, in your that inner
congruence.
SPEAKER_00 (14:09):
You can do something with fear, right?
Just be honest with yourself,exactly.
SPEAKER_03 (14:13):
You you likely will do it with fear.
Like the fear doesn't go away.
SPEAKER_00 (14:19):
If if you're trying to get out of your comfort zone,
you're gonna be swimming infear.
SPEAKER_03 (14:24):
Yeah, and I I feel like knowing that allows you to
kind of embrace the fear partbecause the big things are gonna
feel scary.
unknown (14:34):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (14:35):
And that's how you know you're going in the right
direction because it's like,ooh, I'm fucking alive.
SPEAKER_00 (14:42):
It's like, oh yeah, this is this fear thing, ain't
bad.
I'm in the game, you know?
SPEAKER_03 (14:46):
Like, all right, so let's talk about the next dose
of confidence medicine.
Number two is nervous systemsafety.
SPEAKER_04 (14:54):
Yes.
SPEAKER_03 (14:55):
So if you've ever frozen in a moment when you
wanted to shine, it wasn'treally a mindset issue, most
likely.
It was a regulation issue.
Yeah.
Confidence isn't hype, it's aregulated nervous system.
And one tool that I want to justpause and talk about because we
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personally use it to supportthis, is the Healy.
It's a frequency device, littlebuilt, little like wearable
device that scans yourbioenergetic field and delivers
microcurrent frequenciesdesigned to help balance stress,
boost vitality, and enhanceemotional regulation.
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All of which are foundational toauthentic confidence.
SPEAKER_04 (15:41):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (15:41):
Because you need balance.
And a lot of times we aren'tpracticing balance.
And a lot of times there isn't,I would say, in Western society,
it's not popular to have like adevice that helps you find
balance, you know.
Like they're not promoting inthe commercial breaks singing
bowls or you know, frequencydevices or like water charging,
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you know what I mean?
SPEAKER_00 (16:08):
It just so happens though that the people who are
really balanced and really happyand really successful or have
incorporated one or more ofthose techniques.
SPEAKER_03 (16:15):
Totally.
SPEAKER_00 (16:16):
And regarding the Healy, you know, I've been using
it for long enough to know thatit's it's like a mirror for your
energy, right?
The more you understand your ownfrequency, the more clarity you
gain about your moods, your ownblockages, and your strengths,
right?
Because confidence starts withknowing yourself on every level,
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including energetically.
SPEAKER_03 (16:39):
Yeah.
And so if you're listening tothis during the month of
October, it's a great time totake advantage of their sale.
They have like a 65% off bundledsale of the Healy Pro, which is
a microcurrent frequency device.
Um, it also scans yourbioenergetic field.
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And then there's the Mag HealyPro, which uses magnetic
therapies, um, and the coil,which is more scalar, but like
you have access to get 65% offusing the link in our show
notes.
Um and it there's a frequency ofconfidence, you know.
So like it'd be silly for us notto share that there are
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shortcuts, you know, there'sways that people are accessing
this frequency with tools likethe Healy.
SPEAKER_00 (17:30):
And I'd go so far as to say that, you know, the whole
65% off of the Healy is onething, but in in owning the
Healy, I would say it's morethan 65% off of a hospital
visit.
SPEAKER_03 (17:42):
Just one hospital visit.
Like all well, I would just evensay like acupuncture.
Like there's so many times thatI'm like using the mag Healy for
like my acupuncture, you know,finding which where I need, you
know, where I have blockages andmy meridians and like where I'm
holding, you know, angst about acertain thing.
So it's really fascinating.
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Um, and let's just talk aboutfrequency because confidence has
a frequency.
You know, there's people like,have you ever met that person
who you know who walks into aroom and lights it up?
Yeah, me.
That's energetic congruence.
I would say so, yes.
It's resonance, it's that'scoherence.
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When your body, thoughts, andemotions are in harmony, you
broadcast confidenceeffortlessly with your energetic
frequency.
You know what I would it's likeyour signature, right?
SPEAKER_00 (18:37):
I would go so far as to say that my my my frequency
when you and I met, the day thatyou and I met, they were they
were congruent.
Our frequencies matched.
That is why you and I hit it offin the very beginning.
SPEAKER_03 (18:51):
You turn it, you turn it, he's giving me like
geyser beam eyes.
SPEAKER_00 (18:54):
The gazer beam eyes and and and now that congruence
in my body was made, you know,natural by just straight up
love, right?
I saw you.
There was a it it it it set upall these these triggers in my
body.
However, that's not alwaysaccessible, right?
You can't always have you knowthat level of can't always make
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the love of your life.
Yeah, like you can't have thatthat cute meat over and over and
over again, right?
SPEAKER_02 (19:19):
Meat cute, not cute meat, but that's why we use
heels.
Wait, back up meat cute, notcute meat, cute, meet, meat,
cute, whatever it is.
It's not cute meat, it's meatcute.
SPEAKER_00 (19:31):
Well, I don't want to meet cute, I want a cute
meat, you know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02 (19:37):
No, regardless, we're talking about the point
I'm trying to make romanticcomedy.
SPEAKER_00 (19:43):
The point I'm trying to make is that you don't always
have the ability to have thatlevel of of inspiration.
Sometimes sometimes you have tocreate it on your own, and that
is why we use tools like theHealy, because it helps us
become aware of what's out ofsync.
Yep, it's not woo, it isphysics.
Yes, right.
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Your cells communicate throughvibration, right?
You and I, our cells werecommunicating through that
vibration.
SPEAKER_04 (20:09):
Yep.
SPEAKER_00 (20:10):
And confidence is what happens when your vibration
says, I belong here.
SPEAKER_03 (20:15):
Or I belong to you.
So when we you and I weresitting at that table, which is
the song that I was playing whenI met you.
SPEAKER_00 (20:20):
Oh, really?
Was it?
SPEAKER_03 (20:21):
Remember?
You know this.
Yeah, I belong to you.
SPEAKER_00 (20:24):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Little Linux Rabbit's.
Yeah.
I'm telling you, it it allworked out in my favor.
SPEAKER_02 (20:30):
Well, I know that.
You're welcome.
SPEAKER_00 (20:35):
So let's talk about a practice for this dose, right?
When it comes to nervous systemsafety, before speaking,
launching, or leading, try boxbreathing or ground or a
grounding touch ritual.
Those are free.
You don't actually have to havea um a Healy frequency.
Yeah, however, it creates yourown frequency within your body.
SPEAKER_03 (20:56):
Right.
And confidence is a side effectof alignment.
SPEAKER_00 (21:00):
Yes.
SPEAKER_03 (21:01):
I like to have a side effect of confidence for
for medicine, right?
Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (21:07):
Yeah.
You don't want the other one.
SPEAKER_03 (21:09):
No, I don't want any other side effects.
SPEAKER_00 (21:11):
Let me take this pill and be meek.
No, thank you.
SPEAKER_03 (21:15):
Let me numb everything.
Exactly.
SPEAKER_00 (21:18):
Speaking of pills, let's talk about dose number
three, which is embodiedrehearsal.
SPEAKER_03 (21:23):
Ooh, love it.
SPEAKER_00 (21:24):
Confidence grows when you practice being you
before the moment counts, right?
Kind of going back to thesuperhero or superwoman stance,
right?
You're you were preparingyourself.
Um, so the practice to continueit would be to use voice
activation, mirror affirmations,or power posture exercises, like
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we just talked about.
SPEAKER_03 (21:45):
Yep.
So you could if you rehearseyour power in private, it will
then flow in public.
SPEAKER_00 (21:52):
I love that.
Yeah, that practice makesperfect.
SPEAKER_03 (22:01):
So and and practice it.
Like that's that's the rehearsalpart of this.
SPEAKER_00 (22:05):
And confidence doesn't mean you have all the
answers, it means you're willingto go anyway.
SPEAKER_04 (22:12):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (22:12):
Right.
Let me figure it all along theway.
I don't have to have all theanswers.
I don't have to be perfect.
I just have to show up and stayin alignment, and I'm golden.
SPEAKER_03 (22:20):
Mm-hmm.
And it's good to do these mirroraffirmations that you're talking
about.
That's a good practice also.
That would be a great umconfidence dose for confidence
medicine, is you know, if youcan practice in a mirror, you
embodying whatever the thingthat you want to do.
Let's say you're, you know, wantto be a keynote speaker.
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You, if you are standing infront of the mirror and
rehearsing your speech that way,then you are embodying the
confidence that it's it's goingto require to be in front of
people.
SPEAKER_04 (22:58):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (22:59):
And you can also just do straight up mirror
affirmations.
Like you you were talking aboutthat as a practice.
What's one mirror affirmationyou like?
SPEAKER_00 (23:08):
Well, I mean, any affirmation works with the
mirror affirmation.
I like I I'm I am in peace orI'm at peace.
And I I'll say that long enoughfor my face to have a peaceful
resonance about it, right?
My my muscles will will contortor move in a manner that shows
that I'm no longer stressed ortired or irritated or angry,
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that I'm actually at peace.
And then I see that in themirror, I feel that I'm saying
that all of a sudden realizing,oh, I'm at peace.
SPEAKER_03 (23:39):
And you feel it.
Then it then it like, yeah, youstart embodying it and then it
creates resonance and congruenceand all the things we're talking
about.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (23:47):
But you could do that.
You I am I am you could do thatwith any I am powerful, I'm
sexy, whatever you want to do.
It works.
SPEAKER_03 (23:53):
I'm too sexy, too sexy for my shirt, stuff like
that.
SPEAKER_00 (23:56):
Yeah, oh yeah, totally.
And then all of a sudden theshirt just dissolves.
That's that's how powerful yourmind is.
SPEAKER_02 (24:02):
Oh no.
Of course.
So you're gonna take it to thecorny corny land.
SPEAKER_01 (24:07):
I think we have some more doses left.
SPEAKER_03 (24:09):
Yeah, let's go for dose number four for confidence
medicine.
So this one is about visibility,and we're gonna call this
visibility healing.
Your inner child might stillthink being seen equals being
judged.
Depending on what you've beenthrough, most of us have had an
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experience.
Most, I didn't say all of us,but most of us have had an
experience where somethinghappened when we were um
expressing ourselves and it gotshut down in some way, ignored,
rejected, you know, fill in theblank.
But most of us have had thatexperience at some point in our
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life, especially in these earlyformative years.
