July 10, 2025 • 46 mins
What if the key to manifesting your deepest desires isn't just positive thinking, but actually lies within your nervous system? Imagine having a superpower you've always possessed but never fully harnessed—until now.
Your nervous system functions as your body's Wi-Fi, connecting you to everything you want to create and receive. When this internal network is glitching due to stress, trauma, or everyday overwhelm, your manifestations become equally inconsistent—affecting your money, relationships, and health. But when aligned, your nervous system becomes your unfair advantage in creating the life you desire.
We explore how dysregulation shows up in real life: relationship conflicts where you overreact or shut down, financial feast-or-famine cycles, chronic health issues, and that persistent feeling of being stuck despite your best efforts. These aren't character flaws—they're nervous system responses saying "I don't feel safe to expand."
The science backs this up. Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory explains how safety leads to social engagement, creativity, and expansion. Dr. Joe Dispenza's research demonstrates that regulating your internal state creates coherence, directly influencing what you attract. Your vagus nerve, controlling 80% of your rest-and-digest response, becomes the superhighway to manifestation when properly tended.
We share ten powerful ways your nervous system influences manifestation, from creating safety to receive abundance to amplifying your electromagnetic field when in coherence. You'll discover practical tools like breathwork, cold exposure, somatic movement, and gratitude practices that shift you from survival to thriving mode. Our personal favorite? Laughter—the fastest way to get your nervous system in alignment.
Ready to upgrade from dial-up to fiber-optic manifestation? Join us to understand how your body's feeling of safety creates the foundation for everything you desire. Let your nervous system feel safe enough to become who you really are—your most abundant, powerful self.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The fastest way to get my nervous system in
alignment, the fastest way.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Fastest way.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
There's two, really, but one is just a little bit
easier and faster and standsjust ever so slightly in first
place.
You want to know what it is.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
What is it?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Laughter.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Laughter?
Oh yeah, most certainly.
Well, I know that.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Smiling.
If I am nervous, I will smile.
Well, I know that.
Smiling Like if I am nervous Iwill smile.
If I am feeling out ofalignment, I will look to find
some laughter, because thesecond that I enter the laughter
part of my system, I'm good,I'm Gucci, I can do anything.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
And again, that's why you married me, Because you
know.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
And again.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I am equipped for good times.
Good times physically, mentally, spiritually, like I got the
good time upgrade.
I'm, I am, I am good to go.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Welcome to the empowerment couple podcast,
where your path to self-masteryexpands.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
My co-host is empowerment coach Zuri Starr.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
And he's expansion coach Mikey Starr.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Together we are.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
The Empowerment Couple.
Our mission is simple to serveyou, love, so you can make
informed decisions to regain andmaintain your personal power.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
We'll take you on a journey to a life filled with
purpose, passion and limitlesspossibilities, while sharing
stories of transformation,wellness hacks and healthy
habits backed by science andancient wisdom.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Plus, we'll keep you entertained with engaging games,
banter and funny innuendosalong the way.
Each episode is an excitingblend of education,
entertainment and empowermentdesigned to help you create a
mindset to be a magnet for morelove, happiness and abundance.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Together with our special guests.
We are dedicated to sharinginformation that empowers you to
create your most beautiful lifeA one Z and a two Z and a three
Z your most beautiful life.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I got nothing I got nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
You're supposed to say something I forgot.
I forgot, did you just call mea murder?
My name is Mike.
It's not murder.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Well, that's just the way it is.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Well, sometimes it is the way it is and sometimes you
can change it.
Sometimes, you know how wechange it, what you tap into
happiness honey.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Tap into happiness.
Tap into happiness, all right.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Happiness tap means abundance.
Okay, let's do this.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Okay, tap to abundance.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Well, one way to tap into abundance is to tap into
the nervous system.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I bet.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
You didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Actually, I did know that you did.
In fact, that's what we'regoing to talk about today.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Oh, like what?
Let me tell you, you got awhole show about it.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Yeah, I got a whole show.
I got a whole show about itright now, ready to like to hear
it, here it goes.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Such a Zuri thing.
Oh yeah, let me over.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
So here's what I need to tell you about the nervous
system when it's aligned.
When your nervous system isaligned, it is your
manifestation superpower.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
It is, it totally is.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Superpower.
Your nervous system is yourbody's Wi-Fi Ooh, and if it's
glitchy, everything from yourmoney to your relationships, to
your health, will feel glitchytoo.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh, most certainly.
And I'll go so far as to saythat alignment isn't just
mindset right, it's your nervoussystem saying I feel safe
enough to receive, create andlove fully.
So your nervous system istelling you all of this.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Say that again.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
When your nervous system is in alignment, it's not
just about your mindset, it'sabout your nervous system saying
I feel safe enough to receive,create and love fully.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
And if you haven't loved fully, you're about to,
you're tuned in, you are in theright spot.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
It might mean that you haven't been safe enough.
That is correct, that iscorrect Like to experience
self-love but also to falldeeply in love with someone is
that there's a safety component.
So we have been talking so muchabout different things that
kind of dance around, or we'vementioned the nervous system.
(04:23):
We're going to dive a littledeeper today, but like, for
example, we talked aboutbreathwork medicine, which is
great for your nervous system,we talked about money medicine
last week.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
That's really about abundance and safety, right,
right.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
And then from reaction to response.
That's the regulation in yourrelationship, so how you can
stay regulated in a healthynervous system so that you
aren't having dysregulatedreactions and responses Correct.
We also talked about shadowintegration and that's the
safety to face suppressed parts.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yeah, and often your shadows reside in your nervous
system.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yes, for sure.
So let's dive into what nervoussystem alignment is, because I
know this is like a new way totalk about the nervous system.
A lot of times people willthink like oh, I just need to
calm down, or they don't thinkabout it in terms of alignment.
So I'm going to define it foryou.
(05:24):
Nervous system alignment meansyour body feels safe enough to
stay present, connected andcreative, rather than stuck in
survival states.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I love that and you know I feel in my past there
have been times where I want tobe in alignment and I try to get
in alignment but there's somuch fear going on in my nervous
system that it literally knocksme off.
It takes over, it'soverwhelming.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
The vagus nerve controls 80% of your
parasympathetic, that's yourrest and digest response.
So that's a major part of whatwe're going to be talking about
today is obviously, if itcontrols 80%.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah, it's a huge part on your body that's
actually easy to address andreset.
Yeah, there's a lot of thingsyou can do for yourself, but
there's also practitioners whocan really do a wonderful job.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah.
So trauma and chronic stresskeep us in sympathetic states,
which are your fight or flight,yeah, or dorsal vagal states,
which is your freeze andshutdown.
A regulated nervous systemimproves HRV, which is your
heart rate variability linked tolongevity and emotional
resilience.
(06:44):
So those are just some likedefining, like what we're
talking about is getting yourbody into alignment so that you
can be a match to exactly whatyou're looking for.
So, for example, you can bereally dysregulated in your
nervous system, where you aremaybe angry and, like you know,
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panicky, because sometimesyou're both, and then be a match
to having a relaxed day, right,because you're you're angry and
panicky.
So your body then, like I said,your nervous system, is the
Wi-Fi, your body becomes like anantenna.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yes, when you say Wi-Fi, I always picture an
unseen transference ofinformation.
So you are transferringinformation out to the world.
The world is transferringinformation back to you.
So, like you said, if yoursystem is dysregulated, it's
like turning on a radio and noteven being able to tune into a
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station because the dial'sbroken.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Your nervous system is the lens through which you
experience reality.
That's a quote from Deb Dana,and I feel like that's pretty
much why we have discussionswith clients about reality
selection, which we're going todo a show about.
But why we are suffering morethan we need to is often because
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our lens and our narrative.
They're just making us feellike the reality that we are
experiencing is the only reality, or the past reality is the
only reality, when we have a lotmore control over that than we
think, but we aren't consciouslychoosing a different reality.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Correct and we have that power.
I mean in an instant.
For instance, you can be havinga bad day and then someone will
hand you a $100 bill and all ofa sudden, your day gets
infinitely brighter.
Right, Right, so it'sperception, so you can perceive
a brighter day, and a brighterday will happen.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yep, brighter day, and a brighter day will happen.
Yep, you can't manifest yourdreams while your body like if
your dreams are to like, youknow, have a healthy, you know
experience.
You can't manifest your dreamswhile your body thinks it's
being chased by a bear.
Yeah, because it's so like bumpsin a flight, or flight or or
freeze, and yep, exactly, and sothen you know pretty much
everything that that most humanswant are like freedom, peace,
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joy, you know fulfillment,health.
You know like if you just lookat those, you don't feel any of
those things when you're beingchased by a bear no right.
So so they aren't a match.
It's just very comes down tolike simple, simple language of
alignment is just about are youa match?
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Yeah, there's a switch in your body where it is
either survival mode, survivemode or thrive mode, right?
So thrive mode is where yourbody has the opportunity to
regulate itself.
But let's talk about this wholedysregulation process, right.
Let's talk about how it showsup.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Yeah, and this will kind of be a recap from some of
our previous episodes.
If you haven't listened to them, this won't be a recap, but we
wanted to include it so that youknow what it looks like, so
that you can identify it in yourown life, you can assess and
then you can adjust just littletiny shifts.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
So we glazed over how the nervous system has a role
in the manifestation process.
What I want to do is focus alittle bit on how the
dysregulated nervous systemshows up in relationships.
