April 24, 2025 • 42 mins
That feeling of being "stuck" isn't what you think it is. In this deep-dive conversation, we uncover the surprising truth—you're not actually trapped, you're just comfortable. Too comfortable. And that sensation of stuckness? It's actually your internal compass signaling that you've outgrown your current reality.
We explore the science behind why we get trapped in mental ruts through subconscious habits and "autopilot living." These default patterns form neural pathways that keep us repeating outdated behaviors, even when they no longer serve us. But here's where it gets really interesting—your brain is literally designed for reinvention. Through neuroplasticity, you can rewire your thought patterns at any age, allowing you to recreate yourself whenever you choose.
Many of us have fallen victim to "identity foreclosure"—clinging to outdated roles or adopting beliefs from parents, society, and culture without questioning them. A fascinating 2018 study found this severely impacts psychological well-being and our perceived life possibilities. But we break down how to recognize when you've outgrown an identity and the exact steps to release it.
The most empowering revelation? Reinvention doesn't require a five-year plan—it requires what we call "a brave five minutes" where you make the decision to change, followed by consistent alignment. We share our simple yet powerful four-step method: plant a seed (set an intention), pull a weed (release what's limiting you), water daily (take consistent action), and watch it bloom (visualize your expansion).
Ready to break free from mental ruts and step into a reinvented version of yourself? This episode gives you the framework, the science, and the practical tools to make it happen. Your future self is already reaching back to pull you out of that rut—are you ready to meet them halfway?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Keep it fresh, michael, don't get in a rut.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
You know what?
It is impossible for me to getin a rut.
You know why?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Why.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Because I have a rut-free system.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
You have a rut-free system.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
A rut-free system.
I'll share that system with youlater.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
What's a rut-free?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Actually, I'll share the system with you now.
The rut-free system is to marrya redhead Right, because they
don't allow you to be in rutsfor very long.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Get your ass out of bed.
They light you on fire realquick, exactly what you doing.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Come on, oh, are you in a rut?
Well, guess what?
I go through a phoenix phaseBoom.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
We don't have time to be sad.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
No, not at all, we don't have time to be lazy.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
We got time to be.
Let's go, yo, no, no.
Welcome to the EmpowermentCouple Podcast, where your path
to self-mastery expands.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
My co-host is Empowerment Coach Zuri Starr.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
And he's Expansion Coach Mikey Starr.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Together we are the Empowerment Couple.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Our mission is simple to serve you, love, so you can
make informed decisions toregain and maintain your
personal power.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
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Speaker 2 (01:39):
Together with our special guests.
We are dedicated to sharinginformation that empowers you to
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A one-zine, a two-zine, athree-zine your most beautiful
life.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I got nothing.
I got nothing.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
You're supposed to say something I forgot.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
LFG that's where I can go.
Ooh, I like that.
That's where I forgot LFG let'sfucking go.
That's where I am.
That's the vibe I'm in.
Let's fucking go.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Mine is we're already going, we're already going,
let's keep going.
All right, what do we got today?
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Okay, well, listen A lot of times, what I'm
experiencing in my coachingpractice and also just seeing a
general theme that happens topeople is they get stuck.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
They get stuck.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
And they use that word stuck like it's a thing.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
It's a part of the narrative.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Right, and it's a part of the story and it's like,
oh, I don't know, I feel stuckand the sensation of being stuck
.
None of us are ever reallystuck right Never.
That's the funny thing aboutthat word.
It's like unless you are likein the Grand Canyon, without
like feet.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Without feet.
You're coming up with anexample on the fly and it's not
going to work out for you.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Wait, that is a good example.
If you're in the Grand Canyonwithout feet, you might be stuck
.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
You might be stuck.
Here's a better one.
If you are on the surface ofthe moon and you went and got a
rocket ship home, you're stuck.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
That would be a stuck .
There's very rarely.
When you talk to somebody inthe situation that they're in,
whether they're feeling stuck ornot, they're not really stuck.
Not really Because, likethere's usually a mode of
getting out of the situation,there's a way out.
Exactly what?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
it is.
It's actually when they'restuck.
What it really means is thatthey're comfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Ooh, they're comfortable.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
And getting stuck basically means that you're so
comfortable that you areuncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
And that you're fearful of basically expanding.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Mm-hmm.
So if you're feeling stuck,here's how you can break free.
Mike and I have broke free manytimes from the sensation, or
the mental chatter narrative, ofbeing stuck, quote, unquote,
air quotes, stuck right, andwe're going to teach you how to
(04:12):
as well today.
So if you're really feelingthat sensation of like I'm stuck
, I'm not making any progress,whatever it is, we're going to
dive into that.
And a little preview of thisepisode is we are going to talk
about reinvention, becausereinvention is not just possible
, it's your birthright.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I love that.
I love that.
It's your birthright.
It is designed in your DNA.
You have the ability to rebirthyourself on a regular basis.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Yeah, because, if you think about it, our bodies are
always regenerating and that'sjust part of our makeup as
humans.
So today we are breaking downwhat it means to reset your
internal compass and create anew life chapter from the inside
out.
Boom shakalaka.
Inside indeed, and do you haveany recent stories or what's
(05:01):
going on with you that relatesto reinvention?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
You know what, for me , that's a really easy thing,
because we are in spring, it'sthe season of reinvention.
So I actually spent some time,as you know, in the garden about
two days ago, and I amreinventing a space that was
overgrown and I'm going to putin its space a garden space that
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was overgrown and I'm going toput in its space a garden, right
?
Yes, so so for me, it was more aseeing something that I wanted
to change and actually takingthe necessary steps to make it
happen.
I mean, it wasn't fun work.
However, it required me to belike okay, so what it is do I
really want?
Yes, so how can I make, how canI make it go from looking gross
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to actually looking nice?
Action activity.
You actually have to jump inand actually do it, which is
part of the reinvention processthe will the actions, the
embodiment.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah, for me this time of year it's like birth
month for me, april, and Ialways do a lot of reinventing
and kind of assessing, like, oh,what's happened, and take stock
of, like, where I am.
Um, in a lot of calendars,especially in ancient times,
they used spring as thebeginning of a calendar.
(06:22):
Um, and you, like the Westerncivilization, came up with the
whole January as the middle ofwinter, which doesn't make a lot
of sense, right?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Not even close.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
For me.
I always feel like there is,not just because it's my birth
month, but I do feel likethere's a sense of like renewal,
because you're paying attentionto what's happening with nature
, like you're seeing fresh budsand you're seeing, you know, new
grass and you know, dependingon where you live, you're seeing
, um the birds return and youknow it's like a very special
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time of year.
It's one of my favorite timesof year, but it also is a time
where I feel like you have touncover what isn't working and
focus on where you want to goand identity shifting and all of
that stuff, right, yeah, youhave to do a little bit of
self-assessment.
Mm-hmm.
So we are going to talk aboutthat because it's very present
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in our life and we are seeing somany people on our socials and
in our coaching practice goingthrough the same thing.
So, hey, let's talk about whywe get stuck in the first place.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
That is the perfect place to start.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Right.
So there's four common causesof feeling stuck.
The first is subconscioushabits and autopilot living.
So what do we mean when we talkabout these two things?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Well, I feel like subconscious habits are really
those habits that we don't seebut have a profound effect in
our lives, right?
So one of our subconscioushabits could be that we tend to
be a little bit more cautiousthan we're supposed to be, right
(08:16):
?
Yeah so if we're thinking aboutsomething new coming down the
pike, that subconscious habitcould be like oh, that might be
too big for you, that might betoo big for you, and then,
instead of taking action, you'regoing to pause.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Right, so the subconscious habits are
basically like default patternsand the autopilot living is the
same.
It's like without consciousawareness you're doing these
things.
So a couple examples ofsubconscious habits would be
like reaching for your phonefirst thing in the morning.
So I'm going to tell on myselfthat when I'm out of habit, that
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is something that I will do.
When I'm in habit, I will getup, I will scrape the tongue,
drink the water, do the workoutand then grab my phone after
coffee.
But that is very challengingfor me.
That is something that Istruggle with.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
So subconscious habit example, I think mine is
opening the refrigerator whileI'm not hungry.
Yes, what's in here?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Negative self-talk is a big one, reacting with
defensiveness.
Snacking, for example A lot ofpeople snack when they're bored,
or they stress eat, or theyemotional snack.
And then let's talk about someautopilot living.
Would be like if you aredriving somewhere and then you
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get to the destination, youdon't remember even getting
there because you're in yourhead maybe having a fight with a
coworker or having some type ofprocessing.
So that's like autopilot living.
That would be an example.