But let's rewire that becauseit's time.
It's time to rewire that.
Because confidence is themedicine that tells your inner
child it's safe to be seen now.
So, for example, if doing anyone of these things terrifies
you, then I invite you tochallenge yourself to embody the
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confidence and rehearse theconfidence by doing one of these
things.
So the practice would be go liveon Instagram or Facebook or
TikTok, whatever platform youlike.
Um, or post the real, you know,post the um whatever photo
shoot, you know, rate fuckinghighlight carousel, like
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whatever.
Wear the outfit that you're justlike, oh, that's so audacious or
bold.
SPEAKER_00 (25:46):
Ask ask for that that raise.
SPEAKER_03 (25:48):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (25:49):
Right, take that college course.
SPEAKER_03 (25:51):
Yeah, like be the one who goes first, too.
You don't have to copy whatanyone else is doing.
It doesn't have to be like bestpractices, like you can
trailblaze.
SPEAKER_00 (26:02):
That gave me goosebumps.
SPEAKER_03 (26:03):
You can trailblaze right now.
SPEAKER_00 (26:04):
What was that you just said?
That gave me goosebumps.
SPEAKER_03 (26:06):
Was it be the one be the one who goes first?
SPEAKER_00 (26:09):
That's my next tattoo right there.
Be bold, right?
Luck, luck favors the the bold.
SPEAKER_03 (26:15):
Yeah, and I gotta tell you, um, there's a lot of
content coming up in this seasonwhere we're talking about risks.
And I want you to risk, youknow, I want you to take the
risk.
I want you to to act boldly.
And it's one of my biggestchallenges to my private
coaching clients and groupcoaching is like, you know, you
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you want to take those big risksbecause that's where the dra
drastic, like, you know,monumental changes happen.
SPEAKER_00 (26:44):
That's when your wings unfurl.
SPEAKER_03 (26:46):
Yes.
And your your power unfurl, yourpower multiplies every time you
stop shrinking to fit the room.
SPEAKER_00 (26:55):
Well said.
SPEAKER_03 (26:56):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (26:56):
I love that.
SPEAKER_03 (26:57):
And if you think about like, you know, swimming
in, you know, a big fish versussmall fish, right?
So you have a big fish and youknow, it's swimming in maybe a
sm a small pond, right?
You're not gonna build the samemuscles as you would if you were
a big fish swimming in a bigpond, correct, right?
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And the opportunity for a bigpond is very different than the
small pond.
And so whether you are in asituation where you're playing
small or you're playing big,like you have the opportunity to
become a bigger version ofyourself depending on the people
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that you are around.
SPEAKER_00 (27:42):
That is correct.
SPEAKER_03 (27:43):
So it's all about proximity and who you are
putting yourself around andalways look to be at the places
and with the people who you knowwant to be visible.
If visibility is one of yourthings that you're like, oh, I'm
afraid to be seen, I'm afraid tobe found out, you know, you're
wearing masks and stuff likethat.
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Get into around the people wholike, you know, are so fine
being seen.
Like they have the oppositeexpression that you do because
you will see it'll free you upand you will see what's
possible.
But if you're constantly puttingyourself in these smaller
arenas, you're probably notgoing to change as fast.
SPEAKER_00 (28:28):
I agree.
SPEAKER_03 (28:29):
And the confidence can be learned much faster if
you are in those bigger playingpools where people are like, you
gotta fucking be big.
You can't just be like, youknow, extraordinary in your in
your house.
You gotta be extraordinary inthe big scene.
SPEAKER_00 (28:48):
Yeah, the old saying, if you want to be a
better player, play with betterplayers.
SPEAKER_03 (28:51):
Yeah, for sure.
SPEAKER_00 (28:52):
That's it.
SPEAKER_03 (28:53):
For sure.
So next dose.
SPEAKER_00 (28:56):
Next dose is identity integrity.
Now, the version of you who hasit, ask yourself how do they
walk, how do they talk, how dothey breathe, how do they lead,
right?
So confidence is remembering whoyou really are and walking that
truth daily.
Yes, right.
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So you are always every versionof yourself, right?
And you are currently decidingto be one version of yourself,
wanting to be another version ofyourself, and it's quite easy to
do so, just allow yourself to bethat version.
SPEAKER_04 (29:29):
Yep.
SPEAKER_00 (29:29):
And then that version will construct
everything necessary in orderfor you to live out the full
manifestation of those.
SPEAKER_03 (29:38):
Yes, exactly.
Because a lot of us are playingwith an identity that should
have been retired like fiveyears ago, you know, because we
aren't challenging ourselves toidentify differently, you know,
with an expanded version ofourselves.
SPEAKER_00 (29:53):
So and a really powerful practice that I like to
do is you ask yourself, whatwould the most expensive
Expressed version of me do rightnow.
When I say the most expressed,I'm talking about your highest
timeline.
And this is where the mirroraffirmations really come in, or
mirror meditations, is you canstart asking yourself, and the
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person who answers it is theperson you're wanting to be,
right?
Which is also a version of you.
The version of you you arebecoming, like I said, already
exists.
So you want to walk like her,you want to speak like her, you
want to um or him or him walklike him, whatever it is.
Yeah, exactly.
You become that person that becthat person creates your reality
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for you.
SPEAKER_03 (30:38):
Right, exactly.
So let's play a little game,just a little myth buster here.
SPEAKER_00 (30:44):
Oh, I love busting the myths.
SPEAKER_03 (30:46):
I'm gonna read a myth, and I'm going to invite
you to create a reality withthat myth, because you know,
myths need to be busted.
So you're gonna bust the mythand then we will offer rewire
together.
SPEAKER_00 (31:02):
Do I get a cool noise?
SPEAKER_03 (31:04):
Um, yes.
So I if you think that you wannahave a I mean, I don't know, you
want a cool noise?
What do you want?
Well, you know, you for what?
SPEAKER_00 (31:14):
For when I bust a myth.
You don't want me to.
SPEAKER_03 (31:17):
I'm going to give you myths, so yeah, you you just
want to say that it's a myth?
SPEAKER_00 (31:21):
Oh, no, I want an actual noise.
And then no, that's a myth.
SPEAKER_03 (31:27):
I'm not gonna give you not myths.
So you're just you just want tomake a noise.
SPEAKER_00 (31:32):
I just want to make a noise.
SPEAKER_03 (31:33):
Okay.
You can make a noise, yes.
SPEAKER_00 (31:36):
Thanks.
Okay, let's go for it.
SPEAKER_03 (31:37):
Here's a myth.
Confidence means being fearless.
SPEAKER_00 (31:44):
Is that a good noise?
The reality is that confidencemeans taking actions with fear.
If you can do anything withfear, you can do anything.
SPEAKER_03 (31:54):
If you can do anything with fear, you can do
anything.
SPEAKER_00 (31:56):
Correct.
If you can do anything withfear, if you can do not listen,
if you can do anything with fearin your body, that means you can
do anything.
SPEAKER_03 (32:06):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (32:06):
Got it.
SPEAKER_03 (32:07):
And the things that you want to do, likely that are
big, are going to have acomponent of fear.
SPEAKER_00 (32:14):
Correct.
That is cool.
SPEAKER_03 (32:15):
So let's give you a good rewire.
Okay.
You want me to take this one?
SPEAKER_00 (32:19):
Go for it.
SPEAKER_03 (32:19):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (32:20):
Rewire me, please.
SPEAKER_03 (32:21):
I can feel fear and still show up.
SPEAKER_00 (32:26):
That I would say over and over and over again.
In front of my mirror as amirror affirmation.
It's nice and simple.
It's powerful.
SPEAKER_03 (32:33):
Yep.
Okay, cool.
Next, next myth.
You ready for this?
SPEAKER_00 (32:37):
I got my noise.
SPEAKER_03 (32:39):
Got your point.
Okay.
Confident people are alwaysloud.
SPEAKER_00 (32:46):
That is wrong.
The the the that's a myth.
The bust of that myth is thatconfidence is energy.
It's not volume.
SPEAKER_02 (32:56):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (32:57):
It's energy.
SPEAKER_03 (32:57):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (32:58):
Right.
So you can get really loud andstill be wrong.
SPEAKER_03 (33:01):
Although I notice when I get really like um
energetic like energeticallyexcited, I get loud, but doesn't
necessarily mean I'm confidentabout that.
I just get like, you know,playful, boisterous, loud, you
know.
But but you're right.
There when I'm really confidentabout something, and especially
when I get like a download orlike, you know, um something
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channels through me, I it's veryquiet.
It's very like grounded androoted.
It's not loud and obnoxious.
It's like, you know, I do loudand obnoxious all fine on my
own.
SPEAKER_04 (33:37):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (33:39):
But it's not necessarily when I'm really
confident.
SPEAKER_00 (33:41):
Yeah, you usually you get louder you, the louder
you get, the more uh you'retrying to cover up the fact that
you're not very confident.
SPEAKER_03 (33:49):
Yes, yes, exactly.
That's where why people arelike, oh, he's you know, they'll
they'll talk about somebody andthey'll say something like, oh,
he's so loud and arrogant.
And it's like, yes, that that islikely arrogance.
It's not necessarily confidence.
It's you know, trying to coverup something.
But let's rewire it.
So rewiring it would be my quietis powerful.
SPEAKER_00 (34:14):
Oh, I love that.
SPEAKER_03 (34:17):
And I will just share if you are in a
conversation with someone andthey start getting loud with
you, they're not very confident.
Yes, they are are trying toassert dominance and um having
calm, quiet energy is verypowerful.
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And so just remember that.
SPEAKER_00 (34:41):
I also wouldn't I wouldn't pick a fight with
someone who is calm.
SPEAKER_01 (34:45):
You know what I mean?
Because they probably knowsomething that I don't.
Like, no, no, thanks.
Let me let me listen to whatthis guy has to say.
SPEAKER_03 (34:54):
Okay, here's another myth about confidence.
Ready?
You're either born with it ornot.
SPEAKER_00 (35:02):
That is a myth.
And here's my bust confidence isa skill, not a trait.
You can create confidence.
SPEAKER_04 (35:10):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (35:10):
Some people are naturally born with confidence,
and that's great, but everyone,anyone, can create their own
confidence.
It doesn't matter what they looklike, what they sound like, what
their abilities are.
SPEAKER_03 (35:20):
The real medicine is embodiment.