So in relationships, if youfind yourself or your partner
overreacting or shutting downduring conflict, that is a sign
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of a dysregulated nervous system, and again this is kind of the
recap.
If you're people pleasing toavoid tension, that's horrible
on boundaries.
Again, that's going to have anegative impact on your overall
relationship.
Of course, there's fear ofintimacy or fear of abandonment.
Those are going to stem, ofcourse, from old wounds which
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are going to keep your nervoussystem out of regulation.
In money, you'll have feast orfamine cycles, right, so we all
know what that is.
You make a lot of money andthen the next six months, you're
broke, right, because you don'thave the ability to be
consistent.
You have fear of investing inyourself.
Right Again, though, you haveall these old wounds.
(11:22):
You don't want to feed oldwounds, right, so you want to
kind of ignore them.
Unfortunately, those wounds arethe sources of your power.
Yep, you're not going to chargeyour full rate for your clients
(11:43):
.
You won't ask for a raise.
You're not going to raise yourhand when you know it's time for
you to get your share becauseyou think that lack of
limitation is all there is rightAgain, we're talking about old
wounds In health.
A dysregulated nervous system isgoing to show up with chronic
fatigue, gut issues, anxiety,difficulty sticking to habits or
(12:07):
commitments right.
So it's imperative that yournervous system gets the loving
care that it needs, because itwill reverberate all kinds of
nastiness, right anddysregulation.
Is the body saying I don't feelsafe to expand?
Speaker 1 (12:27):
So listen to it Right .
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Right, listen to it.
If you're getting that warningsign, attend to it.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
All of these are like your check engine lights for
your nervous system, which weuse that a lot in our podcast
episodes.
Just so you can be like, why amI acting this way?
It's just letting you know.
You need a littlemicro-adjustment in that area.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
And please, please, please, do not get and I know
I'm speaking to a lot of peopleout there don't get used to
seeing that check engine light.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Sometimes you hop in the car, we see that check
engine light.
I'll just take care of it later.
And then later becomes you'restuck in the road on a major
thunderstorm.
You're like God, why did I takecare of that sooner?
Right With your health, itwon't be stuck on the side of
the road, It'll be in a hospitalbed, Right.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
It'll be something that's catastrophic rather than
something that you can make.
These, you know, like I said,micro adjustments.
You know every day Consistency.
A lot of times people thinkit's got to be perfect every
single day and that's notconsistency.
Consistency is little microactions touching it every day.
We're going to have an episodeabout consistency, but I think
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it's very misunderstood as faras what we're talking about, and
I think some of these thingsare tiny.
It depends how much trauma andhow much things that you went
through.
Maybe you'll need a coach or atherapist, or you'll need
somatic therapy, or you'll needsomething to help you externally
get through.
Some of this can be healed veryeasily by grounding and being in
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nature, so we'll talk moreabout that Making sure your
water intake.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
All that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Yeah.
So let's talk about the scienceof alignment.
Ooh, I like that.
So Stephen Porges has thepolyvagal theory, and it is that
safety leads to socialengagement, creativity and
expansion.
So safety is really important,and I think that it's.
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I just want to like segue justfor a second that's important,
to like realize that we're notjust talking about women feeling
safe, but we're talking aboutmen feeling safe, because all of
us start out as kids.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
We're all babies, we're all babies.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
We're all babies and we all have an inner child, but
there is a foundational thingthat happens for both men and
women or any gender when you areborn and you are born into a
situation that is unsafe, it isgoing to have a ripple effect,
and so, tending to making surethat you feel safe we're talking
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about at a core level.
We're not talking about, likethe saber-toothed tiger that
people use a lot of times, orthe bear, like we used in
reference earlier.
We're talking about nervoussystem safety and that is where
I feel like the science ofalignment, like that safety is
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leading to how you interact in asocial environment, how you
interact when you get to becreative in your career.
It's going to, it's going tohave a ripple effect throughout
your entire life.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
And and.
And I will say, if, if you werelucky enough to born, to be
born into a family where youknow there wasn't violence,
there was always safety, there'salways either one or two
parents or grandparents, youknow that whole bit fantastic,
that's amazing.
However, if you were born intoa situation that is not as nice,
right, split family, whatnot?
(16:01):
Just know that it doesn'tmatter what happened in the past
.
You have the ability, andthat's where maturity comes in.
You have the ability and that'swhere maturity comes in.
You have the ability to takefull ownership of everything and
then use it for your advantage.
So, for the people who comefrom negative backgrounds, you
actually have more power becausethere's more fuel in the tank.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Right.
And you also know that you canfucking survive anything.
That is correct.
That is correct.
You know your resiliencemuscles have been developed,
well developed.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
All you need to do is , you know, align your nervous
system.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Right, so some more science from Joe Dispenza.
Dr Joe, regulating yourinternal state creates coherence
, influencing yourelectromagnetic field and what
you attract.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Coherence is huge.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Yes, and so let's just talk about coherence just
for a second.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
So coherence for me is when your body, all the
internal frequencies in yourbody.
You know each organ has afrequency.
You know the entire body has afrequency.
Coherence is when yourfrequencies are in resonance
right and when it's in resonanceright you have the ability to
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project your wants and desiresout to the world with clarity
and power.
When it's dysregulated, whatyou're doing is you're sending
out, or you're scared or whatnot.
You're sending out fracturedversions of what you want and
what you're getting back isfractured versions, which means
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it's not the whole picture.
It's a job that's not thatgreat.
It's a relationship that's notthat great.
It's a health that's not thatgreat.
that's not that great.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
It's a health that's not that great.
Again, a good way to simplifyit.
That helped me.
When I was little, I learnedthat the power of not calling
out your fears, yeah, knowingthat your fears, if you call
them out, they are signals, it'slike smoke signals, you know,
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like you're letting the universeknow, like what you're
terrified of.
Yeah, and so, even as a littlekid if, like you know, a crazy
thought came into my headbecause I had learned so much
from, like, going to thedifferent places with my mom,
with, like you know, the yogaand stuff, you, I learned like
do not call out your fears.
And it's part of like a famousquote that I was like very
obsessed with.
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But anyway, I would say tomyself nope, don't call out your
fears.
You know and have that.
So I just know like I catch mymind from running in the
direction of fear.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Honey, two days after we met you, you landed that
quote on me.
I think I said something aboutcollege, because I just got
accepted in college and I saidsomething and I remember you
saying don't call it your fears.
I'm like, ah, this is a littlespiritual chick, okay, going
back to calling it fears.
I always come up with the samestory that I've heard you have
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two wolves living in your room,a good wolf and a bad wolf.
Which wolf survives?
The one you feed?
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Yeah, and so usually I'll be like, if I get really
terrified about something, I'llbe like, okay, don't call it
your fears.
And I'm like expect a miracle.
Especially if it's somethingthat I'm like, okay, that
actually could happen, Then I'mlike, okay, expect a miracle.
Miracles are everywhere.
Expect a miracle.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
You owe $20,000.
No problem, I'm expecting amiracle.
Right, and you're expecting amiracle and all of a sudden you
invoice for $120,000.
Like, oh great, it's allworking.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Nervous system regulation will improve your
ability to respond rather thanreact.
That's why we're talking aboutit today and the episode that we
did.
If you haven't listened, ifyou're new to us and you just
came because you're interestedin the nervous system, go back
and listen to From Reaction toResponse.
That's going to really help youput this into application and
embody the practice that we'retalking about today, which is
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nervous system regulation.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Yeah, and the embodiment, the application is
more important than theknowledge.
Right, a book on the shelf isnothing Right.
You take the information of thebook and apply it, it's
everything.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah yeah.
Having just rearranged abookshelf, I was like, damn, I
don't think I ever read this one.
It looks nice on my shelf.
Then I'm like, should I get ridof this?
And I'm like, no, I actually dowant to learn this.
I just haven't done it yet.
The day will come, theapplication didn't happen, so
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all of us are guilty of that.
Here's a factoid.
Studies show breathwork, coldexposure and somatic practices
increase HRV, heart ratevariability, reduce cortisol and
improve emotional resilience.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
So I would get into those practices almost
immediately.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Yeah, and we've been talking a lot about all of those
.
We're going to have an episodeabout somatic and cold exposure
coming up, but breath work.
We did that episode and go backto that.
If you haven't started doingbreath work, it's like it's free
medicine, honey.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
It is free medicine.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
Get it.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
And let me tell you it is just as addictive as any
drug that's out there, and theside effects are mental
expansion, lucid dreaming, likefull control of your nervous
system.
Like you get all these upgradesand you don't stink value this
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nervous.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
they undervalue the nervous system and doing these
techniques because they don'tconnect it to money or they
don't connect it to success.
And I just want to tell youthat nervous system alignment
it's your unfair advantage inbusiness, love and health.
So if you are out of alignmentwith money, you're out of
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alignment with love, you're outof alignment with health, and
maybe you're like oh, I'm in arelationship, I'm kind of
healthy and I've got a job, butyou don't love yourself.
That's also nervous systemmisalignment, correct.
So take the time to get intoalignment and your life will
just get better on every level.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Yes, I mean, and you're talking about every level
, which means it opens you up tothe whole world of
manifestation.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Right, and what I would like to do is I want to
get into how your nervous systemis, your manifestation
superpower 10 ways.
I got 10 ways right here in mypocket.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Let's do it, you ready?