Or staying in an unfulfillingrelationship that's like an
extreme example of autopilotliving, where you're just like
doing the thing but not reallyconsciously being in the thing,
(10:04):
like you're disconnected, you'rechecked out.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Yeah, you're in the groove, you don't?
Have to do much, you justfollow the groove Exactly.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Yeah, there's other things, like scrolling social
media for hours and not havingany awareness of how long you've
been doing it.
Another common one is notknowing what you truly want.
Isn't that trippy?
Just like if you aren'tthinking about what you really
want out of your life.
You are going to have anautopilot experience.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Of course.
And then at that point youreally you know it's the Jones
effect.
You're reaching for whateversomeone else around you has.
Right Thinking that that'sexactly what you want, when in
fact, you're just being soldyeah.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Instead of being the pilot, so when, in fact, you're
just being sold, yeah, insteadof being the pilot, so the
autopilot, or you get to be thepilot or co-pilot.
Like if you're in arelationship, you get to be the
co-pilot, but if you're onautopilot, somebody else is
running your show.
You're like a person who has aTesla and they're telling the
Tesla where to go.
Yeah, exactly, you're not incharge anymore, honey.
So what's another one?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Well, there's the tendency to build an identity
based off of old versions ofourselves right.
So let's say you know you arein your 30s or 40s and you're
still dealing with stuff thatyou dealt with in high school,
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right?
You're kind of projecting thoseold patterns onto your new
reality.
So of course you're going to bein the rut because you're
living the same identity overand over and over again the same
narrative over and, over andover again.
It's going to be the samecircumstances but different
characters.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
And number three.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Another one, of course, is the fear of the
unknown right.
So that is a huge one, becausecomfort keeps people static
right.
As long as you're comfortable,you're good.
The minute you have to gooutside your comfort zone,
that's where the fear comes in.
Anything could happen, positiveor negative, yep, but a lot of
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people will stay within theircomfort zone because they're
fearful of the unknown.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yeah, another one would be societal timelines and
expectations.
So these are very common incertain professions.
They'll tell you like oh, youknow, let's say you want to be a
gymnast.
And they're like oh, if youhaven't made it to this level by
the time you're 12, there's noway you can be a gymnast right
(12:35):
and or if you want to be asinger, for example, using
something you know, uh, there'smany times in my career where
they're like, oh, if you haven'tmade it by 19, you're too old.
And it's like what you know,and then, like you know,
obviously this could happen foranybody in any stage of their
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life.
It's the you're too young,you're too old, you're too this,
you know, you're not enoughsomething.
Right, you're too old, you'retoo this, you're not enough
something.
And so I just want to give you acouple good examples of people
who broke the mold, because Ithink that that would be fun.
Just to point out that societymight tell you you can't do
something because of your age orbecause you aren't this or that
(13:18):
enough.
And there's really so manyexamples we could give.
That could be an entire show ofpeople who have broke the mold,
who have figured out a way todo it and have major success,
without fitting inside of thisnarrative Like, oh, after 30,
you're done, you know, orwhatever the number is.
Um, there's like ColonelSanders, which everyone knows,
(13:38):
that story which you know, I'mnot like a.
KFC girl or anything, but whenhe was 62, he founded Kentucky
Fried Chicken after like alifetime of odd jobs and
failures, and I think it waslike over 100 or something times
that he tried to get his recipeto take off.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I always wondered why he always portrayed himself as
an old dude.
No, no, he was.
He was naturally an old dude.
He was an old dude.
No, no, he was.
He was naturally an old dude.
He was an old dude.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Yeah, that's funny, there's so many, but I'll just
name a couple other that I thinkare interesting and obviously
that people will know, just toremind you, if you're feeling
stuck it's not over, if you're40 up or 30 up or 25 up,
whatever age you are.
I hear 19 and 20 year oldsbeing like, oh my gosh, I didn't
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do anything with my life.
I'm like, oh girl, your life isjust starting.
Come on Samuel Jackson.
How old was he when he got hisbreak?
Speaker 2 (14:41):
I would say somewhere in his late 50s.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
No late 40s 46.
Late 40s okay, how old do youthink Martha Stewart was?
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Oh goodness, I'd say late 80s.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Come on, I don't know .
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I'm going to say, based off this game, late 50s.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
This isn't the game, actually, but 41.
Okay, stan Lee.
This is something you shouldknow.
How old was Stan Lee when hedid Spider-Man?
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Oh my goodness, Wasn't he like a he created the
Marvel Universe, right?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
So in case you don't know, this is like I know who
Stan Lee is, I know you do.
Yeah, but the empowered possemay not.
Okay.
He's in a lot of moviesactually, I know, but still, I'm
just saying, if you're not intothe whole pop culture, marvel
thing.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
I'm going to go for late 40s.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
He was 39.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Oh, I was getting close 39.
, yes, 39.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
And then he kept going until his 90s.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
And here's the thing with this, the whole societal
timelines that gets me is likethere are so many people who are
just as talented as all thepeople who you just mentioned
and yet they're doing nothingwith their talents because they
feel that their time has alreadypassed.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, there's a lot of people who are not afraid of
failure, but they're afraid ofsuccess, and in all of that
there's like a lot of regret.
That, I think, is what's most,what's scariest.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
You know, and the thing is is that that also comes
with its own momentum, you know, as you start getting into
those negative emotions.
So that is the definition of arut.
So let's keep going.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
So a 2018 study published in Frontiers in
Psychology found that identityforeclosure, which is clinging
to outdated roles, limitspsychological well-being and
perceived life possibilities.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
So I'm very much looking forward to hearing this
study, but I'm telling you, thisidentity foreclosure is a huge
topic right now.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Yeah, so let's look at the study a little closer,
especially when individualsadopt the rules or beliefs
handed to them by, like theirparents, society, culture, pop
culture, religion definitelyreligion, without question.
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So it's also driven by externalexpectations.
So people foreclose on theiridentity to gain approval, avoid
conflict or follow tradition,rather than exploring their own
desires and truths.
And then there's a lack ofexploration.
So a core feature is nopersonal exploration.
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The person hasn't tried anydifferent roles or questioned
the status quo.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Well, they just stay in plain.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
They simply chose or they were accepted with whatever
was presented and they didn'texplore further.
And then it also.
What they found is that it canlead to a crisis later on.
So, many people experience anidentity crisis, dissatisfaction
or burnout later in life,especially midlife.
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This is that midlife crisispeople talk about.
Or it's like post-career, whenthey've made it to a certain
point.
It's when they don't feelfulfilled anymore, when they're
like, oh, I made it to the topand now what?
And it's not really what theywanted and they didn't explore
anything else, so they didn'teven do the gut check like, oh,
is this what I want?
They're just like, maybeclimbing the corporate ladder.
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That's very common, so maybelet's give some examples.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Yeah, I mean like, like what you said, like
becoming a lawyer or something,because your family expects it.
So, without ever consideringother paths, you become a lawyer
.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Or adopting a religion or a lifestyle or a
political belief system, purelybecause you were raised in it,
right?
So people who were born aDemocrat are always going to be
a Democrat.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
People born you know whatever is always going to be
in that box, and then you havelike and they never like
personally reflected or likechallenged the status quo of
their identity, correct orchallenged the status quo of
their identity.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
Correct Marrying young to fulfill a cultural or a
family norm, having childrenearly not because of their true
emotional readiness, but becausethat's what their moms did.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
It's like they just followed the cycle of
generational path.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Exactly At 20,.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
we had three kids and then boom, yeah yeah, crazy,
okay.
So, looking back at the study,the other thing that they found
was that it might offer sometype of temporary stability.
This is when you go for, likethe money job instead of the
passion project or whatever.
It's usually when parents arelike well, we'll pay for your
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college if you don't become adirty musician, like whatever.
So it often feels safe, secure,initially, because it provides
a clear role or structure, butit lacks like the personal
alignment, like what yourpurpose is or like why you're
here.
That's why it's so beautifulwhen young people, while they're
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still like in high school, likedo perfect purpose statements,
you know, and do the purpose,work and as you know.
Or take a gap year and figureout why they want to be here,
what they actually want to do,like check in.
So here's the path out.
They found that you can beginwith self-inquiry and that is
dis-identifying from rules ormaybe conditioning.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
So basically what works and what doesn't?
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yes, and then it usually involves a period of
uncertainty or exploration, sothey call this identity
moratorium, yeah, and so youbasically are like looking
through, you know, your catalogof like what you want to do with
your life.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
And you know identifying.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Which can be scary.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yes, and like it's a period of uncertainty and
exploration, they say yeah.
And so, yeah, lots and lots offear.
And this is just part of thatpath out.