You gotta practice it, you gottaput it into practice, you gotta
walk that talk.
SPEAKER_00 (35:25):
I'm gonna say something that's old school, boo
yeah, right there.
SPEAKER_03 (35:31):
Okay, so here's the rewire.
Um, I'm practicing confidencedaily.
SPEAKER_00 (35:39):
I'm practicing confidence daily.
It is crazy how medicinal wordscan be, because just saying that
makes me feel more confident.
SPEAKER_03 (35:48):
All right, last myth.
Ready?
SPEAKER_00 (35:50):
Okay, give it to me.
SPEAKER_03 (35:51):
You need validation to be confident.
SPEAKER_00 (35:56):
You don't need no validation.
You need self-trust to beconfident.
SPEAKER_04 (36:01):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (36:01):
Confidence comes from you, not handed to you
like, you know, candy andHalloween.
You don't collect you don'tcollect trust.
SPEAKER_03 (36:09):
You build it.
Like digital age where peopleare like, you know, likes or
comments or followers or theexternal validation.
SPEAKER_00 (36:18):
There's posts.
SPEAKER_03 (36:19):
You know, numbers is what they think is gonna keep
them fueled to go.
And and I can just tell you thatlike unless you are proud of
yourself and unless you areexcited about you, and if you're
keeping promises to yourself,that's the confidence that
you're going to build.
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You can't if you're only andalways looking for external
validation, you're gonna bereally disappointed because in
the beginning of buildinganything, there's not a lot of
external validation.
No.
So you have to be clapping foryourself.
SPEAKER_00 (36:57):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (36:58):
And you have to build that confidence by
trusting yourself, trusting yourvision, taking one step at a
time.
So let's rewire it.
Um validation.
So how about I validate my ownvoice?
SPEAKER_00 (37:13):
Ooh, that works.
One more time.
SPEAKER_03 (37:16):
I validate my own voice.
SPEAKER_00 (37:17):
I'm gonna say that myself.
I validate my own voice.
SPEAKER_03 (37:21):
Empowered posse.
Say that with us wherever youare.
If you need to say it out loud,if you can't say it out loud,
say it in your head.
I validate my own voice.
That is so beautiful, and thatwill build confidence, honey.
Because confidence isn't theabsence of fear.
Like we keep saying that.
It's the decision to moveforward anyway.
SPEAKER_00 (37:41):
Anyways, you have to do it anyway, so just do it with
fear, no big deal.
SPEAKER_03 (37:45):
Yeah, and I can tell you from a personal, you know,
place that every single thingthat I've ever did that resulted
in any level of success, whetherit was fulfillment, monetary
success, um, you know,relational alignment, you know,
like the type of success thatall of us are wanting every
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single time required me to stepout of my comfort zone, you
know, to follow a strong desire,belief, talent, ability, and to
have conviction that I wasenough.
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So it required me to validatemyself and also sometimes to
just be scared that I wasn'tmaybe enough for the thing, but
fucking do it anyway, and kindof like, oh no, I said yes to
this, so I'm doing this.
I already committed to this, soI'm doing it.
And that allowed me to trustmyself that I know when I show
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up, I'm going to show up.
If I said yes to it, it meansthat I'm gonna give my all to it
and I'm not gonna look back, I'mnot gonna question it, I'm not
gonna doubt myself.
But there are times when I sayyes to something and I've been
like, oh fuck, I said yes tothis.
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Like, what the hell was Ithinking?
Even so much that, like, youknow, I'll be in the bathroom
right before, let's say, a bigperformance or speech or
whatever, you know, getting on apanel or in a group con
container that, you know, is newor something, and I will be
like, what the fuck?
Like flipping out, you know, inthe mind.
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And then I get quiet and I lookinto the mirror and I'm like,
no, you fucking got this.
And I, you know, make eyecontact with myself and start
talking to myself.
And it is in those moments thatI'm like, okay, I've done this
enough times to know that nomatter what, I can't fail.
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Because I'm trusting myself toshow up for myself over and over
again.
But that required a pattern.
SPEAKER_00 (40:10):
Yes.
SPEAKER_03 (40:11):
And that's the key here is that there's like a
pattern that you know what's theworst thing that could happen is
is the game that you kind ofplay too when you're just like
throwing up in the bathroom,like, you know, crying in the
bathroom or trying to keeppeople from knowing that you
were just crying, whatever.
You know, it's like, what's theworst thing that could happen?
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Oh, you you know, sound likeshit, or like, you know, like
you you can go through thatscenario and you can ask
yourself, what's the worst thingthat could happen?
And what it always comes down tofor me is not showing up for
myself.
This is what I want.
So if this is what I want, Ihave to fucking do it.
And that commitment to notbetray myself is where the
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confidence gets built.
Is in those moments of like, youknow, you're training, you're
training, you're training,you're like, it's fine, it's
fine, it's like it's fine.
And then sometimes right before,you know, the fear really kicks
in and it's feels like it'schoking you, or you know, you
fucking get the wobbly knees, oryour lips like feel like you
can't, yeah.
You know, all of a sudden you'relike, why are my lips feel dry
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and crusty?
You know, or like all of asudden you have like no spit in
your mouth, you know, all thethings that happen to our body
because we're like doingsomething scary.
Um, and then all of a suddenyou're like, Oh, I so got this,
you know?
I so got this because you buildtrust in yourself.
SPEAKER_04 (41:41):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (41:42):
Because you validated yourself over and over
again.
SPEAKER_00 (41:46):
Well, I'm gonna in in regards to and and I I will
just say this watching you gothrough all of that was very
inspiring.
Right?
It allowed me to see that notonly do you have the opportunity
to change, but it's yourresponsibility to change, right?
No one is going to jump into thedriver's seat and and and take
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over for you, right?
There's you know it we alwayshear, you know, Jesus take the
wheel, and Jesus is like, well,you're Jesus.
Like keep your hands on thewheel, bro, because you're
you're steering yourself uhwherever you want to go.
And and you know, my story, II'm always gonna state that um
the reason why I was uh I wasdrinking back in the day almost
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every single day was because Ididn't have the confidence to
deal with my own issues.
I didn't have the confidence toraise my own standards to be at
the level that I knew I wassupposed to be, right?
And what I was doing, I wasgoing for the blame game, oh, it
was his fault, it was my dad'sfault, it was this fault.
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It's that cycle.
That cycle, exactly.
And that and it and it and itkept me in a lower vibrational
uh state where I just didn'ttrust myself to get anything
done.
SPEAKER_03 (43:02):
So was the cycle like you felt doubt, then you
procrastinated, then youself-sabotaged?
SPEAKER_00 (43:07):
I was I was stuck in that cycle, and and and I
remember when you when you wentthrough that cycle and that that
last one, which is the repeat,that repeat, that's that's
that's the um that's themotherfucker right there.
Yeah.
Right?
Because that's the pattern.
You don't even know that you'regoing through that over and over
again.
SPEAKER_03 (43:26):
Yeah, and then after self-sabotage, you're like
comparing, you're like, oh well,fuck, you know, like it's easy
for them because they blah blahblah.
And you're and then and thenyou're like mad at yourself, you
lost trust, and then you repeat.
SPEAKER_00 (43:38):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (43:39):
And you just start it just starts all over again.
SPEAKER_00 (43:41):
That is correct.
SPEAKER_03 (43:42):
And every time it starts all over again.
SPEAKER_00 (43:44):
And that and you know, when it comes down to
lifting yourself, yourself upout of a lower vibrational, you
know, uh pattern, frequency,frequency, it takes confidence,
it takes confidence that youwill be safe on the other side,
right?
Even though things are going tobe different, you are going to
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be safe on the other side.
And if it's giving up drinking,if it's leaving a um a bad
relationship, if it's if it's uhgetting a better job, if it's
leaving one job and andredefining yourself.
SPEAKER_03 (44:17):
Launching your entrepreneurial journey, your
your your passion, your that inyour that you're in pursuit of.
SPEAKER_00 (44:24):
Exactly.
If if if all you need is moreconfidence, you're okay.
Right?
It's not like, oh, uh uh, youknow, I want to be a um, I want
to be the first, you know, uh uhfemale astronaut.
There's no way that I'm gonna bethe first female astronaut.
A it already happened, I'm not afemale, right?
So I'm gonna go to somethingthat's that's more realistic to
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me, which allows me to sayconfidently, you know what?
If I want this, I can grab it.
And what would happen when Igrab it?
That's gonna be scary.
I'm gonna be rich, or I'm gonnabe famous, or I'm gonna be
happy, or I'm gonna be umhealed.
You're going to be differentthan you are now.
And that's where confidencecomes in.
It's gonna say, as you gothrough these tough times, you
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are going to be better than youare now.
SPEAKER_03 (45:12):
And um because uh the other side of it is regret.
SPEAKER_00 (45:17):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (45:18):
And like all of us have probably been in some type
of situation, maybe not deepregret, but in some type of
situation where you had anopportunity and you decided to
couldn't, you know, have thatcycle of doubt where and then
you know, sabotage, blah blahblah that we just talked about,
where you you're doing thatcycle and then at the other side
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of it you have deep regret.
And then you're just like, ohwell, I guess I'm just not meant
to do this, you know, fill inthe blank.
And instead, like what you'vejust learned is that you
actually could do this thing ifyou just don't complete the same
exact cycle.
And so you know, it's like ait's really like a spiral, you
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know, you spiral out.
SPEAKER_00 (46:06):
And and what's interesting is like everything
that we've that everything thatwe've discussed in just this
podcast, not you know, let aloneall the podcasts that we've
done, but just this podcast,everything that we've discussed,
I had to implement, I had to gothrough in order for me to build
the confidence that I currentlyhave now where I can go out and
get what I want without askingfor it, without hoping for it,
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without, oh, maybe I'm I'mworthy, but choosing it and then
attracting it to me.
Like that is true power, that istrue confidence.
SPEAKER_03 (46:40):
And what we use a lot in our practice is a
confidence code.
Um and so we help people withcalibration, you know, like
let's figure out where you areand then let's give you, you
know, let's make you aware ofthis cycle, you know, this
pattern maybe you created, butthen let's give you the code so
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that you are moving in this.
And this free medicine seriesthat we do on our podcasts is
like the precursor to that oflike, hey, here's some things
you can try, but also there is alike, you know, foolproof code.