Okay, you take number one.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Number one safety equals receivership.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Receivership.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
Receivership right.
Your nervous system needs tofeel safe to receive abundance
opportunities and love right.
If your body perceivesexpansion as a threat, it will
unconsciously block, sabotage ordelay your manifestations every
single time.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
And I will just say that I feel like in the last
maybe eight years, I havelearned powerfully that, in
order to receive, you must rest.
That is correct.
In order to be feminine, I needto rest without guilt so that I
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can receive everything that Iwant, and the resting is a way
for my body to become a vesselof endless abundance.
Yeah, and that's the oppositeof the culture that I feel like
we've all been conditioned by.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Yeah, well, we're having a whole show on the
nervous system, and the reasonwhy is because the state of the
world is really designed towreak havoc on your nervous
system.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Right, Okay.
So number two is regulation.
So regulation equals magneticenergy.
So regulation equals magneticenergy.
A regulated nervous systememits a calm, clear frequency
that aligns with receiving.
Dysregulation often projectsfear, scarcity and chaos, which
repels what you desire.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Number three coherence equals clear signal to
the field.
Oh, I love that.
When you breathe, your heartand brain are in coherence.
Your electromagnetic fieldbecomes stronger, amplifying
your intentions in the quantumfield.
And, of course, when we talkabout the quantum field, what
we're talking about is the ether.
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We're talking about theuniverse.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Quantum science baby.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
We're talking about everything where we're talking
about the universe, quantumscience, baby Right, we're
talking about everything whereeverything comes from yes.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Yes.
Number four is embodiment overaffirmation.
So the nervous system allowsyou to feel the state of your
desires.
Now Manifestation requiresfeeling the wish fulfilled, not
just thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
That's when you write down the things that you want.
You always write it down as ifyou already have it.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
Yeah, and then you take aligned action, so it's not
just thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
That is correct.
Number five capacity to holdmore Regulation increases your
window of tolerance, allowingyou to handle bigger
opportunities, money andrelationships without sabotaging
them.
I looked at it as like goinginto a house that has a low
wiring system, re-amping thewiring system so that it can
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have more energy into the house.
Right, right.
So higher bandwidth, brighterlights, more appliances.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
You got that fiber Wi-Fi or you got that.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
You got that satellite Wi-Fi, the satellite
Wi-Fi.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
We're talking about dial-up, right?
So if your nervous system is ondial-up and you want fiber
optic shit you're going toupgrade, you have to upgrade
your nervous system to fiberoptic to receive the fiber optic
stuff.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
You know what you just did?
Right, I've got to go find thatdial-up sound.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
Now to add to this?
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Okay.
So number six is consistent.
Action requires regulation.
So it's great if you're lookingto take action and be in
embodiment.
Manifestation needs consistent,aligned action.
A regulated system allows youto show up consistently.
So if you're really strugglingwith consistency, it's your
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nervous system and you can showup consistently even when
discomfort arises, instead ofcollapsing or quitting when your
nervous system is regulated.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, and we mentioned earlier in the show
about the whole feast and faminecycle.
That feast and famine cyclewill just naturally go towards
the feast side regularly.
Yep, right, so that's what wewant.
Okay, number seven your vagusnerve connects mind and body.
Okay, number seven, your vagusnerve connects mind and body.
The vagus nerve helps move yourbody out of flight and fight
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and into rest and receive,creating the state in which your
desires can land.
It's you opening the doors andsay, hey, come on in.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Yes.
So rest and play, expand,receiving.
So this is number eight, and ifyou've worked with me or if
you've listened before, you knowI am a big proponent of play
and fun and using as much joy aspossible.
That's why you married meTotally.
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That's totally why I marriedyou.
Well, you do make me laugh.
Even the dad jokes, for somereason, I think, are funny, you
love all my jokes.
I think I just love you, mm-hmm,yeah.
So anyway, let's get back toplaying.
Rest and joy, signal to yourbody that it is safe, raising
your vibration and keeping youopen to intuitive nudges that
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lead to aligned opportunities.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Before we move on to number nine, give me an idea of
how intuitive nudges work,because there's people who some
of our clients they still don'tfully understand.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Yeah they're mixing up fear Like fear hits like oh
gosh, I got to check on blah,blah, blah because I just
thought a negative thought aboutthem.
And then they're thinkingthat's intuition, or they're
seeing a sign from the universe.
They're calling seeing a sign,you know, from the universe.
They're calling it a sign, butactually it's like you know
could be.
There's no such thing ascoincidences, but there are
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synchronicities that are thatare trying to get your attention
, and so the intuitive nudgescome, like people often call
them like gut feelings, but theycome different for everyone.
For me they come as visuals,visions.
For me they come as a stream ofconsciousness.
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I call them downloads sometimes, where it's like I can hear
everything to say or I juststart talking and then it just
comes out and I'm like what thefuck was that?
So it's kind of a channel, butit's not one one specific person
Like I'm not channeling like analien or something, like people
, people, um, you know I'm notchanneling like Abraham Hicks,
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for example.
You know, like I, um, amgetting a nudge that is um, and
I think most people who have anintuitive ability can talk about
it until they're blue in theface.
But there is a certaincomponent of it that is
inexplainable, but it's like aknowing, and I think that when
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you meditate you have sometimesexperiences I often find the
quieter your mind is, the loudersource can get, and so you know
if you are getting a massage.
Everybody meditates in differentways.
Some people meditate withjournaling, Some people meditate
in the traditional sense.
Some people meditate by farmingor gardening.
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Some people meditate by goingfor a walk in the woods, you
know, swimming in a lake,Whatever your version of
meditation, where your mind getsquiet and source is allowed to
drop in.
That's what I would call anintuitive nudge, where you just
know something.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
You know it, like you know it, like you know it.
The reason why I wanted tobring it up, of course, is that
it is such a powerful tool thateveryone has, but not everyone
has experienced it because oftheir nervous system.
Right, right, it turns on whenyour nervous system is calm and
feels safe.
It turns off when it doesn'tfeel safe.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
So let's talk about number nine.
Triggers show where you'reblocking manifestations.
Right so.
Your triggers revealunprocessed fears and scarcity
patterns right so usingregulation tools helps you clear
those blocks, aligning yourenergy with your desires.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Right.
So again, you can call it.
You know clearing out the pipes.
You can call it, you knowgetting in can call it getting
in higher-grade wiring into yoursystem.
Whatever it is, you want yournervous system to run clean and
powerfully.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Right and it's also like an opportunity to flip it.
So we talked about how you canturn triggers into turn-ons in
our show last month and it'sreally everything that you feel
like you can look at yourselfand you'll be like, oh, that's a
flaw.
Or oh, like I'm totallytriggered by this.
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Or oh, like you know, thisperson said this about me once
and now I'm carrying it.
These are all things that youget to work with, yes, so use
them rather than allow them touse you.
These are just tools in yourtoolbox.
You can integrate shadow partsof yourself.
You can have these triggers besomething that actually work for
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you, that actually make peopleexcited to be around you.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
You're the author of your book.
Exactly, and every time youturn the page, you have a new
opportunity to print somethingnew.
Right, exactly.
And every time you turn thepage, you have a new opportunity
to print something new.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Right, and I just want to say real quickly that
most of the time why we docertain shows is because either
we see patterns in our clientsthat we work with or in society,
or that we are personallyworking to upgrade, because the
best way to expand yourself isto teach.
Yeah know, expand yourself isto teach.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
Yeah, best way to learn is to teach.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Yeah.
So, while we are talking aboutall of this, the empowerment
couple is meant to, you know,show is meant to empower you and
to be like okay, yeah, sofucking what?
I have that issue, I'm going towork on it, you know, and I'm
going to transmute it intosomething beautiful.
It's an invitation.
So everything we talk about isan invitation for you to look
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deeper at yourself, get into the, you know, deep end of the pool
, and I'm telling you it's a lotof fun.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
It is a lot of fun.
And lastly, number 10,gratitude.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
Gratitude feels safe to the body.
So anytime you get reallyfreaked out, what I want you to
do is to think the oppositethought.
So if you're flying, forexample, and you're scared of
flying, I want you to envisionyourself landing safely and
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stepping foot that first stepthat you take off the plane, you
know.
So you can spend timemanifesting what you want with
the op the opposing thing.
So anything that you're afraidof you're afraid that you know
you're not going to have enoughmoney to pay for the recent.
You know stuff that's happening, maybe in your house.
Pay for the recent?
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You know stuff that's happening, maybe in your house.
You can think of the opposite.
You can see the check you knowbeing signed, or you can see the
invoice.
You know clearing your creditcard or you know, like whatever
you're afraid of.
So practicing this gratitudeand I would say the gratitude
part of it is so important.
So like being so grateful thatyou landed you know, being so
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grateful that you you know thecheck cleared, or being so
grateful that your credit cardaccepted the $25,000 or whatever
right Like being grateful andfeeling that energy.
Practicing gratitude whileregulated deepens the felt sense
of abundance and it anchors thefrequency of already having and
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it accelerates yourmanifestation process.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
Correct and we've had several shows on gratitude.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Right.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
And just to make things real simple, right, you
always have something to begrateful for.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Right, and if you are looking around and you were
poor and you're living on thestreet, you just got beat up,
you got mugged, whatever.
You can be grateful that youare still alive.
Right, you can be grateful thatyou can create something new
with the current time that youhave.
Right.
Right, you can be grateful foryour clothes.