It's a necessary part ofgetting out, and it often leads
to identity achievement, wherechoices are made from a place of
self-awareness and authenticity.
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Therefore, more fulfillment.
So that's the path out.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
And the positive thing about what you're saying
is like ruts are actually good.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Yeah, they tell you you're going the wrong way.
Yes, it's misalignment.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Ruts are good, and I say they're good for two reasons
.
A, they kind of keep you safeuntil you are strong enough to
climb out of the rut, and onceyou're strong enough to climb
out of the rut, boom.
That's when you connect withthat identity achievement that
you're talking about, where youractions and your choices are
based off of you being centeredright, you being in control,
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versus you following someoneelse's narrative.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yep, yep for sure.
So a good quote for thissection of our show is you can't
start the next chapter of yourlife if you keep rereading the
last one.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Ooh, rereading.
I love that, that is true, I amnot a big fan of rereading, but
I have reread quite a bit in mylife.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
For sure.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
So let's get into this next segment, and this is
going to be about the science ofreinvention, right?
So yes, there is a science.
Part of it, of course, is whatyou're talking about is the
self-assessment and getting intothat work, and a lot of the
times, one of the best tools todo so is meditation, and during
the process of meditation, youhave the capacity and ability to
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change the wiring in your brain, also known as neuroplasticity,
so you can literally rewriteyour brain at any age, and it
really comes down to will andaction.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah, neuroplasticity is the jam.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
Yeah, so it's all about creating new thought
patterns and behaviors, and thatwill lead you to a new identity
reinforcement.
So you want to create somethingbrand new, you're going to have
to do new thoughts and newbehaviors.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
And you can do it at any age.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Any age.
There's a really cool studyfrom a neuroscientist, dr Sarah
Lazar, and she found out thatmeditation self-awareness that
we're talking about changes thestructure of the brain,
thickening regions associatedwith memory, introspection and
emotional regulation.
That is neuroplasticity at work, right there, ooh, now you got
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it.
You like that?
Yeah, I love that.
Well, I'm going to hit you upwith a quick quote from Dr Joe
Dispenza.
He states when you change yourmind, you change your life 100%.
I like the double entendre withthat mind.
You're literally changing yourmind, how you think and actually
how it works, like the physicalpart of your mind.
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It's delicious.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Yes, I love everything, joe Dispenza.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Listen, you're not stuck, You're just rehearsing a
past identity on repeat.
Reinvention is a decision away.
Just one decision One decision.
You like that.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
It's very true, and I do think that when you are
living an identity on repeat,many times it is not consciously
being done.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Yeah, that's that subconscious that we're talking
about.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Yeah, so let's get into segment three Signs it's
time to reinvent baby.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
And let me tell you, the time is always now.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Right.
If this is hitting home, yay.
But here's some signs to lookout for if you feel disconnected
from your work, relationshipsor routines.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
You've outgrown old goals and don't know what's next
.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
Your body is giving you signs, so like fatigue, low
energy, apathy.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
You secretly feel like there's more, but you don't
know how to access it.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
There's like more.
There must be something more,or yeah, there's that feeling of
like incomplete or unfulfilled,and journaling, for example, it
would be a way for you toreally find out what's going on
internally.
It's just kind of let yourselffree, write and figure out, you
know what's going on and let'sgive you a journal prompt.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, I mean, there's no better tool, no better
self-assessment tool thanjournaling, right?
It's like receipt of how you'refeeling in that moment and then
you can go back and track yourprogress.
It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
So here's a good prompt what in my life is no
longer aligned with who I ambecoming?
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Ooh, what in my life is no longer aligned with who I
am becoming.
That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Yeah, and if you don't love journaling, you know
you can also sit in meditationwith some of these prompt ideas
that we give you on our show, oryou can walk in nature with
them.
If you have a question on thebrain, just know it will get
answered.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
Oh yeah, most certainly.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
So let's play a little game.
Is it game time?
It's game time, it's game time.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
All right, all right.
I got a smile on my face.
You know what that means.
That means I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
Got to break it up.
It's time to play Spring Intoyour New Season.
Ooh, A game where we clear theclutter, plant some soulful
seeds and water the version ofyou that's ready to bloom.
Oh, I'm ready to bloom, honey.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
You don't need a new year to start over, zuri.
No, all you need is a newmoment.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Yes, right now.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
How about now?
And a little intention.
So let's begin.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Oh, I love it.
I love a new moment andintention.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Do it.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
Okay, so here's how we're going to play this we're
going to play it's basically infour rounds.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
And we're going to use a spring-inspired metaphor,
or garden-inspired really,because we will play this again.
I never use garden metaphors.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Yeah, I know so you're probably laughing right
now If you are part of theEmpowered Posse and you've heard
our episodes.
We often refer to the gardeningmetaphors for like everything.
So here we go again.
Why not change behavior?
Just keep it going, keep itmoving.
So the first round is going tobe plant a seed, where you are
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essentially manifesting, whichyou know we love over here at
the empowerment couple okay, um,you're gonna set a new
intention or desire, okay, sothis is where you plant a seed.
Okay.
The second phase is going to bepull a weed.
So this means where you'regoing to let go of something
that's draining you, or outdated, no longer working, or where
it's keeping you stuck, maybe.
(27:43):
Okay, um, stopping your growth,you're going to pull that weed,
okay.
Number three is you're going towater it daily.
These are your little actionsteps.
These are habits, uh, rituals.
You're going to choose a small,aligned action or a thought to
nurture the seed.
This is what's going to feedyour seed okay okay, number um,
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you're going to watch it bloom.
So this is where you visualizewho you are becoming.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Oh, I like watching it.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
So more manifestation , okay, so planting a seed.
I'm going to ask you what's onenew desire, goal or frequency
you're ready to call in thisseason and you would say in
response I want to launch myoffer with confidence, for
example.
So I want to blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Okay, okay.
What's one new desire?
I got a whole laundry list.
I want to adopt the practice ofQigong so that I can deepen my
relationship with my physicalbody.
Is that good?
Speaker 1 (28:44):
Yeah, that's great, that's a great seed you're
planting.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
So let's pull a weed.
What's a belief, a habit,distraction or something that's
going to take up your space inyour mental garden that you need
to let it go or pull it out?
Say it out loud.
I want you to imagine releasingit from your nervous system.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Okay, you to imagine releasing it from your nervous
system.
Okay, how about I release thethought that I don't have the
time or focus to start anotherhealthy practice?
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Oh, I like that, I like that.
So a false belief and thatwhole.
Oh, I don't have time.
It's like you got time for whatyou make time for.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
That is true, that is true.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
I love that, okay.
So how are you going to waterit daily?
So what's one small action orthought you'll use to nourish
this new season?
Okay, for example, you'll saysomething like I will, you know,
create like a plan the nightbefore, for example, so that's
how you're going to water it.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Okay, I will spend the first five minutes of my
morning to follow a Qigongsession.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
Oh, I love it.
So you just roll out of bed andbing, bada, bing.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Bada boom.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
That way I don't spend the rest of my day going.
Oh man, when am I going to fitthis in?
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Yeah, so okay, that's how you're going to water it
daily is just by first thing inthe morning.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Got it Okay.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
Okay.
So then let's do the last step,which is to watch it bloom.
All right, so you aremanifesting something right now,
a new habit, a new ritual thatyou are looking to bring into
your life.
You've figured out what youneed to let go of.
You've also figured out howyou're going to sustain it.
So water it, okay.
So I want you to close youreyes all right and I want you to
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visualize yourself in fullbloom.
So close your eyes and I wantyou to visualize.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Close your eyes okay, I'll close my eyes.
I want you to visualizeyourself doing qigong.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Okay, and I want you to visualize yourself doing
Qigong.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
And I want you to visualize what you look like,
what it feels like.
Are you there?
I'm there.
And I want you to feel like allof the senses.
So we know what it looks like.
We know what it feels like.
Breathe into it.
What does it smell like, mm-hmm, and what are you feeling
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inside of your nervous system?
We know what it feels like.
Breathe into it.
What does it smell like andwhat are you feeling inside of
your nervous system?
Does it feel like aligned Does?
Speaker 2 (31:17):
it feel like you can visualize it happening.
I currently see myselfpracticing regularly Because of
how easy and effective qigong is.
I feel myself really benefitingfrom the movements and the
breath and moving my energy,connecting with my meridians.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
And what's different?
Now that you are doing qigongin the morning, what's shifted
in your life?
What are you seeing theoutcomes of this new ritual?
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I have more access to the higher thought patterns in
my mind and I.
It's a certain.
