February 21, 2024 • 58 mins
Have you ever stood beneath the sun, feeling its warmth permeate your being, and recognized a similar power within yourself? Our latest episode embarks on such an exploration, delving into the solar plexus chakra's energy and its battle with the shadow of shame. Through heartfelt anecdotes and personal revelations, we unravel how this inner sun can guide us towards self-worth and intentional living. The journey doesn't shy away from the murky waters of shame, as we reveal how meditation can serve as a powerful vessel, allowing us to confront and transform this stifling emotion. Alongside plenty of banter, we investigate the chakras' intertwined roles in our lives, with a special focus on gratitude's radiant ability to dissolve shame's grip.
Ever wondered how coaching others in self-love could fuel not just their transformation, but also your own financial prosperity? In a candid chat, we discuss the profound realization that when we pour love into the crevices of grief and loss, we birth a new connection that transcends our pain. We dissect the concept of success, challenging the traditional chase for wealth and redirecting our compass towards health, love, and passion. The conversation ignites with the stories of breaking free from the chains of shame, and how self-acceptance can be the most potent weapon in our arsenal for personal growth.
Finally, we take a lighter turn, reminiscing about the old-school charm of kung fu and its teachings on personal mastery, confidence, and aligning the chakras for ultimate power. With a chuckle, we introduce the whimsical idea of 'mirror kung fu,' a way to engage with the martial art's discipline and grace, minus the bruises. The episode closes by connecting the dots between martial arts principles and the art of self-empowerment, emphasizing that the true mastery lies in loving ourselves through every step of our transformational odyssey. Join us for this heartfelt and evocative episode, where the laughter is as liberating as the lessons learned.
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Mike Star (00:00):
I want to see how, how he wants to fight himself.
Zuri Star (00:03):
I want to see how, how opposing.
Mike Star (00:05):
I could be right and I've always thought that, you
know, I could actually probablyget into kung fu.
But I don't like being hit inthe face.
Zuri Star (00:16):
Yeah.
Mike Star (00:16):
You know what I'm saying.
Yeah so there's.
There's a point where kung fuis cool, but in order to
practice kung fu, you're gonnahave to get hit in the face a
couple times during the coursetoday.
Zuri Star (00:25):
You're gonna get hit a lot and kicked and yeah.
Mike Star (00:27):
Yeah, so instead I go for the mirror kung fu, which
the only time I can get hurt isif I get too close to the mirror
.
Zuri Star (00:36):
Yeah.
I'm saying that could hurt.
That could definitely hurt.
Welcome to the empowermentcouple podcast, where your path
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Hello Michael.
Well, hello my beautiful esposa.
Hi, you had a major shift today.
Mike Star (01:59):
I I had the pleasure of jumping timelines today.
Very intense process, goodprocess if you do so
deliberately.
Bad process if you do sohaphazardly, um, haphazardly, by
making a, a bad decision andgoing backwards and going
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backwards, and you know when youare In decision-making mode,
those decisions that you makewill impact which timeline you
jump onto Right.
So, just today, I decided to uh, while you were I getting some
much needed slumber, I decidedto uh meditate and, um, I have
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been Playing with, uh, notplaying with, but I've been
studying the chakra system and Iuse that as a way of designing
my meditations.
You know, every time I think ofthe chakra system, I think of
the spiritual component, of howthe body is intermingled with
the physical body.
(03:03):
The spiritual body isintermingled with the physical
body, right?
So, looking at the things thatI was suffering from, I I felt
like I needed to.
You know, I felt depleted, Ifelt tired, I felt kind of
drained and burnout burnoutexactly and um you know.
Those are all symptoms of thesolar plexus.
(03:26):
The solar plexus gives you thethe.
It's your, your power source,your battery source.
You know it's the uh, it's the,the body's representation of
the sun right, and how the sunPopulates our, our gala or solar
system with its energy and thenlooking at what's happening
seasonally and following thepatterns of the season part of
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your Uh renewal process, right.
Yeah, I, I found, my, I findmyself to be uh tied to nature
more often than Uh, not becausea we're surrounded by it.
Zuri Star (04:01):
Yeah, it's where we live.
Mike Star (04:02):
It's where we live intentionally and it has.
It has, uh, afforded me a lotof um, a lot of growth and
healing.
Mm.
So I'm just kind of tappinginto the, to the, the powers
that be, and um.
So I did a, a meditation and um, it was life changing.
Zuri Star (04:24):
It is life changing and we're going to talk all
about it today, but first we'regoing to talk about Well, let me
ask you this, because I wantyou to tell your experience and
your story of expansion but whatmade you want to do the solar
plexus?
Mike Star (04:44):
Well, you and I have um we we've together studied the
chakra system and we talkedabout it on our show and we
talked about our show.
Zuri Star (04:54):
And um it's your seven wheels of spinning hacking
your energy centers.
Those are.
They go deep into the chakrasystem.
Mike Star (05:01):
Exactly, and I feel like it does a very good job of
providing someone with the Um,the user manual right for our
bodies and how they workenergetically, spiritually,
emotionally, physically, yep, um, and how, you know everything
is, everything in the body isconnected to include our
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thoughts, right?
So, based off of thatinformation, I'm like you know
what I think I need, to you know, check and see what's going on
with my battery.
So I did a little bit moreresearch about um, the solar
plexus, and the very firstquestion that I asked was well,
what blocks?
(05:42):
Blocks, the chakra blocks thatchakra, or or or dampens it or
reduces its power.
Let's just, let's just coverwhat blocks each chakra.
Zuri Star (05:50):
So if you start with the root chakra, that uh
represents safety, that's thethe root chakra where all of
your security, your safety Lives.
So it can be blocked by fearand your root chakra, of course,
is is located.
Mike Star (06:10):
Panavita, at the bottom of your pelvis, the color
is associated with red.
Zuri Star (06:12):
Yes, Okay, and then the second is your sacral chakra
, and that governs yoursatisfaction.
So how it's blocked is by guilt, correct.
Mike Star (06:25):
And it's.
It's located, uh, pretty muchin between your navel, like
right over, just just underneathyour navel, just under the yeah
, maybe like an inch tubeunderneath your navel, okay, and
then the next is solar plexuschakra, and that's your
steadiness, or your personalpower, and that is blocked by
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shame, by shame, and that's, ofcourse, located uh right where
your Um, your ribs split, rightin your, your sternum, and that
color, of course, is yellow,mm-hmm.
Zuri Star (06:55):
And then, uh, next is your heart and that is governed
by love and it is blocked bygrief, and that, of course, is
adjacent to your heart rightsmack in in the middle of your
chest.
Mike Star (07:09):
It's not on the left hand side where your heart is,
but it kind of right smack inthe middle.
It's colors, green, and thenext is throat.
Zuri Star (07:18):
And that is governed by communication Mm-hmm, and it
is blocked by lies or the lieyou tell yourself and that's
located right smack in themiddle of your throat and the
color associated with that isblue.
Mike Star (07:33):
And then there's your third eye.
Zuri Star (07:36):
And that is governed by consciousness and it's
blocked by attachment and it'slocated.
You know, it's called yourthird eye.
Mike Star (07:47):
So imagine, right smack in the middle of your
eyebrow, just a maybe a tad Uh ahalf inch above your eyebrow,
and that color is associatedwith indigo, mm-hmm, and then
there's crown chakra and it'sgoverned by the connection to
cosmic oneness and it's blockedby the other chakras being out
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of alignment.
Zuri Star (08:13):
So you can see how it's important to.
If you want to feel connected,you need to have a connection.
If you want to feel connected,you need to align all of your
other chakras and it's veryinteresting if you think about
one of them being blocked andthat is making you feel a
disconnection from source, adisconnection from your partner,
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a disconnection from anything.
So, um, let's talk a little bitabout shame, because today's
episode is going to be Focusingon shame and how it ties into an
experience my cat with a solarplexus meditation, and he's also
going to give you thatmeditation, which is a beautiful
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gift.
So shame is very complex.
It's often thought of as apainful emotion that is
experienced when we feel that wehave failed to meet certain
standards or expectations.
It can arise in response to awide range of situations, such
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as making a mistake, behavinginappropriately quote unquote or
being rejected or judged byothers.
So if you grew up aroundsomebody very critical, you
could see how you're carryingNot your own shame, but their
shame.
Correct Shame can manifest indifferent ways, such as feeling
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embarrassed, humiliated orguilty.
It can also lead to negativeself-talk, self-blame and a
sense of worthlessness orinferiority.
People who experience shame mayfeel isolated and disconnected
from others and may strugglewith intimacy and relationships.
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Shame can be a natural responseto certain situations and can
serve as a signal that we needto reevaluate our behavior or
attitudes.
However, when shame is excess,in excess or excessive or
persistent, it can bedetrimental to our mental health
and well-being.
Shame can lead to depression,anxiety and other mental health
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issues, and can make itdifficult to take risk.
Try new things, pursue ourgoals.
Treatment for shame ofteninvolves addressing the
underlying causes of the emotion, such as past trauma, negative
self-beliefs or unrealisticexpectations.
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Therapy, self-help techniquesand support from loved ones can
all be helpful in overcomingshame and building a more
positive sense of self-worth.
And as the empowerment couple,we have come to find that there
are several different healingmodalities for shame, and we're
going to uncover some of themwith you today.
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It will be an ongoing journey,because this is definitely one
of the things that disempowersyou the most is that solar
plexus is blocked, and it'sblocked by shame.
Mike Star (11:26):
And anytime I think about the solar plexus.
When I was doing my work, I hadsome heartbreak, I had some
childhood trauma and I wentthrough a full forgiveness
journey, and that forgivenessjourney really healed my heart
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chakra and flooded my variouschakras with a lot of loving
energy, which also is known asawareness.
So I became a little bit moreaware.
And when you become more aware,you also become more aware of
your shame.
You shine a light on somethingand you're going to see a full
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dose of it.
So imagine, while I was doingthis meditation, I had a
flashlight and I went into mysolar plexus and I turned it on
and I realized that it waspacked with shame.
There's so much shame that Ihad shoved down in there when I
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was a kid, in my 20s, 30s, 40s,every activity that I did that I
felt bad about myself.
I just put it in there.
You're packing some luggage andif you think about it in terms
of weight, it was very, veryheavy.
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If you think in terms of light,it was very, very dim.
So imagine that your solarplexus is wired to every one of
your chakras, and that's reallythe case with all your chakras.
They're all connected and theyall affect each other
differently.
Zuri Star (13:12):
And some of them are in pairs.
Explain that.
Mike Star (13:15):
Yeah, I'll get there in just a second.
So imagine your solar plexus.
It radiates energy.
See it, like I said, as the sunin our solar system.
You remove that sun, you're notgoing to have life on any
planet, let alone ours.
So imagine, and those planetswill kind of dissipate, because
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it's that, the gravity of thatsun, that's holding them
together.
Same thing is true with yoursolar plexus.
So imagine your solar plexus iswired into all of your other
chakras.
