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Have you come across any ofthose stories over the last
couple of weeks about people whoare altering their Thanksgiving
plans because of the election?
In particular, people who aredisinviting people to their
house because of who thosepeople voted for, or people who
are choosing not to go to afamily gathering because they
might have to engage withsomebody who has different
political beliefs than they do?
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Well, if you haven't come acrossthose stories, let me assure you
that they are real. There arereal stories appearing in
legitimate news media, includingright here in Pittsburgh. The
Pittsburgh Tribune Review onSunday had an article that
interviewed various experts,therapists and counselors and
social workers who were offeringtheir advice on how to navigate
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the tensions of this postelection era as we head into the
holidays. And in fact, in themost recent opinion page here in
the Pittsburgh Tribune review,there's multiple pieces, opinion
pieces and even a cartoon hereI'll hold up to the camera that
says what "I thought.we agreednot to talk politics. "
And again, you've got, clearly,a donkey and an elephant there
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with the poor Turkey in themiddle, who is suffering the
consequences. All that beingsaid, Why are we bringing that
up here on the energy detox?
Well, for a couple differentreasons, the most important of
which is that, as my time as anexecutive coach, has revealed,
there is no shortage of toughconversations, difficult
conversations, awkwardconversations, political
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conversations that leaders arenot always that well equipped to
handle. And so today, we'regoing to take the charged
conversations about theelection, we're going to tie
them into some practical tipsand tricks that you can use as a
leader in the energy industry tohave those tough conversations
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and not avoid those toughconversations. And if nothing
else, we'll use this as a modelof how you can pivot, how you
can de escalate, how you canredirect when faced with
potentially difficultconversations or people who
don't see eye to eye to you, youknow that is a skill that some
people have, or some people candevelop, but either way, it's
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often not utilized effectively.
Now as a coach, again, I get tohelp people come up with game
plans on how to attack thesedifficult conversations, and
again, I hope today we can sharesome of those. In fact, we're
going to share nine of those,because I've got nine of them
listed here on this card here.
So without further ado, let'sstart with item number one, and
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that is the question. And again,here on the Energy Detox, we
love our questions. So all nineof these tips are phrased in
terms of a question, and thatfirst one is, Are you or your
team embracing peaceful silence?
Because, again, one of thosemany articles about the holiday
consternation that some peopleare feeling and the fear brought
up this idea of peacefulsilence, and that is very
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simply, trying to avoidpolitics, or whatever topic, but
in particular, politics tryingto avoid it at all costs. And as
you know, again, I don't need totell you how impractical and
unsustainable that approach is,especially if you are a leader
in an organization, the silenttreatment, not having those
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tough conversations is clearlynot a very effective approach in
the short term. Sure, might helpyou get through the day or the
week, but it's going to catch upto you eventually. So again, ask
yourself, if nothing else, stoplistening or watching, which
you've probably done already,but if you still are with me,
well at least ask yourself thisone question today, are you or
your team embracing peacefulsilence?
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Because what's amazing is thatsometimes in our industry filled
with plenty of tough individualswho pride themselves on being
blunt and tough and speakingtheir mind, it's amazing how
many people unconsciously areembracing peaceful silence and
not having the toughconversations that really need
to be had. So that is itemnumber one.
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Item number two on the list.
What bad advice are youlistening to now? Again, in the
post mortem of this election,there's a lot of conversation
about the advice that VicePresident Kamala Harris got
throughout this campaign. Andagain, you could argue it's it's
subjective, if not unknowable,whether that advice was truly
good or bad or neutral. But whenit comes to stuff like the
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selection of Tim walls as VPversus maybe some other
candidates, and perhaps herdecision to not attend the Al
Smith dinner in New York, or herdecision to not go on Joe Rogan,
again, a lot of those things arebeing brought up as examples of,
hey, maybe she wasn't gettinggood advice, or maybe she was
surrounding herself with peoplewho, again, didn't have the best
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judgment, which again pivotingaway from the political question
on the table. The question foryou is, well, what bad advice
are you getting? And inparticular, are you
unconsciously. Listening to theadvice of people within your
organization, who you might seeas a mentor, who you might see
as a as a beacon of intellectand wisdom, but who, again,
might be steering you in a wrongdirection. And we're not just
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talking internal people here.