It's most certainly a practicein self-assessment and because
I'm self-assessing regularly, Ihave a better understanding of
my overall patterns and I canreally have a firm grasp on my
(32:08):
own steering wheel, like thedirection I want to go, when I
want to go and how far I want togo.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Awesome.
So if you played along with us,your final step is just to you
know, see yourself and eitherwrite it down or share it with
someone, and what we'd like youto do is to screenshot this
podcast and share what your seedis Like.
What are you manifesting rightnow, and tag us on the
(32:32):
empowerment couple on socialmedia, and you can even hashtag
empowerment couple and we willbe looking out for what seeds
you are planting and we will besupporting you.
You know, pulling out thoseweeds, watering it and watching
them bloom baby.
Boom boom, boom boom.
All right, so I hope you lovethat game.
(32:55):
Oh, I love that game.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
You know it was delicious.
I always use the word delicious, but it is such an easy and
effective way of connecting withyour overall.
You know your higher self andknowing exactly where you want
to go.
It's great.
I actually feel like I'malready practicing Qigong.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Exactly, and that is the goal, is that if you hold
the vibe of that frequency ofalready having it been done,
then you're more a match for it.
Of already having it been done,then you're more a match for it
, and it's just the moreconsistent you are with holding
that vibration in your nervoussystem, then you will align to
it, my friend.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Oh, there we go.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
All right.
So we're going to give you fivesteps to reinvent yourself with
a reinvention ritual that kindof recaps everything that you
just learned from this episode.
And number one is we want youto recognize the rut.
So ask yourself what's drainingme right now?
What's draining me?
Speaker 2 (33:53):
Very simple question.
Number two release the oldidentity, Like who are you when
no one's watching, right?
So what stories are keeping yousmall?
You got to let those go.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Yeah, number three rewire the mind.
So start small New inputs.
You can listen to books.
You can listen to podcasts,like the Paramount Couple
podcast.
I hear that one's really good.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
That one's amazing.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
And you can put in new habits, like we just talked
about in our game, and newlanguage.
So you need to tell a differentstory, use different words and
create a narrative that issupportive of your outcome, your
high self.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
Exactly your reinvention.
Your come up story, your comeup, yeah, your Rocky moment.
Number four reconnect to joy.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Ooh, that's my favorite Follow curiosity over
clarity.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Joy is the breadcrumb trail to reinvention.
Reconnect to joy, right.
That's my favorite.
Follow curiosity over clarity,right.
Joy is the breadcrumb trail toreinvention, right?
So follow your joys, likewhat's turning you on, what
makes you happy.
That will take you out of therut.
What's turning you on, what'sturning you on Right now, what's
turning me on, is Qigong.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
All right, okay, get it chi gong.
All right, okay, get it Numberfive.
And the final step is torebuild through aligned action.
So one bold move a day fromyour future self, and what that
means is that you are going toalign to that version.
So that's why I had you closeyour eyes and really envision
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yourself doing the thing andbeing the thing, and then, as
you are the Qigong master ofyour day, then you are more
aligned with that version.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Did you take me through a time machine?
Speaker 1 (35:41):
I did a little time machine boo.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
So I went to my future self.
My future self came back to mycurrent self, plugged some new
stuff in.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
It was like a dream within a dream.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
The dream within a dream yes, Within a dream.
I got seeded by my future self.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
You did Uh-oh.
And here's the thing you don'tneed a five-year plan.
When you align and manifest,you really need a brave five
minutes.
Make the decision with thatbrave five minutes and the rest
is just alignment.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
You know, we don't have to be brave all day.
We just just five minutes,we'll do it.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
Just five minutes, it's true.
Right, we can be Popeye forfive minutes.
Popeye.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
There's a good quote from Jay Shetty that you were
going to share.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Yes, Don't be afraid to start over.
This time.
You're not starting fromscratch.
You're starting from experience.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
Love that experience.
Thank you, Jay.
So remember, this is your recap.
Stuckness is just a signal, nota life sentence.
Speaker 2 (36:46):
No, reinvention is not a midlife crisis.
It is a soul initiation.
Your soul is being initiated toits higher version, initiated.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
Initiated right.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Your future self reached deep down into that rut
and pulled you out just longenough for you to say hey look,
there's something else for you.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
A little thought, a little action.
You're right.
In the rain it's just a nudgefrom the universe to be like hey
time to reinvent honey.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
You know what?
There's times in my life rightnow.
I mean not times in my life.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
There's times in my life right now, no, no no, no,
no.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
I mean not times in my life.
There's times in my life rightnow, no, no, no, no, no.
There's times in my life in thepast that I would like to go
back to and be like you knowwhat?
I'm just going to give myselfthis extra little boost.
I'm imagining that my futureself has done that with me
already.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Yes, your future self is living here within a dream,
within a dream, within a dream.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
Tapping on my shoulder, hey Mike.
Within a dream, within a dreamTapping on my shoulder, hey Mike
, yes, go do Qigong now.
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Yeah, well, what I would recommend as your
empowerment coach, if I may, isyou pick the Qigong that you're
going to do for tomorrow morning.
You know the sequence tonight.
Yes, I already have it and haveit pulled up so that you're not
fumbling around the first fiveminutes looking for it in the
morning.
You've got it locked.
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If you set up your morning thenight before, you're good to go
yo.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
You know what?
I will give this to you.
You have a brand new, beautifulhabit of doing this new routine
in the morning while I'm makingcoffee.
And I was thinking as I'mmaking coffee I need a routine
whilst I'm making coffee.
I don't want to fall behindhere.
Right, I'm realizing I'm makingcoffee and I'm hearing you
breathe and grunt and I'm likedamn, she's getting a freaking
(38:34):
jump start.
I'm like no son.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
And then I come out all happy All happy and I'm like
grumpy, I'm like I'm like kindof a happy person, though, in
the morning too, and you tend tonot be as happy.
Careful, I'm careful, I'mcareful.
I'm really curious to see whathappens.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
I just handed you a compliment After your Qigong.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
No, I'm saying like I am all happy and thank you for
acknowledging my habit.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
And yes, I'm killing it, I'm killing it, You're
killing it and you're like, ohyeah, but you're grumpy in the
morning.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
No, but I'm saying in general.
In general, would you agreethat you are not a happy morning
person?
You don't wake up happy.
Speaker 2 (39:16):
It all depends on how much sleep I got the night
before.
My mornings depend on myevenings.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
Exactly, but your evenings are not setting up your
mornings.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
That's correct.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
So that would be a weed that you need to pull.
Why, thank you?
Speaker 2 (39:33):
You're welcome.
Thank you, you're welcome.
Is that something?
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Yes, you're welcome this ritual of plant a seed.
Speaker 2 (39:44):
Pull a weed.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Pull a weed Water, the seed watch it bloom.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
I love that, right.
So this is a planting chart forthings that you want.
Yes, right, it's so easy.
Plant a seed, pull a weed waterdaily, watch it bloom.
Yes, like I feel, as we'respeaking, I have a qigong
practice rushing towards me.
Yeah, so I can only imagineanyone who played along.
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If they actually wrote thingsdown, they are going to have
those things rushing towardsthem as we speak.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
And I will say that the other part of this is that
you've committed to it, theuniverse, by announcing it, you
know, like on a podcast, hello.
But if you tag us on social,that's your commitment to the
universe.
And so then, once the universeknows what you want, you're
basically professing like thisis what I want, and the universe
(40:39):
conspires to meet you.
And so the only way that itgets blocked is if you, you
block it, if you block it byyour low vibes, your you know
nervous system.
That isn't a match for thething.
Um, if you, you know like,block it by just having a bad
mental, you know thoughtpatterns where you're like, oh,
(41:00):
I don't need fucking Qigong,like whatever the thing is right
.
So when you reject it, like youreject what you wanted because
of like usually fear laziness,like you know the whole apathy
thing that we're talking about.
So really, that's a majorcomponent is that if you tell
people, then you kind of areholding yourself accountable
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because you don't want to tellpeople you're going to do
something and then not do it.
Speaker 2 (41:25):
If you have in your possession an idea, a thought,
something that's so huge thatyou're holding on to because of
something else, let that go.
Like what you have in your handis a gift, use it, play it,
present it.
That's what it's for.
You're not supposed to hold onto them.
You're supposed to share yourgifts.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Word Totally agree, we are in alignment.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
We tend to be.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
Well, we are sending you the highest vibrations.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
You are held.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
You are loved.
Speaker 2 (42:08):
Pulling the weed.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
I told you.
I asked if I could be yourempowerment coach for a minute.
I asked permission.
I said if I may.
You said, mm-hmm, Roll the tape.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
And the redhead continues.
That's why you don't get in arut with the redhead.