So if you have a dim solarplexus, you will have a dim
heart chakra, you'll have a dimthroat chakra, which means
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you're not going to accesshigher values of love, you're
not going to be able tocommunicate on a more deeply
deep level, you're not going tobe able to see the beauty,
you're not going to be able toexperience the level of life
that is there.
And for me, because I wasdealing with so much grief,
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everything that I saw out therestarted.
You know the other physicalthings, right, the things that
money can buy.
I saw them as things that Ican't get.
So I would pass.
You know, as a kid I rememberdriving through Los Angeles,
which was a very, very and stillis a very, very affluent city,
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and you see Mercedes Benz andyou see, you know all the
Lamborghinis and the houses onthe hill, and that's not what I
was experiencing as a kid.
As a kid, you know, as a kidyou know, we had a humble little
home in the, in the suburb,which was very nice, but
personally I felt like all thosethings were inaccessible to me
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because I was not worthy.
And the words that you attachedto them were Like I can't, I
can't get that, or you know, Ican't get that because that
person has this.
You know, everything was incomparison.
Right.
And I always found myself to beat the losing end of that
comparison.
Right Now, gratitude would turnaround and be like well, look
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at all the things you have.
But when you deal with a lot ofshame, what it does is it is.
It creates a pattern of shame,and that pattern of shame was in
set, was was planted, or maybea seed was planted when I was a
child.
Zuri Star (15:46):
Yeah, infant, probably an infant yeah.
Mike Star (15:48):
So, as that seed was planted, anything that comes out
of that seed is going to beshame.
So imagine that the that thatseed of shame, kind of rooted
out and is now, you know, like avine wrapped around my other
chakras so that no matter what Idid, no matter how hard I tried
, I will never, ever escape thefeeling of I can't get that done
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Right.
So you know you sit on a bunchof projects, or you know you get
halfway to making a whole lotof money and then you pull away.
You know you self sabotage,like self sabotage and the solar
plexi and shame, or you knowthey're, they're buzzing buddies
.
Zuri Star (16:31):
Can we just pause for a second and just I'm just so
proud of you because I know likewe are both coaches, but we're
coaching each other often andwe're also holding each other
often.
I'm just so proud of you thatyou are willing to bring this to
our empowered posse and saylike hey, look, I just uncovered
this.
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And it takes a lot of strengthto say this isn't totally
perfect yet and I am still onthis mission of growing, and I
think most coaches, what I haveexperienced is that there's a
lot of gatekeeping about theirown experience.
And I think what sets you apartas a coach is that you're
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saying I'm still on a growthjourney and I am still
discovering things that needmore light.
You know, I'm still looking forthe balance in my life and
instead of just holding on to itand having the experience,
you're giving it back right away.
You're like hey, like I camedown this morning and Mike
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looked different and I was likeHi, and I felt different because
I allowed myself to sleep inand he allowed me to sleep in.
You know, he made it possiblefor me to sleep in and I got up
and I felt like Hi and I waslike oh, the energy feels
different in the house.
What is it?
And I'm like, oh, maybe it'sjust that I got good rest.
And then I look at Mike and Iwas like, oh, mike looks
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different.
And he's like, oh, I just hadthe greatest meditation.
And I said I was like, oh, money, like I could just smell money.
It was weird and not to saythat that is the only measure of
you know, calling in abundance,but it does have a certain
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essence and I know for Mike thathe has been calling in this
humongous amount of money and Ijust sensed it.
I sensed it without knowinganything about his meditation
and intuitively I knew he wasgoing to tell me something that
he called in that got mayberemoved or I wasn't sure exactly
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.
But anyway, continue.
I just want to honor the factthat you're doing this and say I
appreciate you and I know thatsomebody's going to get
something out of this and thankyou for showing up today.
Mike Star (18:57):
Well, you're welcome and thank you for also being
part of that journey.
Well, we'll get there in just asecond.
I'm going to give you someprops, but in my opinion, money
is a byproduct of someoneserving love, and we have this
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banner behind a serving love,and what I did for myself is I
served myself some love.
And it's very difficult ascoaches, to serve ourselves love
, because we're so ingrainedabout serving other people's
love.
So what we need to do on aregular basis is serve ourselves
some love so that we can servemore people more love.
And in regards to you comingdown and feeling the vibration
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of money, well, that wasemanating off of me.
And here's why, when you aredealing with shame, right, and
you have that shame, that vineof shame, that weed of shame
kind of strangling all of yourchakras, one of them is your
throat chakra, which is how youexpress yourself, that
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expression, that's your gift,right, and whether it's you
working a 9 to 5 job and youliking it, or you being an
entrepreneur and you're likingit, you are serving the universe
gifts, and then the universewill say, oh, thank you for
these gifts.
I'm going to ask more from you,but I'm going to give you a lot
of money.
Zuri Star (20:26):
I'm going to give you something in return.
Whether that's fulfillment inwhatever way, it doesn't always
have to be money.
Doesn't have to be money, butwe live in a society where money
is equals freedom, in the senseof the more money you make, the
more you're able to do whateverthe fuck you want.
Correct.
Mike Star (20:46):
And money is also the symbol of success, right.
In this society, in thissociety in this day and age, and
it wasn't always the same thata lot of times, success was just
like OK, he's healthy, he's inlove and he's doing what he
likes to do You're successfulright.
Whereas someone could bedriving a Mercedes Benz and
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you're like, well, this personis super successful, but they
could have a crappy marriage.
They can have a crappy health.
Zuri Star (21:14):
Yeah, success does not equal fulfillment.
Mike Star (21:16):
In fact, when money does not equal success.
Exactly yeah.
Zuri Star (21:20):
Yeah, continue.
Mike Star (21:22):
But anyways so.
Zuri Star (21:24):
Maybe take them back to the beginning of the
meditation, because I think youwere talking about the veins,
the vines, rather being wrappedaround things.
Mike Star (21:36):
OK, so I'm going to jump into the woo-woo pool real
quick.
Zuri Star (21:40):
No, no, no, you can't say that You're going to jump
into the call it anything else,because I'm really tired of
people calling things woo-wooand it diminishes it and instead
of like, we are evolved enoughand we are awake enough and we
are aligned enough, as ourlisteners are, that we don't
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need to diminish our abilitiesand our access points by calling
them woo-woo, Indeed, all right.
Mike Star (22:14):
so no more woo-woo.
I got into my true self and Isat in front of my office, which
was getting some sunlight.
So I had some sun on me and Igrabbed a piece of citrine and a
piece of copper, both of whichare known stimulants and healers
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of the solar plexus, and I hada solfegio frequency going on
417.
417, right, so I couldsonically feel the effects.
So I'm hitting the solar plexuson as many physical levels as
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possible.
Zuri Star (22:58):
Because the solar plexus is like the sun, right,
yes, so it's yeah.
Mike Star (23:03):
Exactly so I went into meditation and the very
first thing that I did is Iallowed myself to be here right
now, so I allowed myself toquiet my mind.
I wasn't in my house, I wasn'tin my chair, I was in my body
right, so my body can beanywhere and then I focused on
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the sensations that were beinggenerated through the sounds
that I was listening to, theheat of the sun and the subtle
vibrations of the two stonesthat I was holding onto, and
within about a minute or two, Ihad a heat source in my solar
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plexus that was starting to heatup.
I was like, oh, I feelsomething, ok, and I allowed
that to kind of get warmer andwarmer and warmer.
And then I was in a place whereI was able to focus all of my
awareness all my attention intothat chakra, into my solar
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plexus, and that's where it waslike turning on a light on an
old empty room and he turned iton and it just cluttered with
old shit right.
Old furniture dust, you know allthat stuff.
But all those things were shame, right, all those things were
just lots and lots of shame andI physically felt like, oh yeah,
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I know what that feels like andit was so nasty that my first
response was to let it go anddrop it, which is what I've
always been doing.
I don't want to touch that.
It's like picking up cat shit.
You want to throw it down asfast as possible.
You want to hold onto it.
Oh shit, it's gross, right?
So I instinctively let it goand I was like, no, no, no, I'm
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here for this, I'm here for myshame, right?
I'm here to connect with it,you're the shame conqueror,
right.
So I was doing some shadow workand it was very difficult
because there was so much there.
So, as a meditator, I was ableto use different imagery to get
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to what I was wanting, insteadof walking into a room full of
shit.
What I did is I wanted to getto the source, so I imagined it
as a point from which everythingwas radiating out of it.
So imagine trying to swim tothe bottom of a pool.
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If you can swim all the way tothe bottom of the pool and find
out where the plug is, you canpull the plug out and then all
the water that you're swimmingin is gone.
So I was trying to swim to thesource, swim to the source, swim
to the source.
And what I found?
It wasn't a plug, it was a seed,a seed like a corn seed, any
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seed that you're talking about avery, very small seed, and from
that was radiating shame atsuch powerful intervals that
it's almost as if I didn't knowany other way.
That was my life.
It started off with shame, andthen shame radiated out and
affected every single one of mydecisions.
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And we're talking about jumpingdifferent timelines.
I effectively jumped on thesame shame timeline with every
single decision that I made, wow.
So I was like well, can I pullthat seed out?
And in my mind, in my meditation, I was trying to pull the seed
out, but it was fixed becausesomething had to be there.
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That was the point from whichthe pattern was unfolding.
So I couldn't remove the seed.
So I was like, how about if Isplit the seed in half?
So I had this thought of mewith a big old karate chop hand
and I chopped the seed in half.
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And the minute I chopped theseed in half, it was an
incomplete pattern.
So the pattern was no longerradiating Now, it was just bits
and pieces, as if the sun wereto suddenly stop and the planets
were to start to wander offaimlessly in space.
So now that those patterns arestarting to disperse, and right
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in that very moment, I was like,well, something has to be there
, because if I leave it likethat, the vacuum will pull that
seed back together and it'llstill radiate that same pattern.
So I, instead I put in the seedof the mantra of the solar
plexus I can, whereas before itwas I can't.
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I can't get this done, I can'tget this done I can't get this
project done.
Zuri Star (27:51):
I can't get this done , which is just a learned
behavior from very, very young.
Somebody in your past wasprobably planting that seed for
you.
Mike Star (28:00):
Yes.
Zuri Star (28:00):
Which happens to all of us.
None of us can escape the seedsthat get planted, and it's our
job to break them open.
Mike Star (28:11):
Kung.
Zuri Star (28:11):
Fu in the mirror right.
Mike Star (28:13):
And in some cases I feel like the seeds need to be
planted and I felt like thatseed need to be planted so that
I can get to where I'm currentlyat with the current information
, so that I can disperse it andhelp other people.
So once I put that new seed in,the effect was immediate.
Like all of a sudden, I havethese flashes that came through
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my mind and it was me driving indifferent vehicles and seeing
different images on TV where Iwould say, like you see a nice
fancy car.
The very first stop that cameto my mind normally would be
like I can't drive that carbecause I'm not worthy.