And if you want to get in acalibration session with us,
just use the link in our shownotes to apply.
And, you know, we will always bewith you if you're second
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guessing your truth ordownplaying your presence or
feeling stuck in self-doubt.
SPEAKER_00 (47:31):
Then it's time to recalibrate right then and
there, right?
We we offer calibr uh confidencemedicine sessions to help you
regulate your nervous system,reclaim your truth, and rise in
leadership.
I mean, it is a full package.
SPEAKER_03 (47:46):
Yes.
So the world isn't reallywaiting for you to be uh the
perfect version of you, it'swaiting for the real one, the
authentic one, the truthful one,the one that um you know you are
and you're hiding for whateverreason.
SPEAKER_00 (48:05):
You are you you cannot be compared.
SPEAKER_03 (48:08):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (48:09):
That's what happens when you when you come into your
own purpose.
You can't be compared.
SPEAKER_03 (48:12):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (48:13):
So you can no longer compare yourself to anyone else.
SPEAKER_03 (48:15):
Right, right.
And then then it just, you know,you get to be, you get to be
fully expressed.
So if you're just using somebodyelse's language or using
somebody else's ideas, you'rekind of copying copying somebody
else's path, and you know, youreally aren't gonna build
confidence.
You're gonna feel all thoseweird feelings of like imposter
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syndrome and shit like that.
Because you're not really beingtrue to your own authentic
expression of like, you know,let me let me carve a path, let
me be a trailblazer, let me bethe first.
So we hope this was helpful foryou, gave you a little
confidence boost.
You can always go deeper withus.
The invitation stands, we haveour hands out to you.
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Um, let me give you a journalprompt so you have something you
could do with this show.
Where am I waiting for moreconfidence before I show up?
SPEAKER_00 (49:10):
One more time.
SPEAKER_03 (49:12):
Where am I waiting for more confidence before I
show up?
Well, let me add to that.
What would shift if I decided Iwas already enough right now?
SPEAKER_00 (49:24):
Ooh, nice twist.
SPEAKER_03 (49:26):
So those are two to give you to journal on.
And if you're not intojournaling, take this to your
partner.
You guys could also have thisdiscussion, ask each other and
you know, build some intimacyand confidence together.
Because I gotta tell you, whenyou have a partner that fully
sees you and supports you inyour vision for what you want
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for the next one, three, fiveyears, you can look to at each
other and be like, hey, I justhad this big opportunity.
And your partner, if you're inresonance, will be like, You
fucking gotta do it.
Like, like, let's go.
Let's do everything we can toprepare for that together.
SPEAKER_00 (50:08):
Or also that may not be an alignment.
I can hold you, I can hold you.
Right.
SPEAKER_03 (50:12):
You can be like, what?
That's not on your that's not onyour path, that's not on your
plan.
SPEAKER_00 (50:16):
That's candy right there.
Leave it, leave it alone.
SPEAKER_03 (50:18):
Yeah, exactly.
Like, that's candy that has asour center, honey.
SPEAKER_00 (50:23):
Exactly.
SPEAKER_03 (50:24):
You're gonna get some free itchy tongue from that
one, you know.
Like you can protect each othertoo.
SPEAKER_00 (50:29):
And we've all felt victim to the candy, you know,
the weird relationship, the thejob you're not supposed to take,
you know, whatever it is.
But candy is always candy fromthat white van.
SPEAKER_03 (50:40):
Watch out.
SPEAKER_00 (50:42):
Seriously.
SPEAKER_03 (50:44):
So we hope this was helpful.
We are sending you the highestvibrations.
SPEAKER_00 (50:48):
You are held.
SPEAKER_03 (50:49):
You are loved.
And sometimes you think you'regetting confidence medicine, and
sometimes they're giving youthat, you know, like white van
candy.
SPEAKER_00 (51:07):
You get that pez.
Pez, pez ain't confidence.
SPEAKER_03 (51:10):
No, you get that candy where it's like, you know,
you have a little bit and thenyou're like, where the fuck am
I?
You just got kidnapped.
You got kidnapped.
They're different.
SPEAKER_01 (51:19):
You're about ready to get ditty.
SPEAKER_03 (51:20):
And and yeah, exactly.
Yeah, there's there's there's no convenience
store, there's no seven elevenwhen you walk through, you know,
into there, into the store andall of a sudden you see on the
on the shelves confidence.
Uh oh, there's confidence,there's success, there's hot
body, there's yeah, you know,supreme spirituality, you know,
you just can't go there and andgrab a bottle, grab a pill, grab
a candy bar.
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Everything that you want has tocome through you.
You have to create it.
You are the portal for anythingthat you want.
And in order for you to have it,you have to go within and pull
it without.
SPEAKER_03 (00:34):
Yeah, and a lot of the empowerment couple
apothecary of you know, freemedicine is us really saying,
like, okay, yes, there'sshortcuts, here's the shortcuts,
but all of them require youtaking an action.
SPEAKER_04 (00:50):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (00:50):
None of them are like, you know, here's your
prescription, and you know,you're gonna have a shit ton of
side effects.
Because like that's that's whatwe're talking about is like this
is the culture that we live in,unfortunately, where you are
being advertised, you know, likejock itch cream, but you know,
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you can't, you know, get anerection for the rest of your
life.
Like, you're not gonna be itchy,but no more erections.
Welcome to the EmpowermentCouple Podcast for the lovers,
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You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02 (02:48):
Do you want me to do it?
SPEAKER_00 (02:49):
Do I look unready?
Okay.
You hear the confidence in myvoice?
When I say, I am ready.
SPEAKER_03 (03:02):
That's nice.
I like that.
SPEAKER_00 (03:04):
A little bit of confidence medicine.
I am ready.
Let us get this done.
SPEAKER_02 (03:11):
Let us get us, dude.
SPEAKER_00 (03:12):
Let us get this done.
SPEAKER_02 (03:15):
You're like a Power Ranger or something?
SPEAKER_00 (03:18):
Oh yeah.
That's my alter ego.
Power Puppy.
SPEAKER_02 (03:23):
Power Puppy.
SPEAKER_03 (03:25):
Gross.
SPEAKER_00 (03:27):
It's just like regular puppy.
Hey, what's up?
But on power.
SPEAKER_03 (03:32):
What if confidence isn't something that you build,
but something you unblock?
SPEAKER_00 (03:40):
Ooh, unblocking.
SPEAKER_03 (03:41):
Yeah, I'm always talking about building
confidence.
And also like always saying likepractice builds confidence,
right?
That's like not my phrase, butit's something that I use in in
my coaching a lot to get peopleto, you know, move forward.
Um but there are blocks, and I'mnoticing that some of these
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blocks need a little medicinethat they little tending to.
SPEAKER_00 (04:09):
Just just a little nudge here and there.
And I I have I've realized thatreal confidence isn't loud.
You know, I kind of changed myvoice to kind of mess with it.
It's rooted, right?
So when I feel confident, when Ifeel grounded, I'm I'm more
confident.
It's when your inner voice getslouder than the world's
opinions.
SPEAKER_03 (04:29):
Yes.
Right?
SPEAKER_00 (04:30):
It's just it's you you hear the voice come through.
SPEAKER_03 (04:34):
It's it's it doesn't have to be power poppy.
SPEAKER_00 (04:36):
No, it doesn't have to be power posse, pop power
poppy.
But in my in my mind, it comesthrough as clear and and as as
profound as power poppy voice.
You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02 (04:49):
You're gonna try to make that a thing, aren't you?
SPEAKER_00 (04:52):
Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (04:54):
Well, welcome back, Empowered Posse, to another
juicy and potent episode of theEmpowerment Couple Podcast.
Today we are prescribingsomething we all need at some
point in our journey.
Confidence medicine.
SPEAKER_00 (05:09):
You got that confidence medicine?
Oh, I need it.
I need a little just a littletouch of that confidence
medicine.
SPEAKER_03 (05:14):
Just a taste.
Whether you're launchingsomething new, reclaiming your
voice, stepping into leadership,or simply trying to stop
second-guessing yourself everytime you make a decision.
Uh this episode should give yousome clarity.
It's gonna give you that nicedose of delicious clarity,
courage, and conviction you'vebeen missing.
SPEAKER_00 (05:37):
Let me let me get that clarity hit.
SPEAKER_03 (05:39):
And let's just uh say why this matters.
Confidence is not arrogance.
It's often confused asarrogance.
And it's not perfection.
SPEAKER_00 (05:50):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (05:52):
It's the felt sense that you are safe to be
yourself.
SPEAKER_00 (05:56):
And that is I don't know why that is so difficult to
attain.
SPEAKER_03 (06:00):
But because we're all hiding, you know, and
there's shame and there's like,you know, cultural like
expectations and familydynamics.
Like it it starts very young,you know?
Go ahead.
SPEAKER_00 (06:13):
Yeah, and and when you feel that safety, you lead,
you love, you create withoutapology, right?
Confidence is the permissionslip to live your purpose out
loud.
SPEAKER_03 (06:26):
Yeah.
Like, why are you here?
You get to just be you.
SPEAKER_00 (06:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (06:29):
Do you, boo.
unknown (06:30):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (06:30):
Um, and most people aren't lacking talent, they're
lacking belief.
SPEAKER_00 (06:36):
That is so true.
That is so so true.
And belief is free.
SPEAKER_03 (06:40):
Belief is free, and like it's not the most talented
that are the most successful.
We've seen that plenty of times.
It's the people who, you know,have just enough Dululu to be
like, let's go and do it anyway.
SPEAKER_00 (06:55):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (06:55):
And, you know, those people, like, if they aren't
like they don't might not havethe talent muscle, but they have
the let's fucking go muscle.
You know, let's just do itanyway.
SPEAKER_00 (07:07):
Yeah, there's there's definitely science and
psychology behind this.
SPEAKER_03 (07:12):
Yes.
And so let's talk about that.
Amy Cuddy um is a Harvardresearcher, and she has this
great TED talk, if you haven'tseen it, about this
specifically.
She talks about how bodylanguage shapes how we see
ourselves.
And she calls it power posture.
Um, but it's like a superwomanstance or superman stance.
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And just two minutes of thispower posture can increase
testosterone and reducecortisol.
And so if you've worked with mein group coaching or in private
sessions, you know, I'm alwayslike, okay, get into your
superwoman stance.
It's part of a lot of my guidedmeditations.