Speaker 1 (42:26):
No, you don't.
No, no, redheads are just.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
You just get roughed up.
What would you like, sir?
A rut or getting roughed up?
I'll go for the rough up.
Speaker 1 (42:37):
Roughed up by a redhead.
Yeah, here you go, you're aredhead.
You're welcome, sir.
You are welcome.
Keep it fresh, michael, don't get in a rut.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
You know what?
It is impossible for me to getin a rut.
You know why?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Why.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Because I have a rut-free system.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
You have a rut-free system.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
A rut-free system.
I'll share that system with youlater.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
What's a rut-free?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Actually, I'll share the system with you now.
The rut-free system is to marrya redhead Right, because they
don't allow you to be in rutsfor very long.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Get your ass out of bed.
They light you on fire realquick, exactly what you doing.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Come on, oh, are you in a rut?
Well, guess what?
I go through a phoenix phaseBoom.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
We don't have time to be sad.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
No, not at all, we don't have time to be lazy.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
We got time to be.
Let's go, yo, no, no.
Welcome to the EmpowermentCouple Podcast, where your path
to self-mastery expands.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
My co-host is Empowerment Coach Zuri Starr.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
And he's Expansion Coach Mikey Starr.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Together we are the Empowerment Couple.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Our mission is simple to serve you, love, so you can
make informed decisions toregain and maintain your
personal power.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
We'll take you on a journey to a life filled with
purpose, passion and limitlesspossibilities, while sharing
stories of transformation,wellness hacks and healthy
habits backed by science andancient wisdom.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Plus, we'll keep you entertained with engaging games,
banter and funny innuendosalong the way.
Each episode is an excitingblend of education,
entertainment and empowermentdesigned to help you create a
mindset to be a magnet for morelove, happiness and abundance.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Together with our special guests.
We are dedicated to sharinginformation that empowers you to
create your most beautiful life.
A one-zine, a two-zine, athree-zine your most beautiful
life.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
I got nothing.
I got nothing.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
You're supposed to say something I forgot.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
LFG that's where I can go.
Ooh, I like that.
That's where I forgot LFG let'sfucking go.
That's where I am.
That's the vibe I'm in.
Let's fucking go.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Mine is we're already going, we're already going,
let's keep going.
All right, what do we got today?
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Okay, well, listen A lot of times, what I'm
experiencing in my coachingpractice and also just seeing a
general theme that happens topeople is they get stuck.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
They get stuck.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
And they use that word stuck like it's a thing.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
It's a part of the narrative.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Right, and it's a part of the story and it's like,
oh, I don't know, I feel stuckand the sensation of being stuck
.
None of us are ever reallystuck right Never.
That's the funny thing aboutthat word.
It's like unless you are likein the Grand Canyon, without
like feet.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Without feet.
You're coming up with anexample on the fly and it's not
going to work out for you.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Wait, that is a good example.
If you're in the Grand Canyonwithout feet, you might be stuck
.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
You might be stuck.
Here's a better one.
If you are on the surface ofthe moon and you went and got a
rocket ship home, you're stuck.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
That would be a stuck .
There's very rarely.
When you talk to somebody inthe situation that they're in,
whether they're feeling stuck ornot, they're not really stuck.
Not really Because, likethere's usually a mode of
getting out of the situation,there's a way out.
Exactly what?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
it is.
It's actually when they'restuck.
What it really means is thatthey're comfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Ooh, they're comfortable.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
And getting stuck basically means that you're so
comfortable that you areuncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
And that you're fearful of basically expanding.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Mm-hmm.
So if you're feeling stuck,here's how you can break free.
Mike and I have broke free manytimes from the sensation, or
the mental chatter narrative, ofbeing stuck, quote, unquote,
air quotes, stuck right, andwe're going to teach you how to
(04:12):
as well today.
So if you're really feelingthat sensation of like I'm stuck
, I'm not making any progress,whatever it is, we're going to
dive into that.
And a little preview of thisepisode is we are going to talk
about reinvention, becausereinvention is not just possible
, it's your birthright.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
I love that.
I love that.
It's your birthright.
It is designed in your DNA.
You have the ability to rebirthyourself on a regular basis.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Yeah, because, if you think about it, our bodies are
always regenerating and that'sjust part of our makeup as
humans.
So today we are breaking downwhat it means to reset your
internal compass and create anew life chapter from the inside
out.
Boom shakalaka.
Inside indeed, and do you haveany recent stories or what's
(05:01):
going on with you that relatesto reinvention?
Speaker 2 (05:04):
You know what, for me , that's a really easy thing,
because we are in spring, it'sthe season of reinvention.
So I actually spent some time,as you know, in the garden about
two days ago, and I amreinventing a space that was
overgrown and I'm going to putin its space a garden space that
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was overgrown and I'm going toput in its space a garden, right
?
Yes, so so for me, it was more aseeing something that I wanted
to change and actually takingthe necessary steps to make it
happen.
I mean, it wasn't fun work.
However, it required me to belike okay, so what it is do I
really want?
Yes, so how can I make, how canI make it go from looking gross
(05:48):
to actually looking nice?
Action activity.
You actually have to jump inand actually do it, which is
part of the reinvention processthe will the actions, the
embodiment.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Yeah, for me this time of year it's like birth
month for me, april, and Ialways do a lot of reinventing
and kind of assessing, like, oh,what's happened, and take stock
of, like, where I am.
Um, in a lot of calendars,especially in ancient times,
they used spring as thebeginning of a calendar.
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Um, and you, like the Westerncivilization, came up with the
whole January as the middle ofwinter, which doesn't make a lot
of sense, right?
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Not even close.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
For me.
I always feel like there is,not just because it's my birth
month, but I do feel likethere's a sense of like renewal,
because you're paying attentionto what's happening with nature
, like you're seeing fresh budsand you're seeing, you know, new
grass and you know, dependingon where you live, you're seeing
, um the birds return and youknow it's like a very special
(06:58):
time of year.
It's one of my favorite timesof year, but it also is a time
where I feel like you have touncover what isn't working and
focus on where you want to goand identity shifting and all of
that stuff, right, yeah, youhave to do a little bit of
self-assessment.
Mm-hmm.
So we are going to talk aboutthat because it's very present
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in our life and we are seeing somany people on our socials and
in our coaching practice goingthrough the same thing.
So, hey, let's talk about whywe get stuck in the first place.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
That is the perfect place to start.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Right.
So there's four common causesof feeling stuck.
The first is subconscioushabits and autopilot living.
So what do we mean when we talkabout these two things?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Well, I feel like subconscious habits are really
those habits that we don't seebut have a profound effect in
our lives, right?
So one of our subconscioushabits could be that we tend to
be a little bit more cautiousthan we're supposed to be, right
(08:16):
?
Yeah so if we're thinking aboutsomething new coming down the
pike, that subconscious habitcould be like oh, that might be
too big for you, that might betoo big for you, and then,
instead of taking action, you'regoing to pause.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Right, so the subconscious habits are
basically like default patternsand the autopilot living is the
same.
It's like without consciousawareness you're doing these
things.
So a couple examples ofsubconscious habits would be
like reaching for your phonefirst thing in the morning.
So I'm going to tell on myselfthat when I'm out of habit, that
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is something that I will do.
When I'm in habit, I will getup, I will scrape the tongue,
drink the water, do the workoutand then grab my phone after
coffee.
But that is very challengingfor me.
That is something that Istruggle with.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
So subconscious habit example, I think mine is
opening the refrigerator whileI'm not hungry.
Yes, what's in here?
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Negative self-talk is a big one, reacting with
defensiveness.
Snacking, for example A lot ofpeople snack when they're bored,
or they stress eat, or theyemotional snack.
And then let's talk about someautopilot living.
Would be like if you aredriving somewhere and then you
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get to the destination, youdon't remember even getting
there because you're in yourhead maybe having a fight with a
coworker or having some type ofprocessing.
So that's like autopilot living.
That would be an example.
Or staying in an unfulfillingrelationship that's like an
extreme example of autopilotliving, where you're just like
doing the thing but not reallyconsciously being in the thing,
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like you're disconnected, you'rechecked out.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Yeah, you're in the groove, you don't?
Have to do much, you justfollow the groove Exactly.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Yeah, there's other things, like scrolling social
media for hours and not havingany awareness of how long you've
been doing it.
Another common one is notknowing what you truly want.
Isn't that trippy?
Just like if you aren'tthinking about what you really
want out of your life.
You are going to have anautopilot experience.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Of course.
And then at that point youreally you know it's the Jones
effect.
You're reaching for whateversomeone else around you has.