Now it was replaced by oh, Ican have that car, I can have
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that boat.
And it was so crazy that I waslike flying over Miami Because
we had just got back from Miami.
Miami is a very wealthy cityand I was looking at everything
that I saw in Miami, to includethe buildings, and I was like I
can have that, because that'sthe true power of the solar
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plexus you can have anything youwant, you can do anything you
want with the proper application, provided that you have a
genuine power source, anunobstructed power source, and
my power source was obstructedSignificantly was shamed.
So the minute that I let go ofthat, I felt like the other
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chakras started receiving moreinformation, more light, more
power.
And now I feel like I justcrossed over into a different
timeline where, instead of mebeing loaded with shame, I was
loaded to the brim with infiniteamounts of power, and then my
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capacity to love grew, mycapacity to express myself.
I have story ideas that I canfeel, them on my fingertips.
Zuri Star (30:21):
Which is why I was like we need to get you on the
mic.
Mike Star (30:27):
I can close my eyes and I can feel my mind connected
with a higher mind.
So my mind isn't in itselfa-minded, it's now a transmitter
receiver, so that instead of itme being my mind, it's like
billions of minds throughoutthere.
It's fascinating, it's veryfascinating.
Zuri Star (30:46):
And just by removing I can't and replacing it with I
can, in a deep meditation ofgoing through the shame, pulling
it out or breaking in halfessentially is what you said so
that it can sprout a new seed.
Mike Star (31:05):
Correct, and that's the eight, that and you saw the
whole response that I did.
And I was sitting there and Iwas like, wait a minute, I don't
have any more shame, like it'sgone, like, and just tears of
joy were just flooding down mycheek because it felt fucking
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wonderful, and it still does.
I mean, and I told you on thecouch, I felt like I'm feeling
as if one would feel if they wonthe biggest jackpot in human
history Right, all the money,issues, all that stuff, just
eradicated.
You can now do anything thatyou want.
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Energetically, I won thejackpot.
Like I just got a brand newbody, like, oh my God, like, and
I can look at all the projectsand I can already see them done,
whereas before I see like Ican't finish this, I don't have
enough time.
Well, I can't get this done.
I don't have enough time.
Now, everything's already done.
I just have to.
I gotta sit down and I get toextract them.
Zuri Star (32:13):
You know I get to be calm to it.
You can have excuses or results.
You can't have both.
Mike Star (32:17):
Correct.
And here's, and I'm going backto you, and here's the prop, the
props to you.
You know I was talking to youabout how the chakras are always
balanced.
Right, you have seven chakras.
So you're just above and justbelow your heart.
You have your throat chakra andyour solar plexus.
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They form those two chakras arekind of like they have a yin
and yang attribute to them.
Zuri Star (32:47):
Yes.
Mike Star (32:48):
Right, they're kind of the brothers and sisters, so
you strengthen one, you alsostrengthen the other.
Which makes If you diminish one, you also diminish the other.
Zuri Star (32:55):
Which makes sense.
If you are an entrepreneur orif you're in any type of
business and you have someunresolved shame and you're
finding that you cannotarticulate your value.
That makes a lot of sensebecause your shame is literally
blocking your throat chakra.
Because they share an energeticyour solar plexus and your
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throat chakra share an energeticbalance and they will.
If they're imbalanced, then youliterally they're blocking each
other, right Is what you'resaying.
Mike Star (33:29):
Correct.
Zuri Star (33:30):
And one of the things that it gives a tangible
example is that if you're notable to articulate your value,
or not able to articulate theworth that you bring forth to
the world, you might think, oh,I've cleared up my throat,
chakra, but actually it couldalso be your solar plexus, which
is your power center.
Mike Star (33:47):
The crazy thing is, you know when, every time I get
on the mic, I'm always carryingthis lapis lazuli right, which
is a combination of laserite theblue part and pyrite, which is,
of course, a beautiful stonethat addresses both your solar
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plexus and your throat chakra atthe same time, right?
So, going back to the Yin andYang, you also have your sacral
chakra, and your sacral chakrais connected with your third eye
, which is why, in my opinion,the best sex that you can
possibly have is with someonewhom you are connected with, you
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have.
You can physically see, right,not just you know their eyes,
now I'm talking about, but I cansee you Like I know all about
you.
Zuri Star (34:37):
So so, you mean energetically?
Yeah, energetically, like see.
Mike Star (34:41):
Energetically, yeah, exactly like I, can you know?
It's like the whole avatar.
I see you.
Like I think that's wherethey're drawing that from right.
Zuri Star (34:49):
Yeah, of course they are.
Mike Star (34:52):
And then there's the root chakra and your crown
chakra.
So you always need to begrounded, but you also need to
be connected, Right?
So if you were, if you were,say you know, if you feel
disconnected, it may mean thatyou need to get grounded.
Zuri Star (35:10):
It's exactly why we stand during our podcast is so
that we can stay rooted butaccessible, that there's no
kinks in the system.
Mike Star (35:18):
Now get this right.
So everyone has a pair.
But the heart right.
The heart stands on its ownright the heart.
Everything radiates from theheart.
Right Love is the energy thatanimates the whole chakra system
right.
And then it's empowered, it'sexpressed, it's felt, it's known
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.
You know all the differentchakras have their different
jobs, but the heart, the heart,needs another heart in order for
it to have to feel.
It's yin and yang, and that'swhere usury come in and that's
where you know our loved onescome in right.
Zuri Star (35:58):
So yeah, and if you're single, the beautiful
thing is that it can be like apet or it can be a best friend.
It doesn't have to be aromantic, you know, married
partner or whatever.
It doesn't have to be thatright.
Mike Star (36:11):
Correct, correct.
Yeah, it doesn't have to be.
It doesn't have to be theperson that you're married to.
Zuri Star (36:16):
Right.
Mike Star (36:18):
If it is, it's a bonus.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
Fuck yeah, if it is, then you have an empowered
marriage.
Mike Star (36:22):
Yup, you know, but it definitely allowed, and the
reason why I wanted to share itwith you right away is because
I'm not gonna jump on a brandnew timeline and travel through
this timeline without youknowing that you're on this new
timeline.
Mm-hmm, Right like you'reshotgun on my timeline and I'm
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shotgun on yours.
Zuri Star (36:45):
Which is what builds intimacy between Mike and I is
that we share all of theseradical shifts with one another
Immediately, immediately, likeif we don't sense it.
But we also take the time.
We take time for tea, we taketime to sit, we take time to ask
questions and that is thefoundation, really, of our
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relationship.
We know each other and we seeeach other, and whatever
relationships that you have, Irecommend going to that deep,
intimate place, whether it'syour best friend or your, you
know like whoever whoever's inyour life.
You know like everyone's liveslook differently.
(37:29):
And but go to the deep,intimate places because your
heart chakra deserves it, needsit, longs for it, and I think we
should play a quick game.
Mike Star (37:43):
Yes, but I wanna address what you said for just a
second, right.
So we were talking about howyou have all these things that
are blocking our chakras, right?
You have fear, guilt, shame,grief, lies and attachment,
right?
And then, of course, your crownis blocked by the rest of your
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chakras, right?
So the other thing that poppedinto my mind as I was, as you
and I were on the couch when Iwas processing, you asked a very
, very, very, very importantquestion, and that question is
what are you gonna do now inorder for you to move forward
without stepping backwards, likeas patterns are patterns
(38:27):
because they become a pattern?
Zuri Star (38:31):
Yeah, you gotta break the cycle.
Mike Star (38:32):
So you gotta break the cycle.
So the very first thing thatcame to my mind was what we do.
We serve love.
So I'm gonna serve love to myshame.
I'm gonna serve love to myfears.
I'm gonna serve love to mygrief.
I'm gonna serve love to allthose things that are blocking
my chakra.
And that love, of course, isawareness.
(38:52):
So, instead of me touching itevery once in a while and
feeling how hot or heavy orgross or cold or whatever it is,
and then pulling my hand awaybecause I don't feel like
touching that today, instead I'mgonna sit down with them, I'm
gonna learn from them, I'm gonnaextract from those things the
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very thing that I need in orderto make myself bigger, in order
to expand.
Zuri Star (39:20):
Can't be an expansion coach without expanding oneself
.
Mike Star (39:23):
So like, love your shame, love your fear, love your
grief, love your lies, love allof that.
Zuri Star (39:32):
What came up for me when we were reading out the,
we're recalling what calls, youknow what blocks each chakra,
and when it got to the heart, itsaid grief.
And I was like, oh, like itgave me a little bit of, you
know, pain in my eyes.
I was like, oh, what, what?
And really all of us haveexperienced grief on some level,
(39:54):
right, and I have found inrecent times that my grief is
not there as it once was, andthe way that I've overcome it is
I've loved it really, really,really intensely.
Like it.
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Grief just represents that youhave loved someone or something,
and so the way that I'veremoved the grief is by loving
it and by loving the people thatI lost, you know.
And so now, instead of like fora while I couldn't have my
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brother's picture up, forexample Like I was, like I gotta
put it down because I wasfeeling shame, I was feeling
guilt, I was feeling all ofthese grief emotions.
Mike Star (40:45):
And they're real feelings, right oh?
Zuri Star (40:47):
my gosh, they're so real and once I worked through
them, now, like at the end of aday of feeling like proud of my
commitment to serve love, I likeliterally kiss it, like kiss my
hand and I put it on his face,you know, cause it's like no,
we're doing this together and itfeels like I've loved myself
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through it and I've loved thepeople that I've lost through it
and I feel so much morebalanced in my offering of
serving love from both masculine, feminine, light, dark, loss.
Have you know, like we don'tknow what we're gonna lose
tomorrow, today, like we don'tknow this, but we do know that
(41:30):
if we continue to love ourselvesand love people around us fully
, in every moment possible to us, that there really isn't loss.
There just is a differentconnection point.
Mike Star (41:43):
Yeah.
So, true.
Zuri Star (41:46):
Should we play a very quick quote battle game?
Let's do it, what do?
We got.
One thing I wanted to say rightbefore we do this is that I
said to Mike this morning cause,literally, this is an impromptu
, we just came in and like, hey,we're gonna record this because
Mike had this experience.
Mike Star (42:05):
Less than an hour from recording this, I was like
full tears.
It's not.
Zuri Star (42:10):
Hey, but that's part of being a coach and inviting
you into our intimate life.
Never stop growing Is thatyou're either growing or dying.
So which one are you gonnachoose?
I'm gonna choose growing untilit's time for me to no longer be
here, till my time is up.
So it requires us to expand andto share and to invite you into
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the process so that we can allbecome empowered together.
Mike Star (42:34):
There's never a top that.
You can always get higher.
Zuri Star (42:37):
Yes, so I love that.
What I wanted to say reallyquickly is that I said to Mike
you need to ground this intoyour body, this new timeline
with one thing, and that onething is Serving love.
That one thing is gratitude.
Mike Star (42:53):
Gratitude.