Like it's something that I'veused because I've found that my
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clients that are, you know,public speakers that do like,
you know, keynotes, like, hey,you better get into that
superwoman stance.
And it works.
It it just instantly works.
There's other tricks too, butthis one specifically I love.
And um definitely watch that TEDtalk if you have time.
SPEAKER_00 (08:15):
Oh, yeah, most certainly.
I mean, there's there's so muchbrain chemistry involved in
regards to confidence, right?
Like, for instance, dopamine isreleased when you act in
alignment with your values, evenwhen it's scary, right?
If you're going up againstsomething, it's scary.
If you're in alignment, thatdopamine is released, right?
Uh, the prefrontal cortexstrengthens each time you take
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aligned risks, right?
So alignment is everythingduring the um the confidence
building game.
It states in the Journal ofBehavioral Neuroscience that
confidence is less aboutpositive self-talk and more
about congruent action, right?
The match between your innertruth and your outer expression.
SPEAKER_03 (08:59):
Yes, because confidence isn't I'm the best,
it's I'm aligned.
SPEAKER_00 (09:03):
I'm aligned, exactly.
Every bold move rewires youridentity.
SPEAKER_03 (09:07):
Ooh, right?
SPEAKER_00 (09:08):
So just keep those bold moves in an alignment, and
all of a sudden you'reconfident.
SPEAKER_03 (09:14):
Yeah, and then your identity shifts because your
reality starts aligning withthat.
SPEAKER_00 (09:20):
Yeah.
And the key is, of course, tonote when you're out of balance.
SPEAKER_03 (09:24):
Right.
Yeah.
So let's talk about theconfidence crisis cycle.
And it's basically like thispattern that you have created.
All of us are guilty of this.
And when I start naming it,you'll kind of notice where you
land in this cycle and how quickyou can change this pattern is
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reliant on how long you've beenin this pattern.
SPEAKER_04 (09:52):
Correct.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (09:52):
So, like the more times, for example, you break a
promise to yourself, the harderit is to rewire trust in your,
you know, for for whatever thething is.
So let's go through it here.
So it usually starts with afeeling of doubt or imposter
syndrome.
SPEAKER_00 (10:13):
I have felt that before.
SPEAKER_03 (10:15):
And then it moves to you will either over-pre
prepare, like over-preparation,you know, preparation to the
end's degree, or procrastinateand do nothing.
SPEAKER_00 (10:26):
I know which one I fall under.
SPEAKER_03 (10:29):
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00 (10:29):
We won't get that.
SPEAKER_03 (10:30):
And then then it it likely moves to self-sabotage or
shrinking.
SPEAKER_00 (10:37):
Both of them are uncomfortable.
SPEAKER_03 (10:39):
Mm-hmm.
So recap real quick.
You're gonna feel doubt orimposter syndrome, you're gonna
over-prepare or procrastinate,then you're gonna self-sabotage
or shrink.
The next you're going to compareand contract.
And so usually, you know, you'vedecided like, oh, okay, like
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this is this, you know, I'm inthis phase, then now I'm going
to like look at all these otherpeople who are not as talented
as me and compare.
Yeah, exactly.
And then you're, you know, gonnacontract.
Then the the next step is thatyou're gonna lose trust in
yourself.
SPEAKER_04 (11:18):
Naturally, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (11:19):
Right.
Because you've now now you're sodeep into that pattern and that
cycle, you know, of basicallynot really doing anything.
So you're kind of circling thedrain, is what I like to to
reference it.
And then you're gonna repeat.
SPEAKER_00 (11:35):
Yikes.
SPEAKER_03 (11:36):
And so you have to realize that confidence will
erode when we abandon ourselvesin moments of truth.
SPEAKER_00 (11:45):
I agree.
SPEAKER_03 (11:46):
And in moments of desire.
So you have if you really wantsomething and you're like, okay,
here's my goal, and then you gothrough the confidence crisis
cycle where ultimately you'rebetraying yourself at the end.
You're gonna be in this cyclerepeatedly, and it's just a
groove in, you know, or wiringin our mind, or just like a
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groove that you've you've builtfrom, you know, sitting in your
chair for too long.
It's like it's it can be undone.
SPEAKER_00 (12:15):
Yeah, it's amazing how powerful our minds are that
we can actually create our ownproblems and have them manifest
in the world as bona fideproblems.
SPEAKER_03 (12:26):
Yeah, and we do this because it keeps us feeling safe
and in our comfort zone.
SPEAKER_00 (12:32):
And even if our comfort zone is really
comfortable comfortable, right?
Even if our comfort zone iscomplaining.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (12:40):
Exactly.
And so let's talk next about thefive doses of confidence
medicine.
So we can start rewiring thisand unblocking this and freeing
you up.
SPEAKER_00 (12:51):
I'm gonna be your happiness pusher right here.
Here we go.
Dose number one, innercongruence, right?
Your confidence rises when youractions match your values.
So stop additioning and startaligning, right?
You're not trying to makesomething happen.
You're in alignment with thathappening.
SPEAKER_03 (13:09):
Yeah, I love that inner good inner congruence.
SPEAKER_00 (13:12):
So here's a practice.
You can you can say no when yourbody says no.
Yes.
Right?
When your body feels that's ano, say no.
Uh and say yes when your bodylights up.
If your body says yes, it is ayes.
SPEAKER_03 (13:26):
Yeah, for me, the the all-body yes is like, I say
yes.
But there is times where I amasked to do something or offered
something, and I'm like, uh, Idon't know.
And that's usually a no.
Like if you don't know, it'susually a no.
SPEAKER_00 (13:42):
Yeah, it's it's three categories.
It's hell no, no, and hell yes.
Right?
SPEAKER_03 (13:48):
Totally, totally.
And the hell yes feels like allover your body.
You're just like, yes, like it'sso palpable.
SPEAKER_00 (13:56):
Yeah, your highest self isn't waiting for you to be
fearless, just honest.
SPEAKER_03 (14:01):
Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_00 (14:02):
Be honest with yourself, see where you are, and
just go for it.
SPEAKER_03 (14:05):
Yeah, just truthful to yourself, in your that inner
congruence.
SPEAKER_00 (14:09):
You can do something with fear, right?
Just be honest with yourself,exactly.
SPEAKER_03 (14:13):
You you likely will do it with fear.
Like the fear doesn't go away.
SPEAKER_00 (14:19):
If if you're trying to get out of your comfort zone,
you're gonna be swimming infear.
SPEAKER_03 (14:24):
Yeah, and I I feel like knowing that allows you to
kind of embrace the fear partbecause the big things are gonna
feel scary.
unknown (14:34):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (14:35):
And that's how you know you're going in the right
direction because it's like,ooh, I'm fucking alive.
SPEAKER_00 (14:42):
It's like, oh yeah, this is this fear thing, ain't
bad.
I'm in the game, you know?
SPEAKER_03 (14:46):
Like, all right, so let's talk about the next dose
of confidence medicine.
Number two is nervous systemsafety.
SPEAKER_04 (14:54):
Yes.
SPEAKER_03 (14:55):
So if you've ever frozen in a moment when you
wanted to shine, it wasn'treally a mindset issue, most
likely.
It was a regulation issue.
Yeah.
Confidence isn't hype, it's aregulated nervous system.
And one tool that I want to justpause and talk about because we
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personally use it to supportthis, is the Healy.
It's a frequency device, littlebuilt, little like wearable
device that scans yourbioenergetic field and delivers
microcurrent frequenciesdesigned to help balance stress,
boost vitality, and enhanceemotional regulation.
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All of which are foundational toauthentic confidence.
SPEAKER_04 (15:41):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (15:41):
Because you need balance.
And a lot of times we aren'tpracticing balance.
And a lot of times there isn't,I would say, in Western society,
it's not popular to have like adevice that helps you find
balance, you know.
Like they're not promoting inthe commercial breaks singing
bowls or you know, frequencydevices or like water charging,
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you know what I mean?
SPEAKER_00 (16:08):
It just so happens though that the people who are
really balanced and really happyand really successful or have
incorporated one or more ofthose techniques.
SPEAKER_03 (16:15):
Totally.
SPEAKER_00 (16:16):
And regarding the Healy, you know, I've been using
it for long enough to know thatit's it's like a mirror for your
energy, right?
The more you understand your ownfrequency, the more clarity you
gain about your moods, your ownblockages, and your strengths,
right?
Because confidence starts withknowing yourself on every level,
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including energetically.
SPEAKER_03 (16:39):
Yeah.
And so if you're listening tothis during the month of
October, it's a great time totake advantage of their sale.
They have like a 65% off bundledsale of the Healy Pro, which is
a microcurrent frequency device.
Um, it also scans yourbioenergetic field.
(17:00):
And then there's the Mag HealyPro, which uses magnetic
therapies, um, and the coil,which is more scalar, but like
you have access to get 65% offusing the link in our show
notes.
Um and it there's a frequency ofconfidence, you know.
So like it'd be silly for us notto share that there are
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shortcuts, you know, there'sways that people are accessing
this frequency with tools likethe Healy.
SPEAKER_00 (17:30):
And I'd go so far as to say that, you know, the whole
65% off of the Healy is onething, but in in owning the
Healy, I would say it's morethan 65% off of a hospital
visit.
SPEAKER_03 (17:42):
Just one hospital visit.
Like all well, I would just evensay like acupuncture.
Like there's so many times thatI'm like using the mag Healy for
like my acupuncture, you know,finding which where I need, you
know, where I have blockages andmy meridians and like where I'm
holding, you know, angst about acertain thing.
So it's really fascinating.
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Um, and let's just talk aboutfrequency because confidence has
a frequency.
You know, there's people like,have you ever met that person
who you know who walks into aroom and lights it up?
Yeah, me.
That's energetic congruence.
I would say so, yes.
It's resonance, it's that'scoherence.
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When your body, thoughts, andemotions are in harmony, you
broadcast confidenceeffortlessly with your energetic
frequency.
You know what I would it's likeyour signature, right?
SPEAKER_00 (18:37):
I would go so far as to say that my my my frequency
when you and I met, the day thatyou and I met, they were they
were congruent.
Our frequencies matched.
That is why you and I hit it offin the very beginning.
SPEAKER_03 (18:51):
You turn it, you turn it, he's giving me like
geyser beam eyes.