You can be grateful for, youknow, the shoes on your feet,
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whatever drink that you'redrinking, anything that you have
be grateful for, and it justkind of kickstarts the body
right.
Small steps beget bigger steps.
So let's get into part four andtalk about tools for nervous
system alignment.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah, we're just going to cover a few practices.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Yeah, so the very first one I have up top, of
course, is going to be breathwork.
So, box breathing, the 4-7-8method, coherent breathing.
We have a whole breath workmedicine episode.
I would tune into that.
But top of the game, mostcertainly breath work because it
is the easiest and mostpowerful thing you can do for
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your nervous system.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
Right Cold exposure or contrast showers.
So at the last few minutes ofyour warm, delicious shower you
can turn it to cold.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Turn it to cold and it sucks when it's happening,
but once it's done, you're likeoh wow, I feel invigorated, I'm
feeling good, but once it's done, you're like oh wow, I feel
invigorated.
I'm feeling good, you're goingto go fly over this mountain.
Number three is somaticmovement Shaking yoga.
We're huge on dancing, so youwant to move the feelings
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through your body.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Yeah, movement is medicine.
You can go back and listen tothat episode, but really, if you
have strong emotions, you needto put them in motion.
Speaker 2 (36:40):
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
So another one would be boundaries to reduce
overwhelm.
So sometimes we're just sayingyes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
yes, yes, yes, because we'reafraid, afraid, afraid, afraid,
afraid of losing, losing, losinglike that pattern.
So go back and listen to ourboundary medicine episode, that
will help you just really assess, like, am I saying yes when
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it's really a no, and am I thensaying no and then feeling bad?
Or am I saying no and then,like giving you know three
paragraphs of why I'm saying no?
No is just no.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
As you go through the process of healing your nervous
system, boundaries will come upevery single time.
Yes, every single time.
Boundaries are going to be foryou and your loved ones.
So they're good things.
Right, boundaries are goodthings.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
And you might look back on your life and be like,
oh man, if only I had boundaries, maybe I would have done this
and that.
No, you don't have to wastetime on that.
That reality is over Right now.
You have the present moment,power.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
That's where gratitude oh, I'm so grateful
that I can make a boundary.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Yeah, and I'm so grateful that I have the
awareness now to not continuethat cycle.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
Number five one of my favorite is the inner child and
shadow work.
Right, we have a whole showabout shadow integration episode
.
You know we are all broughtinto this world.
Uh, you know empty vessels andand and.
Then, as we are, as we gothrough the maturation process,
we are littered with um, poorprogramming, bad patterns and uh
wounds.
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So that inner work, the, theinner child work and the shadow
work will allow you to growthrough those and then use that
for your advantage for nervoussystem alignment yeah through
the whole transmutation process.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Yeah, uh co-regulation with safe partners
, so we haven't talked too muchabout this but, yeah, this is
number six.
Just eye gazing could behelpful.
I'm looking right at you, Eyegazing.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
Eye gazing is uncomfortable until you do it
long enough.
You're like, oh, it'suncomfortable because I have
fears.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
Yeah, Right Synced breathing is really powerful for
co-regulation.
Obviously, you want to do thesewith safe partners.
You don't want to, just be,like you know, on a one-night
stand, and eye-gazing, that's.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
you know that's we're talking about.
Like eye-gazing syncedbreathing Hugging is massive.
Yes, hugging and taking somebreaths together yeah, we, we
call it, we call it the.
Uh, the one minute hug, right,so just hug for a minute and
that's it.
You're just just hugging.
It's, it's a, it's a beautifuleasy process alignment isn't
something you think your wayinto.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
It's something you breathe, move and practice your
way into you practice your wayinto it.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
I love that, because practice is a positive movement
let's end this show with a game,a quickie a quick game.
You want a quickie?
I can do a quickie as long as,as long as it's enjoyable
quickies are always enjoyable.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
Come on um align.
Um align or survive is the nameof the game Align or survive.
So, are you going to be in alined state or are you in a
survival state?
And here's the scenarios.
I'm going to give you fourbecause we're short on time
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Saying yes when you want to sayno.
Is that aligned or survival?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
That's survival.
Speaker 1 (40:18):
Mm, hmm, saying yes when you want to say no, is that
aligned or survival?
That's survival.
Taking a deep breath beforereplying to a heated message.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
That is most certainly aligned.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
Yes, you're doing good, All right.
How about spending moneyimpulsively when stressed?
Speaker 2 (40:31):
I would like to say aligned, but it's a survival
mode.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Yeah, because it creates a feast and famine.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
I like to go spend some money right now, but I
should probably not do.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Choosing a walk over doom scrolling.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
Oh, that's 100% aligned.
Okay, doom scrolling is likefast forward to survival mode,
yeah, so those are kind of easy.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
If you've been paying attention to this and if you
are part of our Empowerempowered posse and you tune in
every week, those should be easy.
But if those weren't, andyou're like, oh shit, I really
need to think about that.
Welcome, we're here for you.
That's why we show up everyweek for free, to give you as
much love and support aspossible.
All of these scenarios can beshifted into alignment, so you
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can just say no when it's a no.
That would be aligned.
You can spend money when youhave an abundant amount of money
.
Or you can have a budget Insteadof impulsively being like I'm
not going to spend moneyimpulsively, but I'm going to
hit up this garage sale you cancheck in with your money and be
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like do I have money to go spendon things that I maybe want,
maybe things I need, but if youdon't check in on your money BFF
, what happens?
Your money BFF is going tothrow a tantrum.
Speaker 2 (41:48):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Exactly, and then, of course, choosing a walkover.
Doom scrolling, that's aligned,but if you are finding yourself
doom scrolling a lot, that'swreaking havoc on your nervous
system yeah, yeah, yeah it's badnews.
Speaker 2 (42:03):
And again, like we said, the, the, the state of the
world is designed to knock youoff your center.
Speaker 1 (42:10):
Um so they can sell you a bunch of shit, so that you
feel like you're regulatedexactly, and so that you're over
.
You're basically kind ofsuppressing or overstimulating,
like you're just constantlyplaying this imbalance game with
whatever you're putting in yourmouth or in your body.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
So that you become impulsive.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
And so that, yeah, you become in debt.
Yeah, exactly, alignment ischoosing presence over patterns.
Speaker 2 (42:36):
Presence over patterns and remember patterns
are something that you canchoose and, with that being said
, just know that your nervoussystem alignment is the
foundation of your empoweredlife.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
So let your body feel safe enough to become who you
really are Right, let your body.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
Now is the time, just do it.
What did you say?
Feel safe enough to become whoyou really are.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Yes, let your body feel safe enough to become who
you really are.
Mmm, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Yum, yum, yum.
That's delicious.
Yes, sending you the highestvibrations.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
You are held.
Speaker 1 (43:13):
You are loved.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Dial-up right.
You just have a telephone yougot an old yellow phone book.
You got an old yellow phonebook, and some of our nervous
systems are so damaged thatwe're on Morse code.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
We're on Morse code.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
You're out there asking the universe what you
want.
Speaker 1 (43:35):
You know what I mean?
Great, I'm about to find thatsound too Okay.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
So you know, do an assessment, Do an assessment
homie.
Are you on, you know, fiberoptic nervous system, or is your
nervous system you know?
Are you holding a, Are you?
Speaker 1 (43:53):
scratching on a cave.
Speaker 2 (43:55):
Are you holding two cups with strings in the middle?
Hello, can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (44:00):
The can trick.
Yeah, that's dope.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
And also because you know this is a relationship show
we become.
You know, married couples arepowerful when they are both in
alignment and they're bothmanifesting at the same time.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
When their nervous systems are regulated.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
So if you're the one who has the bomb nervous system
and your co-pilot is dealingwith Morse code, yeah, they got
some dysregulated Morse codehappening.
Yeah, exactly Now would be agood time to get them into a
performance coach an expansioncoach Right.
Someone who can connect withtheir inner child, their womb do
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all that beautiful work.
Speaker 1 (44:49):
Clear it out, clear it out, clear out the signal, so
that then you can have thefastest Wi-Fi.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
That is correct.
That is correct, yeah, and thenwhatever Wi-Fi is coming after
that, then you can have the youknow the fastest wi-fi.
That is correct.
That is correct.
And then whatever wi-fi iscoming after that you'll have
access to right, because youknow, apparently we're going to
be going walking around withwi-fi, connect antennas in our
brains or something you know.
But, honestly, the true power,the true power when your nervous
system is like alignment.
You have your manifestationgame.
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You took care of all your innerwork and all that stuff.
You don't need wi-fi.
You could literally just tellthe universe what you want and
it just kind of comes to you andit tracks to you yeah, so wi-fi
is just the metaphor yeah, it'sjust the metaphors.
Yeah, it's another tool, butlike but some of the things that
you've manifested hasabsolutely nothing to do with
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you going online or doing that.
It's literally just you sayingyou want something and all of a
sudden it just pops up.
I've seen you do it over andover and over again.
It's like well, yeah, that'sbecause you have that Empress
wiring the direct line you gotthat optimal grade wiring, the
direct line.
You got that optimal gradewiring.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Sometimes.
Thank you for saying that,because sometimes I'm like, do I
have it?
Oh, yeah, yeah, I do, oh, yeah,yeah.
I'm hoping you write yournarrative you got to remember
who the fuck you is.