Zuri Star (42:54):
yes, that you need to lock it into your experience by
being grateful and then youneed to give it back.
Once you've locked it in withgratitude, then it's time to
give the gift back, becausethat's really the only way the
universe in the playing fieldthat we have right now.
That's how the universe breaks.
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The pattern with us Is thatit's like, oh, motherfucker got
it, he got it.
Okay, no more challenges onthat level where he got it.
Now we're gonna manifest withhim.
But until you lock it in withgratitude and until you give it
back, there's still gonna havethese weird tests where you get
(43:38):
challenged to see if youactually got it, cause when you
get it, you get it and you'relike, oh, I have to give this
back, this is giving, I'm givingthis back right now, and cause
it's not about you.
You realize that oneness is notabout you.
Oneness is connection toeveryone, to everything, and
everyone in your life deservesthe same gift.
Mike Star (43:59):
It's almost as if the universe connected with me and
said okay, Mike, I'm gonna useyou for a second, so I'm gonna
teach you a little bit aboutshame.
Zuri Star (44:09):
Hold my beer.
Mike Star (44:11):
Hold my green tea latte.
Zuri Star (44:13):
Exactly Okay.
So here's our quote battle.
I'm gonna go first and I'mgonna start with.
Shame corrodes the very part ofus that believes we are capable
of change.
Mike Star (44:34):
Dude, that is so true .
That's the feeling, that's.
Zuri Star (44:37):
Brunet Brown.
Mike Star (44:37):
That's the feeling being capable.
I felt, as I was going througha time in my life where I was
incapable of doing the thingsthat I wanted to do.
Therefore, I had even moreshame.
It's trippy.
So I have one from Goyun.
Shame is a soul eating emotion.
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A soul eating emotion.
Imagine what that would looklike.
What would it take to eat asoul?
Shame, shame's nasty.
What do you got?
Zuri Star (45:14):
Shame is an acid bath that eats away at the best
parts of us.
Whoa.
Both of those visuals are nutty.
Mike Star (45:27):
They are nutty they are nutty and they're designed
to be nutty.
See, you're like wait a minute,Let me think about read that
last one again.
Zuri Star (45:35):
Shame is an acid bath that eats away at the best
parts of us.
Yikes, these are, like you know, gory, so it's shame is a soul
eating emotion, from Carl Jung.
And then shame is an acid baththat eats away at the best parts
of us, from John Bradshaw.
Mike Star (45:55):
That's no good.
So, yeah, let's get out of thatacid bath, All right.
So this is from Rick Warren.
He states shame is a prison youput yourself in.
And here's the crazy thingabout the prisons that we put
ourselves in we're always askingfor release, but we're not
asking the right person.
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We're always asking someoneelse.
We're always in victim modewhen we ourselves have the
fucking blocking key.
Zuri Star (46:23):
Exactly.
Well, that was a good quote.
Battle, amazing.
Thank you.
I feel that you are new and Iagain appreciate that you
brought this, you called this,into your experience and that
you've called this forward.
And one of the things that Ifeel like where we are Yin and
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Yang in that way is that I wasborn into.
The seed that was planted forme was that I really mimicked my
father, whose name is Will, andhe has, like this unending Will
power For anything, foreverything.
I mean he's traveling throughEurope right now and he's 86.
(47:08):
Like he's jumping on trains andplanes and living his best
vacation life.
So Will power is something thatI was taught and it's something
that I'm able to tap into,because I was taught that that
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seed was planted within me andyet the other seeds that were
planted that I've had to splitacross.
Like I said, kung Fu in themirror.
But you were like deep inthought.
But, like Mike, when he reallyis feeling in a good mood, he'll
do like Kung Fu in the mirrorand it's hilarious.
I always know when he's likefeeling himself or when he's
(47:52):
feeling empowered or excited.
He's just Kung Fu in the mirror, usually like in nothing or
like boxers.
Mike Star (47:59):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I like nude Kung Fu in the mirror.
Very self, very self empowering.
Zuri Star (48:06):
Yeah, you've done a lot of mirror work.
Mike Star (48:07):
Like I was looking at myself doing that and my first
thought was I wouldn't fight me,I wouldn't fight me.
Zuri Star (48:16):
You wouldn't fight you.
I thought you were gonna go tolike silence of the land.
Mike Star (48:22):
So I was like, oh, no , don't do that.
I wouldn't fight you.
No, wait for your say.
Zuri Star (48:30):
I was just gonna say yes, that, like.
Whatever seed that you need tosplit, do it without shame.
Mike Star (48:38):
Correct and listening to how you know.
Yes, very, very yin and yang.
You know your father taught youabout power, right, which is a
very, very strong solar plexusattribute Mine, not my stepdad
(48:58):
whole different ballpark.
My father was my number onesource of shame, right?
I never knew him, and thethings that I did know about him
, he was.
Zuri Star (49:10):
It was shameful.
Mike Star (49:11):
He was a gambler, he was an alcoholic Don't go back,
no, no, but in saying that,there's weight to it, that was
the shame that I was carrying.
There's a lot of shame, right,especially as you were growing
into an adult and you have allthese thoughts of what you're
gonna be.
And I can't be those because Icame from that guy, right?
(49:32):
So that's where the that's theseed that I was talking about,
and that was a belief, right?
It's not truth, it's just abelief and the belief is a
pattern.
So break the pattern, break thebelief.
And all of a sudden, I'mrealizing that.
And if I'm loving my shame, I'mloving the fact that he did
that to me, I'm loving the factthat it took me as long as it
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took me to get to the place thatI am right now, because of the
contrast.
Zuri Star (50:04):
Embrace the contrast, baby, as the contrast.
As soon as you embrace it, youjust you give yourself back the
power of recognizing thateverything is unfolding and
happening exactly as it should,because it balances all of the
universe.
The playing field is abeautiful thing and all your
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power is there.
All of your power is inrecognizing that you cannot have
just good.
Why are we seeking that?
That's not something that we'reever going to find satisfaction
in.
You have to embrace all of thevarious parts of this universe,
and contrast is the number onedriver.
It's the number one thing.
Mike Star (50:50):
So if you're living with shame or fear or guilt or
any of those things, don'tnormalize it.
Make it a normal practice tosit down with it.
And if it's in meditation,that's great.
If it's in therapy, or if it'syou grounding, or if it's you
really diving into the chakrasystems and know how you can
energize, do it.
But and I'm saying this becauseof how amazing you feel once you
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do so- how light you feel andyou ask a self-made billionaire
and they're gonna be like oh,the best time of my life was
when I made my first million.
That was his breakthrough.
Everything else was just moreof it.
So I have more power and withthat more power, I can create
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more power.
Zuri Star (51:39):
Yep.
Mike Star (51:40):
So when you came down to for coffee this morning, did
you expect a brand new, freshlyopened, weeping husband.
Zuri Star (51:50):
Yeah, you know I don't look at crying as a bad
thing because of our researchinto crying medicine, and you
know I understand our culturedoes.
But when I came downstairs Ididn't.
I knew something was different.
I have an intuitive ability toknow when something is a little
(52:13):
bit different.
I first internalized it andthought it was me.
I was like, oh, this is whatnine hours of sleep is like.
It's delicious.
Yes, I should do this moreoften.
I've been really overdoing it.
But no, I didn't expect a creeplike creep, didn't mean to say
(52:35):
that Crying and weeping turnedinto creep Creep.
Mike Star (52:42):
Isn't that a TLC song ?
Then I creep, but it's adifferent creep though, right
yeah, crying and weeping.
Zuri Star (52:49):
Okay, we'll be sure of this again.
I didn't expect you to beweeping which you weren't, by
the way.
When I came down, I just sensedpower.
That's what I sensed.
Yeah.
And I sensed money in physicalform.
I sensed money in energeticform, I sensed power.
(53:09):
And when I sat down I looked atyou and you're like I just had
the craziest meditation.
Your eyes were like wide clear.
You know when you're like yourbest friend or your lover or
whoever you were closest to.
You know when they have likethey're sitting on a secret,
looked like you're sitting on asecret.
(53:30):
I was like, oh shit, it's aboutto go down, it's about to go
down.
Mike Star (53:39):
When you sat down and I'm realizing you saw the sheer
power that is now pulsatingthrough my veins and cells and
all that stuff which is alsopart of the guided meditation.
Zuri Star (53:50):
I was like did you already drink coffee?
What's going on?
Mike Star (53:53):
I, literally I got to the atomic level of thought
Like, oh my God, this is thepoint, the source, what you saw
afterwards was the rebirth.
You know when I was sitting orcrying, when I realized that I
let go of my shame.
Oh my God, like it's gone, it'sgone.
Zuri Star (54:15):
And I've done that it's tripping.
Mike Star (54:16):
I've done that.
Zuri Star (54:18):
I've done different exercises with different coaches
and stuff like that, where yougo into the basement, you clear
out the basement, shadow work.
You know all of these differentpractices and I think they're
all beautiful, but I think it'scommendable that you came up
with something that worked foryou today to get to a different
level of shame that you neededto clear out, which is beautiful
.
We have a question of the weekand then we are going to end the
(54:43):
show.
Mike Star (54:44):
Indeed.
Zuri Star (54:47):
You got a question.
Mike Star (54:49):
You had your phone like this I think you're going
to go like this Okay, so I putyou on the spot.
I think the question of theweek is going to be just obvious
what shame are you ready to letgo of?
What shame are you ready to letgo of?
Because now is the time, springis in the air.
(55:11):
Let it go plant a brand newseed.
A brand new seed of you.
It's amazing.
Zuri Star (55:18):
I love it.
We're sending you the highestvibrations.
Mike Star (55:22):
You are held.
Zuri Star (55:23):
You are loved.
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Zuri Star (56:09):
Let's talk about kung fu.
Let's talk about your kung fu.
If we're talking about powerand we're talking about how, I
have recognized that when you'rein a really empowered state,
you tend to do a lot of kung fu.
Mike Star (56:27):
Well, as a kid, and, mind you, it's not the kung fu
that you see in the today'smovies, where it's like super,
super, all these ripped dudes.
All the kung fu that I grew upwith was the old old kung fu,
where it's just these skinnydudes who look like me right,
(56:48):
skinny dudes, not like 400pounds and these crazy people.
All these kung fu artists werealso rigged on wires and they're
floating through the air, andit had this connotation that
that's what life would be likeif you had full ownership of all
(57:09):
of your body.
You could fly through the air,you could fight 10, 15 people
while drinking a cup of tea.
You know, you can walk into aroom and eyeball someone and be
like mm-hmm, mm-hmm and that wasa fight.
That was it.
I go.
This guy's cheese way biggerthan mine.
I'm gonna back off.
Zuri Star (57:28):
Yeah, and he would have the hand, would like ah,
and then all of a sudden, theperson would collapse.
Exactly, exactly I feel like mybrother used to watch those, so
I caught it through osmosis.
