Ep. 100 - Guest Host, Ken Li: Top Life Coaching Tools & Insights + What You Should Do First

What would you share if you had just 45 minutes to offer someone a few tools that might stick with them for life?

That’s the question that sparked this special 100th episode.

When I was invited to speak to my daughter’s high school class, I asked myself:

What are the mindset tools I wish I’d known earlier?

The ones I return to again and again — in my life & in coaching others.

And the ones I’d want students to walk away with — the kind that cut through personal growth noise & get to the root of things faster.

That reflection became a class handout (linked in the show notes).

Which led to a rich, ongoing conversation with my friend & fellow coach, Ken Li.

And eventually — this episode.

If you remember Ken from Episode 65, you know why I was excited to bring him back. He’s a career & confidence coach, a trusted friend, & someone I deeply respect — not just for what he teaches, but for how he lives it.

Together, we each share three  coaching tips that have helped us & our clients make meaningful, lasting change.

The kind of insights that:

 • Shift how you see yourself
 • Help you turn longstanding obstacles on their head
 • Give you something tangible to work with and apply today

Whether you’re starting out or starting over, this episode will help you reconnect with what excites you, expand what feels possible, & reimagine your path forward.

I asked Ken to host this one — and the conversation he leads us through is rich, expansive, practical, & refreshingly fun.

We hope you enjoy.

Key Moments:

06:05  How we came about this topic

09:10  Process for selecting our top choices

10:10  Start with "What is the good life?"

14:10   Kari's 1st: The importance of awareness as it leads to choice

20:30  Ken's 1st: Mindset Before Tactics | Before Starting Any Project, Don’t Forget This

27:50  Ken's 2nd: Choosing the mindset of falling in love with the unknown | Fall in Love with the Unknown

35:55  Kari's 2nd: Adopting first principles thinking

42:10  Kari's 3rd: Learning the skill of silencing mental chatter

47:15  Relationship between negative thinking & cortisol; toll of chronic stress on body

48:00 fMRI visualization to silence chatter

54:50 Ken's 3rd: Define your own standard | I Finally Figured Out What This Maxim Means; Ditch Perfectionism, Dolly Parton Style; How Do You Know if Your Writing is Good?

1:00:00 Bonus tip: Design your life from your dreams, not your fears.

Connect With Ken Li:

• Website
• LinkedIn
• Email: [e-mail]

For 1:1 Coaching with Kari:

• Website
• Email: [e-mail]

Cited In This Episode:

• HS Class Handout (referenced in intro)