Right Thinking that that'sexactly what you want, when in
fact, you're just being soldyeah.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Instead of being the pilot, so when, in fact, you're
just being sold, yeah, insteadof being the pilot, so the
autopilot, or you get to be thepilot or co-pilot.
Like if you're in arelationship, you get to be the
co-pilot, but if you're onautopilot, somebody else is
running your show.
You're like a person who has aTesla and they're telling the
Tesla where to go.
Yeah, exactly, you're not incharge anymore, honey.
So what's another one?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Well, there's the tendency to build an identity
based off of old versions ofourselves right.
So let's say you know you arein your 30s or 40s and you're
still dealing with stuff thatyou dealt with in high school,
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right?
You're kind of projecting thoseold patterns onto your new
reality.
So of course you're going to bein the rut because you're
living the same identity overand over and over again the same
narrative over and, over andover again.
It's going to be the samecircumstances but different
characters.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
And number three.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Another one, of course, is the fear of the
unknown right.
So that is a huge one, becausecomfort keeps people static
right.
As long as you're comfortable,you're good.
The minute you have to gooutside your comfort zone,
that's where the fear comes in.
Anything could happen, positiveor negative, yep, but a lot of
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people will stay within theircomfort zone because they're
fearful of the unknown.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yeah, another one would be societal timelines and
expectations.
So these are very common incertain professions.
They'll tell you like oh, youknow, let's say you want to be a
gymnast.
And they're like oh, if youhaven't made it to this level by
the time you're 12, there's noway you can be a gymnast right
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and or if you want to be asinger, for example, using
something you know, uh, there'smany times in my career where
they're like, oh, if you haven'tmade it by 19, you're too old.
And it's like what you know,and then, like you know,
obviously this could happen foranybody in any stage of their
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life.
It's the you're too young,you're too old, you're too this,
you know, you're not enoughsomething.
Right, you're too old, you'retoo this, you're not enough
something.
And so I just want to give you acouple good examples of people
who broke the mold, because Ithink that that would be fun.
Just to point out that societymight tell you you can't do
something because of your age orbecause you aren't this or that
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enough.
And there's really so manyexamples we could give.
That could be an entire show ofpeople who have broke the mold,
who have figured out a way todo it and have major success,
without fitting inside of thisnarrative Like, oh, after 30,
you're done, you know, orwhatever the number is.
Um, there's like ColonelSanders, which everyone knows,
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that story which you know, I'mnot like a.
KFC girl or anything, but whenhe was 62, he founded Kentucky
Fried Chicken after like alifetime of odd jobs and
failures, and I think it waslike over 100 or something times
that he tried to get his recipeto take off.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I always wondered why he always portrayed himself as
an old dude.
No, no, he was.
He was naturally an old dude.
He was an old dude.
No, no, he was.
He was naturally an old dude.
He was an old dude.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Yeah, that's funny, there's so many, but I'll just
name a couple other that I thinkare interesting and obviously
that people will know, just toremind you, if you're feeling
stuck it's not over, if you're40 up or 30 up or 25 up,
whatever age you are.
I hear 19 and 20 year oldsbeing like, oh my gosh, I didn't
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do anything with my life.
I'm like, oh girl, your life isjust starting.
Come on Samuel Jackson.
How old was he when he got hisbreak?
Speaker 2 (14:41):
I would say somewhere in his late 50s.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
No late 40s 46.
Late 40s okay, how old do youthink Martha Stewart was?
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Oh goodness, I'd say late 80s.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Come on, I don't know .
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I'm going to say, based off this game, late 50s.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
This isn't the game, actually, but 41.
Okay, stan Lee.
This is something you shouldknow.
How old was Stan Lee when hedid Spider-Man?
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Oh my goodness, Wasn't he like a he created the
Marvel Universe, right?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
So in case you don't know, this is like I know who
Stan Lee is, I know you do.
Yeah, but the empowered possemay not.
Okay.
He's in a lot of moviesactually, I know, but still, I'm
just saying, if you're not intothe whole pop culture, marvel
thing.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
I'm going to go for late 40s.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
He was 39.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Oh, I was getting close 39.
, yes, 39.
Speaker 1 (15:38):
And then he kept going until his 90s.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
And here's the thing with this, the whole societal
timelines that gets me is likethere are so many people who are
just as talented as all thepeople who you just mentioned
and yet they're doing nothingwith their talents because they
feel that their time has alreadypassed.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yeah, there's a lot of people who are not afraid of
failure, but they're afraid ofsuccess, and in all of that
there's like a lot of regret.
That, I think, is what's most,what's scariest.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
You know, and the thing is is that that also comes
with its own momentum, you know, as you start getting into
those negative emotions.
So that is the definition of arut.
So let's keep going.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
So a 2018 study published in Frontiers in
Psychology found that identityforeclosure, which is clinging
to outdated roles, limitspsychological well-being and
perceived life possibilities.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
So I'm very much looking forward to hearing this
study, but I'm telling you, thisidentity foreclosure is a huge
topic right now.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Yeah, so let's look at the study a little closer,
especially when individualsadopt the rules or beliefs
handed to them by, like theirparents, society, culture, pop
culture, religion definitelyreligion, without question.
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So it's also driven by externalexpectations.
So people foreclose on theiridentity to gain approval, avoid
conflict or follow tradition,rather than exploring their own
desires and truths.
And then there's a lack ofexploration.
So a core feature is nopersonal exploration.
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The person hasn't tried anydifferent roles or questioned
the status quo.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
Well, they just stay in plain.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
They simply chose or they were accepted with whatever
was presented and they didn'texplore further.
And then it also.
What they found is that it canlead to a crisis later on.
So, many people experience anidentity crisis, dissatisfaction
or burnout later in life,especially midlife.
(18:03):
This is that midlife crisispeople talk about.
Or it's like post-career, whenthey've made it to a certain
point.
It's when they don't feelfulfilled anymore, when they're
like, oh, I made it to the topand now what?
And it's not really what theywanted and they didn't explore
anything else, so they didn'teven do the gut check like, oh,
is this what I want?
They're just like, maybeclimbing the corporate ladder.
(18:26):
That's very common, so maybelet's give some examples.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Yeah, I mean like, like what you said, like
becoming a lawyer or something,because your family expects it.
So, without ever consideringother paths, you become a lawyer
.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
Or adopting a religion or a lifestyle or a
political belief system, purelybecause you were raised in it,
right?
So people who were born aDemocrat are always going to be
a Democrat.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
People born you know whatever is always going to be
in that box, and then you havelike and they never like
personally reflected or likechallenged the status quo of
their identity, correct orchallenged the status quo of
their identity.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
Correct Marrying young to fulfill a cultural or a
family norm, having childrenearly not because of their true
emotional readiness, but becausethat's what their moms did.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
It's like they just followed the cycle of
generational path.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Exactly At 20,.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
we had three kids and then boom, yeah yeah, crazy,
okay.
So, looking back at the study,the other thing that they found
was that it might offer sometype of temporary stability.
This is when you go for, likethe money job instead of the
passion project or whatever.
It's usually when parents arelike well, we'll pay for your
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college if you don't become adirty musician, like whatever.
So it often feels safe, secure,initially, because it provides
a clear role or structure, butit lacks like the personal
alignment, like what yourpurpose is or like why you're
here.
That's why it's so beautifulwhen young people, while they're
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still like in high school, likedo perfect purpose statements,
you know, and do the purpose,work and as you know.
Or take a gap year and figureout why they want to be here,
what they actually want to do,like check in.
So here's the path out.
They found that you can beginwith self-inquiry and that is
dis-identifying from rules ormaybe conditioning.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
So basically what works and what doesn't?
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yes, and then it usually involves a period of
uncertainty or exploration, sothey call this identity
moratorium, yeah, and so youbasically are like looking
through, you know, your catalogof like what you want to do with
your life.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
And you know identifying.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Which can be scary.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yes, and like it's a period of uncertainty and
exploration, they say yeah.
And so, yeah, lots and lots offear.
And this is just part of thatpath out.
It's a necessary part ofgetting out, and it often leads
to identity achievement, wherechoices are made from a place of
self-awareness and authenticity.
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Therefore, more fulfillment.
So that's the path out.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
And the positive thing about what you're saying
is like ruts are actually good.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Yeah, they tell you you're going the wrong way.
Yes, it's misalignment.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Ruts are good, and I say they're good for two reasons
.
A, they kind of keep you safeuntil you are strong enough to
climb out of the rut, and onceyou're strong enough to climb
out of the rut, boom.
That's when you connect withthat identity achievement that
you're talking about, where youractions and your choices are
based off of you being centeredright, you being in control,
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versus you following someoneelse's narrative.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Yep, yep for sure.