Mike Star (57:40):
So me being me kung fu and sometimes it's typically
in the mirror, because I wannasee my form, I wanna see how,
how-.
Zuri Star (57:48):
He wants to fight himself.
Mike Star (57:49):
I wanna see how opposing I could be right and
I've always thought that, youknow, I could actually probably
get into kung fu, but I don'tlike being hit in the face, yeah
.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, so there's a point wherekung fu is cool, but in order to
practice kung fu, you're gonnahave to get hit in the face a
(58:09):
couple times during the courseof the day You're gonna get hit
a lot and kicked and yeah.
So instead I go for the mirrorkung fu, which the only time I
can get hurt is if I get tooclose to the mirror.
Zuri Star (58:22):
Yeah.
You know, what I'm saying.
That can hurt, that candefinitely hurt.
I want to see how, how he wants to fight himself.
Zuri Star (00:03):
I want to see how, how opposing.
Mike Star (00:05):
I could be right and I've always thought that, you
know, I could actually probablyget into kung fu.
But I don't like being hit inthe face.
Zuri Star (00:16):
Yeah.
Mike Star (00:16):
You know what I'm saying.
Yeah so there's.
There's a point where kung fuis cool, but in order to
practice kung fu, you're gonnahave to get hit in the face a
couple times during the coursetoday.
Zuri Star (00:25):
You're gonna get hit a lot and kicked and yeah.
Mike Star (00:27):
Yeah, so instead I go for the mirror kung fu, which
the only time I can get hurt isif I get too close to the mirror
.
Zuri Star (00:36):
Yeah.
I'm saying that could hurt.
That could definitely hurt.
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Hello Michael.
Well, hello my beautiful esposa.
Hi, you had a major shift today.
Mike Star (01:59):
I I had the pleasure of jumping timelines today.
Very intense process, goodprocess if you do so
deliberately.
Bad process if you do sohaphazardly, um, haphazardly, by
making a, a bad decision andgoing backwards and going
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backwards, and you know when youare In decision-making mode,
those decisions that you makewill impact which timeline you
jump onto Right.
So, just today, I decided to uh, while you were I getting some
much needed slumber, I decidedto uh meditate and, um, I have
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been Playing with, uh, notplaying with, but I've been
studying the chakra system and Iuse that as a way of designing
my meditations.
You know, every time I think ofthe chakra system, I think of
the spiritual component, of howthe body is intermingled with
the physical body.
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The spiritual body isintermingled with the physical
body, right?
So, looking at the things thatI was suffering from, I I felt
like I needed to.
You know, I felt depleted, Ifelt tired, I felt kind of
drained and burnout burnoutexactly and um you know.
Those are all symptoms of thesolar plexus.
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The solar plexus gives you thethe.
It's your, your power source,your battery source.
You know it's the uh, it's the,the body's representation of
the sun right, and how the sunPopulates our, our gala or solar
system with its energy and thenlooking at what's happening
seasonally and following thepatterns of the season part of
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your Uh renewal process, right.
Yeah, I, I found, my, I findmyself to be uh tied to nature
more often than Uh, not becausea we're surrounded by it.
Zuri Star (04:01):
Yeah, it's where we live.
Mike Star (04:02):
It's where we live intentionally and it has.
It has, uh, afforded me a lotof um, a lot of growth and
healing.
Mm.
So I'm just kind of tappinginto the, to the, the powers
that be, and um.
So I did a, a meditation and um, it was life changing.
Zuri Star (04:24):
It is life changing and we're going to talk all
about it today, but first we'regoing to talk about Well, let me
ask you this, because I wantyou to tell your experience and
your story of expansion but whatmade you want to do the solar
plexus?
Mike Star (04:44):
Well, you and I have um we we've together studied the
chakra system and we talkedabout it on our show and we
talked about our show.
Zuri Star (04:54):
And um it's your seven wheels of spinning hacking
your energy centers.
Those are.
They go deep into the chakrasystem.
Mike Star (05:01):
Exactly, and I feel like it does a very good job of
providing someone with the Um,the user manual right for our
bodies and how they workenergetically, spiritually,
emotionally, physically, yep, um, and how, you know everything
is, everything in the body isconnected to include our
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thoughts, right?
So, based off of thatinformation, I'm like you know
what I think I need, to you know, check and see what's going on
with my battery.
So I did a little bit moreresearch about um, the solar
plexus, and the very firstquestion that I asked was well,
what blocks?
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Blocks, the chakra blocks thatchakra, or or or dampens it or
reduces its power.
Let's just, let's just coverwhat blocks each chakra.
Zuri Star (05:50):
So if you start with the root chakra, that uh
represents safety, that's thethe root chakra where all of
your security, your safety Lives.
So it can be blocked by fearand your root chakra, of course,
is is located.
Mike Star (06:10):
Panavita, at the bottom of your pelvis, the color
is associated with red.
Zuri Star (06:12):
Yes, Okay, and then the second is your sacral chakra
, and that governs yoursatisfaction.
So how it's blocked is by guilt, correct.
Mike Star (06:25):
And it's.
It's located, uh, pretty muchin between your navel, like
right over, just just underneathyour navel, just under the yeah
, maybe like an inch tubeunderneath your navel, okay, and
then the next is solar plexuschakra, and that's your
steadiness, or your personalpower, and that is blocked by
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shame, by shame, and that's, ofcourse, located uh right where
your Um, your ribs split, rightin your, your sternum, and that
color, of course, is yellow,mm-hmm.
Zuri Star (06:55):
And then, uh, next is your heart and that is governed
by love and it is blocked bygrief, and that, of course, is
adjacent to your heart rightsmack in in the middle of your
chest.
Mike Star (07:09):
It's not on the left hand side where your heart is,
but it kind of right smack inthe middle.
It's colors, green, and thenext is throat.
Zuri Star (07:18):
And that is governed by communication Mm-hmm, and it
is blocked by lies or the lieyou tell yourself and that's
located right smack in themiddle of your throat and the
color associated with that isblue.
Mike Star (07:33):
And then there's your third eye.
Zuri Star (07:36):
And that is governed by consciousness and it's
blocked by attachment and it'slocated.
You know, it's called yourthird eye.
Mike Star (07:47):
So imagine, right smack in the middle of your
eyebrow, just a maybe a tad Uh ahalf inch above your eyebrow,
and that color is associatedwith indigo, mm-hmm, and then
there's crown chakra and it'sgoverned by the connection to
cosmic oneness and it's blockedby the other chakras being out
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of alignment.
Zuri Star (08:13):
So you can see how it's important to.
If you want to feel connected,you need to have a connection.
If you want to feel connected,you need to align all of your
other chakras and it's veryinteresting if you think about
one of them being blocked andthat is making you feel a
disconnection from source, adisconnection from your partner,
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a disconnection from anything.
So, um, let's talk a little bitabout shame, because today's
episode is going to be Focusingon shame and how it ties into an
experience my cat with a solarplexus meditation, and he's also
going to give you thatmeditation, which is a beautiful
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gift.
So shame is very complex.
It's often thought of as apainful emotion that is
experienced when we feel that wehave failed to meet certain
standards or expectations.
It can arise in response to awide range of situations, such
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as making a mistake, behavinginappropriately quote unquote or
being rejected or judged byothers.
So if you grew up aroundsomebody very critical, you
could see how you're carryingNot your own shame, but their
shame.
Correct Shame can manifest indifferent ways, such as feeling
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embarrassed, humiliated orguilty.
It can also lead to negativeself-talk, self-blame and a
sense of worthlessness orinferiority.
People who experience shame mayfeel isolated and disconnected
from others and may strugglewith intimacy and relationships.
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Shame can be a natural responseto certain situations and can
serve as a signal that we needto reevaluate our behavior or
attitudes.
However, when shame is excess,in excess or excessive or
persistent, it can bedetrimental to our mental health
and well-being.
Shame can lead to depression,anxiety and other mental health
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issues, and can make itdifficult to take risk.
Try new things, pursue ourgoals.
Treatment for shame ofteninvolves addressing the
underlying causes of the emotion, such as past trauma, negative
self-beliefs or unrealisticexpectations.
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Therapy, self-help techniquesand support from loved ones can
all be helpful in overcomingshame and building a more
positive sense of self-worth.
And as the empowerment couple,we have come to find that there
are several different healingmodalities for shame, and we're
going to uncover some of themwith you today.
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It will be an ongoing journey,because this is definitely one
of the things that disempowersyou the most is that solar
plexus is blocked, and it'sblocked by shame.
Mike Star (11:26):
And anytime I think about the solar plexus.
When I was doing my work, I hadsome heartbreak, I had some
childhood trauma and I wentthrough a full forgiveness
journey, and that forgivenessjourney really healed my heart
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chakra and flooded my variouschakras with a lot of loving
energy, which also is known asawareness.
So I became a little bit moreaware.
And when you become more aware,you also become more aware of
your shame.
You shine a light on somethingand you're going to see a full
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dose of it.
So imagine, while I was doingthis meditation, I had a
flashlight and I went into mysolar plexus and I turned it on
and I realized that it waspacked with shame.
There's so much shame that Ihad shoved down in there when I
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was a kid, in my 20s, 30s, 40s,every activity that I did that I
felt bad about myself.
I just put it in there.
You're packing some luggage andif you think about it in terms
of weight, it was very, veryheavy.
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If you think in terms of light,it was very, very dim.
So imagine that your solarplexus is wired to every one of
your chakras, and that's reallythe case with all your chakras.
They're all connected and theyall affect each other
differently.
Zuri Star (13:12):
And some of them are in pairs.
Explain that.
Mike Star (13:15):
Yeah, I'll get there in just a second.
So imagine your solar plexus.
It radiates energy.
See it, like I said, as the sunin our solar system.
You remove that sun, you're notgoing to have life on any
planet, let alone ours.
So imagine, and those planetswill kind of dissipate, because
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it's that, the gravity of thatsun, that's holding them
together.
Same thing is true with yoursolar plexus.
So imagine your solar plexus iswired into all of your other
chakras.
So if you have a dim solarplexus, you will have a dim
heart chakra, you'll have a dimthroat chakra, which means
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you're not going to accesshigher values of love, you're
not going to be able tocommunicate on a more deeply
deep level, you're not going tobe able to see the beauty,
you're not going to be able toexperience the level of life
that is there.
And for me, because I wasdealing with so much grief,
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everything that I saw out therestarted.
You know the other physicalthings, right, the things that
money can buy.
I saw them as things that Ican't get.
So I would pass.
You know, as a kid I rememberdriving through Los Angeles,
which was a very, very and stillis a very, very affluent city,
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and you see Mercedes Benz andyou see, you know all the
Lamborghinis and the houses onthe hill, and that's not what I
was experiencing as a kid.
As a kid, you know, as a kidyou know, we had a humble little
home in the, in the suburb,which was very nice, but
personally I felt like all thosethings were inaccessible to me
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because I was not worthy.
And the words that you attachedto them were Like I can't, I
can't get that, or you know, Ican't get that because that
person has this.