Speaker 2 (46:07):
I'm hoping you write your narrative and I always
write at the high end.
It's like oh yeah, she's asuperhero, she does this.
I'd do the same for you.
Speaker 1 (46:15):
I'm like, yeah, boy, we'd be doing that for each
other.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
That's why we're the empowerment couple and that's
why you are held in love.
Speaker 1 (46:23):
And that's why you are held in love and I'm sending
you the highest vibration.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
Well, I'm sending you the highest vibration back.
Speaker 1 (46:30):
I'm sending them back to you Take these back.
Okay, bye.
The fastest way to get my nervous system in
alignment, the fastest way.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Fastest way.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
There's two, really, but one is just a little bit
easier and faster and standsjust ever so slightly in first
place.
You want to know what it is.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
What is it?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Laughter.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Laughter?
Oh yeah, most certainly.
Well, I know that.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Smiling.
If I am nervous, I will smile.
Well, I know that.
Smiling Like if I am nervous Iwill smile.
If I am feeling out ofalignment, I will look to find
some laughter, because thesecond that I enter the laughter
part of my system, I'm good,I'm Gucci, I can do anything.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
And again, that's why you married me, Because you
know.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
And again.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I am equipped for good times.
Good times physically, mentally, spiritually, like I got the
good time upgrade.
I'm, I am, I am good to go.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Welcome to the empowerment couple podcast,
where your path to self-masteryexpands.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
My co-host is empowerment coach Zuri Starr.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
And he's expansion coach Mikey Starr.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Together we are.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
The Empowerment Couple.
Our mission is simple to serveyou, love, so you can make
informed decisions to regain andmaintain your personal power.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
We'll take you on a journey to a life filled with
purpose, passion and limitlesspossibilities, while sharing
stories of transformation,wellness hacks and healthy
habits backed by science andancient wisdom.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Plus, we'll keep you entertained with engaging games,
banter and funny innuendosalong the way.
Each episode is an excitingblend of education,
entertainment and empowermentdesigned to help you create a
mindset to be a magnet for morelove, happiness and abundance.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Together with our special guests.
We are dedicated to sharinginformation that empowers you to
create your most beautiful lifeA one Z and a two Z and a three
Z your most beautiful life.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
I got nothing I got nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
You're supposed to say something I forgot.
I forgot, did you just call mea murder?
My name is Mike.
It's not murder.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Well, that's just the way it is.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Well, sometimes it is the way it is and sometimes you
can change it.
Sometimes, you know how wechange it, what you tap into
happiness honey.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Tap into happiness.
Tap into happiness, all right.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Happiness tap means abundance.
Okay, let's do this.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Okay, tap to abundance.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Well, one way to tap into abundance is to tap into
the nervous system.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
I bet.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
You didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Actually, I did know that you did.
In fact, that's what we'regoing to talk about today.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Oh, like what?
Let me tell you, you got awhole show about it.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Yeah, I got a whole show.
I got a whole show about itright now, ready to like to hear
it, here it goes.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Such a Zuri thing.
Oh yeah, let me over.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
So here's what I need to tell you about the nervous
system when it's aligned.
When your nervous system isaligned, it is your
manifestation superpower.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
It is, it totally is.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Superpower.
Your nervous system is yourbody's Wi-Fi Ooh, and if it's
glitchy, everything from yourmoney to your relationships, to
your health, will feel glitchytoo.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh, most certainly.
And I'll go so far as to saythat alignment isn't just
mindset right, it's your nervoussystem saying I feel safe
enough to receive, create andlove fully.
So your nervous system istelling you all of this.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Say that again.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
When your nervous system is in alignment, it's not
just about your mindset, it'sabout your nervous system saying
I feel safe enough to receive,create and love fully.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
And if you haven't loved fully, you're about to,
you're tuned in, you are in theright spot.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
It might mean that you haven't been safe enough.
That is correct, that iscorrect Like to experience
self-love but also to falldeeply in love with someone is
that there's a safety component.
So we have been talking so muchabout different things that
kind of dance around, or we'vementioned the nervous system.
(04:23):
We're going to dive a littledeeper today, but like, for
example, we talked aboutbreathwork medicine, which is
great for your nervous system,we talked about money medicine
last week.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
That's really about abundance and safety, right,
right.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
And then from reaction to response.
That's the regulation in yourrelationship, so how you can
stay regulated in a healthynervous system so that you
aren't having dysregulatedreactions and responses Correct.
We also talked about shadowintegration and that's the
safety to face suppressed parts.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yeah, and often your shadows reside in your nervous
system.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yes, for sure.
So let's dive into what nervoussystem alignment is, because I
know this is like a new way totalk about the nervous system.
A lot of times people willthink like oh, I just need to
calm down, or they don't thinkabout it in terms of alignment.
So I'm going to define it foryou.
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Nervous system alignment meansyour body feels safe enough to
stay present, connected andcreative, rather than stuck in
survival states.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I love that and you know I feel in my past there
have been times where I want tobe in alignment and I try to get
in alignment but there's somuch fear going on in my nervous
system that it literally knocksme off.
It takes over, it'soverwhelming.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
The vagus nerve controls 80% of your
parasympathetic, that's yourrest and digest response.
So that's a major part of whatwe're going to be talking about
today is obviously, if itcontrols 80%.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah, it's a huge part on your body that's
actually easy to address andreset.
Yeah, there's a lot of thingsyou can do for yourself, but
there's also practitioners whocan really do a wonderful job.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah.
So trauma and chronic stresskeep us in sympathetic states,
which are your fight or flight,yeah, or dorsal vagal states,
which is your freeze andshutdown.
A regulated nervous systemimproves HRV, which is your
heart rate variability linked tolongevity and emotional
resilience.
(06:44):
So those are just some likedefining, like what we're
talking about is getting yourbody into alignment so that you
can be a match to exactly whatyou're looking for.
So, for example, you can bereally dysregulated in your
nervous system, where you aremaybe angry and, like you know,
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panicky, because sometimesyou're both, and then be a match
to having a relaxed day, right,because you're you're angry and
panicky.
So your body then, like I said,your nervous system, is the
Wi-Fi, your body becomes like anantenna.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yes, when you say Wi-Fi, I always picture an
unseen transference ofinformation.
So you are transferringinformation out to the world.
The world is transferringinformation back to you.
So, like you said, if yoursystem is dysregulated, it's
like turning on a radio and noteven being able to tune into a
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station because the dial'sbroken.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Your nervous system is the lens through which you
experience reality.
That's a quote from Deb Dana,and I feel like that's pretty
much why we have discussionswith clients about reality
selection, which we're going todo a show about.
But why we are suffering morethan we need to is often because
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our lens and our narrative.
They're just making us feellike the reality that we are
experiencing is the only reality, or the past reality is the
only reality, when we have a lotmore control over that than we
think, but we aren't consciouslychoosing a different reality.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Correct and we have that power.
I mean in an instant.
For instance, you can be havinga bad day and then someone will
hand you a $100 bill and all ofa sudden, your day gets
infinitely brighter.
Right, Right, so it'sperception, so you can perceive
a brighter day, and a brighterday will happen.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yep, brighter day, and a brighter day will happen.
Yep, you can't manifest yourdreams while your body like if
your dreams are to like, youknow, have a healthy, you know
experience.
You can't manifest your dreamswhile your body thinks it's
being chased by a bear.
Yeah, because it's so like bumpsin a flight, or flight or or
freeze, and yep, exactly, and sothen you know pretty much
everything that that most humanswant are like freedom, peace,
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joy, you know fulfillment,health.
You know like if you just lookat those, you don't feel any of
those things when you're beingchased by a bear no right.
So so they aren't a match.
It's just very comes down tolike simple, simple language of
alignment is just about are youa match?
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Yeah, there's a switch in your body where it is
either survival mode, survivemode or thrive mode, right?
So thrive mode is where yourbody has the opportunity to
regulate itself.
But let's talk about this wholedysregulation process, right.
Let's talk about how it showsup.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Yeah, and this will kind of be a recap from some of
our previous episodes.
If you haven't listened to them, this won't be a recap, but we
wanted to include it so that youknow what it looks like, so
that you can identify it in yourown life, you can assess and
then you can adjust just littletiny shifts.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
So we glazed over how the nervous system has a role
in the manifestation process.
What I want to do is focus alittle bit on how the
dysregulated nervous systemshows up in relationships.
So in relationships, if youfind yourself or your partner
overreacting or shutting downduring conflict, that is a sign
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of a dysregulated nervous system, and again this is kind of the
recap.
If you're people pleasing toavoid tension, that's horrible
on boundaries.
Again, that's going to have anegative impact on your overall
relationship.
Of course, there's fear ofintimacy or fear of abandonment.
Those are going to stem, ofcourse, from old wounds which
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are going to keep your nervoussystem out of regulation.
In money, you'll have feast orfamine cycles, right, so we all
know what that is.
You make a lot of money andthen the next six months, you're
broke, right, because you don'thave the ability to be
consistent.
You have fear of investing inyourself.
Right Again, though, you haveall these old wounds.
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You don't want to feed oldwounds, right, so you want to
kind of ignore them.
Unfortunately, those wounds arethe sources of your power.
Yep, you're not going to chargeyour full rate for your clients
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.
You won't ask for a raise.
You're not going to raise yourhand when you know it's time for
you to get your share becauseyou think that lack of
limitation is all there is rightAgain, we're talking about old
wounds In health.