So a good quote for thissection of our show is you can't
start the next chapter of yourlife if you keep rereading the
last one.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Ooh, rereading.
I love that, that is true, I amnot a big fan of rereading, but
I have reread quite a bit in mylife.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
For sure.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
So let's get into this next segment, and this is
going to be about the science ofreinvention, right?
So yes, there is a science.
Part of it, of course, is whatyou're talking about is the
self-assessment and getting intothat work, and a lot of the
times, one of the best tools todo so is meditation, and during
the process of meditation, youhave the capacity and ability to
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change the wiring in your brain, also known as neuroplasticity,
so you can literally rewriteyour brain at any age, and it
really comes down to will andaction.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah, neuroplasticity is the jam.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
Yeah, so it's all about creating new thought
patterns and behaviors, and thatwill lead you to a new identity
reinforcement.
So you want to create somethingbrand new, you're going to have
to do new thoughts and newbehaviors.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
And you can do it at any age.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
Any age.
There's a really cool studyfrom a neuroscientist, dr Sarah
Lazar, and she found out thatmeditation self-awareness that
we're talking about changes thestructure of the brain,
thickening regions associatedwith memory, introspection and
emotional regulation.
That is neuroplasticity at work, right there, ooh, now you got
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it.
You like that?
Yeah, I love that.
Well, I'm going to hit you upwith a quick quote from Dr Joe
Dispenza.
He states when you change yourmind, you change your life 100%.
I like the double entendre withthat mind.
You're literally changing yourmind, how you think and actually
how it works, like the physicalpart of your mind.
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It's delicious.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Yes, I love everything, joe Dispenza.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Listen, you're not stuck, You're just rehearsing a
past identity on repeat.
Reinvention is a decision away.
Just one decision One decision.
You like that.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
It's very true, and I do think that when you are
living an identity on repeat,many times it is not consciously
being done.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
Yeah, that's that subconscious that we're talking
about.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Yeah, so let's get into segment three Signs it's
time to reinvent baby.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
And let me tell you, the time is always now.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
Right.
If this is hitting home, yay.
But here's some signs to lookout for if you feel disconnected
from your work, relationshipsor routines.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
You've outgrown old goals and don't know what's next
.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
Your body is giving you signs, so like fatigue, low
energy, apathy.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
You secretly feel like there's more, but you don't
know how to access it.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
There's like more.
There must be something more,or yeah, there's that feeling of
like incomplete or unfulfilled,and journaling, for example, it
would be a way for you toreally find out what's going on
internally.
It's just kind of let yourselffree, write and figure out, you
know what's going on and let'sgive you a journal prompt.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, I mean, there's no better tool, no better
self-assessment tool thanjournaling, right?
It's like receipt of how you'refeeling in that moment and then
you can go back and track yourprogress.
It's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
So here's a good prompt what in my life is no
longer aligned with who I ambecoming?
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Ooh, what in my life is no longer aligned with who I
am becoming.
That's a good one.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Yeah, and if you don't love journaling, you know
you can also sit in meditationwith some of these prompt ideas
that we give you on our show, oryou can walk in nature with
them.
If you have a question on thebrain, just know it will get
answered.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
Oh yeah, most certainly.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
So let's play a little game.
Is it game time?
It's game time, it's game time.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
All right, all right.
I got a smile on my face.
You know what that means.
That means I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
Got to break it up.
It's time to play Spring Intoyour New Season.
Ooh, A game where we clear theclutter, plant some soulful
seeds and water the version ofyou that's ready to bloom.
Oh, I'm ready to bloom, honey.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
You don't need a new year to start over, zuri.
No, all you need is a newmoment.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Yes, right now.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
How about now?
And a little intention.
So let's begin.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Oh, I love it.
I love a new moment andintention.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Do it.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
Okay, so here's how we're going to play this we're
going to play it's basically infour rounds.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
And we're going to use a spring-inspired metaphor,
or garden-inspired really,because we will play this again.
I never use garden metaphors.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Yeah, I know so you're probably laughing right
now If you are part of theEmpowered Posse and you've heard
our episodes.
We often refer to the gardeningmetaphors for like everything.
So here we go again.
Why not change behavior?
Just keep it going, keep itmoving.
So the first round is going tobe plant a seed, where you are
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essentially manifesting, whichyou know we love over here at
the empowerment couple okay, um,you're gonna set a new
intention or desire, okay, sothis is where you plant a seed.
Okay.
The second phase is going to bepull a weed.
So this means where you'regoing to let go of something
that's draining you, or outdated, no longer working, or where
it's keeping you stuck, maybe.
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Okay, um, stopping your growth,you're going to pull that weed,
okay.
Number three is you're going towater it daily.
These are your little actionsteps.
These are habits, uh, rituals.
You're going to choose a small,aligned action or a thought to
nurture the seed.
This is what's going to feedyour seed okay okay, number um,
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you're going to watch it bloom.
So this is where you visualizewho you are becoming.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Oh, I like watching it.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
So more manifestation , okay, so planting a seed.
I'm going to ask you what's onenew desire, goal or frequency
you're ready to call in thisseason and you would say in
response I want to launch myoffer with confidence, for
example.
So I want to blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Okay, okay.
What's one new desire?
I got a whole laundry list.
I want to adopt the practice ofQigong so that I can deepen my
relationship with my physicalbody.
Is that good?
Speaker 1 (28:44):
Yeah, that's great, that's a great seed you're
planting.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
So let's pull a weed.
What's a belief, a habit,distraction or something that's
going to take up your space inyour mental garden that you need
to let it go or pull it out?
Say it out loud.
I want you to imagine releasingit from your nervous system.
Speaker 2 (29:04):
Okay, you to imagine releasing it from your nervous
system.
Okay, how about I release thethought that I don't have the
time or focus to start anotherhealthy practice?
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Oh, I like that, I like that.
So a false belief and thatwhole.
Oh, I don't have time.
It's like you got time for whatyou make time for.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
That is true, that is true.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
I love that, okay.
So how are you going to waterit daily?
So what's one small action orthought you'll use to nourish
this new season?
Okay, for example, you'll saysomething like I will, you know,
create like a plan the nightbefore, for example, so that's
how you're going to water it.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
Okay, I will spend the first five minutes of my
morning to follow a Qigongsession.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
Oh, I love it.
So you just roll out of bed andbing, bada, bing.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Bada boom.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
That way I don't spend the rest of my day going.
Oh man, when am I going to fitthis in?
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Yeah, so okay, that's how you're going to water it
daily is just by first thing inthe morning.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Got it Okay.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
Okay.
So then let's do the last step,which is to watch it bloom.
All right, so you aremanifesting something right now,
a new habit, a new ritual thatyou are looking to bring into
your life.
You've figured out what youneed to let go of.
You've also figured out howyou're going to sustain it.
So water it, okay.
So I want you to close youreyes all right and I want you to
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visualize yourself in fullbloom.
So close your eyes and I wantyou to visualize.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Close your eyes okay, I'll close my eyes.
I want you to visualizeyourself doing qigong.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
Okay, and I want you to visualize yourself doing
Qigong.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
And I want you to visualize what you look like,
what it feels like.
Are you there?
I'm there.
And I want you to feel like allof the senses.
So we know what it looks like.
We know what it feels like.
Breathe into it.
What does it smell like, mm-hmm, and what are you feeling
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inside of your nervous system?
We know what it feels like.
Breathe into it.
What does it smell like andwhat are you feeling inside of
your nervous system?
Does it feel like aligned Does?
Speaker 2 (31:17):
it feel like you can visualize it happening.
I currently see myselfpracticing regularly Because of
how easy and effective qigong is.
I feel myself really benefitingfrom the movements and the
breath and moving my energy,connecting with my meridians.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
And what's different?
Now that you are doing qigongin the morning, what's shifted
in your life?
What are you seeing theoutcomes of this new ritual?
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I have more access to the higher thought patterns in
my mind and I.
It's a certain.
It's most certainly a practicein self-assessment and because
I'm self-assessing regularly, Ihave a better understanding of
my overall patterns and I canreally have a firm grasp on my
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own steering wheel, like thedirection I want to go, when I
want to go and how far I want togo.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Awesome.
So if you played along with us,your final step is just to you
know, see yourself and eitherwrite it down or share it with
someone, and what we'd like youto do is to screenshot this
podcast and share what your seedis Like.
What are you manifesting rightnow, and tag us on the
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empowerment couple on socialmedia, and you can even hashtag
empowerment couple and we willbe looking out for what seeds
you are planting and we will besupporting you.
You know, pulling out thoseweeds, watering it and watching
them bloom baby.
Boom boom, boom boom.