Think about consultants,advisors. You know, again, I say
this as somebody whotransitioned into the world of
management consulting five or soyears ago, and I can tell you
full well that there are a lotof people out there who are
happy to accept payment to giveyou advice, regardless of
whether that advice is valuable.
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And when it comes to a politicalcampaign that again spent on the
order of what $1.5 billion Ithink it's pretty safe to assume
that there were plenty ofadvisors out there who, again,
were giving advice, whether itwas good or bad or indifferent,
but they were collecting apaycheck all the same. So again,
a good time, a great time,perhaps, to ask yourself whether
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you are being subject to badadvice. Moving on.
Number three, what existingresources can you better
leverage? So while it's onething to say, hey, you know, you
can go out and find additionalresources to leverage and
perhaps pay for, or, you know,maybe take advantage of internal
resources that you know mightcost you a little bit of time
and energy, but don't cost youany money. Well, ask yourself,
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what other resources are outthere that you can better
leverage. And you know, again,this is consistent with this
idea of Kamala Harris spending$1.5 billion which is apparently
$20 million more than she had tospend. But you think about the
maybe non traditional resourcesthat Donald Trump was able to
leverage the hundreds ofmillions of dollars in earned
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media that is, the mediacovering things that he said or
did because they were somewhatobligated to do it, but he
didn't have to pay for thatcoverage. Or, of course, him
going on shows like Joe Rogan toget into the ears and the eyes,
if you will, of millions ofpeople without having to spend a
dime. So that same question,again, pivoting away from
politics and to you, is, hey,what existing resources are out
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there that you can go ahead andtake advantage of and perhaps
not have to invest that muchtime, energy or money. Moving
on.
Number four, what potentialallies might you be overlooking?
Now, again, in the world ofcorporate politics, there are
certainly allies and foes andall of that. Again, I don't need
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to tell you that, but thequestion is, well, what
potential allies are, again,maybe not necessarily in your
camp right now. That could be,that should be, because when you
look at the presidentialelection, you look at the impact
that people like RFK JR andTulsi Gabbard had on Donald
Trump's campaign, it's easy tosay, Well, clearly those people
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weren't fully aligned. Stillaren't fully aligned with
everything that Trump promotesand Trump stands for, but they
were still willing to jump inone because you know what? There
were some common goals that theyhad with with Donald Trump, and
it was an option, and they hadthe ability, if you will, to
produce some sort of win winsituation. So again, a very
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simple question for you. Thinkabout the people in your
organization, people. Thinkabout the people outside of your
organization who might not seemlike allies, but could be could
help you move forward. Couldhelp you win, so to speak, and
again, in terms of RFK JR andTulsi and many others, also help
them emerge victorious, at leastin some small way moving on.
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Number five, how is your oldplaybook holding you back now?
Again, if there's one cliche inthe world of business and
management, it's that weshouldn't just keep doing things
the way we had been doing them.
We need to look for new ways ofdoing things right. You know,
whatever version of that clicheyou want to use, and well, tell
you what. Ask yourself thatcliche right now, what playbook
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Do you have that you'refollowing that, you know what?
Maybe stale, maybe isn'tapplicable anymore, and from a
political standpoint, you know,there's lots of articles saying,
hey, the Republicans, in manyways, tossed out the old
Republican campaign playbook.
They didn't just go after thewhat do they call them, the high
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propensity voters that areundecided, that are in the
middle. They didn't just goafter those people because they
knew they were going to go tothe polls, and perhaps they had
an option to sway them one wayor another. No, they didn't do
that. And why? Well, becausethey recognized that old
playbook going after them. Well,that took a lot of time and
energy, a lot of door knocking,a lot of points of contact, if
you're familiar with the ninepoints of contact from a sales
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standpoint, right? A lot oftime, lot of energy. So what did
the Republicans do? They wentwith a different playbook. They
went with the low propensityvoters, the people who are not
inclined to go out and vote, butif they did go and vote, they
would definitely be voting forthe Republicans, so again, they
used a different playbook.