SPEAKER_00 (18:54):
The gazer beam eyes and and and now that congruence
in my body was made, you know,natural by just straight up
love, right?
I saw you.
There was a it it it it set upall these these triggers in my
body.
However, that's not alwaysaccessible, right?
You can't always have you knowthat level of can't always make
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the love of your life.
Yeah, like you can't have thatthat cute meat over and over and
over again, right?
SPEAKER_02 (19:19):
Meat cute, not cute meat, but that's why we use
heels.
Wait, back up meat cute, notcute meat, cute, meet, meat,
cute, whatever it is.
It's not cute meat, it's meatcute.
SPEAKER_00 (19:31):
Well, I don't want to meet cute, I want a cute
meat, you know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_02 (19:37):
No, regardless, we're talking about the point
I'm trying to make romanticcomedy.
SPEAKER_00 (19:43):
The point I'm trying to make is that you don't always
have the ability to have thatlevel of of inspiration.
Sometimes sometimes you have tocreate it on your own, and that
is why we use tools like theHealy, because it helps us
become aware of what's out ofsync.
Yep, it's not woo, it isphysics.
Yes, right.
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Your cells communicate throughvibration, right?
You and I, our cells werecommunicating through that
vibration.
SPEAKER_04 (20:09):
Yep.
SPEAKER_00 (20:10):
And confidence is what happens when your vibration
says, I belong here.
SPEAKER_03 (20:15):
Or I belong to you.
So when we you and I weresitting at that table, which is
the song that I was playing whenI met you.
SPEAKER_00 (20:20):
Oh, really?
Was it?
SPEAKER_03 (20:21):
Remember?
You know this.
Yeah, I belong to you.
SPEAKER_00 (20:24):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Little Linux Rabbit's.
Yeah.
I'm telling you, it it allworked out in my favor.
SPEAKER_02 (20:30):
Well, I know that.
You're welcome.
SPEAKER_00 (20:35):
So let's talk about a practice for this dose, right?
When it comes to nervous systemsafety, before speaking,
launching, or leading, try boxbreathing or ground or a
grounding touch ritual.
Those are free.
You don't actually have to havea um a Healy frequency.
Yeah, however, it creates yourown frequency within your body.
SPEAKER_03 (20:56):
Right.
And confidence is a side effectof alignment.
SPEAKER_00 (21:00):
Yes.
SPEAKER_03 (21:01):
I like to have a side effect of confidence for
for medicine, right?
Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (21:07):
Yeah.
You don't want the other one.
SPEAKER_03 (21:09):
No, I don't want any other side effects.
SPEAKER_00 (21:11):
Let me take this pill and be meek.
No, thank you.
SPEAKER_03 (21:15):
Let me numb everything.
Exactly.
SPEAKER_00 (21:18):
Speaking of pills, let's talk about dose number
three, which is embodiedrehearsal.
SPEAKER_03 (21:23):
Ooh, love it.
SPEAKER_00 (21:24):
Confidence grows when you practice being you
before the moment counts, right?
Kind of going back to thesuperhero or superwoman stance,
right?
You're you were preparingyourself.
Um, so the practice to continueit would be to use voice
activation, mirror affirmations,or power posture exercises, like
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we just talked about.
SPEAKER_03 (21:45):
Yep.
So you could if you rehearseyour power in private, it will
then flow in public.
SPEAKER_00 (21:52):
I love that.
Yeah, that practice makesperfect.
SPEAKER_03 (22:01):
So and and practice it.
Like that's that's the rehearsalpart of this.
SPEAKER_00 (22:05):
And confidence doesn't mean you have all the
answers, it means you're willingto go anyway.
SPEAKER_04 (22:12):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (22:12):
Right.
Let me figure it all along theway.
I don't have to have all theanswers.
I don't have to be perfect.
I just have to show up and stayin alignment, and I'm golden.
SPEAKER_03 (22:20):
Mm-hmm.
And it's good to do these mirroraffirmations that you're talking
about.
That's a good practice also.
That would be a great umconfidence dose for confidence
medicine, is you know, if youcan practice in a mirror, you
embodying whatever the thingthat you want to do.
Let's say you're, you know, wantto be a keynote speaker.
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You, if you are standing infront of the mirror and
rehearsing your speech that way,then you are embodying the
confidence that it's it's goingto require to be in front of
people.
SPEAKER_04 (22:58):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (22:59):
And you can also just do straight up mirror
affirmations.
Like you you were talking aboutthat as a practice.
What's one mirror affirmationyou like?
SPEAKER_00 (23:08):
Well, I mean, any affirmation works with the
mirror affirmation.
I like I I'm I am in peace orI'm at peace.
And I I'll say that long enoughfor my face to have a peaceful
resonance about it, right?
My my muscles will will contortor move in a manner that shows
that I'm no longer stressed ortired or irritated or angry,
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that I'm actually at peace.
And then I see that in themirror, I feel that I'm saying
that all of a sudden realizing,oh, I'm at peace.
SPEAKER_03 (23:39):
And you feel it.
Then it then it like, yeah, youstart embodying it and then it
creates resonance and congruenceand all the things we're talking
about.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (23:47):
But you could do that.
You I am I am you could do thatwith any I am powerful, I'm
sexy, whatever you want to do.
It works.
SPEAKER_03 (23:53):
I'm too sexy, too sexy for my shirt, stuff like
that.
SPEAKER_00 (23:56):
Yeah, oh yeah, totally.
And then all of a sudden theshirt just dissolves.
That's that's how powerful yourmind is.
SPEAKER_02 (24:02):
Oh no.
Of course.
So you're gonna take it to thecorny corny land.
SPEAKER_01 (24:07):
I think we have some more doses left.
SPEAKER_03 (24:09):
Yeah, let's go for dose number four for confidence
medicine.
So this one is about visibility,and we're gonna call this
visibility healing.
Your inner child might stillthink being seen equals being
judged.
Depending on what you've beenthrough, most of us have had an
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experience.
Most, I didn't say all of us,but most of us have had an
experience where somethinghappened when we were um
expressing ourselves and it gotshut down in some way, ignored,
rejected, you know, fill in theblank.
But most of us have had thatexperience at some point in our
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life, especially in these earlyformative years.
But let's rewire that becauseit's time.
It's time to rewire that.
Because confidence is themedicine that tells your inner
child it's safe to be seen now.
So, for example, if doing anyone of these things terrifies
you, then I invite you tochallenge yourself to embody the
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confidence and rehearse theconfidence by doing one of these
things.
So the practice would be go liveon Instagram or Facebook or
TikTok, whatever platform youlike.
Um, or post the real, you know,post the um whatever photo
shoot, you know, rate fuckinghighlight carousel, like
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whatever.
Wear the outfit that you're justlike, oh, that's so audacious or
bold.
SPEAKER_00 (25:46):
Ask ask for that that raise.
SPEAKER_03 (25:48):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (25:49):
Right, take that college course.
SPEAKER_03 (25:51):
Yeah, like be the one who goes first, too.
You don't have to copy whatanyone else is doing.
It doesn't have to be like bestpractices, like you can
trailblaze.
SPEAKER_00 (26:02):
That gave me goosebumps.
SPEAKER_03 (26:03):
You can trailblaze right now.
SPEAKER_00 (26:04):
What was that you just said?
That gave me goosebumps.
SPEAKER_03 (26:06):
Was it be the one be the one who goes first?
SPEAKER_00 (26:09):
That's my next tattoo right there.
Be bold, right?
Luck, luck favors the the bold.
SPEAKER_03 (26:15):
Yeah, and I gotta tell you, um, there's a lot of
content coming up in this seasonwhere we're talking about risks.
And I want you to risk, youknow, I want you to take the
risk.
I want you to to act boldly.
And it's one of my biggestchallenges to my private
coaching clients and groupcoaching is like, you know, you
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you want to take those big risksbecause that's where the dra
drastic, like, you know,monumental changes happen.
SPEAKER_00 (26:44):
That's when your wings unfurl.
SPEAKER_03 (26:46):
Yes.
And your your power unfurl, yourpower multiplies every time you
stop shrinking to fit the room.
SPEAKER_00 (26:55):
Well said.
SPEAKER_03 (26:56):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (26:56):
I love that.
SPEAKER_03 (26:57):
And if you think about like, you know, swimming
in, you know, a big fish versussmall fish, right?
So you have a big fish and youknow, it's swimming in maybe a
sm a small pond, right?
You're not gonna build the samemuscles as you would if you were
a big fish swimming in a bigpond, correct, right?
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And the opportunity for a bigpond is very different than the
small pond.
And so whether you are in asituation where you're playing
small or you're playing big,like you have the opportunity to
become a bigger version ofyourself depending on the people
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that you are around.
SPEAKER_00 (27:42):
That is correct.
SPEAKER_03 (27:43):
So it's all about proximity and who you are
putting yourself around andalways look to be at the places
and with the people who you knowwant to be visible.
If visibility is one of yourthings that you're like, oh, I'm
afraid to be seen, I'm afraid tobe found out, you know, you're
wearing masks and stuff likethat.
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Get into around the people wholike, you know, are so fine
being seen.
Like they have the oppositeexpression that you do because
you will see it'll free you upand you will see what's
possible.
But if you're constantly puttingyourself in these smaller
arenas, you're probably notgoing to change as fast.
SPEAKER_00 (28:28):
I agree.
SPEAKER_03 (28:29):
And the confidence can be learned much faster if
you are in those bigger playingpools where people are like, you
gotta fucking be big.
You can't just be like, youknow, extraordinary in your in
your house.
You gotta be extraordinary inthe big scene.
SPEAKER_00 (28:48):
Yeah, the old saying, if you want to be a
better player, play with betterplayers.
SPEAKER_03 (28:51):
Yeah, for sure.
SPEAKER_00 (28:52):
That's it.
SPEAKER_03 (28:53):
For sure.
So next dose.
SPEAKER_00 (28:56):
Next dose is identity integrity.
Now, the version of you who hasit, ask yourself how do they
walk, how do they talk, how dothey breathe, how do they lead,
right?
So confidence is remembering whoyou really are and walking that
truth daily.
Yes, right.
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So you are always every versionof yourself, right?
And you are currently decidingto be one version of yourself,
wanting to be another version ofyourself, and it's quite easy to
do so, just allow yourself to bethat version.
SPEAKER_04 (29:29):
Yep.
SPEAKER_00 (29:29):
And then that version will construct
everything necessary in orderfor you to live out the full
manifestation of those.