You know, everything was incomparison.
Right.
And I always found myself to beat the losing end of that
comparison.
Right Now, gratitude would turnaround and be like well, look
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at all the things you have.
But when you deal with a lot ofshame, what it does is it is.
It creates a pattern of shame,and that pattern of shame was in
set, was was planted, or maybea seed was planted when I was a
child.
Zuri Star (15:46):
Yeah, infant, probably an infant yeah.
Mike Star (15:48):
So, as that seed was planted, anything that comes out
of that seed is going to beshame.
So imagine that the that thatseed of shame, kind of rooted
out and is now, you know, like avine wrapped around my other
chakras so that no matter what Idid, no matter how hard I tried
, I will never, ever escape thefeeling of I can't get that done
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Right.
So you know you sit on a bunchof projects, or you know you get
halfway to making a whole lotof money and then you pull away.
You know you self sabotage,like self sabotage and the solar
plexi and shame, or you knowthey're, they're buzzing buddies
.
Zuri Star (16:31):
Can we just pause for a second and just I'm just so
proud of you because I know likewe are both coaches, but we're
coaching each other often andwe're also holding each other
often.
I'm just so proud of you thatyou are willing to bring this to
our empowered posse and saylike hey, look, I just uncovered
this.
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And it takes a lot of strengthto say this isn't totally
perfect yet and I am still onthis mission of growing, and I
think most coaches, what I haveexperienced is that there's a
lot of gatekeeping about theirown experience.
And I think what sets you apartas a coach is that you're
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saying I'm still on a growthjourney and I am still
discovering things that needmore light.
You know, I'm still looking forthe balance in my life and
instead of just holding on to itand having the experience,
you're giving it back right away.
You're like hey, like I camedown this morning and Mike
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looked different and I was likeHi, and I felt different because
I allowed myself to sleep inand he allowed me to sleep in.
You know, he made it possiblefor me to sleep in and I got up
and I felt like Hi and I waslike oh, the energy feels
different in the house.
What is it?
And I'm like, oh, maybe it'sjust that I got good rest.
And then I look at Mike and Iwas like, oh, mike looks
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different.
And he's like, oh, I just hadthe greatest meditation.
And I said I was like, oh, money, like I could just smell money.
It was weird and not to saythat that is the only measure of
you know, calling in abundance,but it does have a certain
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essence and I know for Mike thathe has been calling in this
humongous amount of money and Ijust sensed it.
I sensed it without knowinganything about his meditation
and intuitively I knew he wasgoing to tell me something that
he called in that got mayberemoved or I wasn't sure exactly
(18:45):
.
But anyway, continue.
I just want to honor the factthat you're doing this and say I
appreciate you and I know thatsomebody's going to get
something out of this and thankyou for showing up today.
Mike Star (18:57):
Well, you're welcome and thank you for also being
part of that journey.
Well, we'll get there in just asecond.
I'm going to give you someprops, but in my opinion, money
is a byproduct of someoneserving love, and we have this
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banner behind a serving love,and what I did for myself is I
served myself some love.
And it's very difficult ascoaches, to serve ourselves love
, because we're so ingrainedabout serving other people's
love.
So what we need to do on aregular basis is serve ourselves
some love so that we can servemore people more love.
And in regards to you comingdown and feeling the vibration
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of money, well, that wasemanating off of me.
And here's why, when you aredealing with shame, right, and
you have that shame, that vineof shame, that weed of shame
kind of strangling all of yourchakras, one of them is your
throat chakra, which is how youexpress yourself, that
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expression, that's your gift,right, and whether it's you
working a 9 to 5 job and youliking it, or you being an
entrepreneur and you're likingit, you are serving the universe
gifts, and then the universewill say, oh, thank you for
these gifts.
I'm going to ask more from you,but I'm going to give you a lot
of money.
Zuri Star (20:26):
I'm going to give you something in return.
Whether that's fulfillment inwhatever way, it doesn't always
have to be money.
Doesn't have to be money, butwe live in a society where money
is equals freedom, in the senseof the more money you make, the
more you're able to do whateverthe fuck you want.
Correct.
Mike Star (20:46):
And money is also the symbol of success, right.
In this society, in thissociety in this day and age, and
it wasn't always the same thata lot of times, success was just
like OK, he's healthy, he's inlove and he's doing what he
likes to do You're successfulright.
Whereas someone could bedriving a Mercedes Benz and
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you're like, well, this personis super successful, but they
could have a crappy marriage.
They can have a crappy health.
Zuri Star (21:14):
Yeah, success does not equal fulfillment.
Mike Star (21:16):
In fact, when money does not equal success.
Exactly yeah.
Zuri Star (21:20):
Yeah, continue.
Mike Star (21:22):
But anyways so.
Zuri Star (21:24):
Maybe take them back to the beginning of the
meditation, because I think youwere talking about the veins,
the vines, rather being wrappedaround things.
Mike Star (21:36):
OK, so I'm going to jump into the woo-woo pool real
quick.
Zuri Star (21:40):
No, no, no, you can't say that You're going to jump
into the call it anything else,because I'm really tired of
people calling things woo-wooand it diminishes it and instead
of like, we are evolved enoughand we are awake enough and we
are aligned enough, as ourlisteners are, that we don't
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need to diminish our abilitiesand our access points by calling
them woo-woo, Indeed, all right.
Mike Star (22:14):
so no more woo-woo.
I got into my true self and Isat in front of my office, which
was getting some sunlight.
So I had some sun on me and Igrabbed a piece of citrine and a
piece of copper, both of whichare known stimulants and healers
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of the solar plexus, and I hada solfegio frequency going on
417.
417, right, so I couldsonically feel the effects.
So I'm hitting the solar plexuson as many physical levels as
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possible.
Zuri Star (22:58):
Because the solar plexus is like the sun, right,
yes, so it's yeah.
Mike Star (23:03):
Exactly so I went into meditation and the very
first thing that I did is Iallowed myself to be here right
now, so I allowed myself toquiet my mind.
I wasn't in my house, I wasn'tin my chair, I was in my body
right, so my body can beanywhere and then I focused on
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the sensations that were beinggenerated through the sounds
that I was listening to, theheat of the sun and the subtle
vibrations of the two stonesthat I was holding onto, and
within about a minute or two, Ihad a heat source in my solar
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plexus that was starting to heatup.
I was like, oh, I feelsomething, ok, and I allowed
that to kind of get warmer andwarmer and warmer.
And then I was in a place whereI was able to focus all of my
awareness all my attention intothat chakra, into my solar
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plexus, and that's where it waslike turning on a light on an
old empty room and he turned iton and it just cluttered with
old shit right.
Old furniture dust, you know allthat stuff.
But all those things were shame, right, all those things were
just lots and lots of shame andI physically felt like, oh yeah,
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I know what that feels like andit was so nasty that my first
response was to let it go anddrop it, which is what I've
always been doing.
I don't want to touch that.
It's like picking up cat shit.
You want to throw it down asfast as possible.
You want to hold onto it.
Oh shit, it's gross, right?
So I instinctively let it goand I was like, no, no, no, I'm
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here for this, I'm here for myshame, right?
I'm here to connect with it,you're the shame conqueror,
right.
So I was doing some shadow workand it was very difficult
because there was so much there.
So, as a meditator, I was ableto use different imagery to get
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to what I was wanting, insteadof walking into a room full of
shit.
What I did is I wanted to getto the source, so I imagined it
as a point from which everythingwas radiating out of it.
So imagine trying to swim tothe bottom of a pool.
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If you can swim all the way tothe bottom of the pool and find
out where the plug is, you canpull the plug out and then all
the water that you're swimmingin is gone.
So I was trying to swim to thesource, swim to the source, swim
to the source.
And what I found?
It wasn't a plug, it was a seed,a seed like a corn seed, any
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seed that you're talking about avery, very small seed, and from
that was radiating shame atsuch powerful intervals that
it's almost as if I didn't knowany other way.
That was my life.
It started off with shame, andthen shame radiated out and
affected every single one of mydecisions.
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And we're talking about jumpingdifferent timelines.
I effectively jumped on thesame shame timeline with every
single decision that I made, wow.
So I was like well, can I pullthat seed out?
And in my mind, in my meditation, I was trying to pull the seed
out, but it was fixed becausesomething had to be there.
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That was the point from whichthe pattern was unfolding.
So I couldn't remove the seed.
So I was like, how about if Isplit the seed in half?
So I had this thought of mewith a big old karate chop hand
and I chopped the seed in half.
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And the minute I chopped theseed in half, it was an
incomplete pattern.
So the pattern was no longerradiating Now, it was just bits
and pieces, as if the sun wereto suddenly stop and the planets
were to start to wander offaimlessly in space.
So now that those patterns arestarting to disperse, and right
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in that very moment, I was like,well, something has to be there
, because if I leave it likethat, the vacuum will pull that
seed back together and it'llstill radiate that same pattern.
So I, instead I put in the seedof the mantra of the solar
plexus I can, whereas before itwas I can't.
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I can't get this done, I can'tget this done I can't get this
project done.
Zuri Star (27:51):
I can't get this done , which is just a learned
behavior from very, very young.
Somebody in your past wasprobably planting that seed for
you.
Mike Star (28:00):
Yes.
Zuri Star (28:00):
Which happens to all of us.
None of us can escape the seedsthat get planted, and it's our
job to break them open.
Mike Star (28:11):
Kung.
Zuri Star (28:11):
Fu in the mirror right.
Mike Star (28:13):
And in some cases I feel like the seeds need to be
planted and I felt like thatseed need to be planted so that
I can get to where I'm currentlyat with the current information
, so that I can disperse it andhelp other people.
So once I put that new seed in,the effect was immediate.
Like all of a sudden, I havethese flashes that came through
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my mind and it was me driving indifferent vehicles and seeing
different images on TV where Iwould say, like you see a nice
fancy car.
The very first stop that cameto my mind normally would be
like I can't drive that carbecause I'm not worthy.
Now it was replaced by oh, Ican have that car, I can have
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that boat.
And it was so crazy that I waslike flying over Miami Because
we had just got back from Miami.
Miami is a very wealthy cityand I was looking at everything
that I saw in Miami, to includethe buildings, and I was like I
can have that, because that'sthe true power of the solar
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plexus you can have anything youwant, you can do anything you
want with the proper application, provided that you have a
genuine power source, anunobstructed power source, and
my power source was obstructedSignificantly was shamed.
So the minute that I let go ofthat, I felt like the other
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chakras started receiving moreinformation, more light, more
power.
And now I feel like I justcrossed over into a different
timeline where, instead of mebeing loaded with shame, I was
loaded to the brim with infiniteamounts of power, and then my
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capacity to love grew, mycapacity to express myself.
I have story ideas that I canfeel, them on my fingertips.
Zuri Star (30:21):
Which is why I was like we need to get you on the
mic.
Mike Star (30:27):
I can close my eyes and I can feel my mind connected
with a higher mind.