A dysregulated nervous system isgoing to show up with chronic
fatigue, gut issues, anxiety,difficulty sticking to habits or
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commitments right.
So it's imperative that yournervous system gets the loving
care that it needs, because itwill reverberate all kinds of
nastiness, right anddysregulation.
Is the body saying I don't feelsafe to expand?
Speaker 1 (12:27):
So listen to it Right .
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Right, listen to it.
If you're getting that warningsign, attend to it.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
All of these are like your check engine lights for
your nervous system, which weuse that a lot in our podcast
episodes.
Just so you can be like, why amI acting this way?
It's just letting you know.
You need a littlemicro-adjustment in that area.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
And please, please, please, do not get and I know
I'm speaking to a lot of peopleout there don't get used to
seeing that check engine light.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Sometimes you hop in the car, we see that check
engine light.
I'll just take care of it later.
And then later becomes you'restuck in the road on a major
thunderstorm.
You're like God, why did I takecare of that sooner?
Right With your health, itwon't be stuck on the side of
the road, It'll be in a hospitalbed, Right.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
It'll be something that's catastrophic rather than
something that you can make.
These, you know, like I said,micro adjustments.
You know every day Consistency.
A lot of times people thinkit's got to be perfect every
single day and that's notconsistency.
Consistency is little microactions touching it every day.
We're going to have an episodeabout consistency, but I think
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it's very misunderstood as faras what we're talking about, and
I think some of these thingsare tiny.
It depends how much trauma andhow much things that you went
through.
Maybe you'll need a coach or atherapist, or you'll need
somatic therapy, or you'll needsomething to help you externally
get through.
Some of this can be healed veryeasily by grounding and being in
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nature, so we'll talk moreabout that Making sure your
water intake.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
All that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Yeah.
So let's talk about the scienceof alignment.
Ooh, I like that.
So Stephen Porges has thepolyvagal theory, and it is that
safety leads to socialengagement, creativity and
expansion.
So safety is really important,and I think that it's.
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I just want to like segue justfor a second that's important,
to like realize that we're notjust talking about women feeling
safe, but we're talking aboutmen feeling safe, because all of
us start out as kids.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
We're all babies, we're all babies.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
We're all babies and we all have an inner child, but
there is a foundational thingthat happens for both men and
women or any gender when you areborn and you are born into a
situation that is unsafe, it isgoing to have a ripple effect,
and so, tending to making surethat you feel safe we're talking
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about at a core level.
We're not talking about, likethe saber-toothed tiger that
people use a lot of times, orthe bear, like we used in
reference earlier.
We're talking about nervoussystem safety and that is where
I feel like the science ofalignment, like that safety is
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leading to how you interact in asocial environment, how you
interact when you get to becreative in your career.
It's going to, it's going tohave a ripple effect throughout
your entire life.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
And and.
And I will say, if, if you werelucky enough to born, to be
born into a family where youknow there wasn't violence,
there was always safety, there'salways either one or two
parents or grandparents, youknow that whole bit fantastic,
that's amazing.
However, if you were born intoa situation that is not as nice,
right, split family, whatnot?
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Just know that it doesn'tmatter what happened in the past
.
You have the ability, andthat's where maturity comes in.
You have the ability and that'swhere maturity comes in.
You have the ability to takefull ownership of everything and
then use it for your advantage.
So, for the people who comefrom negative backgrounds, you
actually have more power becausethere's more fuel in the tank.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
Right.
And you also know that you canfucking survive anything.
That is correct.
That is correct.
You know your resiliencemuscles have been developed,
well developed.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
All you need to do is , you know, align your nervous
system.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Right, so some more science from Joe Dispenza.
Dr Joe, regulating yourinternal state creates coherence
, influencing yourelectromagnetic field and what
you attract.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Coherence is huge.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Yes, and so let's just talk about coherence just
for a second.
Speaker 2 (16:59):
So coherence for me is when your body, all the
internal frequencies in yourbody.
You know each organ has afrequency.
You know the entire body has afrequency.
Coherence is when yourfrequencies are in resonance
right and when it's in resonanceright you have the ability to
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project your wants and desiresout to the world with clarity
and power.
When it's dysregulated, whatyou're doing is you're sending
out, or you're scared or whatnot.
You're sending out fracturedversions of what you want and
what you're getting back isfractured versions, which means
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it's not the whole picture.
It's a job that's not thatgreat.
It's a relationship that's notthat great.
It's a health that's not thatgreat.
that's not that great.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
It's a health that's not that great.
Again, a good way to simplifyit.
That helped me.
When I was little, I learnedthat the power of not calling
out your fears, yeah, knowingthat your fears, if you call
them out, they are signals, it'slike smoke signals, you know,
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like you're letting the universeknow, like what you're
terrified of.
Yeah, and so, even as a littlekid if, like you know, a crazy
thought came into my headbecause I had learned so much
from, like, going to thedifferent places with my mom,
with, like you know, the yogaand stuff, you, I learned like
do not call out your fears.
And it's part of like a famousquote that I was like very
obsessed with.
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But anyway, I would say tomyself nope, don't call out your
fears.
You know and have that.
So I just know like I catch mymind from running in the
direction of fear.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
Honey, two days after we met you, you landed that
quote on me.
I think I said something aboutcollege, because I just got
accepted in college and I saidsomething and I remember you
saying don't call it your fears.
I'm like, ah, this is a littlespiritual chick, okay, going
back to calling it fears.
I always come up with the samestory that I've heard you have
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two wolves living in your room,a good wolf and a bad wolf.
Which wolf survives?
The one you feed?
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Yeah, and so usually I'll be like, if I get really
terrified about something, I'llbe like, okay, don't call it
your fears.
And I'm like expect a miracle.
Especially if it's somethingthat I'm like, okay, that
actually could happen, Then I'mlike, okay, expect a miracle.
Miracles are everywhere.
Expect a miracle.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
You owe $20,000.
No problem, I'm expecting amiracle.
Right, and you're expecting amiracle and all of a sudden you
invoice for $120,000.
Like, oh great, it's allworking.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Nervous system regulation will improve your
ability to respond rather thanreact.
That's why we're talking aboutit today and the episode that we
did.
If you haven't listened, ifyou're new to us and you just
came because you're interestedin the nervous system, go back
and listen to From Reaction toResponse.
That's going to really help youput this into application and
embody the practice that we'retalking about today, which is
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nervous system regulation.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Yeah, and the embodiment, the application is
more important than theknowledge.
Right, a book on the shelf isnothing Right.
You take the information of thebook and apply it, it's
everything.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Yeah yeah.
Having just rearranged abookshelf, I was like, damn, I
don't think I ever read this one.
It looks nice on my shelf.
Then I'm like, should I get ridof this?
And I'm like, no, I actually dowant to learn this.
I just haven't done it yet.
The day will come, theapplication didn't happen, so
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all of us are guilty of that.
Here's a factoid.
Studies show breathwork, coldexposure and somatic practices
increase HRV, heart ratevariability, reduce cortisol and
improve emotional resilience.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
So I would get into those practices almost
immediately.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Yeah, and we've been talking a lot about all of those
.
We're going to have an episodeabout somatic and cold exposure
coming up, but breath work.
We did that episode and go backto that.
If you haven't started doingbreath work, it's like it's free
medicine, honey.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
It is free medicine.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
Get it.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
And let me tell you it is just as addictive as any
drug that's out there, and theside effects are mental
expansion, lucid dreaming, likefull control of your nervous
system.
Like you get all these upgradesand you don't stink value this
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nervous.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
they undervalue the nervous system and doing these
techniques because they don'tconnect it to money or they
don't connect it to success.
And I just want to tell youthat nervous system alignment
it's your unfair advantage inbusiness, love and health.
So if you are out of alignmentwith money, you're out of
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alignment with love, you're outof alignment with health, and
maybe you're like oh, I'm in arelationship, I'm kind of
healthy and I've got a job, butyou don't love yourself.
That's also nervous systemmisalignment, correct.
So take the time to get intoalignment and your life will
just get better on every level.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Yes, I mean, and you're talking about every level
, which means it opens you up tothe whole world of
manifestation.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Right, and what I would like to do is I want to
get into how your nervous systemis, your manifestation
superpower 10 ways.
I got 10 ways right here in mypocket.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Let's do it, you ready?
Okay, you take number one.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Number one safety equals receivership.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
Receivership.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
Receivership right.
Your nervous system needs tofeel safe to receive abundance
opportunities and love right.
If your body perceivesexpansion as a threat, it will
unconsciously block, sabotage ordelay your manifestations every
single time.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
And I will just say that I feel like in the last
maybe eight years, I havelearned powerfully that, in
order to receive, you must rest.
That is correct.
In order to be feminine, I needto rest without guilt so that I
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can receive everything that Iwant, and the resting is a way
for my body to become a vesselof endless abundance.
Yeah, and that's the oppositeof the culture that I feel like
we've all been conditioned by.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Yeah, well, we're having a whole show on the
nervous system, and the reasonwhy is because the state of the
world is really designed towreak havoc on your nervous
system.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Right, Okay.
So number two is regulation.
So regulation equals magneticenergy.
So regulation equals magneticenergy.
A regulated nervous systememits a calm, clear frequency
that aligns with receiving.
Dysregulation often projectsfear, scarcity and chaos, which
repels what you desire.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Number three coherence equals clear signal to
the field.
Oh, I love that.