SPEAKER_03 (29:38):
Yes, exactly.
Because a lot of us are playingwith an identity that should
have been retired like fiveyears ago, you know, because we
aren't challenging ourselves toidentify differently, you know,
with an expanded version ofourselves.
SPEAKER_00 (29:53):
So and a really powerful practice that I like to
do is you ask yourself, whatwould the most expensive
Expressed version of me do rightnow.
When I say the most expressed,I'm talking about your highest
timeline.
And this is where the mirroraffirmations really come in, or
mirror meditations, is you canstart asking yourself, and the
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person who answers it is theperson you're wanting to be,
right?
Which is also a version of you.
The version of you you arebecoming, like I said, already
exists.
So you want to walk like her,you want to speak like her, you
want to um or him or him walklike him, whatever it is.
Yeah, exactly.
You become that person that becthat person creates your reality
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for you.
SPEAKER_03 (30:38):
Right, exactly.
So let's play a little game,just a little myth buster here.
SPEAKER_00 (30:44):
Oh, I love busting the myths.
SPEAKER_03 (30:46):
I'm gonna read a myth, and I'm going to invite
you to create a reality withthat myth, because you know,
myths need to be busted.
So you're gonna bust the mythand then we will offer rewire
together.
SPEAKER_00 (31:02):
Do I get a cool noise?
SPEAKER_03 (31:04):
Um, yes.
So I if you think that you wannahave a I mean, I don't know, you
want a cool noise?
What do you want?
Well, you know, you for what?
SPEAKER_00 (31:14):
For when I bust a myth.
You don't want me to.
SPEAKER_03 (31:17):
I'm going to give you myths, so yeah, you you just
want to say that it's a myth?
SPEAKER_00 (31:21):
Oh, no, I want an actual noise.
And then no, that's a myth.
SPEAKER_03 (31:27):
I'm not gonna give you not myths.
So you're just you just want tomake a noise.
SPEAKER_00 (31:32):
I just want to make a noise.
SPEAKER_03 (31:33):
Okay.
You can make a noise, yes.
SPEAKER_00 (31:36):
Thanks.
Okay, let's go for it.
SPEAKER_03 (31:37):
Here's a myth.
Confidence means being fearless.
SPEAKER_00 (31:44):
Is that a good noise?
The reality is that confidencemeans taking actions with fear.
If you can do anything withfear, you can do anything.
SPEAKER_03 (31:54):
If you can do anything with fear, you can do
anything.
SPEAKER_00 (31:56):
Correct.
If you can do anything withfear, if you can do not listen,
if you can do anything with fearin your body, that means you can
do anything.
SPEAKER_03 (32:06):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (32:06):
Got it.
SPEAKER_03 (32:07):
And the things that you want to do, likely that are
big, are going to have acomponent of fear.
SPEAKER_00 (32:14):
Correct.
That is cool.
SPEAKER_03 (32:15):
So let's give you a good rewire.
Okay.
You want me to take this one?
SPEAKER_00 (32:19):
Go for it.
SPEAKER_03 (32:19):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (32:20):
Rewire me, please.
SPEAKER_03 (32:21):
I can feel fear and still show up.
SPEAKER_00 (32:26):
That I would say over and over and over again.
In front of my mirror as amirror affirmation.
It's nice and simple.
It's powerful.
SPEAKER_03 (32:33):
Yep.
Okay, cool.
Next, next myth.
You ready for this?
SPEAKER_00 (32:37):
I got my noise.
SPEAKER_03 (32:39):
Got your point.
Okay.
Confident people are alwaysloud.
SPEAKER_00 (32:46):
That is wrong.
The the the that's a myth.
The bust of that myth is thatconfidence is energy.
It's not volume.
SPEAKER_02 (32:56):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (32:57):
It's energy.
SPEAKER_03 (32:57):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (32:58):
Right.
So you can get really loud andstill be wrong.
SPEAKER_03 (33:01):
Although I notice when I get really like um
energetic like energeticallyexcited, I get loud, but doesn't
necessarily mean I'm confidentabout that.
I just get like, you know,playful, boisterous, loud, you
know.
But but you're right.
There when I'm really confidentabout something, and especially
when I get like a download orlike, you know, um something
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channels through me, I it's veryquiet.
It's very like grounded androoted.
It's not loud and obnoxious.
It's like, you know, I do loudand obnoxious all fine on my
own.
SPEAKER_04 (33:37):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (33:39):
But it's not necessarily when I'm really
confident.
SPEAKER_00 (33:41):
Yeah, you usually you get louder you, the louder
you get, the more uh you'retrying to cover up the fact that
you're not very confident.
SPEAKER_03 (33:49):
Yes, yes, exactly.
That's where why people arelike, oh, he's you know, they'll
they'll talk about somebody andthey'll say something like, oh,
he's so loud and arrogant.
And it's like, yes, that that islikely arrogance.
It's not necessarily confidence.
It's you know, trying to coverup something.
But let's rewire it.
So rewiring it would be my quietis powerful.
SPEAKER_00 (34:14):
Oh, I love that.
SPEAKER_03 (34:17):
And I will just share if you are in a
conversation with someone andthey start getting loud with
you, they're not very confident.
Yes, they are are trying toassert dominance and um having
calm, quiet energy is verypowerful.
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And so just remember that.
SPEAKER_00 (34:41):
I also wouldn't I wouldn't pick a fight with
someone who is calm.
SPEAKER_01 (34:45):
You know what I mean?
Because they probably knowsomething that I don't.
Like, no, no, thanks.
Let me let me listen to whatthis guy has to say.
SPEAKER_03 (34:54):
Okay, here's another myth about confidence.
Ready?
You're either born with it ornot.
SPEAKER_00 (35:02):
That is a myth.
And here's my bust confidence isa skill, not a trait.
You can create confidence.
SPEAKER_04 (35:10):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (35:10):
Some people are naturally born with confidence,
and that's great, but everyone,anyone, can create their own
confidence.
It doesn't matter what they looklike, what they sound like, what
their abilities are.
SPEAKER_03 (35:20):
The real medicine is embodiment.
You gotta practice it, you gottaput it into practice, you gotta
walk that talk.
SPEAKER_00 (35:25):
I'm gonna say something that's old school, boo
yeah, right there.
SPEAKER_03 (35:31):
Okay, so here's the rewire.
Um, I'm practicing confidencedaily.
SPEAKER_00 (35:39):
I'm practicing confidence daily.
It is crazy how medicinal wordscan be, because just saying that
makes me feel more confident.
SPEAKER_03 (35:48):
All right, last myth.
Ready?
SPEAKER_00 (35:50):
Okay, give it to me.
SPEAKER_03 (35:51):
You need validation to be confident.
SPEAKER_00 (35:56):
You don't need no validation.
You need self-trust to beconfident.
SPEAKER_04 (36:01):
Yes.
SPEAKER_00 (36:01):
Confidence comes from you, not handed to you
like, you know, candy andHalloween.
You don't collect you don'tcollect trust.
SPEAKER_03 (36:09):
You build it.
Like digital age where peopleare like, you know, likes or
comments or followers or theexternal validation.
SPEAKER_00 (36:18):
There's posts.
SPEAKER_03 (36:19):
You know, numbers is what they think is gonna keep
them fueled to go.
And and I can just tell you thatlike unless you are proud of
yourself and unless you areexcited about you, and if you're
keeping promises to yourself,that's the confidence that
you're going to build.
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You can't if you're only andalways looking for external
validation, you're gonna bereally disappointed because in
the beginning of buildinganything, there's not a lot of
external validation.
No.
So you have to be clapping foryourself.
SPEAKER_00 (36:57):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (36:58):
And you have to build that confidence by
trusting yourself, trusting yourvision, taking one step at a
time.
So let's rewire it.
Um validation.
So how about I validate my ownvoice?
SPEAKER_00 (37:13):
Ooh, that works.
One more time.
SPEAKER_03 (37:16):
I validate my own voice.
SPEAKER_00 (37:17):
I'm gonna say that myself.
I validate my own voice.
SPEAKER_03 (37:21):
Empowered posse.
Say that with us wherever youare.
If you need to say it out loud,if you can't say it out loud,
say it in your head.
I validate my own voice.
That is so beautiful, and thatwill build confidence, honey.
Because confidence isn't theabsence of fear.
Like we keep saying that.
It's the decision to moveforward anyway.
SPEAKER_00 (37:41):
Anyways, you have to do it anyway, so just do it with
fear, no big deal.
SPEAKER_03 (37:45):
Yeah, and I can tell you from a personal, you know,
place that every single thingthat I've ever did that resulted
in any level of success, whetherit was fulfillment, monetary
success, um, you know,relational alignment, you know,
like the type of success thatall of us are wanting every
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single time required me to stepout of my comfort zone, you
know, to follow a strong desire,belief, talent, ability, and to
have conviction that I wasenough.
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So it required me to validatemyself and also sometimes to
just be scared that I wasn'tmaybe enough for the thing, but
fucking do it anyway, and kindof like, oh no, I said yes to
this, so I'm doing this.
I already committed to this, soI'm doing it.
And that allowed me to trustmyself that I know when I show
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up, I'm going to show up.
If I said yes to it, it meansthat I'm gonna give my all to it
and I'm not gonna look back, I'mnot gonna question it, I'm not
gonna doubt myself.
But there are times when I sayyes to something and I've been
like, oh fuck, I said yes tothis.
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Like, what the hell was Ithinking?
Even so much that, like, youknow, I'll be in the bathroom
right before, let's say, a bigperformance or speech or
whatever, you know, getting on apanel or in a group con
container that, you know, is newor something, and I will be
like, what the fuck?
Like flipping out, you know, inthe mind.
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And then I get quiet and I lookinto the mirror and I'm like,
no, you fucking got this.
And I, you know, make eyecontact with myself and start
talking to myself.
And it is in those moments thatI'm like, okay, I've done this
enough times to know that nomatter what, I can't fail.
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Because I'm trusting myself toshow up for myself over and over
again.
But that required a pattern.
SPEAKER_00 (40:10):
Yes.
SPEAKER_03 (40:11):
And that's the key here is that there's like a
pattern that you know what's theworst thing that could happen is
is the game that you kind ofplay too when you're just like
throwing up in the bathroom,like, you know, crying in the
bathroom or trying to keeppeople from knowing that you
were just crying, whatever.