Meanwhile, Kamala Harris'scampaign, in many respects, was
a flawless campaign. I don'tknow how many times I've heard
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that over the last couple ofweeks since the election, people
saying, well, I don't know howshe could have lost her her
campaign was flawless. She didall of the things she was
supposed to do, albeit in acondensed amount of time. In but
again, that underscores thisquestion that you could be
asking yourself, which is, whatexisting playbook Are you
following that maybe, maybeshould be cast aside.
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Moving on number six, what stalecommunication channels are you
over using So again, when itcame to reaching potential
voters. Clearly and again, Ithink this applies to both
sides, but clearly thetraditional media does not have
the impact that it used to have.
Many people are now gettingtheir news from social media,
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from scrolling through things,and again, the side that is able
to recognize that and not reallyworry about the messaging on the
CNNs of the world, but insteadworry about the messaging on
podcasts and what people areseeing in social media posts.
Well, that's the side that ismore likely to emerge
victorious. And again, I am nota communications expert. I'm not
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an expert when it comes topolitics. But again, I've read
enough articles that are reallydigesting the different
communication strategies thatthe comma camp and the Trump
camp deployed. So again, allthat being said, what are we
doing here? We're pivoting backto you. So what existing
communication channels andapproaches are you using in your
organization and with yourpeople that you know? What maybe
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could be shaken up, maybe again,instead of the normal means of
teams and email and text, maybegive that old, traditional phone
call a try once in a while,shake things up a little bit to
reach your audience in a littlebit more effective manner.
Moving on.
Number seven, when was the lasttime you really looked in the
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mirror? And I ask that today,because if there's one theme
over the last couple of weeksthat has come up, especially on
the Democrat side, is, hey, wejust lost, we really need to
look in the mirror. We need toreally see what went wrong. And
for those individuals who arenot willing to do that, or who
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are afraid to do that, and whoare more inclined to try and
point fingers at why their sidelost? Well, in many cases,
they're getting laughed at. Youknow, you can look at, you know,
Bill Maher, right, if you'vecatched any of his videos
monologs The last couple ofweeks. Again, he keeps attacking
the people who are afraid tolook at themselves and say, hey,
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you know, where might I havegone wrong? And so the question
for you is, well, when was thelast time you did that? When was
the last time you askedyourself, hey, you know, what am
I doing wrong? Or, hey, youknow, what am I doing right?
That I can continue? What are mystrengths? What are my
weaknesses? Again, anotherheadline that was out there said
that Biden's campaign in thelead up to this hand off, if you
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will, to Kamala. Well, theyreally didn't do a good job of
outlining her strengths andweaknesses, so that when
kamala's campaign kicked off,she had to spend $12 million
doing polling to try to figureout what her strengths and
weaknesses are. Again, that'snot something that you should
have to wait until you're underthe gun to do. That's something
you could do all the time inmany different ways. And again,
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in other episodes of the energydetox, we certainly talk about
different ways to hunt down yourstrengths and weaknesses. And
well, in the interest of time,we'll refer you to those other
episodes so that we can continueon with the last two questions.
Question number eight, which is,what sins are your wins hiding?
So kind of a flip. When youlose, you look in the mirror,
figure out again, where did yougo wrong? Well, again, even when
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it seems like you and your teamare winning, what might you be
missing? How might your wins behiding certain sins, a very
important question, but one thatis often missed if you want to
keep on winning.
And question number nine is whatpolling data is leading you
astray again when it comes tothis election and many recent
elections, clearly, the pollswere not exactly pointing to who
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was going to win certain races.
What's going on in yourorganization? How is polling
data, or figurative pollingdata, potentially misleading
you, whether it's employmentengagement surveys or other
means of getting feedback, areyou really getting honest
feedback? Because I will tellyou from my experience as an
executive coach who has many,many 360 degree conversations
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with people, in person, over thephone, live human conversations,
the insights and the data that Iget from that are not always
consistent with some of thosesurveys, which can be massaged
and again, paint a picture thatis not entirely accurate. So
again, ask yourself, how areyour figurative polls
potentially misleading you?
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And with that, I want to givethanks for you for providing
feedback to me on the energydetox and helping to you know,
cast the future direction ofthis podcast. So with that,
thank you. Hope you have a veryhappy Thanksgiving. And again, I
welcome your feedback on thisand all episodes of the energy
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detox. You.