When you breathe, your heartand brain are in coherence.
Your electromagnetic fieldbecomes stronger, amplifying
your intentions in the quantumfield.
And, of course, when we talkabout the quantum field, what
we're talking about is the ether.
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We're talking about theuniverse.
Speaker 1 (24:47):
Quantum science baby.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
We're talking about everything where we're talking
about the universe, quantumscience, baby Right, we're
talking about everything whereeverything comes from yes.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Yes.
Number four is embodiment overaffirmation.
So the nervous system allowsyou to feel the state of your
desires.
Now Manifestation requiresfeeling the wish fulfilled, not
just thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
That's when you write down the things that you want.
You always write it down as ifyou already have it.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
Yeah, and then you take aligned action, so it's not
just thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
That is correct.
Number five capacity to holdmore Regulation increases your
window of tolerance, allowingyou to handle bigger
opportunities, money andrelationships without sabotaging
them.
I looked at it as like goinginto a house that has a low
wiring system, re-amping thewiring system so that it can
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have more energy into the house.
Right, right.
So higher bandwidth, brighterlights, more appliances.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
You got that fiber Wi-Fi or you got that.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
You got that satellite Wi-Fi, the satellite
Wi-Fi.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
We're talking about dial-up, right?
So if your nervous system is ondial-up and you want fiber
optic shit you're going toupgrade, you have to upgrade
your nervous system to fiberoptic to receive the fiber optic
stuff.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
You know what you just did?
Right, I've got to go find thatdial-up sound.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
Now to add to this?
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Okay.
So number six is consistent.
Action requires regulation.
So it's great if you're lookingto take action and be in
embodiment.
Manifestation needs consistent,aligned action.
A regulated system allows youto show up consistently.
So if you're really strugglingwith consistency, it's your
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nervous system and you can showup consistently even when
discomfort arises, instead ofcollapsing or quitting when your
nervous system is regulated.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, and we mentioned earlier in the show
about the whole feast and faminecycle.
That feast and famine cyclewill just naturally go towards
the feast side regularly.
Yep, right, so that's what wewant.
Okay, number seven your vagusnerve connects mind and body.
Okay, number seven, your vagusnerve connects mind and body.
The vagus nerve helps move yourbody out of flight and fight
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and into rest and receive,creating the state in which your
desires can land.
It's you opening the doors andsay, hey, come on in.
Speaker 1 (27:22):
Yes.
So rest and play, expand,receiving.
So this is number eight, and ifyou've worked with me or if
you've listened before, you knowI am a big proponent of play
and fun and using as much joy aspossible.
That's why you married meTotally.
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That's totally why I marriedyou.
Well, you do make me laugh.
Even the dad jokes, for somereason, I think, are funny, you
love all my jokes.
I think I just love you, mm-hmm,yeah.
So anyway, let's get back toplaying.
Rest and joy, signal to yourbody that it is safe, raising
your vibration and keeping youopen to intuitive nudges that
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lead to aligned opportunities.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Before we move on to number nine, give me an idea of
how intuitive nudges work,because there's people who some
of our clients they still don'tfully understand.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Yeah they're mixing up fear Like fear hits like oh
gosh, I got to check on blah,blah, blah because I just
thought a negative thought aboutthem.
And then they're thinkingthat's intuition, or they're
seeing a sign from the universe.
They're calling seeing a sign,you know, from the universe.
They're calling it a sign, butactually it's like you know
could be.
There's no such thing ascoincidences, but there are
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synchronicities that are thatare trying to get your attention
, and so the intuitive nudgescome, like people often call
them like gut feelings, but theycome different for everyone.
For me they come as visuals,visions.
For me they come as a stream ofconsciousness.
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I call them downloads sometimes, where it's like I can hear
everything to say or I juststart talking and then it just
comes out and I'm like what thefuck was that?
So it's kind of a channel, butit's not one one specific person
Like I'm not channeling like analien or something, like people
, people, um, you know I'm notchanneling like Abraham Hicks,
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for example.
You know, like I, um, amgetting a nudge that is um, and
I think most people who have anintuitive ability can talk about
it until they're blue in theface.
But there is a certaincomponent of it that is
inexplainable, but it's like aknowing, and I think that when
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you meditate you have sometimesexperiences I often find the
quieter your mind is, the loudersource can get, and so you know
if you are getting a massage.
Everybody meditates in differentways.
Some people meditate withjournaling, Some people meditate
in the traditional sense.
Some people meditate by farmingor gardening.
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Some people meditate by goingfor a walk in the woods, you
know, swimming in a lake,Whatever your version of
meditation, where your mind getsquiet and source is allowed to
drop in.
That's what I would call anintuitive nudge, where you just
know something.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
You know it, like you know it, like you know it.
The reason why I wanted tobring it up, of course, is that
it is such a powerful tool thateveryone has, but not everyone
has experienced it because oftheir nervous system.
Right, right, it turns on whenyour nervous system is calm and
feels safe.
It turns off when it doesn'tfeel safe.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
So let's talk about number nine.
Triggers show where you'reblocking manifestations.
Right so.
Your triggers revealunprocessed fears and scarcity
patterns right so usingregulation tools helps you clear
those blocks, aligning yourenergy with your desires.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Right.
So again, you can call it.
You know clearing out the pipes.
You can call it, you knowgetting in can call it getting
in higher-grade wiring into yoursystem.
Whatever it is, you want yournervous system to run clean and
powerfully.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Right and it's also like an opportunity to flip it.
So we talked about how you canturn triggers into turn-ons in
our show last month and it'sreally everything that you feel
like you can look at yourselfand you'll be like, oh, that's a
flaw.
Or oh, like I'm totallytriggered by this.
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Or oh, like you know, thisperson said this about me once
and now I'm carrying it.
These are all things that youget to work with, yes, so use
them rather than allow them touse you.
These are just tools in yourtoolbox.
You can integrate shadow partsof yourself.
You can have these triggers besomething that actually work for
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you, that actually make peopleexcited to be around you.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
You're the author of your book.
Exactly, and every time youturn the page, you have a new
opportunity to print somethingnew.
Right, exactly.
And every time you turn thepage, you have a new opportunity
to print something new.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Right, and I just want to say real quickly that
most of the time why we docertain shows is because either
we see patterns in our clientsthat we work with or in society,
or that we are personallyworking to upgrade, because the
best way to expand yourself isto teach.
Yeah know, expand yourself isto teach.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
Yeah, best way to learn is to teach.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Yeah.
So, while we are talking aboutall of this, the empowerment
couple is meant to, you know,show is meant to empower you and
to be like okay, yeah, sofucking what?
I have that issue, I'm going towork on it, you know, and I'm
going to transmute it intosomething beautiful.
It's an invitation.
So everything we talk about isan invitation for you to look
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deeper at yourself, get into the, you know, deep end of the pool
, and I'm telling you it's a lotof fun.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
It is a lot of fun.
And lastly, number 10,gratitude.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
Gratitude feels safe to the body.
So anytime you get reallyfreaked out, what I want you to
do is to think the oppositethought.
So if you're flying, forexample, and you're scared of
flying, I want you to envisionyourself landing safely and
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stepping foot that first stepthat you take off the plane, you
know.
So you can spend timemanifesting what you want with
the op the opposing thing.
So anything that you're afraidof you're afraid that you know
you're not going to have enoughmoney to pay for the recent.
You know stuff that's happening, maybe in your house.
Pay for the recent?
(33:55):
You know stuff that's happening, maybe in your house.
You can think of the opposite.
You can see the check you knowbeing signed, or you can see the
invoice.
You know clearing your creditcard or you know, like whatever
you're afraid of.
So practicing this gratitudeand I would say the gratitude
part of it is so important.
So like being so grateful thatyou landed you know, being so
(34:18):
grateful that you you know thecheck cleared, or being so
grateful that your credit cardaccepted the $25,000 or whatever
right Like being grateful andfeeling that energy.
Practicing gratitude whileregulated deepens the felt sense
of abundance and it anchors thefrequency of already having and
(34:40):
it accelerates yourmanifestation process.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
Correct and we've had several shows on gratitude.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Right.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
And just to make things real simple, right, you
always have something to begrateful for.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Right, and if you are looking around and you were
poor and you're living on thestreet, you just got beat up,
you got mugged, whatever.
You can be grateful that youare still alive.
Right, you can be grateful thatyou can create something new
with the current time that youhave.
Right.
Right, you can be grateful foryour clothes.
You can be grateful for, youknow, the shoes on your feet,
(35:15):
whatever drink that you'redrinking, anything that you have
be grateful for, and it justkind of kickstarts the body
right.
Small steps beget bigger steps.
So let's get into part four andtalk about tools for nervous
system alignment.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah, we're just going to cover a few practices.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Yeah, so the very first one I have up top, of
course, is going to be breathwork.
So, box breathing, the 4-7-8method, coherent breathing.
We have a whole breath workmedicine episode.
I would tune into that.
But top of the game, mostcertainly breath work because it
is the easiest and mostpowerful thing you can do for
(35:57):
your nervous system.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
Right Cold exposure or contrast showers.
So at the last few minutes ofyour warm, delicious shower you
can turn it to cold.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Turn it to cold and it sucks when it's happening,
but once it's done, you're likeoh wow, I feel invigorated, I'm
feeling good, but once it's done, you're like oh wow, I feel
invigorated.
I'm feeling good, you're goingto go fly over this mountain.