You know, it's like, what's theworst thing that could happen?
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Oh, you you know, sound likeshit, or like, you know, like
you you can go through thatscenario and you can ask
yourself, what's the worst thingthat could happen?
And what it always comes down tofor me is not showing up for
myself.
This is what I want.
So if this is what I want, Ihave to fucking do it.
And that commitment to notbetray myself is where the
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confidence gets built.
Is in those moments of like, youknow, you're training, you're
training, you're training,you're like, it's fine, it's
fine, it's like it's fine.
And then sometimes right before,you know, the fear really kicks
in and it's feels like it'schoking you, or you know, you
fucking get the wobbly knees, oryour lips like feel like you
can't, yeah.
You know, all of a sudden you'relike, why are my lips feel dry
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and crusty?
You know, or like all of asudden you have like no spit in
your mouth, you know, all thethings that happen to our body
because we're like doingsomething scary.
Um, and then all of a suddenyou're like, Oh, I so got this,
you know?
I so got this because you buildtrust in yourself.
SPEAKER_04 (41:41):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (41:42):
Because you validated yourself over and over
again.
SPEAKER_00 (41:46):
Well, I'm gonna in in regards to and and I I will
just say this watching you gothrough all of that was very
inspiring.
Right?
It allowed me to see that notonly do you have the opportunity
to change, but it's yourresponsibility to change, right?
No one is going to jump into thedriver's seat and and and take
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over for you, right?
There's you know it we alwayshear, you know, Jesus take the
wheel, and Jesus is like, well,you're Jesus.
Like keep your hands on thewheel, bro, because you're
you're steering yourself uhwherever you want to go.
And and you know, my story, II'm always gonna state that um
the reason why I was uh I wasdrinking back in the day almost
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every single day was because Ididn't have the confidence to
deal with my own issues.
I didn't have the confidence toraise my own standards to be at
the level that I knew I wassupposed to be, right?
And what I was doing, I wasgoing for the blame game, oh, it
was his fault, it was my dad'sfault, it was this fault.
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It's that cycle.
That cycle, exactly.
And that and it and it and itkept me in a lower vibrational
uh state where I just didn'ttrust myself to get anything
done.
SPEAKER_03 (43:02):
So was the cycle like you felt doubt, then you
procrastinated, then youself-sabotaged?
SPEAKER_00 (43:07):
I was I was stuck in that cycle, and and and I
remember when you when you wentthrough that cycle and that that
last one, which is the repeat,that repeat, that's that's
that's the um that's themotherfucker right there.
Yeah.
Right?
Because that's the pattern.
You don't even know that you'regoing through that over and over
again.
SPEAKER_03 (43:26):
Yeah, and then after self-sabotage, you're like
comparing, you're like, oh well,fuck, you know, like it's easy
for them because they blah blahblah.
And you're and then and thenyou're like mad at yourself, you
lost trust, and then you repeat.
SPEAKER_00 (43:38):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (43:39):
And you just start it just starts all over again.
SPEAKER_00 (43:41):
That is correct.
SPEAKER_03 (43:42):
And every time it starts all over again.
SPEAKER_00 (43:44):
And that and you know, when it comes down to
lifting yourself, yourself upout of a lower vibrational, you
know, uh pattern, frequency,frequency, it takes confidence,
it takes confidence that youwill be safe on the other side,
right?
Even though things are going tobe different, you are going to
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be safe on the other side.
And if it's giving up drinking,if it's leaving a um a bad
relationship, if it's if it's uhgetting a better job, if it's
leaving one job and andredefining yourself.
SPEAKER_03 (44:17):
Launching your entrepreneurial journey, your
your your passion, your that inyour that you're in pursuit of.
SPEAKER_00 (44:24):
Exactly.
If if if all you need is moreconfidence, you're okay.
Right?
It's not like, oh, uh uh, youknow, I want to be a um, I want
to be the first, you know, uh uhfemale astronaut.
There's no way that I'm gonna bethe first female astronaut.
A it already happened, I'm not afemale, right?
So I'm gonna go to somethingthat's that's more realistic to
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me, which allows me to sayconfidently, you know what?
If I want this, I can grab it.
And what would happen when Igrab it?
That's gonna be scary.
I'm gonna be rich, or I'm gonnabe famous, or I'm gonna be
happy, or I'm gonna be umhealed.
You're going to be differentthan you are now.
And that's where confidencecomes in.
It's gonna say, as you gothrough these tough times, you
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are going to be better than youare now.
SPEAKER_03 (45:12):
And um because uh the other side of it is regret.
SPEAKER_00 (45:17):
Correct.
SPEAKER_03 (45:18):
And like all of us have probably been in some type
of situation, maybe not deepregret, but in some type of
situation where you had anopportunity and you decided to
couldn't, you know, have thatcycle of doubt where and then
you know, sabotage, blah blahblah that we just talked about,
where you you're doing thatcycle and then at the other side
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of it you have deep regret.
And then you're just like, ohwell, I guess I'm just not meant
to do this, you know, fill inthe blank.
And instead, like what you'vejust learned is that you
actually could do this thing ifyou just don't complete the same
exact cycle.
And so you know, it's like ait's really like a spiral, you
(46:05):
know, you spiral out.
SPEAKER_00 (46:06):
And and what's interesting is like everything
that we've that everything thatwe've discussed in just this
podcast, not you know, let aloneall the podcasts that we've
done, but just this podcast,everything that we've discussed,
I had to implement, I had to gothrough in order for me to build
the confidence that I currentlyhave now where I can go out and
get what I want without askingfor it, without hoping for it,
(46:30):
without, oh, maybe I'm I'mworthy, but choosing it and then
attracting it to me.
Like that is true power, that istrue confidence.
SPEAKER_03 (46:40):
And what we use a lot in our practice is a
confidence code.
Um and so we help people withcalibration, you know, like
let's figure out where you areand then let's give you, you
know, let's make you aware ofthis cycle, you know, this
pattern maybe you created, butthen let's give you the code so
(47:01):
that you are moving in this.
And this free medicine seriesthat we do on our podcasts is
like the precursor to that oflike, hey, here's some things
you can try, but also there is alike, you know, foolproof code.
And if you want to get in acalibration session with us,
just use the link in our shownotes to apply.
And, you know, we will always bewith you if you're second
(47:26):
guessing your truth ordownplaying your presence or
feeling stuck in self-doubt.
SPEAKER_00 (47:31):
Then it's time to recalibrate right then and
there, right?
We we offer calibr uh confidencemedicine sessions to help you
regulate your nervous system,reclaim your truth, and rise in
leadership.
I mean, it is a full package.
SPEAKER_03 (47:46):
Yes.
So the world isn't reallywaiting for you to be uh the
perfect version of you, it'swaiting for the real one, the
authentic one, the truthful one,the one that um you know you are
and you're hiding for whateverreason.
SPEAKER_00 (48:05):
You are you you cannot be compared.
SPEAKER_03 (48:08):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (48:09):
That's what happens when you when you come into your
own purpose.
You can't be compared.
SPEAKER_03 (48:12):
Right.
SPEAKER_00 (48:13):
So you can no longer compare yourself to anyone else.
SPEAKER_03 (48:15):
Right, right.
And then then it just, you know,you get to be, you get to be
fully expressed.
So if you're just using somebodyelse's language or using
somebody else's ideas, you'rekind of copying copying somebody
else's path, and you know, youreally aren't gonna build
confidence.
You're gonna feel all thoseweird feelings of like imposter
(48:35):
syndrome and shit like that.
Because you're not really beingtrue to your own authentic
expression of like, you know,let me let me carve a path, let
me be a trailblazer, let me bethe first.
So we hope this was helpful foryou, gave you a little
confidence boost.
You can always go deeper withus.
The invitation stands, we haveour hands out to you.
(48:58):
Um, let me give you a journalprompt so you have something you
could do with this show.
Where am I waiting for moreconfidence before I show up?
SPEAKER_00 (49:10):
One more time.
SPEAKER_03 (49:12):
Where am I waiting for more confidence before I
show up?
Well, let me add to that.
What would shift if I decided Iwas already enough right now?
SPEAKER_00 (49:24):
Ooh, nice twist.
SPEAKER_03 (49:26):
So those are two to give you to journal on.
And if you're not intojournaling, take this to your
partner.
You guys could also have thisdiscussion, ask each other and
you know, build some intimacyand confidence together.
Because I gotta tell you, whenyou have a partner that fully
sees you and supports you inyour vision for what you want
(49:49):
for the next one, three, fiveyears, you can look to at each
other and be like, hey, I justhad this big opportunity.
And your partner, if you're inresonance, will be like, You
fucking gotta do it.
Like, like, let's go.
Let's do everything we can toprepare for that together.
SPEAKER_00 (50:08):
Or also that may not be an alignment.
I can hold you, I can hold you.
Right.
SPEAKER_03 (50:12):
You can be like, what?
That's not on your that's not onyour path, that's not on your
plan.
SPEAKER_00 (50:16):
That's candy right there.
Leave it, leave it alone.
SPEAKER_03 (50:18):
Yeah, exactly.
Like, that's candy that has asour center, honey.
SPEAKER_00 (50:23):
Exactly.
SPEAKER_03 (50:24):
You're gonna get some free itchy tongue from that
one, you know.
Like you can protect each othertoo.
SPEAKER_00 (50:29):
And we've all felt victim to the candy, you know,
the weird relationship, the thejob you're not supposed to take,
you know, whatever it is.
But candy is always candy fromthat white van.
SPEAKER_03 (50:40):
Watch out.
SPEAKER_00 (50:42):
Seriously.
SPEAKER_03 (50:44):
So we hope this was helpful.
We are sending you the highestvibrations.
SPEAKER_00 (50:48):
You are held.
SPEAKER_03 (50:49):
You are loved.
And sometimes you think you'regetting confidence medicine, and
sometimes they're giving youthat, you know, like white van
candy.
SPEAKER_00 (51:07):
You get that pez.
Pez, pez ain't confidence.
SPEAKER_03 (51:10):
No, you get that candy where it's like, you know,
you have a little bit and thenyou're like, where the fuck am
I?
You just got kidnapped.
You got kidnapped.
They're different.
SPEAKER_01 (51:19):
You're about ready to get ditty.
SPEAKER_03 (51:20):
And and yeah, exactly.
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