All right, so I hope you lovethat game.
(32:55):
Oh, I love that game.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
You know it was delicious.
I always use the word delicious, but it is such an easy and
effective way of connecting withyour overall.
You know your higher self andknowing exactly where you want
to go.
It's great.
I actually feel like I'malready practicing Qigong.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
Exactly, and that is the goal, is that if you hold
the vibe of that frequency ofalready having it been done,
then you're more a match for it.
Of already having it been done,then you're more a match for it
, and it's just the moreconsistent you are with holding
that vibration in your nervoussystem, then you will align to
it, my friend.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Oh, there we go.
Speaker 1 (33:32):
All right.
So we're going to give you fivesteps to reinvent yourself with
a reinvention ritual that kindof recaps everything that you
just learned from this episode.
And number one is we want youto recognize the rut.
So ask yourself what's drainingme right now?
What's draining me?
Speaker 2 (33:53):
Very simple question.
Number two release the oldidentity, Like who are you when
no one's watching, right?
So what stories are keeping yousmall?
You got to let those go.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Yeah, number three rewire the mind.
So start small New inputs.
You can listen to books.
You can listen to podcasts,like the Paramount Couple
podcast.
I hear that one's really good.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
That one's amazing.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
And you can put in new habits, like we just talked
about in our game, and newlanguage.
So you need to tell a differentstory, use different words and
create a narrative that issupportive of your outcome, your
high self.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
Exactly your reinvention.
Your come up story, your comeup, yeah, your Rocky moment.
Number four reconnect to joy.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
Ooh, that's my favorite Follow curiosity over
clarity.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Joy is the breadcrumb trail to reinvention.
Reconnect to joy, right.
That's my favorite.
Follow curiosity over clarity,right.
Joy is the breadcrumb trail toreinvention, right?
So follow your joys, likewhat's turning you on, what
makes you happy.
That will take you out of therut.
What's turning you on, what'sturning you on Right now, what's
turning me on, is Qigong.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
All right, okay, get it chi gong.
All right, okay, get it Numberfive.
And the final step is torebuild through aligned action.
So one bold move a day fromyour future self, and what that
means is that you are going toalign to that version.
So that's why I had you closeyour eyes and really envision
(35:26):
yourself doing the thing andbeing the thing, and then, as
you are the Qigong master ofyour day, then you are more
aligned with that version.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
Did you take me through a time machine?
Speaker 1 (35:41):
I did a little time machine boo.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
So I went to my future self.
My future self came back to mycurrent self, plugged some new
stuff in.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
It was like a dream within a dream.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
The dream within a dream yes, Within a dream.
I got seeded by my future self.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
You did Uh-oh.
And here's the thing you don'tneed a five-year plan.
When you align and manifest,you really need a brave five
minutes.
Make the decision with thatbrave five minutes and the rest
is just alignment.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
You know, we don't have to be brave all day.
We just just five minutes,we'll do it.
Speaker 1 (36:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
Just five minutes, it's true.
Right, we can be Popeye forfive minutes.
Popeye.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
There's a good quote from Jay Shetty that you were
going to share.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
Yes, Don't be afraid to start over.
This time.
You're not starting fromscratch.
You're starting from experience.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
Love that experience.
Thank you, Jay.
So remember, this is your recap.
Stuckness is just a signal, nota life sentence.
Speaker 2 (36:46):
No, reinvention is not a midlife crisis.
It is a soul initiation.
Your soul is being initiated toits higher version, initiated.
Speaker 1 (36:59):
Initiated right.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Your future self reached deep down into that rut
and pulled you out just longenough for you to say hey look,
there's something else for you.
Speaker 1 (37:13):
A little thought, a little action.
You're right.
In the rain it's just a nudgefrom the universe to be like hey
time to reinvent honey.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
You know what?
There's times in my life rightnow.
I mean not times in my life.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
There's times in my life right now, no, no no, no,
no.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
I mean not times in my life.
There's times in my life rightnow, no, no, no, no, no.
There's times in my life in thepast that I would like to go
back to and be like you knowwhat?
I'm just going to give myselfthis extra little boost.
I'm imagining that my futureself has done that with me
already.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
Yes, your future self is living here within a dream,
within a dream, within a dream.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
Tapping on my shoulder, hey Mike.
Within a dream, within a dreamTapping on my shoulder, hey Mike
, yes, go do Qigong now.
Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
Yeah, well, what I would recommend as your
empowerment coach, if I may, isyou pick the Qigong that you're
going to do for tomorrow morning.
You know the sequence tonight.
Yes, I already have it and haveit pulled up so that you're not
fumbling around the first fiveminutes looking for it in the
morning.
You've got it locked.
(38:08):
If you set up your morning thenight before, you're good to go
yo.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
You know what?
I will give this to you.
You have a brand new, beautifulhabit of doing this new routine
in the morning while I'm makingcoffee.
And I was thinking as I'mmaking coffee I need a routine
whilst I'm making coffee.
I don't want to fall behindhere.
Right, I'm realizing I'm makingcoffee and I'm hearing you
breathe and grunt and I'm likedamn, she's getting a freaking
(38:34):
jump start.
I'm like no son.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
And then I come out all happy All happy and I'm like
grumpy, I'm like I'm like kindof a happy person, though, in
the morning too, and you tend tonot be as happy.
Careful, I'm careful, I'mcareful.
I'm really curious to see whathappens.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
I just handed you a compliment After your Qigong.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
No, I'm saying like I am all happy and thank you for
acknowledging my habit.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
And yes, I'm killing it, I'm killing it, You're
killing it and you're like, ohyeah, but you're grumpy in the
morning.
Speaker 1 (39:07):
No, but I'm saying in general.
In general, would you agreethat you are not a happy morning
person?
You don't wake up happy.
Speaker 2 (39:16):
It all depends on how much sleep I got the night
before.
My mornings depend on myevenings.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
Exactly, but your evenings are not setting up your
mornings.
Speaker 2 (39:27):
That's correct.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
So that would be a weed that you need to pull.
Why, thank you?
Speaker 2 (39:33):
You're welcome.
Thank you, you're welcome.
Is that something?
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Yes, you're welcome this ritual of plant a seed.
Speaker 2 (39:44):
Pull a weed.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Pull a weed Water, the seed watch it bloom.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
I love that, right.
So this is a planting chart forthings that you want.
Yes, right, it's so easy.
Plant a seed, pull a weed waterdaily, watch it bloom.
Yes, like I feel, as we'respeaking, I have a qigong
practice rushing towards me.
Yeah, so I can only imagineanyone who played along.
(40:12):
If they actually wrote thingsdown, they are going to have
those things rushing towardsthem as we speak.
Speaker 1 (40:19):
And I will say that the other part of this is that
you've committed to it, theuniverse, by announcing it, you
know, like on a podcast, hello.
But if you tag us on social,that's your commitment to the
universe.
And so then, once the universeknows what you want, you're
basically professing like thisis what I want, and the universe
(40:39):
conspires to meet you.
And so the only way that itgets blocked is if you, you
block it, if you block it byyour low vibes, your you know
nervous system.
That isn't a match for thething.
Um, if you, you know like,block it by just having a bad
mental, you know thoughtpatterns where you're like, oh,
(41:00):
I don't need fucking Qigong,like whatever the thing is right
.
So when you reject it, like youreject what you wanted because
of like usually fear laziness,like you know the whole apathy
thing that we're talking about.
So really, that's a majorcomponent is that if you tell
people, then you kind of areholding yourself accountable
(41:22):
because you don't want to tellpeople you're going to do
something and then not do it.
Speaker 2 (41:25):
If you have in your possession an idea, a thought,
something that's so huge thatyou're holding on to because of
something else, let that go.
Like what you have in your handis a gift, use it, play it,
present it.
That's what it's for.
You're not supposed to hold onto them.
You're supposed to share yourgifts.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Word Totally agree, we are in alignment.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
We tend to be.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
Well, we are sending you the highest vibrations.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
You are held.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
You are loved.
Speaker 2 (42:08):
Pulling the weed.
Speaker 1 (42:09):
I told you.
I asked if I could be yourempowerment coach for a minute.
I asked permission.
I said if I may.
You said, mm-hmm, Roll the tape.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
And the redhead continues.
That's why you don't get in arut with the redhead.
Speaker 1 (42:26):
No, you don't.
No, no, redheads are just.
Speaker 2 (42:28):
You just get roughed up.
What would you like, sir?
A rut or getting roughed up?
I'll go for the rough up.
Speaker 1 (42:37):
Roughed up by a redhead.
Yeah, here you go, you're aredhead.
You're welcome, sir.
You are welcome.
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