Number three is somaticmovement Shaking yoga.
We're huge on dancing, so youwant to move the feelings
(36:28):
through your body.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Yeah, movement is medicine.
You can go back and listen tothat episode, but really, if you
have strong emotions, you needto put them in motion.
Speaker 2 (36:40):
Yes, exactly.
Speaker 1 (36:42):
So another one would be boundaries to reduce
overwhelm.
So sometimes we're just sayingyes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
yes, yes, yes, because we'reafraid, afraid, afraid, afraid,
afraid of losing, losing, losinglike that pattern.
So go back and listen to ourboundary medicine episode, that
will help you just really assess, like, am I saying yes when
(37:06):
it's really a no, and am I thensaying no and then feeling bad?
Or am I saying no and then,like giving you know three
paragraphs of why I'm saying no?
No is just no.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
As you go through the process of healing your nervous
system, boundaries will come upevery single time.
Yes, every single time.
Boundaries are going to be foryou and your loved ones.
So they're good things.
Right, boundaries are goodthings.
Speaker 1 (37:33):
And you might look back on your life and be like,
oh man, if only I had boundaries, maybe I would have done this
and that.
No, you don't have to wastetime on that.
That reality is over Right now.
You have the present moment,power.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
That's where gratitude oh, I'm so grateful
that I can make a boundary.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
Yeah, and I'm so grateful that I have the
awareness now to not continuethat cycle.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
Number five one of my favorite is the inner child and
shadow work.
Right, we have a whole showabout shadow integration episode
.
You know we are all broughtinto this world.
Uh, you know empty vessels andand and.
Then, as we are, as we gothrough the maturation process,
we are littered with um, poorprogramming, bad patterns and uh
wounds.
(38:16):
So that inner work, the, theinner child work and the shadow
work will allow you to growthrough those and then use that
for your advantage for nervoussystem alignment yeah through
the whole transmutation process.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Yeah, uh co-regulation with safe partners
, so we haven't talked too muchabout this but, yeah, this is
number six.
Just eye gazing could behelpful.
I'm looking right at you, Eyegazing.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
Eye gazing is uncomfortable until you do it
long enough.
You're like, oh, it'suncomfortable because I have
fears.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
Yeah, Right Synced breathing is really powerful for
co-regulation.
Obviously, you want to do thesewith safe partners.
You don't want to, just be,like you know, on a one-night
stand, and eye-gazing, that's.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
you know that's we're talking about.
Like eye-gazing syncedbreathing Hugging is massive.
Yes, hugging and taking somebreaths together yeah, we, we
call it, we call it the.
Uh, the one minute hug, right,so just hug for a minute and
that's it.
You're just just hugging.
It's, it's a, it's a beautifuleasy process alignment isn't
something you think your wayinto.
Speaker 1 (39:29):
It's something you breathe, move and practice your
way into you practice your wayinto it.
Speaker 2 (39:35):
I love that, because practice is a positive movement
let's end this show with a game,a quickie a quick game.
You want a quickie?
I can do a quickie as long as,as long as it's enjoyable
quickies are always enjoyable.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
Come on um align.
Um align or survive is the nameof the game Align or survive.
So, are you going to be in alined state or are you in a
survival state?
And here's the scenarios.
I'm going to give you fourbecause we're short on time
(40:12):
Saying yes when you want to sayno.
Is that aligned or survival?
Speaker 2 (40:15):
That's survival.
Speaker 1 (40:18):
Mm, hmm, saying yes when you want to say no, is that
aligned or survival?
That's survival.
Taking a deep breath beforereplying to a heated message.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
That is most certainly aligned.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
Yes, you're doing good, All right.
How about spending moneyimpulsively when stressed?
Speaker 2 (40:31):
I would like to say aligned, but it's a survival
mode.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Yeah, because it creates a feast and famine.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
I like to go spend some money right now, but I
should probably not do.
Speaker 1 (40:41):
Choosing a walk over doom scrolling.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
Oh, that's 100% aligned.
Okay, doom scrolling is likefast forward to survival mode,
yeah, so those are kind of easy.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
If you've been paying attention to this and if you
are part of our Empowerempowered posse and you tune in
every week, those should be easy.
But if those weren't, andyou're like, oh shit, I really
need to think about that.
Welcome, we're here for you.
That's why we show up everyweek for free, to give you as
much love and support aspossible.
All of these scenarios can beshifted into alignment, so you
(41:15):
can just say no when it's a no.
That would be aligned.
You can spend money when youhave an abundant amount of money
.
Or you can have a budget Insteadof impulsively being like I'm
not going to spend moneyimpulsively, but I'm going to
hit up this garage sale you cancheck in with your money and be
(41:36):
like do I have money to go spendon things that I maybe want,
maybe things I need, but if youdon't check in on your money BFF
, what happens?
Your money BFF is going tothrow a tantrum.
Speaker 2 (41:48):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Exactly, and then, of course, choosing a walkover.
Doom scrolling, that's aligned,but if you are finding yourself
doom scrolling a lot, that'swreaking havoc on your nervous
system yeah, yeah, yeah it's badnews.
Speaker 2 (42:03):
And again, like we said, the, the, the state of the
world is designed to knock youoff your center.
Speaker 1 (42:10):
Um so they can sell you a bunch of shit, so that you
feel like you're regulatedexactly, and so that you're over
.
You're basically kind ofsuppressing or overstimulating,
like you're just constantlyplaying this imbalance game with
whatever you're putting in yourmouth or in your body.
Speaker 2 (42:26):
So that you become impulsive.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
And so that, yeah, you become in debt.
Yeah, exactly, alignment ischoosing presence over patterns.
Speaker 2 (42:36):
Presence over patterns and remember patterns
are something that you canchoose and, with that being said
, just know that your nervoussystem alignment is the
foundation of your empoweredlife.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
So let your body feel safe enough to become who you
really are Right, let your body.
Speaker 1 (42:56):
Now is the time, just do it.
What did you say?
Feel safe enough to become whoyou really are.
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Yes, let your body feel safe enough to become who
you really are.
Mmm, mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (43:08):
Yum, yum, yum.
That's delicious.
Yes, sending you the highestvibrations.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
You are held.
Speaker 1 (43:13):
You are loved.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Dial-up right.
You just have a telephone yougot an old yellow phone book.
You got an old yellow phonebook, and some of our nervous
systems are so damaged thatwe're on Morse code.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
We're on Morse code.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
You're out there asking the universe what you
want.
Speaker 1 (43:35):
You know what I mean?
Great, I'm about to find thatsound too Okay.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
So you know, do an assessment, Do an assessment
homie.
Are you on, you know, fiberoptic nervous system, or is your
nervous system you know?
Are you holding a, Are you?
Speaker 1 (43:53):
scratching on a cave.
Speaker 2 (43:55):
Are you holding two cups with strings in the middle?
Hello, can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (44:00):
The can trick.
Yeah, that's dope.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
And also because you know this is a relationship show
we become.
You know, married couples arepowerful when they are both in
alignment and they're bothmanifesting at the same time.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
When their nervous systems are regulated.
Speaker 2 (44:23):
So if you're the one who has the bomb nervous system
and your co-pilot is dealingwith Morse code, yeah, they got
some dysregulated Morse codehappening.
Yeah, exactly Now would be agood time to get them into a
performance coach an expansioncoach Right.
Someone who can connect withtheir inner child, their womb do
(44:48):
all that beautiful work.
Speaker 1 (44:49):
Clear it out, clear it out, clear out the signal, so
that then you can have thefastest Wi-Fi.
Speaker 2 (44:55):
That is correct.
That is correct, yeah, and thenwhatever Wi-Fi is coming after
that, then you can have the youknow the fastest wi-fi.
That is correct.
That is correct.
And then whatever wi-fi iscoming after that you'll have
access to right, because youknow, apparently we're going to
be going walking around withwi-fi, connect antennas in our
brains or something you know.
But, honestly, the true power,the true power when your nervous
system is like alignment.
You have your manifestationgame.
(45:17):
You took care of all your innerwork and all that stuff.
You don't need wi-fi.
You could literally just tellthe universe what you want and
it just kind of comes to you andit tracks to you yeah, so wi-fi
is just the metaphor yeah, it'sjust the metaphors.
Yeah, it's another tool, butlike but some of the things that
you've manifested hasabsolutely nothing to do with
(45:38):
you going online or doing that.
It's literally just you sayingyou want something and all of a
sudden it just pops up.
I've seen you do it over andover and over again.
It's like well, yeah, that'sbecause you have that Empress
wiring the direct line you gotthat optimal grade wiring, the
direct line.
You got that optimal gradewiring.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
Sometimes.
Thank you for saying that,because sometimes I'm like, do I
have it?
Oh, yeah, yeah, I do, oh, yeah,yeah.
I'm hoping you write yournarrative you got to remember
who the fuck you is.
Speaker 2 (46:07):
I'm hoping you write your narrative and I always
write at the high end.
It's like oh yeah, she's asuperhero, she does this.
I'd do the same for you.
Speaker 1 (46:15):
I'm like, yeah, boy, we'd be doing that for each
other.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
That's why we're the empowerment couple and that's
why you are held in love.
Speaker 1 (46:23):
And that's why you are held in love and I'm sending
you the highest vibration.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
Well, I'm sending you the highest vibration back.
Speaker 1 (46:30):
I'm sending them back to you Take these back.
Okay, bye.
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