So my mind isn't in itselfa-minded, it's now a transmitter
receiver, so that instead of itme being my mind, it's like
billions of minds throughoutthere.
It's fascinating, it's veryfascinating.
Zuri Star (30:46):
And just by removing I can't and replacing it with I
can, in a deep meditation ofgoing through the shame, pulling
it out or breaking in halfessentially is what you said so
that it can sprout a new seed.
Mike Star (31:05):
Correct, and that's the eight, that and you saw the
whole response that I did.
And I was sitting there and Iwas like, wait a minute, I don't
have any more shame, like it'sgone, like, and just tears of
joy were just flooding down mycheek because it felt fucking
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wonderful, and it still does.
I mean, and I told you on thecouch, I felt like I'm feeling
as if one would feel if they wonthe biggest jackpot in human
history Right, all the money,issues, all that stuff, just
eradicated.
You can now do anything thatyou want.
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Energetically, I won thejackpot.
Like I just got a brand newbody, like, oh my God, like, and
I can look at all the projectsand I can already see them done,
whereas before I see like Ican't finish this, I don't have
enough time.
Well, I can't get this done.
I don't have enough time.
Now, everything's already done.
I just have to.
I gotta sit down and I get toextract them.
Zuri Star (32:13):
You know I get to be calm to it.
You can have excuses or results.
You can't have both.
Mike Star (32:17):
Correct.
And here's, and I'm going backto you, and here's the prop, the
props to you.
You know I was talking to youabout how the chakras are always
balanced.
Right, you have seven chakras.
So you're just above and justbelow your heart.
You have your throat chakra andyour solar plexus.
(32:39):
They form those two chakras arekind of like they have a yin
and yang attribute to them.
Zuri Star (32:47):
Yes.
Mike Star (32:48):
Right, they're kind of the brothers and sisters, so
you strengthen one, you alsostrengthen the other.
Which makes If you diminish one, you also diminish the other.
Zuri Star (32:55):
Which makes sense.
If you are an entrepreneur orif you're in any type of
business and you have someunresolved shame and you're
finding that you cannotarticulate your value.
That makes a lot of sensebecause your shame is literally
blocking your throat chakra.
Because they share an energeticyour solar plexus and your
(33:18):
throat chakra share an energeticbalance and they will.
If they're imbalanced, then youliterally they're blocking each
other, right Is what you'resaying.
Mike Star (33:29):
Correct.
Zuri Star (33:30):
And one of the things that it gives a tangible
example is that if you're notable to articulate your value,
or not able to articulate theworth that you bring forth to
the world, you might think, oh,I've cleared up my throat,
chakra, but actually it couldalso be your solar plexus, which
is your power center.
Mike Star (33:47):
The crazy thing is, you know when, every time I get
on the mic, I'm always carryingthis lapis lazuli right, which
is a combination of laserite theblue part and pyrite, which is,
of course, a beautiful stonethat addresses both your solar
(34:07):
plexus and your throat chakra atthe same time, right?
So, going back to the Yin andYang, you also have your sacral
chakra, and your sacral chakrais connected with your third eye
, which is why, in my opinion,the best sex that you can
possibly have is with someonewhom you are connected with, you
(34:28):
have.
You can physically see, right,not just you know their eyes,
now I'm talking about, but I cansee you Like I know all about
you.
Zuri Star (34:37):
So so, you mean energetically?
Yeah, energetically, like see.
Mike Star (34:41):
Energetically, yeah, exactly like I, can you know?
It's like the whole avatar.
I see you.
Like I think that's wherethey're drawing that from right.
Zuri Star (34:49):
Yeah, of course they are.
Mike Star (34:52):
And then there's the root chakra and your crown
chakra.
So you always need to begrounded, but you also need to
be connected, Right?
So if you were, if you were,say you know, if you feel
disconnected, it may mean thatyou need to get grounded.
Zuri Star (35:10):
It's exactly why we stand during our podcast is so
that we can stay rooted butaccessible, that there's no
kinks in the system.
Mike Star (35:18):
Now get this right.
So everyone has a pair.
But the heart right.
The heart stands on its ownright the heart.
Everything radiates from theheart.
Right Love is the energy thatanimates the whole chakra system
right.
And then it's empowered, it'sexpressed, it's felt, it's known
(35:39):
.
You know all the differentchakras have their different
jobs, but the heart, the heart,needs another heart in order for
it to have to feel.
It's yin and yang, and that'swhere usury come in and that's
where you know our loved onescome in right.
Zuri Star (35:58):
So yeah, and if you're single, the beautiful
thing is that it can be like apet or it can be a best friend.
It doesn't have to be aromantic, you know, married
partner or whatever.
It doesn't have to be thatright.
Mike Star (36:11):
Correct, correct.
Yeah, it doesn't have to be.
It doesn't have to be theperson that you're married to.
Zuri Star (36:16):
Right.
Mike Star (36:18):
If it is, it's a bonus.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
Fuck yeah, if it is, then you have an empowered
marriage.
Mike Star (36:22):
Yup, you know, but it definitely allowed, and the
reason why I wanted to share itwith you right away is because
I'm not gonna jump on a brandnew timeline and travel through
this timeline without youknowing that you're on this new
timeline.
Mm-hmm, Right like you'reshotgun on my timeline and I'm
(36:44):
shotgun on yours.
Zuri Star (36:45):
Which is what builds intimacy between Mike and I is
that we share all of theseradical shifts with one another
Immediately, immediately, likeif we don't sense it.
But we also take the time.
We take time for tea, we taketime to sit, we take time to ask
questions and that is thefoundation, really, of our
(37:08):
relationship.
We know each other and we seeeach other, and whatever
relationships that you have, Irecommend going to that deep,
intimate place, whether it'syour best friend or your, you
know like whoever whoever's inyour life.
You know like everyone's liveslook differently.
(37:29):
And but go to the deep,intimate places because your
heart chakra deserves it, needsit, longs for it, and I think we
should play a quick game.
Mike Star (37:43):
Yes, but I wanna address what you said for just a
second, right.
So we were talking about howyou have all these things that
are blocking our chakras, right?
You have fear, guilt, shame,grief, lies and attachment,
right?
And then, of course, your crownis blocked by the rest of your
(38:06):
chakras, right?
So the other thing that poppedinto my mind as I was, as you
and I were on the couch when Iwas processing, you asked a very
, very, very, very importantquestion, and that question is
what are you gonna do now inorder for you to move forward
without stepping backwards, likeas patterns are patterns
(38:27):
because they become a pattern?
Zuri Star (38:31):
Yeah, you gotta break the cycle.
Mike Star (38:32):
So you gotta break the cycle.
So the very first thing thatcame to my mind was what we do.
We serve love.
So I'm gonna serve love to myshame.
I'm gonna serve love to myfears.
I'm gonna serve love to mygrief.
I'm gonna serve love to allthose things that are blocking
my chakra.
And that love, of course, isawareness.
(38:52):
So, instead of me touching itevery once in a while and
feeling how hot or heavy orgross or cold or whatever it is,
and then pulling my hand awaybecause I don't feel like
touching that today, instead I'mgonna sit down with them, I'm
gonna learn from them, I'm gonnaextract from those things the
(39:14):
very thing that I need in orderto make myself bigger, in order
to expand.
Zuri Star (39:20):
Can't be an expansion coach without expanding oneself
.
Mike Star (39:23):
So like, love your shame, love your fear, love your
grief, love your lies, love allof that.
Zuri Star (39:32):
What came up for me when we were reading out the,
we're recalling what calls, youknow what blocks each chakra,
and when it got to the heart, itsaid grief.
And I was like, oh, like itgave me a little bit of, you
know, pain in my eyes.
I was like, oh, what, what?
And really all of us haveexperienced grief on some level,
(39:54):
right, and I have found inrecent times that my grief is
not there as it once was, andthe way that I've overcome it is
I've loved it really, really,really intensely.
Like it.
(40:16):
Grief just represents that youhave loved someone or something,
and so the way that I'veremoved the grief is by loving
it and by loving the people thatI lost, you know.
And so now, instead of like fora while I couldn't have my
(40:36):
brother's picture up, forexample Like I was, like I gotta
put it down because I wasfeeling shame, I was feeling
guilt, I was feeling all ofthese grief emotions.
Mike Star (40:45):
And they're real feelings, right oh?
Zuri Star (40:47):
my gosh, they're so real and once I worked through
them, now, like at the end of aday of feeling like proud of my
commitment to serve love, I likeliterally kiss it, like kiss my
hand and I put it on his face,you know, cause it's like no,
we're doing this together and itfeels like I've loved myself
(41:09):
through it and I've loved thepeople that I've lost through it
and I feel so much morebalanced in my offering of
serving love from both masculine, feminine, light, dark, loss.
Have you know, like we don'tknow what we're gonna lose
tomorrow, today, like we don'tknow this, but we do know that
(41:30):
if we continue to love ourselvesand love people around us fully
, in every moment possible to us, that there really isn't loss.
There just is a differentconnection point.
Mike Star (41:43):
Yeah.
So, true.
Zuri Star (41:46):
Should we play a very quick quote battle game?
Let's do it, what do?
We got.
One thing I wanted to say rightbefore we do this is that I
said to Mike this morning cause,literally, this is an impromptu
, we just came in and like, hey,we're gonna record this because
Mike had this experience.
Mike Star (42:05):
Less than an hour from recording this, I was like
full tears.
It's not.
Zuri Star (42:10):
Hey, but that's part of being a coach and inviting
you into our intimate life.
Never stop growing Is thatyou're either growing or dying.
So which one are you gonnachoose?
I'm gonna choose growing untilit's time for me to no longer be
here, till my time is up.
So it requires us to expand andto share and to invite you into
(42:30):
the process so that we can allbecome empowered together.
Mike Star (42:34):
There's never a top that.
You can always get higher.
Zuri Star (42:37):
Yes, so I love that.
What I wanted to say reallyquickly is that I said to Mike
you need to ground this intoyour body, this new timeline
with one thing, and that onething is Serving love.
That one thing is gratitude.
Mike Star (42:53):
Gratitude.
Zuri Star (42:54):
yes, that you need to lock it into your experience by
being grateful and then youneed to give it back.
Once you've locked it in withgratitude, then it's time to
give the gift back, becausethat's really the only way the
universe in the playing fieldthat we have right now.
That's how the universe breaks.
(43:16):
The pattern with us Is thatit's like, oh, motherfucker got
it, he got it.
Okay, no more challenges onthat level where he got it.
Now we're gonna manifest withhim.
But until you lock it in withgratitude and until you give it
back, there's still gonna havethese weird tests where you get
(43:38):
challenged to see if youactually got it, cause when you
get it, you get it and you'relike, oh, I have to give this
back, this is giving, I'm givingthis back right now, and cause
it's not about you.
You realize that oneness is notabout you.
Oneness is connection toeveryone, to everything, and
everyone in your life deservesthe same gift.
Mike Star (43:59):
It's almost as if the universe connected with me and
said okay, Mike, I'm gonna useyou for a second, so I'm gonna
teach you a little bit aboutshame.
Zuri Star (44:09):
Hold my beer.
Mike Star (44:11):
Hold my green tea latte.
Zuri Star (44:13):
Exactly Okay.
So here's our quote battle.
I'm gonna go first and I'mgonna start with.
Shame corrodes the very part ofus that believes we are capable
of change.
Mike Star (44:34):
Dude, that is so true .
That's the feeling, that's.
Zuri Star (44:37):
Brunet Brown.
Mike Star (44:37):
That's the feeling being capable.
I felt, as I was going througha time in my life where I was
incapable of doing the thingsthat I wanted to do.
Therefore, I had even moreshame.
It's trippy.
So I have one from Goyun.
Shame is a soul eating emotion.
(44:59):
A soul eating emotion.
Imagine what that would looklike.
What would it take to eat asoul?
Shame, shame's nasty.
What do you got?
Zuri Star (45:14):
Shame is an acid bath that eats away at the best
parts of us.
Whoa.
Both of those visuals are nutty.
Mike Star (45:27):
They are nutty they are nutty and they're designed
to be nutty.
See, you're like wait a minute,Let me think about read that
last one again.
Zuri Star (45:35):
Shame is an acid bath that eats away at the best
parts of us.
Yikes, these are, like you know, gory, so it's shame is a soul
eating emotion, from Carl Jung.
And then shame is an acid baththat eats away at the best parts
of us, from John Bradshaw.
Mike Star (45:55):
That's no good.
So, yeah, let's get out of thatacid bath, All right.
So this is from Rick Warren.
He states shame is a prison youput yourself in.
And here's the crazy thingabout the prisons that we put
ourselves in we're always askingfor release, but we're not
asking the right person.
(46:16):
We're always asking someoneelse.
We're always in victim modewhen we ourselves have the
fucking blocking key.
Zuri Star (46:23):
Exactly.
Well, that was a good quote.
Battle, amazing.
Thank you.
I feel that you are new and Iagain appreciate that you
brought this, you called this,into your experience and that
you've called this forward.
And one of the things that Ifeel like where we are Yin and
(46:48):
Yang in that way is that I wasborn into.
The seed that was planted forme was that I really mimicked my
father, whose name is Will, andhe has, like this unending Will
power For anything, foreverything.
I mean he's traveling throughEurope right now and he's 86.
(47:08):
Like he's jumping on trains andplanes and living his best
vacation life.
So Will power is something thatI was taught and it's something
that I'm able to tap into,because I was taught that that
(47:29):
seed was planted within me andyet the other seeds that were
planted that I've had to splitacross.
Like I said, kung Fu in themirror.
But you were like deep inthought.
But, like Mike, when he reallyis feeling in a good mood, he'll
do like Kung Fu in the mirrorand it's hilarious.
I always know when he's likefeeling himself or when he's
(47:52):
feeling empowered or excited.
He's just Kung Fu in the mirror, usually like in nothing or
like boxers.
Mike Star (47:59):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I like nude Kung Fu in the mirror.
Very self, very self empowering.
Zuri Star (48:06):
Yeah, you've done a lot of mirror work.
Mike Star (48:07):
Like I was looking at myself doing that and my first
thought was I wouldn't fight me,I wouldn't fight me.
Zuri Star (48:16):
You wouldn't fight you.
I thought you were gonna go tolike silence of the land.
Mike Star (48:22):
So I was like, oh, no , don't do that.
I wouldn't fight you.
No, wait for your say.
Zuri Star (48:30):
I was just gonna say yes, that, like.
Whatever seed that you need tosplit, do it without shame.
Mike Star (48:38):
Correct and listening to how you know.
Yes, very, very yin and yang.
You know your father taught youabout power, right, which is a
very, very strong solar plexusattribute Mine, not my stepdad
(48:58):
whole different ballpark.
My father was my number onesource of shame, right?
I never knew him, and thethings that I did know about him
, he was.
Zuri Star (49:10):
It was shameful.
Mike Star (49:11):
He was a gambler, he was an alcoholic Don't go back,
no, no, but in saying that,there's weight to it, that was
the shame that I was carrying.
There's a lot of shame, right,especially as you were growing
into an adult and you have allthese thoughts of what you're
gonna be.
And I can't be those because Icame from that guy, right?
(49:32):
So that's where the that's theseed that I was talking about,
and that was a belief, right?
It's not truth, it's just abelief and the belief is a
pattern.
So break the pattern, break thebelief.
And all of a sudden, I'mrealizing that.
And if I'm loving my shame, I'mloving the fact that he did
that to me, I'm loving the factthat it took me as long as it
(49:56):
took me to get to the place thatI am right now, because of the
contrast.
Zuri Star (50:04):
Embrace the contrast, baby, as the contrast.
As soon as you embrace it, youjust you give yourself back the
power of recognizing thateverything is unfolding and
happening exactly as it should,because it balances all of the
universe.
The playing field is abeautiful thing and all your
(50:29):
power is there.
All of your power is inrecognizing that you cannot have
just good.
Why are we seeking that?
That's not something that we'reever going to find satisfaction
in.
You have to embrace all of thevarious parts of this universe,
and contrast is the number onedriver.
It's the number one thing.
Mike Star (50:50):
So if you're living with shame or fear or guilt or
any of those things, don'tnormalize it.
Make it a normal practice tosit down with it.
And if it's in meditation,that's great.
If it's in therapy, or if it'syou grounding, or if it's you
really diving into the chakrasystems and know how you can
energize, do it.
But and I'm saying this becauseof how amazing you feel once you
(51:16):
do so- how light you feel andyou ask a self-made billionaire
and they're gonna be like oh,the best time of my life was
when I made my first million.
That was his breakthrough.
Everything else was just moreof it.
So I have more power and withthat more power, I can create
(51:37):
more power.
Zuri Star (51:39):
Yep.
Mike Star (51:40):
So when you came down to for coffee this morning, did
you expect a brand new, freshlyopened, weeping husband.
Zuri Star (51:50):
Yeah, you know I don't look at crying as a bad
thing because of our researchinto crying medicine, and you
know I understand our culturedoes.
But when I came downstairs Ididn't.
I knew something was different.
I have an intuitive ability toknow when something is a little
(52:13):
bit different.
I first internalized it andthought it was me.
I was like, oh, this is whatnine hours of sleep is like.
It's delicious.
Yes, I should do this moreoften.
I've been really overdoing it.
But no, I didn't expect a creeplike creep, didn't mean to say
(52:35):
that Crying and weeping turnedinto creep Creep.
Mike Star (52:42):
Isn't that a TLC song ?
Then I creep, but it's adifferent creep though, right
yeah, crying and weeping.
Zuri Star (52:49):
Okay, we'll be sure of this again.
I didn't expect you to beweeping which you weren't, by
the way.
When I came down, I just sensedpower.
That's what I sensed.
Yeah.
And I sensed money in physicalform.
I sensed money in energeticform, I sensed power.
(53:09):
And when I sat down I looked atyou and you're like I just had
the craziest meditation.
Your eyes were like wide clear.
You know when you're like yourbest friend or your lover or
whoever you were closest to.
You know when they have likethey're sitting on a secret,
looked like you're sitting on asecret.
(53:30):
I was like, oh shit, it's aboutto go down, it's about to go
down.
Mike Star (53:39):
When you sat down and I'm realizing you saw the sheer
power that is now pulsatingthrough my veins and cells and
all that stuff which is alsopart of the guided meditation.
Zuri Star (53:50):
I was like did you already drink coffee?
What's going on?
Mike Star (53:53):
I, literally I got to the atomic level of thought
Like, oh my God, this is thepoint, the source, what you saw
afterwards was the rebirth.
You know when I was sitting orcrying, when I realized that I
let go of my shame.
Oh my God, like it's gone, it'sgone.
Zuri Star (54:15):
And I've done that it's tripping.
Mike Star (54:16):
I've done that.
Zuri Star (54:18):
I've done different exercises with different coaches
and stuff like that, where yougo into the basement, you clear
out the basement, shadow work.
You know all of these differentpractices and I think they're
all beautiful, but I think it'scommendable that you came up
with something that worked foryou today to get to a different
level of shame that you neededto clear out, which is beautiful
.
We have a question of the weekand then we are going to end the
(54:43):
show.
Mike Star (54:44):
Indeed.
Zuri Star (54:47):
You got a question.
Mike Star (54:49):
You had your phone like this I think you're going
to go like this Okay, so I putyou on the spot.
I think the question of theweek is going to be just obvious
what shame are you ready to letgo of?
What shame are you ready to letgo of?
Because now is the time, springis in the air.
(55:11):
Let it go plant a brand newseed.
A brand new seed of you.
It's amazing.
Zuri Star (55:18):
I love it.
We're sending you the highestvibrations.
Mike Star (55:22):
You are held.
Zuri Star (55:23):
You are loved.
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Zuri Star (56:09):
Let's talk about kung fu.
Let's talk about your kung fu.
If we're talking about powerand we're talking about how, I
have recognized that when you'rein a really empowered state,
you tend to do a lot of kung fu.
Mike Star (56:27):
Well, as a kid, and, mind you, it's not the kung fu
that you see in the today'smovies, where it's like super,
super, all these ripped dudes.
All the kung fu that I grew upwith was the old old kung fu,
where it's just these skinnydudes who look like me right,
(56:48):
skinny dudes, not like 400pounds and these crazy people.
All these kung fu artists werealso rigged on wires and they're
floating through the air, andit had this connotation that
that's what life would be likeif you had full ownership of all
(57:09):
of your body.
You could fly through the air,you could fight 10, 15 people
while drinking a cup of tea.
You know, you can walk into aroom and eyeball someone and be
like mm-hmm, mm-hmm and that wasa fight.
That was it.
I go.
This guy's cheese way biggerthan mine.
I'm gonna back off.
Zuri Star (57:28):
Yeah, and he would have the hand, would like ah,
and then all of a sudden, theperson would collapse.
Exactly, exactly I feel like mybrother used to watch those, so
I caught it through osmosis.
Mike Star (57:40):
So me being me kung fu and sometimes it's typically
in the mirror, because I wannasee my form, I wanna see how,
how-.
Zuri Star (57:48):
He wants to fight himself.
Mike Star (57:49):
I wanna see how opposing I could be right and
I've always thought that, youknow, I could actually probably
get into kung fu, but I don'tlike being hit in the face, yeah
.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, so there's a point wherekung fu is cool, but in order to
practice kung fu, you're gonnahave to get hit in the face a
(58:09):
couple times during the courseof the day You're gonna get hit
a lot and kicked and yeah.
So instead I go for the mirrorkung fu, which the only time I
can get hurt is if I get tooclose to the mirror.
Zuri Star (58:22):
Yeah.
You know, what I'm saying.
That can hurt, that candefinitely hurt.
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